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10-22-2005, 12:59 AM
.. Again!! I can NOT find a bra in my country! I actually tried on bra's for a good two hours today, my back is sore, my boobs have been smashed around.. and they are ready to be held up with TAPE! I'm just frustrated and need to vent, how can 38D be such a ODD size?!?!? Plus size stores don't carry them, skinny people stores don't carry them, dept stores don't have that size either. I had this Lane Bryant Bra, push up, demi cup, fits me like a glove and the underwire popped thru the other day.. I have patched it up for now..

Alright.. I feel a bit better.. but I tell yah, I was so close to crying in that fitting room!!


10-22-2005, 01:03 AM
I have had good luck with LB bras in the short-term...they always squeak and fall apart too soon :(

Good luck in your quest. I take a 42DD-DDD and I relate :(

10-22-2005, 01:04 AM
Try a 40C. Never know, it could work.

10-22-2005, 01:15 AM
When I was a 38D, I found this bra at Victoria's Secret that I absolutely loved! It was like a "T-shirt" Bra almost, cotton with underwire, I could wear them all day without getting annoyed! The only downside was that it wasn't padded, so if it got cold it was nipple central, lol:P But that didn't really bother me, I guess it's a personal preference:P Anyways, go inside V.S. if you haven't - I did find other bras in that size there(of course this was like 2 years ago, but still) that worked just as well; have you tried walmart or target btw? such a wide selection, you're bound to find somethng there that works!

Yogini- I am so there with ya! I have bought tons of bras from LB(my favorite of which, are of course, similiar to the T-shirt bra i described above) and the quality is just not that good! Usually after a month or two an underwire pops, or it squeaks(which is so annoying! Darn them for not using metal underwires!) and the squeaks drive me insane! However, they make the boobies look good, so I keep buying, lol.

10-22-2005, 01:29 AM
There are a dozen ( or more) sites on-line catalogs and you can order your size...I am sure Lane Bryant has a site, try it and see. The downside is, of course on top of the cost is the shipping and handling. Maybe just send them a letter and ask where you can find your size near you. Might just be worth the S&H.

Good luck,

OTBN.... Berne


10-22-2005, 02:44 AM
I finally tried a bra with a smaller band size and larger cups -- and that did it for me. It took me trying on, oh, about SIXTY bras over the course of three trips to stores, but I finally found a couple!

10-22-2005, 08:39 AM
I hate bras!! Would never wear 'em if I could get away with it. Good luck, it sounds like you gotten some great advice so far.


10-22-2005, 10:29 AM
Ugh. Shopping for bras sucks, I know. I'm with Beverly...if I didn't have to wear one, I wouldn't. You might try JCPenney. They have a lot of sizes in their stores & they also have them online. They periodically run free shipping specials as well.

Goddess Jessica
10-22-2005, 11:18 AM
Awww sweetie, I totally understand. I hate bras. I hate shopping for them and I hate when they fall apart.

I usually go until the last bra is hanging by a thread, it no longer looks flattering and it's actually painful to wear all day before I go shopping for new ones. And guess what? It's getting that time again.

I highly recommend Bali. You can get them at almost any department store but more importantly, once you know your size in them, their styles hardly change and so you can order them on-line in confidence.

My favorite Bali bra is the Minimizer. I've worn this style since high school!

10-22-2005, 01:03 PM
Hey there, I agree, 38D isn't the most common size! 38C seems to be the cutoff for "regular" bras, and not all "full figure" lines carry them.

Of course shipping to Canada may not always be possible, but you might look at the following, some of which have already been mentioned:

www.victoriassecret.com (they tend not to carry more than 36C or 38C in the stores, but online they have a wider range of sizes)

Of course the downside to buying online is that you can't try them on, so you may have some trial and error. But, once you understand what STYLE of bra suits you best, then you have better luck. The Her Room site has some good info on picking bras.

10-22-2005, 01:24 PM
Aimee :: I'm a 38D too. I buy almost all my bras online or via catalog through Victorias Secret. If you know that's your exact size, I recommend ordering one and seeing how you like it.

10-22-2005, 02:01 PM
I finally tried a bra with a smaller band size and larger cups -- and that did it for me. It took me trying on, oh, about SIXTY bras over the course of three trips to stores, but I finally found a couple!

Oprah did a show on bras, and finding the right size. They said this exact thing, I tried it and found it worked for me too.

Bras are one item of clothing I always feel I need to try on. Style to style they seem to all fit so differently. You could always try asking the store when they'll be getting a new shipment in. Good luck, mon amie Aimee!

10-22-2005, 02:35 PM
Aimee--try Junonia.com. That's the only place I can find bras that fit. Hopefully they will work for you, too.

10-22-2005, 07:43 PM
Thanks everyone for all the advice :) I did it!!! I found a bra!! It was from La Senza, dunno if you guys have that store in the USA, just a cheesy bra/undies store. It worked out to be a 38DD, I've definitely settled, I have a few bulges here and there.. however I have them in this bra as well.. I have a weird body shape. I went to Lane Bryant last time I was in Seattle, I tried on every single push up bra, believe it or not, I need one. Turns out I'm not full on the underside, and need a padding along the side/bottom to even me out. I used to sell bra's and learnt SO much about them.. it was a valuable lesson!

It's odd, I have had this Lane Bryant bra for a good 2 years, and while it's definitely stretched out (I bought the band one size smaller thank goodness), it's lasted REALLY well. We really need a Victoria Secret in my country!!


10-22-2005, 08:37 PM
Good for you!

I'll tell you, watch out for the darned closure hardware on the Just My Size brand bras. I noticed the little hooks bend really easily. One I tried at the store was bent out, and the one I bought just started bending out on one of the hooks. They're terribly designed little hooks -- Grrrr. :devil:
I should not have to replace the darned hooks on a bra I just bought, but here I am. Exchanging it for another brand isn't an option, because this bra really fits me great.

10-23-2005, 12:01 AM
I have had good luck with LB bras in the short-term...they always squeak and fall apart too soon :(

My best LB bra story was that one night, after a 7-10pm class, I was getting into my car and heard a strange pop...didn't think much of it at the time. The bra was off shortly into my 1 1/2 hour comute, as it usually was (I got really good at taking bras off while driving during grad school ;)). A few days later, I get dress and glance down to realize one boob is much lower then the other...yep, that 'pop' I heard had been the underwire snapping. I was pissed, but it sure made me appreciate what underwires can do!

As for me- it seems like I have so many bras in different sizes. I lost a lot weight very quickly a few years ago, due to a medical problem. Now I've regained it (plus some) and am definantly not as well toned as I once was, so I have before bras, several sizes of weight loss bras, and now after bras. I got lucky this summer and found lots of really nice bras in larger sizes (44-46DD) at BigLots for $5 each. I got Playtex, 18 Hour..even a cute black push up Delta Burke bra. They had panties from Catherines for $1 a pair too...stocked up on them too.

10-23-2005, 09:23 AM
Oooh. Struck a cord. I just spent hours bra shopping (in Manitoba, even less options than some areas) and was sooo frustrated. I ended up with one from Addition Elle. Everyone is right - smaller band and larger cup seem the answer (42 DDD !!!!). My fave bras were a really comfy pregnancy/nursing bra (Bravado in case anyone ever needs). Wore one for 2 years but the little squirt barely nurses now and they were all stretched and too big. I've looked online, but was nervous to buy. Interesting thought about the push up. I've always had trouble with fit, even in my slimmer days.

10-23-2005, 10:32 AM
I'm glad you found a bra that you are happy with. I used to have a lot of trouble as well. I finally gave up on department stores all together. We have a specialty shop here that I have to imagine exists in most areas. They specialize in fitting women who have had mastectomies. So, they are very experienced in fitting "odd" shapes/sizes. They also carry specialty garments for wearing under bridal gowns, formals, etc. so they carry a wide range of styles.

The first time I went in a little old lady (think great-grandmother here) went in the dressing room with me and looked at me in my current bra and without even taking measurements left and came back with about 5 different bras for me to try. They were all different sizes and each fit perfectly. She knew the variances between the brands and which ones would work. So, it was just a matter of choosing the style I like and the one I thought was most comfortable. I was in and out of there in less than half and hour and I swear it must have been the first time in my life I had a bra that fit as it should. I could barely tell that I had one on and my clothes fit so much better. It is amazing how few gaps there are between buttons when you boobs are sitting where they are supposed to!

Anyway, it may be worth a call to a nearby doctor or hospital because I think a lot of them refer patients to these places when needed. I never knew this shop existed until someone I knew had a mastectomy and was referred there.

10-23-2005, 10:39 AM
Great story! And also a great example of how some people are missing out on marketing opportunities! Why don't we know about these places!!

10-23-2005, 01:23 PM
jawsmom, I was almost desperate enough to go to a place like that, I couldn't really AFFORD to, the bra's cost 50 dollars minimum. And if I had that money poking around, you betcha I woulda hit them up! There are a few places like that around here, I used to refer women there all the time.. I mean really, when you are a anything over a DD, you just can't find that in Victoria Secret type places..

When I worked in a plus size store (that sold bra's), we had SUCH a nasty selection of bra's, every once in a while the company would bring something good in... but that was rare. It's a missed market!


10-24-2005, 01:23 AM
I'm glad you found a bra that fit you! I thought I was the only one who had the problem w/Lane Bryant bras--the underwire pops out to poke you all day, dulling a nerve in my arm & hurting, or they just snap one day. :( I will have to do it again soon, NOT looking forward to it.

10-24-2005, 11:42 AM
Yeah for finding a bra.

My best ones right now are my old nursing bras that are almost 3 years old. I don't nurse anymore but they hold me up the best. Not sure what I'm going to do when these give out on me. :)