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piperboo
06-15-2006, 05:21 PM
OK, this was in another thread, but it got hidden and I really do need some support right now...feeling like poo :(

Background: OK...the real reason I came to rant was because I just went through this thing with my company - we are ordering shirts for a 3 day event. Of course the people that are going (5 of us) order the shirts that don't go up to 1X or 2X, they are S-XXL (ladies 18). I am stuck trying to find shirts that are at least the same color (or close to it) that come in my size. THEN when they come in, it's a hit or miss on if they will actually fit. I hate the fact that I am going to look different than everyone for the simple reason I am too fat to fit in the regular shirts.

Just happened:
through *tears* ....the whole shirt thing I mentioned above. I know this probably belongs on another thread, but I had already mentioned it here. I just got a call from my boss yelling at me because I ordered different shirts. What a horrible thing. Embarrassing. Now everyone has to order the styles that fit *me*. No doubt they will be very upset with me. The shirts they were getting were cool ones Adidas - Cutter and Buck - Ping shirts - really cool stuff. Now they will have to order a generic brand, because of *me*. I started crying on the phone with my boss. I am so upset. I wouldn't really care, but the other day when it was brought up about switching all the shirts over, a couple people were like "but we want THESE shirts." Fat girl ruining it for the whole bunch. Ya. so. sniffle.
The bad part is, I am sitting in my office trying not to cry or stop the crying that is - there is a conference office is right across the hall so I can't even get up to go wash my face...my face gets really red when I am upset :( :(


sotypical
06-15-2006, 05:31 PM
Oh Sara that is horrible! I would be balling my eyes out too. You have every right to be upset. I don't really know what else to say except :hug: I hope everything works out and you feel better soon.

piperboo
06-15-2006, 05:37 PM
Update...well...he must have felt really bad cause he called back. The one shirt he thinks is close enough and the other one, he is just going to let it fly and have me wear it when I am not around the rest of the group on the day they are participating in events. I feel a little better, but my goodness. I have never felt this way about my weight. Usually no matter what, I can find ways to work around my weight and the issues that come with it. It was an eyeopener last week when it was first brought up and only makes it more so now. I guess that is good motivation huh?
Thank you so much for the word of kindness Courtnie. I think I just needed someone to sympathize - someone that knows what it's like!


sotypical
06-15-2006, 05:49 PM
Sara - I think that is AWESOME motivation! You can do it! I was just looking at your 30 lbs by September 30 Challenge I am going to go sign up for that one!!!

piperboo
06-15-2006, 05:52 PM
We can do it. Whenever I reach for the bad food or want to not exercise, just let that conversation replay in my head ;)

NinaV
06-15-2006, 05:54 PM
Sara,
I know just how you feel. We had to order company shirts too, but more for the ďcasual FridayĒ purposes, not for a specific event. We do this every year and so far I was pretty much stuck with ordering menís size 2X because womenís only went up to XXL. It was so embarrassing to put down ďMens 2XĒ on the list hanging in the lunch room, but at least I donít really have to wear them if I donít want to. The irritating thing was that the menís sizes went up to 3X and womenís nowhere close.
Your boss was being a real butthead, itís a good thing he finally figured that out. Donít let him get to you next time. The world is full of jerks, but it is also a good place to unexpectedly find good people like here on 3FC. And donít be ashamed of crying, I know itís not something you really want to do in public, but maybe sometimes itís good to let people see that they hurt your feelings, makes them think twice next time before just blurting something out.
Good luck to you.:hug:

sotypical
06-15-2006, 05:56 PM
I have it all figured! I wake up at 5:45 to get in 60-80 min on bike. The only thing that keeps me going is Dawson's Creek is on at 6 and I am not addicted to that show! So I never want to skip exercising because I don't want to miss the show, haha. I never used to watch much tv, so it's all new eposides for me. The only bad thing is, I realized that yesterday and today's eposides were the searies finial - so I wonder if they are going to stop playing it now :( I hope not! haha

piperboo
06-15-2006, 06:01 PM
Sad thing is , there are shirts available (nice ones too) that they do make in our size. The industry had made huge steps in that way, however still not the "branded" shirts - you know the cool name brand ones that everyone wants (but me!)

sotypical
06-15-2006, 06:05 PM
What is it with people and brand names? I guess I used to be like that but I realized now that a 20$ pair of jeans is better then a 80$ pair. Heck, I can have 4 for the price of one! And then when you walk a hole in the bottom (I am short) or something like that, you don't feel bad throwing them away! Somethings I just hate spending money, seems like such a waste ... yet I always seem to run out of money, go figure.

NinaV
06-15-2006, 06:08 PM
Sad thing is , there are shirts available (nice ones too) that they do make in our size. The industry had made huge steps in that way, however still not the "branded" shirts - you know the cool name brand ones that everyone wants (but me!)
I know what you mean, some of the shirts they were ordering for our company were actually kind of ugly, but they were the "Brand Name", so that's what everyone agreed on, even though I can go through my catalogs and pick out ten different shirts that will be cheaper and more flattering on any figure, but they won't even look at them because they are not "Branded". Feels like highschool, honestly.

piperboo
06-15-2006, 06:14 PM
Well, we can do it. The hurt only made my resolve stronger, so I will get this weight off and proudly order a LARGE this time next year ;)

royalsfan1
06-15-2006, 06:18 PM
I have it all figured! I wake up at 5:45 to get in 60-80 min on bike. The only thing that keeps me going is Dawson's Creek is on at 6 and I am not addicted to that show! So I never want to skip exercising because I don't want to miss the show, haha. I never used to watch much tv, so it's all new eposides for me. The only bad thing is, I realized that yesterday and today's eposides were the searies finial - so I wonder if they are going to stop playing it now :( I hope not! haha

Courtnie...I caught the last episode the last time they went through them all...and the next day it was back to episode 1. I have watched since then (it was my first exposure to that show) I have a feeling tomorrow will be back to number 1...but I'm just guessing. I can't believe how caught up in it I got! I'm not much of a TV watcher but I sure did get into D. Creek. It was kind of cool to start at the very beginning.

Piper...I'm sorry for what you've gone through. What I find so interesting is how so many here at this forum can relate exactly to what you're going through...have even been there ourselves. Where else can you find a concentration of people who've been there? I know I've been there. That's the reason I always HATED company picnics! I think, honestly, it's a form of discrimination...it definitely creates hostility and hurt. Also, I noticed you were in Memphis...me too!

sotypical
06-15-2006, 06:23 PM
royalsfan1 - I just went to TBS.com and you are right! They are starting again tomorrow! I am so excited! You are just like me, I can't believe how caught up I am in it and I am not much of a TV watcher either! haha I like my CSI tho :)

pixiefalls
06-15-2006, 06:25 PM
Well, we can do it. The hurt only made my resolve stronger, so I will get this weight off and proudly order a LARGE this time next year ;)

Girl I'm with you on that. Looks like we started at the same weight except I'm just two inches shorter:). Good luck to you!!

piperboo
06-15-2006, 06:26 PM
You guys are absolutely awesome!!! Thank you so much. Tears dried and it has changed from hurt to more motivation...I just needed an ear (or two) to get me through!!!

Ophelia924
06-15-2006, 09:31 PM
I just ordered a Men's 2XL for my DH's company picnic as well!! And I can tell you that even that shirt is not a 2XL as the tag says, it is more of a Men's 1XL. I just hope they come in early like they did last year so that I can try it on with every pair of shorts that I own until I find one that looks semi-flattering.

phantastica
06-16-2006, 12:54 AM
OMG, Sara! What a nightmare!! I've had similar experiences, but not quite as mortifying. The admin at my work asked me what size of shirt to buy as a "thank you" for working on a particular project team, and I told her, but somehow she ordered one two sizes too small. I never thought of the fact that maybe those particular shirts weren't offered in my size.

The nice thing now is that I can fit into that shirt comfortably! I no longer work there so it's irrelevant to wear a shirt celebrating a different company's project success, but I kept the shirt and I'm glad I did, just for the principle of the whole thing. :)

Misti in Seattle
06-16-2006, 02:52 AM
Oh Sara, I'm sorry you had to go through that... how humiliating! I can certainly relate! Those things seem to happen so frequently when we are fat -- but good for you in drying your tears and letting this motivate you to stick with the plan and get the weight off! I am proud of you! Stick around here at 3FC and you will find tons of support and understanding!! :hug:

piperboo
06-16-2006, 10:46 AM
Oh definitely. I am so glad I have really stepped up and participated in conversations on here. I joined back in 2001, but just read posts, never participated. This is really helping. Thank you ALL!!!