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05-15-2006, 05:56 PM
I bet nobody wants to go right after Meg, am I right?? ;)

I've struggled with my weight on and off since puberty. I was a skinny and active kid, but once I hit junior high my activity level dropped and my access to junk food increased ten fold.

I went on my first diet at age 13, dropping from 150 to 130 on a not quite dangerously low cal diet (after a boy in gym commented on my "thunder thighs") . By the time I was in highschool though, I had gone back to about 150 and was holding steady there. It was a fairly healthy weight for me at just under 5' 9" although I felt incredibly ungainly. I was busy with activities though and didn't worry about it too much.

In college, the freshman 15 became the freshman 35 and all of a sudden I was 185 and feeling terrible about myself. Enter low cal diet #2 and I quickly dropped back down to 135.

I proudly maintained my 50 pound loss for about 2 years. It wasn't really that difficult. I walked everywhere and kept an eye on my food choices, but was never too stressed about it.

Then came a messy trauma. I broke up with my boyfriend and he killed himself. My eating habits went totally to ****. I started a new relationship with a wonderful guy (now my DH.) It's a cliche of married life that women start eating like their husbands and gain weight. Well, my husband is 6'1" with a large build, eating like him was *not* a good idea. I stopped weighing myself and did a really good job of fooling myself that I wasn't getting as heavy as I really was.

I found it much harder to get things under control than I had previously. I periodically tried to lose weight but instead kept yo-yoing upward, eventually reaching 265 pounds. When I finally got on the scale and saw that number, I was in total shock, in my head I'd been estimating about 215.

This was about 5 years ago. The moment I saw that number on the scale I realized that this was nuts. It was time to get my life back. I was tired of being tired. I was tired of heel spurs and not being able to keep up with my friends on hikes. I was tired of feeling depressed every time I caught my reflection in the glass.

I knew how to lose weight. (After all, I'd done it before) I knew I needed to move more and eat less, so I did. I started walking an hour a day and journaling my food. I just kept on with it. I didn't cut back my calories as much as I had in the past. I didn't make any foods forbidden. I just made sure that at the end of the day, week and month that I'd moved more than I'd eaten. I added in new exercises, starting going to the pool. The first year I dropped about 50 pounds, the second I got down to about 185 and plateaued. I was feeling really good by this point. My heel spurs were gone, my borderline blood pressure was normal again. I felt normal. I maintained that weight for about a year, I was still technically overweight, but I felt good.

The next year, I got a little slack, I was paying slightly less attention to my eating and skipping work outs. I gained 15 pounds and freaked out. I focused my attention back on my diet and exercise and set a goal of 150 lbs.

The weight started dropping again and this time I blew right by 185. I think the break had really done my metabolism some good. I hit my goal weight of 150 just before my birthday last year. I started upping my calories gradually, but ended up losing another 13 pounds or so, settling in to between 135-140 pounds. From start to finish I went from a size 24 to a size 6.

So far so good. I've been in maintenance mode for about 9 months. The key for me is to pay attention. At least once a week I hop on the scale and look at the number. I buy fitted clothing (no elastic waists!) and pay attention to how they fit. I need these external checks to keep me honest. If I know I'm up a pound, then I'll cut back a little or squeeze in an extra work out. If I don't pay attention though, I can easily lie to myself and/or just be oblivious to the weight gain.

I didn't mean to ramble on so long here, but I've read a lot of posts lately about people who have had set backs on their journeys and I want to let people know that you can have a *ton* of set backs along the way and still get there in the end. :)

Suzanne 3FC
05-15-2006, 06:32 PM
It is hard to follow Meg :lol: But you've done it! What a great success story! You've been through your share of ups and downs, like many of us, but you've shown that you can overcome them and reach your goals. Great advice, too, about paying attention. I didn't, and now I'm paying the price. I appreciate that you have shared your story, and I hope I'll learn something from you, as well as Meg and the other happy success stories.

Thanks, and Congratulations!!!!!! :bravo:

05-15-2006, 06:40 PM
I was getting lonely!! :lol:

What a great story! :hug: It just goes to show that there isn't one 'right' way to lose weight -- we all have to do it our own way, in our time, and it sure isn't a race (since there isn't a finish line ;) ).

And your before/after photos are stunning!

05-15-2006, 07:30 PM
Thanks for posting your story. It reminds me of the saying 'If at first you don't succeed, try, try, try, again'. It was very inspiring to read how you didn't give up trying to lose weight despite several setbacks. We've all been there.... it's so easy to slip back into bad habits and regain the weight we've lost with so much effort. Keep up the good work! :hug:

P.S. You're looking great!

05-15-2006, 09:53 PM
Wow! You even got taller ;) Fantastic story, Tani, and your pictures and beautiful.


05-15-2006, 10:06 PM
Thanks for sharing the story, it's very inspiring for me. I am 5 lbs. to goal and then I'll share mine. The pic's are great. It gives me so much to focus on. I need to get my butt in gear and finish losing the weight, I so want to be a maintainer too.

05-15-2006, 10:42 PM
Thanks for the story! I love reading these stories because they are so inspirational and I needed that today. Congrats on your weightloss, by the way:)!

Misti in Seattle
05-15-2006, 11:48 PM
Fantastic story... thanks for sharing, and congratulations!!!

And Meg... LOL some of us would LOVE to be able to post here but we are still over in the "mini goals" section. :dance: Just WAIT though!!! Here we come!! :)

05-16-2006, 12:29 AM
Thank you for the reminder that its ok to fail as long as you get right back on track again!
Congratulations and your pictures look wonderful!

05-16-2006, 08:10 AM
WOWEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE you look fantastic!! Congratulations :)

05-16-2006, 09:41 AM
WOW Tani,that's awesome!!!:carrot: You must feel like a million bucks!:D WTG girl!!!:carrot: :carrot: :hug:

05-16-2006, 04:17 PM
:bravo: Tani you are amazing! Congratulations on your success! :encore:

05-16-2006, 04:40 PM
Thanks everybody for all the sweet compliments. :D You said it Meg, about there being no finish line. I think I really *get* that this time around.

Mel, I feel taller! Although the doctor begs to differ and insists I've lost almost an inch since high school. (although now that I've seen the the recent xrays of my curvy spine I can't really argue) I'm hoping all the stretching I'm doing in physical therapy is going to get me that inch back! ;)

05-17-2006, 09:04 PM
I didn't mean to ramble on so long here, but I've read a lot of posts lately about people who have had set backs on their journeys and I want to let people know that you can have a *ton* of set backs along the way and still get there in the end. :)

Hi Tani! :wave:
Thank you for such a sincere post. I'm learning so much from you and other maintainers.

You said it Meg, about there being no finish line. I think I really *get* that this time around.

I am "getting" it too. I really am. :hug:

05-20-2006, 01:28 PM
I didn't mean to ramble on so long here, but I've read a lot of posts lately about people who have had set backs on their journeys and I want to let people know that you can have a *ton* of set backs along the way and still get there in the end. :)

Thank you for your story just like Meg, MrsJim, Mel, Glory and others I may have missed I will print off your stories as inspirational reading and to help me plan out my journey to my goal.

I'm 54 yrs. old at 315 lbs. Need all the help I can get.

Thanks Ladies and Best Regards,

05-20-2006, 07:12 PM
Good for you Elaine. Keep it up. I'm starting over also.

05-22-2006, 05:10 PM
Thank you for posting your story. I can't say that I have really "got it" yet but I feel like reading stories like yours I learn more each day and get a little closer, thank you.

05-25-2006, 01:06 AM
That is a *great* story! Thanks so much for sharing :)

06-20-2006, 04:02 PM
Thanks so much for taking the time to share your story. I really enjoyed reading it and hope that I can someday post my success story here to help others along their journey. You've done an awesome job and you look amazing!

06-20-2006, 04:46 PM
Awesome stories
I too have struggled with my weight ALL my life - I have always had and probably will large legs.
I fought hard as a 17 year old to loose weight to make the max cut off to get into the Navy - I did with nothing to spare. I gain weight in the Navy - mostly muslce - BUT I got pregnant - gained WAYY to much - didn;t loose much - Then my 2nd and 3rd pregnancy came with weight gain and misscarriages - well that weight was stuck - I was depressed and didn't care since I had lost 2 babies. I was considered to be a habitual aborter and my first child was "luck" I was scheduled for surgery and BAM -pregnant - on bed rest at first so I wouldn't loose this one - He stayed around. Then a surprise -pregnant again - after trying so hard between the misscarriages and my 2nd child - we were shocked - She came along with weight - I lost some weight but never got back to my pregancy weight (of any child). I have tried all the weight loss programs - scams and non scams. Weight Watchers has been the only thing that worked. I started last July 11 and lost 56 lbs. I have maintained for almost 6 weeks now. I feel so much better and feel so much better. I weigh less now than I did when I got pregnant with my 1st child - Yes I said 1st (and that was 18 years ago (almost))!! I dont ever remember buying clothes this size (in school I jumped from kids sizes to size 10 and 12)
I recently went out of state to visit relatives and they were amazed - really pumped up my ambitions to keep it off this time. Making good choices is 2nd nature now - visiting the family they had snack cakes and junk food - I just didn't want them - I went to the store and bought fruit - and they started eating the fruit by the end of the week!! Maybe I rubbed off some to them

Thanks for all the inspiring stories. It keeps me modivated

06-28-2006, 04:12 PM
this is very motivational! Thank you for sharing.

07-24-2006, 09:07 PM
hey tani you look wonderful stories like this help so much when you fill your falling from the wagon. i need something like this to inspired me.

07-25-2006, 01:10 PM
How long did it take to lose all the weight and what diet plan were u on.

07-25-2006, 01:54 PM
Wow, you look awsome. You don't even look like the same person!! Other than the hair of course. I can't wait until I can post in here about my success. Reading stories like yours give me hope. I am doing well losing but I can't wait to be in your shoes.

07-26-2006, 09:11 PM
MrsDawsondn (http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/member.php?u=39071)

Hey I was just looking at your photo album, you are looking SO good!!!! I love that brown top you have on - the one you had on before and after you lost some weight. And that leopard outfit, you're looking fantastic!! Great job. You even look younger too!! :D


07-31-2006, 11:22 PM
What an awesome story! You look fantastic! and I have to agree, taller too!

08-01-2006, 09:07 PM
thanx for sharing

08-26-2006, 01:20 AM
Congratulations on your success....after reading the posts tonight, I am getting more motivated than ever!! Thank you and everyone for their insight and their stories....

09-23-2008, 04:47 PM
congratulation for your lost. l have also lost weight
l join ed Tops group Oct3 2006. l reach goal Oct last year. l decided to quit and my neighbour and l are surporting one another. l feel we have to fly on our own sooner or later. its keepingit of that is the stugle to date l have lost
73 pounds. l was 217 when l started ...... l looked this site up and decided to check it out again. JO

09-23-2008, 04:48 PM
Welcome Jo, and congratulations! :balloons: But I think you need a new user name now since you certainly aren't a Big Momma any longer! :lol:

09-24-2008, 10:27 AM
the reason l used the handle of bigmommajo is not size it is the fact l have five grown married children Jo

09-24-2008, 11:59 AM
What a great story!

I buy fitted clothing (no elastic waists!) and pay attention to how they fit.

I totally am going to try this too, because I blame leggings for my weight gain!!! Seriously, once I moved into elastic waisted pants and stopped weighing, I completely lost any idea of my weight.

So thanks for the inspiration!

09-24-2008, 12:20 PM
Hello all I am new just starting out I 283 and only 29 years old. When I found out my weight last night I got very Scared. I just hope I can get my weight down. And make my self happy again. Thanks in advance for the support

09-24-2008, 04:31 PM
La Johnna welcome to the journey. you will find out a lot about yourself on the way. l was 265 at one time. so l know the fear.The trick is to find out why you eat, not aways hunger and what you eat. I still have fear of returning to that size.Be determen an stick with health eatting stop thinking of it as a diet but a way of life.Lf l can help in anyway l would like to help you. Jo