Support Groups - Gettin' together -- September 2005

09-02-2005, 01:19 PM
Thought I'd start a new thread... Welcome FALL!!!

Aimee, I meant to mention yesterday that I my boss shared an office space with another lawyer. When they moved out, they wanted to get rid of the big copy machine we had. I arranged with a friend of my boss's to donate it to his wife's church (everyone said ok to this). At the last minute the other lawyer said he wanted the copier to keep in his garage. :o I could feel the bad karma swirling around me. Screw the treadmill. Maybe there's some reason in the universe you weren't meant to have it yet.

I totally agree with you about turning the news off, Kimberley. It's good to know what's going on, but it can be overwhelming in too high a dosage. I could use a nap myself this afternoon.

Jill, three jobs?? You always did have amazing energy. You have to pay for lbs gained at Tops? Wow, that would be dangerous for me, heh heh.

Good for you re: all the clothes, Sara. I have to dig through my drawers and get rid of a few older, TOO BIG YEAH things. I bought myself a bathing suit this summer which was a huge step for me. I'd like to start swimming at the Y.

Hey, I caught a foul ball at the game yesterday! How cool is that. And we won. Life is good.... :dizzy:

09-03-2005, 03:49 AM
Hey, hey...Long day here and I'm just catching up. Read everyones' posts, but am heading to bed. Poooped tonight.

09-03-2005, 11:41 AM
It's Saturday morning here in Brooklyn. Seventy-one degrees, sunny. The cat is asleep in the bedroom and I just popped on the computer to say hi before I hit the shower.

My wish for everyone for this day, is for you to take time to take care of yourselves mentally, spiritually and physically. It's not selfish to do that, it's the opposite of selfish, because you can only give to others if you're full yourself. Ok, I know that sounds Dr. Phil-ish, but I do believe it.

And one extra thought, you're much more powerful to make change in your own life and in the lives of others than you think. I saw a news story yesterday where a 12-year-old boy said just about those words and I thought he sounded very wise for his age.

Take care.

09-03-2005, 02:06 PM
Quick note from me.. I'm heading to Seattle until Monday... or Sunday, we haven't made up our minds just yet... I'll try and pop on.. if not? Have a GREAT weekend!!


09-04-2005, 02:53 PM
How long will you be gone again, Aimee?

Not much to report here...just been hanging out with Howie this week and enjoying the downtime. This coming Saturday is our Biggest Loser 2 party and I've got to get crackin' on the House Party website stuff. See the Biggest Loser 2 House Party ( link in the 100lb Club forum for more info.

09-04-2005, 03:50 PM
Here I am!!! I haven't been posting here, because I haven't much internet time anymore with all my exercise, my new work patterns, and trying to retain some semblance of a home life with the dh. I keep trying to convince him that if he exercised with me he would see more of me, but I haven't quite convinced him yet!!!

I took your advice today Marge (pretty good seeing as I hadn't read your post!!!!) and had a "me day". I went to the gym, and met up with a lady I see there, who asked me if I would like to go out with her some time, as she hasn't any female friends!!! I don't have many either, so I was really happy, she's a lovely lady, a stick insect, but we won't hold that against her!!!

I have stayed on plan with my eating this weekend, yay me!!! I went tot he shops and bought lots of fruit, so I have no excuses. I bought some pears that are so sweet, and they kinda taste like roses.

I have finally gotten into the swing of my new job. I am working in a specialist back pain unit of the largest health insurer in the UK. The team is made up of nurses and advisors (I'm an advisor) and I am learning so much. It's a lot more relaxed than my previous job, and more money!!! Gotta love that!!!!

Hope everyone has had a happy Sunday!!!!

09-04-2005, 04:29 PM
Kykaree, great to see you! :D Your new job sounds great, and sounds like the kind of place Howie'd love to be dealing with. It's so great to see you posting!

09-05-2005, 03:22 AM
Hey from Seattle!! We are having a fun weekend away... the first day we went to the lego store where I bought pink lego to build a picture frame... it shall be interesting! Today we hit up Bumbershoot, which is an arts festival thing, we ate too much, drank too little water, and got very wet when it started to down pour. It was lucky that I'm from around here... I brought an umbrella!

I am completely shocked, suprised, relieved I suppose... the gas prices? Cheap! We are paying nearly 5 dollars a gallon in Canada, so my mom is definitely going to fill her car all up!! That margin between Canadian and American gas prices are getting closer and closer, which is bad for you gals... but it's nice to see some equality on my part!

Tomorrow we are going to Bellevue Mall which is a higher class mall in this area, and we'll do some shopping (main event is Sephora, and Lululemon), and late in the day we'll head back to Vancouver. Hope you are all having a great weekend!!


09-05-2005, 03:02 PM
Hey, when it started to rain, you should have tipped your heads back and had a good drink! ;) Glad you're having a good time, Aimee.

09-05-2005, 03:25 PM
Hey, Kaylee!! Glad to read your great update!

Good for you re: the job situation. Great news. I've been doing lots of thinking along those lines but not much action! :lol: I don't have enough girl friends, so I should follow you're lead with that.

It does seem like the exercise takes up a lot of my time too. I enjoy it, and I'm seeing the results. Happy with that. Great to hear from you.

Aimee, I have some friends from France living here now, and the gas prices there are so through the roof that $3 to $4 a gallon sounds like a blast from the far flung past for them! Enjoy all the shopping! It's been so long since I've been to a mall! Hey, I want to shop too. (Marge looks in her wallet and thinks maybe a quiet day with the cat and bf might be the better choice :lol: )

Kimberley, that's great! I saw the tail end of that show last season. You should have a really fun time doing that.

We went to the park today and spent a few hours enjoying the nice weather on this federal holiday. We've been renting the HBO DVDs of Six Feet Under, love that show.

Take it easy, gals!

09-06-2005, 08:11 AM
Wow, I had to catch up on reading here this morning--I normally just find my common threads by checking my "subscribed threads" under User CP, but since I hadn't posted on this new September one yet, it wasn't showing up! But I am here now, and great to see everyone posting over the weekend (unlike me)!

As for my weekend, it was fine until yesterday when I had a minor mental breakdown. I got so mad at myself for my horrible eating habits all weekend long (since Thursday night, really) that I just flopped on my bed and cried. Jeff had no clue what was going on, and I was crying too much to try to explain it to him. He was a good boy, though--just hugged me while I cried and tried to get me to tell him what was wrong. I eventually (after I had stopped crying) told him I was angry with myself for letting myself eat out so many times over the weekend. Of course, that doesn't really register with him as reason to cry, so I'm sure he still thinks I'm on drugs. His response was, "Well, if you didn't want to eat out, you should have said something and we could have stayed here." No, not understanding. Having been well under 200 pounds his whole life, I wouldn't really expect him to understand what it's like for a woman who has been over 300 pounds.

So here I am today, 6 pounds higher than on Thursday morning. How insane. I know some of it is water form the extra sodium of eating out, blah blah blah, but still, it's pretty ridiculous. To make up for it (at least a little bit), I have drastically cut my calories back for today and have planned less than 15 carbs for the whole day. I will be at the gym between jobs, and I am already sucking down the water. I know I won't lose those 6 pounds all by Thursday night's weigh-in, but I can at least make the effort to rid myself of the damage as quickly as possible. This was SO far beyond my typical off-plan weekend (and it wasn't even supposed to be an off-plan weekend at all!). I think I caught a major case of the "I'm so sick of restricting myself so now I'm just going to eat whatever I want and say screw the diet because it's too much work" bug (yes, that is proper medical terminology ;) ).

Oh, and about the jobs--once I see how much I can make with the editing from home position, I'll hopefully be able to quit Ruby Tuesday, so I won't be working the 3 jobs for very long--just until I get a feel for the new editing thing. Then I'll be back down to 2 :)

Well, sorry to have made this kinda long. I was in a bad place over the weekend, but I am back now. Happens to the best of us, right? Started off on the right foot, though, with my egg white and slasa omelette this morning and packed meals for the rest of the day. Hope everyone else is in a cheerier place--catch ya'll later!

09-06-2005, 11:30 AM
Oh, Jill, I can tell you one thing, I could SO relate to your post. I had the same problem this weekend because we went out so many times. When we go out my brain goes into TREAT mode. Afterwards I say to myself, what were you thinking?? :?:

I try to look at it this way, I'm turning around a lifetime of thinking patterns and habits. It doesn't happen in a day. Even after I've lost all the weight I want to, there are going to be times when I overindulge and have to compensate. I actually just go back on my regular pattern and don't try to make up for it because I figure I'm trying to get the good pattern and habits in my brain, not get myself into thinking I'm even more deprived, and don't want to feel like I'm beating myself up for a slip. I know everyone has different past experiences and copes with it differently.

It does make me feel down when I go so off program, like I'm letting myself down after a lot of hard work. At the same time, I really have come a LONG way in a couple of years. So you can pat yourself on your back for all you've done, Jill. Believe me, I know what it feels like to be over 300 lbs. Take it easy, Chickie.

09-06-2005, 12:47 PM
I'm BACK! I don't have time to post, as I'm running off to work, but wanted to let yah'll know I made it home!


(BTW Jill, Marge, it must be a theme, I ate nearly everything in sight, and some things NOT in sight... not good, not looking forward to weighing)

09-06-2005, 02:39 PM
It was a minute, but detrimental, shift in the Earth's rotation that did us all in! That has to be it!! I had a munchy weekend, too. I didn't go all out, didn't stuff myself, but I was over my calories three days.

I agree with Marge about not trying to make up for bad days. That's not how life works, you know? If we make mistakes, we have to just go on. If the weight loss is stymied for a week or two, that's just the repercussion. Like she said, it'd be too easy to feel deprived and like you're beating yourself up for a slip.

All we can do is take the bitter medicine -- realizing it really is medicine, that reality check -- and go on doing the right things. It'll come off, and it will do so without messing with our minds, you know?

((((big hugs!!!))))

09-06-2005, 02:55 PM
Well, yes and no. I like to think of calories as being similar to money. I "spend" my allowed calories each day on whatever foods I choose. Just as I would pinch pennies for a few days after a major unexpected expense, I will cut back on calories for a few days to make up for the horrific weekend of eating. Just like money, I have to learn to budget and manage my calories to get the most bang for my buck. Moving on as if the bad weekend hadn't happened at all makes me feel like I'm not making an effort to correct it, and I need to feel that effort; I need to conserve to help make up for the wild spending spree ;) That money (calories) will never reappear for me to use again, so I need to make sure to balance things out as best I can. Maybe I am wrong, but that is how I feel about it :^:

09-07-2005, 11:18 AM
My poor cat is under the weather. We have to take her to the vet this morning, it will be the third visit. :(

I'd much rather I was sick than my little Chloe.

09-07-2005, 12:49 PM
Sorry to hear about your cat Marge, hope she feels better soon!

So I braved my scale this morning, and it turns out, I'm DOWN half a pound, probably because my saving grace is that if I don't eat a min amount of veggies a day I get stomach grumbling, and can't sleep at night. I often wonder if calories work in the sense that you can save them up, etc... it's not been true for me, very unfortunately I have to be extremely consistant with how much I'm ingesting a day. But I know others who did WW and saved nearly all their points for a splurge day, it seemed to work for them. Ah to have a young metabolism!

Well I am late AGAIN, my time is NOT well spent these days... talk to yah'll soon!


09-07-2005, 11:00 PM
Hope your kitty's okay, Marge. We went through a tough time with our Elliott getting really sick a couple months ago, and we had to put him down. I still miss the Lellybutt. It's so hard when they get sick, even when they do get better it's hard when they're ill!

Aimee, congrats on the loss, you! Jill, I see your point about the calories and penny pinching.

Guess what....NBC wants their local affiliate and the local paper to do a story on us and our Biggest Loser party Saturday! We're not sure if it will be a phone interview or if they'll actually come to the house. :faint: I have SO much to do, I'm freakin' out doubly so now. It'll be cool, though! See the Biggest Loser House Party in the 100lb club - I'll just update in that one thread.

Glad we're getting our hair styled Friday, and I hope and pray my highlights turn out great (bartering ROCKS).

09-07-2005, 11:08 PM
Kimberley - thats cool about the NBC thing! I wonder if I'll get to see you on tv!!

So, I had a meeting today with my Manager and Regional manager, it did NOT go the way I thought! I walked away with a promotion (Assistant Manager), a raise (1.20/hr, considering the company-wide wage freeze!) and the satisfaction that my manager is being transfered!! I wouldn't have taken the position if she was going to stay, while this is NOT my future, I definitely want that raise until I actually decide what I'm going to do. I am still considering the whole Nutritionist thing, I just need to get on the program and find that stuff out.. Also today at work another company was trying to recruit me, they pay FAR less though, but its nice to be wanted!

Anyways, I gotta go find some food! Talk to you all later!!


09-08-2005, 02:34 PM
Thanks for the well wishes for poor Chloe. We'll find out the results of the blood tests today. She's hiding under the bed now because she doesn't want to go to the vet again. :( Poor Elliott, it's so hard to lose a cat.

That's very cool re: NBC, Kimberley. Keep us posted on that. :)

Man, Aimee, you're rockin' up there in Canada! Congrats all around. :)

You know, I can't stop watching that reality show So You Think You Can Dance. I love watching the contestants dance, but the judges are so freakin' mean.

Some days I feel like I wish I could go live in a commune in Iceland or something.

09-08-2005, 02:50 PM
Keeping my fingers crossed for your Chloe. I remember that wait so well.

Guess what, guys! Johns Hopkins accepted Howie!! We fly to Maryland next week for a consultation with the neurosurgeon. His appointment's a week from today, Thursday, September 15th at 11:00am. The ball is rolling again, and we're so relieved!

09-08-2005, 05:34 PM
Wow, great news for Howie! I know that place has a fantastic reputation. Good luck to him. It's always a huge relief to know you're in good hands for any operation.

Good news on the cat front, she doesn't have leukemia or AIDS. The vet thinks it's a new bacterial strain that she's having trouble shaking. I can't tell you how relieved we are. You know, you always prepare for the worst, but hope for the best.

09-08-2005, 11:23 PM
Marge - cats can get Leukemia or AIDS? Where have *I* been?!?! I hope the best for her, I'll keep all my fingers and toes crossed for her! :) I really AM rocking, I got onthe scale today, and.. I am DOWN! I know I got on it yesterday, but I'm addicted! In the last week I've gone down 1.5 pounds! I don't have the heart to change my ticker, because I'm still up from that..

Kimberley - Thats GREAT news for you and Howie (we all know women worry more than men ;) ), yay!

Well I am off to eat crackers and tuna, yummy!! :) Have a good one!


09-09-2005, 04:00 AM
The surgeon's secretary at Johns Hopkins was so funny...She and Howie were kidding on the phone about how wives ask so many more questions than husbands. When he was getting off the phone, he said "she said to tell you I did a really good job!". LOL!!

09-09-2005, 07:32 AM
Woohoo for Howie and Chloe!! Glad to hear that Chloe will likely be able to shake whatever it is that is ailing her--will keep my fingers crossed for her till it's gone for good, though. And Howie and Kimberley will be in my neck of the woods! Johns Hopkins is an amazing institution. How wonderful that he got accepted!! I'll actually be in Glen Burnie, MD (just a 20-minute train ride to Baltimore) the weekend after Howie's appointment (the 16th-18th), so I'll be nice and close to send the good vibes :D

And yay for you, Aimee, on the loss (even if it's up from your ticker, you're at least headed back in the right direction!).

I weighed in at TOPS last night with a 1/4-pound gain. Not bad considering I was up 6 pounds on Monday morning after this past weekend's food orgy :dizzy: My TOPS book still says 279.25, so I'm still below 280 :)

While I might pop in to check up on y'all over the weekend, you probably won't be hearing from me for a while. I fly out of BWI on sunday evening to go to Raleigh, NC for an EPA conference for work, and I won't be home till late Wednesday night, so I probably won't post again until Thursday morning. The conference will probably be pretty dull, but hey, if I can get paid to be out of the office, I will do it! Plus I get to see my boss who just quit at the beginning of August to go to grad school in NC--we're meeting up for dinner while we're down there (the Graphics Manager, who used to share an office with my boss, is going, too), so that should be a great time! I will have to be very careful with what I eat--just because the company is paying for my food does NOT mean I can eat whatever I want!

09-09-2005, 11:49 AM
Thanks, Jill! She's still going under the bed, doesn't like those vet visits! Can't blame her much, not very nice where they take her temperature. :o

Enjoy the conference. It might not be as boring as you think. Sometimes the hotels they put you up in have cool gyms too.

Aimie, yeah, cats are such delicate creatures really. Feline leukemia is a big problem for cats. As far as I know, there's no cure and it can cut a cat's like by 1/2 to 2/3. The insidious thing about it is that a cat can test positive, then negative but still have it. It can be spread from cat to cat. It was my biggest fear that Chloe might have that. The vet told us cats are virus sponges. He thinks she has a relatively new strain of a bacterial infection. We're giving her antibiotics for it.

Congrats on the losses gals! :) !! We'll persevere! Well, I promised to make lunch today, so gotta go.

Take care and have a good one.

09-10-2005, 12:20 AM
Jill - Hope you have fun!! It's nice to get away, no matter where :) I think you are close enough to count it as 279! Thats amazing how precise that scale is.. crazyness!

Marge - I have always had indoor cats, we've always lived near a busy road, or in pure wilderness where most cats died from cougar/wild dog attacks. My mom has made a "cat run" in the yard for her cat, it's really cute, she has it set up so the cat goes out a window.

Phew, I am exhausted! I worked 9-2pm, and then my bf and his neice met me at the mall and we took her shopping, our deal of the day was 1 pair of jeans, 1 pair of sweats, a tank top and a long sleeved shirt for 34 bucks! It was almost impressive! Then we took her to Clair's, big mistake, 25 dollars!! On a purse, necklace, two sale bracelets, however we got some free gifts. I can't believe how expensive kids things are!! I was supposed to get a yoga mat, but I only got the video thus far. My brother and I are supposed to be doing Yoga everyday for at least 30 minutes... we shall see if he follows thru!

Alrighty gals! Have a great one! I have tomorrow off, I am SO looking forward to it :)


P.S. I updated my ticker, it was only off 1 pound.. so I figured it couldn't *really* hurt!!

09-10-2005, 04:56 PM
Gorgeous day in Brooklyn. Rob and I went to the Botanic Garden today; we haven't been in a while so it was a nice break. There's a farmer's market near the park so we walked through that and bought some blackberries, corn and yellow tomatoes.

The cat run sounds cool, Aimee. If you think you're having sticker shock with prices now, give it a few years. I'm only in my early 40s and when I see how much stuff costs now sometimes I feel like I'm going to go into cardiac arrest. I can remember getting embarrassed when my dad made a fuss about prices. Ha.

09-10-2005, 10:45 PM
Marge - the older I get the more shocked I am about prices, perhaps I'm getting cheap in my old age... I remember paying over 100 bucks for jeans when I was a teenager. Now I just don't want to do it, partly I suspect it's because I want to be thinner and look better in clothes, whats the point in paying the high prices for clothes I don't even want to wear? On the plus side (no pun intended), I've been doing VERY good with my diet. This whole summer has been about others, it feels like I'm having time to take care of myself now. Josh's health is great, I need to encourage him to eat more veggies and fruit, but it's easy enough. My friends all seem to have either taken a step back, or managed not to need me every second of every single day.. in these past few weeks I've felt pulled in every direction with no time to sleep. Today I did some laundry, cleaned my house, painted my toe nails.. it was wonderful :) Sounds like you had a fun day as well. Whats for dinner? We are having pork chops, mashed potatos with roasted garlic, and stuffing. Mmmmm, my mouth is watering! I'm off to hurry this process up!


09-11-2005, 05:52 PM
Mmmm. We're actually having the same thing tonight that we had last night, roasted chicken, sweet corn from the farmers market, salad, and we're splitting a baked potato.

I pooped out a little with the diet this summer. The bright side being I've been doing well with the exercise and have been slowly upping my routine at the gym.

Today was another beautiful day. Acutally kind of chilly in the morning. Lounged for most of the day, took a nap, read, watched a little tv. Nice and relaxing. Sounds like the both of us are catching up on some us time, Aimee :)

Gotta get fortified for Monday!

09-11-2005, 11:26 PM
Luckily I have Monday off, sometimes it just feels wrong to work on a Monday to me. So I enjoy having them off, even if it means I work every Sunday. Sounds like you and I had a simular experience this summer... not enough me time. Time to recop before Christmas sneaks up on us... My family is already starting to make plans, can you believe it? Josh refuses to travel around Christmas, which means we either have to spend it apart, or I have to spend it with his family. *have* His family is totally messed up, they make it out to seem like Christmas is some big thing, meanwhile they BARELY get eachother anything, gift certificates, etc, and they do NOT wrap things!! It's in a bag, with a name tag... sad huh?

Alright, I gotta run.. my mom is on the phone!


09-12-2005, 01:53 PM
I used to travel every Christmas to see family. It can be quite a zoo at JFK, it's such a huge airport.

I have to say it feels excruciatingly early to me to make any Christmas plans. On the other hand, I hate having to do all that holiday stuff at the last minute. Wasn't there a time when Christmas was fun instead of stressful??? Neither of our families fit that Rockwell holiday sensibility. It's probably more like what the opposite of that would be. You have to deal with what you have to deal with.

This year I resolve to not go so crazy with the Thanksgiving food. I love to cook and bake, but I need to find a good balance. Tough holiday for me! I think the more I plan ahead the better off I'll be.

Have a good one.

09-12-2005, 02:52 PM
Thanksgiving is never really huge for me, for the most part I just skip it. Usually because I'm working, but it works to not have to spend Thanksgiving with Josh's family. Thats so mean, isn't it? But his Aunt is slightly crazy, and his Cousin forgot us at his wedding, so we literally had no where to sit... this is the cousin he grew up with! I don't know, I really value thoughtfulness, and it drives me crazy when I am around people who aren't like that!!

I do love Christmas, my family is all about buying thoughtful presents, and we all spoil eachother. It's not *always* about presents, however, I do love them! hehe ;)

Whats in store for you today? I've taken the garbage out, and made a strawberry banana, pineapple smoothie with ground flax seeds for that needed protein and good fats. I try to start my day off right everyday, the BEST breakfast I had was on Thursday... it makes my mouth water thinking about it. I had two cut up nectarines, they were organic and so much more sweet and tasty, and I put them on oatmeal.. no milk, no sugar. It was yummy! Afterwards I'm going to head to the mall and hang out with my friend for a few hours, I know I NEED to go for a walk, so I'll fit that in there somewhere. The sun is shining, gotta get some of that in before the rainy season starts here! Alrighty, I am off, have a great one!


09-13-2005, 01:25 AM
Howdy, howdy...I'm finally having a day o' relaxation here and it feels GOOD. Sunday we were up early (for us) since we promised Howie's mom we'd go to church with her. Her church and another Assembly of God church in town merged and are now meeting together at her church's location. Her congregation was small and they were struggling, plus they had no pastor. The other church has been growing and has outgrown their building, plus lacked the handicap accessibility they wanted. So, this pastor is now leading a combined group. Seems a good move for both churches, pretty exciting.

But, ohhhh, it was early. LOL!

We've got the plane tickets purchased and the hotel room reserved. We'll be there Wednesday evening through around Noon Friday, when we fly back home. There's a 2+ hour layover in Detroit on the way home, so it'll be a long day. If it was non-stop, we'd have made it a later flight so we could maybe do a little sight-seeing.

One of Howie's old co-workers lives in the area with his wife and baby, and they're meeting us at the hotel Thursday night; we're going to Bertha's Mussels for dinner with them. It's fun to think we'll be at a restaurant we saw Rachel Ray visit on FoodTV. ;)

09-13-2005, 11:52 AM
I do love Christmas, my family is all about buying thoughtful presents, and we all spoil eachother. It's not *always* about presents, however, I do love them! hehe ;)

my brother usually gives a check and a book, the same book he buys for the entire family. and hello, I'm 41 years old, I don't need a check. not exactly a thoughtful gift giver!! once he gave us a bottle of liquor (instead of a book) that he'd obviously gotten from someone else and didn't want. What planet is he on? :lol:

One year I'd love to spend Christmas in Bavaria.... :)

I've been eating peaches like crazy this season. Had some blackberries from the local farmer's market yesterday that looked and tasted fantastic. I'm going to miss the summer fruit.

Have a good trip, Kimberley. Your pic is gorgeous, bwt.

09-14-2005, 02:56 PM
Kimberley - have a safe trip! :) Keep us updated on Howie!

Marge - I miss summer fruit already :( Prices have gone up on them like crazy, stupid fall/winter! Your brother sounds funny, and like he needs a sister like me! I am always calling my brother at christmas bothering him to find out what he's getting for everyone. Giving him ideas too! How much is that cheque? ;)

I'm not meaning to brag or anything, BUTTTT!! I slept for 10 hours last night!!!! Can you BELIEVE IT?!?! My stomach has been bothering me again and I've been doing that barely sleeping thing.. but last night Josh told me to take Pepto Bismol, and it WORKED!! Which unfortunately means theres a PH imbalance in my tummy, but also means that there is JUST a ph imbalance in my tummy. I'll look at the 2 week plan my mom did, see what stuff I need and start that on my neck paycheque. Get all this stuff sorted out!

Well I gotta run to work, have a great day!!


09-15-2005, 07:00 AM
Good morning :)

Kimberley--good vibes being sent your way from Northern Virginia today (I flew home from NC into BWI yeterday--I wonder if we were at the airport at the same time? :o )

Aimee--glad to hear your stomach isn't going to fall out and that it's just a ph imbalance ;)

Marge--lol I think we all know someone very much like your brother with gifts :p

I am so tired. The conference was booooooring--lots of information I will never use (since it all pertained to web stuff, and I have absolutely nothing to do with web page creation or maintenance). I did have fun each night after the conference, tough, because we went out with my old boss who lives down there now, and we had such a great time--you know, those dinners that last at least 3 hours because we can't stop talking :dizzy:

Well, plenty of work to keep me busy since I was out of the office for 3 days. Plenty of work to do to lose the weight from all the fre food they gave us, too (though I know, as per usual, it's mostly water and much of it will be gone in just a few days). I'm not going to go to my TOPS meting tonight for 2 reasns: #1, it won't be a true representation of my weight as compared to last week due to the junk from the conference, and it will only serve to depress me, and #2, I am plenty busy enough without going to my meeting! I know, I know, I'm a baaaaad TOPS member :devil:

09-15-2005, 07:55 AM
Duh, I didn't even tell you guys the best part--while I was down there, I got a call on my cell phone while I was at the hotel...I got that part-time editing-from-home job :D I am going to Ruby's this afternoon to give them my notice. I can't WAIT till I can stop carrying food and drinks to picky people all the time :dizzy:

09-15-2005, 11:21 AM
I can't believe I started this September thread saying it's FALL -- forget it! It's hot and steamy here. I hate it. Rob's on jury duty today, so I'm afraid that will put him in a bad mood while it lasts, with maybe a couple of days of lingering effects... :o My last experience wasn't too bad, I got on a jury with people I liked and they kept letting us out after half a day. And the courthouse is in Brooklyn Heights, which is an interesting neighborhood.

Yeah, with my family it's always a good idea to keep your sense of humor -- add distance and your favorite mood lifter, and Houston, we've got a go! :lol:

Amy, glad you got the sleep and the stomach problem is getting solved. I don't think the summer fruit is going to stay cheap much longer. The farmer's market is starting to switch over to apples. Not that we buy all that much stuff from the farmer's market, ha. The store is about 1/3 the price. The FM is a treat.

Welcome back, Jill. Congrats on the editing job :) I like working at home. I've never worked in a restaurant, but I've seen how cranky customers can be, and I'm sure I haven't seen the worst that's out there.

I do think you'll drop in numbers fast once your back on program. I'm always amazed how much my numbers can go up an down after a treat day or vacation. I've dropped 3 lbs in ONE day before. Now, how is that possible?? my head was still connected.

Gotta get to work. Take it easy gals.

09-15-2005, 02:19 PM
Jill - WB! And congrats on quitting Ruby's, it's going to be very exciting! I wouldn't go to TOPS either, so you are justified!! Josh was telling me about how the Cosmetics Manager in his store was sent to a "spa week" to go to trade shows, and do various other things to aid their company... it was in France!! Can you imagine? I think it would be fun to go ANYWHERE on business, just to get away for a little while. I was really born to travel..

Marge - the Farmer's Market's are SO SO much cheaper here, thats where we go to get cheap produce, and it helps that it always tastes better too. Josh and I were looking into getting local organic produce delivered to our house for 30 bucks a week, its a great idea, I just worry we wouldn't use it all. It's so foreign to me to not get along with family... well not entirely true.. but with my brother, mom, and grandma, I love spending time with them, call them, talk to them about everything and anything. Infact, since I've been feeling ill lately my brother is getting super protective and was asking me to come out to Seattle for a couple weeks to heal my body, he's so cute my brother! Wouldn't it be nice if I could just take that much time off.... ahhh dream world!

I have today off, and to be honest, I don't want to accomplish ANYTHING, but I don't think I can get away with that. I need to make a list of things that get done, and pick the most important and easy! hehe... have a great day gals!!


09-15-2005, 04:54 PM
Alright, I've decided two things, 1, there is NO NO NO need to get on a scale when you have your period... just not a good thing! So that weight it said today? Does NOT exist! And 2, I'm not getting out of my pj's, or really get out of bed today. Lazy perhaps, but I have my period, I feel icky, and it's COLD, my bed loves me, and I love it! heheh... okay, I'm going to go dive into bed!


09-15-2005, 05:26 PM
I've had those days, too. If we didn't have dinner plans with friends here in Baltimore, and if our hotel room didn't stink like mildew, I'd feel like staying in bed all the rest of the day.

His back has two pronounced curves, one lordosis (side-to-side, when viewed from the back) and the other Kyphosis (front-to-back, when viewed from the side). The surgeon said Howie's not in an immediate need for surgery, but eventually he's probably going to be to a point where he'll need it since the curves will get progressively worse. It's putting a lot of strain on his upper back as it compensates for the lack of correct curve down below.

The surgery suggested by the Ohio doc -- removing more bone and doing the L4-L5 laminectomy (fusion) -- the would only make the curve worse in the long run and cause more problems. Dr. Kebaish said the only thing that will really help surgically is to reconstruct his spine and put it all back into alignment, then fuse everything. It's a pretty involved surgery with a lot of hardware, a 6 or 7 hour surgery. Howie would be looking at about 6 weeks off work.

While he's not looking forward to having a surgery, he's tired of being the way he is and he doesn't want to get progressively worse. He'd be able to stand up straight again after this, too. The doctor's scheduling surgeries about 2 months out now, so it would be after the first of the year that he has it done.

Dr. Kebaish said he does 2-3 of this surgery every week (he specializes in scoliosis). He said about 75% are very satisfied and would do it again. About 15% have some problems like infection, and about 10% say they are no better off. Sounds like pretty good odds to us. Just the way the whole thing came out of the blue with our friend offering to help us get here is wild enough.

09-16-2005, 12:48 PM
Hi, everyone. We're at the airport in Baltimore, awaiting our flight. I got news from my aunt Carolyn last night via a message on our answering machine that my (biological) father was admitted to the hospital by his nursing home in an unresponsive state. He has some sort of bleed in his brain, and they're not sure what caused it. Both the nursing home's doctor and his sister agreed he would not want surgery. He's not expected to live. I called the hospital and spoke to a doctor in the ER who'd seen him; she's the one who gave me the details.

I feel ambivalent. My father and I have been estranged for several years. He is mentally ill (violent, manic depressive), an abusive alcoholic who is manipulative to the extreme. His sister's husband had to have a restraining order placed on him and broke contact with him because of his behavior. It's just been a sad situation all around. So...I doubt I'll go out to Illinois for the funeral. I don't really know his family at all, and don't have a connection to him after all these years. What an odd, yucky situation.

09-16-2005, 01:45 PM
Kimberley, welcome back :). Man, you have a lot going on all at once. I know dealing with surgery must be incredibly stressful (and when it's somebody you love, even harder than dealing with it for yourself). Taking that step to resolve the problem must be a relief for the two of you. I really hope the best for you in getting it resolved in the best way possible as quickly as possible.

Sorry to hear about your dad, too. The only thing I can think to say is that as I get older life makes less and less sense to me. Not that life made sense to me when I was younger, but all that I have experienced, learned and seen has just added to the pile of confusion. :grouphug:

Your brother sounds like a peach, Aimee. :) Maybe you should go spend time with him until you feel better. Maybe that's just me wanting to go to Seattle and be pampered by a loved one!! ;) Yeah, the spa week in France, man, that sounds GREAT! If I had my way, I'd be taking at least 2 big trips a year. I LOVE traveling. I love planning it, learning a language, then getting on that plane and discovering what's out there.

That's cool that your FM produce is so much cheaper. the farmers here drive in from Long Island and Upstate New York, and New Jersey, so I guess that's why they hike up the costs of what they sell (and people will pay it). Maybe because it's such a big metropolitan area the regular stores can buy in bulk and sell their produce for less. I'm not sure.

My weight can fluctuate so much on that dang scale! Especially during this mini heat/humidity patch we're going through. Funny, I went to the gym on 9th street this morning and decided to take 5th Avenue home instead of 6th (my usual route). Rob saw it started raining and he knew I didn't have an umbrella so he walked to the gym along 6th Avenue. I got home, noticed an umbrella was gone, and knew right away where he was. I walked back to the gym, and yep, I was right, he was standing next to the door waiting for me. :lol: We walked back home, and when we got to our street there was a huge rainbow. (and a neighbor stopped us and gave us a huge tomato from his garden). So, turned out to be a good mix up!! :lol:

Have a good one ladies. Marge in cyber land is thinking of you.

09-17-2005, 11:49 AM
Welcome back Kimberley! Thats too bad about your father, thats some hard things to deal with.

Marge - thats a pretty nice ending to a mix up!

I'm heading off to work, always running late, I had a run in with a spider this morning. Josh came and dealt with it for me... it was nice to not have to do that at 7am! I will be back after work, have a great day! :)


09-17-2005, 07:13 PM
Yeah, I always give Rob bug detail.

Just sweating out Saturday here in Brooklyn. Rented Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy and a couple of other movies. Feeling a little low energy. We were going to do a day trip to a garden along the Hudson called wave hill, but I think I'm going to postpone that until next weekend.

Until tomorrow, chicas muy bonitas.

09-17-2005, 08:51 PM
Hi, Ladies. I've had one lazy day in the recliner, and it's felt so good! I managed to catch a cold on our trip, so I'm snuffling and froggy...So much better to be home when you're sick.

We've been invited to stay at the house of a friend for the seven weeks Howie needs to be in Maryland for his surgery! She and her husband fenced in 1/4 acre of their yard (puppy-proofed, even) for their "granddogs", and they have two bedrooms in a wing of their house they never use. They have a fitness room with a treadmill and they both eat the American Heart Association diet, too. They're only 45 minutes from Johns Hopkins. It couldn't be more perfect. It's yet another "God thing". We feel so secure in the fact that He really is in control.

Now, on the other hand, we have not been in control with our eating, LOL. The days in Maryland and travel to and from, we were off plan. We didn't gorge ourselves, but we definitely were not on plan. It felt good to come home and get into our good routine again. I'm not weighing this week! ;)

09-18-2005, 03:47 PM
Great news! Well, it seems pretty reasonable that you'd fall off the wagon considering! I know that I feel relieved after a trip to get back on my program.

My gym is having a membership social type of thing this Thursday. I'm not sure if I'll go or not. One of those things that sounds good in theory, but in practice.... ;) There's a guy that works there on Sunday mornings that looks and sounds just like Morgan Freeman, I wouldn't be surprised if they were related.

Today we took subway sandwiches and walked around the park. Finally a gorgeous day.

September is the big month here for what they call block parties. Neighbors get permits to block off a given street, then the families come out and share food and drink, sit on lawn chairs and watch their kids play together. For most blocks usually about 4 or 5 families participate, from what I can see. I think there's so many people in transition that it's hard to get a really involved neighborhood effort like that going.

09-18-2005, 05:11 PM
I love the whole block party idea. Last summer, there was a community garage sale on our street and the next one down (each participant having the sale at his own residence), followed by a potluck at one neighbor's house. We couldn't make the potluck, but we had a garage sale that day. No event was held this year.

Our friends in Maryland tell us there's a YMCA in the town we'll be staying in. I e-mailed the YMCA membership director and asked if we can temporarily transfer our full membership to their facility. While Howie won't be able to use it, I can see where having that outlet will help me be a better caregiver to him. If we can't transfer it, we'll at least suspend our local one for those six or seven weeks.

09-19-2005, 07:01 AM
Good (early) Monday morning, ladies!

Kimberley, I'm so glad things are working out for you guys. Of course, it sucks that you have to go through any of this at all, but at least all of the pieces are falling into place to make it all a little easier to deal with. It'll be so much better for your sanity (and your wallet!) to stay with friends after Howie's surgery.

Well, we spent Saturday with Jeff's father's side of his family. We went out to his aunt and uncle's house and arrived around 1pm and just hung out for a few hours talking to his dad (he lives in Florida, so Jeff doesn't get to see him much) and watching tv. Then we went to the hall around 4:30 to make sure everything was set for the party--his aunt and uncle were having a 20th wedding anniversary party, and over 100 guests were expected, so it was pretty much like a family reunion for their side. It was nice to meet so many people from Jeff's family (though I'll probably never see many of them again, as often Jeff even had to be introduced--lots of "oh my goodness, last time I saw you you were 'this tall!'"), but it was fun. We left semi-early (just after 10pm) since pretty much everyone there, with the exception of the few small children, was drunk. Jeff and I don't drink, so we actually had to drive his dad out to the store for creamer at one point since we were the only ones completely sober. Who knows how they all got home that night...

So, needless to say, I didn't do very well with food over the weekend. However, much to my surprise, I hopped on the scale this morning and am only up about 3 pounds, which should be no problem to get rid of over the next few days (especially since I am working at the restaurant tonight and tomorrow night). We ate out at restaurants a lot, but I have been making some better choices (not necessarily perfect, but at least better ;) ). For instance, I have given up french fries, so I always get a baked potato or side salad or something like that instead. I also try to opt for grilled chicken instead of fried, and at Ruby Tuesday on Friday night, I had a bison burger instead of a regular hamburger (much less fat). I also sometimes used to get regular soda when we went out, but now it is strictly diet soda, light lemonade, or water. I figure why add extra calories in something that is so easy to control? If only I'd been so smart all along :p

Well, this coming weekend, I have to start packing! Moving day is now less than a month away. I start packing this weekend, then go to Virginia Beach to go wedding dress shopping with my sister next weekend, then pack the rest the following weekend, and move the weekend after that! And hopefully through all this, I won't have to be working at Ruby's at all, so I can just focus on the new part-time gig, packing, and keeping my sanity :dizzy:

09-19-2005, 01:39 PM
Hey, Jill - good to see you. Glad you got to meet all the various and sundry relatives over the weekend. I went to a family reunion with Howie before we were married, so I can relate to being introduced to all the relatives who hadn't seen my honey since he was a snot-nose kid. LOL

I got the call from the hospital about 1:00am that my father had just passed away. Still, I don't feel much, but that's kind of the norm anymore when it comes to him. I did my grieving over the turbulent time a few years back when he'd re-established contact only to try and manipulate me to take his side on things and use me. When I wised up and cut off contact with him, that's when I did my grieving for what could have been -- his death now just seems to make that final. It's a weird, weird feeling.

09-19-2005, 01:45 PM
That's a great idea about the Y, Kimberley. I know it always perks up my mood after I do a workout. It's a great outlet.

They're always have stoop sales here (our version of garage sales). I think there must be about 100 or so objects that just keep passing from one hand to another. :lol:

Jill, I amaze myself that I actually order salads at restaurants now. Definitely not every time though. (That's the rub!) At least I have in my mind to pick lower fat dishes rather than any ol' thing I may be craving, which is what I would have done in the past.

I really don't like Mondays. Anyway, the day's about half way through so I guess I'll survive!

09-19-2005, 02:13 PM
Salads at restaurants--HA! I just can't get myself to order an entree salad knowing that it's at least 80% lettuce and yet costs about the same as a whole regular dinner. I'll do the side salad instead of fries, but I still want my real food, too :p Especially having worked at a restaurant--I had a manager a few years ago tell us (at a time when we were having trouble with the kitchen getting food out quickly enough) that we could offer free salad bar to any guests who were complaining that their food was taking too long since an average trip to the salad bar is only about 25 cents in actual food costs :o and yet we charge $2.69 just to ADD it to a meal, and $7.49 for the salad bar alone as your entree! How insane :dizzy: Gotta make their money somewhere, though (although I won't even begin to complain about how much they have changed to treat their servers and hostesses even WORSE! Had I not worked there in college also, I suppose I wouldn't know any better, though).

09-20-2005, 09:39 AM
No posts since early yesterday afternoon? Hope everyone is getting more rested and relaxed than I am!

I am at work. I have been at work for about 2 and a half hours already. I have done NOTHING work-related since I have been here. I think in the last 3 work days, I have successfully accomplished about 30 minutes of actual work. I just can't concentrate or focus on anything or more than like 30 seconds at a time--it's horrible! I keep thinking about my new part-time job (if it'll be too hard, if I'll make enough money, if I'll have time to do it all, if I won't get any assignments, if I'll be able to figure out my taxes as an independent contractor...), moving (when I'll pack, what to pack first, when we get the truck, how we'll manage to move everything with just the 2 of us, if we'll have internet hooked up in the new place right away--damn ComCast!--if we'll kill each other in the first week...), quitting Ruby's (missing the people, letting down the manager, giving up the steady flow of cold hard cash, having more free time at home to overeat...), weight loss (why I feel so hungry all the time even though I haven't really changed my eating habits, having to go to the gym, keeping up with things at TOPS...), the list goes on and on. My mind is racing, and I just can't get myself to think about whether or not there's supposed to be a comma in this sentence of a government document! :dizzy:

To top it all off, I have been having really weird dreams lately. Last night was a rough one--I was dreaming I was being raped. I have dreamt of being raped a couple of times in the past few months. I don't like it--it makes me wake up all stressed out and tired as if I hadn't actually slept at all, ya know? And a lot of my dreams (including last night) include being in a grocery store. I looked up "rape" and "grocery store" in a few dream dictionaries online, and rape is a symbol of feeling violated (duh), and a grocery store is a symbol of necessity, so I'm being violated by something that is a necessity :?: I don't know...I just know it's really affecting the amount of good, normal rest I actually get, so even though I went to bed at about 9:30 last night and got up at 4:30 this morning, I feel dead tired! :(

09-20-2005, 11:50 AM
Sorry to hear about your dad, Kimberley. It sounds like a tough thing to deal with, especially with everything else you and Howie have been going through...

I hear you, Jill re: the salads. They always seem to be the most expensive thing on the menu. I kinda figured it was because the salad fixings were more perishable so a restaurant has to buy more to make them fresh. Didn't want to believe it was just a scam... ;) I worked, in college, at the university deli (the Bear's Lair, we were the Berkeley Bears, heh heh). I remember the manager used to use the stale bread to make bread pudding then charged something like $3 or $4 for the pudding. Yikes.

The rape dream feels like an anxiety issue (maybe you feel vulnerable and out of control, and like someone else is trying to take control of you), since you do seem to be feeling really anxious about all the changes going on. That's understandable, just moving or changing a job is anxiety producing. Both together is a lot to deal with.

When I'm feeling out of control I usually dream about water overcoming me. A large wave, a swimming pool, etc.

A technique I learned to deal with lots of different issues at the same time, is to mentally separate them. Don't think about them in a jumble. Like 1) you have your work, your career goals; 2) you have your friends at Rubys (make a mental plan to visit or stop by there, or keep up with the people you like by phone and/or email); 3) your physically moving (all of those details); 4) what it will be like to live with your boyfriend. Makes it much easier and less overwhelming to think about them separately.

Aimee, where art thou?? Miss your posts, girl!

Really kind of quiet here in NY. I got up extra early to go to the gym today, even saw the full moon as I was walking there! Sheesh, I'll probably collapse in about an hour. Luckily, work is slow today. I've got to catch up on filing.

Take it easy, chickies.

09-20-2005, 01:24 PM
Goodmorning! I had a NICE sleep in yesterday morning, and managed to get some cleaning time in, and it's looking pretty decent in here, yay! My friend suprised me and we went for a 45 minute walk yesterday, it was nice to get out and talk with her. And hey, we were working off some calories too!

Kimberley - I'm glad you have a closing on your father, an ending helps. Things are falling right into place for Howie, thats great :) Although surgery is never fun, at least you have things set up in a nice way and don't have to stress and can focus on healing.

Jill - When I'm dealing with multiple things I write everything down, all of my concerns, worries, etc. I find even writing it all down helps, perhaps it's just getting it all out. Hopefully those dreams stop, they sound pretty scary. On the salad issue, when I go out I do get salads a lot of the time, I figure I'm paying for the experience of not cooking and can justify paying 8 bucks for a chef's salad seeing as I don't have to do dishes! Heck I'd pay MORE to not have to do dishes... heh.

Marge - hey lady! I was sitting here typing and noticed we weigh the same! Oh yah, I'm in denial about my scale this week... I seemed to have put on 1.5 pounds from my period! But my official weigh in isn't until Thursday... so keep those skinny fingers crossed for me!! Did you watch Oprah yesterday? I am excited for a new season, reruns of her and Dr Phil are driving me insane!

I've been realllly trying to eat tons of fruits and veggies to calm this stomach thing down, so far? It's working a little bit, last night I managed to sleep thru it, but the night before I had to resort to Pepto again, that stuff just can't be good for the body! I have to make up my mind if I'm going to try The Wild Rose detox, basically you are given a list of foods that are acid forming, alkaline forming and neutral and the idea is that you eat a certain balance of that and it'll balance that stomach. It's pretty hard, just restricting your foods and measuring stuff. So we'll see! I am meeting the new manager today, I'm a little scared, I had to go into work last night to check to see if payroll was emailed off... well the judgmental part of me noticed that the manager uses all caps when emailing and thinks she's not so bright. She must have gotten to her position for SOME reason, right? I'm going to go in with an open mind, push that judgmental part of me away! Shoo!

Oops! I'm supposed to be in the shower 10 minutes ago! I better run! Have a great day!


09-20-2005, 01:52 PM
I know a couple people who e-mail and post on forums in caps because they're visually impaired and it's easier for them to see their typing that way. Looks to everyone else like they're shouting, LOL.

Jill, Marge is right -- you've got so many things going on in your life, it's no wonder your mind's reeling and you're having weird, stressful dreams! Shoot, the grocery store could just be a food-related setting. And the rape, if it's symbolic of violation, maybe could have to do with having your own "space" violated when you move in with someone else after being on your own. It's a big step, you know? Marge's idea of mentally compartmentalizing each subject is helpful, something I surely can use lately, too.

Marge, I've not been to the gym since catching this wonderful cold, but Howie's gone swimming each day since we've been home. My back and hips feel a little better today, so as soon as I'm not coughing my head off, I'm heading back there myself.

09-21-2005, 12:06 PM
I've been playing around with the same couple of lbs, up and down, for the past couple of weeks. Grrr. I'm really, really ready to get out of the 60s.

My boss writes me emails sometimes in all caps. On the one hand, he has this block against technology and kind of falls apart when he has to do simple things on the computer. On the other, he has to have all the latest services and computer gadgets. He ends up crashing his computer and spending hours with phone technicians trying to fix it. And he keeps emailing me scanned documents that he saves as jpegs instead of pdf.

Ah, that hit a nerve with me! :lol:

The place down the street from us makes such good salads, spinach with walnuts and blue cheese; another one with pears and polenta croutons. A lot fancier than I would bother to make at home. Those are nice treats.

Well, gotta go prepare some legal docs. Take it easy, chicas muy bonita

09-21-2005, 02:42 PM
Goodmorning! I got up at 8:30am... it was pretty hard.. I like to sleep in when I can! But my friend showed up and we headed to the track, and we walked around the little lake (took about 15 minutes each time around). And my friend even talked me into running part of it! Phew, it was a great workout.. now if we can keep it up, we'll be running the whole thing in no time! :) It feels good..

So I met the manager yesterday, she was a tiny bit odd! I was alittle shocked when I went in, she's bald.. like willingly bald. I just wasn't expecting that, and as I was talking to her it became clear that she's extremely educated. Still doesn't explain the CAPS! I suspect she's also got a block against technology, she was definitely a hunt-and-peck typer. She's definitely going to help me get to the top if I impress her, so I definitely appreciate that!

I've been watching this "Tyra" show lately... I'm not sure how I feel about it... I'm getting addicted tho! Today's show was really good, I missed most of it.. grr! hehe. I better go to work, talk to ya'll later!


09-21-2005, 08:28 PM
They talked about Tyra's show on VH1's "The Best Week Ever" and from what I saw, it's not my cuppa tea.

Man, been feeling lazy and blue the last few days. I have zero motivation here, and I need to get my butt moving. I've had a cold and felt lousy, but now that I'm feeling better and my back's better, too, I need to exercise and start catching up on some stuff around the house. Not much to report today, just been kinda blah and layin' low. I did take a few photos of the yard this evening, first I've done in a while. Most is drying up and going to seed, preparing for winter.

09-22-2005, 02:49 AM
I could feel winter in the air tonight... it was VERY cold! I'm realllllly not ready for this just yet.. if only I could press pause on summer.

I watched the previews for Tyra, watched her first show where she talked about what it was going to be like, etc. It's totally not like that... today she had some of the past girls on America's Next Top Model, what I was saw pretty cute. Toccara met with another plus size gal, took her shopping, gave her a confidence boost, it was sweet.

Ugh, work was a disaster today. I got in trouble for not doing something I didn't know I was supposed to do, so then I went to do it and she told me I was too slow and needed to hurry up. Which would have been justified IF I was taking my time, but I was busy with customers, and cleaning up after her messes! When she left, she left me a list of tasks enough for two people, so of course I didn't finish it... I wonder how that will go. I dunno... I'm just really tired and need to sleep... nite nite!


09-22-2005, 04:05 AM
Is this the new manager who did this? Maybe she's just testing you. Have a good night's sleep and tomorrow's a new day! :) G'night.

09-22-2005, 01:00 PM
Sounds like managerial PMS to me.

My sister emailed me today and said my dad didn't go to her birthday celebration because he had plans. My mom passed away in 1996, and we think he has a girlfriend now, but he won't say. :o ;) Kinda of weird to think about him being with another family. I'm happy for him.

I bought the Daisy Cooks cookbook, which is Spanish/Puerto Rican food. I've already bought all the ingredients to make sofrito, which is a mix of peppers, onions, tomatoes, cilantro. You use it to put in dishes or top dishes. I love Spanish food so I think this will be a great way to mix up what we eat -- lately that's been chicken, chicken and chicken. :dizzy:

Brother in law is getting sick again. It's a never ending story....

I haven't seen either of the Tyra shows yet, we wanted to finish watching the So You Think You Can Dance, it only has two more episodes left.

Take it easy,

09-22-2005, 02:09 PM
That sofrito sounds good, Marge. Sounds kind of like salsa. Is it a hot or cold food?

09-22-2005, 02:36 PM
Goodmorning, my eyes are pretty fuzzy right now... that just woken up feeling. There is a bad cold going around (Josh has it, manager has it, friend has it), everytime I feel like I'm starting to get it, I sleep for 10-11 hours and it stays away. I just need to focus on not overdoing it. I started feeling overwhelmed last night with the work situation, and I'm not ready for such a low paying job to be SO stressful. I think the only reason it's so stressful to me is because I know my best isn't good enough, and when I'm already giving everything I've got? I can't afford to give more at the expense of my personal life. I'm just babbling here again.. I need to condense these feelings and bring them up with my manager in a week or two, as things calm down. I have to give her credit, the last manager left her a HUGE HUGE mess to clean up.


Kimberley - it's amazing how sleep can help with that overwhelmed feeling! I was a wreck last night, my body was overheated (sickness maybe?), I was crying, angry, headache, stuffy face (definitely sickness). And this morning I'm feeling MUCHO BETTERO! heh. This job isn't my life! Whats going on in your world these days? You were saying you are feeling a little down, it's very possible exercise might even help with that feeling. Sometimes when I just DON'T want to exercise, I'll put on a sports bra under my pj's and jump rope, do some jumping jacks, anything! While I was in Seattle I went to a company that was started in Vancouver, and bought a poster of theirs and I think it's very.. it's just a good way to live life.

The points that stuck with me were about drinking water, and letting sweat flow from your pores once a day. Check it out!

Marge - My mom loves spanish food, and when she was in Mexico she was almost in heaven... except, and this is odd, she completely hates cilantro. I've seen her eat something with it in it, it actually makes me gag. It's crazy to me. How's New York these days? I'm craving shopping!! I'm finding some of the styles out here pretty sleezy or very man-like.. I just want something more girly with ho-ey!! I suspect I'm asking for too much... It's amazing to me, I work in a store where I just don't like their clothes. I keep thinking I should change companies just for that reason.. but I'm lazy ;)

Alrighty, I am supposed to weigh in this morning, I've been putting it off... but now realize if I don't weigh soon, I may die of starvation! Off I go!


09-22-2005, 05:32 PM
That manifesto is so cool -- thank you for that link. Yes, I do need to get some exercise in. Before I go to bed tonight, I'm going to do *something*...Be it at home, taking a walk, or going to the YMCA, I'll do it.

09-23-2005, 12:12 AM
My mother-in-law didn't go swimming at 3pm like she normally does, so she was thinking about going tonight, anyway. We went together and had a great time - had the whole warm pool to ourselves. I swam probably 40 minutes of the hour we were in there, and kept moving even when I wasn't doing laps. Gosh it felt good! Why don't I do this regularly?

Why, indeed?? :^:

I *will* swim at least 3 times a week from now on. Period. Hold me to it, you guys.

Oh! I forgot to tell you, we got the nicest card in the mail from one of the water arthritis instructors. She said several of our classmates had brought the Advocate article in to show anyone who'd missed it, and they were proud of us. They all signed the card, even the lifeguards. What an encouragement that was! :)

09-23-2005, 12:19 PM
That sofrito sounds good, Marge. Sounds kind of like salsa. Is it a hot or cold food?

it is like a salsa, it's a cold mix that you can chop up or make in the food processor. Sometimes Daisy sautes it in achiote oil, which is a vegetable or olive oil that she simmers annatto seeds (achiote) in, makes the oil red and flavors it (goya makes some). Or you can add it to ground pork or ground beef (then stuff peppers with it, or have it like sloppy joe). You can eat it with rice and beans, with pork chops, steak or chicken.

I've never made it before, so I'm excited to try it.

09-23-2005, 01:40 PM
No, the job isn't your life at all. When you spend so much time doing something it is easy to get your ego hooked up with it. But I can tell you from experience that once you leave any job, a few months later, unless you had a REALLY tramatic or good experience there, you won't even think about it.

It took me a little while to get used to the taste of cilantro. Growing up in California, I don't remember the Mexican food having it. In Cal Mex it's a fairly recent addition. It has a strong smell and taste. Now it tastes fresh to me. (btw I emailed Daisy telling her how much I liked her cook book and she emailed me back, she lives not that far from me here in Brooklyn -- let's face it, Brooklyn rocks ;) )

From what I've seen, the fall fashions are looking pretty dang feminine this year. There's something about Gwen Stefani I really like. She has that contradictory sensibility of being down to earth and sophisticated at the same time. (What's up with DK??? not much going on there!) There's my little completely non-professional or even informed 2006 fasion review!!!

Yeah, the Y has helped me lots of times, I can definitely feel the difference mentally after I go there. I'm grateful we have one here. Just remember how good it makes you feel whenever you start to feel like you might not make it there. Today the guy that looks like Morgan Freeman that works at our Y looked at me and said, Your late! I burst out laughing (he was rights, haha). (He was just kidding me.)

Well, I've got to decide if I'm going to stick with last winters coat, which is looking pretty dang big on me now, or take the glue off my wallet and buy a new one. Hmmm...... ;) Will the suspense in my life never end??????

09-23-2005, 08:37 PM
We're going to have to buy winter coats this year. My two were really ratty last year, but I couldn't justify buying one. Now they're both way too big on me and I can truly say I need one.

No YMCA tonight...I went to the farmer's market, but started feeling really puny after walking around for just twenty minutes or so. Last night I was laying on top of the covers with the ceiling fan on me, still hot, while Howie was beneath the sheet and coverlet. I just feel really tired tonight, and sick. Maybe if I get some good sleep, I'll bounce back for the weekend (right, Aimee?).

09-23-2005, 10:44 PM
I went to bed last night with a sore throat, I've been doing that for a few days now... everyone around me has this nasty cold and has had it for a few weeks. Well I woke up this morning with a sore throat, and runny nose... it's progressed into a full blown cold! This getting sick stuff STINKS! I'm going to take something to clear me up and make me drowsy, and I'm going to sleep like no one has ever slept before.. and will wake up 100% healthy! Kimberley, sounds like we might be a simular boat here... but I truely believe enough sleep will cure anything!

Marge - I love how you managed to produce that website like that! I'm a GAP girl, clean lines, simple, classic, and can be sophisticated, not sk@nky! I hate how clothes are just so... revealing, low cut, glittery... etc. I'm really liking the Kenneth Cole stuff, now I just have to find a way to afford that..

You'll all be glad to hear work was completely uneventful today, I sold some clothes, hung out with my fav co-worker.. and stuffed my face with halls, coffee (for warmth), and chatted with customers. These are the days that make retail worth-while! Okay, I'm off to buy some Nyquil and tissue! Talk to you all later!


Kimberley - Swimming, 3 times a week!! Do you have set days? Or can it be any days? And whats your week running from? Monday - Sunday? Let's have a recap every Sunday or Monday.. cuz I'm trying to walk 3-5 times a week. Marge, you want in on this action? You can report your gym adventures!

09-24-2005, 03:52 AM
Glad your day went better, even if you do have a cold.

No, no set days for swimming, although it'll probably be weekdays. I really was all set to go today, but there was just no way. I ended up sleeping the sleep of the dead in my recliner from about 7pm-12:30am! And I'm ready to go to bed now, even after that.

I've been watching the Hurricane Rita thread over at -- our friends down in south Louisiana hammered in the hurricane and their house was groaning in the winds, something they didn't even hear with Katrina. Nothing since that post, and I'm concerned. I hope it's just that they lost power and that they're okay. They are on the "dirty" side of the hurricane, the east side where it whips toward them, back around. :(

09-24-2005, 05:51 PM
I go to the gym Friday, Sunday and Tuesday mornings. I do about 1 1/2 hours. Schedules and habit save me with stuff like that.

Sorry to hear you two aren't feeling well. (Where's Jill??? Jill, where are you???) Rob says going to sleep covered in tons of blankets so you sweat all night is a sure fire cure for a cold. I've done it before and I do think it helps (drink lots of fluids too).

These hurricanes are really terrible. I watch the news stories and just can't believe that area of the states has to go through that again. Oprah yesterday said she's giving $10 million of her own money to help rebuild down there, which is fantastic.

I spent today making my Spanish dishes. Sofrito, achiote oil, yellow rice, roasted red peppers stuffed with picadillo. Was a lot of work. At least it will feed us for a few days. Hope it's good too! We had a gorgeous day here, in the 70s. Everybody is having block parties, stoop sales.

I had a really vivid dream last night that I was visiting China. Don't know if that means anything....

09-25-2005, 03:31 AM
Every time I hear some celebrity talking about how they're giving money, I think about the Bible verse basically says "When you give, do it in secret. Don't let your right hand know what your left is doing". I think it means more when people don't go spouting how much they're donating, be it 10 bucks or 10-million. I know sometimes people publicize their donations as a challenge to rally more people to give, but with people who regularly hog the spotlight and grandstand, it really turns me off.

That said, glad she's using some of her empire to truly help others in need (not just give them new cars). ;)

:soap: Whew, where'd that soapbox come from? I don't get up on them very often! Guess I've been so touched by our anonymous angels and how much they don't want to be identified, and I contrast that with celebs and others who brag on how much they give. It's like they have to justify their luxurious lifestyles by telling everyone how philanthropic they are, you know?

09-25-2005, 12:48 PM
I think there is an expectation that certain Celebrities are going to give, ie, Oprah, Ellen, Dr Phil, so if they don't publicize it.. are people going to wonder if they really have. It's hit or miss I suppose, either people don't like you because you DON'T give to less fortunate, or you DO give because of the same reason's you listed. It's just safer for people to think they are an attention wh*re rather than a cheap, uncaring person, yah know? On that same line... the car giveaway, I saw some follow ups on it. People were giving them to others they felt needed it more, or donated their old car's, etc. Even just the financial aspect of it... if I was given a car I would have $580 extra a month for bills, better place to live.. having more fun. Those are just my two cents on it all...

I don't know how I managed it, but somehow I was able to barely sleep last night. I wish I could say this was on purpose... I just don't get how I could be SO tired and not sleep.... grr! My cold has progressed, now my eyes are watering! Yesterday everytime I blew my nose it felt like something popped in my eye and liquid came out, I was so scared it was blood!

Marge - how was the gym this morning? I was inspired to join a gym, so I called and it's 34.99/month with a two year contract. I'm sorry, I can't commit to two years of paying 34.99!! What if I move, break a leg (knock on wood), etc... yes they would take a dr's note and suspend my memebership until I was better.. but I'm 26 the Dr's notes stopped once I left high school... lol. It just shocks me how expensive it is.

I better go get ready for work.. have a great day you two! :)


09-25-2005, 02:37 PM
We saw an ad for a fitness center that offers month-to-month memberships...Bally Fitness Center, maybe? Howie and I don't know why more gyms don't offer memberships like that. I guess they make more money by getting people to commit, and then not show up very often (guilty).

09-25-2005, 07:28 PM
Yeah, in the best of all possible worlds, I'd say all the charity should be anonymous. At the same time, I do think people get inspired to give and do more when they see others do it, so hopefully in the end the good outweighs the bad.

Rob thought Dr. Phil was exploiting the Katrina situation when he spent two of his first shows down there, but I thought despite that he was putting a huge spotlight on it for people who might not tune into the news, or tune out the news. Lots and lots of Americans watch his show and value his opinion. (Rob feels basically the same way about Oprah that you do, she's constantly showing off who she knows and how much she has.)

I felt comforted to hear Oprah say how much she was giving. I can't imagine what it would be like to lose everything and not even have the hope of insurance or savings. A lot of people who might have been just on the edge when the storm hit too. It's heartbreaking.

Weird times we live in that we have to consider stuff like this, hunh.

Gym felt good this morning. It lifts my spirits to go, especially when the whole weight loss effort start to feel like it's stalling (which happens more often than it should). It can be tough to drag my rear out of bed some mornings, I admit.

I didn't want to sit around the apartment today, so afterwards Rob and I went to the park, had a sandwich on a bench and watched the soccer players. Then walking around more. We were so exhausted by the time we got home. Luckily we had leftovers of that Spanish food from yesterday (I forgot the turn the burner off of the yellow rice, can you believe that? we ended up having crispy rice yesterday, heh heh).

I think it is Balley's that does the month by month membership.

Rented Vanity Fair, so I'd better get off the computer.

09-26-2005, 01:07 AM
The gym's around here don't offer a great month-to-month price, it's like 50+ to do that. So odd, eh?

I took some Nyquil, I'm going to go find my bed and lay there until I pass out.. hopefully I'll be better tomorrow!


09-26-2005, 07:18 AM
Here I am! Bright and early (6:02am) on a Monday morning...:tired:

From what I understand, Bally's is expensive normally (with a contract), so I can't even imagine how much they charge to attend only monthly. I would maybe do that if I were interested in seeing how often I would go in a month before I signed a contract, but it's most likely not a realistic option for the long term. I signed a 2-year contract with my gym, and though I cannot say I ent EVERY month for the full 2 years (I thin kit ends in January or February), I can say that knowing I always had it as an option made me go more often than if I had only been paying month-to month, ya know? At month-to-month, I would have stopped going completely loooong ago :p but knowing that they are taking my money every month whether I want them to or not is just more incentive for me to go (and I only pay $29.99 a month right now).

So I keep hearing on the news and on the radio about how none of the major oil refineries were damaged by Rita and that even if they were, other countries are already sending us shipments to help cover the difference. Okay, so why did my gas go up 20 cents since Friday morning?! :?:

Bah, anonymous or not, at least the money is going to a good cause and not to another swimming pool for their mansion or whatever it is these people find to spend their millions on. I'd like to think that if I were a millionaire, I would still live in a normal-sized house, not these 15,000-square-foot places where you can never tell at any given time how many people are even in your house cuz it would take you a whole day just to walk through every room :dizzy:

As for me, my weekend was pretty good. Jeff came over, and we did pretty much nothing. I was going to start packing, but I couldn't find much that I know I'd be able to live without for the next 3 weeks, so I gave up on that idea. I'm good at doing things last-minute, so I'm not at all worried that all the packing won't get done on time.

I have not been sleeping well at ALL lately. Both Friday and Saturday night, we spent at least 13 hours in bed, but I can say I still woke up tired. I toss and turn all night long, have really weird dreams, and wake up just as tired as when I went to bed. Even last night, I went to bed around 10:30, but before my alarm went off at 4:30 this morning, I had probably already waken up 5 diferent times. I've even been making sure I don't eat anything too close to bed time, and I don't drink anything with caffeine or sugar before I go to bed, either. Maybe once the move is over in a few weeks, things will settle down in my head a bit and sleep will become a normal thing again. I sure hope that's all it is that my subconscious is stressing about.

09-26-2005, 11:57 AM
Mine costs $50/month. I figure at my age to be this weight (or as high as I was) it's a bargain compared to the medical costs I could incur if I develop diabetes and/or other complications from being so heavy.

I don't think it would be out of line for you to ask your mom and/or brother to maybe co-pay temporarily. $10 or $20 a month to each of them could make it affordable to you. Something to think about. I know I'd be more than happy to do that for my daughter to help her out with her health. And if you do it month by month and end up not liking it, it's not a lot of money wasted.

To be honest, if I had millions I'd own a mansion. Not that I wouldn't give to good causes too, but I'd like to enjoy what I have and not just sock it away.
That said, I'd also rather see less money in the hands of fewer people, and have money more equally distributed. I wouldn't need millions to be comfortable. I also don't believe in telling people how to spend their money, or in forcibly redistributing wealth. Wow, am I making any sense??? I need a nap!

Better get some work done while I still have a couple of functioning brain cells left.

Ciao, bellas.

09-26-2005, 03:27 PM
Goodmorning! I slept for almost 12 hours last night! Woohoo!! No more running eyes, my nose is a tiny bit stuffy, but it's something I can definitely handle. I am very excited about this :) I was a little unhappy with my Nyquil experience, I normally buy the red stuff, which literally knocks me out cold for 10 hours. Josh bought the green stuff (which tastes like Sambuca, ick), and I was awake every 2 hours last night! Moral of the story? Green = bad!

Marge - I hadn't though of asking my mom or brother to help out... I almost think that I'm unwilling to pay that much for a gym membership when I have no means to get there by myself. I would have to count on Josh or my friends for a ride there. There isn't a bus, and the walk alone would be enough! It would take about an hour to an hour and a half to get there. It would be nice is there was something a little closer to my house..

Jill - a customer was saying something about a full moon, black moon, something along those lines when I was telling her I wasn't sleeping very good the last few days, she said it would explain that. Whether that is true or not... who knows! It's amazing how much gas fluctuates here.. I went out one morning and it was 109.9/L and when I went out in the afternoon with my friend is was 119.9/L, and even STILL later it was 107.0/L... There is no logical reason for this to happen... I think it's time to hurt people. lol.

I think if I had millions of dollars I wouldn't necessarily live in a huge house, but I'd definitely have 5 or 6 different places. I'd chose 3-4 bedrooms in REALLY great locations, which of course can be expensive. For now I'd settle for thousands! ;)

Alrighty, this has taken me like 2 hours to write... with phone distractions, eating breakfast, laying down... lol... I'll talk to yah'll later!!


09-26-2005, 04:35 PM
I don't get it... I did a whole huge post, it showed that it posted and now it's no where? I feel like I've gone crazy!! Grr!!

I've been busy looking up flights/hotels for Christmas... in Mexico!!! I don't know if it'll work out... but can you IMAGINE? Ohhh warmth...

I totally don't have the energy to try to redo my post.. so I'll try later.. heh..


09-26-2005, 04:37 PM
I don't GET IT! It just showed up... maybe I am going crazy... lol.. I'm going to bed!


09-26-2005, 11:02 PM
Going crazy? You've done caught the plane, baby! LOL!

Christmas somewhere warm sounds nice...And in the meantime, we're trying to convince our Cajun friends to move just a little farther north than their choice of Kentucky and come on up to Ohio.

I did go to the YMCA and swim tonight, but only did so for about 30 minutes total. There was a scuba class going on, and when we got there they were still sitting on the floor of the pool in the deep end. We could see their bubbles. :bubbles: When they got to the point of swimming the pool's perimeter, we decided to leave. Considering I do the backstroke, I didn't want to risk running into someone over in the shallow part of the pool!

:dunno: To tell the truth, I was pretty much wiped out after 20 minutes of doing laps fairly steadily with a few breaks here and there. Must be fighting off something, because my butt gets kicked easily this last three days or so!

09-27-2005, 01:49 AM
Kimberley - but at least you still did it! Any type of body movement is better than none.. coming from the girl who skipped her walks 4 days in a row because of a cold...

I don't know what happened with those posts, I literally couldn't see my post for an hour... I considered re-typing it.. good thing I didn't! lol.

I am in need of some strength, I am working the next 3 days with someone who drives me up the wall, I just want to shove common sense down her throat! And she hovers, I hate people who follow me, ask me what I'm doing every two seconds... grr!!! Hopefully I can find SOMETHING deep within, otherwise I will quit and let her do the work she refuses to do!


09-27-2005, 03:41 AM
Ahhhh, go to your happy place....Laaaaaa. You know, the one where you grab her by her ears and give her a swirley? ;)

09-27-2005, 10:51 AM
Some unbelievably bad news on the homefront here. Robert's brother shot himself. We were up with the police until 3am last night. He'd been having serious problems for the last several years.

I hope he finds peace now. And I hope the family finds peace. It's such a terrible thing.

09-27-2005, 11:20 AM
Wow, I am so sorry to hear about your BIL, Marge. Even if he had been having problems, something like this is never expected and never easy to deal with. Hugs to you and your family :grouphug:
I had a disasterous eating day yesterday. I'm talking half a jar of peanut butter...even though it was reduced-fat, that is like a million calories. All together, I had over 3200 calories yesterday :o So today, cutting waaaay back. Maybe I can pretend I am intentionally calorie-cycling? ;)

OH, and my new food addiction is a good one--instant oatmeal! I know steel-cut oats are healthier, but I only eat one packet at a time, and I find it very satisfying. I either have the fruit-and-cream flavored reduced-sugar oatmeal or the banana bread flavored Weight Control oatmeal--good stuff! Ironic, though, that the Weight Control one has more calories per serving, but it also has more fiber and I think more protein, so I guess it balances out :smug:

09-27-2005, 12:07 PM
Marge - wowsers, sorry to hear about Robert, it's never nice when they have to resort to that. Were they close? This happened in my family as well, but at a younger age and the family has had a hard time recovering. I hope that he is at peace now as well.

Jill - calorie cycling sounds good to me ;) Actually... I once did have quite the little overdoing of the calories one day and it did work out in my favor.. I'll keep my skinny fingers crossed that it happens for you as well!

Alright, I'm feeling calm right now.. so I feel I can deal with this REALLLLLLLLLLLLLLY annoying girl for 7 hours today... eek 7 hours?!?!? With breaks it's really only 5.5 hours, I just have to find other excuses to get away from her... lol. I don't know how to pretend to like someone anymore!! K, shower time!


09-27-2005, 02:48 PM
Marge, I'm so sorry to hear about Robert! Oh, man, that's rough. :( I pray God wraps your families in His peace and buffers you.

I'm one sore puppy today. The one time I tried to swim to the bottom of the pool, I didn't have my goggles on and just kind of floundered around without actually going down in the direction I wanted (still felt air on my feet, LOL). In one goofy move, I managed to strain muscles in my lower back and groin - my problem areas. I'm taking it easy today and when I swim tomorrow, it will be easier swimming.

Snuck on the scale last night and I was at 209 again - woo!

09-28-2005, 07:53 AM
Okay, so I ended up eating a little more yesterday than anticipated. I had my usual instant oatmeal for breakfast, then for lunch I had a wrap of grilled chicken, swiss cheese, lettuce, and honey mustard in a spinach wrap and a cup of tomato-vegetable soup (the sign said cream of tomato, but it wasn't very "creamy", and there were pieces of carrot,onion, and other unidentifiable veggie chunks) and a bottle of Nesquik reduced-fat chocolate milk (another new addiction, but a bad one!). Because I knew I was SO over in calories from lunch, I didn't eat any dinner (I fell asleep when I got home anyway, so dinner wasn't really an option). I was still at almost 1700 calories for the day--it's amazing how much you can pack into one meal without even realizing it :o

So I learned yesterday that I am very bad at going to the cafeteria for lunch. I had planned on just having my other oatmeal for lunch, but once I got down there and saw all the good stuff and smelled all the good will be different. I won't bring any money or deit cards with me, so I will only be going for the walk and the company of my coworkers. I also brought some turkey sausage to have for lunch, and I'm eating a packet of oatmeal right now. I also have another oatmeal for later on.

In good news, I went for my "training" for my part-time editing job yesterday. The woman who was training me is clearly NOT an editor--I corrected some mistakes she was making and cringed as she left some mistakes in the report (I didn't want to seem too much like a know-it-all, ya know?). From what I understood, they were going to start me with these smaller shops first, then bring me into the hospitality (hotel) group later because those reports are much longer. However, I went to the head of the hospitality department yesterday while I was there to make sure she received my Contractor Agreement form that I had faxed over, and we made an appointment for me to go back this afternoon to do the hospitality training with her so I can get started on those reports as well. Yay, more reports = more $$ :smug:

09-28-2005, 04:01 PM
Thanks for all the prayers and good wishes. I think it hit me more today than it did yesterday. Yesterday I felt like I had to keep it together for everyone else's sake, today everyone has gone off on their own. Rob and I spent a couple of hours at the botanic garden, which helped so much. Rob has a big family, so he was close off and on with this brother.

Your food disasters I don't think would qualify under my definition of food disasters, Jill :lol: 1700 doesn't sound so bad. I know everybody has their own goals.

Aimee, just remember the phrase, "just ignore me, I'm cranky today." heh heh.

Well, I'm going to go watch Dr. Phil and possibly Oprah save the world! Take it easy, chicas muy bonitas.

09-29-2005, 03:12 AM
Marge - great to hear from you today! If you ever feel like talking, venting, anything, go at 'er! I might use that piece of advice about what to say... today was HARD! Her cat died (she was 18, so it was soon to come), and she was crying, so I told her to go home whenever she felt she needed to, and sent her to the back to get some work done. I thought I handled it pretty well! I work with her tomorrow night, and I dunno how that will go, we could cancel her shift completely and be fine, we have break coverage. It's supposed to POUR rain here tomorrow.. which always means it'll be quiet. What happened on Oprah and Dr Phil?

Jill - 1700 calories isn't too bad in the scheme of things! As long as you get right back on track, thats whats important!

I have this nasty cough, it's very unpleasant! I was coughing today to the point where I thought I was going to cough up blood... nasty! I know I'm lucky with this cold, because my friend had it for 6 weeks. But I'm inpatient for it to go away so I can be back up to par again. Alrighty, I gotta get some sleep! Have a good one!


09-29-2005, 03:32 AM
ok i a new to this and i really need some support in this very hard time in my life. lets see where to start. well i had a baby about 7 months ago and i have gained 50 pounds in my pregnancy. i am considered obese but i am worried about my health not my looks. i cant play with my daughter alll that much cuz i get out of breath. i need to know what are some diets that are easy and i dont have to go out and buy the whole health section at walmart.

09-29-2005, 07:56 AM
madisonsmommy--for starters, Welcome! 3FC is an awesome place for informetion, support, suggestions, and the occasional kick in the rear when you need it ;) As for "diets," the best "diet" you can do is a lifestyle change. Purge your home of junk food, and just make gradual changes to make your normal meals and snacks healthier. Replace regular meats with lean meats (ground turkey tastes almost exactly the same as ground beef!), replace whole-fat dairy with lighter or skim versions, replace plain white or wheat bread for a whole-grain bread, replace white rice with brown, replace white pasta with wheat (are we seeing a trend here in the carbs? :p ), and add in some fruits and veggies. Grill and bake meals instead of frying. I don't know what your current diet is like, but have protein-filled snacks throughout the day to help keep you feeling fuller till meal times. There are SO many things you can do without having to buy (health) foods! OH, and get movin'! You don't need fancy equipment or expensive gym emberships--just go for a walk or try borrowing exercise videos from your local library for a rainy day. Let us know how it all starts out for you!

LOL, I know 1700 calories isn't really a disaster--I had just wanted it to be a lot lower to compensate for the ridiculous amount I had had the day before (3200+). Yesterday I stuck to right about 1200, so that went a little better. Today is my TOPS night, so I'll not have much during the day and then have my Subway treat tonight after the meeting (YUM!). We'll see how the weekend goes--we are driving down to my sister's in Va Beach tomorrow afternoon and returning on Sunday evening. I'm sure I'll have plenty of opportunity to eat junk food, but I will still stay away from french fries (I have only had them once in about 4 weeks now, whereas it used to be at least 3 times a week!). My parents are down in Va Beach from CT visiting my sister, so hopefully my mom, my sister, and I will get to go dress shopping for my sister's wedding. My sister likes to have me along for clothes shopping cuz she knows I'll be brutally honest ;)

09-29-2005, 02:30 PM
Goodmorning!! How are we all feeling today? I'm phlemy! i don't even know if thats how you spell it..

Jill - good luck with your weigh in today.. my skinny fingers are crossed for yah! Cuz remember when we were all on a roll when we were doing that?? Heck, I'm desperate enough for myself that I'll try anything now ;) I weigh tomorrow... I'd say yay, but I just FEEL bigger.

Well juts a short one from me today, I gotta go make breakfast and head out into the very wet world that is Vancouver!


09-29-2005, 10:30 PM
Hi, everyone! Welcome, Madisonsmommy. Jill gave some great advice there. Whatever way you choose to tackle the unhealthy eating, do it in a way you can live with forever -- because it really is a permanent change. And it's so worth it: Madison's worth it, and so are YOU. :) She'll learn her eating habits from you, so what better time to make a change for the better than when she's really little and is only just starting to taste the foods she'll be around for the rest of her life?

Today I tried Juan-Carlos Cruz's turkey meatloaf (,1977,FOOD_9936_31747,00.html) recipe. Talk about a way to sneak in veggies! ;) It's pretty darned good. I might have sprinkled in just a little more salt, but other than that I really like it. I made 12 individual meatloaves using muffin tins, for automatic portion control.

I used Eggbeaters kind of stuff instead of the egg it called for - saved me 50 calories, but still bound everything together. The remainder of the egg stuff I measured out in 1/4c servings and froze individually; when they're solid, I'll put all my "egg cubes" into a bag to pull out as needed for recipes.

09-30-2005, 12:14 AM
well my eating habbits normally consist of whatever is easy and quick. which is McDonald's. very very bad i know. i have a bad habbit of just eating to feed my emotions. in which if i dont quit my daughter will learn that and have to grow up the way i did. i dont want that. i have looked into some really bad diets. i dont eat eggs what so ever. cutting meats out could be do-able. is it still bad to drink diet drinks???? i heard someone say that they dont help with weight loss.? i got the excerise stuff to start lossing, it's just i have no energy what so ever.

09-30-2005, 12:26 AM
Diet drinks are okay, but water's better yet.

The energy will come when you give your body good fuel and get moving. Just start out by walking - your endurance will increase. Take Madison for walks. :)

Eating diets high in simple carbohydrates (processed sugars, white breads, white potatoes, etc.) sets you up for lethargy. Those foods give you a quick spike in your blood sugar, a flash of energy. But...They don't stick around and they ultimately cause you to crash. You feel lethargic, cranky and muddle-headed. Sound familiar?

One thing you might consider doing is OAMC (once a month cooking). You make up large batches of healthy meals and freeze them. Then, all you have to do is pop them in the microwave. It's a big cooking day, but then there's little you have to do the rest of the month.

Like Jill said, purge your cupboards of the junk. I'd add to that, stay away from Micky D's because that's a trigger food for you. It's also addictive - they add sugar to just about everything they sell, and it makes people keep craving more and more.

The majority of what fast food places sell is empty calories, not good fuel.

Don't want to cut your meats out, just eat lean meats (not Micky D meat, LOL! :D ). Chicken and turkey are both excellent, as is pork loin; pork used to be very fatty, but the pigs being butchered nowdays are very lean.

Portion control's the key with any of it. At first your mind rebels and says, "you've GOT to be kidding!" when you see a piece of chicken the size of your palm. But when you don't rely on that meat alone to fill you -- when you have lots of veggies and good carbs like brown rice as side dishes -- you end up being more satisfied in the long run.

And the amazing thing is, your mind truly does change. You'll reach a point where you look at what you used to eat and you'll think, "how did I do that? Why did I ever do that?". It's amazing how our minds will come into line with new habits. Change on the inside really is possible.

09-30-2005, 07:58 AM
I second everything Kimberley suggested! I used to go to McDonald's and have a value meal that isn't even on their menu anymore--2 cheeseburgers, fries, and a drink (SuperSized, of course, which they don't even offer anymore). AND after all that, sometimes I could still have a milkshake! If I tried to eat all that now, I'd be pushing myself, and even if I managed to choke it all down, I'd be paying for it later or the next day, as my system is no longer used to all that grease :o

Up until just last week, I was working 2 jobs, so I knew I needed quick and easy foods, too! However, I vowed to myself that fast food was NOT an option (not to mention, hey, I'm working 2 jobs--I work way too hard for my money to spend it on that junk!). So, I would do sort of like Kimberley said, but I would cook and sort my food once a week (usually Sunday). I buy frozen fruits and vegetables because anything fresh would go bad before I have a chance to use it all, and there was certainly no time to go grocery shopping more than once a week (sometimes only once every other week). I would make big batches of things like pasta and stir-fry, then separate into individual little Gladware containers and toss in the fridge or frezer so I could grab one for lunch and/or dinner each day. I would also cook up some plain chicken breasts and keep in the fridge, then grab one and grab a different kind of sauce to use with it each day so it didn't get boring.

I didn't cut fast food out of my life cold turkey. I used to eat it multiple times a week, so I cut back a little each week until I was down to only once or twice a week. Then I changed what I ordered--instead of the meal I described above, I would only get 1 cheeseburger. Then I would get medium fries. Now, if I really have a craving (and they do hit me once in a while), I can get a cheeseburger Happy Meal and be just as satisfied (and that only happens once every few weeks, maybe even just once a month or so). Last week, my boyfriend wanted Wendy's, so I agreed to go. I got a baked potato with sour cream and a large chili--and I didn't feel deprived! It was actually really good, and I didn't at all miss the burger and fries. It was still a little high in calories for a single meal, but at least it wasn't also high in trans fats and grease and cholesterol...I guess all of this babbling just leads to the point of: don't feel that you have to change everything at once! You don't have to give anything up completely if you think it may lead to a binge, but portion control and moderation are key :)
I lost a pound at my TOPS weigh-in last night--which makes up for the pound I gained last week :dizzy: So now I'm at 279.25 again. Virginia Beach this weekend will be a challenge, as I'm sure we'll be eating out for most of our meals (one good thing about seeing the parents is that they tend to buy us food and stuff ;) ). I need to be as good as possible, though, because I haven't really lost any weight since the beginning of August :mad: My weights in my TOPS book from 8/11 till now have been 280.75, 282, 279, 279, 279.25, 280.25, 279.25 :( My body seems to be happy here, but my brain (and my mirror) says no, so I will bust through this! Hey, at least I know I can at least maintain :p

09-30-2005, 12:11 PM
Thankx i really appreciate all the help. is there a recipe book that u would recommend that i get. on the bad side hehe i cant cook so i am gonna need a book that helps me. i think my mother has a weight watchers book. they go by points or something but i am thinkin that would be a start. i am tryin to lose the weight for my health and now for my daughter.but something else has come up and i would like to lose something b4 i get married. so lets see if i can use the head the good Lord gave me. later...

09-30-2005, 02:16 PM
Congrats on the pound Jill... I'm gonna take some credit for crossing my skinny fingers ;) teehee...

I wanna add that diet drinks are evil... for some people they are better than their sugar filled counterparts, but aspartame can make you feel bloated. And if you continue to drink it every day, it will hinder weight loss! Plus that whole Alzheimer's thing... Drink water, apple juice is becoming my fav, watered down because they make things so darn strong! Lately I've been buying kid sized juice boxes, satisfies that craving for something besides water!

Today is my day off :) And then I have to work 6 days in a row :( With retail you really do need those days off, however that being said.. it's been SO dead at work lately that I've barely been dealing with customers. I had a chat with my manager yesterday about the girl I have been having issues with, told her about all of our "run-ins", told her what I have said.. and she is actually with me! She gets a weird vibe off her as well, can't put her finger on it either. Woohoo, it's nice because I really felt as though it was just me, but it's not :) I cancelled her shift yesterday (as an assistant manager I am authorized to do this), and she called to ask the manager if I was able to cancel her shift... but my manager said, yes, I asked Aimee to call you and cancel it because I was busy. I'm feeling better about the situation now!

I don't really know what I'm going to do with my day off, we definitely have to return some of these bottles, there is 3 bags of them to go back. I'm such a good recycler ;)
Alrighty, I am off, have a great one!!


09-30-2005, 05:33 PM
Jill, that's great about that pound! I lost 1 pound too. I'll take it, especially after my gain and subsequent standstill. Back to my 209 and happy to be back in that decade.

MM, the neat thing about cooking is, it's all about following instructions. Once you get in there, it's not that hard to make some really good stuff. This is coming from someone who used to *hate* cooking, who bought frozen dinners and convenience foods. Now I really enjoy cooking, largely because I control what goes into the foods we eat. Check out these links about cooking for some good info:

The Food Network's Cooking Basics ( -- even has video demonstrations!

Cooking lessons for newbies, hints, etc. ( -- looks like good tips in this thread

Cook once; eat for a month ( - if you know someone else who is interested in this, maybe you could make a fun day of it, shopping and preparing the meals. Bonding. ;)

Aimee, sounds like things are going well for you at work. That's so good to hear! I received my first paycheck for doing work for my webhost - that's nice to see pop into the old PayPal account, I must say. Yippee!

09-30-2005, 05:57 PM
Hi, madisonmom, congratulations on your new baby. :) Welcome to this thread too. I've never had a baby, but my sister has three, and from what I've heard from her and other friends who have kids, you're in good company.

You've already gotten great tips. I agree that thinking of it as a lifestyle change rather than a diet has worked for me to lose weight over time and to keep it off. You might want to consider tracking your eating for the first couple of weeks on fitday, to help you get an idea for what you're eating, the nutritional value, and the number of calories you're consuming. That's what I did. Dr. Phil's weight loss books I think are helpful to a lot of people because they take a comprehensive approach. And he has a food supplement book that gives calories and nutritional information for lots of foods, as well as eating plans.

The people on this forum are like having a tremendous encyclopedia of experience and knowledge, so ask away about anything.

"I wanna add that diet drinks are evil... Aimee"

I never or rarely drink diet drinks, on top of all that you said, Aimee, I think artificial sugars desensitize your palate to sweets, since they are sweeter than sugar is.

"I had a chat with my manager yesterday about the girl I have been having issues with, told her about all of our "run-ins", told her what I have said.. and she is actually with me! Aimee"

I'm not surprised to hear that. If you're having such a problem with her, it's easy to imagine that other people would too.

Cool about the webhost pay, Kimberley. Congrats.

I've finally left the 60s for the 50s, YEAH!!!!!!!! heh heh.

Take it easy, chicas.

09-30-2005, 05:59 PM
Good for you, Marge! Update that ticker, lady! :)

09-30-2005, 06:01 PM
Whoops - you just did, LOL! Wow, killer loss this week. Yay!

09-30-2005, 08:58 PM
yeah i would have to say at the age of 21 having a baby is the hardest but greatest thing i could ever accomplish. she makes everyday brighter. i never wanted kids but now that i have one i would never trade her for anything. i just know i have to change my ways of eating b4 she thinks that a bag of chips is dinner!!!lol which is on the norm for me. so tonight i will try something new and see if i burn the house down or not lol. thank again to everyone who has given advice.

10-01-2005, 02:20 AM
Go, MM!

Hey, I thought of you when I was in Wal-Mart's checkout. They had a little booklet in the magazine rack, Cooking Basics for Dummies. No offense! It looked like a neat booklet, actually. It even had some recipes in it. There's a full-fledged book available, to:

10-01-2005, 12:28 PM
Yeah, I've had a different weight loss pattern these past couple of months. I waiver up and down about a pound for a couple of weeks, then whoosh, lose 4 or more. I think it has to do with work outs, bulking up, and water retention.

MM, you should post some pics of your baby :) Definitely example is the strongest way to teach eating choices. I have a cousin who taught her son and daughter to love carrot and celery sticks when they were kids. I remember our family, when we were kids we were so picky, and vegetables didn't register as a food group, so Iwas very impressed by that.

I'll start up an October thread, the time goes by fast, doesn't it?

10-01-2005, 05:25 PM
none taken. i think i will run back up there. i finally broke down and bought a scale. bad news is apparently i aint not 205 but 207. so i need to change my info. i did manage to eat well yesturday i felt good about that but still had no energy. now another problem i am facing in that i may have some thyroid problems its runs in the family and that could also affect me in lossing the pounds i need to. soooo i am trying to get more info on that.

10-02-2005, 03:58 AM
Don't sweat the weight too much, MM -- just pick a scale and weigh consistently on the same one. We used our doctor's office scale for a while, but now use my MIL's.

Good deal getting bloodwork done, anyway. Find out all that stuff and then hit 'er good! :D

We were not-so-good this last couple days. Treated ourselvse to pizza twice; :blush: This week I'm planning to have 100 less calories/day to make up for the overage. We knew better than to sit outside the coffee shop talking with friends after the shop closed...We talked about food, how we were hungry...LOL I need to smack myself upside the head next time I do that! ;)

On a positive front, I found a cute pair of pajamas at Value City (local discount chain kind of like TJ Maxx, Marshall's, etc.). Oh, and two bras that actually FIT. Woo! I'm in a 40DD now, down from what I think *should have been* at 46DD. Nice to have my girls suspended more than 3" above my navel, LOL!

10-03-2005, 10:45 AM
I started an October thread.

10-03-2005, 01:27 PM
Oops! Indeed you did!

10-04-2005, 02:20 PM
is there anyone else who just had a baby?? and i would like to ask anyone who has ever had a baby who in the world do u get rid of PPD??????

10-04-2005, 03:51 PM
Really couldn't tell you about that one -- you might want to search the forums here for pregnancy and related terms. I was thinking there was a whole forum regarding pregnancy and dieting, but maybe not.