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01-02-2006, 04:49 PM
Hi Everyone,

This is my first post so I hopefully won't ramble much. My name is Robin I'm 34 and live in Oklahoma. I have 2 great kids that I'm afraid one day will be embarassed by me. I'm 5'2''and about 210lbs. I'm going to do something that really scares me today,I'm gonna go buy a scale. By doing so it means that
I'm serious about losing weight or serious about wasting twenty bucks on something that'll just get hidden under a bed. Every year I promise myself it'll be different but I let myself down. So although the ''experts'' say you can only lose weight for yourself I'm gonna do this for my kids. So I can run with them without my knees hurting, so I can go on rides at the fair with them, and so (hopefully) when someone at school ask"who's your mom?" they won't point at someone else. I would sure appreciate a buddy to see me through those times when I want to graze the candy isle at Wal-Mart. I'll be happy to do the same. Thanks if you made it this far.


01-02-2006, 05:57 PM
Hi Ravismom and welcome. Do you have a food and activity plan in mind?Maybe we can steer you toward some threads that will be helpful.

01-02-2006, 06:21 PM
Welcome and good luck, you will do fine as long as YOU are doing it for YOU!

01-02-2006, 06:38 PM
I am also 34 and about 210lbs. I promised myself that the new year would bring some serious efforts of loosing this weight I have carried soo long. i feel as if i am already an embarressment to my teeanage son and husband.
i have always battled my weight and since I had my youngest son in February of 2003 I have had a hard time gettting the weight off. I have been as low as 130lbs in my adult life and now I am at my heaviest without being pregnant. I use to enjoy working out and being proud of my figure that resulted in the hard work and now I am ashamed.
I did start cutting out sweets today and do plan on the low carb high protein diet. I will do some exercise tonight,at least 10 minutes on my eliptical trainer.
To the other two that have replied before I, I am so impressed with ya'lls success.

01-02-2006, 07:06 PM
Successful dieting/lifestyle change is soooo much a head game. There are times when I don't attempt to start a plan because I know mentally I'm not ready to commit. Give yourself credit for being ready to take the first step. Mostly you need to go in with an attitude that you will succeed because you can do it. It takes discipline and forgiveness when you fall. It's like taking a home based course through your college. If you take it because you want a grade and are too lazy to go to class or because you think it will be easier, you will fail because it takes more discipline to do it that way. If you know you can do it, commit to it, work at it, then working at your own pace will yield great results. It won't matter that you didn't stick to MWF exactly. What matters is that you took the time, the energy, the attitude to make it work in the end.

You can do it!

01-02-2006, 07:20 PM
Welcome!!! I think that doing it for your kids is just fine!!! I know for me, when I first started I couldn't do it for myself because I really didn't care for myself much at all, so I didn't really care to do it for me. Doing it for yourself will come later!

Good luck to you!!!

01-03-2006, 02:00 PM
Thanks everyone for your kindness. I really don't have a diet plan, I'm just taking a moment and thinking before putting food in my mouth. I'm making sure that I'm really hungry and not just craving and I've replaced the junk food in my fridge with grapes,carrots andslimfast. Excersise seems to be a sticking point but I'm just doing things like parking father away from the grocery store or mall. I'd love to join a gym but I have a 2 year old that is always attached to me(I'm not complaining)but she doesn't seem to like anyone but me. I bought a Gazelle last year that makes a pretty good coat rack so I'm gonna dust that off and start using that while baby is asleep. I'm trying to aim for 10lbs at a time instead of thinking about the 80lbs of fat that are dragging me down right now. And as a reward all those dollars that would have went for candy,pop or chips are being tucked away for some new clothes and maybe a new haircut so I can walk proud again,look people in the eye again, and even smile again. Boy I talk too much. Good luck to all. Believe in yourself and your goal.

01-03-2006, 02:46 PM

I understand how you feel. We all feel that way when we've been trying to lose weight over and over and over and over again. But you can't stop trying. If you keep trying, one day you'll succeed. Don't give up hope. Good luck!

01-03-2006, 08:26 PM
ravismom and everyone else out there make this time different. use you gazelle for at least 5 minutes tonight.
i didn't have any thing with sugar today and feeling a little withdrawalish but i handle it. i weighed today and was upset but determined.
lockitup, you are doing great. throw some of that determination to us will ya. http://www.3fatchicks.com/weight-tracker/img/bar098/tiny04/lb/209/130/209/.png (http://www.3fatchicks.com/weight-tracker/index.php)

01-03-2006, 09:30 PM
Welcome and good luck, you will do fine as long as YOU are doing it for YOU!

CAn I jsut ask, in your sig you've got

GW-150/160 Size 6/8

Would you really be that size at that weight?

I ask because I'm in the UK and when (many years ago) I was 140 I was a size 12.

I had no idea the sizings were so different over there - I thought it was only two sizes different, i.e. that our size 12 was your size 10.

I would need to be about 100 lbs to be a size 6.

Cathy H
01-03-2006, 10:50 PM
Its not an easy road, I've been down it several times before. But I want to be healthy before I turn 50 in 4 years. I can use all the help I can get, suggestions, buddies, etc.

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01-03-2006, 11:14 PM
size/weight depends on the body frame and height. I weigh 177 and I'm a size 14. 150 would be a 12 (I've been there). I've never been a size 5/6. My lowest weight was 125 and I was a size 7/8.

Cathy H
01-04-2006, 06:26 AM
I am not really wanting to be a 7/8 or 9/10, even a loose 14 would be nice. I want and need to tone up my disgusting legs.. I'm ok with me from the waist up but from the waist down is another story. Any leg exercises that you know of?

01-04-2006, 10:48 PM
another day without any sugar. tonight i had a double cheese burger without the bun. i weighed today and lost 2lbs since yesterday. hope i can keep this up. http://www.3fatchicks.com/weight-tracker/img/bar098/tiny04/lb/209/130/207/.png (http://www.3fatchicks.com/weight-tracker/index.php)

01-04-2006, 11:50 PM
You need to tell yourself that you are doing a wonderful thing for you and your kids. There is nothing better than being able to keep up with their energy and not being in pain. It is for you!! Having a "prize" at the end of a small goal is a great idea. Don't think you "talk" too much. Share your thoughts and questions. That's so important.

01-05-2006, 01:13 AM

Your name caught my eye since it is so similar to mine. I can tell that you have a sense of humor, that's important. I'm 5'9" and weigh 243. I have lost 24 pounds since September 1. My short-term goal is to be 230 by my birthday, 2/26. (Baby steps)

I agree with Emily34 who said to get on the gazelle for 5 minutes. I have a treadmill that I am determined to dust off (I'm out of excuses for not using it). The idea of exercising for 40-60 minutes is VERY intimidating. So I'm going to just promise to do 5 minutes at first. Also, I'm determined to not eat after 7:00 and try to up my water intake. Just "little" things that should help in the long run.

Robsia - I have a friend who was in a size 8 at 151. I couldn't believe it, either. She looked skeleton skinny at that weight, too, and she was only 5'7" or so.

01-05-2006, 06:25 AM
another day without any sugar. tonight i had a double cheese burger without the bun. i weighed today and lost 2lbs since yesterday. hope i can keep this up.

Imagine if you could lose 2 lbs every day - a stone a week. It'd only take me five weeks to hit my goal.

Maybe someone will invent something where you go into like deep sleep or hibernation and they tube feed you just enough food to keep you alive and you come out all slim.

Wouldn't that be great?

Cathy H
01-05-2006, 06:57 AM
Looks like you are doing well. I need to get back to the treadmill, but can't yet as I have a sore foot, seems like one excuse after the other for me.. any suggestions? A 2 lb loss is Fantastic! I am plannig on getting on the scale once a month as it was suggested to me. I'll see if that works for me. As in the past I was obcessed w/ the scale.
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01-05-2006, 12:59 PM
Thanks to all of you for your support. I did dust off that gazelle and did 20 minutes yesterday so today I feel like I'm 90 I guess I used muscles that I had forgotten I had. Gonna go mall walk today and see what after Christmas bargains I can find. Ihaven't gotten back on the scale yet, probaly will Friday. Had oatmeal for breakfast(1 packet instead of 3) and have my bottle of water sitting next to me. I once weighed 120lbs. for 3 weeks when I was
19 and boy was I hot:^: I'm not aiming that low 140 or 145 would be great.
Thanks again for all of your support. Ravismom

01-05-2006, 08:35 PM

i think the headaches are finally over from getting off of the sugar.

i weighed again today and i have stayed the same,that is good. not a pound gained. 2lbs lost the other day is still exciting me.

Cathy H, if your foot is too sore to even walk then stand in place and do waist twist (very controlled) for 5 minutes. then if you have some lite weights do some arm bends,do some crunches etc. don't forget the squats.

ravismom, good job on the gazelle. keep it up but don't force yourself to do 20 minutes again if it is too hard. 10 minutes is plenty or even 7.

everyone else, keep up the spirits and remember, this year is going to be different for us. more confident,more energy and as ravismom said, HOT!

robsia, yes 2lbs a day would be great but i will be happy with if every other third day. :cheer:

talk to yall later.

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01-06-2006, 05:44 AM
2 lbs a WEEK is great. Don't try and lose to much too soon. I know you want to (so do I) but it's better to take it slower!!

01-06-2006, 12:37 PM
2 lbs is absolutely fantastic. I have always strived to lose 1-2 a week but that doesn't always happen. 3500 calories = 1 lb. That's the place I start so I can see throughout my week where I can cut the calories so I can have at least 3500 less than last week. That is really hard!!:p
:ebike: DOn't try to do too much on your first week of exercise. I haven't exercised in 2 weeks because I got that horrible flu that everyone around here is getting and I couldn't breathe without coughing so most things were out of the question. I started back up this week and I am still feeling my behind and squat muscles in a big way...OOOOOWWWWYYYYY!!!!!!! I pushed too hard on that first workout. It didn't stop me from working out more this week but it hurts. UGH!! It would have stopped me when I first started working out. Get back on there are be careful to listen to your body.

01-06-2006, 03:51 PM
Well got back on the scale for the 2nd time and no change. Oh well I'll try to see it as a good thing, at least I didn't gain. I have hypothyroid so I've known all along that it was gonna be hard. Gave myself a small treat last night, had an enormous glass of fat free chocolate milk. This may seem like nothing to some but to me it was heaven:smug: Good luck to all and thanks again for all of your kindness.

01-06-2006, 09:03 PM
hi girls, how is everyone doing? work was busy,busy,busy. i was soo busy i didn't have the time to eat lunch. tonight i am having a diet big red and a salad with zesty house dressing.

another 2lbs lost but don't appauld too soon. this weekend my husband is having a poker game and i am going out with the some girlfriends and i might be cheating a little.

figgykitty & robsia, you are soo right. slower is better. i know that so i wont be upset if it slows down.

Cathy H,RAVISMOM,DeafinlySmart, hope yall are doing well. everyone have a good weekend and i will probably not be back til monday. remember, LOVE yourself and want to be the best you can. http://www.3fatchicks.com/weight-tracker/img/bar098/tiny04/lb/209/130/205/.png (http://www.3fatchicks.com/weight-tracker/index.php)

01-10-2006, 09:43 PM
where has everyone been? no one has posted all weekend and monday.

another busy day at work and on the diet.

someone post.

Cathy H
01-10-2006, 09:55 PM
Emily I'm here. Lurking, lol. Maybe I need to get me some of that diet pop for a treat... I stepped on the scale yesterday morning, and was not happy that I hadn't lost anything. You are right, Love yourself....Thanks for the advice.

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01-10-2006, 10:51 PM
hi there cathy,glad youre taking the step to keep in touch. so what if you haven't lost anything yet,but keep trying and you will. i wish i was already at 200. i have been so busy at work i haven't had time to weigh. i only weigh on the same scale i first started out with. i will weigh tomorrow. work was busy,busy,busy.

remember girls this year is going to be different so lets all be committed to posting for eachother even if you have been bad or messed up. messing up a weekend or a day is fine. what is important is getting back on track with the help of others if that is what it is going to take.

i look forward everyday to posting and seeing how you all are.

i am tired of not trying and if anyone is with me,let me hear about it.

01-11-2006, 05:27 PM
hey guys,don't give up and stop posting. well maybe everyone is busy and i hope everyone is doing fine.

this is week #2 and i am feeling better. i have lost a little more and i hope to jump kick it in gear by adding exercising to my routine soon.

hope to hear how everyones weekend was.

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01-11-2006, 05:37 PM
Hello. I am afraid of failing also. My friends and family watch what I eat and know I am trying to diet and I feel I will be letting them down (as well as myself) if I fail. Besides, there is a lot of shame connected with being so fat and add the shame of failure to it -- - - well, you understand. Help me. I need to lose 120 lbs. I weighed 296 when I started dieting in January 2005 and weigh 264 now. Very slow weight loss. Again, any suggestions and help appreciated.

01-11-2006, 06:17 PM

Firstly, (((hugs))) and welcome to the forums.

Secondly, you have lost 32 pounds - that is no small achievement! It doesn't matter if it was slower than you would have liked, it's still a LOSS!! And a good one at that.

Imagine all the fat you have lost piled up in packs of butter. A small mountain of butter that is no longer there, that you're not dragging around with you any more.

Provided it keeps going in the right direction, you are succeeding. It's no one's business but yours how fast or slow you lose. Do it for you - not for them.

You CAN do it, you ARE doing it - keep going!

Cathy H
01-11-2006, 08:20 PM
Mickey C~ We are here for you. This is a support system. I was here years ago and just came back this year. I need to lose weight, but I'm not doing it for anyone except me! I am tired of the aches and pains I have due to the excess weight I am carrying around. Remember baby steps, one step at a time. If there is anything I can do, Please let me know. You are Important!
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01-11-2006, 09:12 PM
I'm new to this site and I'm totally confused. I don't understand how to get around. I've been trying for a few days and i sign off being very lost. Dont want to give up - but could someone explain. Exactly what this site is all about and how you read the emails and reply to everyone. Thanks :?:

01-11-2006, 10:34 PM
There's some encouraging things here in the thread and I'd like to join in. I'm working on leaving behind me about 8 years of frustration over my failures to lose weight AND keep it off.

I started on my first diet when I was 13 or 14 and have been overweight to obese ever since. I think I just got so used to --almost comfortable-- being the "big girl" --comfortable because I was never the "biggest girl" :snooty: -- that it didn't bother me for many years. Then I really lost control of my weight in my late 20's. Now I'm 34 years old, 5'7'' and 260 pounds! If I let myself sit and think "I need to lose at least 100 pounds..." it's almost too much. If I let myself think that I might fail again this time, I know I'd feel like quiting. All those depressing thoughts like, "When I look at my history"...blah, blah, blah... So I'm not allowing those thoughts any room in my mind!!!!! I must do this for me. Over the past 2 years I "feel" my weight. I'm tired of getting out of bed to sore feet first thing in the morning. I have 2 young children --oldest turned 2 last month and youngest is 9 months today-- and I need to do this for me first and also for them and DH. My long term goal weight is 160. Haven't seen that in years...only on the way up. 7 years ago I weighed 285 and in about 8 months got down to 172/size 10 (too fast, I know and I've learned)...been working my way back up ever since. Anyways, I've been quite upset and depressed that I've let myself go again. My youngest baby had severe colic and failure to thrive for her first 4 months and I really let go...quit working out and started comfort eating...and have gained 30 pounds SINCE she was born in April. I'm so glad I found this site to help me stay focused and positive.

P.S. Sweet16 - don't give up!! I hear you on feeling lost here. I think we jsut have to hang around long enough and try to get into or start groups where we feel we'll get the support we'll need; and then if we don't, try again. I thought about asking someone in a ready made group to pledge me!!!!:D I don't know about the emails. I didn't sign up for them on each thread I post on, so cannot help you there.

Cathy H
01-12-2006, 06:35 AM
I think what would be good is if we buddy up. You know make a commitment to check in once a day or every other with your buddy to see if there is something you can help with. I am the type that I need a lot of encouragement. I have trouble staying focused by myself. I need someone to say did you exercise today, blah, blah blah!
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