Weight Loss Support - No noticable difference, long distance bf arrivin Jan!




angeleyezx
12-16-2005, 09:28 AM
I say and according to the scales I have indeed lost weight, and sometimes I think I look better for it but only slightly.
Ive lost 10-11lbs in weight and my clothes are generally fit the same, everything is still the same well I think its psychological that I somethimes see a difference. shouldnt I notice more of a change from 10lbs??

Or is this not fat like I was hoping and just water? :(

I havent seen my long-distance bf since august when I was that largest I have ever been is coming to see my at the end or january for a week, I was expecting him april when I could show off all my hard work as hopefully there would be more of a difference, he doesnt care what size Im am and I am doing this for me, but it would be nice to show off to him, ya know?


jillybean720
12-16-2005, 10:03 AM
I bet he will notice the difference more than you. You look at yourself every day, and we are our own worst critics. Even if your clothes aren't fitting differently around your waist, I bet your arms, face, chin, legs, and such will be noticably thinner to him. Are you exercising in addition to watching what you eat? Exercising (particularly weight training and resistance exercises) will help you to lose fat instead of muscle, which might help. Just keep up the hard work, and it will be well worth it, for even if you never lose a single centimeter, just imagine how much happier your body is on the inside for being healthier (though I know the goal is to get thinner, so it's still frustrating) :^:

LLV
12-16-2005, 10:11 AM
[COLOR=indigo]I bet he will notice the difference more than you. You look at yourself every day, and we are our own worst critics.
Amen to that!

By the way, angel, congrats on your loss so far and keep it up, you're doing just fine. It's perfectly normal to look in the mirror and see NOTHING. In fact, when I first started, I didn't see any visable difference in the way I looked until I was down 30-40 pounds. But then I had a lot more to lose than you did.

Give it time, you'll notice it eventually :)


angeleyezx
12-16-2005, 01:10 PM
thanks :)

annk
12-16-2005, 01:47 PM
I echo everything the other girls said and also, 10 pounds is a lot to lose when you are starting at 154! I have lost 24 pounds and still don't feel a huge difference in how my clothes fit, so I know how discouraged you feel! But I bet he will notice in your face; they say that's where the weight comes off first! Keep up the good work!

Ann

supernurse_mommie
12-16-2005, 03:20 PM
I also very much understand and sympathize! I have nearly lost 50 pounds and dont really notice too much of a difference. Nobody has commented on my wieght loss, but I do have hopes that at least *I* will notice the difference soon! I think it would make it much easier to continue:)

I know that percentage wise.. you have lost a greater percentage of weight than me,, so I bet you'll see a difference soon.

Which brings me to a question... what percentage do you need to lose to start seeing a difference?

LLV
12-16-2005, 03:32 PM
Which brings me to a question... what percentage do you need to lose to start seeing a difference?
That depends on what you weigh to begin with. Like with me, I started at 220. I started noticing a difference at about 30-40 pounds. But you're starting higher, so you may not notice a difference until you're down much further.


Just keep going. You're doing great and you'll see it soon :)

RobertW
12-16-2005, 03:32 PM
I also very much understand and sympathize! I have nearly lost 50 pounds and dont really notice too much of a difference. Nobody has commented on my wieght loss, but I do have hopes that at least *I* will notice the difference soon! I think it would make it much easier to continue:)

I know that percentage wise.. you have lost a greater percentage of weight than me,, so I bet you'll see a difference soon.

Which brings me to a question... what percentage do you need to lose to start seeing a difference?

Trust me; you are diffferent.

I can see 5# if I look carefully, but it can be tricky becaue I visualize myself as being thinner than I really am. That is why i am taking progress photos under the same conditions. Ultraclyde (http://bostondiet.blogspot.com/) has daily progress photos on his blog, which are pretty fascinating.

Not everyone notices. One woman I work with was surprised to find out I was dieting, and I have lost almost 100#.

Heather
12-16-2005, 07:05 PM
supernurse: I've lost 50 pounds and I don't know if many people have noticed. But when I look at the before and after pics, I can REALLY see it!

I think it's also possible that people notice something but don't say anything right away, especially for those of us who started fatter!

Softykins
12-17-2005, 04:26 PM
angel, you have been doing wonderful!
Keep up the great work and good luck on your
awesome reunion with your boyfriend! ;)

:love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love:

cagirlygirl
12-17-2005, 04:37 PM
I'm always amazed at how long it takes to notice a difference in the mirror. At almost 45 pounds gone, I still struggle to see any noticeable difference. Bizarre. :dizzy:

But, I can absolutely see it in pictures. How weird is that? Pretty seriously weird, if you ask me. But it works. Try taking a picture of yourself. If that still doesn't work, lay it down next to a picture at your highest weight. It's a big ego boost! :D

cheers! :hat:
paula

RobertW
12-18-2005, 07:00 PM
But, I can absolutely see it in pictures. How weird is that? Pretty seriously weird, if you ask me. But it works. Try taking a picture of yourself. If that still doesn't work, lay it down next to a picture at your highest weight. It's a big ego boost! :D

cheers! :hat:
paula

In my case it is because I visualize myself as being 30# thinner than I really am. Pictures, however, make it clear how much I have lost.

srmb60
12-19-2005, 12:18 PM
I read this in another thread this morning and I've noticed it too. People seem to notice your weight loss when you have to change clothes. When I had to get new uniforms, then the girls at work started asking about it.

He likes my big butt
12-20-2005, 11:27 AM
Pick up a 10 pound weight and carry it around for awhile & tell yourself this is what I had. Think about if you gained it back, would you feel the weight added on. 10 pounds is awesome to lose!! Keep working on it and keep in mind your bf is in love with you.....ALL of you, even the 10 pounds you kicked out of your life!! :hug:

luvshack
12-20-2005, 12:06 PM
I've lost 46 lbs and some days I think I look fatter???? I know it is all psychological but it is hard to see weight loss. I agree that pictures are the best way to tell and another great tool is a tape measure. I have lost 15 inches between my chest, waist and hips...not to mention another three inches off each thigh. WHen I think about that I know I am smaller, no matter what I see when I look in the mirror.

LovesBassets
12-20-2005, 12:39 PM
I'm always amazed at how long it takes to notice a difference in the mirror. At almost 45 pounds gone, I still struggle to see any noticeable difference. Bizarre. :dizzy:

But, I can absolutely see it in pictures. How weird is that? Pretty seriously weird, if you ask me. But it works.

This may sound nuts, but I think a huge part of it is about giving our eyes and brains time to adapt to the difference. I know that when I was 189 lbs and a tight size 18, I didn't necessarily "see" it. I was in total denial about my size. And I also think that when we live that way for such a long time, the perceptions we have of our bodies go slightly wacko. They call it body dysmorphic disorder in anorexics -- women (and men) who just don't see their body how it really is. And I truly believe that those of us who've lost a lot of weight suffer from it a bit, as well. We are SO used to NOT liking what we see in the mirror that when things start to change for the better, we may not really be able to see the difference for quite awhile. So we may subconsciously be waiting for someone else to say something to make us feel better, and when that doesn't happen we assume we don't look any different -- when in fact we probably DO. The people we see every day may not actually notice until it hits them all of a sudden; some people may feel "bad" about complimenting our weight loss because it may come out sounding like they think we were heavy before, etc...

Paula (and everyone else) is absolutely right about the pictures. We had a thread on here a while ago about how sometimes even after losing a large amount of weight, people still *feel* fat -- and STILL see themselves that way in the mirror. And for me, not even photos helped at first. When I was first getting together some progress pics to post, I kept staring at them and thinking, "I still don't see it -- I really don't." I kept focusing on my trouble spots on the "after" pic, thinking, "well, my belly's still fat" and "I have jiggly arms." Again, I think this is the result of spending a good deal of time heavy and developing a HORRENDOUSLY negative perception of my body.

Even when I first pulled on a pair of size 8 jeans, I didn't believe it. Literally -- I DID NOT believe it. I checked the tags several times, and thought, "There is NO WAY these are size 8 because I don't LOOK that different." But OBVIOUSLY I must look different if I've gone from an 18 to an 8.

I think it takes a long time for our brains to catch up with our bodies. I know it has taken a long time for ME to begin to see it.

I've lost 14 lbs since August, which is the last time I saw my friends in the UK. I'm flying over on Friday and I honestly don't think I look ANY different. But I HAVE TO look different because that's quite a bit of weight. I think I'm just suffering from the same "brain lag" as before...I'm not used to it yet, so I don't see it.

Sorry, that was a bit of a ramble.
:dizzy: