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06-29-2005, 08:52 AM

We are a thread dedicated to making losing weight a pleasant experience. We laugh, cry and talk together. We have challenges, points for staying on program, drinking our water, and exercising. We have a daily topic to join in. Our only focus is to help us realize that dieting and all that goes with it need not be unpleasant, but can be fun. Come join the fun here at Time for Serious Fun! Everyone is Welcome!


Monday: Mission Monday New mission each week
Tuesday: Target Tuesday We target something to work on
Wednesday: Wednesday's Woes Our day to complain about anything and everything
Thursday: Time for Us Thursday The day set aside to pamper us!
Friday: Fabulous Lbs Down Friday. Report our losses!
Saturday: Sunny Thoughts Saturday We share stories and jokes to help us smile
Sunday: Silly Poll Sunday A new poll to give your thoughts to every week




06-29-2005, 09:05 AM
WEDNESDAY: Today is Wednesday's Woes. A day to gripe about anything all day!


Faye :flow2:
Amanda :bravo:

Marsha: A few "instructions" about pts. OP is whatever plan you are using and whether or not you stayed within it. I am doing straight fat and cal counting, some are doing carbs, etc. If I stay within my fat cal and reg cal I have set up for myself (in this case 1600/450) then I give myself 2 pts for being OP. Water and exercise. We leave that up to you to decide whether you had enough for the day and whatever it is you do. I believe Jorge uses a quick 18 minute routine, whereas I stay 45-60 minutes in the pool and Julie may consider belly dancing for 30 minutes sufficient. Water means anything over 4 good size glasses but it is really your call on that too! Let's face it, if you are cheating at your points, you are only cheating yourself in your mind, really, right? Believe me, everyone is honest with themselves here and you will not find one of these ladies arrogant about losing weight and sympathetic about not losing. ** I hope you had a good time with dd. **

Boy, I have a gripe today. We have been in an "orange" level air quality for a couple days and man I am having a hard time of it even indoors. It isn't so bad first thing in the morning, but once it heats up. This morning I am miserable as my adnoids are swollen and my eyes are swollen, puffy, itchy and sore. Besides that, I am having TOM, which I haven't had for 3 months and I feel crappy. I shouldn't gripe because though I am cramping the actual TOM isn't bad anymore, lasts a short period of time and comes and goes now. It would have to happen a couple days before we leave though! :lol:

Jack and I went to the pool after he got home yesterday afternoon and I locked us in. We were all alone and it was great. He cannot behave himself, I tell ya. He is still a dirty old man, but he is MY dirty old man! We didn't stay in but a few minutes but he had worked outside all day and was miserable when he got home.

I guess I better get up and get things going as I need to get to the pool in a few minutes. Maybe it will make me feel better, it usually does.

Faye :)

06-29-2005, 02:54 PM
Afternoon girls ... My Weds woe is that I am having a bad sinus headache today ( like you Faye I am having trouble with my allergies with the heat and humidity ) , I guess I shouldnt complain since I have not had a headache in like 3 weeks, but this dang hot weather is getting to me ... anyhow I just took some ibuprofen so hopefully that will kick in soon ... :)

I got 3 points yesterday...

Marsha - Welcome ... I am a 31 year old, married to my high school sweetheart for the last 11 years... I do not have any children, just one pet named Les, a west highland white terrier ... I am on the WW program for the last 2-3 years now and actually lost 47 pounds in 2004 but I have been sort of slacking this year so need to get my butt in gear for the second half of the year!!

Faye - I feel ya on the heat ( as I said above ) , hope you feel better soon!

Amanda - good job on the laps at the pool...I wish I had a place to swim but I doubt I would - I am so crazy about getting in a swimsuit, scary!!! :lol:
You are doing a great job!

Julie, Nikki, and Susan - HI !!!!!!

Well hope you all have a great day...

Amanda Panda
06-29-2005, 03:34 PM
Hi all,

I got 4 points yesterday!

Sorry can't hang around as I have a headache (weather related also!) and am very tired as I didn't get a good nights sleep. Did my cycle class today and now am completely pooped - I'm having a well earned rest day tomorrow as today was my 4th day of hard exercise in a row.

Have a good evening

Love Amanda x

06-29-2005, 04:13 PM

Carri :cp:
Amanda :bravo:

Boy guys, we are a mess! It is 96 here so far today and it is supposed to be 101 tomorrow and I need to get out in it! UGH! We are leaving Friday afternoon for Nashville and I need to get a couple books, snacks, my nails done, etc. Hope you feel better Carri and Amanda!

Faye ;)

06-29-2005, 06:05 PM
HI gals. Woke up to some storms this am, then cleared for a while. Now we are expecting another round for the evening. Hope it blows out for the holiday!
A whine for today: My drain in the basement was backed up - cost $150 to have it opened! STuff like that just drives me crazy sometimes! Also, I am trying to get the house cleaned - we live in a small village of about 80 people that swells to several hundred once a year on the 4th of July. Can't remember exact number but is over 125 years that Cambria (my town) has celebrated on the 4th. Anyway - we are entertaining at our house on Sunday the 3rd - picnic, bocce ball tourney, and a band in the evening (my DS and my nephew and a friend have a band together). Also, the fireworks will be that night instead of on the 4th. Love the day and the company (could be 100 people?) but hate the cleaning because it is always in the heat!

Sorry to hear so many of year are having uncomfortable days today. Hope tomorrow will be better! I have stayed OP today, got in strength and cardio, and almost through enough water. Yeah - hope I don't blow it tonight. That is my hard time.

Talk to you all tomorrow.

06-30-2005, 03:55 AM
THURSDAY: Today is Time for Us Thursday. Take a little time just for you today!


Marsha :cp:
Faye :flow2:

Marsha: I grew up in Northwest Indiana in a town of about 1600 (think of Mayberry and you have North Liberty.) I LOVED the 4th as the town went all out. We had a parade to start the day (it went right past our street) then everyone congregated to the park. They had all different kinds of bands and a place for the kids to dance, small amusement rides for little kids, fireworks in the evening and concessions. Everyone sat on blankets. I miss it but I guess they still do it every year! Glad your drain is a-ok now. Maybe you should hire me to clean! :lol: Ask the girls, I am a cleaning nut most of the time! :)

I guess I am going to try and get some errands done today for the trip tomorrow. I traded Jack money for his book store gift card he got for Father's day so I may go and hunt up a book or two today also. I didn't sleep well at all last night so I will try and come home and maybe grab a short nap.

It was so hot here yesterday we were miserable when we went to bed even with the AC on and two fans. Our AC hasn't shut off in days it is so hot so our utility bill will be fun I suppose. It is 4 in the morning and 81 degrees! I came back downstairs and laid on the couch for awhile with the fans on to let Jack get to sleep as I wasn't feeling too well. I went back up around 11 and finally went to sleep but got back up at 2 AM and here I am. Should be an interesting day. :lol: Cross you fingers I don't fall asleep in the pool this morning! :D

Everyone have a wonderful day today!

Faye :)

06-30-2005, 11:46 AM
Well ladies, I did it again. I belong to a las vegas forum and there was a post telling women not to wear sundresses and tank tops because they have found a type of encephalitis carried by mosquitoes in Vegas. The red quote is what some guy answered back and then below it, was what I did to respond! You know me and fat people rights! :lol: I am bleeping all my expletives. I was furious and used quite a few:

Mr 21 wrote: Quote:
Unless they are heffers. Nothng worse than an overweight woman trying to dress scantily. Please hide your rolls and bacon back as a common decency.

Who the h*** died and made you the clothing god? Women and men can dress how they d*** well please and if you don't like it don't look. I am so fed up with people dumping on fat people. I don't think I have ever been confrontational on this site, but you know what, only jerks like you are so bigoted you can't seem to let people live like they want to live. Just because you can't seem to control your testosterone and need naked skinny women (oh and skinny ladies you are wonderful too!) to give you a nice "rise" doesn't mean all people are as ignorant as you, though looks like we have quite a few here. I will be d***** if I would let you or anyone else tell me what to wear and believe me I am not ashamed of being the size I am. I do not dress scantily, always try and look my very best but a******* like you need to be dressed down by fat people instead of them slinking away ashamed. I am sure you are no prize bub! For instance, you are obviously a moron! Be glad I will never come face to face with you or I would clean your clock for you and teach you a lesson in manners. Your mother should be ashamed her son is such an ignoramus and has NO MANNERS!

I will undoubtedly get attacked on the site by a bunch of jerk men for this, but I don't care.

Faye :mad:

06-30-2005, 12:04 PM
WTG, Faye! AT least maybe you will cause a couple of people to stop and think a bit!
Sorry you are having such a heat wave. We live in an older home with hot water heat (radiators) so we do not have air conditioning. Live in the Minnesota River valley. People think it doesn't get hot here in MN, but it does! It can get really miserable when the dew points are high. Last night a huge line of storms went throught the whole state - nothing on TV but the weather guys for about 3 hours. We just had rain and a bit of wind, lots of lightning. Anyway - it is much cooler today. I, too, wish you were here to clean for me! I just have a problem getting started.
Yesterday was the best day for me in a long time for eating, exercising, and water - thanks to you guys! I am going to work today on getting and avatar and one of those ticker thinkg. Gotta get jazzed up here a bit.
Will check back later - hello to everyone.

06-30-2005, 12:17 PM
Morning All ... I dont know what is wrong with me but I have had two bad days the last two days, really just eating and eating for no good reason...I am bound and determined to stay OP today and exercise when I get home!!!

Faye - WOW, can I just say I would hate to ever become your can really give it to someone!! :lol: And might I add ( what we all know ) that he really deserved to have his a** told off ... about 2 years ago I was in the grocery store and when I was coming out of it there were these two guys coming in, well one of them whistled at me ( the hot whistle ) and then they both just died laughing , I have never been so hurt and embarrassed in all my life... I really wish someone like you would have been with me...I usually give as get as I get but at that moment I was so hurt and shocked that I just wanted to leave and crawl in a hole ... I still think about that sometimes ...

Marsha - I would not ever make it without my A/C ... I dont know how you do it... good job on your eating, keep it up!! :D

Amanda - hope your headache went away... mine did after some medicine...

Hope you all have a good day!!!

06-30-2005, 02:59 PM
Hey guys,
Man. I have had one **** of a week. I am sorry I haven't been in here much. I've been reading, just never posted back. After the giant fall out with my mom she ended up in flordia and apparently I am moving at the end of summer up to Dallas....I know I know..huge responsibility....don't think i haven't been lectured and worried about it all. On top of this being on my mind, I just started on birthcontrol. HOLY CRAP. Like my moods and emotions could be any worse right now. So last night I stayed up thinking about all this stuff, and I just started crying. I haven't cried for real since.....I can't even remember. So I didn't end up going to sleep until about 6am. Round about 7, my sisters boyfriend calls me and tells me he's on his way to the hospital. Apparently my sister and 3 of her coworkers were on their way to a meeting and the car they were in flipped. Luckily my sister was wearing her seatbelt so she is okay. The two in the back weren't buckled....I don't know how they are. I haven't really been over eating...but what I have been eating have not been awesome choices on my part.

Carri-Just keep trying and do the best you can, everyone has off days. You'll get back in the swing of things soon.
Marsha-Glad to hear you had a good day yesterday...KEEP IT UP!
Faye-Good for you for showing that guy a thing or two...jerks like that deserve t be dropped a peg or two.

Well I gotta get outta here.

07-01-2005, 06:35 AM
FRIDAY: today is Fabulous Friday Follies. A day to tell funny weight loss stories about yourself.

Nikki: I don't think anyone here is going to harangue on your youth with regards to your moving. I think you understand perfectly how difficult it will be and don't need us to tell you anything. I hope it works out well for you. Just remember that Dallas is expensive! If you have a car, you may want to try and live outside the metroplex a ways in one of the smaller towns to save you some money.

Marsha: Do you live anywhere near Minneapolis? Several years ago my ds, bil and my dh and I took a trip to the Mall of America. We did it around Easter and froze to death! lol Dh and I would like to go back sometime since we have more money now! :lol: My ds and bil used to live in Rochester.

**FYI I will not be back in here until Tuesday as we are leaving for Nashville this afternoon.***

Everyone have a wonderful holiday weekend and have lots of fun!

Faye :)

07-01-2005, 11:19 AM
Good morning to all. It is a fabulous Friday here - temps in the 70's and very low humidity. Forecast keeps putting more rain in for Sunday, though, the day we are planning our outdoor party :( ! The only good thing - they are wrong more often than they are right!

Nikki - You have so much on your mind right now. I hope your sis is OK. Try to make the most out of your move - a chance to start anew. Be extra good to yourself as those hormones settle down.

Carri - How did yesteday go? I did well again yesterday until about 11:00 last night. I think I finally figured out that I am staying up about 2 hours later than during the school year, and supper was a long time ago. Guess that's why I get hungry! Ate a couple of saltines, so not too bad.

Faye - Have a wonderful weekend! We live about 90 miles SW of Minneapolis. The village of 80 people that I live in is Cambria, about 10 miles from the town that I teach in - New Ulm. We do get to the cities quite often - a lot this summer since DD has been interviewing and now working there. My DS and his GF live there, as does my older sister. DD and I are huge shoppers, and can do the MofA in about 3 hours (just going to the stores that she is interested in!). She is a clothes and shoe-aholic. Fun to shop with her as she is 5 feet tall and weigh 100 pounds - size 0.

Happy 4th of July to all. We are blessed to live in this country and have the opportunities that we have. May you all have a restful, fun, etc. holiday!!

07-01-2005, 11:31 AM
Me, again. Just trying out the new stuff!
Marsha (

07-01-2005, 11:38 AM
Morning All ... I did really well yesterday, I got 4 points !!! :) So I am really proud of myself...but now the big challenge, trying to eat right over the holiday weekend, ughhhhh!!! :lol: Well I am here to tell you that I am going to try really, really hard to not cheat this whole weekend and even get some exercise in... I cannot keep wasting time anyhow the weather is better today, much less humid ...

Marsha - as you can see from my rant above I did well yesterday ... I also have a hard time from staying away from the food in the evening ... I try not to eat anything after 7:30 though, but it is hard... I hope it does not rain out your party and that you all have a great time!!!

Faye - Hope you have a great time this weekend...don't climb too many stairs... :D

Julie, Amanda, Nikki, and Susan - Have a great holiday weekend!!!!!!!!!!!!

Amanda Panda
07-01-2005, 09:46 PM
Hi all,

I got 3 points yesterday - forced myself to have a rest day from exercise as my body really needed it, but I found I got really bored! Going out to the gym really breaks up my day and I judt found that I didn't know what to do with myself all day! I'm annoyed that they've changed the class timetable at the gym and they've cut my Weds and Sun Cycle class! :( Now the only one I can go to in the daytime is Friday - they do loads in the evenings but it is packed in the evenings and the classes have to be booked, so I'm going to have to book ahead for an evening class as I want to do more than one a week. I HATE CHANGE!!!

NIKKI - So sorry you are facing so many difficulties at the moment. I hope your sister and her friends are okay.

CARRI - Well done for staying on track - hope you weekend isn't too difficult!

MARSHA - Well done for figuring out the weight loss tracker - and congrats on the 21lb lost so far!


Love Amanda x

Amanda Panda
07-03-2005, 05:00 PM
Me again!

I got 4 points yesterday and am heading for a 4 pointer today aswell. I weighed myself today and I have dropped some more pounds making my total for June 6lb - that's my best weightloss in quite a few months. I think my metabolism has kicked in now, so hopefully the weight will continue to come off nicely! I have now lost 28lb which is the most weight I have ever lost!

Enjoy your weekend ladies

Love Amanda x

07-04-2005, 12:37 AM
Hi! Remember me? I was a member of this group way back at #35 or so. I'm so glad to see familiar names! Hi Faye and Amanda and Carrie! I hope you are all very well and have made great progress. Hello to Nikki, Marsha, and Susan (my name too!) as I don't think we've "met" yet. I'm a college student at Oregon to think of it I started at this site when I was a freshman and now I'm about to be a senior!!!!

Well it seems like sooo long ago now I was dropping weight oh so well...then hit a major plateau. But I was comfortable with myself and my clothes fit great or a little big...and I dropped the whole "keeping track thing" well here I am months and months later and I've put several of those pounds back on. Not all of them thank goodness, but these jeans I got on are really starting to pintch! SO! Its time for me to REALLY get back in the saddle. My goal to start out is to get in solid workouts 3 times a week and up my water intake...that shouldn't be hard since its curently zero...

Can't wait to be a part of this group again!

Another Susan ;)

Amanda Panda
07-04-2005, 07:41 PM

Hi Susan, I remember you! Welcome back - I'm sure you'll lose those pounds in no time!

I got 4 points yesterday - yay me! I've had a naughty day today though, so there will be no sign of a 4 pointer tomorrow!

Love Amanda x

07-05-2005, 08:36 AM
Ladies, I won't be around for awhile. My husband was taken to the hospital Sunday morning and is in an "unresponsive" state and they have no idea what caused it. Nothing wrong with liver, kidneys, heart - no stroke or heart attack. Please pray for him.


07-05-2005, 10:25 AM
Good Tuesday morning gals.

Susan - praying for your DH - keep us posted. How frightening for you - we just never know from day to day where we will find ourselves.

Welcome back, Susan. Time for a lot of us to get back to business here. My weekend was wonderful for family and fun, :) but awful for pounds! :(

We did manage to get through without rain. Had a lot of people here on Sunday for bocce ball, food and drink, then DS's band payed in the evening. They have only started playing for a few months, but are really pretty good. As time for the fireworks approached, more and more people started wandering in with lawn chairs. Lots of fun - today they were mentioned in the New Ulm Journal - they had decided to call themselves the Riverbottom Boys, as we live here in the Minnesota River Valley. Anyway, a good weekend, but too much food and beer :mad: BAck on track again!!!

Amanda - good for you for getting those pounds moving again - you are certainly a dedicated one! I will draw some inspiration from you.

Faye - Hope your weekend was good - thought you would be in this morning?

Wishing everyone else a great day!

07-05-2005, 11:39 AM
TUESDAY: Today is Target Tuesday and our target this week is not weight loss related. I want each one of us to pray or have a good thought everyday for Susan until we hear what is happening with her dh. Many do not believe in prayer, but I have seen it work so we can work together to help Susan through this!

Marsha: I was home but went to do my exercise this morning and found the pool a mess. Someone had used a lock pop to tear out the lock on the pool then had a late night party with fireworks! What a mess to clean up and I had to run home and get a lock I had to lock the gate that was open. We also had a little boy almost drown Sunday I guess because no one was watching him! They think I talk to be a pain in the butt I guess! So, I got finished later than usual.

Susan/Va: We are praying for your husband everyday and know God will intervene in his behalf!

**Ladies use the above name for Susan to keep the two straight**

Susan: Glad to see you back! We always miss those that leave us. Yes, some of us are still here, Carri, Amanda and Julie and of course, no one seems to be able to get rid of me. I am like chewing gum on your shoe! :lol:

AMANDA!!!!!!!!! you are almost at our first mini goal! How cool is that?

Carri: You are doing super duper too! Keep up the good work!

Julie: We are missing you!

Nikki: Hang in there it will get better!

Our trip was awful... sort of. I had a massive female thing all weekend and that was a mess then Friday a huge family reunion checked in and the noise! You couldn't get breakfast in the restaurant, you couldn't sleep, it was nuts! But with that being said, being together is always great so we had a nice time. I found him some great deals for our Vegas trip. Found a pair of Rockport sandals he loves for like $40 on sale from $75 so now he doesn't have to take his running shoes. He loves Rockport shoes so he is happy as a clam. He only pretty much wears golf style shirts and Old Navy had them for $12.50 each and I found Izod shorts for him for like $16, retail was $45 so that was cool too. My sweety bought me a new handbag (I am enclosing a photo) because he said it wasn't fair he should get all kinds of stuff. I tried to tell him I already bought all my clothes except my sandals but he bought it anyway. Of course we ate horribly, but today is another day, right?

Everyone have a great day. I need to clean house! UGH!

Faye ;)

07-05-2005, 01:17 PM

Well so far I've been getting water in avoiding the urge to pig out on EVERYTHING and am headed to the gym this afternoon. Last night I did a little yoga and stretching and WOW did it feel good. I can't wait to hit the machines.

Had a decent 4th. Been at my parent's house since my mother's birthday was this weekend too. Plenty of barbeque and lawn games. We played Bocce ball too! And I was happy that the meat portions were much smaller that what my father usually makes...

Susan/Va: My heart is with you and I'll keep you and your husband in my prayers

07-05-2005, 02:50 PM
Afternoon all ... I had a good 3 day weekend... I was not able to stay OP with all of the holiday food, but as you all said today is another day...and I actually didnt pig out as much as I wanted too ... :lol: I am back on today and going strong!!!

Susan/Va - So sorry to hear about your dh, I will definitely keep both you and he in my prayers, please keep us posted...take care.

Susan - Yeah of course I remember you... I have been wondering what happened to you... great to have you back !!!!

Faye - Glad you had a good time ( well without the noise makers anyway )...and I like the bag...I need all new summer clothes, too bad I do not have a ton of $$$ to get them :D

Julie - Hope you are doing well...pop back in and say "hi" when you get a chance...

Amanda - You are doing so well, congrats on the 6 pounds for June ...

Nikki - Hi, hope you had a good 4th!!!

Well I guess I better get back to work, I am here today and tomorrow and then off Thurs and Friday for another long weekend, we are not going anywhere I just need some time off to do nothing!!! Hope you all have a great OP day!!!

Amanda Panda
07-05-2005, 06:24 PM
Hi all,

I just got the 1 point for water yesterday. I'm going through a tough time at the moment - I've called off my engagement to Nigel so things are tough right now. It's my choice to end it but it is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Nigel is planning to stay here until his inheritance comes through so we are remaining friendly, but obviously things are difficult.

My thoughts and prayers are with you Susan - I sincerely pray that your dh recovers.

Love Amanda x

07-06-2005, 04:39 AM
Hello hello

Well I didn't get to the gym...but that's because I've been trying to settle into my "summer home" aka a house I live in for 2 months to save a little on rent and because I don't have anywhere else to go till september. So a good portion of today was spent setting up a bed and dresser and desk, and this computer, and luging boxes from one room to another. I think most people would call that a work out! Plus I ended up walking 2 miles somewhat accidently. i was going to catch a bus, but I was bored waiting for it (the come once an hour) so i thought I could walk down a few stops...and ended up walking the whole way. YAY ME! Also got in all 8 glasses of water. I did eat reletively well...I'm concentrating more on the activity aspect, though of course trying not to opt for the MOST faty and sugary thing on the menu. Either way...a solid 2 points :)

Amanda, so sorry to hear that things are rough. I'll be thinking about you

Here is a silly little question...When do you think I should weigh in...I've been avoiding it. I hear its sometimes good to get going for a few weeks before you even step on the scale. i was planning for the 31st...kinda the aniversary of my 1st big weight loss attempt...or should I do it sooner so i can see some numerical progress? when and how often do you weigh in? Just on fridays? I also hear that especially women should never weigh more often than once a week and preferably every 2 weeks to a month...thoughts?

WOW that turned into something more complicated than I intended!

07-06-2005, 08:46 AM
WEDNESDAY: Today is Wednesday's Woes. It is a time to gripe and we can even feel sorry for ourselves!


Amanda :flow2:
Faye :flow2:
Susan :dancer:

Amanda: DON'T let this emotional setback mess you up. You are doing fabulous. I am sorry to hear that things did not work out with Nigel. Nothing is harder than LOVE! Give yourself lots of time to get over it. It is not easy to do. We are all here for you and you can e-mail me or pm me at any time if you need to talk. You are a beautiful young woman and things will work out for you I just know it!

Carri: Holidays just seem made for overeating unfortunately. I guess we are better served preparing ahead of time for what we will do, I don't know. I guess there are people that are better at it than I am for sure! Have a great long weekend again and get rested up! Hope DH is now fit as a fiddle!

Susan/VA: We are here for you and praying everyday!

Susan: Good job on the walking. I would let the weighing go to the end of the month if you wish it. It won't hurt, but then, I would weigh once a week or every other week on the same day.

Jack was madder than a wet hen this morning. Someone parked in front of our garage and he couldn't get out to go to work. I was going around the neighborhood in my nightgown at 6 AM pounding on doors. I have a feeling the person visiting next door got an earful from him because he was probably almost late to work and that he can't stand. The stupid woman who lives there KNOWS the condo on the other side of her is empty so why don't they park there if they are too lazy to park in the lot where they are supposed to. I am sure I made a few folks mad, but I didn't know any other way to find out who was parked there and towing would have taken too long.

Everyone have a great day!

Faye :)

07-06-2005, 12:08 PM
Good morning to all. It is another beautiful morning here in MN - supposed to be near 80 today, then heating up big time for the weekend.

Amanda - so sorry to her that you have broken off your engagement. I am sure that you had many reasons and had thought it over carefully. Be extra good to yourself for a time.

Susan - still praying for DH - hope that you at least know by now what is up!

Susan - the only problem with waiting until the end of the month to weigh is that you initially drop a few faster and then you will not get to see that progress?

Faye - I cannot believe that someone would park right in your way! That is ridiculous - I can imagine DH was furious!

Plan to get in a walk today and eat much better - had good intentions yesterday, then went with DD for lunch - Chinese, and went to DF's for supper = spaghetti :( Try to get to DF's a couple of times a week. My DM is ill with a disease called Multiple System Atrophy that has left her bedridden for a couple of years already. DF is her primary caregiver, has help a few hours each day. She is in constant pain, and has now reached the point where we have to open her eyes for her - anyway, dad likes to cook and loves to have company - not too great for the diet, but certainly have to go.
My best to all of you -

Amanda Panda
07-06-2005, 03:14 PM
Hi all,

Thanks for your support - I've been numb for a day or so but now the pain, guilt and fear are all setting in - I just feel sick in my stomach but when I search my heart I know I have made the right decision (at least I think i have!). The atmosphere here is not good at the moment - Nigel is understandably angry with me as it is sinking in for him too that I am not going to 'see sense' and change my mind. I can't believe I am doing this , but funnily enough it is since I have lost some weight and am feeling better about myself that I realised that I want and deserve more in a relationship. I want to be head over heels in love with the man I marry, and vice versa and unfortunately I didn't feel that at all.We did love eachother but it felt more like a caring friendship, not true love. I'm taking such a risk in doing this at the age of 32, but I trust that God has the right person lined up for me, otherwise it would not be on my heart that Nigel is not right for me. Please pray that Nigel will be able to move out soon and that his money will come through - also pray that God helpss us both move forward from this into better lives.

Funnily enough, I have no desire to overeat - I've lost my appetite if anything and the gym is the one thing that is keeping me sane. I'm intending to keep focused on my diet and exercise away all my tension and worry! I got 4 points yesterday.

Take care

Love Amanda x

07-06-2005, 06:27 PM
Hi everyone .. just wanted to check in before my 4 days off from work, I am going to relax and just enjoy the hot weather... yeah right ;) May even treat myself ( food wise ) a couple of times :lol:

Amanda - I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this, but what I can say is that it is better to realize this now then after you are married and have that is at least one bright spot in all of this ...we will be here for you and you will get through this...keep up the exercise and work out your feelings there... :)

Susan/Va - How are you doing? Hope DH is doing better...

Susan - I think you should weigh in every other week, that is what I do it seems to make things a little better on me, if I weigh every day my weight fluctuates too much... good luck !

Faye - I used to live beside morons too so I know how it goes... believe me I feel your frustration, we used to live in an apt and when the neighbors moved they put all of their boxes and junk right in front of our front door, so guess what? of course we opened our door to leave and couldnt even see outside...some people are so inconsiderate it just makes me irate ( sore subject, ha ha ) ... have a good week !!

Nikki, Julie, Marsha - Hi to all !!!

Talk to you all later, take care!!!

07-07-2005, 04:48 AM

Well I hit the gym today and hit it hard! I don't know why I went so long without going! It all came flooding back to me and without even thinking about it ended up walking straight to the locker I always used to use. I felt good afterward...though I know tomorrow my muscles will be screaming at me "You neglected us for so long! now you have to pay for it!"

Amanda, way to keep channel energy and keep focus!

07-07-2005, 09:03 AM
THURSDAY: Today is Time for Us Thursday. We should take time out for ourselves at least once a day, but when we can't we need to try to give ourselves a day of pampering. Be good to yourself today!


Amanda: :bravo:
Faye :flow2:

Amanda: We are all hoping you did not have any family or friends in the London bombing incidents! I am praying for the people of London as we here in the states certainly understand what your country is going through. This may sound hokey, but on my honor it is true. Sorry, girls, this might take awhile to tell, but I want Amanda to know it. I was in high school, madly "in love" with a really nice young man a year older than I and in my church youth group. He was very religious, was going to go to Bible College and we were friends, though even that was mostly on my side. I had convinced myself he was the one. He would bring me home on Sunday nights after church and as I had a lousy family life, I would pour my heart out to him in the car before getting out. One night in late June, he poured his heart out to me about this girl he was going to ask to go out with him etc etc. He was sure he found "the one" and wanted to share with me. I of course was devastated as he was the only link I had to normality I felt and thought I was in love with him. I went into my room that night and sobbed my heart out to God. I asked him to help me get over Marty and to send someone into my life that would love only me and take care of me forever. I knew it was a stupid and selfish thing to do, but I hurt so badly that I felt God was the only one that could fix it. Now some background before I go on. My grandmother died before I was born and my grandfather remarried a wonderful woman, the only grandma I knew. She had a dd that lived in Arkansas and they would go to visit her every summer. My siblings and I moved in with them during my Junior year in high school when my mother allowed her boyfriend to abuse me and I took my siblings and left home in the dead of night with nothing but the clothes on our back. Anyway, my 80 year old grandparents took the three of us in. The summer between my junior and senior year we went to Arkansas as usual. I have a load of step-cousins as they had like 8 children. One of them was my age. She asked me if I would write to this guy for her that was a family friend. She said her mom insisted they write to him as his family lived clear across the country from where he and her brother were stationed in Memphis. I told her I didn't really want to as I didn't know him. She said he was pretty much part of their family because he and her brother would hitch hike home every weekend they could. So, I told her ok, but I didn't want to do it. I wrote him a letter while we were still in Arkansas, really laid on the religion and the I "don't do" list (I was a good girl back then and didn't swear like a sailor like I do now) and I hoped it would turn him off. The little town I lived in propitiated the notion that military guys were all horny, drunks. I had lived in a situation with drinking and wanted no part of it so thought if I got on my high horse he would never write back and that would be the end of it. We spent about a month there and came home. When we got home, there was a letter for me from this guy. He told me he was a Christian and applauded me for being the kind of person I was. He was very nice and so I wrote back to him. This was around August of 1971. By October, he wanted to come and meet me. My grandfather was very very strict German so I wrote to my "aunt" and asked her to pave the way. I came home from school one day and grandpa called me over to his chair (he had this recliner he sat in all the time that looked like a thrown. I was scared to death of him) Anyway, I walked over to him wondering what I had done. He said, "I hear you have a young man coming to see you." I was stunned and said, "I do?" He said something about where was he going to stay (we lived in a town of 1600 people no hotel or anything like it) and I told him I was trying to arrange a place with my youth directors. He said something about was I ashamed to bring him to our house. I said, no and so he ended up coming to our house. It gets better. On the day we were to pick him up, WE ALL WENT TO THE AIRPORT TO GET HIM! I had just turned 18 and was so embarrassed we all went. They had a pontiac catalina, a big car, but we were going to be squished all in it. Anyway, we get to the airport and my sister and I walk past this cute sailor sitting way in the back of the airport. I didn't know what my friend looked like though he had my senior picture, but was sure he wasn't that cute. We decided if it was him that we would walk past him a couple times casually and he would come up to us if it was. We walked past him for half an hour like dopes and he didn't move. So, we thought it couldn't be him since his plane hadn't come in anyway and went to where the planes were coming in. His flight came in and he wasn't on it so I assumed he chickened out. About that time, I noticed my GRANDFATHER had walked over to the sailor who had gotten up and was standing behind a pillar. Here comes grandpa dragging this guy. I WAS SO EMBARRASSED I WANTED TO CRAWL INTO A HOLE. I am sure if I had been older I would have taken it in stride, but I was a really naive teenager. Yep, it was Jack. The weekend was AWFUL! He lost his wallet so I had to pay for everything on Saturday night (my grandfather had given me a 20 saying all sailors were bums) and he dumped iced tea all over the table at the restaurant. I thought he wouldn't like going with teens on a hay ride as he was 22 so we went with my older dsis and bil (9 and 20 years older) and they took us to bingo! It was humiliating! I had been warned to keep my mouth shut as guys didn't like chatter boxes so I didn't talk and he was so shy neither did he! To make all this wind up sooner or later, I didn't want to see him again because I thought he was dorky. My older sister said I had to give him a chance as accidents happen (the wallet had $300 in it and was in our couch at home where it had fallen out of his pocket) Well, I guess what clinched it was on Monday when I got home, my grandfather kind of growled at me that there was something sitting in the bathroom for me! There were a dozen of the most beautiful red roses and a card, "Just because I love you, Jack" Our 32nd wedding anniversary is in November, we had 2 beautiful children, he tells me EVERY DAY he loves me adores me etc. On top of all of this, my sister, ended up marrying the step-cousin who was my husband's best friend. They live in Calf and we will be seeing them when we go to Vegas. So, ask God to handle your love life. He knows better than you what you need!

Susan: Keep up the hard work. It pays off!

Carri: have loads of fun vegging this weekend!

Marsha: So sorry to hear about your mother. My sister has a husband who has MS and they recently had to put him in a nursing home because she could no longer care for him as he would fall all the time and he is a huge man to try and get up etc. You father must be an incredible human being! You are lucky to have such a wonderful father. Both of my parents are gone and both of my spouses so we don't have parents living. I especially miss my fil. He was the most adorable man, maybe because I now see how much he and my spouse are alike. I miss him terribly and he has been dead for 30 years.

Everyone have a good day. I have chores and pool workout so better get cracking!

Faye ;)

07-08-2005, 07:04 AM
FRIDAY: Today is Fabulous Friday Follies. A day to just make a little fun of ourselves.


Faye :flow2:

back later ladies

Faye :)

07-08-2005, 03:57 PM
OK so the official weigh in is at 202.5 pounds; about what I expected. So my goal is to be at 185 by September 26th, the 1st day of my last year of college. I guess I'll jump on the progress counter band wagon, wooooo

Hope you all are doing well!

07-08-2005, 06:52 PM
So I walked to the gym, head to the locker room, open up my bag, and my clothes aren't in it! I forgot to grab my shorts before I left! its ok though, I'll be cleaning and moving stuff hard core later this evening and will DEFINATELY hit the gym tomorrow.

07-09-2005, 08:24 AM
SATURDAY: Today is Sunny Thoughts Saturday so let's get some sun in her guys!


Faye :flow2:

Morning girls! I went to bed at like 7 last night so I am up early on this wonderful Saturday morning. It is going to be a sticky day. We have that hurricane rain headed straight for us and should be here by Monday at the latest. Good for the area, bad for the pool, though I go out in rain and swim as long as it isn't thundering and lightening.

I decided last night to fix Jack a treat, southern fried chicken. I don't cook with oil anymore but thought he might enjoy it. I had everything going nicely in my electric skillet, turned everything but one leg, went to turn it and a huge amount of grease popped, went onto my face (thankfully I had taken out my contacts and had glasses on or I would have had it in my eyes) all up my left arm (I am left handed) but the most serious was my left thumb area. There was also grease all over the counters and floor I had to be careful of so I screamed for Jack and he helped me get the oil washed off my skin then he went upstairs and got this aloe vera gel I keep on hand for sunburns and I put it all over my burns. Lord did my hand hurt. It was the only place that really hurt. I cleaned up the oil best I could on the floor and such thinking I would mop after dinner. Jack had to take over turning the chicken because I couldn't get near the heat without it being excruciating and my hand was stiff and wouldn't let me turn anything. Well, the chicken was scrumptious along with sweet corn and mashed pot and gravy, but what a price I paid! I kept putting more gel on the hand then after dinner and the kitchen were all cleaned up, I sat down with a book and an ice pack. That gel is a miracle worker. I have NO blisters anywhere and even my thumb area, which was the worst is no longer red, though it is tender to the touch and a little swollen. I will put the ice bag back on it for a little while this morning. I can also move it and it didn't keep me from sleeping at all either. If you ever want to buy it, it comes from Oscos Drug store and is a green gel in a bottle and called Aloe Vera Gel. You can probably get something similar in any drugstore or even Wally's, Target, etc. It is well worth having on hand.

Amanda: Hope everything is going ok with you. Let us know you are ok. I know you aren't in London, but that still doesn't mean we don't worry here!

Susan/VA: We continue to pray for you and your husband. God will give you strength to get through this.

Susan: Hey, maybe you should have given them a show and did it in underwear! :o Bikinis have less fabric most of the time anyway! :lol:

Julie: Hope writing is going well. I know that is where you are hiding, behind a laptop.

Nikki: Hope your weekend is starting out well.

Carri: Have fun lazing around this weekend!

Sunny thought, sure to put a smile on your face:
This elderly lady went to the doctor for a checkup. Everything checked out fine. The old lady pulled the doctor to the side and said, "Doctor, I haven't had sex for years now, and I was wondering how I can increase my husband's sex drive."

The doctor smiled and said, "Have you tried to give him Viagra?"

The lady frowned. "Doctor, I can't even get him to take aspirin when he has a headache," she claimed.

"Well," the doctor continued, "let me suggest something. Crush the Viagra into a powder. When you are giving him coffee, stir it into the coffee and serve it. He won't notice a thing."

The old lady was delighted. She left the doctor's office quickly.

Weeks later the old lady returned. She was frowning and the doctor asked her what was wrong. She shook her head.

"How did it go?" the doctor asked.

"Terribly, doctor, terribly."

"Did it not work?"

"Yes," the old lady said, "It worked. I did as you said and he got up and ripped his clothes off right then and there and we made mad love on the table. It was the best sex that I'd had in 25 years."

"Then what is the problem, ma'am?"

"Well," she said. "I can't ever show my face in McDonald's again."

Faye ;)

Amanda Panda
07-09-2005, 08:31 AM
Hi all,

Well I thank God that I have not been directly affected by the London bombings - my brother and best friend both work right near where it happened and I was worried about them for a few hours until they got in touch to say they were fine. They are saying that 50 - 60 people have died and countless others have lost limbs etc - it is truly awful. We lived with terroist attacks for decades due to IRA bombings, but it's all been peaceful here for a few years now and everyone is gutted now. The London Underground system is so vulnerable, it has no security whatsoever other than asking the public to report unattended bags, all it takes is someone evil enough to actually plan and do it.

Thanks for your lovely story Faye - I do so admire your relationship, especially that Jack loves you more than ever and finds you attractive no matter what your size. That is what I want - Nigel does not find me attractive at all and keeps saying that he can't wait for me to lose weight as then I'll be really pretty. I want someone who thinks I am the prettiest girl in the world even at this weight. He says I'm living in a dream world and it just won't happen, but I'll trust God on that one. Things are still difficult here - it's just this big unspoken cloud hanging between us now, sometimes we just carry on as we've always done (as friends) and sometimes the enormity of what I am doing hits either one of us and the tension and hurt is awful. It's early days and I am just taking it one day at a time right now.

My eating has gone off track for the last 2 days - but I am back on track now.

CARRI - yes you are right , I didn't want to marry Nigel and have kids and then leave. It is definantely best that I go through this now, no matter how hard it is. You need to be 100% sure when you marry someone don't you?

SCUZIN - Excellent job on getting back to the gym!

SUSAN - I'm praying for you and your dh every day. Hope he is improving.

Love Amanda x

07-09-2005, 10:08 AM
Hi everyone!

Yes, Faye, I've been hiding behind my laptop! :lol: I'm working with a publisher in Los Angeles right now and we're trying to get a "rush" project done. Every time I go near the computer, my skin starts twitching and my eyes go :dizzy:

I've been doing a little stress eating, but not too bad. Dance class has kept me on an even keel... I'm hovering between 206-209...though I did see 205 for about 30 seconds one morning.

DH is losing steadily, which is desperately needed! He looks awesome........ :D

I haven't been able to read all the stuff I've missed. Can't even believe how long I've been gone. But Faye, that story about how you met Jack is hilarious! I met James at a fighter practice and hit him right square in the crotch with a big stick! How's that for first impressions? :lol:

Amanda, I'm so sorry you're going through a hard time. But I have to say, I'm not surprised that this has happened. I've noticed a huge change in your attitude and stuff since you started losing weight and gaining confidence. You are absolutely right that you deserve to have someone who loves you and thinks you're beautiful just the way you are! Don't ever let anyone tell you different--especially your own conscience. Hold your ground, cuz I'm sure you'll have many times where you just want him to hold you and take care of you. Be strong, can do anything! :grouphug:

Okay, Hi to everyone...and welcome to the newcomers! I gotta get off this computer before I implode........gonna spend all day sewing, no writing!!


07-09-2005, 11:29 AM
Good morning to all. Been in Minneapolis for a couple of days so have been catching up this am. Thanks for the great story, Faye - I really enjoyed it. Glad to hear the burns are OK - that has to be the worst pain. Can you imagine the poor people who end up on burn units with serious burns? I don't think I could work there!

Susan - you are in a great place right now with all your enthusiasm - makes me want to get there with you!

Amanda - we are all feeling for you right now. What a week you have had. Stay strong, girl.

Julie - are you sewing costumes?

Drove DD to her job on Thursday am, then shopped, etc. for the day. Picked her up after work and went to a country music show with DS and his GF, then stayed at a hotel. The show was good - especially like the swing dancers who were there. Waited until DD ws done with work yesterday, then we came home. Today is supposed to be 95 degrees, and stay that way for the next 3 or 4 days - ugh! We are going to a celebration in New Ulm tonight - Heritagefest. Huge, German type thing with many tents with seperate stages for bands - some from Germany, some local. Some beer, some kraut, some brats - all diet food, of course! Hope everyone has a good weekend!

07-09-2005, 03:29 PM
You made me giggle Faye at the prospect of "giving them a show" Maybe mext time I forget an important article of clothing I'll rip it all off and jump in the pool! My friends can take bets as to how long it will take till I'm "asked to leave". I could be on to something here....:lol:

I went to the health center yesterday because my ear has been bothering me for a week now. Every time I go swimming it gets cloged and pressurized, but usually goes away in a couple days. Not this time so I had to go get it looked at. Its all good now. They cleaned it so at least I can hear normally again, it still has some pressure in it but should be fine in a while.

Glad the thumb in healing quickly, I love that green goo too, it feels so good on sun burns

It is Nigel who is living in a dream world, you are right amanda, you should be loved for who you are, as you are.

glad to hear from you Julie!

Have fun at Heritagefest Marsha!

07-10-2005, 07:56 AM
SUNDAY: Today is Silly Poll Sunday and our silly poll this week is: When you are cleaning your home, are you a room by room cleaner or a task cleaner, ie, dust the whole house, vacuum the whole house, etc. (I know, I know, this one is kind of lame, but sometimes the old creative brain doesn't work!)

Julie: OWWWWWW! He has to be an incredible man to have been injured by you, especially there, and come back for more! :lol:

Susan: Glad you got the ear fixed. I have allergies and so of course have problems with my ears, but I have a lot of problems with dry wax instead of the gooey stuff that wants to clog up ears. I once got an ear infection because dry flaky wax the size of a nickel was blocking my ear passage and not letting it drain. I now clean my ears everyday pretty much, especially after swimming as I want to make sure all the water drains out! Hope it continues to do ok. Ear pain is the worst next to toothache.

Amanda: Sadly to say, it IS more difficult to find men who find overweight women attractive. My opinion remains firm though. A man who can only love you skinny, will find some other fault when you are at that size. Also, a large % of men who want their significant other to lose weight so they will be more attractive, find they can't handle the attention they get when they are smaller and get jealous and louse up the relationship anyway. Like I said, I believe that we all have a life partner if we are willing to let God choose him for us. I am a little upset with you because again and again you seem to be taking way too much responsibility for the break up here..."sometimes the enormity of what I am doing." It is what it is and that is that you have come to the decision that he is not right for you, that you have been hanging onto a dream that really wasn't real, that the love you have for each other is NOT bundled with respect and does not seem the kind that will last for a lifetime, etc. My son did not marry until he was nearly 31 and he had plenty of opportunity. Besides, what if that someone does not come along? That does not make you less of a spectacular woman. It makes it hard for someone that craves a relationship, but you cannot measure youself with the "I got a man" measuring stick. You are beautiful, intelligent, caring and giving and you are wonderful all by yourself. I know, easy for me to say, I have a man that loves me. That is true, but if something happened to Jack, I would have to go on without him and I would never be interested in someone else. Besides the fact that men my age seem to want women my dd's age! :lol: I would surround myself with my family and friends and get on with my life.

Marsha: Ooooh, I love German festivals. Well, I am German and grew up eating German food. My grandma made the best Sauerbraten in the world. From the time I was a toddler I grew up eating sauerkraut. When I was tiny, my mom would put sugar on it! :lol: I hate beer, even the smell of it, but love those brats! Jack hates this type of food so I never get it anymore but it sure makes me remember when someone talks about it. My grandfather used to even speak German to us from time to time.

Carri: Ok, sloughing off time ends today. Back to work and back in here tomorrow! :D

Susan/VA: Our prayers are with you, sweety. I think about you everyday!

We are waiting to get the hurricane rain. They expect us to get about 8 inches and some pretty horrendous wind. It is coming right up the state of Mississippi at us. They are predicting possible Sunday night all week! UGH, messes up my swimming!

Have a good day!

Faye :)

Amanda Panda
07-10-2005, 02:19 PM
Hi all,

I got 4 points yesterday and today I got up early and attended the 10.15am advanced cycle class! I managed to do the whole class even though the last 15 mins were agonizing! I am so proud of myself that I have gone from not being able to do a whole intermediate class, to completing the whole advanced class in about 6 weeks!

Well Nige and I talked yesterday and he wants a chance to change and for us to work through our problems. The truth is I did just sort of throw this on him out of the blue without really discussing it much. I've told him that I cannot promise him anything and that I am still having massive doubts about us, but as Christians we have agreed to pray about it and see where God leads us. I am still not sure at all but we'll have to wait and see. Anyway, he has just read this post and is not at all happy with me for sharing my relationship problems with you, so I'll have to be careful what I say from now on. I'll keep you posted.

Silly Poll - I tackle a room at a time - except for vacuuming when I just quickly do the whole flat.

Love Amanda x

07-11-2005, 06:30 AM