100 lb. Club - Reasons for Losing Weight--Scared Skinny??




Sheila53
10-14-2005, 12:06 AM
I've decided that avoiding diabetes is one of the motivating factors in my quest to lose weight. My Dad has yet another ulcer on his foot that is infected by one of the so-called "superbugs" that is antibiotic-resistant. He could lose his foot. His blood sugar is in the normal range, but once diabetes arrives, it becomes a permanent guest.

I prefer to enter my rapidly approaching golden years in good health and with all my appendages intact so I think I'm going to be "scared skinny."


Yogini
10-14-2005, 12:18 AM
Shiela, who is that sweet child in your avatar? :)

I know what you mean about being "scared skinny". I don't have any big health concerns other than being *very* over fat :( and I want to be a better example for my daughter and clients, as someone in the health/fitness field.

It looks like you are almost to goal! Way to go! I am new here and still looking to connect with someone here (I just joined a few hours ago, but I am already feeling lonely because no one has responded to any of my posts yet, despite many views ).

Gardenwife
10-14-2005, 12:26 AM
Sorry about your dad, Sheila. Diabetes is a horrible disease and in so many ways preventable -- Good for you on using it as a catalyst. My scared skinny would have to be back and joint pain. I do not want to end up having to go places on a scooter because my weight has blown out all my joints.


ScarlettDrawl
10-14-2005, 12:28 AM
Yogini: :welcome2: May I suggest posting a thread introducing yourself here in the 100lb Club. I am pretty new here as well and within this group, all of my threads have been responded to. I believe this is one of the more active groups I have seen on this site.

Sheila: Sorry to hear about your father. I understand what you mean by being scared skinny. In an indirect way at least. My family has pretty severe kidney problems on both sides. While I know (or I think) that is not related directly to weight, since there is such a good chance that I may have problems later in life, I am trying to make sure I am as healthy as possible in case I have to deal with such an ordeal in the future.

JazzyNurse
10-14-2005, 12:34 AM
Hello all-
I am freshly out of nursing school and I can not stress enough how much I learned about obesity being linked to almost every type of disease process. And a lot of it is preventable by dropping the weight and being active. I also have diabetes on both sides of my family, and I'm doomed to have it as well if I don't lose this weight. I carry most in the front in my belly which is very dangerous. I agree 100% about being scared, I feel the same way!

Yogini
10-14-2005, 12:36 AM
Yogini: :welcome2: May I suggest posting a thread introducing yourself here in the 100lb Club. I am pretty new here as well and within this group, all of my threads have been responded to. I believe this is one of the more active groups I have seen on this site.

Thanks, I will :)

And Shiela, it *is* great that you are inspired to become healthy by your father's recent health developments. I'll pray for your father.

milkseat
10-14-2005, 12:41 AM
Hello, just had to comment on the belly fat...that's me!! I quit smoking about 1 1/2 yrs. ago (Apr. 18, 2004) and noticed weight gain when I stopped working out as much over the summer months. It crept up on me... and I didn't realize how much until I tried to put on my jeans. At work, I wore dresses and elastic waist shorts over the summer, so I didn't really notice how much I'd gained until wow! too Much!!! I'm reducing carbs and doing the Firm videos. I also do Yoga almost every morning...let me know if you find something that works! Thanks, Jen

Heather
10-14-2005, 12:43 AM
I have multiple such inspirations. My father has diabetes and severe peripheral neuropathy. He could lose feet too someday! ;) And my MIL is also overweight with serious back issues. And then this summer we got a puppy and raising myself from sitting on the floor playing with it was SUCH a chore. Finally, in July I had a nasty fall with a bad blow to my coccyx. :o As I was lying on my side recovering from that I had a chance to do a lot of thinking -- about my father and MIL, and how I couldn't move well, even before the fall. I'm 39 and felt 50 (or more!). And I thought about all the things I DON'T do because of my weight.

I decided that my goal would be to be more healthy when I turned 50 then when I turn 40!

And then I sat for a while longer and wondered whether that meant I should start right away, or wait until I turn 40 in February... I'm really glad I got off my duff and decided not to wait, because now I want my 40th birthday gift to myself to be an already fitter me!

WinterWonder
10-14-2005, 01:25 AM
Well, I had already decided to lose some weight a few weeks ago because I was tired of feeling tired all the time. Unfortunately, I felt too tired to do much to fix my situation. Then, last thursday, I had a doctor's appointment and it scared me enough that I got off my derriere and started working. Whenever I start to worry about my health issues and the upcoming tests, I just work harder until it slips my mind.

jmacway
10-14-2005, 08:21 AM
Hello all-
I am freshly out of nursing school and I can not stress enough how much I learned about obesity being linked to almost every type of disease process. And a lot of it is preventable by dropping the weight and being active. I also have diabetes on both sides of my family, and I'm doomed to have it as well if I don't lose this weight. I carry most in the front in my belly which is very dangerous. I agree 100% about being scared, I feel the same way!

I agree that being over weight is bad for you. Can you tell my why belly fat is very dangerous?
I a had bone desity test in February and learned that I have ostioporosis. The doctor said the extra weight I have been carrying aound for the last 12 years probably kept the ostioporosis from being worse. I created my own weight bareing exercise.

ChocLabLover
10-14-2005, 09:08 AM
Excellant thread Sheila! :D I was "Scared Skinny" about a year ago when I went to the doctor and had a checkup. I was under immense pressure and stress at work which had pushed my blood pressure through the roof. My doctor at the time said if I kept going on the way I was, I would be an excellant candidate for high blood pressure, stroke, hypertension and all of the other fun diseases that obesity brings on. :o

SnShn13
10-14-2005, 09:40 AM
I'm convinced that there is something wrong with me because I can't be scared about health problems. I need to be... HELLO I AM FLIPPIN' DOUBLE THE SIZE I SHOULD BE! I'm sure there are millions of risks in that... So, this thread was a good wake up call.

Sheila, I will pray for your dad. That is SO scary. I'd be depressed even if I had to have my pinky toe removed...! I hope the ulcer goes away!

irishgreengables
10-14-2005, 10:31 AM
I find myself emotional reading all your responses.

For me, I have PCOS and all 4 of my g-parents were diabetics. YIKES!!! I have 2 daughters, one who shares my cruddy genetics (the other was adopted). I don't want either of them to have the body issues I have always had. I don't want either of them to have to struggle with weight and activity and to dislike themselves (much of this I counteract by being active with them NOW and by NEVER ever debasing myself or even discussing diet. It is all about an active, healthy lifestyle). I also don't want my son to have a mother who can't play with him.

In July, I went for a fast walk with my 2 youngest in a stroller (and the baby sometimes on my back) and I came back from the walk with a double stress fracture. The MRI also showed severe arthritis in my big toe. I was 1 month form 37 and had had enough!!! I nenewed my 20 y.o. goal that I would run a marathon by 40.

Basically, for me, July, the walka dnt eh foot and the toe, showed me that, for the first time in my overweight life, it is harder to be fat than it is to get fit.

So here I am.

jillybean720
10-14-2005, 10:52 AM
I'm convinced that there is something wrong with me because I can't be scared about health problems. I need to be... HELLO I AM FLIPPIN' DOUBLE THE SIZE I SHOULD BE! I'm sure there are millions of risks in that... So, this thread was a good wake up call.
I completely agree--I know I should be worried about diabetes and high blood pressure and heart disease and...the list goes on and on and on. However, since I've never had any weight-related problems, it just doesn't quite sink in with me the way it should, ya know? It's like I realize the risks, and I could even probably write a good 100-page paper explaining many of the health risks associated with and/or worsened by obesity, but until it happens to you or someone close to you, it's hard to really grasp. I have been fortunate so far--and now that I'm losing, I will have less to worry about in the future!

Heather
10-14-2005, 11:06 AM
I was going to say that I was impressed that you guys (gals?) have been able to lose weight without that fear. But as I thought about it, I realized that it's still not the fear of disease that is motivating me, but the fact of my lack of mobility. I've known about my dad and MIL for years, and still let myself pile on the weight! It wasn't until my mobility became an issue that I really started to think about it and deal with it.

WinterWonder
10-14-2005, 11:18 AM
However, since I've never had any weight-related problems, it just doesn't quite sink in with me the way it should, ya know? It's like I realize the risks, and I could even probably write a good 100-page paper explaining many of the health risks associated with and/or worsened by obesity, but until it happens to you or someone close to you, it's hard to really grasp.

I know exactly what you mean! I still don't really worry much about weight-related problems. My own medical issues aren't really that weight-related, but I'm still trying to lose the extra pounds. The reasons that should be secondary (e.g., being able to find nice clothes in my size) are pretty primary right now. I hope that I can keep up my hard work when I'm not busting my bottom to avoid worrying about upcoming medical tests.

Jen415
10-14-2005, 11:31 AM
Well, my main worry is getting Type II diabetes. My mom was diagnosed with it about a year ago. She has since dropped a lot of weight and can control her diabetes with diet.

I haven't been officially diagnosed with PCOS, but I have most of the classic symptoms. I know that insulin resistance is a pre-cursor to Type II, so getting my weight under control is imperative.

howie6267
10-14-2005, 12:08 PM
Mine would be my Dad who died from heart disease and stroke complications. The only thing I do have going for me is the doctor said since I mostly take after my Mom that I may not be as high of risk. Bad part is cancer runs in my Moms family. I can't say that was my main reason. I think for me it just all boils down to hating myself. I was sick of the way I looked and felt.

barbygirl43
10-14-2005, 12:11 PM
I think when you are younger, you don't think about any of the diseases ever affecting you. When I was in high school and college I was extremely active and probably in better shape than most of my skinny friends even though I was obese. It hasn't been until the last couple of years (after having the kiddos and especially after PG with william and having gestational diabetes) that diseases and not being around for them later in life became a "scare" factor for me. That's not to say that you can't lose weight because you don't have that fear. We each have to find something that motivates us and gives us something to strive toward.

Sheila I'm sorry to hear about your dad. Hopefully they can get it fixed. My dad has diabetes (as does his twin) but both are able to control it with diet so far.

funniegrrl
10-14-2005, 12:45 PM
I'm a smart chick -- college degree and everything. I've been overweight all my life, and it seems I've never been UNaware of the potential health consequences. Still, while I would readily agree with the assessment that my weight was a looming hazard, it was all at an intellectual level only. When I tried to lose weight, health was certainly a reason I stated and believed in, but it didn't have any emotional resonance with me.

That changed, though, and this time really has been about health and quality of life. Over the space of a few years, these are the things that added up for me:

My best friend, who is only 50-60 pounds overweight, was diagnosed with diabetes.He and I have very similar personalities (problems with compulsion), and we are both true foodies. So, that was a little close to home.
I have had bad knees since I was 12; it runs in my family. My mother has two artifical knees; even in the best circumstances, I'm probably headed down that path. I had this vision of the 300+-pound-and-growing me becoming not only limited in mobility but a burden to my family. Even without the knee issues I wasn't exactly spry. I have no spouse and no children, so what kind of life would I be living in 10 or 20 years?
For some reason I started to think about the overweight celebrities who had died young, particularly Cass Elliot and John Candy. There was also Belushi and Farley, of course ... and more. Granted, a lot of them died from drug issues, either directly or indirectly, but still.
That line of thought led to the realization that you just don't see many fat old people. Sure, being overweight at middle-age and beyond is actually more normal than not, but when it comes to truly obese people, people my size, they are very few and far between.


So, while I am THRILLED with my new look and my lessened aches and enjoyment of physical activity (most of the time!), it has been abject fear of the things above that have sustained me.

DishyFishy
10-14-2005, 01:41 PM
I'm really sorry about your dad, Sheila. I hope the ulcer will heal so that amputation doesn't become a necessity.

There are a lot of health problems that run in my family: my mam (who, BTW, was never heavier than 98 pounds), plus her mam and siblings, all had diabetes. My dad, and his siblings, had high BP and heart disease. And cancers have been common on both sides of the family. Nevertheless, it wasn't until my sister was diagnosed with high BP, and told to drop 30 pounds** by her doctor, that I even thought about the health risks associated with being obese. Even then, it wasn't the only factor in my decision to become a healthier person.

I never visit the doctor so I have no idea whether I've developed any underlying medical conditions since I was screened by Canadian Immigration three years ago. At that time, despite being obese, I was given a clean bill of health. I do know that dropping some weight has made me feel fitter and more vital than I did, so it must be a good thing, right?

**I have to add here that my sister totally ignored her doc's advice. :rolleyes: When I started this in April, I weighed 62 pounds more than she did. She's encouraged me every inch of the way with my efforts, and finally, when I was only 12 pounds away from catching her up, she started WW. :cp: I'm so proud of her! And she dropped three pounds in her first week! :cheer: Go, SisterFish!

amylizmc
10-14-2005, 02:50 PM
My motivation is that I remember how much easier it was to move about 12 years ago before I started eating everything I could lay my hands on. It's no fun to chase after my 2 and 3 year old being as big as I am. I also want to model better behavior for my kids. They mimic so much of what they see, and I surely don't want them to follow my example!

Another reason it that it seems to be the next step for me. I quit smoking last year after 15 years. I figure if I can give up something that was a huge part of my life for so long, I can give up the weight, too.

While I don't have any health complications yet (other than easily fatigued), based on my family history and common sense, I KNOW that has to be what lies ahead sooner or later.

I can't WAIT to be healthy!