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upnorthlogcabin
11-30-2005, 11:16 AM
I hope you all found your way to this. They also have a chat area that we can use. We can set up a time and do a chat. Let me know when you find this.
DebH:carrot:


MousesMom
11-30-2005, 12:05 PM
Thanks for the invitation. I really like this site. I checked out the recipes and other tips and I even like them better.

Much nicer and the price is right :-)

~Sande E(MouseMom on the BL board)

upnorthlogcabin
11-30-2005, 11:41 PM
Hey, I am so glad you made it here... Lets try to get the other ones to get here.... I really would like just the origanal ones., They seem so great. Talk to you later....
DebH


MousesMom
12-01-2005, 08:46 AM
Hi Deb,

Two of the other ladies have emailed me saying that they love this site and would like to join. I haven't heard from a few that I emailed and the two others had a very negative response. Live and let live, I guess.

I had a bit of a backslide on my diet yesterday. My husband has been having to work late for the past few months or so. We were eating carry out every night and that was really packing the pounds on me.Since I started the new diet(I'd rather call it new healthy habits), I've been making a light dinner for us instead which usually consists of grilled fish or chicken, steamed veggies, and a large salad. Last night, Steve called and said, "Why not Japanese?" Well, I'd had a rough day, I was tired and hormonal. So, I said yes. True, as carry out goes, Japanese is healthy--we got grilled chicken--but it is also smothered in soy sauce. So, this morning, I'm showing a lb and a half gain over yesterday and my weigh in day is tomorrow---oh, well. I need to remember not to worship that scale and it's opinion anyway. I was fond of telling everyone else how this new healthy life style is a journey and not a destination....I need to listen to my own advice....now about those two handfuls of jelly bellys that chomped down on yesterday.........ha!

twayla
12-01-2005, 11:22 AM
Hey, I am so glad you made it here... Lets try to get the other ones to get here.... I really would like just the origanal ones., They seem so great. Talk to you later....
DebH
Sorry, Deb, I'm not one of the originals, but was invited. I just got hooked up here. If you prefer me not being part of the group that's okay. I'll back out if you want.
Lynnette (Twayla)

upnorthlogcabin
12-01-2005, 03:47 PM
Hi mousemom and Twayla,
Twayala. you are sure welcome here. Glad you like this site. I have been on 3 fat chicks for about 6 years on and off. Sometimes you can get a decent group and sometimes not. When you get to know this sete we will have to do a chat time. I will have to check that out again too.
Mousemom, I too have a confession. I got into some red licorice yesterday, one wouldn't have been to bad but 6 is. My husband is a seasonal worker and just got laid off for the winter, so I have sweets around for him. Now I will have to start cooking for him too. It's enough that I do that for a living .
I will have to teach him to cook, so when I get home from work I can have a nice healthy meal ready for me.
Went into work this morning for inventory, and there was some leftover boiled dinner, so I brought some home for lunch. It is a healthy meal. Just not eating the poratoes.
Well enough of my jabbering.
Check in later
DebH

MousesMom
12-01-2005, 04:19 PM
Hi all! Glad to see your name Lynette.
I've got good, good, happy news. Since I work at home and since it is both physical and dirty work, I usually wear like knit sports pants. Translation:stretchy---- I haven't had a pair of zip up pants or jeans on since I started my new healthy life(prefer that to the word diet). I had several appointments and errands to take care of today. I reached in my closet this morning and I reached for the jeans that were difficult to get zipped 3 weeks ago. Guess what? They not only fit, they are baggy! Hallelujah!! That's the type of encouragement I need to keep going.

twayla
12-01-2005, 05:34 PM
Congrats Sande! Doesn't that feel special! I haven't tried the jeans, yet, but the waistband on my pjs slips below my bellie button now. Yesterday I had a fantastic day. Though I had to make cookies, I stuck a carrot in my mouth to avoid the temptation while spooning them out. Later I went to a church dinner. They didn't have anything healthy on the menu so walked laps in the church gym until time to go home, then fixed myself a salad. It was empowering. Now today I wasn't quite as good. I had a luncheon to attend. Fortunately they had salad and undoctored corn, but then I had a small piece of meat, which was breaded and fried. There weren't any other protein options. At least I avoided the dessert trays.

Deb, at least red licorice is low fat. I think I've seen a sugar free version. You might want to check it out.

I haven't quite figured out how to get exercise in today. It's pretty hard when I have a 3-year-old clinging to my leg. So far I've only been exercising on the days he is in preschool, but I'm trying push further. Maybe I can run up to Curves for a while after dinner. The last couple of nights I've dreamt about exercising all night, maybe that counts for something. :-)
Lynnette

MousesMom
12-01-2005, 07:06 PM
Lynette, having a three year old clinging to your leg is exercise. I don't know how you do it. Occasionally keeping my great nephews wears me totally out.
I'm exhausted at the end of the day. I bet you're getting more of workout than you realize.

Great work yesterday and what a clever idea with the carrot. Although, I would have bitten the carrot in two out of frustration just looking at the cookie dough. I use to bake cookies for everyone in my neighborhood every Christmas and sometimes on Halloween. I enjoyed doing it so much and knowing that I had to fill all those baskets kept me from indulging too much. Funny thing, the four years our house has been torn apart with remodeling(long story why it's been this way so long) and I've had no kitchen to speak of(the oven is still in the garage boxed up!), these are the years I've packed on the weight. I think it's because we eat out so much(especially since my favorite is Italian-love pasta). The past three weeks I've tried to fix our meals --mainly grilled meat and salad and steamed vegies--whenever possible and I think that is the main reason I'm losing weight.

Deb, I've always thought being a chef would be such a fun and fulfilling job but boy, the temptation. That has to be rough or is it like my friend who helps out in a bakery, after a while, she started ignoring all of those wonderful aromas....this is getting dangerous-ha!

MousesMom
12-02-2005, 10:13 AM
or, since I'm Southern, should I say Y'all?

Hope you guys had a great yesterday. I'm going to try to fit in more exercise today. I'm with you Lynette. It is difficult to fit it in especially at this time of year. All I did yesterday was walk but that was enjoyable. It was cooler than usual here yesterday but still sunny and beautiful. Deb, I realize I shouldn't talk about cool weather with what you've been getting in Chicago. I have a gallery that I show at up there(in Evanston actually)and I have made a few visits at this time of year. That wind off the lake shows no mercy! I would weigh 500 lbs if I were in a really cold climate since all I want to do when the temperature drops is snuggle up with a book or movie and sip hot cocoa and munch on popcorn.....I really do have to stop talking about food-ha!

Well, exercise and diet aside, the changes I'm making in my life have pushed me to make another change. Twelve years ago, I won a make over at this expensive salon. The fellow who owned the salon told me that, even though I'd been a strawberry blond since birth, I had too much red in my face for that. So, he told me to go ash blond. That is what I've been, thanks to Clairol, since then. This past August, my dear husband informed me that he's never liked the blond and wished I'd go back to red. So, next week, I'm taking the plunge. I have to wait until then since I also decided to get a perm yesterday.....that may have been a big mistake. If this color goes wrong and I end up with bright, intense orange, with my round head and now kinky hair.......Bozo......keep your fingers crossed for me! I told my sister that I've been looking and feeling dull yesterday and so I'm hoping the color will brighten my world.XXXXfingers crossed and a few toes.

upnorthlogcabin
12-02-2005, 11:21 AM
Hey Sharon, good luck with the color. I have always been blonde. Then the grays started coming in so I just used a rinse once a month. But about 3 weeks ago I got some red highlights in my hair and I LOVE IT.
Well I have to head to work. COOK COOK COOK.
Twayla,
That is a good idea the carrot in the mouth.....
Talk at ya later
Deb

twayla
12-02-2005, 12:05 PM
Well, aren't we the triplets! I've always been ash blonde, but I surprised my husband at our wedding by going red (10 years ago). This past year I experimented with going back to blonde because I thought the red was making my wrinkles stand out more, plus I thought maybe with my pink complexion ash might be better after all. I didn't like the ash. I thought it made me look too ordinary and dull. I consider myself a very creative person and want to reflect that in my appearance (without looking like Bozo, though I've come close to a mature Orphan Annie before). So now I'm Champaign with a few highlights. I'm still not satisfied. It's like my diet...I'm always fine tuning.
Deb, what kind of cook are you? Sande, did I read in a previous BL message that you are a potter? I know you work from home, but please explain. If there is some place in the St. Louis area where I can check out some of your work, I'd love too.
We're also connected in another way. My dad grew up in Chicago. His mom and grandparents were Salvation Army missionaries and helped start the first mission in Chicago around the turn of the century--the last one not this one. I still have family there. And my mom's family came from Quebec. Really the island where you live, Sande, (without looking back at my research) sounds like the place where they settled in the 1700s. As you can see, I like to explore from where I get my genes.
Well, I need to get running. I just got back from Curves (yeah!! It's preschool day!) and am in desperate need of a shower. I'll be out and about most of the day, but I'll check in this afternoon. Stay healthy, happy and fit today.
Lynnette

sadieanne
12-02-2005, 02:51 PM
Hi Deb, Sande & Twyla- thanks Sande for the link here. I'm cancelling the BLC subscription. I can fail on my own, don't need to spend $20 a month as an additional burden/reminder of what I'm not doing.

Ladies, I really need some help here. I'm basically a very possitive person & fun. But when it comes to really dedicating effort to me, I fall flat. Have been trying to do the exercise/diet routine for 3 weeks now. No success. I think I'm a phoney cuz I talk & think about this all the time. I thought with the additional focusing on exercise/diet it would just "sink in" and I would absorb those improved habits. Hasn't yet. Kinda like paying for a fitness club membership, not going & wondering why you're not toning up ! LOL

I am journalling my foods - usually. I average <1200 calories a day, drink 60 oz water & look for ways to add movement into my day. But by the time I get home, am too tired to exercise on my tread mill.

What can I do to stop letting "life" get in the way of focusing on me & my health?
Sue AKA Sadieanne

MousesMom
12-02-2005, 03:30 PM
Sue, I've just been on the program myself for three weeks. Like you, I too haven't made the exercise connection yet. I remember from my fit past that once the habit is formed, you think something is wrong with your day if you don't exercise. There is something else I believe also, it is best to start the diet/healthy eating first and get into a routine with that until you have a habit for healthy food, too. I have been trying to walk daily. I work it into the horse care time by allowing myself at least 30 extra minutes to circle the hay field several times. It really is a pretty good workout because half of that circle is up hill. So, I'm trying to do as many rounds as I can in 30 min. At the moment, that is exactly 3. I hope to gradually add on laps and extend the walk into the next field for an additional 1/2 mile soon. I've also been trying my best to do some weight training three times a week. But the aerobic work out is really what I'm needing and where I'm lacking. I am trying to do something that might work for you. I'm trying to park farther away from doors, take the steps when ever possible, and try to incorporate extra movement into my day as much as possible. All movement is good movement. Turn on the music and dance around the kitchen while you're preparing dinner or dance around the house while you're doing house work. Start making laps up and down your driveway or, if you live in an apartment building, walk once around the parking lot and, next week, add another lap. This doesn't have to be an olympic competition. My main goal, and I think most people's, is to get healthier, fitter, and have more energy for my daily life. Movement breeds energy but it is hard to start going when you think you've got to do an hour on a elliptical or treadmill. I'm certainly not capable of that yet but I am moving a lot more and getting out of breath a lot less than I was three weeks ago. I'm only losing about 2-3lbs a week but I've been told by my doc that slow weight loss tends to stay lost better. So, I'm hopeful.
I hope some of this helped. We could also do what I've heard they're doing on the BL site, challenge each other......but, let it be known, I'm not ready for 3 hours of workout a day. So, if we decide to do a challenge, let's keep it doable for all of us. Say so many steps a day, maybe so many crunches, and some resistance training 3 times a week. Most of us are just beginners here and we don't want to burn ourselves out before we get started.
~Sande

MousesMom
12-02-2005, 03:44 PM
Lynette,

I do wood sculpture or did. I really became burned out several years ago. I've been doing this for over 30 years now and I just reached a point when I felt I couldn't do it any longer. It's a long story and depressing. So, I won't go into that now. I do have some new ideas I've been kicking around and new mediums that I want to try. I do still occasionally work with wood but the only place that my work is almost contantly displayed now is in Evanston, IL. I've been selling mainly to individuals from my web "gallery" for the last few years but my poor web site hasn't been updated or added to in over a year. I'm afraid people are going to give up on me soon even though I'm considering posting a few new things before Christmas(I hope.) Still, if I can get my other ideas off of the ground next year, I may leave the wood behind for good. I'm currently working on turning a spare room into extra studio space just for the new ideas. I'm trying to get back the enthusiasm and drive of my youth. It seems I lost so much of that when my mom died 15 years ago. I squandered a lot of opportunities after that but I still pushed myelf until two years ago when I reached my midlife crisis and my breaking point. I'm trying to get back on track now and excited about life as well as my work again.
Sorry, that was probably WAY more than you wanted to know when you asked if I was a potter. As for the island, that's Doris. I'm very land locked unfortunately:-).
Have a good day. It's time for me to go take care of the horses. ~Sande

sadieanne
12-02-2005, 05:07 PM
and I am doing more than I was. I guess I just want those "instant results" Poof! I'm on a consistant program. LOL. I have to remember to be nicer to myself so I don't get discouraged :)
Good job on the success you are having. And yes slow but steady is the best way to really keep a healthy lifestyle. Have a good weekend. Sunday is my SueVille toys for joy party & I'm focused on completing the decorating & getting the house cleaned & food ready. Guess that will keep me inmotion! LOL

MousesMom
12-02-2005, 05:23 PM
Sounds like you're doing great too, Sue. I hate to sound old 'cause I certainly don't feel like I'm that mature but, at our age, I think slow and steady is the way to win this race and not to get hurt in the process.

Tell me about your Sueville party sometime.I bet it's loads of fun and I know you're getting a work out getting ready for it. Good luck.

For anyone who doesn't know about it yet. Go to the M&M's site and check out Sue's wonderful Christmas village, Sueville. It is great. It's on the About Us page under Sadie Ann.

upswife
12-02-2005, 05:41 PM
Hello ladies~what a great group you have here. I have been lurking around the site for some time, but I just started posting a couple of weeks ago. I am restarting my journey and was looking for support. Do you mind if I join you?? Have to run my two youngest girls (3 and 2) are both crying at me.

MousesMom
12-02-2005, 06:47 PM
Hi Upswife,
As far as I'm concerned, you're very welcome!
Like I said to Lynette about her grandbaby, it sounds as if you've got two ready made workouts in your life already.
17lbs! That's great!
I've just lost 8 so far but I agree, day by day.
~Sande

twayla
12-02-2005, 07:28 PM
Sande, sorry to confuse you with Doris.

Hi Upswife, we're midlifers here but of course you are welcome. I'm raising two of my grandchildren, ages 7 and 3 1/2.

SadieAnne, I'm glad to see you on this board. I hope everything is going good.

I tried exercising in a current pool tonight for the first time. It puts a new twist on aerobics. Oops, dh just walked in and I have started dinner. Gotta go.
Lynnette

twayla
12-02-2005, 07:29 PM
I meant have NOT started dinner.
Lynnette

cboehm
12-02-2005, 10:09 PM
Hello All - Cindy here - had to do a bit of searching but I found it! This is very nice and I like the price too! Sounds like everyone is doing well. Certainly is a busy time of year - too bad it centers around "food". You would think with all the additional running around we would all drop ten pounds just living :)

twayla
12-03-2005, 12:16 AM
Hi Cindy, ten pounds huh--not a bad goal for Christmas.;-) Really this is the best time to be attempting to take control over food. Just think how good we'll feel while we are jostling through shoppers and decorating our houses, compared to those not a concerted effort. We'll be sailing through the shopping, parties and extra holiday preparations. While our counterparts will be experiencing blood sugar spikes and radical drops with all the goodies, accompanied with exhaustion and crabbiness.
Speaking of exhaustion I'm heading to bed. I've got a serious case of the good kind of exhaustion from putting this old bod through its paces today. I swear the endorphins are still talking.
Nighty-night,
Lynnette

MousesMom
12-03-2005, 07:07 AM
Hi Cindy! Glad you found us.
I agree Lynette. I feel better about myself, I move differently,and I'm not as irritable. It constantly amazes me that I'm "feeling" such a difference with just 3 weeks of healthy eating. I'll tell you something else, I am more aware of how the splurges effect me also. I had some jelly beans. They aren't bad as far as calories and have no fat BUT all that sugar. I started feeling irritable and tired. I also started craving food and I haven't had a problem with that since changing my diet. So, the sugar has to be the culprit. Now, what to do with the rest of that huge bag of Jelly Belly's?! I think I've learned my lesson. ~Sande

MousesMom
12-03-2005, 07:14 AM
Lynette, I meant to ask, what's a current pool and how does it work?
~Sande

twayla
12-03-2005, 10:02 AM
Sande, a current pool is a small pool that has water flowing through it at a controlled speed (pressure). If you float in it the pressure will carry you to one end of the pool. If you swim in it, you don't go anywhere--stationary swimming. You have to work against the water pressure just to stand in one spot. Think of it as extreme resistance training. Boy, my legs are feeling it today!

twayla
12-03-2005, 10:06 AM
Sande, BTW our son lives in Kingsport TN. So I still have a location connection to you.

MousesMom
12-03-2005, 10:06 AM
Lynette, you can get something like that for your home. I actually sent for the video but, since we are surrounded by trees and have a tendency to dampness and mold anyway, my husband suggested that I wait until one day when we may build another house "in the sunshine." It's good to know that they do work. How difficult would it be for someone like me who is not a great swimmer? ~Sande

MousesMom
12-03-2005, 10:14 AM
It is a small world. I went to MO to pick up my horse, Mouse, this time last year. So, there is another connection. I have some good friends in MO.

MsScarlet
12-03-2005, 11:17 AM
Hey - you didn't do a good enough job to ditch me... this fat chick wants to stick with you ~~~. I'll email Bev (Maggie) and get her here too.

MsScarlet
12-03-2005, 11:19 AM
Looks like I didn't lose that dadgum ~~~ thing though.
Sharon

MousesMom
12-03-2005, 11:21 AM
We wouldn't ditch you Sharon. Glad you're here.
I got a phone call right after I emailed you this morning and I've yet to get to the barn. And now it's raining which means I'll have to walk....oh well, look to the positive, it's more exercise and lugging that heavy satchel full of horse food means it's aerobic and resistance training all in one....remind me to be this happy about it once I get back-ha!

MsScarlet
12-03-2005, 12:00 PM
I sent an email to Deb Shaffer and Bev and gave them this website address to see if we can get them moved here too. Oh yeah - and to Doris too.
I just wanted to clarify something. When I said I was going to stick with the Bl Club what I was re~~~y saying was that I wanted to stick with ~~~ of you. I didn't want our group to break up and I was afraid if we ~~~ left we would break up and you know breaking up is hard to do.
Oh boy, today is Saturday and I get to do whatever I want on my day off right? I mean after I vacuum, dust, do the laundry and clean up the dog pooop, fix lunch, fix dinner, clean up the kitchen again, etc. etc. etc. Ain't life grand?
Sharon

twayla
12-03-2005, 12:43 PM
Howdy Sharon,
Glad to see you here. If you're counting, isn't it a wonder how "rest" days are so great, for your weekly total steps count! It's all burning calories. I'm still checking in at BL message board for the rest of the month since I'm paid up, but this is my main community now. With the money I'm freeing up I've signed up for fitness swimming. I also convinced my husband to get a family membership at the Y. Our local one has a good supply of equipment, personal trainers, and not so crowded that you can't get on. Once I got the endorphins kicking in, I can't get enough exercise.
Kids screaming--got to go for now.
Lynnette

MsScarlet
12-03-2005, 01:56 PM
Lynette: I can absolutely put 10 to 15,000 steps on my pedometer on my "rest day". It's on my "work" days I have a problem getting ~~~ that exercise. But today have been on treadmill twice and almost completed the laundry and the floors. I try to follow the house cleaning program of fylady.net It helps me so much in spending less and less time cleaning.
Hope ~~~ is good for you today. :carrot:

twayla
12-03-2005, 02:30 PM
Hey Sharon, I just noticed you are from Pensacola. I'm finding all these location connections with everyone in the group. My sister lives in Navarre, to the east of you. I was down visiting her last summer during Dennis. My first huricane, which was interesting.
Lynnette

MsScarlet
12-03-2005, 02:53 PM
Well Lynette, the next time you visit your sister, we must get together. Navarre is just not that far at ~~~. I do live right on the Alabama line but I can't wait for the opportunity for the M&Ms to get to know each other.
Sharon

upnorthlogcabin
12-03-2005, 03:18 PM
Hi Ladies, welcome to all the new ones, took me a bit to read the posts.
Sue, I sure can understand your problem. I am the same way I can do great for a couple of days and then boom. I haven't really done well this last week.
My mom has been dealing with lukemia for a few months, was in remission and just found out yesterday it came back. There is not much more they can do. So it's gonna be a toough one. She will find out a little more next week.
Twayla, I am a supperclub manager. I cook anything. Things are pretty quiet now so I have to do some of the cooking to save money. I am not a chef but a professional cook. Have had some schooling but not enough for the chef. You name it I can make it. And unfortunatly eat it..If I don't know how I will find a recipe.
I am like you all, I haven't really incorperated the exercise. I am still recovering from my tailbone injury so not alot I can do. I have been trying to do some walking.
Well better get going.
DebH
PS>>> Have a great day

MousesMom
12-03-2005, 03:43 PM
Deb, I am so sorry about your mom. I've been through this with my parents and I know what a toll it takes on you both emotionally and physically. A very wise woman once told me during such a time to be good to myself, patient with myself and forgiving of myself and know I was doing the best I could do and that's all any of us can do. Please know that anytime you need an emotional release, you can rely on us. This is a safe place where we all support each other no matter what the problem. You and your mom will be in my prayers and my thoughts.
take care~Sande

twayla
12-03-2005, 04:17 PM
Deb, so sorry to hear about your mother. I've lost both my parents--one fast and unexpected and the other painfully slow, so I know what a time you are and will be going through. If you ever want to unload feel free to use us through the board or email me direct (lahorn@socket.net). I know talking about what you are feeling is better than running for comfort food. My pastor says once we hit 50 we live in a constant state of grief. Unless we die young we all go through the loss of parents and older loved ones. We helplessly watch as they succumb to the ravages of old age and disease, and can do nothing. The Serenity Prayer has always helped me through all of my losses and moments of helplessness.

Lord, grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change;
the power to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Maybe this simple prayer will help you get through this, too. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
Lynnette

twayla
12-05-2005, 09:50 AM
I hope everyone had a healthy weekend. I'm fighting a cold and feel run down. I thought I was over a sinus infection but I think it has relocated to my throat. I ate proper but laid around all weekend. Zach is sick also, but if he doesn't have a fever I'm still taking him to preschool so I can get some exercise in. I know I'll feel better once I get moving.

Sharon, I saw your post over on BL--that is why I'm over here. There is no way I can keep up with all the posts over there. And right now, outside of Doris and EllenDee, all the posts have been from newbies, who all seem clueless. Its tiring to answer the same questions over and over, as each new one comes on board. While I want to help, it can be time consuming. Right now both boards have been quiet. I'm hoping that is because everyone is out there moving and working the program.

I hope everyone has a great day and stays true to their fitness goals.
Lynnette

sadieanne
12-05-2005, 01:29 PM
Lynette, the current pool sounds great. Is it with your health club? I'd like to find one. Also, about raising your grandkids - I know lots - more than I wish- about that subject. I adopted my grandson, David, when he was 9 months old. Then joined a grandparent support group. Over the last 16 years we all have had similar challenges with these kids. You have a long tough road ahead of you. There are lots of lessons I've learned that may be of help to you as your g-kids get more into school. It's sad to say, but all the g-kids come to us with damages we just can't errase, no matter how much we love them & how hard we try. Let me know if you want to talk about this.
Sue

twayla
12-05-2005, 04:59 PM
Sue--you are so kind. We've had the kids for 2 1/2 years. Yes, we've had to deal with things that would never have been issues if we had had them from the start. I get the grandparents who are parents newsletter from AARP and have a great network of support with our church. There are GP support groups in our county but none are convenient for me to attend. We've had the older one in counseling, but the younger one doesn't remember life without us. It was really a change in our lives, but not necessarily a bad one, just different. Along with the problems they've brought a lot of joy and happiness our way.
Lynnette

sadieanne
12-05-2005, 06:48 PM
Hi my M&Ms-
Deb, so sorry about your mom, I have such a close relationship with mine I am beginning to get concerned about how much I will miss her when she goes. She's 83, healthy & active. But I know it won't be like this forever. Here's some self-talk I do when I'm in that awful emotional pain: I remind me to treat myself as if I was sick - I give myself permission to be quiet, not rush around for others, to sit by the fire or garden if I want (depending on the season); to read a book & leave all the dishes in the sink. Things like that. And here's an unusual one: I will close my eyes, and rub the top of one hand with the other (as you would for your best friend) and remind myself I'm not alone in this endeavor. Sounds weird, but it's a soothing self-help action.
Lynette, you could have your 7yo try this. Amazing how even your own touch is soothing. And he may not be able to acept that soothing from someone else at this time. Just a thought. And yes, these little bundles of joy are a surprise in our lives & can bring us joy. When I first got David, I felt as if I had an "unexpected pregnancy" as all of a sudden I was a parenting mom & had to give up playing with my friends - going skiing for weekends, dancing & lots of activities. It was a bit of a shock. Do you know about the world of IEPs? Individual Education Programs? If you want to email me I can give you lots of web sites for information. Sue

upnorthlogcabin
12-07-2005, 05:59 PM
I don't know if anyone is left on this thread but would still be intersted in keeping it going. Please let me know.
Deb H

Magg1e
12-11-2005, 03:29 PM
I am finally here. I joined last week , but just didn't have the time to read all the posts - but I am using today as a catch up day - and just wanted to tell youall HELLO !

I really like this site . there is a lot of super cool info here and I find it to be very stimulating . Have missed talking to you all . I see Lynette on the email thread - ( and she has been doing VERY awesome I have to say )

I worked out this morning - hard - because I know that I can go home and collapse... and I think this is going to be one of those coma kind of naps. did resistance training for the first time in a long time ... plus 33 minutes on the elliptical - and rounded up to 45 on the treadmill - tried to run ... hahahahaha

was my intent to get a little work done today in the ofice - but now I am brain dead

OK- going to go catch up on reading ......

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Magg1e
12-11-2005, 03:36 PM
Deb, I am sorry to read about the setback your mom is having . I wish I could offer some help - or some sage advice - but I can't offer anything to help you feel better - and for that I am sorry

Bev AKA Magg1e

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