Weight Loss Support - How do you support YOURSELF??
Misti in Seattle
06-25-2006, 11:53 PM
Sure, it's great to receive (and give) support and encouragement to others... but are you doing anything special to support yourself? (Speaking in a practical, physical sense... like new makeup or...???) Of course what we do needs to depend on our budgets... but even if it is just something from the dollar store... or pick a flower and put it in a vase... or a homemade "progress sign" you make... what are you doing?
This weekend I splurged on some new makeup and also bought several tubes of Palmer's Cocoa Butter cream (at $1.98 each) to slather all over myself after my pool workouts and shower. Feels soooooooooooooo soothing and makes my skin feel soft.
I am also planning (forgot) to get some special shower gel which I can use only after I have worked out. In Florida I used to have some peppermint stuff which was great in hot weather.
Things like this do help to make us feel more feminine, especially since I think that is a problem for most of us who are dealing with serious weight issues.
What else can you think of that would be helpful? Anything specifically YOU would like to personally do to make you feel better along your journey?
06-26-2006, 12:37 AM
The special bodywash after a workout is a great idea! For right now, I am looking around at clothes...not only as a success gift, but because all of my old ones are falling off of me!:p I have a hard time rewarding myself, and I am pretty hard on myself...not sure why. :^:
Misti in Seattle
06-26-2006, 12:44 AM
Yah clothes are always good! I had so much too small stuff in my closet that actually I have more now than I did before I lost the weight so am trying to hold off a bit longer on that unless I can find some thrift store stuff!
As for being hard on yourself, I think that is a tendency many of us have who are struggling with weight issues. Let's face it... our society is very unaccepting of people who are overweight. You have done a great job on your weight loss so hang in there and do something special just for you!!!
06-26-2006, 12:51 AM
Thanks, Misti--you are SO right about society's view of overweight people...
My mom and I were just talking about going to check out thrift stores so I can find some clothes. I don't really want to spend a lot of money on a whole new wardrobe since I have more weight to lose!
06-26-2006, 01:31 AM
I support myself by reminding myself of compliments and NSVs on a regular basis (and learning to say "thank you" when I get them, and truly meaning it). I make sure to allow enough time in my schedule to prepare lunches for work, and to prepare food in the evening instead of eating restaurant food. I'm starting to stand up for myself more often in other ways seemingly not related to weight, too. I research meals at restaurants ahead of time to make sure I can get a healthy plan in place. If I have no control, I make sure to balance my diet before/after the event so I get my vegetables in and don't go TOO over on carbs, fats, and protein.
I reward myself by getting "new" clothes from thrift shops, by trying on things (old "fat" clothes or stuff that now fits that used to not fit) regularly to remind myself of my changing body, by taking pictures of myself and comparing them to "before" pictures. I try to keep the rewards directly related to my body.
06-26-2006, 01:58 AM
I reward myself by looking in the mirror several times a day. This used to make me cry before losing weight. I also use lotion every night after my shower and workout. My DH is glad to put lotion anywhere that I can't reach and this usually leads to more than the massage. So, this is a reward too. LOL. I buy clothes as needed and this is a great reward too.
06-26-2006, 05:55 AM
For every workout I do, and every day where I consider myself to have eaten healthily, I put 50p in a savings account. This is accumulating nicely and when I'm done, I will spend it all on having a professional "fitness-model" type photo shoot. :D
06-26-2006, 08:40 AM
I love shopping at thrift shops but very rarely find clothes that fit. My local Goodwill has a lot of name brand merchandise because I live in a big college town. Some of the younger college students follow the fads, so they don't wear items that long. The bad side is that most of the clothes are size 0, 2, 4, or 6.
I love purses and shoes. I reward myself when I've been doing good or because I'm feeling blue with purses and shoes. :p It's a win-win situation. :D
Misti in Seattle
06-26-2006, 09:07 AM
These are some great ideas! I check thrift shops too but most of them don't have anything that fit me as they don't carry many plus sizes, which I still need... but my biggest problem -- even in retail stores -- is that all the blouses are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too short! And the more weight I lose the shorter stuff gets since they make the larger sizes about 6" longer than the smaller ones. Oh well... I'll get there someday!! :)
I used to put $$$$ into my "bank" too for rewards but haven't done that lately... that is a good one though! Need to start it up again!
06-26-2006, 09:23 AM
Misit~ great post!!
I have really been into painting my toe nails...each week is a different colour. I do a whole "at home pedicure" ~ I take a bath, scrub my feet, moisturize, then paint to high heaven!!! :lol:
I also buy new workout clothes every few months, gives me the extra egde to go to the gym and show the new stuff off!
Misti in Seattle
06-26-2006, 09:29 AM
That's a great idea about painting the toenails! Generally I have to wear pretty sturdy shoes because of foot problems, but a friend just gave me a pair of sandals which didn't fit her but are perfect for me and so supportive! I never even do my fingernails! But perhaps that should be my next glamour effort. :)
Also I haven't worn a skirt in years... don't like them when I am fat... but I have some really nice ones in the closet and am going to look for some tops to match them and shock everyone by showing up in a skirt now and then. Not practical to wear them on my job but to church now and the would be nice. <G>
06-26-2006, 10:50 AM
I wouldn't wear pants when I was heavier, only skirts. Now I mostly wear pants. Hate my legs
I love getting lotions and bath gels for rewards too (and I'm more interested in makeup now). I'll do new clothes, but like you were saying, Cassie, they don't always get full usage (but I do lose weight slowly, so not so bad). I give myself non-body stuff too, like CDs, DVDs, books.
I even use activities as a reward. Like buying tickets to an event. Or little trips.
I think it's easy for me to use my weight as an excuse to not go out and do things an be in the world. It's like a double positive for me to lose the weight and go out as a treat/reward.
06-26-2006, 11:06 AM
I love all of your ideas. I think I will splurge on some nice bath gels this weekend. I have learned that I love scented talcum powders so I may get that too.
06-26-2006, 11:30 AM
That's a great idea about painting the toenails! Generally I have to wear pretty sturdy shoes because of foot problems, but a friend just gave me a pair of sandals which didn't fit her but are perfect for me and so supportive! I never even do my fingernails! But perhaps that should be my next glamour effort.
Treat yourself to a pedicure. There's a place in Bellevue (near Bellevue Square Mall) that has fabulous "spa" pedicures - including a 10 minute calf massage. Droooool.
My toes are currently painted bright red with flowers/jewel on the big toes. After YEARS of never painting my toenails, it definitely makes me feel feminine.
06-26-2006, 11:51 AM
I paint my fingernails every week and DH paints my toenails. This does make me feel more feminine. He started painting my toenails when I was too big to reach them, now he just does it because we both like it. I also buy shoes a lot with open toes and it looks so much better.
06-26-2006, 12:46 PM
I do the following:
~I splurge now and then on new workout dvds
~I either do my own pedicure (I went to cosmetology school years ago) or currently, I go and get one done every few weeks at a local nail salon for about $25-$30. (I currently cannot maneuver myself well enough to do them :lol: )
~I paint and file my natural nails once a week, and let them dry for 1 hour total while I watch a crappy, meaningless tv show. :lol:
*For those who have trouble getting polish to stay for longer than a couple days-get in the habit of using base coat, a coat or two of polish, and then a coat of topcoat. Let dry for a couple minutes, and then add a bit of nail dry over that-dry for one hour. My current polish was done on Thursday-and I don't have a single chip. The base coats and top coats really DO something for the staying power. :)
~I color my hair once every 4-6 weeks to cover the gray.
~I use scented bath gels and lotions as well.
~I do this as well: Get a really, really good thick body or foot cream-and completely slather your feet and ankles with it before bed-then put on a thick pair of socks. Sleep like this...the body heat held in by the socks penetrates the moisture into the feet. Do this a couple times a week, and your feet will be much softer and smoother. :) You can do the same thing for your hands, with some of the sleep gloves you can get at Wal-mart, etc. in the spa/beauty or nail/hand lotion sections.
~I often buy a new nail polish, or new lipstick, or soem other small cosmetic.
06-26-2006, 01:07 PM
I go out by myself without the kids. That rejuviates me. That has nothing to do with weight loss and everything to do with sanity. My weight? I basically gloat to my family (in a positive I'm so happy way) and I tell my husband that all my shopping trips and outings are excercise..lol.:carrot:
06-26-2006, 01:55 PM
Now that I'm feeling better about my appearance, I make sure that my hair and makeup are done before I go out (even just for trips to the grocery store). I have the world's largest collection of lipsticks and never go out without wearing lipstick. I don't spend a lot of time doing my makeup - I can do eye shaddow, liner, eyebrow makeup, blush & lipstick in about 2 minutes flat. I like to keep it subtle, though and use only earthtones. I don't use foundation (liquid makup) as I think it emphasises lines. I just use a cover stick on a couple of problem areas. Looking my best gives me confidence when I'm out and about.
When I was heavier, I couldn't be bothered and just wanted to blend into the woodwork.:^:
06-26-2006, 02:41 PM
Melissa, I have several nice jackets that are too big for me now, they would need to be dry cleaned (barely worn but dusty from hanging in the closet; I think they're 26), and that might get to be a little pricey for me. I just finished giving away a bunch of stuff to a local women's shelter.
06-26-2006, 03:10 PM
I always always put on makeup and do my hair, even when im just at home by myself. But I did that before, so its not really a reward...I think my only material reward will be clothes, because i already bought lots of cosmetics and such. But I think my biggest reward is telling my mom whenever ive lost a couple more lbs. She was really worried about me (history of diabetes in my family) And I like seeing her reaction when i give her my 'updates'. lol
06-26-2006, 03:33 PM
But I think my biggest reward is telling my mom whenever ive lost a couple more lbs.
That's a huge reward for me, too, to tell loved ones when I lose a little more weight. And hearing comments when someone hasn't seen me for a long time.
06-26-2006, 05:24 PM
I had this idea that's been kinda going around in my head that I thought I'd share. How about a clothing swap? I'm sure we all have "big" clothes that don't fit any more, that MIGHT just fit some one else, here at 3FC. I'll be in a 12/14 very soon, and I have a bunch of 16's and X-large/XX-large tops that will eventually end up at the Rescue Mission. What better way to get rid of them, then share them with some one here? As long as they're clean and in good repair. Just an idea. Might just help someone defray the cost of buying new clothes, until they reach goal.
I have the "problem" Misty has. I have an entire wardrobe just waiting for me to get into them. :)
This is an idea that has been discussed a few times in the past, and it was agreed not to go forward. We will keep this just a support/weight loss forum-and not get involved with any trading of clothing or exercise videos. :)
06-28-2006, 11:17 PM
I also support or reinforce myself by recognizing how good my grocery list looks now, and I take pride in my menus. I've even kicked around the idea of taking pictures of this wonderful healthy food I make (OK, I already did it, but only once before I realized that was incredibly geeky).
Misti in Seattle
06-29-2006, 01:10 AM
Wow, lots of great ideas here!!! Good to hear so many are treating themselves well!
Glory, thanks for the info about the foot spa. Have to admit I avoid Bellevue as much as possible since I don't like to drive there... and LOL I have never had a pedicure or even a manicure, believe it or not!! :)
06-29-2006, 03:01 AM
I got my first pedicure last month and now I'm addicted LOL. I loved how great my bright red toenails looked. I even went out and bought the nail polish the pedicurist used so I could touch it up. I'm getting another one tomorrow evening and I can't wait. Maybe I'll try pink this time!
I spend a ridiculous amount of money on my hair. I get it highlighted every two months. My favorite part is getting to read fashion magazines while waiting for the color to set (it's the only time I read them). My hair is naturally stick straight and flat as can be, so I also treat myself to expensive products to make it defy its nature.
I also love anything that smells good, so I regularly buy nice smelling candles, soaps, shampoos/conditions, and bath products. I don't always spend a lot of money on these--Trader Joe's has some great products that don't cost that much but still make me feel pampered.
And, since I've started to feel better about the way I look, I've definitely been more interested in make-up. But it's been so long since I wore anything other than mascara and lipstick that I'm not quite sure what to do. Maybe one day I'll splurge and get a makeover.
Oh, and every week when I go to the farmers market, I get some flowers for myself. In fact, I have a little routine on Saturdays. My partner and I have a leisurely breakfast, then I go to the farmers market, then I go to the gym. If it's nice out, I walk to the gym. I've become very attached to this routine; it feels like my time.
Grocery shopping is also a treat for me, even if I am buying mainly healthy foods these days. I like everything about food: I like thinking about food, I like trying new foods, I like shopping for food, I like growing my own food, I like reading cooking magazines, I like trying new recipes, I like cooking, and, most of all, I like eating. I'm sure this is what got me into trouble with my weight to begin with but I'm trying to turn this hobby into something positive by focusing on healthly, low calorie meals. So on either Saturday or Sunday, I sit down and plan out what we will eat for dinner during the week. I usually come up with two or three meals, each of which I will make enough for us to eat for at least two nights (I like cooking but it's nice not to have to cook every night). Then I make out my grocery list, go through the coupons, check to see if there are any other staples we need, and go to the store. I generally go to both Trader Joe's and Safeway (and sometimes Target). As you can imagine, start to finish this takes several hours. I used to hate it, but now I look forward to it.
And the best thing I did for myself was hire someone to clean the house every other week. What a relief. Now I don't have to feel guilty about not cleaning on the weekends.
Misti in Seattle
06-29-2006, 09:06 AM
Hi Blue... wow sounds as if you have a nice system going! LOL I am soooo the opposite... I can hardly sit in the chair long enough for someone to cut my hair and for that reason don't think I would like a pedicure. And I don't enjoy the getting groceries and cooking part at all; I just do it so I can be healthy and not eat junk. :)