Weight Loss Support - Mourning my "fat clothes". Please tell me I'm not alone.

gray eyed girl
06-21-2005, 03:44 PM
Does anyone else do this? As I lose weight, some of my "fat girl" clothes are just not fitting any more. Really this is a GOOD thing. My issues are coming from a couple of shirts, and more than anything this denim skirt. It's just so comfortable and flattering. I'm very tall and this skirt actually hits at my knees, which is a rarity for me. The cut really is slimming. I am still wearing it with a belt, but I predict that within another 10-15 pounds this skirt will be a goner. I'm SAD about this. I'm sad that my "fat girl" clothes are too big! Isn't that absurd? I keep reminding myself that the whole reason I like this skirt is because it's very slimming, and once I'm at my goal I'll be more likely to have favorite outfits because of color or fabric or whatever other detail is exciting about the clothes, not simply because they make me look thinner. And, I'll be able to shop more places and will certainly be able to find another knee-length, flattering, comfortable denim skirt.

Still, I'm going to miss this skirt. So diagnose me. Am I nuts?

06-21-2005, 03:50 PM
I did that the other day myself, Put on some clothes and they fell off the sholders or the pants fall down way to big for a belt. And I thought darn it.. Then it hit me ,,,Helllloooooooo :lol:
now I barley have any clothes to wear and were not really in a situation where I can go out and buy a new wardrobe , only here and theres.
But I still will keep on losing to get to my goal. ;)

06-21-2005, 03:54 PM
I get frustrated because so little of what I have fits...my waist is too thick for my size, or my butt is too small...whatever! and there will be garments I will miss, because I liked the fabric or cut...but the possiblity of new stuff is keeping me happy. I am hoping not to be able to wear anything I put away for the winter, even the sweaters I like.

There are a few things I am keeping for sentimental value. but everything else - off to Goodwill before I get a chance to need it again!

06-21-2005, 03:56 PM
If you REALLY love a piece of clothing, I'm sure you could get it altered to fit the slimmer you. I think I'm going to do that with a few skirts when I lose the weight.

06-21-2005, 04:15 PM
I know how you feel totally...I am dealing with that issue myself... I bought 2 pairs of Old Navy jeans when I found out they had plus size...so now I have 2 pairs of sz26 jeans that I adore and now they have gone from not being able to zip them up to being so loose that a belt is needed and now look like I am being swallowed in them...I can get away with them for maybe 10 more lbs...I am sad about having to retire them...now I have to find a couple pairs of 22's get into now = )

06-21-2005, 04:17 PM
Hmm... I can't think of any of my clothes that I'm really attatched to, which I guess is a good thing! Everything I really love (like.. my jeans) I've worn to threads so I'm just waiting for a few more pounds to drop so I can buy new (Smaller!) ones.
I get more frustrated over pieces that I'm about 15lbs too heavy to wear now, but I guess that just gives me something to look forward to.

06-21-2005, 04:40 PM
I just gave away some of my "fat girl " clothes and I know exactly what you mean. Some of the outfits that I gave away were show stoppers too LOL! Even for me to be a big girl I looked darn Good in my clothes and to give them away was hard but I am also happy because I will buy new clothes and be just as fierce! But my only issue is that I'm scared to go shopping because I am still losing weight and I don't want to spend alot of money on clothing that I plan on initially shrinking out of anyways :dunno: So now I have some fairly loose fitting clothes that I am preparing to discard within the next 2 months or so and I will barely have a wardrobe but I am going to figure this thing out.

06-21-2005, 04:45 PM
I was very, very sad when I lost too much weight to fit into my favorite pair of Avenue Stretch Bootcut jeans. The Avenue only goes down to a 14, so I couldn't even buy them in a smaller size. Those jeans were MADE for my body type. I have searched and searched for jeans that fit me properly now and just can't find any. I had saved some "skinny" clothes from previous weight loss experience, but now those don't fit either. I get by on ebay clothes and stuff I find on the clearance rack.

06-21-2005, 04:50 PM
Try Gap for jeans. I used to only wear Old Navy jeans but then they discontinued my favorite kind. So, now I have low rise bootcut jeans from Gap and love them. I know a lot of people don't like the low rise jeans, but I think they look the best on my butt :lol:

06-21-2005, 05:09 PM
I'm getting depressed that I can't fit into my favourite dress. Well, I can, but I fall out of it. It's the sort of dress that you don't wear a bra with, but when it fits properly it kind of holds you into place as the top of it is a bit bra like anyway. But with a more plunging neckline.

When you lose 40lb it doesn't seem to hold you in place quite so well... I'm adjusting the straps as much as I can to get some lift there, but I seem to be fighting a losing battle.

Still, I bought 2 new dresses today (in colours! not the ever so reliable and slimming black I usually wear) so hopefully I will grow to love them as much.

06-21-2005, 05:38 PM
I'm more worried about having to buy a whole new wardrboe again, this is really the big problem :lol: Between floating in my (now) too-large clothes and spending money on stuff I'll anyway have to buy in smaller sizes in 10 kgs from now... err, none's really an option. Bleh.

Most of my clothes anyway are cheap ones, having them altered would probably cost just as much as the item itself! There's however one thing I'll sure as **** have altered, a gorgeous long red & golden qi-pao (a gift from my boyfriend, actually), and *this* one I absolutely refuse to let go of, both because of the emotional attachment and the fact that it's, well, a beautiful piece of clothing. The rest goes to charity or something.

06-21-2005, 06:11 PM
I had some gorgeous embroidered jeans, that can't be made smaller, and I really miss them!!! And my grey and pink work pants, I loved those too, and they could have been altered, but the had virtually died in the crotch, so out they went.

I haven't bought anything really fabulous yet, as I am still shrinking, so I am making do with clothes from charity shops, cheap shops and baggy plus sizes that still fit, but only just.

I know exactly what you mean about mourning your fat clothes!!!

06-21-2005, 07:45 PM
If any of you are in the Michigan area (Grand Rapids), they have a place to donate clothes for working women. They especially need clothes in plus sizes. Women who have a job but are lacking proper attire rely on this place. Just a heads up incase any of you want to help out.

(I'm not from around there, but I heard about this somewhere)

06-21-2005, 07:55 PM
What a terriffic idea! I wonder if there's anything like that in NW Indiana. Of course, none of my clothes are exactly "professional".

06-21-2005, 09:38 PM
I am scared. I just found out today I'm getting to go to my niece's wedding, about 2000 miles from here. I have the perfect, perfect dress to wear to my niece's wedding. Wedding is in a month. Right now the dress fits me really well. It's an expensive dress, too, one I got for my own quickie wedding, but I didn't wear it after all (dear friends bought me two outfits to wear for my wedding, which was going to be small and far away and I wore the other), and then I got too heavy for it.

I'm not going off my diet for a month to wear this dress...but here's crossing my fingers it doesn't look like a sack of potatos on me!

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06-21-2005, 10:22 PM
I am just the opposite about my clothes. I am really looking forward to buying new clothes. I guess I don't want to have to replace my scrubs, but those can all be taken in. To me it is far more important to be able to wear the clothes I have wanted to wear for so long. I am really looking forward to going shopping, but then I love to shop so losing weight is just another excuse. ;)

06-21-2005, 11:05 PM
Funny that I would see this thread today, as I just took 3 pairs of pants, 1 skirt, and 3 tops to be altered today. A friend and I are going to NYC in October. I have budgeted $5000 (a la What Not to Wear) to buy a new wardrobe as reward of getting to goal while we're there. But, since I've lost 47 pounds none of my "old" clothes still fit (I've gone from a 20/22 to a 14). Even the few things I bought after the first 20 pounds are now too big.

So, I've been on a perpetual shopping spree for about a month (it is so fun shopping in "regular" stores and actually being able to find things on sale that are my size). Everything I buy cuts into my NYC budget, so I took some of my better clothes (quality brands, silk blouses) to be altered. For inexpensive or faddish things, it probably isn't worth the $$ to have them altered. But if they are quality and classic, I think it's worth the $15 to 25 since it would be more costly to replace them.

One thing I've discovered is that if you continue to wear your "fat" clothes, no one can tell that you've lost weight. Not only do the smaller clothes better show off your shrinking body, but by wearing something new you will feel better about yourself and people will notice.

06-22-2005, 09:00 AM
If you have a certain skirt or outfit that you love (and think it may be around in a smaller size) look on Ebay. Punch in the name brand and what size you would need in the "search title and description" under the section you are looking in (tops, skirts, etc.) and look. Or, simply look for a skirt in a very similar style to what you have.

As for money concerns and buying a new wardrobe-check the Goodwill!!!! I have bought my husband a brand new still with tags pair of Gap $48 jeans for about $7, and bought a very nice formal gown there for my husband's formal holiday party in December for $8.00!!! My Goodwill has some great stuff, you just have to "dig" around. I have found fabulous expensive baby and maternity clothes when I needed them (not Kmart brand-stuff like Liz Lange, Motherwear, and Baby Gap) and I have found great dvds, things from Old Navy, Abercrombe, Tommy Hilfiger, and so on. You just have to take a few hours to dig through everything for a "find". I think it is fun!!!

06-22-2005, 09:49 AM
If it's only a month away, I don't think you will have to worry too much. A couple of cleverly placed safety pins, or even taking in a seam a wee bit can do the trick. Play with pinching the seams a little, and I'm sure if you need to alter it in any way, you'll find the most discreet way to do it.

Or, you can knit yourself a cute little sash or shawl to hide any awkward bits! ;)

06-22-2005, 09:53 AM
I've always been skiddish about buying used clothes. I don't know why, really. But there's a Presbyterian Resale shop downtown that is super-cheap with quality stuff that I might go to for my "in-between" wardrobe.

06-22-2005, 06:11 PM
I am so tired of wearing my fat clothes. I bought an outfit today, just so I wouldn't have to look shrouded in fabric. I may not be thin, but 16 is a whole lot better than 26!

06-22-2005, 06:13 PM
Im not opposed to heading to the goodwill I did before I was married.
I bought some jeans the other day and they fit very snug. I will wear those until they are loose.
I had a challenge a long time ago with my dad that if I got down to a certain weight that he would buy me a whole new wardrobe. I wish I could take advatage of that. But I certainly wont. Hes retireing and I will not feel right at all.
I have a lot of time to go until I get to my goal I will save and then I will have a big blow out spend all and have a really great time knowing I lost the weight and im spending my own money on myself.

I still find it hard to believe that Im fitting in the smaller sizes. When someone tells me her try this on, I say oohh no that wont fit me , I problably wont be able to get that past my thighs. And the total shocker of it going above my thighs makes me shiver.
My brain is still not used to losing the weight.

06-22-2005, 07:08 PM
Well, I really love you guys, but I just can't believe this thread! When I lose all this weight, I am going to have a bonfire with all my fat clothes!!! Now, the more expensive things, I will probably have altered - my mom is a seamstress, so there's no reason for me to discard perfectly good, expensive, classic clothes - but everything else is OUT. I mean, what a WONDERFUL reward that will be to be able to go to The Limited, Express, Banana Republic, Gap, etc etc again! I can't WAIT to be able to shop at "skinny people stores"! Now, don't get me wrong, I am workin' it at Lane Bryant. They carry all of the latest trends and styles, so I don't feel like I am "behind the times" stuck in moo-moos and "polyester elastic waistband grandma pants" just because I am overweight. But how envious I have been of my girlfriends bying clothes for 5 bucks on the clearance racks at the skinny people stores! I have to work at the plus size store in order to pay for my "addiction"! Please don't be mad at me - everyone is very much entitled to their own opinions - and mine is "Burn, baby burn!!!" :lol: :lol: :lol: