Weight Loss Support - All along I thought my stomach was the problem- turns out it's my brain!




susie_sunshine
02-11-2006, 12:53 PM
We had pasta for supper last night. I religiously took out my measuring cup and measured out 1 cup of pasta to put on my plate. In my head I thought "Gee, that's just not a lot of food, i'm so sick of having to scale down on my portions". I sat down at the table a little sad because I'm at the point where I really do have to cut back on portions. I gloomily ate my pasta and when I went to take my last bite, I realised I was full. I couldn't even eat the last bite.

Only one cup of pasta AND I COULDN'T EAT THE LAST BITE! It's mind blowing really. I'm not at all depriving myself. I need to find a way to stop my brain from thinking like that! The more I think about it, the more I realise that it happens all the time. I portion my food, am upset that it's not a heaping plate full then proceed to not finish the portion I'm ok to eat. HELP ME TELL MY HEAD TO STOP SABOTAGING ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


zoritsa
02-11-2006, 05:02 PM
I know how you feel.I've started eating smaller portions and slowly.Also I've started only eating while hungry...it's been hard to figure it all out,but your right....when I eat slowly and savor my food,I'm full much more quickly.

LLV
02-11-2006, 05:33 PM
I need to find a way to stop my brain from thinking like that!
I'm with ya there. I do the same thing. I think jeez, look at this measely little plate of food while everyone else is piled high with good stuff, but by the time I get DONE with that measely little plate of food, I feel satisfied, but not stuffed, and I feel good about myself that I ate a healthy portion while everyone else sits around complaining how miserably full they are.

"Ohhh my God, I ate too much."

"My pants are splitting at the seams."

"I have to undo my jeans just to breathe."

"I ate so much food I feel like I'm gonna puke."

Yeah, I remember those days. And I don't miss them one bit. While everyone else sits around all miserable, I'm content.


Sheri~C
02-11-2006, 06:40 PM
If you are not already using a smaller plate, do that. I have some nice little 9 inch sandwich plates that I picked up at flea markets etc and I serve my food on those. Everyone else uses the 12 inch dinner plates. I like my special plate as it is pretty and for me only and my food fills it right up and I never think I don't have enough, I often even leave some behind. That is very hard for me to do and I am still working on getting to the point where I do not care about the food left on the plate.

susie_sunshine
02-11-2006, 07:14 PM
I actualy looked at smaller plates today and almost bought them but then i'd need to use a salad bowl... now i fill my plate 1/2 full with salad, 1/2 with my meal...

Mind you, if i eat my salad first on a separate plate, it would take longer to eat....hmmmmm.... the gears are turning........

Altari
02-11-2006, 07:39 PM
I'm with you. I'm trying to eat four smaller meals (breakfast, lunch, dinner, supper) and have benn measuring/weighing my food like a nutcase. Tonight, I put a 12 inch dinner plate half full of salad, and decided to have only .5cup of pasta. I was amazed at how much food it really was.

susie_sunshine
02-11-2006, 08:24 PM
I find the key is to eat really slowly. I also plate my food at the stove and never bring any serving bowls to the table except those containing veggies. I like to make extra's for leftovers so if i package those immediately, there is no way I can go for seconds!

LLV
02-11-2006, 09:18 PM
My 'secret' (well, a secret for myself) to not eating seconds is to never make more than I'm going to eat.

susie_sunshine
02-11-2006, 10:07 PM
Making more than i'm going to eat saves me the trouble, and temptation of cooking again when I need to make lunch for the next day! I eat a smaller version of the supper I had the night before- I'm not a sandwich girl! lol

blues4miles
02-11-2006, 11:25 PM
If you are not already using a smaller plate, do that. I have some nice little 9 inch sandwich plates that I picked up at flea markets etc and I serve my food on those. Everyone else uses the 12 inch dinner plates. I like my special plate as it is pretty and for me only and my food fills it right up and I never think I don't have enough, I often even leave some behind. That is very hard for me to do and I am still working on getting to the point where I do not care about the food left on the plate.

That's brilliant! I will have to try that one, I have these cute little clear plates that I've been meaning to try but for some silly reason I always "think" I'll need the bigger plate.

PhatPhoenix
02-12-2006, 06:42 AM
The hypnotist Paul McKenna (he's just conducted the largest weight loss experiment in the world - I think you can find it on SkyOne's UK website) has this great phrase: "It's time to resign from the empty plate club"! He says just give yourself permission to leave food - and it really works if you try his technique! The only time I've had problems is going to family meals, (esp one aprticular family member who prides herself on her cooking!) I managed to get a lot less on my plate on that occasion AND leave some - without too much upset!

susie_sunshine
02-12-2006, 10:47 AM
I've thought about starting to eat in "courses". Have a soup first, then a salad, then the main course. Dragging meals out like that will probably make me eat less of the things I should eat less of and more of the things I can eat a lot of. It's just to balance that with having to throw supper down your throat in 5 minutes because you have to get the kids to their activities in the evening that's the challenge!

It's so frustrating somethimes because my husband and I really like to cook. We spend a lot of time in the kitchen preparingmeals from scratch. We don't buy anything pre-made- not even salad dressings. We spend all this time preparing and 3 minutes actually eating. There's just something very wrong about that...... Isn't there?

Falon
02-12-2006, 02:20 PM
My trick that has really done very well is using a desert plate to eat on. It gives the illusion that I am having a really huge meal, but what i'm really having is normal size portions that are very filling! I have been doing this from day one of changing my eating, and I don't even clean the plate every time. The full size plates we normally use, glare at us, telling us they are to naked and need to be completely covered! LOL Well, I say.. put that darn thing back in the cabinet (or donate them to the thrift store) and start using smaller plates. :soap:

:hug:

Altari
02-12-2006, 02:42 PM
The only time I've had problems is going to family meals, (esp one aprticular family member who prides herself on her cooking!) I managed to get a lot less on my plate on that occasion AND leave some - without too much upset!
My grandmother is like that and I found a way around it last Christmas.

Say the offending object is roast beef. Cut off a piece, then from every bite you take cut a tiny bit off. They'll think you're just cutting off some fat, and it makes you eat more slowly.

If it's cake or pie, then just mush some on the plate and don't scrape it...

susie_sunshine
02-12-2006, 03:46 PM
mush it on the plate! that's hilarious!

PhatPhoenix
02-12-2006, 03:48 PM
Another good trick at other people's houses (if you have young kids), is to eat with your baby/toddler on your lap or next to you. Keep feeding them stuff off your plate! Somehow people aren't offended by that! (Luckily my 3 year old is a gannet!) And in some people's houses, you can craftily feed some of the excess to the dog if there is one and it's close by!

I get in enough trouble as it is in my family being a veggie when they're all mad on meat eating. My brother won't even touch a meal if it doesn't contain meat! So you can imagine the lectures I get when I go for a big meal at his place... Now they know I do a *cranky* low fat diet on top of vegetarianism has led to a field-day for them!

Oddly I was brought up to leave things on my plate - I think most people are the opposite - and I've always said to my kids I won't be offended if you leave summat.

Kim R
02-12-2006, 04:05 PM
:nono: You should never feed a dog (especially someone else's dog) from the table. Our dog is ruined because my mil used to do that.

Apart from the fact that people food is often unhealthy for dogs (and extras make them gain weight, too), it teaches them to beg at the table. It's incredibly difficult to train a dog to stop begging once it has learned. Every visitor becomes a target for the "starving puppy" eyes.

(Sorry, it's a sore point with me. Our dog is now on a strict diet after having joint surgery.)

SherryA
02-12-2006, 06:39 PM
I remember being a child and having only a little money to buy a chocolate bar. I savored that thing. Ate it in little tiny bites to make it last longer. Enjoyed every tiny little taste. Then I got older and could afford as much as I wanted, and the portion sizes got bigger, but I didn't enjoy it as much. I didn't eat just for the enjoyment, but shoved in bigger pieces and ate more and never really tasted it the way I did as a child.

So why can't we learn from our simpler selves? Just because money isn't an issue now, doesn't mean we can't enjoy things and drag them out, savoring and keeping the portions small...

LLV
02-12-2006, 07:21 PM
:nono: You should never feed a dog (especially someone else's dog) from the table. Our dog is ruined because my mil used to do that.

Apart from the fact that people food is often unhealthy for dogs (and extras make them gain weight, too), it teaches them to beg at the table. It's incredibly difficult to train a dog to stop begging once it has learned. Every visitor becomes a target for the "starving puppy" eyes.

(Sorry, it's a sore point with me. Our dog is now on a strict diet after having joint surgery.)
My best friend's dog (a Dalmation) just recently died from a heart attack because she was overweight. They fed that dog everything. Basically, she was their garbage disposal. Leftovers from dinner, tidbits from the table, etc. I used to sit horrified sometimes watching them toss her uneaten crusts of pizza. Wanna hear something REALLY bad? We'd ordered a pizza one night for cards (we played Euchre together a lot) and their son (about 7 or 8 at the time) accidentally knocked the entire pizza onto the floor and it landed face down. Before any of us even had a chance to eat any of it, we'd just opened the box. My friend's husband reached down and picked up the box, leaving the pizza on the floor, and goes, "Here ya go, Dottie, a whole pizza all to yourself."

That dog stood there and ate that entire pizza to herself and they let her do it. She died recently, as I said, from a heart attack. The doorbell rang, she got up and went racing to the door, barking, and just fell over. And that was that.

I tried telling them over and over to stop doing that, but you know how some people are, you just can't talk to them.

LLV
02-12-2006, 07:50 PM
Oddly I was brought up to leave things on my plate - I think most people are the opposite
I was brought up in the typical "you can't leave the table until you've finished your food" family. And until I finally taught myself that it's OKAY to push the food away, I ate everything on my plate at every meal whether I was full or not.

I don't do that with my son. If he says, "Mommy, I'm done, I don't want anymore of this," then I say, "Okay, go play."

And that's the end of it.