LA Weight Loss - Just thinkin of you Shennie
02-16-2006, 05:03 PM
Hey Shennie just wanted to let you know that I am thinking and praying for you and your DS. I know things will work themselves out you just need to keep your faith and give it time. I have always been a firm believer that you are never given anything in life that you cant handle. Just keep your chin up and things will turn around sooner or later!!! :hug:
02-16-2006, 05:05 PM
Hi Shennie, Wanted to say that we miss you around here. I hope that all is well, and that my prayers are coming your way! Katie
02-16-2006, 06:25 PM
Me too, girl. I miss you:)
02-16-2006, 06:30 PM
Shennie, I hope you are hearing God's answer's that you are praying for. I hope you are also doing well with your fasting. We all miss you.
02-16-2006, 09:27 PM
I miss you, too - and am hoping that your prayers are answered.
02-16-2006, 11:32 PM
Miss you! I'll put you in my prayers tonight!
02-17-2006, 10:44 AM
My prayers are with you....daughters are hard...(i have 3 up and comming) hang in there and let me know if you need to talk!
02-20-2006, 10:06 AM
thanks everyone :hug:
And thanks for all of the PM's, you all are wonderful. Please understand that I was not attempting to be "secretive" about my needs, but I had to discuss them with God before discussing them in public. It seems that DS has a teacher this year that is just not to found of him. While I will be the first to say that my Ds is not the most quiet, "sit down and learn" kind of child. He has never seemed to have these type of problems in the past and after talking to the teachers, DS and the principal, I keep coming tot he same conclusions that he is doing exactly what the other children in class are doing, but he seems to be the one singled out for the behavior.
We began by telling him that his behavior is wrong and to not worry about the punishments the other children receive, but truthfully that is very hard for a 9 year old to understand because he still can't get past the fact that a teacher can be biased. And I don’t believe that the teacher really thinks she is biased towards him either. We have gotten to the point we have told him to walk down the hall hugging yourself so you can't be blamed when people start to push or don't talk to anyone all day long (yeah, like he can really do that one ;) ) but it just seems like regardless of how many absolutely great days he has, the second he speaks, it's a "William, I am tired of your behavior, go to the office. My DS cried his eyes out this weekend and told me over and over again the same stories.
I am a firm believe that children should not "question" authority, so there are many days that he comes home and says things to me like, I think I got a write-up because she looked at me when I was getting a tissue and stopped to talk to Jimmy. The thing is that I have "trained" him so well not to question authority that he won't ask her why he gets a write-up and the other children don't and he often will just accept his punishment and move -on because he did do something wrong.
I hope I am not sounding lie one of those parents who think there child can do no wrong, because I live with him, I know what he is capable of ;) , but I also know that he is not a disrespectful child at all and that if he is talking in class obviously he has to be talking to at least one person (and he says there are usually a few people talking) but he is always the one being singled out and sent to the office to miss work and get 0's. I think a huge part of the problem we have now is that we just constantly stayed on him and said that he was wrong and that he should only worry about himself and not what is going on with others, and I had no problem with him receiving a consequence for talking when he was talking weather or not others were doing the same thing. But I do have a problem that now the teacher is putting him out of class and not allowing him to do work, suspending him and he is receiving 0’s for doing the same thing that other students are doing (especially since I know that due to our constantly being on him, he is actually doing less than many other students.)
thanks everyone for your prayers and thoughts. we will overcome this one and in the end my DS will be a better person for remaining respectful and just learning about how life will continue to be. I guess I just wish I could shelter him forever.
02-20-2006, 12:39 PM
So can you have a conference with the teacher AND her principal? This is dead wrong. There are great teachers and horrible teachers, just like every profession. One at my sisters school had a "favorite" like your son and it all came to a head when she locked him in a portable closet for class. Yeah...she got in BIGTIME trouble, but since her fatherinlaw was on the schoolboard, she still has her job. She also wouldn't let a child with a kidney disease go to the bathroom anytime she wanted even though she had a doctor's excuse..she was just a flat out &*(#%
My sister teaches second grade and has had some ROUGH kids...your DS would look like an absolute angel in comparison. Still, she says every kid is SOMEbody's baby, and maybe that teacher needs to be reminded of that. SHe wouldn't want her child singled out.
02-20-2006, 03:51 PM
You sound like a very positive parent who really cares about your son. There are many parents in this world who wouldn't care. I hope things work out for him and that the teacher will lay off. He still has quite a few months with this teacher for it to remain like this. Can your DS be moved to a different class, if the teacher isn't willing to change?