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08-22-2005, 12:35 PM
Hey Everyone!
I thought I would start a group for southerners...we have our own special needs! Where else do they have restuarant menus where everything fried! I thought it would be fun to have a group where you could say "that krispy kreme store up yonder (or over town)" or "I reckon I'll pass on the fried okra at the family reunion" or "sweet tea calories don't really count."

Transplanted southerners and wanna be's are welcome too! ;)

I'll go first with an intro:
I'm Beth, 38, and live in Charlotte NC. My family is from Asheville. I lived in Maryland during my formative years (my father worked for IBM) and so occasionally have a fit for steamed blue crab. I am watercolor artist and graphic designer looking for a job. I'm married to a wonderful supportive, if out spoken, man. We have 3 cats and 2 dogs, but no human children.

It feels like I have been trying to lose weight all my life. Sometimes successfully, and more often not. I just keep on keeping on...hoping to find just the right formula of diet and exercise for me.

My weakness is chocolate and eating out! We love to try new restuarants. Yes, I know I could make a healthy choice, but what is the point trying some place new and having steam veggies and grilled chicken? I need a new attitude :p

Right now I am working with a personal trainer 1 day a week, and doing weights twice a week, and aerobic exercise of some kind 2-3 days a week.

Looking forward to meeting y'all!


08-22-2005, 12:53 PM
Hey Beth, I'm Julia from TN -hence the user name. I've lived within 75 miles of Chattanooga all my life except for a year in London. Believe me, I don't miss the food there (blood pudding - what were they thinking?).

I don't have huge cravings for Southern food most of the time - ethnic food is usually my weakness, especially Mexican and sometimes Thai or Indian. However...if forced I could easily live on barbeque stuffed potatoes and fried catfish. I have been making myself steer away from the little trailer on the side of the road that is Choo Choo BBQ. I've been pretty successful in taking the foods that I really love a tweaking them to make them healthier and less calorieful. I still haven't found a good sub for the BBQ though:( Does anybody have any ideas?

08-22-2005, 01:03 PM
Count me in Beth...I love all things Southern!! :p

I'm 23, been married for 3 yrs and have a son who's 16 months old. I'm your typical Southern girl whose favorite combination is good food and good company, who likes a big ol' glass of sugar with tea ( :lol: ), mud boggin, fishing, good deer jerky, watching the Dawgs, etc.

I got a little chubby in middle school and got teased, so by the end of high school I was an anorexic working out several hours a day. In college I met the three Anti-Christy's: late night Papa John's, Zaxby's chicken, and Liquor. I was cured of anorexia, but not of poor eating habits--I just went from one extreme to the other. When my son turned 1 and I still weighed 205 (up 97 lbs from my lowest adult weight) I realized something HAD to be done.

I had a church experience at the end of May 05 that really opened my eyes to WHY I needed to be healthy and happy on biblical terms, and have been on the down-hill slide (weight-wise that is) ever since. Yes that's right, I'm a good ol Southern CHRISTIAN to boot...who still has a cussing, eating, occasional drinking, good-timing problem that I am working on. :lol: :dizzy:

And I definitely agree that being raised in the South has made us all "special needs" dieters...there's no other place in the world with food like ours!! :D

P.S. Julia~ BBQ actually isn't TERRIBLE for you if you eat only the lean and use a good peppery/vinegary low-cal sauce. That is, as long as it isn't eaten all the time! LOL

the slim me
08-22-2005, 02:11 PM
hi Everyone, I'll introduce my self too. My name is Freda. I was born in Kentucky but moved to Michigan when I got married. This is where my son and his family is, so this is where I'll stay. But like the old saying "you can take the girl from the country but you can't take the country from the girl". I have 1 son and 2 adorable grandchildren, a boy and a girl, 5and 2. I'm an RN and work in a local hospital in rehab. I babysit 2 days a week for the grandkids. I love all types of food and have gotten a little away from the southern fried "everything". But I still love it. Some said something about all the vegetables being fried. Well, not all of them, but I like my green beans cooked with a ham hock. Northern people jsut don't understand that, they want them cooked for 5 min. YUCK!

I collect depression glass and antique jewelry. I am an avid reader, especially mysteries. I solve the walking problem (boredom) by always haveing a book tape to listen too.

Looking forward to hearing about every one, Freda

Sweet Tea
08-22-2005, 05:54 PM
Hi ya'll! Thank you Beth for setting this up and moving us over here. A nice place to come in , sit down , and have a spot to sip my iced tea (with splenda now of course :)) belong.

I am taking part of my info from the bio I wrote on the south beach board. I hope yall don't mind.

My name is Sara and I am a happily (most of the time happy but at this moment I want to wring his neck and make him walk a day in my shoes) married, 30 yr old SAHM mom of 3 -- ages 6, 2 1/2, and 5 months. Myself and my two best friends/soul sisters (known each other 23 years) have reached a point in our lives where we have got to "do or die" and get our health and bodies back in order. Together we are back on the SB way of life and we are hoping that with our combined efforts and the wonderful support and camaraderie we have witnessed on this awesome board that we will succeed. You all rock!!

I have been back on plan, phase 1, since last Friday and I am down 9 lbs so far. The highest weight I have ever been is 227 which was after I had my first child back in 1999. I suffered from post partum depression and Ben and Jerry were my best friends back then. Oh how I miss them . Once my depression cleared a bit I was able to eventually go down to 150. Kid #2 was then conceived and after his birth I was about 200 to 205 and only leveled back down to 190 after the PPD with him. Last summer we started SB after seeing how great my in-laws were doing. About 3 weeks in I found out about our surprise #3 and once the nausea hit I couldn't even walk near the produce isle without wanting to puke. I think I lived on Sams egg rolls for about 3 months. Just like with the past two pregnancies I developed high blood pressure and eventually preeclampsia. Combined with depression it was hard to focus on my diet but I managed to not gain weight during this pregnancy and I made it to full term. I waited to gain until after the birth . I put on 30 lbs after getting down to 180 in the first few weeks after Logan was born. Emotional eating is my main downfall. Oh and all those vicious kids snacks that call my name out in the middle of the day.

How am I going to stay personally motivated this time? Well, I have a family history of heart disease and type 2 diabetes. My father died at the age of 38 from coronary disease and it could have been prevented. His twin brother died at the age of 53. their brother at the age of 55. I want to see my kids grow up. I don't want anyone saying "Well, she could have prevented it. She could have done better." I have held on to the high blood pressure even after giving birth this 3rd time and I am scared.

On a more positive note -- I am not sure what I should say about me that would let you know more about me. Other than being a SAHM I also own a business that I run from home now. Used to own a retail location but that was just too much of a struggle after 2001. My interests are, time permitting, reading, listening to music, photography, and hanging out with my family and friends.

I love being a southerner and the southern way of life. I just have to turn a blind eye to the few negatives that may exist here. I am originally from OK but mainly grew up in South GA. I've also lived in MI, northern VA, and in Florida. I do love all other areas/countries too but I choose to be a southener.

Fav southern temptations -- sweet tea of course ( we like a little sweet tea with our sugar), fried okra, bbq in sweet sauce, fried chicken, any bread you got. I also love pizza, chinese food, mexican food....yum. I wasn't hugry earlier but now I am! the only things I really don't like are fish of any kind and grits. OK! I know grits are a southern/GA staple but I will forgive the dislike of okra or boiled peanuts If you can forgive my dislike of grits. Sorry!

Sorry about making this so long. Nice to meet you all!!!

No, I'm Sweet Tea
08-22-2005, 10:31 PM
Woo hoo thank you Beth for hookin us up with this southern support group!

I'm Leanne, age 30, single - go figure! I have a fat cat named Spanky and I'm a Graphic Designer like "ejm". I was born outside of Charlotte, NC in a small town called Shelby. At age 3 my dad got transferred to Valdosta, GA which is where I grew up. I was there until the age of 18, when I moved to Savannah to attend Savannah College of Art Design. Once I graduated I decided to stay in Savannah because I just love it here. It's beautiful and artsy!

I starting growing horizontally and no longer vertically in 5th grade, when Sara (Sweet Tea) had to move to Michigan :( I think we both got fat bc we got seperated :lol: All through middle school, high school and college I was chubby, but athletic, playing softball every step of the way. In college I lost 50 lbs twice without even trying, but gained it back both times. It was all the excercise and not wanting to eat the food at the dorm on the meal plan! Now, I have a career as a graphic designer, which I completely love, but I sit at a desk on my butt 10 hours a day and that makes losing weight harder.

Excercise you say? I plan to but for the moment I am only allowed a few excercises because I have a herniated disk in my lower back. I have been dealing with it for about 10 months now. I am getting closer to the solution as I have tried almost all conservatove treatments required but one...and that one is soon to come. Once that is taken care of I will be SO happy to walk, and walk, and do anything I can excercise wise since I think I have now learned to appreciate the gift of not having to limp like an old lady all the time!!

I have dieted till I am blue in the face, but not anymore. Last Monday, along with Sara and my sister Christa, I started Phase 1 of the South Beach Diet. I haven't weighed in yet but I haven't cheated at all and we have all been doing great. I feel great too. Everyday when I talk to Sara I say "Hey fellow lifestyle changer!" and she always laughs :D She found this forum for us and I am so happy! You ladies are great to be around and encouraging too!!

Ok I rambled some, sorry! I can talk sometimes :p So that's me in a nutshell!

08-22-2005, 10:36 PM
I know grits are a southern/GA staple but I will forgive the dislike of okra or boiled peanuts If you can forgive my dislike of grits
I don't like grits, fried okra OR iced tea (sweet or otherwise). One of these days I'm gonna get myself thrown out of the Cracker Barrel for saying that.:D

No, I'm Sweet Tea
08-22-2005, 10:38 PM
ROFLMFAO @ Julia!!!!!

Sweet Tea
08-22-2005, 11:07 PM
I don't like grits, fried okra OR iced tea (sweet or otherwise). One of these days I'm gonna get myself thrown out of the Cracker Barrel for saying that.:D

LOL Julia -- naw, a true southerner is more than what they put down their gullet :D.

How about those boiled peanuts? Or is that maybe a Georgia thing?

08-22-2005, 11:11 PM
Hmmm boiled peanuts, one of those things that I don't have any strong feelings about. Sit me down in front of a bucket with nothing to do and watch 'em disappear but I wouldn't ever actually go out & buy any.;)

08-23-2005, 12:33 AM
I hope it isn't too late for me to jump in here!

I was born in Arkansas but have lived in Mississippi most of my life. For all of the jokes made about us I love it here.

I am nearing my goal weight and have gotten this far by counting calories and exercising. I always get a kick out of people who see me for the first time since I've lost this much weight. They always want to know how I did it and I can see the disappointment on their faces when I tell them!

Although my diet has gotten progressively cleaner since I began losing weight I haven't given up any of my favorites. Interestingly enough, the things I used to love aren't really all that appealing to me anymore. So, if I want them I have them but I rarely want them anymore.

I am a SAHM of three kids. Our oldest son is 6 and just started the 1st grade. Our youngest two are 4 year old twins (boy/girl). They will start kindergarten next year. I am certain that my heart will break when I drop them off the first day but it will surely mend quickly when I return to a quiet house and take a shower without an audience. Please tell me, why is it that their world only falls apart when they hear the bathroom door shut?

I am glad to see a couple of familiar names and look forward to getting to know everyone better!


No, I'm Sweet Tea
08-23-2005, 12:38 AM
Hey Tricia! Your weight loss is an inspiration for sure!

As for the kids screaming when the bathroom door shuts, I can't help you there, but I bet Sara can!! LOL ;)

08-23-2005, 01:44 PM
Hello ladies, as you can see I live in Memphis, TN. I have to admit I am a transplanted YANKEE though :eek: ! I grew up in Northwest Indiana (Notre Dame country actually) but we have lived here for 4 years now. My spouse is retired Navy so we lived in Memphis a total of 3 times. When my grandson was born and dh had a lousy job, we picked up and moved down here. Here is something about me:

I am just a shade under 52 yrs old, been married 33 years to a scrumptious adorable man who thinks this fat old body is sexy! I have two grown children, a married son, 32 and lives in Indiana and a dd who is 28 and lives here in Memphis with her dh and my 5 year old gorgeous grandson. I don't work, my husband works for the City of Memphis as an electronics engineer, retired after 20 years from the Navy in 1989 and we have lived one coast to the other in those years. Right now we are anxiously waiting for the next 48 hours to hurry by so we can go to Vegas. We planned this trip the first of the year and the last 2 weeks have been agony. It is so very hot here and my dh sure does need those 10 days we are spending in sin city! :lol: Of course, it is like 100 in Vegas but we rented a car so we can just hop in and out of it! :lol: It is our absolutely favorite place to vacation and we go every year and never get tired of it.

As for food, I am not a big lover of southern food except maybe good ole Memphis BBQ, which you can't beat anywhere. I hate okra, greens, sweet tea, and grits! I am a real fan of fried chicken, though unfortunately! I am not a "sweet tater" lover nor a fan of pecan pie. I know I should be ashamed for living here huh????? :lol: :lol: I have relatives that live near Fort Smith, AR and we used to come down here during the summer in my high school years and I laugh at how horrified I was at some of the things they ate and how they acted and went everywhere barefoot! I had this proper mother who would have killed me for walking into a store barefoot! :lol: I hadn't been away from my own little world and didn't realize there was actually something different out there from what I was used to. So what do I do? I marry a man who grew up in Southeast NEW MEXICO for heaven's sake. You want a laugh, you should have seen my face when my new in-laws took me to a Mexican restaurant. I had never had that kind of food before (back then there were no taco bells etc around either) and didn't know what to order as I didn't know what anything was, even a taco! Again, unfortunately, I learned FAST and it is one of my favorite foods to cook or eat! I am German and sure miss that cooking. My dh doesn't like German food at all so I rarely get it unless we go to Indiana and I can hunt some sauerbraten up or some schnitzel and noodles! :lol: I also love Hungarian and Polish food as the part of the country I grew up in had a lot of middle European communities.

I have a thread that I run on the support forum and post on one other thread so I don't know if I will get in here everyday, but it is nice to see a place for all the southern belles here! It was fun talking with you and seeing about your lives here in the south!

Tricia: My grandson would come over and insist on standing in the bathroom while I peed! It is just a quirk of toddlers I guess. I truly miss my kids occasionally in the house though they have been gone for like 10 years, but I made up for it by getting myself a dog and cat. My dd laughs at us and says she knows we are old because we have a big a** car and a little dog (Grand Marquis and Yorkie :lol: ) Cherish the moments with them as in an instant they are grown and out of your house!

Leanne: I am sure you are a gorgeous young woman! I am a huge advocate of loving yourself fat so you can love yourself thin! Look at your body and love the beauty it is now and when you get smaller you won't have to worry about if someone only loves or likes you because of your size!

Sara: Take it from a very old and very married lady, all husbands are pains in the you know what from time to time. It is second nature to them. They seem to think that when they walk out the door, time stops and only picks up when they come back in the door so you shouldn't have any whiny kid, broken dishwasher, poopy pants problems. My dh was gone so very much that he had little or not contact with my kids and it caught up with them all when they became adults. My son and dh get along great but I think there is still alot of resentment from my dd for putting her through the military life. I not only raised them practically alone, I had to deal with a car that was broken and no money to fix it, being hundreds of miles from any family and not having close friends because we were never in one place long enough Just give him a big kiss when he comes through the door and appreciate him faults and all. I almost lost the love of my live 2 years ago to a massive heart attack so I don't look at his faults the same way anymore

TTFN girls! Have a great week and maybe I can post a pic or two of Vegas when I get back!


Sweet Tea
08-23-2005, 06:15 PM
Welcome Faye!! Thank you for joining us :wave: the more the merrier. Have an awesome time in Vegas :woo: ! I am so jealous, I wanna go too!! That would be great if you were able to share some pics when you get back.

Leanne -- where's Christa???

Tricia --You get to shut your bathroom door?????? It's getting to where I can't go UNLESS I have an audience!!

Beth -- thank you so much for setting us up in here :D. What types of things do you do with your personal trainer? Sounds like you have a great exercise plan :)

Julia -- what took you to London for a year? how did you like it?

Christy-- So, do you really go bogging? :D Was there something specific said that turned things around for you? A reading, a passage, or something like that? Anything you can share about your experience?

Freda -- Hey there! What are you currently listening to while you walk? Is Milk glass a depression era glass? If so then Leanne may have some questions for you.

I hope everyone is having a great day! I am still doing pretty well but I have got to get some exercise into my plan asap. The last two days have been taken up with comforting my little fellow who is teething. Wish it weren't so painful and frustrating for the little ones. All this cuddling and soothing has made it hard to actually find time to eat which I know is bad. I did get breakfast and lunch today though :). Hopefully tomorrow will be even better.

No, I'm Sweet Tea
08-23-2005, 07:36 PM
Evening ladies! Whew long day at work. I never get time to post at work *sigh*

Sara - Hopefully sis will get to pop in this group tonight and intro herself! I sent her a linky last night!

Freda - oh yes - is milk glass from that era? I have a box full of it that was my grandparents and I need to find out about it. Any help is much appreciated!!

I was good today but pretty tired and thirsty. I made it through it fine tho! I hope eveyone else had a great day!

08-23-2005, 07:48 PM
here i am~! Uhm... ok, i'm from Savannah, Ga.. sister is 'No, I'm Sweet Tea' and soul sister to 'Sweet Tea'.. i'm 32yrs. old. i was born in OH, but raised in GA.. yes, that's right :o born a yankee, raised a rebel! :lol:

moving right along.. tonight, we made dinner and experimented a little. :dizzy: it turned out really good though. :D i found a recipe and i would like to share it with you all.

Meat Crust Pizza - South Beach Diet Recipe (Phase 1)

Brown about 2 pound of extra lean ground beef.
Preheat oven to 350
Put beef in a large bowl & mix well with 2 cups of Lf mozzarella cheese. Spread mixture out like a pizza crust on a cookie sheet or a baking stone.
Put 1 cup pizza sauce on the mixture. Ragu is ok.(pizza sauce, no sugar in it) Top with 1-2 cups of Lf shredded mozzarella.
Top with canadian bacon and or low fat pepperoni (optional onions, peppers, anything legal that you like on pizza's.)
Cook 15 min. or so (when top cheese starts to brown it is done.)
Put foil on rack below to catch any drippings.

it says 15 minutes, but i think it could've cooked a little bit longer because i don't like my pizza veggies still crunchy crunchy! we also added some red onion, red bell pepper, green bell pepper, broccoli, mushrooms and i took a little pepperoni, sliced them in 4's and spread em around. i think next time, we will try this with ground turkey or chicken! :o

if anyone has any ideas what you can do with ground beef other than hamburger patties, tacos and this pizza.. let a big girl know!! LOL :D

i'm excited for thursday, because we get to see Sweet Tea and we all get to weigh, YAY~~! lol ok guys, ttys. :p

08-23-2005, 08:07 PM
Hello ladies! I'm another transplant :p I live in Rock Hill, SC and work in Charlotte, NC. I see we have some others in/from/around the Queen City. I am originally from Indiana, grew up in a small town outside Indy. Went to undergrad at Purdue. I'm married to a fun and creative guy who grew up in southern Indiana (Brown County/Nashville) and we met when I was living in Bloomington, IN for a stint. I've lived in Raleigh, Charlotte (north side), Charleston SC, Orlando and Tampa FL, Florence and now RH, SC. My mom & dad retired to SC. We've all come this way bc of my older brother who went to The Citadel and then MUSC, married a southern girl and had 4 daughters. He's now a southern doctor/politician. :rolleyes:

I got my masters in library science from Univ of SC last December and I've been working for Carolinas HealthCare System in their wonderful medical library ever since. DH is working on his Interior Design degree at Winthrop Univ in Rock Hill and we just bought our first house. We've been trying to start a family for a couple years now and been dealing with fertility issues and multiple miscarriages (one recently). It has thrown me into pits of depression where I eat and eat. I got close to goal, then with our recent loss and vacation have put some back on. I wonder if I'll ever hit goal :(

I do like southern food, esp the bbq and fried chicken. My grandma was from TN originally and I grew up on her sweet tea and fried everything. :D I LOVE Zaxby's and consider it comfort food and we use it to nurse hangovers after DH's DJ night at a club in Charlotte the first Friday of every month.

My strategy thus far for losing has been: cutting out sugary soda and moved to splenda for all beverages (including tea), counting calories and fat, staying under 1400 cal/day most days, walking for exercise and not giving up things I love entirely like chocolate and alcohol. Like I said though, I fell off the wagon recently and have to get back on track if I'm going to see goal before the end of the year.

So that's me :) Sorry to go on and on about myself. It's nice to meet ya'll (yes I've picked that one up ;) ) !

08-23-2005, 08:46 PM
Christy-- So, do you really go bogging? :D Was there something specific said that turned things around for you? A reading, a passage, or something like that? Anything you can share about your experience?
Oh yeah, I LOVE bogging!! Both in trucks and on 4-wheelers...I used to have a SWEET jeep, but had to trade it in for the family Camry...LOL.

Well, it was a sermon that really turned things around for me. In that particular sermon my pastor mentioned getting fit, and it was really motivational. He talked about how after the 40 years of wandering Joshua only had 3 days to get everybody ready before the thing that they had all been waiting for would finally come to pass (Isreal getting to their promised land)...then he outlined how WE are a Joshua generation and we have got to get ready because the things God has prepared for us are just around the corner--we need to be ready mentally, spiritually, and physically. He also mentioned a little about gluttony and threw out some facts regarding the health risks of sodas, cigarettes, etc. and how God could deliver us from all these things that we're unable to put really struck a chord for me and when I went up for the alter call he was going around laying hands on different people and when he got to me something just clicked. I even almost fell out, which is something I've never done before--really interesting! Ever since then I have lost weight every week, except for last week...that's when I realized my weight loss started being more for my glory than God's and I had to get things back in order. I signed up for The Lord's Table classes and down I'm back on the downswing!

08-24-2005, 10:03 AM
OK, it's official y' in the South IS a "special need" that's detrimental to our waistline!! LOL As reported in AJC:

Stomachs sagging in Southland

The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Published on: 08/23/05
WASHINGTON Who would have guessed, y'all? There is a statistical correlation between being fat and living in the land of fried chicken, cornbread, grits with red-eye gravy, sweet iced tea, pecan pie, porch swings and Sunday afternoon naps.

The Trust for America's Health released a report Tuesday showing that obesity is rising like a buttermilk biscuit all across America - but folks are getting fatter fastest in the South.

The report ranked states according to their percentage of obese adults: 1. Mississippi. 2. Alabama. 3. West Virginia. 4. Louisiana. 5. Tennessee. 6. A tie between Texas, Kentucky and Michigan. South Carolina was tenth, Arkansas 11th, Georgia 12th, North Carolina 16th, and Virginia 22nd. Of the Southern states, only Florida was in the leaner half of the nation - ranking 38th.

The states that once composed the Confederacy now make up a Corpulency. The region "is almost like a canary in a coal mine. Waistlines are growing fastest (in the South). But why is it happening there? I can't give you that answer," said Shelley Hearne, executive director of Trust for America's Health, a non-partisan, non-profit organization with the stated goal of improving the health of Americans.

The report, "F as in Fat: How Obesity Policies Are Failing in America - 2005," uses statistics from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in Atlanta to show state-by-state trends. Along with the nation as a whole, each state's average percentage of obese adults from 2002-2004 is compared to the average over the previous three years.

By comparing three-year periods, Hearne said, the study shows "with clarity and certainty that we have a steady increase that has been taking place."

Nationwide, the average obesity rate for the three-year period was 22.7 percent of the adult populace, up slightly from 22 percent in the previous period. No state met the national goal of 15 percent or lower, said Hearne. Every state showed an increase in its obese population except Oregon, which stayed the same.

The percentage of obese adults in Georgia was 24.5, a .7 percentage point increase. The percentage of obese adults in Texas was 25.3, a .4 percentage point increase. The percentage of obese adults in Florida was 20.7, up 1.4 percentage points. The percentage of obese adults in Ohio was 24.4, a 1 percentage point increase. The percentage of obese adults in North Carolina was 23.9, a .4 percentage point increase.

"We really don't have the research" to show conclusively why the Southerners seem to be the fattest Americans, said the report's co-author, Parris Glendening, president of the Smart Growth Leadership Institute and former two-term governor of Maryland.

"But this part of the country is leading the nation in the increase in obesity and is going to suffer dramatically in its health as a result," he concluded.

The issue is both simple and complex, the report's co-authors said.

On one hand, the rise in obesity comes from "simple math," said Hearne. "We're eating more calories and we're burning up less" through exercise.

On the other hand, she explained, "obesity is a very complex issue."

People with lower education levels and less income are more likely to be fat, for instance. "You can match that up with demographics of states," she said. People who are on food stamps are more likely to be obese than those with higher incomes or those with similar incomes who do not rely on food stamps.

"Where you find obesity, you'll find poverty. It's a reflection of the South's struggle to raise its standard of living. You'll see it in the deep South and in Appalachia," said Bill Ferris, former administrator of the National Endowment for the Humanities and now a scholar with the Center for the Study of the American South at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.

"Traditional Southern food is very high calorically," said Harry Watson, director of the UNC Center. "It was appropriate when Southerners worked outdoors in fields and indoors in mills. But jobs are not as strenuous now. People are more sedentary but they still eat like they're out there sawing logs or picking cotton."

But he agreed that "cheap food is fattening food" and income levels may have as much to do with the region's obesity as does its traditional diet.

"There are more people eating French fries than greens" in today's South, he said.

Glendening linked the obesity rate to the region's rapid suburban growth.

The South "has the highest level of sprawl," he said. Atlanta, Dallas, Houston, Charlotte, Birmingham, Jackson and other of the region's metropolitan areas are growing outward. Cars rule. Pedestrians are figments of the past.

Developers "build cul-de-sac type subdivisions. People can't walk to school, work or church. You have to get in the car and drive to go anywhere," said Glendening. "As a result, there is a reduction in physical activity."

Many suburbs are built without sidewalks, he said. There are no neighborhood stores in these communities and schools are usually distant.

"Nationwide only about 10 percent of children walk to school any more," he said.

Fat is dangerous, the report said.

"Obesity is a gateway to heart disease, diabetes and a host of other diseases," said Glendening. "There is much more that can be done to help people make healthy choices about nutrition and exercise. For instance, decisions about where we build new houses and highways or schools and sidewalks can mean the difference between giving people more or less opportunity to participate in physical activity."

Hearne said governments could do more to fight obesity in everyone from school kids to Medicare patients.

The report defines adults with a Body Mass Index of 30 or more as "obese." The index is meant to be a more accurate measure than a simple weight to height ratio, but is sometimes flawed when considering very muscular, fit people.

08-24-2005, 10:46 AM
The South "has the highest level of sprawl," he said. Atlanta, Dallas, Houston, Charlotte, Birmingham, Jackson and other of the region's metropolitan areas are growing outward. Cars rule. Pedestrians are figments of the past.

Developers "build cul-de-sac type subdivisions. People can't walk to school, work or church. You have to get in the car and drive to go anywhere," said Glendening. "As a result, there is a reduction in physical activity."

Many suburbs are built without sidewalks, he said. There are no neighborhood stores in these communities and schools are usually distant.

To respond to 2 posts at once: That's what I loved, loved, loved about London. I think I only got in a car twice in the 9 (winter) months I was there. I walked a lot of places and then took the tube or a bus others but there was still a walk from the station to where I was going. I have seriously thought about moving to downtown Chatt into one of the loft/condos they're putting in just so that I could walk out my front door and go somewhere without getting in a car. I'm lucky now in that I live in a really old (read dilapidated) area of town where there are still sidewalks and people do actually walk down them (unfortunately they're mostly crackheads:^: ), but I would really like to live somewhere that I could walk to get my groceries etc. London caters to that type of thing. There's a little market on just about every major street corner that has things other than chips and candy so you can just pop in on your way home from work and pick up some fresh stuff to make for dinner. That's the real reason that people in major metropolitan areas (NY, London, Paris) are skinny - they're either eating in overpriced chi chi little bitty portion restaurants or they're only buying as many groceries as they can carry home at once.

I had a friend-who is just now learning to drive at 30-visit from London and woke her up to see if she wanted to go with me to breakfast. She said no that she would just walk out and get something later. I had to remind her that there wasn't going to be any walking out to get anything to eat unless she wanted to brave life and limb walking down a freeway (I lived somewhere else at the time). She couldn't believe that anybody could live that way. She also made the comment that Europeans are always talking about how fat Americans are but that if the food was as good in the UK as what she ate here everybody there would be fat too.;)

To answer the question about why I went to London: it was really just a whim. I got a work visa through my school and just went with about $500 in my pocket and ate toast morning noon and night to be able to afford to live on my really tiny salary at the job that I found after I got there. I was either really brave or really foolish, I'm still not sure which. I definitely got bitten by the travel bug though - I've since been to every continent except Australia & Antarctica (and I may get over to Antarctica this January).

Sweet Tea
08-24-2005, 01:41 PM
Julia -- all that traveling is awesome!! Even though I'm primarily a homebody, shich I am sure contributes to my weight, but I do love to visit new places. It's such an adventure:D

Christy -- Thank you so much for posting the article! Very interesting. I do agree that some, not all, of the problem lies in economics, urban sprawl, and in how our culture cooks. Can I throw this thought out there about exercise -- I think that the HEAT contributes to a lot of us in the South not getting outside to exercise too. Ya think?? Very interesting article indeed. Also -- thank you for sharing your experience at church :D. I am not a church goer persay but I do have my time with the man upstairs and I consider myself spiritual in a way. It was a talk with Him 2 weeks ago that turned my light bulb on and got me on this path to getting my body and life under control.

Welcome Kerry!!! Glad to see you here :D. I am so sorry to hear about your losses but I hope that you haven't given up. :(
Is that your dog in your avatar? Too cute! It sounds like you have a good paln going and from your ticker I see that you have come a long way! Very Cool!!

Hope today is a good day for everyone! So far things are going smoothly here today. I'm going to get my laundry started in a few minutes while the baby is asleep and I'll maybe do some cleaning (Yikes!!). I have not lost anything in the last few days but I have not gained at all. I've increased my water intake today as I was backsliding yesterday. Little Logan is haveing such a hard time teething that it was hard to get anything done on monday and tuesday.

Dinner tonight -- what ya'll havin??

Here I think I'll do night #3 with the chicken pouches that Leanne told me about on Sunday. Tonight is chicken with okra for me and broccoli for dh. Put oven at 350 and on a piece of foil put your meat- drizzled with olive oil or seasoning-- and then your veggies on top and then make it into a pouch and bake for 30 to 45 minutes (depends on your meat). we've been having this with salad. Yummy -- thank you Leanne and Christa!!

the slim me
08-24-2005, 03:30 PM
Good afternon, lovely ladies. I have been missing in action for a few days because I had to work and them my grandson (5) insisted on spending the night and when he's here forget about using the computer, or anything else besides play.

I have enjoyed reading all the bio's and getting to know every one.

Leanne, Yes milk glass is depression glass. You're lucky you had some passed down to you, i've had to buy all mine! There are so many different kinds and colors and I think it's all beautiful. I mostly collect the pink and green glass but I do have a few pieces of milk glass. I use it too, not just for show.

It's a perfect day here, the sun is shining and there is a light breeze! I haven't had a chance to exercise yet since I just took my grandson home, but i'll go for a walk this evening. With my book tape, of course. right now i'm listening to James patterson's 4th of july. But I went to the library and got Janet Evanovitch's new one "Eleven on top". Love her books too! So i've got a lot of walking to do. And they do help because I only listen to lthem while I walk. Sometimes I will walk an extra mile because i dodn't want to stop listening!

I can surely relate to the bathroom thing! When the kids are over I never go to the bathroom without one of them knocking on the door "mema, are you in there?"

Nice talking to Y'all, have a good day! Freda

08-24-2005, 05:25 PM
HI! I'd love to join the Southern Bandwagon!

I am new to this site and thought this would be a great place to start.

My name is Melissa, I'm 27. I have been married to my DH, Chris, for a little more then 9 years. I have three wonderful sons, Neal (7), Jacob (3), and Zachary (2)....and my little girl, Petunia (a 3 month old English Bulldog).

I have always battled my weight, and some how it alwasy seems to win. I was never considered "fat" by my friends, yet I could never share thier clothes. :( It was tough growing up like that. In high school I was my smallest at 160lbs and that, on my frame, is perfect to me. I want to return to that but have never been motivated and ready. I'm ready now. Ready to finally be healthy rather then just thin. And my motivation is boobs and a tummy tuck. :o I have set my goal at 175, giving my self a realistic goal after birthing three big ole baby boys.

I'm down 11lbs from where I started and very goal oriented. I have changed my eating habits, as well as portion sizes. I have also returned to the gym. I have also just started to try something I read about in Woman's World, drinking a glass of metamucil 15 minutes before my meals to help fill me up and to bind with my food so that my body won't absorb as much of the bad stuff.

I work in the book industry, doing sales support and trade shows for a remainer/overstock distributor. I love to dance, shop, and entertain.

BTW, I LOVE boiled peanuts and have many times convinced my DH to take a Sunday drive just to find them. Grits I can live without, and sweet tea I can give or take....but I have to have my cokes. But to my defense, I have successfully converted over to diet and haven't looked back.

No, I'm Sweet Tea
08-25-2005, 12:11 AM
Welcome Melissa!
Umm hmmm I lurvee those boiled peanuts too! My dad use to bring me home a small bag every friday from work. Some little old man use to come by his work and sell them. I haven't had them in awhile now. I *am* really starting to miss that sweet tea 10 days into Phase 1! Maybe I can convince Sara to make some with Splenda for when me and sis ride over there tomorrow night for our monthly family dinner! :crossed:

Freda - thanks for letting me know about the milk glass. I am actually looking to sell all of it, but not sure how to go about finding the value of any of it. Any suggestions?

Sara - your welcome about the foil packets! What I love best about those is that there is virtually NO clean up! That is great!! LOL

Well ladies, I had a good day. Work was nothing short of chaos this morning but that's a print deadline for ya when the power goes out!! Makes for a fun day :dizzy: LOL! Following the lifestyle change well and calling Sara everyday to make sure she is feeling good too. Looking forward to our together dinner tomorrow and getting to spend some time together! :beach:

the slim me
08-25-2005, 09:21 AM
Good morning every one, It's a lovely, cool day here! I'm actally looking forward to getting out and walking this morning! I may even need long sleves!

ny3suns; I have never heard of the metamucil thing, but i'm going to try it! It sure can't hurt and may actually help. More fiber is always good!

No, I'm sweet tea: There are books you can get at the library that will give you the value. If your local library doesn't have them they will get them for you. You might also try e-bay.
there are so many different types, hobnail, grape....What kind of pattern do you have?

Sarah, Thanks for the recie. Quich, easy, tasty, no cleanup. It's a win, win!

Take care, have a great day, Freda

08-25-2005, 09:48 AM
OK I found the Metamucil article in the March 15, 2005 edition of Woman's World. Here are the key points it hit on:

Low-cal dieters who used fiber supplements lost 83% more weight then those who consumed the same calories but didn't not take the supplement.

Those who took a fiber supplement 30 minutes before a meal at 25% less. Why? Once swallowed fiber instantly begins expanding to four times it's original size. triggering the release of a "stop eating" hormone called CCK.

Fiber slows digestion of carbs, preventing sudden changes in blood sugar that can cause hunger to return too quickly.

Fiber speeds the passage of food through your digestive track allowing less time for calories to be absorbed.

Fiber stabalizes blood sugar reducing cravings.

As stored fat is burned it releases trapped toxins that can overlaod the liver causing weightloss to stall. Fiber binds to the toxins and carries them out of the body.

The article recommends Metamucil, but says you could use Benefiber or Citrucel. It also says that powder supplements go to work more quickly then capsules.

08-25-2005, 11:26 AM
but I have to have my cokes I'm sooooo glad to find someone who shares my addiction. Everyone else around here talks about how they used to drink a case a day but the day they decided to lose weight they just stopped buying them and never missed it again. How does everybody do that??? I still allow myself 1-2/day. I know that if I didn't I'd just start right back up as soon as I got down to where I want to be so what's the use in that. I haven't switched to diet. I'm saving that as a last resort.:dizzy:

My name is Julia and I am a coke-aholic:o

08-25-2005, 11:34 AM
I have to have the caffine or I get killer headaches (can you say addicted?) But I sacrificed fully loaded for diet. And now I only drink one or two a day - diet - as opposed to five or six a day - regular - that's how I lost my first 5 lbs, lol.

08-25-2005, 11:58 AM
Oh I had a lot of trouble giving up the Coke too. :devil: I think that regular Coke was at least half my problem in gaining weight. I drank about 5-7 a day. :o I read "Fat World" and learned about high-fructose corn syrup and was so appalled that I started weaning myself right then. I first moved to C2, which made it easier and only had 2/day. Then they came out with the diet Coke with Splenda and I switched to that. Now I have about 2 of those a day at the most and I'm happy :) Now I won't lie and say that I don't have a regular Coke once in awhile or a sip from DH, but only a total of about 1-2 per week now. MUCH better and I attribute this major change to a lot of the weight loss and maintenance.

Thank God for Splenda as I HATE aspertame. :lol:

08-25-2005, 12:01 PM
Oh yeah and. . .

<----- this is my big baby girl: Bella. She's a sweetie and went on a weight loss program with me. She's dropped about 8 lbs and has met her goal at just under 100 lbs at 99. :D

08-25-2005, 12:25 PM
We have a 3 year old female Rottie named Kat (short for Katstrophic) and a 3 year old female Chocolate Lab.........but they are DH's.

08-25-2005, 12:34 PM
I've been drinking Diet Coke. I didn't have much trouble converting. I was actually given a regular Coke by mistake the other day and I swear it was like drinking sugar water. MMMMM, sugar water. For as yucky as it seemed it still took every once of will power I had to go back and get diet instead. I mean, WHAT is in that stuff that makes it so darn hard to give up?

Yep, Mississippi is fat alright. Those studies used to really frustrate me. First of all, at 214 pounds I only saw skinny people. We'd be ranked number 1 and I'd be looking around thinking where are all the other fat people? I figured they had to be somewhere because I didn't take the survey but I honestly felt like I was the only obese person in the state. Then, I'd feel bad for being a part of the problem. I hated being reduced to a statistic. Now that I'm at a healthier weight I'm not quite so bothered by the results. I don't fear telling someone I'm from Mississippi and worry that they'll be thinking, so SHE'S they are at the top of the list.

As for the fiber study, it has proven to be true for me. A couple of months ago I began using a couple of tablespoons of Benefiber each day. I'll stir it into my coffe, cereal or oatmeal. I can really tell a difference. I don't think it is making me lose weight and I don't buy the toxins theory but I'm not nearly as bloated (a feeling I didn't even know I had until I wasn't anymore. LOL). And it does make a difference in how full I feel and for how long a meal sticks with me. I know that actual food is a better source of fiber but I find it difficult to get all that I need and stay within my calorie range so a supplement is my best bet until I reach my goal. At that point I think I'll be able to add a hundred or so more calories and get all the fiber I need from what I eat.

I've been away from the gym for a couple of days thanks to a sore throat, cough, etc. but I think by this afternoon I'll be able to at least manage a short workout. I'm always surprised by how much I miss exercise when it isn't part of my day. The weights are what I really, really hate to do without. I can tell such a difference so fast if I skip those. Anyway, it will be good to get back down to business. I'm also going to try and manage 1200-1300 calories for the next few days. I've done pretty well foodwise but I think I need to kick start myself again and really pay attention. I don't have to pay much attention at a 1500-1600 calorie level so an occasional reduction of calories helps me keep my focus.

Hope you are all having a great week. Everybody keep up the good work!


the slim me
08-25-2005, 01:10 PM
Hi again, I got my exercise in for the day! I went walking this morning and then went to garage sales and walked blocks again! I just have to lift my weights now and I'll be set. I'm working on drinking my water too, but so far it's coffee mostly! I get headaches if I don't get caffeene too! Migraines that make me end up in bed! Or emergency! Yeah, I am truely addicted! I have cut down drastically though, and without the headaches. I switched to Lite Coffee, which is half decafe. Every little bit helps.

I know ther are a lot of dog lovers here. My niece called me from Virginia to tell me that her dog (a little Shih Tzu) had an eye infection and she had to take him to the vet. The vet told her that the groomer (2 days earler) had poked him in the eye with the grooming scissors! He has to have surgery now and may still loose the sight in that eye! I would be ready to do great bodilly harm! She is reluctant to say anything to the groomer!!! The very least the groomer could do is pay the bill! Our dog is our little baby and to think of someone hurting him just makes me see red!

08-25-2005, 01:49 PM
OUCH! Poor little furbaby!

Sweet Tea
08-25-2005, 02:06 PM
Howdy Melissa!! Thank you for the info on the Metamucil/fiber before meals :). I'm gonna give that a try. If anything, the extra fiber will do me some good and it's recommended on the south beach WOE anyway.

Ya'll are making me want a soda this morning!! :coffee2: I'll jut make due with my coffee though. I shoulda got a diet Dr. Pepper while I was at walmart. Shucks!! :) For some reason I just can't bring myself to dring diet coke. it has a funny aftertaste to me and I would much rather have the the real thing. Last time I did have a regular cok though it made my teeth feel funny. Weird...

Oh My, Slim Me -- poor little doggie. I agree that the groomer should be told about what his slip up has caused

Tricia -- you made me LOL at the Mississippi thoughts! when I read about the weight problems in GA I had a similar reaction. then I went ot Walmart and saw where all us bigguns were hiding. Oh My!

Today I'm cleaning house a bit and getting ready for Leanne and Christa to come over this evening for dinner (No, I'm sweet tea and fatchck). Laundry is also calling my name. It's a bit cooler here today so I'm hoping to get outside this afternoon with the kids after ulia gets home from school. I can't wait until fall gets here though so that we can spend a lot more time outside.

I'm down another 1/2 lb today. YAY! My goal for the rest of the week and weekend is to get under the 200 lb mark. I am finishing up week two on phase 1 of south beach. I think I'' be taking a look at the phase 2 updated list later today to see what would be smart things to add in. I think the only thing that I miss so far are the low carb/whole wheat tortilla wraps.

Anyway -- hope you all are having a good afternoon. I'll be back around this way later!

08-25-2005, 04:51 PM
We started using our break time wisely this afternoon. We're going to walk the warehouse once on our morning break and once on our afternoon break. Not sure how far it is, we'll know tomorrow, but it takes 15 minutes. The girls were whining, but then when we got back I said "now wasn't that better then just sitting here drinking soda and snacking?" and they all agreed it was. So now we'll do it twice a day!

08-25-2005, 07:11 PM
So great to see everyone! Don't laugh, but I haven't been posting because my husband has been working from home for a couple of days, and I don't want him to see the little bar at the bottom of my posts! lol The man knows what I look like.. but I don't want him to know the actual number :P I've only been married to him for 5 years, I don't think I know him well enough to tell him my weight LOL just all you guys on the internet :P

oops...gotta run, will hopefully chat tomorrow!


No, I'm Sweet Tea
08-25-2005, 11:08 PM
ejm - you truly made me laugh with that - but only because thats kinda cute..LOL! Welcome back and don't stay away too long anymore!

Freda - I actually haven't looked at the glass in about a year. I will open up that box and try to see what pattern it is to let you know, ok. I will get into it this weekend. Thanks for your help!

About that Metamucil...I talked to Sara tonight and my sis and I are going to get some and try that. I think it will help and I need all the help I can get!

Tonight my sis and I went over to Sara's for dinner. Our friends Chris and Aaron also met us over there. We call this our "monthly family dinner". I don't have a scale at home, so I wait until I go over to Sara's to weigh myself. Well..I haven't weighed since last wed or so I think it was. I have now lost a total of 10 lbs! Now I feel like I am getting somewhere!! YAY!!

We had a great dinner tonight and it was alot of fun. Sara had found a recipe for meatballs for Phase 1 and we had that with salad. The men at the house had pasta with theirs :?: but that's ok, we did just fine without it! It was sooo very good and I have a feeling Sara will be posting about it soon as well.

This weekend I hope to get some walking in, even if it is just going around Target. I have been trying to do this a few times a night but I have to have the buggy to help me until I get this herniated disk situation worked out. Atleast I am trying and getting some walking done tho and I feel good about that!

Enjoy your evenings ladies!

the slim me
08-26-2005, 09:25 AM
Good morning to you all, It looks like rain this morning and I hope we do get some. It's dry and we need it bad. I'll be cooped up in the house, but I'll find something to do.

My3suns, Good for you for making the most ofl your time at work and walking. I try to walk around the building when I work (when I actually get a break) and I climb the stairs, all 7 floors. Every little bit helps, right. And if you walk around twice and it's 15 min. each, you've got your 30 min in!

EJM, I don't know if my husband of (almost 40, our anniversary is the 31's of this month) knows how much I weigh. I wouldn't care, but I doubt that he does either. He likes women with "a little meat on the bone". So I get no encouragement when I'm on a diet.

Leanne, You lost 10 lib.? That is so great! You must be feeling pretty good by now. That is a major accomplishment. And I know you've made some healthy changes. I have a bad back too, I think I mentioned that before. I just have bulging discs. It's enough to give me major back pain almost all the time. Are the Dr's thinking surgery? Even if they do, looseing weight will make every thing go better.

Sweet Tea, Your dinner sounds like a winner. How wonderful to have family and friends to go through this with.

Everyone have a good day, Freda

08-26-2005, 09:34 AM
That regular family dinner sounds great. I love stuff like that!

ejm, it makes me blush to let DH see my weight too.

Leanne, 10 lbs!!! You rock girl! Keep up the good work!

As for me, I'm feeling super motivated. Took the babies on a bike ride last night for about 45 minutes around the subdivision and to the park, then took about 10 minutes to get back home, so almost an hour! They loved it and I felt sooooooo good! That good ole muscle burn it's been too long since I last felt!

On the Metamucil, I have found that if I take it about 30 minutes before eating and drink a glass of water during that 30 minutes, it REALLY makes me a lot less hungry!

No, I'm Sweet Tea
08-26-2005, 11:04 AM
Thanks ladies! :cb:

I feel great and ready to keep moving! Having my sister (fatchk) and Sara (Sweet Tea) by my side helps more than anyone could imagine!

Sara bought some Metumucil and said that it also helped her with her hunger. I think she told me she took it like 30 min before lunch. So..I will be picking up some of this tonight and trying it tomorrow!

slim me - I have a bulging disk in L4/L5. I have just finished the physical therapy. I thought it was starting to help and then I got worse again. The therapist told me that she didn't know anything else to try :( From talking with the Dr. before I started PT it seems the next thing he will want to try is the Epidurals (YUCK!) and if that doesn't work - he will send me to a neurosurgeon. No one wants surgery but if its all that is going to work then let's just do it and get it overwith! I have very little back pain but my right leg from my butt down to my toes is in much pain! Which disk is bulging with you?

08-26-2005, 11:41 AM
Isn't there such a thing as getting TOO much fiber? I'd be afraid if I had it 3X/day (before each meal) I'd start getting constipated or something! LOL :lol:

ejm~ I know EXACTLY what you hubby DOES NOT know my weight, and I won't even put 3FC on my favorites bar b/c I don't want him to click on it and see. LOL He hasn't know my exact weight since I was 112 lbs! :o

08-26-2005, 11:59 AM
The article actually said no, that there's not, because I wondered that too. Most of the time you don't get all the fiber you should just by foods, not even close. And if you're watching carbs then you certainly aren't getting what you need. A supplement is the only way.

Sweet Tea
08-26-2005, 01:02 PM
Melissa --The extra fiber really does make really good sense. In teh SB book the Doc even suggests taking the metamucil everyday to get your extra fiber in. My BIL has been taking it for the past year or so and he swears that it does make him feel better and makes his system work more efficiently.

ejm -- I honestly wish that my dh didn't know how much I weighed. But my weight is a big issue to him and I slipped up a while ago so now he knows. I make sure he knows how much I am losing though. I also get onto him about he weight -- he is not a large fellow but he has about 20lbs to take off that he gained during my last pregnancy. I actually didn't gain at all through it. Nice trade off!! :D

Freda -- We've got some rain here too :rain:. It's making me tired but I'm trying to keep movin around! Hope you are doing well today!!

Tricia -- How are you doin' today?? How is your 1st grader doing? Are your twins in preschool or anything? I can't wait to get Beren in preschool. he is so dissapointed when we take Julia to her class 'cause he wants to stay!

Faye and Kerry?? -- how are you doing too??

All is well here :). I'm wishing we had some of theose leftovers from last night. Very yummy stuff. I'm drinking my water and fiber right now and thenI'm off to fix Beren his lunch.


Question -- Do you have a treat planned out for yourself when you finally reach your goal weight? Like new clothes, a trip, some pampering, etc... Also -- do you set mini goals for yourself and if so do you think it's a good motivator?

08-26-2005, 01:07 PM
Ah yes, sure do Sweet Tea! My original break 200lb goal was a tattoo, but I went ahead and got that two weeks ago when my best friend was in town from Indiana. So I've gotta come up with a new one for that since it's only 6lbs away. For my 1/2 way point it this swim suit I've eyed for 3 years

And when I reach my goal, it's boobies/lipo/tummy tuck! Now that's a reward worth working towards!!!!

the slim me
08-26-2005, 01:28 PM
Leanne, I had to be different, I have bulging disc L2 L3. The most common ones are L4L5. I've been through the rehab also. Helped some but the pain comes right back. I even had the steroid epidurals, 3 different times. They come in a series of three shots. They did help but the last time I took them the I got a spinal leak and had a headache for a week. We're not talking normal headache here either, more like the headache from ****! I don't know why he didn't take me back in and do a patch and at the time I wasn't thinking too well. My back hurts and it also hurts down my leg, but mostly my leg is numb. I know i'm getting some nerve damage there because at night my leg just kills me and I can't sleep. I know that surgery is an option but I haven't gotten to that point yet! Did I tell you i'm a rehab nurse?

Sweet Tea
08-26-2005, 01:36 PM
That's awesome Melissa! Very cute swimsuit too :). :beach:

What was your tattoo of? When I reach goal I am going to get the tattoo that I have been wanting for years. I had not even thought of clothes or anything yet. My DH says that we should start saving so that I can get the tummytuck/boobies/lipo if I want to do that. I know where his mind is in all this!

Sweet Tea
08-26-2005, 01:39 PM
Freda --- your back sounds just like Leanne's painwise. Especially with the trouble sleeping.

Poor Girls :). I bet I get more sleep than ya'll and I'm up with the baby a lot at night.

08-26-2005, 01:46 PM
It's a little ladybug on my right shoulder. I want a larger one, something to represent my 3 boys on my lower back. I didn't know if I could hack the pain, so that's why I got my little one first just to see. It wasn't too bad. There were times I was thinking "just move over a little" from him coloring one spot too long but definately not unbearable.

What's your tat going to be?

08-26-2005, 04:22 PM
Hello ladies! :wave:

I've tamed my ways, gotten back on the wagon and lost a pound this week! Woo Hoo! This weekend is going to be hard bc it is DH's birthday Sunday. So we'll be going out to eat and I've promised to make his favorite breakfast of sausage gravy and biscuits. I don't know where he wants to go out to yet, but I'm sure it will be deliciously tempting. I'll just try not to eat too much. ;)

Today I indulged in a very "good for you" southern treat - a nicely sweet peach. YUM!! Of course now I want to go home and drink peach daquaris. I'm so bad!!

We got our new Lazboy recliner today and we're putting up window treatments this weekend. I can't wait! I gotta get DH behind the paint brush again soon and get some color on those walls too.

Have a great weekend ladies!

08-26-2005, 04:24 PM
Every room needs some color! Good luck getting DH in gear!

Sending you ~*~eat healthy~*~ vibes for this weekend!

Sweet Tea
08-26-2005, 07:19 PM
Kerry -- Way to go!! Have a great weekend! Hope your DH's bday goes well too. I'm scared of the next bday around here. Cake is just too tempting :yikes:.

Melissa -- I love the lady bug!! Too cute :cool:. I want to get an art nouveau inspired piece on my back/shoulder area. I think in black and white. I love art nouveau women figures and love the beauty of them. I've always wanted a representation of my ideal in a tattoo. In a way it's my way of being beautiful. I love Mucha so I want something similar to this:

Mucha pic (

or like this (

I have a more exact pic but I just lent out the book it is in.

Off to finish making dinner!

08-26-2005, 10:04 PM
Hi ladies.. Just wanted to add my 2 cents in on your back troubles.. dont be afraid of the surgery... i had 3 discs done.. and have never had any pain since i woke up from surgery! Everyone told me .. dont let them mess with your back.. But it was the best thing i ever did! and I feel for ya...

cuz that pain runs right down ur butt and into your knees..... shew... i remember that.. i know what u mean... dont give me no shots ... just make it stop hurting!!!!!!!!!

No, I'm Sweet Tea
08-27-2005, 12:09 AM
Evening ladies! :wave:
I hope that everyone had a great day!

Melissa - I love that ladybug! They are my 2nd love, next to the butterfly! I am thinking that when I reach my goal, I will go get a tattoo with Sara. I have one already on my lower back and fear that if I don't lose weight that the butterfly wings will end up on my butt cheeks! :lol:

curly & slim me - thanks for the info about your backs too! Its comforting knowing that I am not alone. I know exactly what you mean about not being able to sleep! My right leg cramps and aches and keeps me up many nights. I hope the end is drawing near.

slim me - I didn't see that you were a rehab nurse! HELP! :dizzy: LOL!

Loud Librarian - great job on losing that pound! Keep it up!! :bravo:

Sara - I definatly think that art nouveau style is the way for you to go, those books have some beautiful work in them and are inspiring Chris to design sis's new tattoo! Oh and yes those meatballs were ummm umm good!

I hope everyone has a great night and weekend! Remember - eat healthy and have a great time!

Oh and loud librarian - good luck on that Bday cake!! :hb:

08-27-2005, 09:21 AM
i have been wanting a tat for my birthday... i found a really cute one last night online.. google tattos and u will find lots of sites with samples...

OH and try the thera-heat pads on your back at night... they last all night.. and help a lot!!!

08-27-2005, 12:16 PM
Happy Saturday!

Boy, can I relate to not wanting your husbands to see know your weight. I've threatened to put one of those review mirror things on my computer because he always sneaks up behind me and I'm afraid he'll catch a glimpse of my ticker. I close windows down so fast the poor guy probably thinks I'm looking at porn or something. :lol:

Sweet Tea: 1st grade is going great so far, thanks for asking. DS will have his first test (spelling) next week. It is the strangest thing watching him learn. I've watched him develop all along, of course. But there is something different about seeing him learn in such a structured way. I think he will do well in school. The twins aren't in preschool. We've thought about it, but I quit work so that I could stay home with them so I don't feel right packing them up and sending them off. But, I worked up until about two and a half years ago. If they had never been in any kind of school setting I wouldn't hesitate to enroll them. I guess I sort of feel like I am making up for lost time by keeping them home for now. I do wish I'd put them in some sort of mother's morning out program - but that is for my sanity more than their learning experiences. ;)

I am skipping the gym today and going shopping instead. I can't wait. I probably won't buy anything because I am hoping to be down a size by the time cooler weather rolls around. Still, I always get a jolt of motivation by trying on clothes these days. It is so much fun not having to shop in the Plus sizes. My brain still hasn't caught up with my body and I still always expect to be in the 16's. It is always a nice surprise to put on an 8 and see that it fits. I remember in Jr. high having a pair of Levi's that were 29 waist. For fun I tried on a pair the other day. They were too tight - way too tight - but they buttoned. That was huge for me. So I am off to see what fashion trends await me!

Hope you all have a great weekend!

Sweet Tea
08-28-2005, 01:55 PM
Curlylocks-- I love the roses! That would be very pretty. Where are you planning on putting it?

Jawsmom-- It is amazing to watch the little ones soak things up in school. Julia is also in 1st grade and she is doing so well. Learning much faster than in kindergarden and she's only been back in for 2 weeks. I think it helps that she has a great teacher this year. Last year her teacher was a bit on the weird side ( and not in fun or interesting way -- just weird). I would love to take part in a mothers morning out program for my middle son. He can't start preschool for another 2 years and I feel he really needs the socialization and social skills.

Kerry -- hope your dh's bday is going well!!

Here all is good. We cooked Dinner over at Leanne's last night and it was great fun :D. I'm still not down any more in lbs but I am feeling good and I am going to work in my exercise this week while Julia is in school.

Well, baby Logan is crying so I'll have to check back in later ! Love to all!!!

08-28-2005, 07:02 PM
Tattoo umm very lower back, or a hip i think! just wanted to stop in and say that i hope the big guy keeps everyone safe from katrina...

the slim me
08-29-2005, 09:17 AM
Good morning every one. Hope every one had a good weekend and remembered to eat Healthy! I failed big time!!! I worked all weekend (12 hour shifts) and I had a pt. go bad on Saturday so of course I came home and ate! My great stress reliever! I know I should have tried to exercise but it was late and I was exhausted. Got to find another way to handle stress! How do you?

My grand son starts 1'st grade tomorrow. He isn't too thrilled about it because it means less time to see his dad, who works nights. He's a big daddy's boy and cries now because he wants to spend more time with him. We're haveing a hard time adjusting schedules to pick him up after school and may have to do latch key for 1/2 hour. I guess we're going to have come to some decision today! It's thrilling to see him grow up and become so serious about school and sad too because I'm looseing my baby!

jawsmom: I love shopping for new clothes and find that a great incentive! I buy something 1 size too small and use it as my yard stick for weight loss. I try it on every week measure how close I am to wearing it! And remember while you're in the mall: no esculators, take the stairs!

Have a good day all, check in later, Freda

08-29-2005, 05:53 PM
Made it through the weekend, hitting they gym once, taking a long bike ride, and eating good. Down 2 more lbs! WOOHOO!

No, I'm Sweet Tea
08-29-2005, 08:53 PM
Hello ladies!

Well, we did have a great dinner with Sara and her family last saturday night so that was twice last week - what a treat! I love when we can all get together like that.

Things are going fine here. We have moved on to phase 2 but I am very leary of adding anything in as far as carbs and stuff Just scared that's all. It will pass I'm sure.

I still feel great but I am really craving sweet tea. Oh how I miss you sweat tea!!! :stress: After going over to Sara's last week and having the tea with splenda I thought - "****, this is alot better nothing!" It really isn't that bad. Sure we are spoiled down here but it was decent tasting so my sis and I broke down and she bought us a bag of splenda so I could make tea tonight :lol: We are still drinking plenty of water but both needed a break from the dt. sodas.

Well, dinner is beeping in the oven so I'm off! I hope that everyone is doing great! :p

No, I'm Sweet Tea
08-29-2005, 08:54 PM
Oh and Melissa - Congrats on getting anpther 2 lbs down!! HOORAY!

08-30-2005, 12:49 AM
Hope y'all have room for one more.

My name is Jenn and I live in Alvarado, TX. I moved here after I lived one year in Georgia. I am originally from Pennsylvania, but have alway had family in the South. I am married to a true and blue Yankee, but I love him anyways. We have three dog-sons and two cats. I am currently a case manager for mental ******ation, but looking for a new job.

As for Southern treats that I can't pass up, BBQ ribs and sweet tea. I also enjoy eating out at the many Mexican restaurants out here.

I have had a weight issue almost all my life. I went from being a normal size kid in the class room picture in Kindergarten to one of the larger girls in 1st grade. I have been trying to lose weight off and on ever since. It seems that everytime a hit a new high weight I start losing weight. Then the steam kind of fizzles out, I gain weight and the cycle repeats. My last bad point came at the end of 2004 when I got on the scale and weighed 284. My husband and I both went on a low-carb, low-fat diet that we created through Atkins, South Beach, and other such diets. I lost a total of50 - 60 pounds ( Depending on the day of the week and such) and my husband lost 70.
I then changed jobs, and everything else came to a halt. I have been off the diet for about three months and have held around 218 - 220. Unfortunately, I got back on the scale today and I weighed 224. I am trying to get myself back into the rythm so I can finish losing the rest of this weight.

08-30-2005, 09:13 AM
Welcome Jenn! WOW 64 lbs, that's great! I bet with a little motivation and rededication you'll be seeing that scale keep on moving down in no time!

08-30-2005, 10:01 AM
Dh's birthday was good, I know he enjoyed it :) We ate our way through it though :o I did order the chicken with my ribs instead of steak and didn't finish anything. But I was bad on Sat too and had bbq. I have no willpower on the weekends. Then last night I had chocolate chip cookies - BAD bad bad! :devil: I checked the scale this morning and no gain. Whew! I think being good through the week and during the day pays off. Oh and the no sugary drinks thing seems to be key with me.

I honestly think I am still in a funk after the miscarriage last month. I can't seem to get back into any groove and I am dreading the surgery next month. I guess I am feeling sorry for myself and of course treating myself to some of my favorite foods to make it better. :( I really need to lose these 5 pounds in the next couple months bc I won't be able to diet when doc puts me back on the fertility drugs to get pg in Oct. Geez, my life is so ruled by my desire to have a family. :stress:

It sounds like you SB ladies are doing good! Keep it up!

the slim me
08-30-2005, 10:06 AM
HI Every one and welcome Jenn!
Jenn, How awsome that you were able to loose that much weight! I know the yo-yo syndrome well though. It's the same with me. I loose and then I regain. I've decided that diets don't work in the long run and I've changed over to eatin healthy and working out and just basically changing my life style. If you start eating the way you always did the minute you loose the weight it's just going to come right back! It's working well so far. I'm focusing on health, but if you eat healthy and watch portions the weight will come off! And since this is a life style change, hopefully this time it will stay off.

Hey girls, I envy you the family dinners! That is so nice to have someone right there to motivate you. I don't think the splenda is bad either. I use it for almost everything. How do you plan the dinners? Do you make one dinner for everyone (husbands included) or make different dishes for yourselves? Actually cooking healthy wouldn't hurt the whole family, kids included, would it?

I've tried the heat patches for the back and they don't do much. I have seen the rehab doctors at work prescribe lidicane patches for the patients at work and they seem to help some. I'm going to ask them to give me a script for some and try them out. As for surgery, I know it does help a lot of people. But with the work I do, I just see the bad ones come through! It's enough to scare me off. And My Aunt has had 2 surgery's and has developed scar tissue and Isn't a good candadate for another, which she needs! But, you gotta know, nurses and doctors are the worst patients imaginable!

My SIL (school teacher) got a tattoo on her ankel last year. My brother, her husband, tried to get me to go with him and get one "a bonding experience". I told him I just didn't like him that much! (I love him dearly, of course). My SIL did say that she wishes she hadn't gotten the tattoo on her ankel because it got too many comments from parent and she wished she had gotten one she could cover up untill she was ready to show it. It's really cute, vines and flowers around her ankel. But I understand her point about being a problem looking professional at parent-teacher conferences!

Hope you guys are safe from Katrina! We're supposed to get a little back lash up here in Michigan! I've seen the damage it has done farther down South! Devistating!

Take care, Freda

the slim me
08-30-2005, 10:08 AM
P.S. kerry, My brother and SIL, had fertality treatments and now have a beautiful baby boy, born 2 weeks ago! So good luck and work hard!

08-30-2005, 10:56 AM
Kerry I just wanna reach through and give you a big ole hug. BTDT and it's a hard row to hoe. Now I'm watching a dear friend of mine go through the same experience. I wish you the best of luck and will add you to my prayers that you will have that family you so desire.

Freda, that's exactly why I got my tat on my shoulder. I can choose when it's exposed. Same will go for my next one. I don't have a problem with tats at all, but to me, there are right places/times for a lady to show them.

Sweet Tea
08-30-2005, 01:31 PM
Afternoon Ladies!!

Welcome Jenn!! Wow 64 down is awesome! We're all there with you on trying to get back into the momentum of losing. I agree with Freda in that it is a lifestyle change we are all after, not a diet. Together we can do it!!! I'm so glad that you have joined us :D.

Kerry -- (((BIG HUGS))) You have been through so much and I am so sorry about your loss. You deserve time to mourn and heal after your loss. I know we all will be sending you good luck vibes in the coming months!!

Freda -- For the family dinners we usually figure out which night works for everyone and we split the grocery list for the meal up. We try to use what we have on hand too. For the most part we cook one meal for everyone but, where appropriate, we'll add a carb item/dish that pleases the kids and the guys that aren't doing SB eatin'. SO far so good :). I would love for the kids to eat more veggies with us but we are working on that. My daughter is the stubborn one. Hope you dont' get any tornados up there in MI!!! Also -- let us know how your grandson's first day at school goes!!

Melissa -- Congrats on the weight loss and doing so awesome this weekend!! You are inspiring me to move my butt today!!!

All is well here today -- I have two kids with colds and one who is just a bit on the demanding side today for some reason. I'm feeling good though and I am working on my calorie counts today since I have not seen a change on the scale in a few days. I was up a bit but lowering my sodium and upping my water is really helping :). I had been eating well but not watching the sodium for the last week. I'll kick this plateau though!!!

Do ya'll have plans for the long weekend?
Will anyone be grilling?
Do you have a favorite grilling recipe?

Off topic question -- if you had $100 in your pocket right now and HAD TO blow it on something fun, not on anything practical like gas or bills :), what would you buy???

Also -- if you could make any celebrity chubby for a little while so that they could get a taste of the "other side" who would it be??? I have to answer this one with Paris Hilton or Tara Reed. I think reading the US magazine has made me spiteful this morning! Please forgive me!!

08-30-2005, 03:21 PM
:coach: Get that butt movin' Sweat Tea! :lol:

As for weekend plans, my uncle is getting married Saturday, so that's where I'll be. We will probably grill out, we usually do on the weekends, weather permitting. Maybe we'll do chicken this week. We've done pork ribs and steaks the last two times. No favorite recipies, that's DH's domain.

$100 in my pocket? I'm probably hire a sitter and go out dancing with the girls. Or maybe try priceline for a cheap ticket to visit my friend in Indiana.

Jessica Simpson, not doubt. Paris, that's a good one!

08-30-2005, 04:03 PM
Thanks girls :) You're so sweet. We can use all the prayers and positive thoughts in the world through this. It is so emotional and VERY hard not to just binge on sweets. I have a serious sweet tooth and I like to bake to destress, but I'm trying to keep from it. I must be strong! I just keep telling myself that I'm going to be pg and put on weight so I need to keep it off now while I can.

I wish I had a tattoo... all the times I almost did and then backed out! I really like your ladybug! Too cute!

If I had $100 - I'd buy clothes and shoes! I've always been a clothes horse but I've been changing sizes so much I have no idea what to buy! Luckily I saved lots of pants and skirts that fit nicely now.

As far as making someone famous fat - I'm with you on the Paris!! I'd like to see Meg Ryan blow up! LOL! :lol: I just hate how cute and perfect she is all the time.

No, I'm Sweet Tea
08-30-2005, 08:02 PM
Evening ladies! I just hate that I can't really get on here until night time for being so busy at work! Sounds like everyong is doing fairly well and that is good news!

Kerry - I am also sorry for your loss. I know it must be very hard for you. Sara is right, you do need time to mourn but you know that we are all here for you anytime that you need to talk. If you need to buddy up - just hollar! :p

Jenn - welcome welcome! Of course there is room for one more! Even twelve more! 64 lbs gone from you is a real inspiration to me! When I read ppls stories on here it helps me believe that I can do it to!

Today was fine for me. Since are in phase 2 now of the SBD, sis and I both added in one light whole wheat english muffin for breakfast this morning. Needless to say it left us far less satisfied that 2 slices of deli turkey (or boiled egg) and string cheese that we normally have at breakfast time so when our friends Chris and Aaron come over tonight we are handing them off to them so they don't go to waste becuase I don't think we are going to eat them - atleast not just yet. :lol: For the first time since we started the SBD today I felt myself become hungry between meals. I didn't like that and I faught it and I won! :flow2: It did help me remember that every day won't feel as easy to me as the first 2 weeks did. We have quite a long road to travel but I know we can all do it! I have faith!

Freda - Sara beat me to the family dinner part but its so much fun for everyone. Not to mention I get more time with her kids who know me and sis as Aunt Leanne and Aunt Christa. When they hug me it just makes my heart smile. I can't even imagine what it will be like when I have my own! Like Sara said - we just pick a night that is good for everyone. Lately it seems that thursday is that night. We pull together our scraps in the fridge and see what we can make of them :p We are thinking maybe of making this thursday another family night since Sara and her family will be gone all weekend.

No grillin plans for me as of yet. I may be able to persuade the guys into grilling some chicken or something. Those boys need to stop trying to tempt me with ice cream and pizza!! I haven't given in yet tho - GO ME!!

$100 - oh man! I just have no idea. Most likely go to the mall and buy misc things I don't need but have been wanting for a long time :D

As for the celibrity - I gotta agree on Paris Hilton 100%. I would love to see her Chub up a bit :lol: Lindsey Lohan also - let's give her a few cupcakes ladies, shall we?? Oh man...I am so bad!! :tape:

Time for a group hug ladies, tomorrow is hump day!!! :grouphug:

08-31-2005, 12:48 AM
Thanks for the warm welcome.

Kerry, you should go get the tattoo if you want it. I know many people who have received a tattoo to help them through the rough time. I have a lizard crawling up my left calf. I got it when my Dad was have the cancer removed from his lung. In many Native American cultures the lizard is a sign of hope and dreams. (On a more personal and whimsical side, lizards eat bugs and I despise bugs). One of my closest friend had a still-born for her first child. The nurse at the hospital did not save any pics for her of her newborn. One of the first things that she did was receive a tattoo with a baby angel sleeping on the clouds with her son's name and date of birth under it. The tattoo really helped her to grow and heal through the grief. Also, never give up on having a baby. My husband and I have been told that we may not be able to have children, but we feel that if it is meant to happen it will regardless of what the medical people say. So keep your chin up and stay positive (stress also lowers your chances of getting pregnant).

the slim me
08-31-2005, 10:14 AM
Good morning every one, Well, we finally got some rain and cool weather from the storm! we were looking for it and so far it's just a little rain and some welcome relief from the heat! I've alread been outside for my morning walk and since I got most of my work done Monday and Tuesday I actually have a pretty free day. I do want to get a hair cut this morning. It's longer than I usually let it gt because I've been too lazy to go get it cut! My plans for the Holiday are: I am working 12 hours! Of course we will barbacue Sunday. I bought steaks for every one else and chicken breast for me. I always make some grilled vegetables and corn on the cob so I will be happy and not feel deprived while every one else is eating. I also make a huge vegetable tray and a fruit salad.

Sarah, Hope the kids are feeling better. And don't worry about the plateau. We all hit them sooner or later and just be deligent and you will start looseing again! It is annoying though, to work so hard and not see the results. Just think about how healthy you are getting every day!

My 3 suns, hope you have a good time at the wedding. With all the dancing you should get plenty of exercise!

Leanne, My worst time is in the evening! If I could kick that habit I would be thin forever! I eat well all day and the minute I sit down I want something to eat! I know I'm not hungry and it's just a habbit, but those darnits are hard to break! Glad to see that you are winning the battle with your temptations. Gives me incentive to fight mine a little harder.

Jenn, I know we're all praying for you.

Loud Librarian, I love desserts too. Sweets are my down fall. I usually just make soemthing simple like banana pudding made with lite vanilla waffers and banana and jello banana pudding (low fat of couse). I make it in individual servigns in pretty little dessert dishes and top it with fat free whipped cream and feel like I'm having dessert! When I want to make something a little more festive I make this cake.
Make a regular yellow cake mix according to package. I usually use applesauce for half the oil called for
Beat in 1 can mandarian oranges, drained
bake according to directions on box.
Frost with a tub of fat free cool whip, a small box of vanilla instant pudding (low fat of course) and a can of crushed pineapple, undrained!

I take this to work all the time and people have no ideal it's low fat/calorie

If I could make one person fat it would be Paris! What is it about her that is so obnixious!!!

If I had a 100 dollars to spend it would probally be something for the kids. I might just save enough out for a pedicure for me! My nails are a mess with so much handwashing but I love to get a pedicure!

Sweet Tea
08-31-2005, 03:54 PM
Hey Ya'll!! Just popping for a few minutes while the boys nap. All 3 kids now have the school crud Julia got over the weekend. My 2 year old came up to me this morning with a runny nose, saying "Mommy! I have boogers in my nose!! Yum!" I was rolling with laughter. My kids are really nose phobic and I have to practically hold them down to wipe or clean their noses. Why couldn't I have a nose picker??? Oh well, I should be grateful that I don't have to yell at them for picking in public :D.

I was back down to the 10 lbs lost on my ticker today!! YAY!! I did the calorie counter on and figured out that my calories were ok but I was overdoing it on the sodium. I've broken out the mrs dash seasoning and I will pick up the lower sodium salt at the store next time i go. I've set a goal of at least 7 lbs to lose in September. Do any of you have a specific goal for september? Juat wondering...

Well, I'll check back in later!!

Hugs to you all!!!

08-31-2005, 04:35 PM
I just got word that several gas stations in Atlanta have already closed, some here in Athens where I am currently are closing, and some in Gainesville (another large-ish city nearby) have started to close, but not before gas hit $3/gallon!!

The Colonial pipeline that feels gas to Georgia is completely without power, so the governor (Sonny Purdue) just lifted the clean air gasoline mandate and the trucking mandate that doesn't allow them to drive 24 hours so that we can get fuel in the state. Luckily I filled up yesterday morning for $2.55, but the station was still at $2.55 when I came by this morning and I should have topped it off!!

What are we going to do?? I have to drive 40 min to get to work...and there is no public transportation in my area! Everyone just pray that the pipeline gets fixed soon or there are going to be a lot of Georgians out of work b/c they can't get any gas to get there...not just that they can't afford gas, THERE IS NO GAS!!

08-31-2005, 05:15 PM
I know, everyone was rushing out of here to get gas, several of ours have already run out and they are saying it can be 3-4 days before they can get more. Lovely....

08-31-2005, 05:24 PM
This is what we're having for dinner!

Crab-Stuffed Chicken With Parsley Sauce

***you can substitute apple juice for the wine***

6 Boneless, skinless chicken breast halves
4.2 oz Canned crab meat, drained, shredded and cartilage removed
'/4 CUP Dry fine bread crumbs
'/4 CUP Cheddar cheese or Swiss cheese
2 Tbsp Finely chopped red pepper
3 Tbsp White wine
Low-fat chicken bouillon cube.
1/2 CUP Boiling water
1 Bay leaf
3 Tbsp Chopped fresh parsley
1 Tsp Cornstarch
1 Tbsp White wine

Flatten chicken between 2 sheets of plastic wrap to 1/4 inch (6 mm), using flat side of mallet or rolling pin. Combine crab meat, crumbs, cheese and red pepper to make stuffing. Drizzle first amount of wine over chicken to moisten. Put'/4 CUP (60 mL) stuffing in middle of each piece and roll up starting on shorter side, tucking in sides to enclose stuffing. Fasten with wooden picks or tie with butchers 'twine. Sprinkle rolls with salt and pepper. Place in ungreased 2 quart (2 L) casserole dish. Dissolve partial bouillon cube in boiling water in small cup. Pour broth into casserole dish. Add bay leaf and sprinkle parsley over rolls. Bake, covered, in 350F (I 75C) oven for 45 minutes. Remove rolls to platter. Reserve liquid but discard bay leaf. Heat reserved liquid on stove. Combine cornstarch and second amount of white wine in small cup. Slowly whisk into reserved liquid. Boil until slightly thickened. Remove wooden pics from rolls and pour sauce over to serve.

1 chicken roll: 190 Calories; 32 g Protein; 3 g Total Fat (1.1 g Sat., 81.5 mg Cholesterol); 438 mg Sodium

Servings: 6

08-31-2005, 05:37 PM

Sweet Tea
09-01-2005, 12:06 PM
That stuffed chicken sounds good and I don't even like crab much. Do you think it would be good with shrimp?

Savannah had loooooooonnnnnnggg gas lines yesterday as well. I filled up on Tuesday for 2.56 a gallon for regular and yesterday afternoon is was 2.99 at the station next to us and up to 3.10 for regular at a lot of other stations. I made dh fill up last night just beacuse I didn't want to pay more than $3 a gallon for him to top off his tank. It never occured to me to think that there would be a shortage here. The local news last night ans today was all about disspelling rumors about that and about price gouging. I am just glad I got filled up at 2.56 a gal. :(

Watching all the coverage of the heartbreak has made me so grateful for the little things. It also scares me to see how quickly everything you have and hold dear can be gone in an instant. Sorry to be a bummer :(. I'm hoping if I get it out here that I won't get up and go do some emotional eating :(.

(((Big Hugs))) to everyone today!!!!

09-01-2005, 12:59 PM
Re: The Crab Stuffed Chicken

I think next time I fix it I will replace the crab with bacon or ham, my family thought it was ok, but not great. Chris suggested changing crab to another meat, so we'll do that next time.

09-01-2005, 01:01 PM
OH yeah, I wanted to share. A girl I work with is leaving for another job. We bought her a cake, from a favorite local bakery. I ate two bites of a tiny piece and just felt sick. I guess it's been so long since I've had any sort of "real" sweet that my body just said "yuck". So I tossed my piece in the trash and smiled, despite the nausea, knowing I'm making progress.

09-01-2005, 05:32 PM
Did some shopping therapy today. Gosh somebody stop me, I have a serious problem! lol

Just under $21 with Shipping

Just under $17 with Shipping

Sweet Tea
09-01-2005, 05:54 PM
those are very cute tops!!!! I love the green one especially!!
Where did you find them Melissa?

09-01-2005, 06:07 PM
HEY ALL!!!! :wave: I'm a native Louisianian, transplant Texan. Moved here to be with the man of my dreams. I will marrying him October 15th of this year. We have been together almost 7 years.
I am desperate to drop some weight within the next 45 days or so. I want my family members that don't get to see me often that are coming for our small wedding, to see me slim and happy.
I am 5'7", and a muscular 248 lbs. My prior highest weight was 247 when I was prego with my 3 children. I just got to beat it by a pound. I am in a tight size 18 pants; and have been since high school, if you don't count the one time I lost 65 pounds and wore a sexy size 14 and my stepdad called me "SlimJim" when I walked in the door. WOW!!!! :cheer: THAT FELT GREAT!!! But I soon gained it all back PLUS SOME!!!! I really DO NOT like what I see in the mirror. As my fiance says, I'm curvy in all the right places...but I think I've got too many curves in all the wrong places.
I am one of those people who know and have researched for years how to eat and how to lose the weight but have NO willpower. I have seriously thought about going to school to be a nutritionist, but how could I when I look like I do.
All charts and doctors says I should weigh between 125-140 pounds. I could never see myself that small. At 175 I was SOOOO energetic; went dancing up to 4 times a week. I have so much muscle mass from years of body building prior to having children. I, somehow, have retained most muscle. My fat is around midsection and hips and thighs.
I would LOVE to find a buddy to push me and make me get off my butt. I have gotten so tired and depressed about my size that I sleep till noon, most days. PLEASE!!!!!!! HELP ME!!!!!!!! I wish I could find a buddy closer to me to walk with me. I love to go walking. I even have a decent bike to ride. I live out in the country off Hwy 69 in East Texas. I have lots of hwy to walk or have lots of acreage to walk. Any suggestions are VERY WELCOMED.

09-02-2005, 09:14 AM
Hi Wolfntat!!!! Welcome! "SlimJim" yeah that would be super nice to hear! It's great that you have a lot of muscle mass because muscle burns more calories/fat because it takes more to survive. So the more you work at building/toning that the better off you'll be! I split my cardio and weight training, I do the cardio first to "loosen up", then hit the weights. I'm with you on what is "healthy" for our height. I know I'll find myself pleased at 175, but of course when I hit that I'm sure I'll want to keep up the "good work". As far as what to eat, what are your weaknesses? Mine are carbs, so I know I can't do Atkins/SB. I actually am a bit of a rebellion, so I really have a problem with any strict diet. I have to make my own choices. I've found for me it's all about portion control and good choices (apple vs chocolate). Do your reasearch and start with something you think is going to work best for you, then tweak it to "fit" you.

the slim me
09-02-2005, 11:07 AM
Morning everyone, We've got you beat with gas prices. I got lucky and bought gas at 2.99 before it went up to 3.19. There was an economist on tv that said we would see gas prices go to 5.00! That will cut down on a lot of traveling and make a big impact on everything! We depend on trucking for food so that's definateally going to be affected. Almost everything is.....we depend on our cars. I only work about 3 miles from my house and my husband works about 6 so that won't be too terrible, but there will be no recrational driving! Where will it all end up!

My 3 suns, Isn't it a glorious feeling to turn down something you used to love and know it isn't such a temptation any more? I have gotten really pickey about the treats I allow myself. If I take a small piece and find it's not the absolute greates and it's not "worth" the calories, I take one small bite and throw it out. I don't even even feel guilty about throwing away food anymore! Love the green top! Where did you get it?

Welcome wolfntat. Every one here is wonderful and you will get some excellent help! You are lucky to have some muscles! They help burn fat! And you had to work hard at one time to get them!

I feel sick every time I see the people down south that are in such sad condition because of the storm. To feel so helpless to feed your children and to provide such simple things as shelter and necessities. Can you believe crazyies are taking advantage of the situtation by going around shooting people? I guess at this time all we can do is pray for them and give what we can to the Red Cross!

09-02-2005, 11:21 AM
Got 'em on Ebay. :)

09-02-2005, 11:55 AM
Melissa - I had some retail therapy yesterday as well :) I splurged on shoes especially. I also got two new pair of slacks (size 8 :D ) and some new blouses. I have dress up for work and was in dire need with my size changes.

This whole Katrina mess is making me sick. I just can't believe the state of affairs. Gas is running 3.19 here. Ugh!

I need to get back on track. I haven't lost a thing, but I have maintained. I think I'll set my goal to get back on a losing plan next Tuesday when the week starts. It would be impossible for the weekend. DH is a DJ and this is his Friday night of monthly residency at a local club. It's always fun. . . lots of friends and martinis. No way to avoid calories in alcohol. :p

You are all doing so great you're inspiring me. I must do better and I will. . . I promise.

09-02-2005, 12:35 PM
Size 8!!!! Ahhhhhh you're my idol!

09-03-2005, 09:32 PM
HEY ALL!!!! Thank you for a nice greeting. I have looked back at some of your progress and I hope it rubs off on me. I got my suit in today that I am wearing to get married in about 6 weeks. I ordered his and my rings...both should be in in a week. Guess you could say I've got more than my share of shopping therapy. Just wish I had more money to cushion the fall. :cloud9: Budget is getting really tight with the price of gas steadily heading upward around here in East Texas.
We have so many evacuees (refugees if you will) that I don't know what we are going to do around here. Our schools are already over crowded and there are no decent paying jobs. We went to one of the shelters in Nacogdoces and they told us they didn't have time to listen to us...we were offering to take in a family. She took our name and phone number and what we had to offer. If any of you know of anyone in this area, we have 5 RV hookups w/h2o and can take in a family in our home as well. We don't have much else to offer, can't help out financially. My mother in law called the Red Cross and they told her that that particular location wasn't doing anything for the evacuees at this time. :censored: I can't believe how some people have reacted towards our own people at this critical time. GOD BLESS US ALL!!!!
Anyway, I weighed in this morning and I guess I've lost some water weight by drinking SO MUCH water and green tea. I've taken off about 3 lbs...... :dance: YAY ME!!!!!
Take care and talk to you all later.

Show love to a stranger, he might be your next best friend!!!!!

5 dogs
09-04-2005, 10:35 PM
My name is Gloria and am hoping y'all can help me. Have any of you heard from Tricia since the hurricane? We were on the same support group and am trying to find out how she and her family are doing. I know she's from Mississippi and would appreciate any information you can give me.
Thank you.

the slim me
09-06-2005, 08:49 AM
HI, I'm really concerned about our friends in Miss. too. I'm just praying that they are all ok. I wish there was some way to get in contact with them.

09-06-2005, 11:26 AM
Gloria - you are sweet to have checked in on me. I hope you got my PM.

Wolfntat - I know exactly how you feel. Our schools were supposed to re-open today but it was postponed until Thursday so that the superintendants can meet and decide what to do with all of the displaced students entering our school systems. Like you, I am doing all I can to help our "refugees." Still, I have to admit that I am also concerned about how this will impact my own children's education. It is a terrible situation for all involved but I know we'll pull through. I've seen such an outpouring of people getting involved and making personal sacrifices to help. Now, if we could just get some gas around here! The shortage we have right now makes it very difficult to get out and about to volunteer and such - you can't drive further than a half tank will get you or you might not get back home again. Luckily, most neighborhoods have organized carpools and shelter/grocery store runs. Nobody leaves home without checking with everyone else to see if they need anything from where they are going and that helps stretch a tank of gas. I feel so petty even mentioning it but I have to say that it is all starting to get to me. I'm just so ready to get back to something that resembles our normal routine but I don't see that happening anytime soon. When the inconveniences start to wear me down I just try to remind myself that my family is safe, we have a roof over our heads, and plenty of food to eat and that is sooooo much more than what many of the evacuees here have.

I've been eating very well but my exercise is still lacking. It is just too hard to get to the gym right now. I'm managing to get out and walk and jog but I am in desperate need of getting back to weight training. I used to go every morning when they opened at 5 but I can't justify driving back and forth now. So, I'm going to sit down today with everyone's schedule and try to organize my workouts to coincide with the kids' activities. I'm a planner by nature but I have to say that micromanaging every car trip like this is making me crazy! Again, though, I know I could be in much worse shape so not a peep of a complaint from me.

Melissa - I LOVE the tops you ordered. I am in desperate need of clothes right now. The smallest size I have in my closet is a 10 but I wear an 8. I've tried to postpone any purchases until I've made it to a 6. I think I'm ALMOST there. The 8's I tried on a couple of weeks ago were a tad loose. I tried a 6 and they were too small but I was able to button them so hopefully I'll be able to hold out for a while longer. I just can't bear the thought of buying clothes that I'll only be able to wear for a few weeks. Of course, maybe that is the key to shedding these last few pounds. If I don't buy new clothes it will probably take me months to lose the weight but if I spend the money I'll probably drop 10 pounds before I have a chance to cut the tags off! LOL.

You gals have a great day!

09-06-2005, 01:23 PM
Tricia, you have done fantastic girl! You are a real motivation for me! Do tell, what were your stratagies to tackle the weight. What did you do that you found worked for you? And that goes for anyone who's accomplishing their goals. What is it you're doing? I'd love to hear what everyone is changing in their lives to become the healthier person they want to be.

09-06-2005, 01:39 PM
That's great willpower Tricia! I caved last week and bought the size 8s. We got the big ax on wearing skirts with no nylons and I just decided to wear pants 95% of the time from here on out. So I needed new pants and bought the size 8s. Although I would recommend finding a good seamstress. Mine has taken down my 14s, 12s & 10s to fit nicely. I figure if I have to take down the 8s down the road I will. :rolleyes: I'm still holding out for my fun clothes though ;)

I lost another pound, but I have no idea how considering how we ate all weekend. DH made ribs on Sat night! :eek: But all we had with them was the corn on the cob. I really think it is those little changes that have helped me so much. We don't have salad, & potatos & corn anymore - we just choose 1 side with our main meat. :lol: Though we made burritos on Sun and they were yummy - I only had one wrap and made another one naked!

So I guess my biggest "secret" to share would be cutting out the High Fructose Corn syrup and moving to low fat or FF everything: FF cream in my coffee, LF butter, LF sour cream, etc. Other than that, I mostly never deny myself anything, I just don't eat much of it. I still have chips from time to time and little bits of chocolate, but I try not to binge and eat until I'm sick (like I used to). I wish my claim was that I exercise like a mad woman, but I don't. I walk a lot with Bella and around the hospital, but I truly believe it is 80% diet and only 20% exercise. I've went weeks without regular workouts and still dropped pounds. BTW - I HATE exercise :(

09-06-2005, 02:47 PM
Thanks, Melissa! I don't really have any secrets - old fashioned calorie counting and exercising a lot more than I used to. I don't cut out any foods or worry to much about refined foods, etc. However, I've found that I have naturally gravitated towards healthier foods these days. Basically, I slightly altered our usual recipes and cook them a little differently then eat less of them. It has worked like a charm so far! :crossed:

09-06-2005, 03:24 PM
That's pretty much me, healthier choices and portions. I've also found I don't care for rich sweets as much, I'd rather have a strawberry or grapes.

5 dogs
09-06-2005, 03:38 PM
Thanks Tricia for letting me know your okay. I've been in AZ. for the past month helping my mom. She has breast cancer and is not doing so well. When i finally returned home just before the hurricane hit, the first person i thought of was you and your family. I am so thankful that you and your family are safe. All those people who lost everything just makes my hart ache for them.

09-06-2005, 04:54 PM
Pics of my family from a wedding we went to this weekend. First one is me and DH, the other is us and our boys and my parents.

the slim me
09-07-2005, 11:32 AM
HI every one, Melissa what adorable kids! And another cute top!
I agree with what every one else has said about weight loss. It's a matter of changing the way you eat. I've just modified everything and changed to L/F or F/F everything. I have changed the way I cook. I am doing a lot of grilling and broiling and baking now instead of the frying everything! I buy whole wheat bread and make sure I get enough water. I have been on a million (slight exageration) diets and they don't work in the long run. This time I've decided to get real and eat healthy. And it's working well. I still have sweets occasionally. Who am I kidding, I have sweets every day. But now I just have a cookie or a fun size candy bar with my afternoon cup of tea. It's a real treat for me and curbs my cravings! And I read something wonderful today. At least for a coffee addict like myself. It's a really great antioxadent! Made my day! You ladies make yours a good one!

09-07-2005, 03:59 PM
I love to smell coffee but only rarely do I drink it, like maybe once a year and I have to be super cold to want it.

No, I'm Sweet Tea
09-07-2005, 11:51 PM
Hey Ladies :)
Just popping in to see how everyone is doing, and say hello! I took a short computer break over the holiday since I work on the computer all day I think I needed the break! lol! I hope everyone is well and had a great weekend!

I went to Sara's tonight. She ran out to Sam's Wholesale while I was at work and bought a ton of meat and veggies for us to split up. I helped her split em up, gave her a check and brought home half the food for me and my sis. To eat healthy ya gotta actually have food in the house! LOL! ;)

I also weighed when I was at Sara's. Surprisingly, I am down another 6 lbs. Shocked? I know I was! Very glad tho! I think we are doing well working as a team. We keep one another in check and I find its so much easier.

Glad to see that everyone is doing well and Kerry - those burritos sound so good! Yummy! Have a good night everyone!

09-08-2005, 09:09 AM
Well, girls, the old lady is back from Vegas. We had a wonderful time but came home to a broken AC and the garbage disposal went belly up. SIGH! Anyway, I promised pics but made a webpage instead that everyone can look at their leisure. I am really busy right now, but I promise to pop back in soon, read all I have missed and post more.

**We got some minimal damage in Memphis from Katrina. We came home to tree branches and gunk all on our deck and there was flooding etc from a big amount of rain all at once, but may I say for those of you who have family that got caught up in this mess, our prayers are with all of you and we wish each and everyone of you the best!**

(PM me if you want the link)


09-08-2005, 11:26 AM
Welcome home! I'm so jealous, Vegas is definitely on my list of things to do! To bad you came home to all the "real world woes". ~*~hug~*~

Sweet Tea
09-08-2005, 05:26 PM
Faye -- thank you so much for sharing your Vegas pics!! I am so jealous now :D!!

Melissa -- What a beautiful family you have!! Thank you for
sharing your pics!

Everyone -- Hugs to you all!!! I promise I will get caught up on everyone this evening!!

Sorry about being MIA since last week. I went to my Moms over the weekend and this week have been trying to get the house cleaned up and keeping the boys happy. I took Beren to the dentist today and it was so horrible. He is none the worse for wear but I am beat and I'm still upset about how it went (sorry long rant would be needed to explain and I think I would cry writing it). In the end I am craving sweets since I feel so wiped out from this morning but I am rtesisting really well. Water Water Water =not chocolate but a full tummy.

I think my metabolism is the same speed as a snail. :( I am still at the same spot weight wise. Ugh, I think I will go back to phase 1 SB since I felt so much better when I was doing that. I still feel so much better in general though since getting back on track last month. I will meet my Sept. goal!!!!

Hugs to you all!!

to see my family go here --

09-08-2005, 05:39 PM
OMG what a beautiful family - gorgeous kids!!!!!

Sometimes we just seem to plateau, you'll get back in the grove and see those pounds melting again!

Sweet Tea
09-09-2005, 11:08 AM
Mornin' lovely ladies! I am finally below 200 today!!!! Yippidy Do Da!!! YAY!! Now I need to be good this weekend so it stays off :D.

We need to mow the yard this weekend and do yard work stuff so I am hoping to pick up some time exercising doing that and hopefully taking a family walk ot two.

I noticed how low my sugar jar is yesterday :). I have not purchased sugar in over 6 weeks!!!!!!! I have been sticking to splenda for things that need it and the large bag I bought of it still has a few cups left in it :). Such a small thing but I am so proud of it. Silly southern girl! it seems blasphemy though -- I live about 1/8th of a mile from a Dixie Crystal refinery. It's right accross the street from my daughters school and most would never know it's there.

So, a couple weekend questions if you'll humor me (:D):

1-- Do you have a food item that helps you get through the change in eating habits? A specific snack or "treat"?

2--What is your favorite TV show?

3--What is something that you do for yourself to make YOU feel good and that recharges you on a crappy day?

4--What color ink do you write with when you use a pen?

Love to ya all!!!

09-09-2005, 11:28 AM
Wooooohoooooo! That's awesome!

1-- Do you have a food item that helps you get through the change in eating habits? A specific snack or "treat"?
South Beach Cereal Bars, a little sweet to curb the cravings, usually in the morning and of course my diet sodas

2--What is your favorite TV show?
ahhhh i have too many, thank God for TiVo! Days of Our Lives, Dr Phil, The OC, BB6, The 4400, Housse, ER, gosh the list goes on and on

3--What is something that you do for yourself to make YOU feel good and that recharges you on a crappy day?
pedicures, a nap, a good book, a hot bubble bath

4--What color ink do you write with when you use a pen?
purple usually, or blue if i must, lol

09-09-2005, 11:40 AM
Way to go Sara!!! I know you can keep it off this weekend ;)

1-- Do you have a food item that helps you get through the change in eating habits? A specific snack or "treat"? Diet Coke w/Splenda & Popcorn

2--What is your favorite TV show? LOST

3--What is something that you do for yourself to make YOU feel good and that recharges you on a crappy day? Relaxing bath; good book; fun magazine; playing w/Bella

4--What color ink do you write with when you use a pen? Black

Sweet Tea
09-09-2005, 12:15 PM
good answers :D

I guess maybe I should answer my own questions :)

1-- Do you have a food item that helps you get through the change in eating habits? A specific snack or "treat"? Sugar free jello with lite cool whip gets me through the sugar cravings really well so far.

2--What is your favorite TV show? right now it's Rockstar INXS. Such a guilty pleasure :D

3--What is something that you do for yourself to make YOU feel good and that recharges you on a crappy day?reading a good book or magazine, listening to music, downloading music

4--What color ink do you write with when you use a pen? I'm a blue ink girl but I love a good purple color if I can find it :)

09-09-2005, 04:06 PM
Hi not sure if i ever introduced myself before i just jumped in... lol I was born in GA, but lived in MD most of my life... I am single.. have 3 cats and a very bad dog... A BF who is from AL but is working in GA... I met him when he was working in VA .. (he just went to work for the army corps of engineers 3 days before katrina) so I am missing him much:(

so.... that explains the "Bama wanna be" on my av!! lol So i am dreaming of being a southern girl again!!

1-- Do you have a food item that helps you get through the change in eating habits? A specific snack or "treat"? Fat free cheese sticks & south beach smoothies

2--What is your favorite TV show? anything on HGTV

3--What is something that you do for yourself to make YOU feel good and that recharges you on a crappy day? a nice long walk and watching the sunset

4--What color ink do you write with when you use a pen? blue but i like Purple also!

Sweet Tea
09-09-2005, 05:06 PM
Howdy Curlylocks!! You have done an amazing job on your weight loss!!! Your tickers are in inspiration :D

So, what parts of GA do you hail from? I spent a few years up in Northern VA (DC area) and my dh looked at jobs in MD for a while before we went up there. It was too far up north for me :lol:. I enjoyed our trips over to Anapolis (sp?) because the downtown area reminded us of the historic district in Savannah.

I hope everyone has a great weekend!! I want some wonderful details!!!!

09-09-2005, 07:56 PM
ugh.. the cost of living is soooo high here! its just insane.. I was born in Augusta at the army base.. but my family moved while i was just a toddler.

i am kinda in between washington dc and fredericksbug va

ty for the compliments... i have a long way to go... Ive made this journey before from 322 down to 180 but it snuck back up on me... lot of relationship issues in the past.. but i learned ya cant heal a broken heart with hostess cakes!! lol

then i met the guy i am dating... and just wanted to get myself together and looking jaw droppin sexy for him.. he is a great guy.. LOL yep i know u are supposed to do this to get healthy But i have to admit he has been my motivation...

something bout them southern men... yummm

all he has to say is "hey girl" and i melt! lmao

Sweet Tea
09-09-2005, 08:56 PM
LOL Curlylocks :lol: I know what you mean about a southern man. especially one with a good ol' boys voice -- not redneck but southern gentleman smooth. The UPS man we had down in St. Augustine was such a smooth talker. I loved that we had a daily account at out shop so he had to check in on us everyday. the flirting that went on... Oh My! I miss that fellow.

Mmmm...hostess cakes..... my heart break healer was Ben and Jerry's ice cream. After I had my daughter in '99 they became my best friends for a while. Made things really bad with my dh and I though. Now I only have the good stuff once in a great while.

When we were up there we lived in Woodbridge and my uncles lived in Fairfax. I had a business at Potomac Mills and dh was an architect there. I really really miss the IKEA there and all the shopping. I also miss the Lotte market in Fairfax and Trader Joes in the worst way :(. I really missed GA though and after 2 years we moved down to St. Augustine. Now we are back to the city where we met :). It's where we belong.

How did you meet your new fellow?

Hope everyone is having a great evening!!!

09-10-2005, 08:32 AM
i saw his ad on a bbw personals site.. and sent him an email and he sent me back his phone #... which i was too chicken to call for @ 2 weeks.. then finally one day i called him and we talked on the phone for a long time... then made plans to meet in person...

and i was smitten!

hope everyone has a great day... and enjoy your weekend!

Sweet Tea
09-11-2005, 10:45 AM
Just wanted to pop in this morning and say HI!! I hope everyone is having a good weekend. I'm off to get cleaned up while DH mown the lawn. Then hopefully I can get the kids outside to help wash the car :D.

09-11-2005, 11:36 AM
1-- Do you have a food item that helps you get through the change in eating habits? A specific snack or "treat"?
Blue Bunny Sweet Freedom Fudge Lites, Munchies Ultimate Cheddar Snack Mix2--What is your favorite TV show?
Entourage and Six Feet Under (but it is over, this was the last season).

3--What is something that you do for yourself to make YOU feel good and that recharges you on a crappy day? It doesn't matter WHAT I do, just that I do it ALONE.
4--What color ink do you write with when you use a pen? I prefer black but I'm more likely to choose based on the grip of the pen than the color. I'm one of those people who can never find a pen, though, so I take what I can get - crayons, magic markers, pencil, whatever DH happens to bring home from the office.

Sounds like everyone is doing well.
Sweet Tea, welcome to onederland! It is a great feeling, isn't it?

Curlylocks, Isn't love an awesome feeling? I was the opposite of you though. I initial ly started losing weight to become healthier. What KEEPS me losing weight is the reactions I've gotten from DH. He never seemed to mind my being overweight but it is clear that he PREFERS me this way - and it isn't anything that he says to make me think so. I feel so much more confident and my moods are so much better and there is no question that he finds me more attractive now (not that he didn't before but this IS better). It is like we've just started dating again and have that "new" feeling. It is GREAT!

I went shopping yesterday and picked up a couple of shorts and tops that were on clearance. It feels good to have some clothes that fit now. I'm putting off buying any fall clothes because it take so long to get cool here. I'm hoping I'll have made it down to a 6 by then and don't want to waste my money on stuff I won't get a chance to wear.

I ran into a shopping dilema though. I have a "date" with DH coming up on the 21st - we are going to see one of his favorite bands play at a local bar. I have NO IDEA what to wear. Everything I saw was either too trendy or too stuffy. There just didn't seem to be any in between a 36 year old mom with three children. To make it even harder, I am only 5'2" so I have trouble finding simple things like jeans that look good. The petite lengths are fine but the styles out now just aren't very flattering for my height. Any suggestions? Any great jean brands that you've found you particularly like?

Can you tell it has been forever since I've had to shop for clothes? I used to have a great sense of style. But, after years of shopping for camoflauge rather than on how good it looked, I think I've lost my edge! I feel so horribly unhip. What do you wear for a casual night out these days? I'm lost!

I'm off to a fancy tea party upstairs and I can't keep the teddy bears waiting. You all have a great Sunday!

09-11-2005, 12:03 PM
Jawsmom - For affordable jeans that come in all cuts and lengths I shop Old Navy. They are the same jeans as the Gap, but cheaper. For an event/date like you are talking about I would just wear nice fitting jeans and a cute tank (be sure to take a sweater in case it gets cool or the a/c gets ya). Maybe something silky or lacy if you feel like dressing it up a bit. For those types of tops I shop places like Dress Barn or Kohls. I stay away from stuff that is too trendy and stick to good colors, fabrics and fits. Make it more fun with your jewerly.

I'm a pro at this anymore bc DH is a club DJ and has had a residency in Clt for 1.5 years plus we go out to support good friends who are DJs. I've had to learn to do this at a siz 14 and a siz 8. I just have fun with it and don't compare myself to other skinny minies. DH is the same way though, he's really gotten *hot* for me :o now that I've lost the weight... not that he wasn't before, but you KWIM. ;) Last time we were out I wore my tight CKs and a silk pink top & he was all over me. People probably would of never guessed we were married if they saw us for the first time (& probably thought I was easy :lol: )

Uh-oh, now I want to go shopping!

09-12-2005, 09:32 AM
Just poppin into report that somehow I dropped a Pound!! :cb: After all my complaining I was happy to see it drop a little bit. I wasn't even supposed to WI today, but I did and I'm glad I did. I figure I'll start bloating soon due to PMS so it was good to look at the scale today instead of waiting until Friday. ;)

That's a good way to start the week Not too happy that it's Monday, but I'll survive I guess. . . Hope you all will as well. I'll check in later and see if any of you are around. :)

09-12-2005, 09:59 AM
Jawsmom - I got some jeans at Express the other day - most of theirs are on sale for $29.50 (usually $59.50 :eek: ). They have a new thing where they categorize their jeans by curvy or slim and they have a "short" which meant I could get some jeans without them puddling up on the floor or having them hemmed. Yippee

09-12-2005, 05:35 PM
I had the day off.. and went looking in the thrift store! I got 5 pairs of jeans a red wool blazer and 4 tops for 11.00$ woo hoo.. I didnt want to spend a lot of money on sizes I am passing thru!! but that was a really good deal!

Sweet Tea
09-13-2005, 10:18 AM
Hey girlies! Sorry for the absence yesterday. I had to go with the boys to an appointment and what should have taken an hour at best took 4 hours. :( I was pooped after that and didn't get much else done all day.

I've been doing pretty well on my eating but my exercise has been lacking since friday. I have let errands and house stuff come before some me time to move my butt and I need to make the exercise a priority instead. I know it makes me fee so much better. Anyhow... I will be doing an exercise tape this morning before doing errands with the boys. It's a 30 minute deal that I think Beren will get a kick out of too. We shall see...

How is everyone else feeling?????

09-13-2005, 10:39 AM
I'm slacking too, thanks to a UTI followed up with a yeast infection. I love being a woman, ;-p

I weighed yesterday though, down 3 more lbs. WOOO HOOO!

Sweet Tea
09-13-2005, 12:00 PM
Way to go Melissa!!! congrats on those pounds lost!!!!!

Sorry about the UTI and infection though -- every time I have a uti my DH wonders why I am so grumpy with him. It's so unfair :(. Hope you are feeling better though!!

the slim me
09-13-2005, 02:45 PM
Hi Every one, Haven't been around for awhile and missed everyone. Nothing great going on, just work and very, very busy. I have been so busy and tired I haven't even thought about my self or my diet and it shows! I've gained and I'm so mad! At myself! We all have times like that and it's just one more challenge to overcome. but I've been reading everyones entries and it's good to be back.

Jeans.....I'm 5'1" and jeans are always a problem. My favorites are the gap and Levi's!

And answering the questions:
1. Food, Fat free jello and FF whipped cream.
2. FAv. TV show, Too many! Lost, CSI, ER. I love to watch ER and Critique. I drive my husband crazy. I set there and go on and on "A dr. would never do that, and Please, I really would have time for that!"
3. What I do for myself. I read. Give me a good book and i'm lost to the world.
4. Color ink. Black. I can only use black ink at work, it's the only color that's legal.

Good to be back, I missed hearing about everyone! Freda

09-13-2005, 04:17 PM
Afternoon gals! I finally found time to get back to you guys! Hope you enjoyed the webpage.

Answers to mini poll:

I like pretzels with ff cream cheese and a icy glass of Mr and Mrs T's spicy Bloody Mary mix sans the booze.

My favorite tv: Las Vegas, CSI Las Vegas, (definitely a pattern here) all the Law and Order shows (too bad they don't move to Las Vegas... :D ) I Love Lucy (I collect her and have almost all her tv series including Here's Lucy, I liked Biggest Loser last year and the Home Makeover show.

What do I do???? I read, read, read, knit, knit, knit, and do puzzle books. Plus I clean house EVERY day like an idiot. I mean, there are only two of us and our kitty and doggy. Unlike you ladies, I neither have a job nor children at home so I can get really bored on top of the fact I have no friends here in Memphis. Because I don't work we cut back to one car and with gas the way it is, I don't feel I can afford to spend a bazillion $$ volunteering. It is 50 miles one round trip to my dh's work then go to wherever I volunteer and then go back and pick him up besides having my dgs's soccer practices to go to twice a week and 2 games of his a week and of course, they are across town so I stay home. Bad for eating though!

Right now I am in the midst of almost being finished with a baby blanket for my niece who's baby boy is due in January, a Harry Potter scarf for my grandson for Christmas, which has come out pretty cool, scarves for my two kids and their spouses for Christmas plus a couple books and 3 more on their way from my book club. I occasionally get bored, but my darling hubby takes me out of town on little jaunts all the time (once a month or so to like Nashville or down to the casinos in Tunica) and I love staying home and cuddling up with him, Butterscotch and Fortune. We came home just last night from Thomas's soccer game and cuddled up on the couch and watched Sahara. I am also working on our trip for next year to Vegas.

I haven't been in a pair of jeans for years and years. Right now, I am revamping my whole program and trying to get jump started back on that along with my dh. I need to pull lbs off him before he goes back to his cardiologist and the dr has a coronary from him gaining weight eating all those buffets in Vegas! :lol:

Do any of you ladies have Bellsouth DSL for internet service and do you like it? We are changing from AOL and I hope we like it. Time Warner is our cable here and it is like $65 for the stupid cable modem internet and they can forget that. I don't even have cable right now because I am mad at them and have knuckled under to have it put back in. I hate cable companies being allowed to have monopolies so they can charge you up the wazoo for something that costs them pennies.

Blab, blab, blab, I better go. have a great afternoon girls!

***Oh and Beeeeeeautiful children btw!!!!


09-13-2005, 05:04 PM
Faye, my parents have the BellSouth DSL and have a lot of trouble with it. We have Adelphia cable internet and Dish Network for the tv, we love our Adelphia cable so far, but have only had it a month. Anything is better then dial up though!

09-13-2005, 05:05 PM
What are you currently reading? I love to read, I'm just now making it around to the VC Andrews books my mom read when I was younger. Which reminds me, I gotta return this book and get the next one!

09-13-2005, 05:41 PM
Faye, we have our internet service through Time Warner cable now but we used to use Bellsouth DSL and didn't have any trouble with it. I worked back then, though, so I wasn't surfing the web nearly as often. It could very well be that I would have noticed more trouble (like Melissa's parents) if I had been online as much as I am now.

As for Time Warner, well, I know how you feel. I hesitate to even post this but here goes...We've been getting free cable from them for about a year now. We cut our service back to the very basics that we had to have to keep our internet connection but they never acutally turned the channels off. I called them and the customer service rep told me that it could be a couple of weeks because they have to physically come to the location. So I waited. A month passed and we still had the channels so I called again and got told the same thing. Soon after that we got a bill for the full service so I called. She told me that it was because we'd cancelled after our cycle but that it would be adjusted the next month. I took the opportunity to tell her we STILL had the channels. Same story. FINALLY, the guy came out but he messed up and only turned off two of the stations. So, I called again and they've never done anything about it. At that point I decided that I wasn't going to keep trying to do their jobs for them and we've enjoyed free cable without guilt ever since. If they ever figure it out that is fine by me since we really don't watch a lot of TV anyway. But, in the meantime I'm not going nag them every month. I nag enough at home already! :lol:

Okay, I went to the gym this morning and got on their scale. DH suggested that he thought ours was off by a few pounds and I wanted to check. Just as I'm stepping off the tiniest little thing you ever did see hopped on - WITH HER TENNIS SHOES ON! Now, who VOLUNTARILY weighs with shoes on. Heck, I would have stripped down to nothing for the sake of an ounce or two if I could. Anyway, I had to sneak a peak at her weight. Honestly, I wasn't being nosey but I have no concept of what different weights look like. And I kind of wanted a visual of what range her size was. 115 - with the shoes. I think, "good for her" and head on out to the treadmill. Not long after she gets on the treadmill right next to me. I know how silly it is but I find exercising right next to someone like that rather intimidating. Well, I had just increased to a jog and she was jogging too. Which brings me to the point of this long drawn out story. I ran faster than her and longer than her. For a second there I thought she just might pass out. I've got to say that I am not usually very competative at all but, darn, that felt GOOD! :devil: And, best of all it was a great reminder that the outside of a package doesn't necessarily reflect what is on the inside. I'd still like to be 115 lbs with my shoes on though! :lol:

Hope you gals have a great day!

09-13-2005, 10:44 PM
Well, I had just increased to a jog and she was jogging too. Which brings me to the point of this long drawn out story. I ran faster than her and longer than her. I'm soooo glad I'm not the only one that competes with the person on the next machine at the gym:p The other day I got on the eliptical and the person next to me had already been on for about 10 minutes. I just about killed myself trying to catch up to her "total calories burned." And there was ABSOLUTELY NO REASON to. Made me work harder and gave me a sense of accomplishment anyway though.

the slim me
09-15-2005, 09:32 AM
Good morning all. I guess most of us are competative to a point. I know I just want to be able to do as much as the next person and not look like a whimp, I think a little competition is a good thing if it keeps us going that extra few minutes. And being thin does not automatically mean fit. I know lots of thin people who are not fit at all. My SIL is very thin and her BP is high and so it her cholesterol. We are building muscle and endurance with the exercise. BIG incentive to keep it up. With eating right and exercising we're becomming healthier every day.

READING: I am a big fan of Janet Evanovitch. Her new book just cam out, Eleven on Top. She is so funny. I've gotten everyone at work hooked on her books and my family too, who are not especially fond of reading. I also like mysteries. A few favorite authors are Michael Connelly, J.A. JANCE, iRIS jOHANSEN, FAYE KELLERMAN. just to name a few. I read a lot. I get my books mostly at the library. I can't afford my addiction because I read several books a week. In addition to listening to books on tape in the car! I always have a couple going.

Hope every one is doing well and getting fact to focus on dieting and exercise!! Freda

09-15-2005, 11:54 AM
I guess I'm pretty competative too, I do the whole "see if I can go farther/harder" thing at the gym. I signed up for 48 personal trainer sessions yesterday, I'm ready to see the real me laying dormant under all this fluff.

09-15-2005, 12:49 PM
Hi ! You people are about the most enthusiastic group I have read in a while. Sooo nice!
I wish I was the same. I am old, over weight, out of shape and don't have the desire to change a thing. I believe that's called stressed out. My marriage of 35 years is failing. At least I guess that's what most people would say...when I daily find myself wanting to twist my loco husband's head off and bag it with the garbage ! We are building an addition to our home and having a
real time of it trying to find workers that want to pick up more than a pay check. Our son began the project and left with it fifty per cent complete...$40,000.00 after! He and his father are not speaking...and I am in the middle because I love both of them. My daughter is having family problems of her own..which makes me even sadder. And on top of it all I'm going through midlife crisis! It just doesn't get any think? Sure it does. My
husband is trying to buy more land...without a thought in his head that he can't possibly get any more credit right now and he continually brings home more "pets", chickens, ducks, cats, fish, ferrets, hampsters, gerbels, pigeons, goats, and yesterday a full grown not too friendly pit bulldog ! Hello insurance increase!
I'm just a little depressed...but I do still believe the old adage that..."In fifty years I won't know the difference!
Anybody got any helpful advice? Please write.

the slim me
09-15-2005, 02:14 PM
HI Ivy, WHOW, you make my head spin with all you're going through! I've been married for 40 years in August and there have been many times I've wanted to kill him and bury him in the back yard! But you do get through those times, Thank GOD! Just so much happening with you at once. And w've went through the times we've been distant with our son too. He married a girl we couldn't stand and pretty much thought she was perfect for about 11 months. They got divorced then but of course he couldn't come to us right away. Had a hard time dealing with it, but we all got through. And you know you will too! Just hang in there and take it day by day. Like you said "in fifty years it won't be remembered. You will actually be able to look back and laugh at some of this! Hard to believe right now, I know. Hang in there girl, and know that this too shall pass! Freda

09-15-2005, 02:26 PM
My advice? Just go ahead and shoot him and bury him in the backyard, but remember when you dump the quick lime on him for fast decay, don't add water, for that will only preserve his remains.

Ok just kidding (except about the quick lime part, that's true).

I'm only 27 and married 10 years and I'm having a midlife crisis too. We should just build a commune, hire nanny's for those of us with kids, and sit by the pool drinking Long Island Ice Teas all day.

No wait that won't work either will it?

Just remember, if the grass looks greener on the other side, maybe it's time to water your lawn.

09-15-2005, 04:08 PM
how bout we all meet up at a week long spa?

09-15-2005, 04:26 PM
ahhhhhhhhhhhh spa!

I go every February to one in Kentucky, meet my best friend there, it's our half way mark. A day at the spa and hit the clubs at night. I am soooo looking forward to that trip this year!

Does anyone else take girl trips?
I usually take 4 or 5 a year, they keep me sane.

Does anyone else love nightlife, if so does your Dh go?
I love to dance and party and love people and the "night life". My DH is the opposite. So he never goes with me and it makes me soooo sad. I want to go dance with him (rather then my girlfriends) then take my sex charged self home with him. Ohhh if he only knew the mood dancing puts me in.....oh well.

09-15-2005, 04:51 PM
Melissa - My DH is a club DJ (I think I mentioned that before) and we are into the dance club scene here in Charlotte. We are planning a big night out the first weekend in Oct at a club when he is not playing (some friends are) and we'll dance and get crazy and hot for one another :o and then go home in a frenzy. It sure keeps things exciting getting dressed up and going out like that together. He also spins at a club once a month at least and that's kinda hot too when I can go hang with him in the DJ booth after dancing to the music he's playing. It's been so good for our relationship esp during these trying years of dealing with infertility. It's a GREAT release.

I've not done the girl trips though. I have flown out to Hawaii to stay with my best friend twice (2 weeks each) in 8 years and she came to me once when I lived in FL. The spa sounds nice. :)

09-16-2005, 10:53 AM
I would love that, I'm totally jealous!

I am so looking forward to this weekend at Nopi Nationals. We'll be together for 48 hours with no kids in a fun atmosphere. Hopefully that'll pull me outta my "marriage is over-rated" slump.

09-16-2005, 11:31 AM
I do love nightlife but we very rarely venture out. First of all DH does not dance. And I don't blame him - he's TERRIBLE at it! But, mostly, it is just too expensive for us these days. We can afford to go out but paying a babysitter for three kids requires a home equity loan. So, if we go out it is usually seperately. He'll get a night out with the guys and I'll get a night out with the girls here and there.

Now, here is my awful little secret. I kind of like hitting the town without DH because I still like to flirt. My husband is the love of my life and I absolutely adore him but, I have to admit, I miss the "chase" of my single days. I suppose after being married for 10 years and having kids it is just fun to get back to "me" and prove that there is still a woman buried somewhere under the mom and wife. It is all perfectly innocent, of course, and I would never not be upfront about being married or anything like that. But, it is fun all the same.

We do like to entertain at home but that doesn't really create the same "charge" as getting dressed up and going out on the town. We have a regular date night each week too. We'll put the kids to bed and have a special late dinner complete with drinks or wine. Usually we rent a movie too. It is fun and gives us a chance to really focus on each other and just have some down time together.

Sweet Tea
09-16-2005, 11:32 AM
Ivey-- Wow... I just don't have words for how frustrated you must feel everyday with your dh and situation. The only advice that comes to mind right now is that you have to find love and peace within yourself right now. It may be difficult but you need to just focus on yourself and the things that are in your immediate control -- like working on your depression (are meds an option? they really help me a lot) and your health. Feeling better about yourself can make a tremenous difference on how you handle other situations and how you view your role and power in them. There is no easy and quick fix but if you can take control of the small things in your life first then others will follow. We are here for you and I know we all offer our shoulders for your tears if you need us. When you do not believe in yourself we are here to believe in you and know that you have the power within yourself to make your life better. ((((Huge Hugs))))

Weekends with just the ladies???? I would kill for that opportunity right now. At best I get a few hours once a month for time alone with my best friend. Last Saturday we had about 3 hours together without the kids and it was divine. It really made me feel good and better able to handle the kids when I got back. The thought of a whole weekend to devote to doing something for me is staggering. Truthfully, I am in tears at the though of it right now. I feel so overwhelmed by this week with the kids that I just don't know how I am going to make it through the weekend. DH has to work all day tomorrow so I won't have his help at all. I am hoping that his mom will come down and take our oldest to stay sat night with her. I feel like I get no time for me other than the little bit I get to go on the computer in the mornings while the boys play. I really need to take my own advice sometimes and do something that focuses on me and makes me feel better.

Sorry for my griping -- just feeling pitiful today and need a huge hug.

On the weight loss front I am still holding steady and staying away from temptations. If I could have something it would be a bar of dark chocolate. Godiva has a sugar free line that is to die for so I may have to splurge this weekend if I actually get to go anywhere.

Reading now-- I still have not finished the last Harry Potter. It's sitting on the table still. Todya I am reading a newsweek bit by little bit and I have a copy of the Funny Times that I have not finished.

Hugs to you all!!! I will be back later today if time permits.

09-16-2005, 01:03 PM
Now, here is my awful little secret. I kind of like hitting the town without DH because I still like to flirt. My husband is the love of my life and I absolutely adore him but, I have to admit, I miss the "chase" of my single days. I suppose after being married for 10 years and having kids it is just fun to get back to "me" and prove that there is still a woman buried somewhere under the mom and wife. It is all perfectly innocent, of course, and I would never not be upfront about being married or anything like that. But, it is fun all the same.

OMG, I could have typed that! I would by no means want him to go every time, but it would be nice for him to go occasionally so I don't leave the bar alone.

PS I've been married 10 years and have 3 kids too!

09-16-2005, 01:08 PM
Feeling better about yourself can make a tremenous difference on how you handle other situations and how you view your role and power in them. There is no easy and quick fix but if you can take control of the small things in your life first then others will follow


Sara, big ole hugs honey! Do apologize for griping, we're here on the bad days just as much (if not more) as the good days.

09-16-2005, 01:10 PM
i wanna pout cuz i miss my DBF, he went to work for the army corps for engineers and has been busy.... busy .... busy :( havent seen him for a month now :(

09-16-2005, 01:53 PM
Awwwwww curlylocks, it's ok, I bet he's as lonely as you are.

the slim me
09-16-2005, 03:01 PM
Good morning all, I don't know if we ever get over that need to "flirt" just a little bit. Reminds us we are females. And doesn't it make your day just so much better? Who could object to that, especially when it's innocent. Just make sure it's innocent! Sometimes, when things are going bad, the grass looks a lot greener on the other side of the fense. It's usually not, of course. There are just as many weeds over there you just can't see them as well as you can the ones growing in your own yard.

Sarah, Big HUGS to you! It's rough raising kids. No matter how much you love them, it's hard work. And when they are young yoy don't see the end. But one day you will wake up and they will be grown and you will be alone to do all the things you think you want to do.

Have a wonderful day

09-16-2005, 03:07 PM
I just saw this group.

I'm Sarah. I'm 25, born and raised near Birmingham.

09-16-2005, 03:14 PM
I have a bacon and eggs question. Every once in a while, my dad will make bacon and eggs for supper. Now, I know we can't be the only people that do this.

Well, last night he made them. I made my eggs with just one whole egg, a big bowl of grits with spray butter, two small flaky biscuits (ya'll know which ones I'm talkin' about), and just ONE piece of bacon (a major miracle in and of itself). I completely avoided the Walmart frozen, almost-the-size-of-my-fist biscuits. Another miracle-I love biscuits.

So, my question is, what would y'all do to cut out the caleries in such a meal?

09-16-2005, 03:37 PM
I don't know if we ever get over that need to "flirt" just a little bit. Reminds us we are females. And doesn't it make your day just so much better? Who could object to that, especially when it's innocent. Just make sure it's innocent!
I can honestly say that for me it is all in good fun. DH and I still flirt which is fun too but in a different way. I mean he HAS to take me home whether he wants to or not! ;)

I am lucky to have very few strains on our marriage so I don't usually feel like any other couple has it better. More than anything, we struggle in keeping our relationship somewhere above "roommate" status. :lol: We work hard at it by doing things like our date night. But suffice it to that being at all spontaneous is pretty much out of the question for the next severl years. :(
But, hey, that's where the flirting comes in!

So, my question is, what would y'all do to cut out the caleries in such a meal?

Honestly, I DON'T try to cut out calories of good old Southern meals. Instead, I serve them infrequently and watch my portions when I do. When it comes to things like bacon, biscuits and gravy, etc. I find that I am much more satisfied by a small amount of the REAL thing than a bigger portion of an altered version. As long as I plan it into my overall calorie intake there is no damage done. I've made it a point not to make any foods off limits all together.

09-16-2005, 04:25 PM
More than anything, we struggle in keeping our relationship somewhere above "roommate" status.

That is sooooooooo true here too!

As for cutting calories and such I'm with jawsmom, you have to allow yourself these simple pleasures but in moderation not just in portion but in frequency. And of course then watch you intake the rest of the day, don't have a southern breakfast followed by fried chicken for lunch and cube steak and gravy for dinner.

09-16-2005, 05:05 PM
don't have a southern breakfast followed by fried chicken for lunch and cube steak and gravy for dinner.

What's funny about that is that my dad's bring home KFC tonight! :lol:

Sweet Tea
09-16-2005, 06:51 PM
Hi Sarah -- nice to have you here :). I don't think you can cut calories on that southern breakfast meal :D. It would be something we only have every once in a blue moon and usually it would be for dinner or maybe it would be something we would have while visiting my mom. Those biscuits sound good -- I'm on South Beach so yummy kinds of bread like that are a no-no for me. I can't have just one. Actually, for me most processed carbs just make me hungrier and make me feel bad if I over do it. Still... a biscuit would be good right about now... :). So, what have you been doing so far to lose your weight? You have made wonderful progress so far!! Way to Go!

I really miss going out to bars and just hanging out with friends. My brother is a musician and it was always so much fun to go hear his bands play. There were always the same forls around and everyone had a great time. I always loved live music and a smokie bar. Bryan and I go out very seldom. Maybe to a movie here and there. We went out to dinner together back in February... man that's a long time ago. We have maybe eaten alone one other time since then. We have not been onthe same page since Logan was born in March though. My weight really gets to him and he blames all our issues on it. Another story for another time though...

My SIL talked to me about the Y and their gym and personal trainer programs. She goes several times a week and really enjoys it. I was a bit suprised at how much it cost but she told me that they have a scholarship program where you can qualify for free or reduced cost memberships. I have downloaded the form to fill out and I hope to have it in the mail by Monday. I hope we can qualify for it 'cause I think the kids would love it and I would absolutely LOVE to get back into a gym. Working exercise int o my day with the boys has been hard and I never seem to get my heart rate up for very long. Do any of you know about the YMCA stuff or their scholarship programs?

I really should be in the kitchen figuring out what to cook but I don't want to have to cook anything at all. I get tired of figuring out what everyone will be happy with. I think the kids just want popcorn anyway :D. I can handle that for them. Maybe Bryan will eat cereal??? Hummus and crackers for me would be good. I want something easy that doesn't require a stove or effort.

You lovely ladies have a wonderful evening!!!!!

the slim me
09-17-2005, 10:22 AM
Good morning all, It's a wet, cold day here in Michigan. We had plans but they included dry weather, so I guess we will have to change then. Maybe lay around the house all day and do nothing. Sounds good to me!

As for the big, southern breakfast. I was raised on meat, eggs, gravy and biscuits every day. Truthfully, I never liked it, especailly the biscuits and gravy. My family swears I must have been adopted. I don't like biscuits at all!!!!! I can eat gravy with cornbread. But, my husband loves it and I do make it for dinner occasionally. When I do have a big calorie meal that I love I just have very small portions. You can't deprive yourself of everything or you will end up pigging out! At least that is what I would do.

Have a nice day, Freda

Sweet Tea
09-17-2005, 01:05 PM
Afternoon all :)

Freda -- sorry about the rain changing your plans. Having a relaxing day sounds wonderful!

My Dh is having to work all day today so it's just me and the kids. Logan is taking a nap and I really need to get the other two cleaned up. We have had a lazy morning too. It is pretty hot here so I am not really inclined to taking the kids out to play in the yard. The grass needs to be cut again so that we can treat the ant beds in the front yard. I can't stand fire ants and the kids are not really good at watching out for them.

We are supposed to go over to my in-laws later today to have dinner and let our dd spend the night. They live about 30 minutes away in the same town that my dh works in. I think he is just going to go there after he leaves work. For some reason I just don't want to go. I actually don't want to go anywhere really. My low self esteem/confidence is in full force today for some reason. Kinda weird since I have been doing so well lately. Maybe it's just capping off my long week. Some sleep would be nice :). I should be happy that someone else is going to help me entertain my kids for a little while and I won't actually have to cook a meal. That is actually pretty fantastic -- I am so tired of cooking and being responsible for feeding everyone everyday. Having someone cook for us one night is a nice relief for me. I need to change my attitude to be more positive about today. Ok, I'm rambling here... the kids just aren't good to talk to today and I need soem adult time :).

How much water do you all drink in a day? I try to get at least 64 oz in as a minimum. Around 80 to 100oz is typical for me if i am not out and about running around doing errands. I also have a cup of coffee in the morning and maybe 3 times a week I'll have a diet soda. I have only made tea with splenda for myself maybe 3 times in the past month. Feels weird!

Off to fill my water bottle and put together lunch for the kids... Hope you all are having a good Saturday.

Hugs and Love! Sara

09-17-2005, 03:54 PM
Sara, I don't drink a ton of water. I usually go through a sports bottle worth while I'm working out and I'll have it with lunch or dinner every now and then. If I'm actually thirsty, I'll get water instead of diet coke or tea.

Drinking more than that has never made a difference in how I feel over all or helped with my weight loss. It has never curbed my appetite or anything like that either. In fact I really dislike that sloshing feel I get in my stomach if I drink a lot of water without food. I keep an eye on my urine - as long as it isn't too dark I know I'm getting plenty.

I don't feel guilty about it because lots of recent studies have debunked the notion that there is any benefit to drinking large amounts of water. They seem to think that the original recommendation of 64 oz. a day is about right but that the water in food, coffee, tea, etc. counts towards that total.

I'm not trying to talk you out of drinking it - a lot of people swear they benefit from drinking a lot water. I just happen not to be one of them. No sense forcing something down if it isn't going to make a difference for me anyway!

09-17-2005, 08:26 PM
Hi. I hope yall don't mind if I jump in here. My names Tina. I'm 23 and from North Carolina (born and raised). I think I started noticing my weight issue in high school. At one point, shortly after graduating, I did manage to lose 80lbs and get down to a semi-managable weight. I was still overweight, but not this bad. Anyhoo. I kept that weight off for a while somewhat until I got into a car accident, thats when I really put on the pounds. Today I'm at 249lbs and I'm 5'4. This is week one of my new healthier lifestyle. its taking a bit to get used to. I started walking yesterday with my boyfriend. Its so humid, but I make myself cuz I know I need to.
My vice...PEPSI. I used to drink it like water. Now I've been drinking watered down koolaid with splenda (i dont like our tap water, tastes funny). Another vice...Id have to say just food in general. I don't know. I guess I just sorta eat to eat. Still tryin to find things to do to distract my mind, since I'm currently unemployed. I try to keep myself busy looking for a job and whatnot...

the slim me
09-18-2005, 09:08 AM
Welcome Tina, And good for you for taking that first step. Walking is great exercise and as you get fitte you can increase the distance and time. It's the one exercise you can do almost any where/any time. And we all have food issues here! That's why we're here. Sorry to tell you this girl, but ther is no easy solution! You can't just "want" to do it, you have to just "do it". I find if it helps if I keep a journal and record every thing I eat. Yes, everything! Every bite, every french fry, every thing you put in your mouth. It is a big eye opener sometimes to see how much you eat. Keeping a journal also gives you something to do. What play are you using? Actually, almost any plan works if you stay with it. I think some are healthier than other. WW teaches you how to eat and portion controle, but so does South Beach. I don't care for drastic low carb diets. I dont think they are healthy. You will work out what works for you.

Good morning every one. It's a wet, cold day here in Michigan. How about where you live?

Sarah, hope you had a good time at your in-laws yesterday and some rest. I know the kids can be a handfull sometimes. Heck..all the time! But, they grow up and go to school! Yeah!

Everyone have a good day, Freda

09-18-2005, 01:08 PM
Well for this first week I'm tryin to control my calorie intake. SO I guess we'll see when I weight myself on monday if it helped any..

I didnt get to walk today. It was so yucky humid out. So I did 5 miles on an exercise bike in 23 minutes doin 14mph. Counts for something eh?

09-18-2005, 05:15 PM
Boy is this a blabby group! :lol: :lol: I can't get in to this thread everyday to post and when I come back, I have to go through a bazillion posts to catch up! :lol:

Here goes with some of the stuff you guys talked about:

Breakfast change:

turkey bacon, egg beaters, NO grits and lowfat buttermilk biscuits (I have the recipe if anyone wants it)! better yet, skip it all and have yogurt! :lol:
(as for the gravy, I make it with 1% or even skim milk and lowfat sausage from Jimmy Dean for my dh once in awhile)

As for marriage, Ok, don't boo me here, but I have been married 33 years in Nov, my husband is a doll doll doll and calls me gorgeous instead of by name. At least a 100 times a day tells me he loves or adores me and in fact just a few minutes ago leaned over me and said, "Do you have any idea how much I adore you?" He married a chubby 185 lb woman who is like 340 lbs now and still thinks she is absolutely sexy. He, like all men can be a pain, but to tell you the truth this menopausal pain in the butt is no picnic to be married to some times either! :lol: I really feel saddened for you ladies who have troubled relationships. I have a sister who has been married a year less than I and they are both so self centered they neither one consider the other for a moment. Their life revolves around MONEY! I guess because until 3 years ago we didn't have a pot to spit in (cleaned it up just for you gals :lol: ) we learned to wade through the hard times TOGETHER. Believe me, living on an enlisted man's military pay is like being at poverty level and we did that for 20 years!

I may be an OLD BIG gal, but I am a flirt too! I guess it is just inborn in us females. I love the little bit of good attention I may get occasionally from men.

We are lovin' our dsl. We had a devil of a time getting them to shut off crummy AOL though. It is in Jack's name so he called and spent 15 minutes trying to get the jerk to cancel and give him a confirmation number. He finally told him if he didn't quit the sales pitch to try and get us to stay and give him a confirmation # in 10 seconds he was hanging up on him (the guy refused to give him his supervisor) so Jack hung up on him, I went online and logged into AOL from my dsl and low and behold the e-mail with the cancellation was in Jack's old mailbox and had been in there from about 3 minutes after Jack gave the guy his info! As the moron signed the stupid thing, I am contacting AOL and giving them a piece of my mind about it all. With that being said, BEWARE OF TAKING AOL AND THEN TRYING TO GET OUT OF IT!!!! I checked yesterday and thank goodness they did cancel us.

As for books, I read a bazillion. Janet Evanovich is a hoot big time, Sarah Stroymeyer is funny to with a beautician names Bubbles Yablonsky who wants to be a detective, funny stuff, I like Jeffrey Deaver (he is an absolute doll and will e-mail you back if you e-mail him about his books), Stuart Woods (great books, but a jackass of a person), Robert B Parker (these are the Spenser series, the older ladies probably remember Robert Urich in Spencer for Hirer on tv years ago), Some of Danielle Steels stuff, Nora Roberts when she writes as JD Robb, Dick Francis (these are horseracing mystery novels that are great) until he retired, I am Harry Potter addicted and have read them each at least 6 times, Lisa Scottolini, David Balducci, Sara Paretsky (VI Warshawski is her character and Kathleen Turner played her in a movie a few years back), Edna Buchannan, Patricia Cornwell (these are medical examiner thrillers), and I could go on and on. Most of these people, write series books and I love series books. Too bad we don't live closer together we could get a book club going as long as I don't have to read any of the junk Oprah suggests. I do NOT READ to become more socially conscious nor do I go to the movies to learn something from them. If I can't read something for enjoyment, I don't read it! My soapbox statement for the day! :lol:

Well girls, need to check my roast in the crockpot. Oh, for those of you who occasionally want or need a recipe that is something in your favorite restaurant, here is the website for it. I don't want to put it as a link.

Have a great Sunday girls. Faye

09-18-2005, 11:28 PM
Hi Sarah -- nice to have you here :). So, what have you been doing so far to lose your weight? You have made wonderful progress so far!! Way to Go!

Thanks! Mostly I just watched what I ate and exercised. Cutting out a lot of coke helped (I love Coke). :D I still drink one (or less) a day. I just can't give it up completely. I'm sure ya'll understand.

I also focus more on eating healthy. Or, at least as healthy as I can.

If only weekends weren't so hard! At work, I can control what I eat, and mostly at night too. On the weekends, though, I tend to mess up some.

09-19-2005, 10:59 AM
WHEW I missed a lot this weekend, huh? Short on time but wanted to stop in and give quick "hi". Chris and I were at Nopi Nationals all weeekend. Placed 1st, 3rd, and 4th in 3 different comps. I'm so looking forward to our next show now and I think this was super for "us". I'm also looking forward to starting on my own car now, woohooo! Got tons of walking in, lots of water, and only a few small (not too unhealthy) meals. Gotta get on track this week, next year I'm sportin' a NOPI CHIC tube top.....or at least it's my goal!

the slim me
09-19-2005, 12:12 PM
Good morning everyone, Looks like everyone pretty much stayed on the right tract this weekend! Glad to hear everyone is doing so well! I did ok too, could have been better. On the weekends I have so much trouble drinking enough water. I drink coffee all day because my husband does.

faye, I could have written that book list! Most of my favorites were in there. I have read a few Dick Francis and never really got into them, besides that, those are my favorite authors. I read all the time, plus listen to book tapes when I walk!

Got my walk in this morning. Went to meet a friend and we walked around the lake. It was so beautiful this morning.

Make it a good day!

09-19-2005, 02:55 PM
Freda: Just finished Lisa Scottolini's new book, Devil's Corner, am almost finished with Jeffrey Deaver's The Twelfth Card, just finished Nora Roberts, Origin in Death, should get two more today, one called Hot Number and the other one The Thing about Jane Spring, both of which look cute. I also just ordered Parker's School Days, Cornwell's Predator, Woods, Iron Orchid, which is his Holly Barker character, and Balducci's The Camel Club. Nothing like spending ALL your money on books is there? BUT, I can read one a day so in between knitting when the old hands start hurting, I read! :lol:

Melissa: Congrats on your wins this weekend!

Sarah: Weekends are the pits, aren't they? I am home alone all day, then cook a meal for dh and I that is good for us, then the weekend comes and we go out to eat and screw around at home and eat junk! It is stupid, but that is something the two of us have to work on.

I have one knitting project, my dgs scarf done, the blanket almost done, his hat almost done (the almost dones need more yarn SIGH!) and yarn to start my ddil's scarf, but need to finish the blanket to use that size needles! :lol: That durn blanket has been the bane of my existance! :lol:

Better go see about the mail and see if my books came. One of them is a soapmaking book so I am excited to be starting that too! :lol: I think my son is going to get me candle making supplies for my birthday, which is a week from Wednesday so I will happy as a pig in slop for awhile!


09-19-2005, 04:35 PM
I think one of the bigger problems with the weekend is that many of us do special things on the weeken. Like last weekend, I went to a slumber party at a friend's new house to celebrate the move. There, I ate plenty of pizza, oreos, and cheetos. And then in the morning we made lemon blueberry muffins, and I WAAYYY overdid it on those!

There just always seems to be a "just this once, it's a special evening" on the weekends.

Sweet Tea
09-19-2005, 05:09 PM
Afternoon Ladies :) Just popping in before I get to cleaning the kitchen. Baby Logan is taking a nap and the other two are having an after school snack - I can smell fruit roll up and I am in a completely different room.

Weekend was actually ok and we had a good time at my in-laws house. On Sunday my dh and I were able to go grocery shopping together and actually talk about relationship stuff. It must have done good 'cause he has sent me 2 online messages of love and called me at lunch to say he loves me :D.

I have been waffling on 2 more lbs down for the last few days. I am not going to add them to my ticker until I see them gone for a few days straight. I have been craving chocolate and bread this past week so I am going to work on increasing my veggies this week. I want to go get some more spaghetti squash and fresh green beans if I can. I was shocked that I was able to get DH to eat the squash but he loved it. He has been doing well on his eating and is down about 8 lbs or so. he gained weight during my last pregnancy and I didn't so he's losing his "baby" fat. :)

You all are making me wanna read some of the paperbacks I've squirreled away. My mom and friend Harriet pass on their crime and detective books on to me and I can read a few a week if I have time. with the kids I am lucky to read one a week or one in two weeks lately :(. One day they will be independant and I will get to go back to reading more.

Ugh, I would love to have someone else come in to help clean this house up. Kitchen here I come...

Hugs !!!!!

09-19-2005, 05:32 PM
I have to say, my housekeeper is my one indulgence I couldn't live without!!! Even if you only do it every few months, it's sooo nice to let someone else do it!

09-19-2005, 05:41 PM
Melissa, I used to have a housekeeper and it drove me crazy. I am one of those compulsive perfectionist types and nobody has ever been able to clean my house to meet my standards. It is MY fault, not theirs. They did a fine job - but they weren't scrubbing corners with a toothbrush. LOL! Of course, it is all a moot point now anyway. As I am sure you know, nothing stays clean for long with three little ones afoot!

09-20-2005, 09:12 AM
LMAO, when we got home it took all of 7 minutes to have stuff scattered every where.

09-20-2005, 11:49 AM
I am having trouble getting out of a maintainence frame of mind. I want to buckle down and knock off these last 20 pounds. But, I just can't seem to make myself do it. Part of the problem is that I am still trying to find a routine now that school is back in session. My eating is fine but I need to drop by calories by 100-200 to give myself a jump start but I haven't been able to do that consistently. I'll get there - it just might take a week or two before I can talk myself into it. I guess as long as I am not gaining weight I don't have to worry.

We had an open house at my son's school last night. It was nice meeting all of the other parents. I am the assistant room mom this year and it was good to get a feel for who we'd be able to count on throughout the year. I love being involved but every year I wonder what I've gotten myself into!

Hope everyone's week has gotten started off right! Have a great Tuesday!

09-20-2005, 12:53 PM
Mornin', ladies. I've done pretty good the last two days. Last night I had to have an extra coke (sometimes the craving just won't go away), but I managed to say "no thank you" to my dad when he asked if I wanted a candybar. I walked yesterday, and for once I got up early and walked before work. I might try that tomorrow, too. I don't have to be in at my clinicals 'til 9:00, so if I get up at 7:00, I'll have plenty of time.

09-20-2005, 01:35 PM
That's great Ruby, the strength that comes with being able to say "no thanks" is amazing. I wish I could get up early to workout, but every time I try my hand lands on "snooze" instead of "off"

the slim me
09-20-2005, 02:35 PM
Hi again, I'm baby sitting today with my granddaughter and she is finally taking a nap. My hat's off to you ladies with more than one child! She runs me ragged. Melissa: I envy you, I want a housekeeper too! But I know I would clean the house before she got here. Can't have any body comming in and seeing a dirty house!

Tricia: Those last few pounds are the worst! And you get so few calories to play with every one counts! It always takes me awhile to get in the right frame of mind too. After that I'm ok.

Rubyblushu: Do you mind giving us your name? If you do that's ok. You were speaking of clinicals? What kind? Good for you for saying "no". It's not easy but it's worth it.

09-20-2005, 04:55 PM
My mother says all the time "I don't know how you do it". I was an only child and well behaved if I do say so myself. I just look at her and say "what choice do I have?" lol

Did I tell y'all I'm hitting Coyote Ugly this weekend? Probably not but now I have to rant, I got a suite at a hotel in Buckhead and now all my "friends" have backed out. Looks like I'll be dancin' on the bar alone. Grrrrrrr

09-20-2005, 08:25 PM
So, I'm sitting in class, bored out of my mind. And craving a candybar. REALLY BAD. I think it's a good thing I'm here. I'd have to go to the next building over to find any vending machines. Hopefully, by the time I get home, a couple of Hershey's kisses will do the trick.

09-21-2005, 09:10 AM
A girl here keeps semi sweet choc chips in her desk, it's not as "bad" for you and curb the craving. ~*~ go away cravings vibes ~*~

09-21-2005, 09:36 AM
Hey girls, how are you all?

Freda: I have ONE grandson and he's 5 and you would think I had 11. Like you, when he is here he poops me out just playing games. When he was younger, whew, I really couldn't keep up with him. Now it is just a bazillion rounds of Kerplunk until I want to throw up. I don't get to see him much (even though they only live across town, another story I can't go into) so I went out and bought a whole bunch of board games like checkers, Kerplunk etc and keep them in one of those little cubes you sit on. When he comes over he heads right for it. At home, he plays a huge amount of video games so this is nice for him. I need to get him some modeling clay and stuff like that as the stuff I had has gotten icky. He is supposed to work with it anyway for his gross motor skills.

Ruby: My suggestion is get you some of the Slimfast bars that are like candy. They are lower in fat and sugar and taste great. Also, if you can't give up the soft drink have you at least tried C2? I don't think it is bad at all and I don't like Diet drinks unless I am eating something. I am a Pepsi person, but I think the C2 tastes more like Coke than the Pepsi Edge tastes like regular Pepsi. At least with these two things you would be cutting some of the sugar out.

Gosh it is hot here and no end in sight. It reached 100 in places here yesterday. I am ready for some fall weather. I took my little yorkie for a walk at 7:30 yesterday morning and had to carry him part way home because he got overheated. So, no more of that until it cools off some.

I guess I better get hoppin. Today is Mop the floors day (since it is so very hot here right now, I break up my weekly cleaning into days instead of doing it all at once and getting overheated.)

Have a good day!


09-21-2005, 11:13 AM
Oooh Faye good idea, and the Peanut Butter South Beach Cereal Bars.....OMG YUMMY!

09-21-2005, 11:28 AM
Faye, my kids are about the same age as your grandson and one of our favorite projects is making our own play dough. I don't know if it would be as good as modeling clay for developing his motor skills since it isn't as stiff, though. But, if you want to try it here is the recipe: 1 cup flour, 1/2 cup salt, 2 t. cream of tartar, 1 cup water, 1 t. food color, 2 t. oil - Mix it up over medium heat and stir continually until a gooey ball forms. Remove from heat and let cool.

My kids get excited watching it turn to play dough - it is pretty cool. Also, I don't add food coloring until it has cooled. That way I can divide the dough up and make 4 colors instead of just one. It keeps forver in a ziplock bag.

Okay, so remember the other day I ran my first mile without stopping? Today I made it for 2.25! And I still think I could have gone further but I had to get back home to get the kids ready for school. Here's the thing, though. Today I had gone about 3/4 of a mile and I really wanted to quit. I wasn't tired really I just didn't want to do it. But, since I'd made a whole mile before I couldn't give up because I knew deep down that I could make. So, now, I'll never be able to stop short of 2 miles because I can't tell myself, "I can't" now that I know I most certainly can. I know I should be glad that I don't have an "out" for myself anymore. Honestly, though, I'm not quite sure that I am.

It is probably a good thing that I've come to a point that I am pushing myself while exercising. I can't seem to consistently lower my calories so I know the only way I'm going to shed these last 20 pounds is to burn them off. I need to go shopping - it seems to be my best incentive these days.

Melissa, I am sorry to hear that your friends backed out on you. Tonight was the night DH and I were supposed to go see SonVolt and our babysitter fell through. I'm trying to talk him into going alone. I think he was more excited about us going out together than he was about seeing the band so I don't think he is going to. I am still going to try and find another sitter but it isn't likely with such late notice on a school night (we wouldn't be leaving home until 9 so we wouldn't be back before 12:30-1).

Sweet Tea
09-21-2005, 11:33 AM
Mornin' all :D. Just popping in before chasing Beren down for a diaper change. I am pretty sure that smell is not coming from the cat next to me :(.

Those South Beach bars are good but I used to eat The Zone bars and they were really really good. The chocolate based ones were the best. I used to eat them when I worked and it really helped me get through the day and through cravings for chocolate.

I ended up doing my exercise video inside yesterday since it was just too hot to go out with the boys. I felt good yesterday but this morning my left knee fels kinda crappy. I have a touch of arthritis in it so I think i need to watch what I do. Hopefully today we can just go take a nice walk outside and i'll do my upper body stuff today to rest the knee a bit.

today is the first day of Fall right? I can't wait for it to cool down a bit. Evenings in the upper 70's or lower would be a dream.

off to change diaper... be back later!!

09-21-2005, 12:44 PM
ohhh i'm ready for cooler weather too!!!

09-22-2005, 02:14 AM
I know. It's cool enough in the mornings (I don't need my airconditioning most mornings) and in the evening (I don't feel like passing out after a walk), but the middle of the day is still too darn HOT!

I'm looking forward to fall. It's a pretty sweet time of year. Holidays. Birthdays. Holidays. :D

I'm hoping to talk my mom into trying some new lower cal Thanksgiving recipes. I expect to see lots of those on 3fatchicks starting in November.

I feel bad for football players. They must be dyin' out there.

Oh, BTW, speaking of the hospital bookstore where I work, they have a lot of Alabama/Auburn merchendise. Expensive merchendise. And people by them everyday. We sell tons of the scrubs, and they're $50 dollars a pair. :shrug: They can do what they like. It's not my money they're spending! :lol:

Sweet Tea
09-22-2005, 02:21 AM
Hey ruby! $50 for scrubs just ain't right!! LOL

I should be in bed but I'm just not sleepy yet. I had to make candles tonight but I didn't get to go out to the workshop until after the kids were asleep. I got the baby put in bed at about 10 pm. :( I then worked on orders until about 12:30 am. My arms and upper body definitly got a workout this evening :) YAY! I never did do the exercise dvd earlier in the day. Playing with the boys was more important.

I found out today that my DH asked off work for our anniversary next month (on Oct. 31st) so that we can plan a whole day to be together. I was so suprised and touched. I hope we can figure out something nice to do and I also hope we can pawn the kids off on auntie and grandma!! :D I need to lose a bit more weight before then so my dress up clothes fit better! Another 8 lbs would be awesome.

I can't believe that Rita is a catagory 5 storm -- I cannot imagine the fear that Gulf coast residents in Texas and LA are feeling about this. My prayers are with them...

Ok, I think I am getting sleepy now. I will see ya'll in the morning!!

No, I'm Sweet Tea
09-22-2005, 03:13 AM
Hey Everyone! Long time no see! I haven't posted for a couple of weeks :( I have been really busy at work and just not spending as much time when I get home on the computer as I normally would. I think its stress from work since I sit behind a computer 10 hours a day. Much needed break when 5pm comes! Tonight...I can't sleep - ick! So I'm sitting on the couch with my cat and my laptop!

Sounds like everyone is doing well! :D I'm glad to read that. I hope to start posting more again in the future. So far everything is going fine with me. Still holding at 16 lbs down, but I haven't weighed in almost two weeks. I should know soon if there has been a change or not. If there has been, I hope its a loss and not a gain! LOL! I have done well with eating, but I really want and need excercise!!

I am to meet my new Dr. next monday who will be giving me the epidural shots for my back (another ICK!). I am hoping it gives me relief long enough for me to be able to get some decent excercise in, to help me lose more weight, to help my back! I guess I will just have to wait and see.

Sara - I was going to call you around 10 pm but I was afraid it was too late. Now that I see you were up, I wish I had called :( That is great news to hear that Bryan asked for ya'lls anniversary off - YAY!! If I can help with the kids in any way, just let me know! I think I am going to have to steal you again soon for another few hours for some girl time!

Anyone wanna hear a funny story? Ok here goes...
last friday I was walking from my living room to my bedroom, and my shorts just completely fell down around my ankles :lol: THAT was a good feeling!

Well ladies, I am off to see if I can finally get me some sleep before I get up for work in the morning :dizzy: I will try to be better about posting! I hope everyone has a great nite! ;)

the slim me
09-22-2005, 12:25 PM
Good morning all, It's a cool rainey day here in Michigan. I did get my walk in before the rain started but it looks like it's going to rain the rest of the day. GOOD! We need it bad.
Ruby: My Psych teacher used to tell us to eat a bag of peanuts before we had a test. They upped your energy and improved your brain power. Takes away the cravings too. Not too many though, they can be high in calories. But they are much better for you than the nutritional bars.

Melissa: I haven't been out dancing for a long time. Scoot over, i'll jump up on the bar too!

Gma2one: I baby sit for the kids 2 days a week. I've kept them since they were 3 months old, when my DIL had to go back to work. They have their own rooms at my house and this is second home! So sorry to don't get to see him as much as you would like. How can you have too many people who adore you?

Jawsmom: You ran 2.25 miles!!! You totally ROCK! I walk for 30-40 min and that's about it. I have tried running but I have weak ankels and I always turn my ankle. If you just drop 100 calories a day and burn a couple of hundred you will loose the weight withouht feeling like you're working too much.... it's just slower but you wil get there.

Sarah; What kind of candles do you make? How do you ever find the time! You must be so organized. I guess you have to be with kids anyway.

Sweet #2: I have had those epidural shots 3 different times and I'm ready to ask for them again too. My back has been so bad this summer. I'm ok during the day but it's almost impossible to sleep from the pain. I hate taking pain killers but if I didn't take something I would never sleep! I have a story simular to yours: I was walking down the hall and my pajama bottoms fell off! Glorious feeling, isn't it?

By now, have a great day Freda

09-22-2005, 02:00 PM
Come on up, there's plenty of room on the bar cause I just broke 200!!!!!!!!! 198.5 this morning!!!!!!!!!!

the slim me
09-22-2005, 02:38 PM
Melissa what great news!!! You are going to be looking pretty awsome up there! Tell hubby he better go and take a big stick to beat off the guys!

09-22-2005, 04:00 PM
Sweet tea- Isn't it great when you have a whole day to spend with someone close to you? Especially when you're both very busy.

The Slim Me- Thanks for the peanut tip. That actually works better for me than nutritional bars-I prefer savory snacks. I might start packing a bag of unsalted (my favorite kind) peanuts with my lunch to have at school.

Melissa- SWEET! Best way to celebrate? With a BIG slice of pizza! :lol: Only kidding. :D Keep up the good work.

09-22-2005, 06:18 PM
wooooo hooo Melissa!!!! YOU GO GIRL! :cheer: my scale finally moved also!!!

09-22-2005, 07:34 PM
Melissa, that's AWESOME! Welcome to ONEDERLAND! Keep up the good work!

09-22-2005, 10:00 PM
Y'all, I did so good today. Not only did I drink water all day (4 20oz bottles-I was in and out of the bathroom all day :lol:), but I passed up both cake and corndogs (I had a lean cuisine instead).


Sweet Tea
09-22-2005, 11:39 PM
Way to go Melissa!!!!

Ruby -- good job on passing up the cake and corndogs!! I am such a sucker for cake that I think it would have been hard for me to pass up. Good Job :D

Freda -- I make handcarved candles with ribbons and bows designs. If you click on my name and go to my profile you can see a pic of one of my wedding candles that is not personalized with text. I am actually very disorganized and I am really unsure how I get things done. I think I thrive on chaos and worrying. There is nothing more motivating than a looming deadline for me :).

Ugh -- I hear the baby... I'll be back later!

No, I'm Sweet Tea
09-22-2005, 11:53 PM
Melissa - Congratualtions!! It must feel awesome to get below the 200 mark! I definately can't wait for that feeling!!

I am down 4 more lbs today - so that's 20 down on my end! YAY!! People are starting to notice and that is a good feeling. It makes me even more motivated to keep going :)

Today I got to have lunch AND dinner with Sara (sweet tea)! What a treat! She also made those south beach brownies tonight and much to my amazement - they were actually very good!

Well, is everyone preparing for another weekend of being well behaved and passing up all the temptutious things that the weekend always seems to bring??? LOL! We can all do it!

Have a great night ladies :)

the slim me
09-23-2005, 10:42 AM
Good morning all, Hope it's a wonderful day where ever you are.
Curlylocks, WHO HOO! Glad to hear that the scale in moving in the right direction! Doesn't it give you a little added incentive to see that hand on the scale go down?

Ruby, Way to go girl! That must have been hard, turning down the foodm but you did it girl! I know when you first start drinking moe water you think you are going to have to get a port-a-potty to carry around, but your body will adjust to it and you will stop having to go all the time. It's flushing out all the toxins!!

Sarah, Your candles are awsome!

09-23-2005, 12:30 PM
Sweet Tea-What a beautiful candle! That's really cool. I've seen homemade candles before, but I don't think I've seen any with that level of quality.

The Slim Me- Thanks for telling me about the water thing. It would be nice not to have to be doing the "I really have to pee" dance all day.

09-23-2005, 02:04 PM
SWEET TEA! What beautiful candles - I wasn't expecting something so extravagant! I had a "craftier" look in mind - but only because that would be about the most I could do. I lack creativity for much more than that. It must feel a great sense of accomplishment when you finish one. Really, I'm impressed!

09-24-2005, 12:05 PM
Hi Girls,

I've been away. Went out of town to DC and unfortunately gained 2 lbs :( I'm so upset with myself!

It sounds like you're all doing so well. I'm behind on this thread and having trouble keeping up. I'll try to do better bc I need to! ;)

Going to the lake today to see my family. I'll check back soon.

No, I'm Sweet Tea
09-24-2005, 01:19 PM
Hey Kerry - 2 lbs? Hey it could be alot worse. Don't be so hard on yourself, ok? You will knock that 2 lbs back off in no time! We ALL know how much easier it is to gain than lose. You will take it back off, don't worry! We are here for you whenever you need us!! :)

Glad to see you checking in! I am a lil behind myself so I just jumped back in the other day and started posting and read back through to get caught up whenever I get a chane.

the slim me
09-26-2005, 10:29 AM
Morning Everyone, Hope you all had a wonderful, productive weekend. I know everyone ate healthy and exercised, right? Everyone but me! I worked all weekend and didn't do so hot! Had a pt. code and that makes me so stressed I can't eat and couldn't sleep! But I'm off work for the next few days so it's back on the wagon! I wanted to go for a walk this morning but it's raining. I don't mind going for a walk in the rain if it's light, but it's poring out! I will still go if it slacks up some.

Remember, today is a new day, a new start.

Go make it a good one, Freda

09-26-2005, 03:39 PM
Saturday morning I woke up at 9:30. I wasn't hungry at the time, and then started cleaning my room. Then it was naptime. By the time it was time to go shopping with my mom at 3:00, I only had time to grab an Oats N' Honey bar.

That was a really stupid idea. The entire time we were shopping, I had no energy. I wanted to go back to sleep, and I couldn't think at all. Thankfully, we grabbed a bag of apple slices for snack, which made me feel better.

It's amazing how cruddy you feel not eating enough. How to ana's do it?

BTW, I mostly did pretty bad this weekend. But, I usually manage to do well during the week, and I can only hope I'll do better next weekend.

the slim me
09-27-2005, 10:48 AM
Good morning all, It has turned COLD here. From one day to the next you don't know how to dress. I just keep a sweatshift in the car just in case.

It is good weather to walk in thought. Better than those summer days when it was so hot you couldn't get out.

Yes, you do have to eat for energy. Food is fuel for our bodies. Unfortunateally, we also use it for a lot of other things too. Like recreation, stress relief.....

I will check in later, hope to see more posts, Freda

09-27-2005, 12:05 PM
Wow, things have been super busy here, so I have little time to chat. Just wanted to say that when you don't eat when you're hungry your body goes into safe mode and starts to store fat/calories b/c it thinks you're starving. My PT said to eat lots of little meals to keep myself from getting hungry and it will keep my body from storing extra fat and bump my metabolism. He said keep it between 1500-1800 calories a day. He also said that for every 1lb of lean muscle your body burns 50 calories without even doing anything. You can burn 500 calories a day for every 10lbs of lean muscle! WoooHooo! So build that lean muscle, watch how much you take in compared to what you burn, and make healthy choices!

Sweet Tea
09-27-2005, 02:30 PM
Thank you for that info Melissa!! It's something that I have not kept in mind but I should. I think I should print it out and put it on the fridge. I often don't eat when i need to because I don't put my needs high up on the list. The kids get taken care of first most of the time.

09-27-2005, 02:54 PM
I got up this morning at 6:00, just so I could walk on the treadmill before work. Well, I walk into where our treadmill is, and my sister's already using it! She doesn't live at home, but she comes over 3-4 mornings a week to use our treadmill. I asked her how long she'd be on there, and she said, "Until about 6:45."

So, I ended up taking a shower, putting my hair in a ponytail, and making my lunch while she was doing that. As soon as she was done, I jumped on it and hauled tail to get in a mile. I ended up doing a mile in about 18 minutes, which is very good for me. I actually had time to eat breakfast, and wasn't even late!

Next time, though, I'll use the Bow Flex while she walks. That way I'll be able to utilize the time even better!

09-27-2005, 02:59 PM
Oh, also, The Slim Me, I'm sorry you had such a difficult weekend. I have trouble eating when I'm stressed or worried, as well. Just remember, if you don't eat enough, on top of anxiety from the situation, you might make yourself sick.

Have you tried things like drinking tomato soup, etc? Sometimes it's easier to when it's not real heavy or dense.

the slim me
09-28-2005, 12:29 PM
HI Everyone, I got my walk in early this morning. Ended up walking for an 1 1/2 hours because I went with a friend and walked around the lake. Next time we're talking our bikes and biking around. Good to change up like that.

Ruby, I usually keep a can of slim fast in my work bag for times when I just can't eat but in this case even that wasn't an option. Doesn't happen often, thank you God! Does your sister work the same hours as you? Could you ask her to come over a little later so you can get your exercise in? How about after work?

It is always a good ideal to think of food as fuel, and Sarah is right, we put ourselves last on most things. We're so busy careing for every one else we don't take the time to care for ourselves. But who's going to care for everyone else if we're sick or unable to do it! That's why on the plane they always tell you to put your air mask on first. You can't take care of the kids or put their masks on if you pass out from lack of oxygen! I'm not talking about a selfish "it's all me" attitude, i'm talking about meeting your needs as well as everyone elses.

Hope everyone has a great day, Freda

Sweet Tea
09-30-2005, 11:59 AM
Hey girlies!! Sorry for my absence thsi week. I have had to kind of regroup this morning and set my new goals and plans for October. I yo-yo'd on 4 lbs this month with only 2 staying officailly off. That is great but I wanted to do at least 1 lb a week. I am restarting phase 1 of SB tomorrow to get rid of my cravings for sweets and I have set an exercise goal of 1000 minutes for the onth of October. That's slightly over 30 minutes a day of exercise. My goal for October is to do well and celebrate at the end with a wonderful anniversary outing with my dh on the 31st.

Today I have a teething little one and a very clingy boy taking up my lap space. I'm glad it's still big enough for the two of them :). I will be doing house cleaning, laundry, and some candle work today. I have a wedding set to mail out today that turned out really well last night. I need to take pictures before packing it up. I still have 8 candles to make to clear out my order box... that is my weekend goal. I know I will feel so much better and in control if I get them out.

So -- How are you all???? Everyone has been really quiet lately. Check in and give us an update if you get a moment today or over the weekend.

Hugs to all!!!

09-30-2005, 10:14 PM
I see where all you southerners are I live in of florida are considered 'southern', while others are just 'florida' I live in the boonies. smack dab between jacksonville & gainesville. anyhow...
I'm Mindy, 26y/o. I'm mommy to a 4y/o daughter, Zoey. and, live with my SO, Shawn, who is also on this 'diet' a.k.a. lifestyle change.
We are doing the atkins far so good for me. giving up sweet tea was tough at first, but, I'm good. I just do the unsweetened thing and sweeten it with whatever is handy(other than sugar).
I look forward to chatting with you ladies.

No, I'm Sweet Tea
10-01-2005, 01:41 AM
Welcome Mindy! You'll love it here :D

Hello southern belles! How has everyone been? Good I hope. I was gone all week too, sorry! I had two newspapers to get out at work and I was too pooped at the end of each night to get on the computer. I will try to do better! ;)

I'm doing ok although I feel like I could be a little more strict in what I am eating. I am steadily losing weight it seems but I feel like I'm not taking in enough calories and I haven't really had braekfast all week, or my snacks and I know that's bad! I'm going to try to do much better next week. I have noticed that without my breakfast and snacks I feel a good bit more sluggish and I don't like that at all. When I do everything like I am suppose to I feel so great. So...I will talk goals with Sara sometime this weekend so I too can make October great!

I really need to work on the excercise. I will have my first epidural shot on the 12th and I am really hoping that will help the nerve pain in my leg some so that I can become a little more active and do something. That is the most frustrating thing for me bc I can see the weight coming off but I can also see flabbiness and I don't want that...LOL :)

I hope everyone has a great weekend and I will pop back in again this weekend!

10-02-2005, 04:03 PM
Hey, everyone!

I did horribly last week. I just had a lot going on w/ school, work, etc.

But, that's okay, I'm not going to beat myself up about it. I'm just going to start where I left off.

I actually have managed to do well today, once I managed to stop eating the bacon and biscuits we had for breakfast! :lol:

The Slim Me, as for my sister, I think if I get as much ready as possible beforehand, and warmup and stretch while she's walking, I'll be able to get on and immediately kick it up higher, instead of doing my warm-up on the treadmill, then getting off and stretching. That seems to allow for more time.

10-02-2005, 04:06 PM
OH, BTW, welcome, Mindy! My dad did the same thing with sweet tea (I'm not sure why, either-he's not exactly concerned about his weight). He gradually reduced the amount of sweetener, and now he drinks it completely unsweetened.

Sweet Tea
10-03-2005, 11:36 AM
Welcome Mindy!!!! Nice to see another southern face here :). Although we have been a little slow around here lately we have a great group of women :D. Nice to have you here and I know we look forward to getting to know you. I see we have a very similar goal in mind. I know we will make it!!

The weekend was pretty good here -- I got a lot of exercise on Saturday with all the cleaning and dusting I did around the house. I still have a lot to do but it's nice to finally have done things that have been on my house list for a long time. I will try to make more progress through the week. Our house lookws like the inside of a toy chest and we are trying to reclaim each room. Hopefull we will get the kids stuff contained to two areas before long. On Sunday I got to spend time with Leanne and Christa :D YAY!!! That always makes me feel recharged. They are both looking awesome and are just melting away!!!!! Congrats Leanne & Christa :D

So, how is everyone doing this week? Got anything special going on in your neck of the woods?

the slim me
10-03-2005, 12:41 PM
Good morning everyone, Hope your weekend was good. I babysit all weekend so didn't get much exercise in. I don't know how you ladies with the little ones manage! But I did take her to the park and ran around a lot. I hope that counts for something. And I went for a bike ride Sunday evening. So not all is lost.

As far as eating.....I do fine during the day but I can't sleep at night due to aches and pains (old age is wonderful) and I compensate by eating. I read somewhere that the body actually craves more calories if you dont sleep. It's like it's saying "ok, if you aren't give me sleep at least give me food".

I had to go to the doctor this morning for an echocardiogram so I was out early. I picked up some groceries on the way home. Any one know how to find out the calorie count in Deli lunch meat? It was Healthy Choice Roast Beef and Chicken.

Welcome the new member who has joined us! Looking forward to seeing lots of posts from you.

Have a nice day all, freda

Sweet Tea
10-03-2005, 03:32 PM
Freda -- I'm so sorry about your not being aboe to sleep. I know how rough that can be and it does throw your eating out of whack. When I can't sleep or have had troubles with insomnia I found myslef eating a lot at night. And it was always bad stuff. My dad was a middle of the night eater and he would eat anything he could. Funny that he was a tiny man in spite of this... Now I find myself wanting to eat something when I am up in the middle of the night feeding Logan. A scoop of peanut butter here or there.

Look here for the info on your deli meat --

I've bookmarked it. Very good info...

For the calorie count of other stuffyou could use the calculator on as it is fairly accurate or go to . i have used both and like them.

Freda, was your appointment this morning a routine thing or have you not been feeling well? I hope it is nothing serious. Hugs!

I have so far not gotten much exercise today but I am getting the house stuff out of the way so that we can play outside when Julia gets home from school. :) She has a volleyball net that she wants to put up. I am hoping we can play when Bryan gets home.

Ta ta for now (as Tigger would say) :D!

the slim me
10-04-2005, 11:43 AM
HI Every one, It's a beautiful day here and i'm washing the bed linen to hang outside on the line. I love the smell! It just puts me in a wonderul mood and helps me get to sleep. Now, why don't they make a fabric softner that smells like that? It's supposed to be in the mid 80's again today. Yesterday was a record high for this time of year. It's just delaying winter a little longer, but i'll take it!

I haven't gotten out to walk yet, I had to take my grandson to school this morning. But' i'm going before it gets too hot. Hope the rest of you gets in some exercise today.

Thanks for the sites Sweet. I did check them out and i'll have to bookmark then. I know the calorie count of almost everything (it took years to learn) but sometimes you get something new.

I had oatmeal for breakfast, with my usual splenda and raisins and cinnamon. Only this morning I had BROWN SUGAR with it too! Splenda has a new brown sugar out! I always used bown sugar but gave it up because of the calories. I can think of a few more things I want to try it on! Like my baked sweet potato along with butter spray. Takes so little to make me happy.

Have a good day, Freda

10-04-2005, 11:44 AM
Sorry I have been so out of the loop, between missed work with sick kids and now a pile up on my desk, I have zero time to check in. I have some before/after pics if y'all are interested! Amazing what 18.5 lbs can do for a person!

10-04-2005, 12:31 PM
Melissa, I would love to see your before and after pictures!

The Slim Me, when did they come out w/ the new Splenda brown sugar? I haven't seen it in stores, and I have looked.

10-04-2005, 03:17 PM
I have some catching up to do around here. I don't have any excuses for not checking in on the thread - I just keep forgetting!

Anyway, I am doing well on the food front but I could be exercising a little more than I have been. I've really buckled down and the scale has started moving again. I'm so glad about that. When I weighed in this week I couldn't help thinking, "I can't believe I'm actually DOING this!" It really motivated me to get down to business and rid myself of these last few pounds.

I'm anxious to get on with the next phase of my life. I keep finding these awesome off-season clothes sales and it bugs the stew out of me that I can't take advantage of them yet. I'm not sure what size I'll be when I reach my goal. I always sort of thought an 8 would be it. But, I'm in an 8 now and awfully close to a six and guess what? THIS AIN'T IT! The point is that I want to be in the size that I intend to stay in from here on out so I can do some REAL shopping - and I want it NOW!

I'm really tired of only having a couple of outfits to choose from between sizes. I'm pretty good and getting mix and match separates but there is only so much you can do with a couple pairs of pants. Oh well, at least I don't have to go to work where people would notice me wearing the same thing over and over. My kids don't seem to care what I have on. Heck, they'd spend every day without clothes if I let them. Oh, who am I kidding? My kids are naked about 90% of the time. "Dressed" to them is keeping their underwear on - LOL.

Well, I hope everyone is on plan and feeling healthy.

P.S. - Melissa, I LOVE before and after pictures - please post yours!

10-04-2005, 04:22 PM
Jawsmom, I just noticed that you've lost 76 pounds. That's awesome!

I'm curious, though. Do you have a problem with excess skin? I know with gastric bypass, the rapid weight loss causes excess skin. Was yours pretty gradual?

Just remember, though, as far as your weight goes-to a certain extent, you may never be "thin enough". When you carry around a lot of extra weight, that becomes part of your self-image, and that's how you see yourself. Just make sure that getting down to a size 6 is one you can really maintain.

10-04-2005, 05:13 PM
Ruby, I don't have a problem with excess skin. I have some on my tummy but I am positive that it is a result of carrying a twins and not from weight loss. I started losing on December 26, 2004 so it has taken me about 9 months to come this far. Actually, probably a little more as I'd lost from 214 down to about 195 and hovered there for several months before I kicked into gear again. I am of the opinion that how much (if any) excess skin a person is left with has more to do with age and how long they were overweight. Rapid weight loss certainly has an impact but I've noticed that there is less incidence of extra skin in those of us who haven't been obese all of our lives. Of course, that's just been my experience and certainly isn't the last word on the matter.

I know exactly what you mean about never being thin enough. I've found all along that it takes my brain much longer to process 20 pounds gone than it does my body to actually lose it. But, eventually, the two sync up - of course by then it is almost time to process the next 20. LOL. But, you are right. I look at my pants now and it amazes me that not only do I fit in them but they are getting loose. It is strange to say the least because I don't always see the "new" me.

As for a maintainable size, I am still experimenting with that. I actually think a 4 is what will make me happy and will be fairly easy to maintain but I will keep an open mind and make that decision when I come to it. I cycle my calorie intake and can still lose steadily on a 1600-1800 average with a moderate amount of exercise. At this point I usually hit about 1500-1600 a day average and that is more than enough food to satisfy me. I've spent the last couple of months on a maintainance break and I was able to maintain 139-140 on about 2000 calories a day. So, I expect that 115-125 should be maintainable on 1600-1800 calories (assuming I stick to my exercise routine - which I fully intend to do). I can definately live with that. But, like I said, I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. Your advice is good for all stages of weight loss because NOW is the time to plan for what happens next. Otherwise, all of our hard work could go right out the window!

10-04-2005, 08:32 PM
Hello all, I guess that I can fit in this group as I am from Fairfield Glade TN.

I am far from being a chick however, I am more of an old hen!

I have about 30 pounds to lose that I managed to put on last winter by sitting at the computer day after day instead of getting out for a walk. I was new to computers and got really hooked. :comp:

I am on the 'Tootsie Roll Pop Diet". I made it up. :lol: Actually it is a balanced diet of about 1200 calories with one Tootsie Roll Pop allowed per day. I am also walking 5 or 6 days out of 7. I have lost 5 pounds.

This is a great forum with a lot of support for everyone. I am impressed with the stories of how much everyone has lost. Good Going :cp:


10-04-2005, 10:19 PM
Welcome, Zoey!

That sounds like a cool diet. Suckers are good sweets to indulge in, I would imagine. It lasts longer, preventing you from eating a lot. And it's a "single serving" item, meaning you can get one and put the bag away.

I usually allow myself two Hershey's Kisses, or one light cheese stick (I like savory foods) for a treat.

the slim me
10-05-2005, 09:21 AM
Hi Everyone, Hope you all are feeling good this morning! I just checked in before I go for my bike ride. Todays goals are: bike for 1/2 hour and walk for 1/2 hour this evening. I did my weights yesterday.

Ruby, This is the first week i've found the Splenda brown sugar. It was a Meijer here in Michigan. I haven't seen it in any other stores yet but you should see it soon.

Zoey, That's funny, I just bought some Tootsie-roll-pops yesterday! They were the tropical flavored ones that I haven't seen before. And they are a good ideal for a "sweet" since they are portioned controled and don't have many calories. I'm an "old hen" also. Grandma to 2.

Jawsmom, I have a problem with body immage that I think most people who have been over weight have. I thought I was too heavy when I was a size 4! Everyone was telling me I was too thin but I always wanted to lose that "just a few more pounds". Now my goal is a size 6. Sometimes you don't see a true reflection in the mirror. I can look at picture of my self now and see that I was too thin, but I couldn't see it then. I'm not saying that isn't a good weight for you, just that I had a hard time judgeing myself.

Take care, have a good day, Freda

10-05-2005, 09:29 AM
ok here's my pics, i hope to catch up on posts sometime today or tomorrow.

Start pic was taken 08.15.05 and current pic was taken 10.02.05

10-05-2005, 11:29 AM
Melissa, I can't see your pictures but I don't know if it is my computer or your post. Anybody else have trouble?

Freda, I completely understand what you mean. I think the reason that I never felt "thin" when I was young (despite being a size 4-6) was because I'd never even considered weight training. I've got a fairly muscular build to begin with and I'm only 5'2 so I'm stocky to boot. I recently compared a picture of me now with one at the same weight when I was back in college - there is an obvious difference in my shape and size and I attribute that to resistence training. My sister is about 118 and a size 4. Since she and I are of similar build and height she's sort of my "gauge" as to what I'd like to get to. She doesn't do any kind of weight training so it is reasonable to expect that I'll be able to borrow her clothes without having to get my weight as low as hers.

I'm sort of at the stage now that my health is fine and I feel good. Any weight I lose from this point forward is gravy as far as I am concerned. I'm not quite happy with my body yet but I'm not unhappy with it anymore either. I'll keep plugging along and evaluate how I look and feel every 10 pounds or so. I figure I'll know where I want to be once I get there. But, honestly, if I never lose another ounce I know I'm already 100% better off than when I was 214 pounds!

Welcome, Zoey!

I'm off for a bike ride with the kids. It won't be much exercise since they have to stop and look at every bug, flower, and rock. But, it is a gorgeous morning and the fresh air has to be good for something. Have a great day everyone!

10-05-2005, 09:09 PM
Melissa, those pictures look great! I can definately see a difference. How tall are you? I look at the pictures, and they look a lot like how I see myself (I'm 155). I don't know if that's my self-image, or because I'm shorter than you. I'm 5'4, BTW.

Jawsmom, how much do you bike each day? I wish I could bycicle around town, but A) bikes scare me, and B) there are a lot of hills around where I live.

The Slim Me, I'm glad you told me that about the brown sugar. Maybe in a few weeks I'll be able to by some.

Sweet Tea
10-06-2005, 01:38 AM
Welcome Zoey!!!!!

Melissa -- your progress is amazing!!! your pics are awesome :D thank you for sharing!!!

Up late tonight just surfing the web. Changed my avatar to this painting I found by an artist in Tampa. I LOVE black kitties and this reminded me of a folk art Chat Noir in a way.

I'm still chugging away even though I have no change on my scale. I am at a loss as to what I am doing wrong or what. Maybe my body is still out of wack from having Logan. Today it kinda pissed me off that I am not losing but being so damn good and not having any of the stuff I was having before at this weight. Ugh... I chug on though because a person cannot eat and do like I am doing and not have some progress. I hope it's just sneaking off and that I will see a change later this week or after the weekend.

I saw the splenda brown sugar today and unless I am missing a different type the one I saw was a blend of splenda and actual brown sugar. Still a tremendous savings in calories but is there a true zero impact version? Just wondering.

well, I am off to bed. I love the sound of the rain this evening. The wind has really picked up a lot in the last hour or so but it is not bad a t all. Quite nice really... I hope others are ok around this area and that we don't get any flooding like they have been predicting all evening...

Hugs ya'll!!!

10-06-2005, 09:11 AM
I am 5' 8" so that's probably the difference. I was 160 when I married and I was super slim, my slimmest, and very pleased with myself. So the 4" inches I have certainly helps!

the slim me
10-06-2005, 10:28 AM
Good Morning All, Hope every one is doing great today.
Melissa, The pictures are great. You can really tell the difference. Looking good girl!

Sweet tea, Yes, it is the Splenda with brown sugar. Many less calories. I'm using it today with baked acorn squash sprinkled with that and a butte spray. Don't give up, you will start to see a weight loss? Do you watch Biggest Looser? One of the guys didn't have a good weight loss one week and the next week he had a HUGE weight loos. We all hit that brick wall (plateau) sooner or later. I think our bodies are just readjusting. Hang in there!


10-06-2005, 11:08 AM
Can another Southern Belle pop in?

I've been lurking around your thread because I'm acquainted with the very lovely Jawsmom (Hey Trish! :flow1: ) from chatting with her on a couple of other threads.

I'm definitely Southern, born and raised in North Carolina, lived away for most of my teen years and married life, but became a Tar Heel again about 14 years ago when I moved to Raleigh.

I considered myself to be really overweight (I was slender all through high school and *early marriage*) after hitting, then passing 175 lbs. about 24 years ago ... then it was gradually up to 234 by June of 2004, when I decided enough was enough. Since then I've lost 45 lbs., (but managed to gain nine of them back in the last couple of months or so! :( :mad: :devil: )

I am 61, and knew how bad the extra weight was for my health. So a year ago, I joined the YMCA, cut out a ton of food .... and have been very successful, overall. I exercised at least five times a week all last winter (water aerobic 3X, biking & weight room 2X per week). What a difference in my body! BUT ... this summer, I hurt my neck in the weight room and was very busy traveling, having company, etc. so I took an exercise/diet break, from mid-June on .... too much of one! :o

I am struggling now .............. big-time! So I would like to join your thread and make myself accountable to some others who are really working hard at the same thing. I've gotten lazy and need a good kick in the butt (I know Trish will do it! :lol: ) She is one of my inspirations .... 76 lbs. Fabulous, Trish! :flow2:

I need to review this whole thread and get to know everybody .... but I'll be baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack! :D Thanks for listening to me! Have a good day, all!

10-06-2005, 11:25 AM
Welcome Bonnie, we're so glad you're here!

10-06-2005, 01:10 PM
Ruby, I don't bike ofetn. It is just a little adventure that I take with the kids sometimes. I spend more time stopped waiting for them to catch up than I do actually riding so it certainly isn't a formal exercise for me. Typically we stay on our street. I'm scared to get to far away from home with them because I'm scared they will get bored or tired before we can make it back. I made that mistake hiking with them once. We went a little too far into the woods and it was a miserable trip back home.

Melissa, I've changed all of my settings and still can't see your pictures but it sounds like you look GREAT. And, wow, 5'8" - what I wouldn't give! Luckily I've finally accepted that nothing is going to change the fact that I'm short so I might as well make the most of what I've got!

Bonnie, I'm so glad you found this thread. I know you have more success when you post often and this is a chatty group. I'm the same way. There is nothing worse than struggling to keep a thread alive! And you know I'm a talker! I am sorry to hear you are having a hard time with your weight loss but I am sure you can get back on track now that things are settling down for you. Now is the time to really start focusing again - I KNOW you can do it!

Yesterday was probably the WORST food day I've had since I started losing weight back in December. I've indulged here and there along the way but yesterday it was one rotten choice after the other. It started out with a healthy bowl of oatmeal, and lunch was on plan and then I just went nuts. I'm not sure what happened. I wasn't stressed or tired or hormonal - all my usual triggers. I just lost any shred of care I had for what I was putting in my mouth. Maybe I was bored? I don't know. It is possible that I was just cutting off my nose to spite my face. I guess all that matters is that I'm back on track and today will be a MUCH healthier day. I've put a postive spin on the situation by reminding myself that I ate that way every single day for several years and didn't even bat an eye. At least now I feel sit to my stomach over it. And not in a guilt ridden way either. I was physically ill last night from all the crap I'd ingested from noon on. Lesson learned!

Sweet Tea, I am glad to hear that you are plugging along despite the scale not budging. Just remember that the scale doesn't necessarily lie but it doesn't tell the whole truth either. If you are feeling healthier then you are making progress. Weight loss can be a long journey and sometimes we just have to tweak our plans until we find what works for us. It is a good exercise becuase you'll never be able to stop evaluating what you are doing. After 75 pounds I still have to step back every few months, look at what I'm doing, and make changes to get the scale moving again. You will find your rhythm and be on your way to goal in no time - really!

How is everybody's weather these days? We are finally getting the occasional cool breeze and this weekend our highs are supposed to me in the mid-70's. I intend to enjoy every minute because we are sure to be back up in the 90's before Halloween!

Well, lunch is about to roll around and I still have breakfast dishes in the sink so I'd better get a move on. Hope you all have a great day!

10-06-2005, 01:28 PM
Thank you for the welcome Sweet Tea. Love the avatar and hang in there, you will see results sooner or later. :goodvibes

Melissa....great pictures! :yes:

Welcome bonniebelle. I think that losing weight at age 61 is a great idea. I am working on it at 68 and it is hard, but not impossible! ;)

Freda, I seem to be following you around the forum. Maybe because I am an RN who once lived in MI? :shrug:


10-06-2005, 01:33 PM

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10-06-2005, 02:49 PM
hi girls... sigh like u guys i am also stuck!!! I am walking 3 miles in the mornings, doing 1 hr of circuit training, and then walking another 2 miles in the evening.GRRRRRRR and also staying oP with my food and does the scale move???? NOOOOOOOOOO

altho.. i will say that my body is changing shape... even if the scale wont move.. so dont get discouraged ladies... recheck your measurements i bet u have lost inches even if u havent lost pounds!!!

10-06-2005, 04:32 PM
Curlylocks, maybe you're just replacing the fat with muscle?

Jawsmom, I wouldn't worry too much about yesterday. If that's the worst day you've had since December, than I'm impressed. I have entire weeks where I say, "screw it". Then I have to get right back on track afterwards.

Bonnie, welcome! I understand about the weight gain. I did horribly last summer, gaining about 10 pounds that I had lost. However, I'm (mostly) back to where I need to be, and I didn't gain all of the weight I lost back.

Melissa, if I was your height, I'd be so svelte right now. :D

Sweet Tea, even if you aren't losing anymore, you're still eating healthy, which has tons of benefits besides weight loss. Plus, you haven't gained any, which, hey, BONUS.

10-06-2005, 05:11 PM
Ok girls, I'm not really doing so good and probably throwing in the dieting towel at this point. I had surgery last week and the found Endometriosis. They blasted about 75% of it. The approach is to go on fertility drugs for 3 cycles with one break in Dec to get pregnant. NO DIETING. If I don't get pregnant by Feb then I have to go on Lupron for SIX MONTHS to induce menopause (AT 31!) and put the Endo into remission. Then once I come off the Lupron (if it comes to that) then we'll do IUI &/or IVF.

Please pray for me that we get pregnant straight away and don't have to go down this long and painful road. We've been trying for over two years and I really thought that losing the weight and getting healthy was one of the last hurdles. Now I have another. My body is just working against me. AND if/when I do get pregnant I have to take injectible blood thinners and Progesterone through the first trimester. This is all so challenging but we want a family so much.

I'll still peak in on you from time to time. I'm going to work to maintain. I seem to be able to keep it between 139-142. As soon as I get above 140 I tone down the sweets/carbs and it goes back down.

Good luck to all of you. I hope you all reach your goals and get healthy!!

10-06-2005, 05:22 PM
Kerry, I wish you the best of luck. I never had trouble conceiving but we did have our share of problems when trying to build our family. I know how emotionally draining it is to want children so badly and to have one roadblock after another thrown in front of you. Keep your thoughts positive, relax as much as you can. Even if you find yourself facing the worst case scenerio the payoff will be worth every second. Please keep us posted!

10-06-2005, 09:51 PM
wishing u luck kerry and will keep u in my prayers! hugs

Sweet Tea
10-07-2005, 01:57 PM
Kerry -- I will be sending you some major get pregnant vibes!!!! Every bit of effort you put in will be so worth it in the end. I will be praying for you and I do hope you will continue to keep us updated as you can or feel like it. Do you have a good support group/family behind you for everything coming up? We will all be wishing you and your dh the best of luck!!!

Curlylocks -- If you feel that your body is changing but the scale ain't budging you are still making awesome progress!!! I too have been doing really well with no weight change but I have noticed things fitting better. I'm just gonna chug through and get over the plateau. We'll do it together!

Ruby -- you are so right :) I have not gained so that is half of the daily battle already won. I am now toying around with my daily plan and I will just tinker until I get it right. Frustrating on some days but I do feel better so I know I am on the right track.

Zoey - How's it going??

Freda --Thank you for the words of encouragement :). It felt like a good hug. You all are great!!

Melissa -- just gotta say again Thank you for sharing your pics :). I really need to take some more pics of me so that I will be able to see the differences.

Bonnie -- Welcome Girlie!!! Wonderful to have you here :D. I look forward to getting to know you better.

Jawsmom -- You are an inspiration :). Thank you for the pep talk and I am going to do exactly as you said. I am tweaking away here and staying positive about not gaining. Yesterday I was a bit pissed off because I made the kids some tea and although I didn't want any (AMAZING I know) it made me think how I was eating crap before and was maintaining at this weight and now I am being so damn good and nothings happening. The anger passed though and today is a good day so far :). I hope you are feeling better from your fall off the wagon!

I apologize if I have forgotten anyone this afternoon. I am off to help Beren in his room while Logan sleeps a bit. Logan is teething so bad right now :(.

10-07-2005, 04:19 PM
Melissa, thanks for the link! Wow! You look great. I can REALLY tell the difference in the side and back view pictures. You carry your weight very well - even in the "before" pictures. Keep up the great work!

10-08-2005, 02:08 PM
:flow2: I still haven't had time to review the whole thread but I wanted to say thank you to those of you who have given me such a warm welcome... Sweet Tea, rubyblushu, zoey, jawsmom, my3sons. So happy to be here with you all ... :)

Knowing that I've signed on to this thread has helped me stay at maintenance level the last couple of days (where before, I was out of control ... I've stayed at 1800 to 1900 the last couple of days rather than the 3000 kind of thing! :o ) NOW, I need to be eating 1400 but I'll get there again....

Today I have to get through THE DOG'S BIRTHDAY!!! :D That's correct! We're having filet mignon, wild rice, layered overnight salad, Emeril's Coconut Cake and OUR homemade (old crank-style) French Vanilla ice cream. Trissie is 16 years old, and still looking good, a wheaten Cairn Terrier. (Toto was a Cairn ...) He's given us so much joy and love, and he loves steak so we do his birthday RIGHT! :p I'll have moderate amounts of this menu, then it gets given away or frozen....

Melissa, your photos must be a real motivator for you. You do carry your weight very well, good proportions there! Jawsmom, don't feel bad about your one off-day. When you have a couple of months of them (like *moi*), then worry! :D

I look forward to getting to know all of you more, but I must go get ready for our doggie party (with human guests!) Just wanted to tell you that knowing I'm going to chat with you ladies has helped me already .... :)

Have a great weekend, all! :dance:

Sweet Tea
10-08-2005, 05:27 PM
Hey Bonnie :) Trissie sounds like a very well loved family member and any family member in good standing deserves a grad celebration like that. Bring on the steak!!!! Please let us know how the party goes :D. Sounds like a ton of fun.

Hopefull I'll be going to see Leanne tonight to get a bit of girl time. I need a little recharge away from the kids. We shall see though as dh has not signed onto the plan yet...

Hugs gals and I'll check in later!!

10-10-2005, 03:53 PM
Gosh girls, life is crazy here. But I had to check in and say "hi". Keep up the good work, look at all these lbs we're losin'!!!!!

10-11-2005, 12:01 AM
we're the biggest losers, so where's our 100K? that would come in handy being that eating healthy seems to cost more than not eatin' healthy. hahah yesyesss, keep up the good worrk everyone!!! :D

the slim me
10-11-2005, 09:20 AM
Good morning everyone, Hope today is a wonderful day for you! A lot of it is how we make it. So make it a good one.

Bonnie, I had to laugh at the dogs Birthday Party! I thought we were the only ones who did that! We have a little Shih Tsu and we have a party for him every year. We don't get That elaborate, but he always has his birthday cake with candles and we sing the birthday song to him. And he always gets a gift.

Sara, Hope you and Leanne had a nice girl chat. It is good for the soul! And helps bring things back into focus.

Melissa, You are doing so well. You are an inspiration.

Curley Locks, We all go through that phase where that darned scale needle just doesn't move. It's frustrating but it does start again. And yeah, your body is probally just adjusting.

Kerry, My prayers are with you Honey. Wish we could all be there with a big group hug! But we will all be here to celebrate with you when you become pregnant.

It's a cold day here in Michigan. That heat is finally gone and now I will start complaing about the cold!

Have a good day, Freda

10-11-2005, 10:02 AM
Kerry, I'm thinking of you a lot lately, praying for your little miracle. I have a close friend going through the same struggles and you and I know what a heart break it can be.

10-12-2005, 09:24 AM
What are you Favorite Jeans because I have one pair left that fit and they are starting to fall off my hips. HELP! I gotta go jean shopping!

10-12-2005, 09:37 AM
Thanks Melissa & Freda :) It is so good to know that there are many little prayers going out for us. I'm on my third day of Clomid. Things are a little emotional around our house. DH is struggling with some family issues apart from our own infertility at home and stressed about school. I think we're still a bit shell shocked that we're on this long road. Hopefully it'll be short and we'll get pregnant right away!

Melissa - There are so many women I've come to learn of that are dealing with infertility issues in our generation. Many of us waited when we shouldn't have or didn't even think about those organs until we wanted to use them. :p I've probably had high estrogen my whole life. . . explains why I'm such a BIG *B* sometimes. ;)

I have lost a pound though. :) I think it was just TOM passing though.

10-12-2005, 12:28 PM
I Love OLD NAVY Jeans!!!!