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That's a great question. I know what you mean about those numbers meaning a lot. They mean a lot to me too. They are numbers of victory!
The answer to this question could be different depending on who you ask.
My sponsor and I see eye to eye on this. If you binge, yes you need to start over all the way at step one. This isn't punishment. This is so you can learn whatever you missed the first time around that led to the binge. If you eat a moderate amount of something that you planned to absztain from, you need to look at the motives behind it. For example, if you are abstaining from sugar and later found out that you were served something with sugar in it without knowing, then no, you didn't break your abstinence. Your motives were with your commitment.
Or, an example from my own life last week: We had friends over to celebrate my husband's birthday. They wanted to bring a dessert. He told them okay, but Marny won't be eating it because she isn't eating desserts. The friends brought a pie for him, and then made little sugar free tarts for me. In my mind, they were still dessert sugar free or not. But, I had to make the decision to be gracious and thankful and taste one bite, or just say thanks for all the effort and thought, but no. I made the decision to take one bite and say thank you for their thoughtfulness. I talked to my sponsor about it afterward. We agreed that my motives were not to binge, not to eat a trigger food, but to be gracious and loving. Now, if I had not been able to stop at one bite or it had triggered a binge, then I would have learned that I can't even do one bite under special circumstances.
I don't eat cake at birthdays even though they could be considered a "special occasion". It's not my birthday, the cake wasn't made especially for me with my needs in mind. It's definitely off limits.
Can you see the difference between the two situations? I can see it clearly, but there are some who may argue that there is no difference. Some would say that one bite, no matter the situation, is breaking abstinence, and setting myself up for bigger problems.
This is a good reason to have a sponsor to bounce these things off of. I was really glad that I could talk to my sponsor about my experience so that I wasn't left wondering if I had made a mistake.
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