[KnCmamma]

I have been coming to 3fatchicks.com for a while now(off and on) and have never even looked in this board till now. How lame is that. I read the "Are you a compulsive eater" sticky thread and thought OMG I have so many from the list...here's what I said yes to

1. Do you eat when you're not hungry?

2. Do you go on eating binges for no apparent reason?

3. Do you have feelings of guilt and remorse after overeating?

4. Do you give too much time and thought to food?

5. Do you look forward with pleasure and anticipation to the time when you can eat alone?

7. Do you eat sensibly before others and make up for it alone?

8. Is your weight affecting the way you live your life?

10. Do you resent others telling you to "use a little willpower" to stop overeating?

12. Do you crave to eat at a definite time, day or night, other than mealtime?

15. Does your eating behavior make you or others unhappy?


I just have a hard time trying to eat sensibly and not binge eat. I know what's good for me and what's not, but I have a hard time choosing what to eat and what not to eat and when I go shopping what to pick up and what not to pick up. What to make for meals.

I also have this problem of making things for my daughter and I that are low calories and yet make things that are high in calories for my son(he has problems with gaining weight).

I also don't just have problems with eating but also with exercise...I consider myself a lazy person. I hate to exercise. I only go for walks when I have to get from one place to another place, and that's because I don't have a vehicle. I just feel so tired all the time and don't want to do anything.

I also don't sleep good. I toss and turn all the time, I have to go to the bathroom at least twice a night, I know I have sleep apnea(which I am going to be going for a sleep study next month).

I sometimes just wish I could crawl in a hole and never come out. I wish I was turned off by food instead of drawn to it like a magnet. I hate the way I look and how I have let myself go. I just feel like a big failure. I put on a happy face when around people(anyone even family and friends), but inside I feel horrible.

I am involved with a weight loss group called TOPS(Taking Off Pounds Sensibly) but even with them I put on the happy face.

How on earth do you get over this problem with Compulsive Eating and binging.

[boiaby]

Quite alarming, isn't it? For those of us who suffer from compulsive, obsessive, and/or secretive eating, this whole food relationship thing is so much bigger than just fueling our bodies. And, unfortunately, I don't think we ever really get over it; rather learn to manage it instead. Beyond that, your guess is as good as mine.

Beverly

[ellis]

Jen, I am with you on so many issues. I'm really glad you're joining us, hon.
I can definitely relate to the "happy face" thing. It's such a front. Maybe if we spent less time trying to please others, and more time trying to please ourselves, we'd actually get somewhere.

Beverly is right... there's no "cure" for this. It's something we'll always have to deal with. However, we CAN get a handle on it. We can fix things, and we can learn things along the way. We're going to do it, girls!

[Leenie]

Originally Posted by ellis

Maybe if we spent less time trying to please others, and more time trying to please ourselves, we'd actually get somewhere.

BINGO !!! you said it Ellis.

I don't think there is a cure either, but there has got to be ways to control it. My guess would be therapy, and support from others.

Welcome Jen

[penpal]

Hi Leenie,

I just wanted to let you know that your signature message is very inspirational for that!

I have another one to add to the "are you a compulsive eater" list:

Do you think about what you'll eat at the next meal while you're still eating the current one? That's me!

I fell of the wagon big time the other day - not so much in calories, but in "white carbs". For the first time in months I had one of my "devour everything in sight" episodes. This wasn't emotional eating, as I was on a pretty even keel at the time, so I'm 100% sure it was the TYPE of food I had eaten earlier that triggered the munchies later in the day. I also got an IBS attack, which I hadn't had for a while , so it's somehow connected.

I've been keeping an online food diary and that's helpful to go back and see what I've eaten that might trigger out-of-control eating.