It's okay! I know if I do have one, I'll be planning it. Nobody has ever surprised me; actually I don't think I've ever had a birthday party except the one I had when I was 9.
Okay so here's a memory for the books! We lived in a very small town, probably like 200 people. The school was in one building, everybody knew everybody else and especially us because my dad was the music director at the Baptist church and my mom played the piano. All these kids came to my party and my very best gift of all, the one that I have remembered all these years just like it was yesterday, was from the kid whose dad owned the little store/gas station. It was a case of Milky Ways. Full size, 24 of those babies, and I got to keep them ALL in my room in the bottom drawer of my dresser. I was just absolutely in heaven!