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06-13-2005, 10:56 AM
I'm not quite sure how I found this website, but it is exactly what I am looking for.

I've tried ediets-was a member for about 3 years. I didn't lose any substantial weight-I would lose focus after a few weeks. I can plan my own meals. I miss the support. A buddy or a few to chat with-support.

I am 35. I've been married for 7 years. I have a darling son, he's 6. I'm a teacher and this summer I am not WORKING!

I joined CURVES in January. When I was going on a regular basis I felt great. Now that school is out, I have no excuses.

That's a little about me. Anyone looking for a buddy?


06-13-2005, 11:06 AM
I'm looking for a buddy! I agree, this site is great.

My most recent attempt at weight loss has been thru WW, but I honestly hate to count points. I know lame excuse, but I didn't like it. About 5 years ago I did the Body for Life program and lost 130 lbs and I've put on about 50 lbs since then and I want to lose it again.

I'm 34 with 2 sons, 13 and 11. I'm in management and I hate it, but I'm about to land a different job soon. (keeping fingers crossed).

I'm not sure how the buddy thing works, but I'm here for you!


06-13-2005, 11:18 AM
Hi Kathy! I'm not sure how it works either. There is a lot of info on this site!

I've always struggled with weight. I wouldn't say I was a chubby pre-teen. I wasn't skinny-but not fat. In high school (especially toward the end) I was a overweight. Looking back-I'd consider myself thin now! :D .

I lost about 60+ lbs. in college. I kept it off-but it piled back on. I lost it again....but then I met my husband and single people eat out a lot! Since then I gained about 100 lbs. I absolutely hate it.

I now have terrible knee pain. Last time I went to the doctor it was early stages of arthritis-only the left knee hurt. Now both knees hurt. It is affecting my quality of life.

I recently got weighed and measured at CURVES. OH MY! My weight was at the highest it ever was!!!!! It has motiviated me. I'm on vacation until the end of July-no excuses. I should get myself into a healthy eating and an exercise plan. Drink water!

What do you plan on doing today-healthy wise?
Here it is 10 am and I still didn't eat breakfast! Not good!
Breakfast-2 eggs w/ham; yogurt
Lunch-salad w/peaches
dinner-salmon, rice, salad and applesauce
EXERCISE-CURVES go when husband gets home-dinner will be ready.

Have a great day.
Talk to you soon!

06-13-2005, 11:54 AM
Sorry about the knee pain, I know how you're feeling. I've had back pain for a long time myself. The more I weigh, the worse the pain - so I need to get busy so I don't have to hurt all the time.

Good for you for going to Curves! I have a Golds Gym membership, but I haven't been there in months. I'm alomst embarassed to go there again becasue it's been so long. I live really close to a high school and they have a great track there that I've been walking on. Yesterday I did 2 miles, walk the curves and jog the straight. I plan on going there again tonight, if I'm not too sore :D

meals for today are:
Special K for breakfast
apple - snack
small piece of lasagna for lunch and big salad
pork chop and potato salad ( low fat )
cottage cheese and yogurt - snack

and drink water water water!!!!
Do 2 miles at the track.

Have a good day, :goodluck:

06-13-2005, 03:27 PM
Kathy-that's great about the track. I've had memberships to gyms and never really used them. My husband was a bit spectacle of CURVES, but once I told him about it he was fine with it. I didn't go for a few months-big mistake! I gained-plus I lost money! Seems kinda a waste of $$ to pay and not go!

I changed my breakfast/lunch
I ate so late I decided to make a chicken quesida?(sp wrong). It was really good.

I will still have salmon for dinner.

Have a great day!

06-13-2005, 05:04 PM
I am not very familiar with Curves. How does it differ from a regular gym?

Good Luck to both of you on your diets :)

06-13-2005, 07:08 PM
Hey everyone! I'm new. and a little lost... but I noticed that ya'll go to CURVES and I used to work there, so I have all sorts of fun tips. Im looking for a buddy. Im 21 need to lose 50-60 pounds, I could really use friends!

06-14-2005, 10:01 AM
Good Morning Kathy, Everlasting and AmberJoy!
I didn't make it to Curves last night because we went to a park. It has a water area and my son had a blast! Tonight we are going to SeaWorld so I know I'll be getting exercise. (I live in burb outside of Orlando-so SeaWorld is about 35 min. away-I get in free for being a teacher and the FL resident passes make it affordable-Disney is WAY to expensive.)

Everlasting-Curves an all women 30 min. circuit workout. You are on a machine (leg press, chest press) for 30 sec. then go to a recovery station-like a small stepper but big and you don't step off and on-just walk in place. The circuit is set up so you have upper body, recovery, lower body, recovery. upper body recovery. My location only has the basic 8 machines so you go around 3 times. The machines are hydrolic (sp?) so the harder you work the harder it is. I'm usually huffing and puffing-I don't see a lot of the other gals huffin and puffin as much as me--but that's ok. I'm so sweaty!

I am a STRESS EATER! We are going to be moving in July. I don't know where yet. I do know it will all work out. I want to be all moved by the last week of July-I go back to work then. We will need to stay in the county we are currently in due to my son going to my school next year. We won't start looking until July 1. I hate moving! I've moved so much in my childhood and in my adult life! Oh well. I say I will clean out some of my stuff as I am packing! LOL.

eggs w/ham

Lunch?-=I'm not sure yet......salad for sure!
Dinner-I am going to make a meal to take with us. I'm picking dh up from work. We'll probably eat in the car or at his work. More than likely sandwiches.
Snacks-peanuts (I'll pack some for SeaWorld).

I have to do some house work. Is it just me or does your house get "messy" the next day? LOL!

Take care

06-14-2005, 10:04 AM

How about you make a date with Gold's this week?

My date with curves will be Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday.

Anyone else? Who is your date with and when?

:D ;) :dizzy: :wave: :wave:

06-14-2005, 10:29 AM
Good Morning everyone!
oooohhhh A date! I haven't had one of those since I got married :lol: I will make my dates for Saturday and Sunday. Because of work I'll be doing cardio near my house all this week, but I'll do some weight training this weekend.

I did go do my 2 miles at the gym and ate good, except for a peanut butter cookie.... ok 2, but they were small! :D

Debs, it sounds like you're having a lot of fun this week. Good for you!! Our teachers need a break (especially my kids' teachers :). What grade do you teach and are you going to move far enough away that you'll have to transfer schools? I don't envy you at all, I hate moving!

Breakfast - Special K w/ skim milk
Lunch - Pork chop and salad
Snack - apple
Dinner - Bubble up pizza (it's a WW recipe made with ground turkey, pasta sauce and biscuits- very odd, but very very good!)
Snack- yogurt

I'll probably have to skip the walk/jog today because I'm a bit sore, but I'll do 30 laps around the bleachers - up one side, accross the top, down the other side, accross the bottom. It's a killer, but effective

Have fun at Sea World today (insert jealous look here)! Don't forget the sun block ;)


06-15-2005, 08:57 PM
Hi Buds!
Sorry it has taken me all day to post! It was a busy day!

Pat-Are you still sore? Hey 2 cookies isn't bad! Don't forget about your dates this weekend! They will get jealous if you don't come!

I was teaching 5, next year I'll be teaching 3rd. Principal just asked me today (I had to go to work to drop some stuff off)-if I wanted the retention students or SLD. The SLD teacher is really pushing to have me. The principal said she talked about how our education was in the same university system. I had to chuckle......she must really want to work with me! LOL....actually I have clinical training to take an intern, she is getting one next year and it is really best that we all have I have ESOL now....I know confusing....confusing for me also.

I will not change schools. Hopefully we can find a place in the same town. We have stay in the county due to busing of my son. He will be attending my school next year and if he ever had to take the bus he can if we live anywhere in the county.

We had a great time at Sea World. Well....we sweat our butts off! I wore jeans because I had to toss my sandles and I didn't want to wear sneakers with capri pants..............I should have worn the sneakers even if they looked silly....I was HOT!!!!!!!! We let Nathan play for about an hour in the water part.

Went to the pool with Nathan today. Had a good time. I tried to do some moves from when I took water aerobics. I think we are planning on going tomorrow. It is $2 a person.

Went to Curves. Had a great day!

Hope you had a great day! are you????


06-15-2005, 11:26 PM
Sorry don't mean to be nosy! But at the top of the screen here there is a place where you can private message people in case you all want to exchange e-mail address and stuff like that. OH by the way welcome aboard. I have'nt been here long either. I had a buddy and we e-mailed each other every night and let each other know how are day was and what we ate for the day. It was pretty cool. BUt I lost her, I hope she didn't fall off the wagon. So now I'm so-lowing it for a bit. There is another place that is good to. dotties weight loss zone. I go there too. I love the 3fatchicks!!!! I go to dotties to peek around when I need. The more places I go to for support the better I do. So any ways WELCOME!!!

06-16-2005, 12:45 AM
Hey itsmyturnnow,

How do you do that instant msg thing, I would love that and need a buddy. I'm 35 with 3 kids (8,5 & 7mos) I have a lot to lose but I am motivated and looking for all the support I can get too!


06-16-2005, 10:41 AM
It's my turn-You need a buddy? How about posting here! I just posted on Monday. I so need others who are trying to lose weight. I don't really have any friends (except coworker and I'm not working right now-summer vacation) who are trying to lose weight.

Donna-Welcome aboard! Again you can post here or email. Wow 3 kids. My husband wanted 3, but I think we'll settle for 2. Although I don't know when the second is coming. I'm 35 now and we might wait another year or so. I can't change what should of happened.......our son is 6....there will be a big age difference. But if it is God's will...He will make it happen.

I should have a good day today. I slept in. I have got to stop staying up late and sleeping in. I'm going to have a hard time come August!

I have to go to Super Wally's later. My son wants to go to the pool again. I have my DATE with Exercise and I want to make dinner later. I have got to start packing! It will be a good time to sort through some of our STUFF! I have to get my son's clothes in order. Last year we went to a private school and they had uniforms. Now he's going to transfer to my school and no uniforms. I have to weed through the play clothes from the school clothes and then jot down what he will need. Living in Florida he'll wear shorts most of the year. It did get chilly here in Dec/Jan/Feb. He has pants and for Christmas last year he got pants.....they are HUGE...but hopefully he'll grow into them come winter.

Have a super awesome day!
Don't forget to make your DATES and stick to it!

06-16-2005, 12:15 PM
I was teaching 5, next year I'll be teaching 3rd. Principal just asked me today (I had to go to work to drop some stuff off)-if I wanted the retention students or SLD. The SLD teacher is really pushing to have me. The principal said she talked about how our education was in the same university system. I had to chuckle......she must really want to work with me! LOL....actually I have clinical training to take an intern, she is getting one next year and it is really best that we all have I have ESOL now....I know confusing....confusing for me also.

Whoa, I think you lost me LOL. Good luck on your 3rd grade SLD-ESOL thingy :lol:

Debs, I sometimes wish I were a teacher so I could have the summers off but there is no way I have the patience to be a teacher. (stupid brats.. JUST KIDDING!)

My yucky boss was here yesterday and now 3 other managers are coming to do a "marketing blitz" with me today. Wooo freakin hooo. I hate my job. There is good news though. I just passed my last test yesterday to be an insurance agent so as long as I pass the background check (should be no problems) I will start training in August. YEAH :dancer:

I convinced my husband to start working out with me in the evenings. He was the one that helped me lose 130lbs because he worked out and ate good now he doesn't go to the gym and doesn't eat so well. SO, starting tonight he's going to the track with me and jog/walk 2 miles. :tread: I think if we both do this together it will be easier on me. He really doesn't need to lose any weight, but I'd like him to do it for his health.

Debs, have fun on your date today and enjoy the pool and shopping while the rest of us slave away at our jobs :s:

Have a great day ladies!

06-16-2005, 12:35 PM
I joined yesterday and so far I love it I never thought of making excursive as a date I think it is a very good idea so I will not think as it as a burden. I joined weight watchers about 3 months ago lost 12 pounds but I think I could have done better have a friend in the gym she has lost a lot and it is killing me my husband say I look grate but I don’t think so. I will be 28 in august and will love to loss at lest half my size.


I made the hot ham and cheese sandwich from the food menu for my husband and myself for lunch today it was fantastic and only 5 points for those of you that are on weight watchers.


06-16-2005, 01:33 PM
Hello all!

I have posted before but it has been a while. Again I am in search of a buddy I'm not picky I'm just looking for someone who can understand my struggle's and my hopes and dreams and someone who will let me be there also for them. Ill tell you a little about myself....

My name is Viana I go by Vi for short, I am 27 years and am and have always been overweight since puberity. I was in a long term relationship untill I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me and looking for other ladies to spend time with. After I found out and talked to him about it he moved out and said he did not love me and needed his space. :( Fastforward 3 months and here I am. I am still struggling on getting over him he was the man I wanted to marry little did I know he was a complete fake. I joined a gym right after he left and 2 months latter I desided I was going to change mylife and start going to the gym and eating healthy. My goal is to take off 155lbs after 4 weeks of hard work im only down 11lbs :mad: I am not seeing the results like I have hoped and am becoming very discouraged :stress: I have turned to the one person I figured would always be there for me (my sister) and she flat out told me I will alway be fat so live with it.

So it brings me to here and now I am is desprate need of a buddy, a friend someone that can kick my butt into gear and make me see what I need to see. I despertly do not want to give up however I am feeling I cant go on like what is it worth.. I work 10 hrs a day then go to the gym for 1 hour and 45 min and only have droped 11lbs. and am seeing no results :censored:

Thank you for the time

06-16-2005, 04:02 PM
Hi Everyone!

I really need a buddy or 2 or 5 to motivate me! I will be the first one to admit that I am lazy, well I wouldn't say lazy, but the more I gain the more I hurt and the less I feel like exercising!

Between my husband and myself we have a total of 6 kids. 5 are boys! They are all involved in sports. The oldest moved away to college (Long Beach) but the 4 younger ones and my daughter are all very active. My daughter's car broke down so I drive her to and from work, I am so glad that summer is here my schedule is a little less hectic w/the kids out of school! But the boys all play sports so I am constantly on the go because my husband commutes so he can't help out!

I work but I work a lot from home so that I am available for our kids. I am lucky to have a job that I can do this. But it has also made it hard for me to meet people we have only lived here for 2 years but I have not made 1 good friend. My life is so involved with the kids I don't get to many chances to do adult things. We have all of our kids week on week off. So one week we have all of them and the next week they are at their other parents, except for my daughter, she does not go to her dads with her brothers.

Anyway I joined Curves about a year ago, but I do not go anymore. Don't ge me wrong, I loved it. The problem was they were never open when I have free time.

I have gained so much weight over the past couple of years that I do not even recognize myself in pictures anymore! I am so embarassed it has dropped my self confidence to below zero. Since I am self employeed ( I am a Loan Officer) I have to get out there to meet people, but I am so embarassed I don't even try! As of today I weigh 214 I have never weighed this much in my entire life! The heaviest I have ever been is 179 and that was when I was in labor with my daughter who is my first born and is now 18.

I have tried slim fast, ww, ......... I only last a little while on them and then something happens and BOOM I stop doing it.

So anyway I really want to lose the weight. My husband and I would like to go to Hawaii for our 6 year anniversary in February if I can get the money saved but I can not go like this! My goal is to get down to 125 - 135 again. Even my sex drive is suffering from this.

I need daily motivation and I am hoping that this forum will help. I would love to find some buddies that are even close to me so that we may possibly get together which would really help me!I am even open to exchanging phone numbers and e-mails so that we can stay in contact!

Please I really need the help with this!

Thanks for listening,

06-16-2005, 05:57 PM
OHMOMOF3, I just sent you a private message. go to the top of your page where it says private messages thats where you can check it. Hope this helps.

06-17-2005, 11:20 AM
Annenette-HUGS to you. We are here for you! I know what you mean about Curves. I wish my location was open EARLY in the am-but it’s not. Instead of Curves what about a water aerobics class-local gyms, or the Y might have them. I went to some in NY and I really liked it. Do you have time in your day to do a tape at home? Walk Away the Pounds is great. Ahh…you’re a loan officer…….we were trying to get a mortgage for the house we are renting…but the payment would have been much higher than our rent and I don’t think we can swing that right now.

VI-WELCOME! :wave And to your sister-a kick in the butt! Hey 11 lbs. is AWESOME!!! You are probably losing inches! Have you changed your eating habits? Are you drinking water? I’ve read in a MAYO clinic article that you should drink ½ your weight in ounces---for example I’m at 280—ahh---I should be drinking 140 ounces of water a day. I’m not up to that---but I do try to drink at least 64ounces. Do you have a trainer at the gym? What do you do for an 1hr and 45 min.? (I didn’t always like going to a gym-ex Bally and ex Women’s Gym member). I had a doctor who once told me that ½ pound a week was good. Remember…you don’t want to come off too fast. We’ll be your buddy!

Yolanda-Make your date? It’s nice to meet ya! :D I’ve always put exercise off. Like it was a chore (I still think that at times). I know from my past weight loss experiences that I was successful when I exercised and ate right. I have a lot of exercise tapes/dvds and I recently joined Curves. I really don’t have any excuses to not exercise—except my laziness! I might have to cancel my date on Saturday. My husband is trying to reschedule our church directory photo so we can go to the beach (west coast). Although I can swim. My son will spend HOURS in the gulf! LOL. WHERE did you get a food menu from? I haven’t discovered everything on this site yet. I told dh it was like ediets-except you don’t get meal plans and it’s free! Oh yeah…I was a member of ediets from 2000-2004(half the time I didn’t even use the site when I was on a downward slope).

Kathy-That’s great on the 130. SO it really can be done? That gives me hope! Did your husband go with you? That’s great that he is going. My husband does support my efforts. He has done Walk Away the Pounds with me and I think Richard Simmons. He’d kill me if he knew I confessed that! LOL. He doesn’t really need to lose weight-just tone up. He has gained weight since we meet-but he was a skinny thing. Instead I’ve gained 100! ARGGG.
:p :lol: :)
I didn’t mean to confuse you with the terms-I get confused too! It is nice having the summers off. I worked summer school last year. I’ve moved from FL to NY during one summer and then from NY to FL during another one. Oh…had my son during one also! I usually do training or inservices. I only have one week this year. I will be moving…packing mostly. I really wanted to be settled by the beginning of school-but I’m not sure. I hate moving, yet I do it a lot……one day we’ll get our own house! I will be doing lessons and planning-which I won’t get paid for. No work in the summer-no pay! I think many people think we get paid in the summer…not the case. I only get a paycheck because I had my salary extend for 12 months instead of 10. Last year I didn’t do that……hence why I worked summer school.

06-17-2005, 11:44 AM
I dunno know what happened-I tried to make names bigger, different fonts, smiles.......oh I am so tech NOT.

I'm going out to dinner with one my coworkers. We are going to the Olive Garden so I'll look online to see what I can eat.

I forgot about my I might meet my husband at my exercise "date" so I can cut off 15min. I'll need to be back home by 5 in order to get ready. AHHHH!!!!!

Have a super day everyone. I'm going to hang out around my house. I have housework to do.

Have an awesome day everyone!

Again...welcome to you newbies.

GOALS.....GOALS.....GOALS.....GOALS.......for the WEEKEND
What are your healthy lifestyle goals for the weekend? Post what you are going to do-or that you intend to do....then come back and post how you did!
:lol: :dizzy: :cool: ;) :D :) :p

Friday-exercise, eat right, drink at least 100ouncs of water!
Saturday-no beach-then exercise, eat right, drink water--if beach--pack healthy snacks and water. Do as much leg and arm exercises in the water as possible**try to swim like a real person.
Sunday-Pilates tape and ab tape....have a nice healthy dinner.
Think only good thoughts...and get my dates scheduled for next week and my prepared!

06-17-2005, 01:02 PM
Debsturn~ Thank you for your response :) I have changed my eating habits extreamily and have not fallen off the wagon as of yet, I am eating 3 meals aday with 2 healthy snacks usual fruit or vegies. I am totaly pushing water I was always drinking soda but I have stopped that and am drinking around 160oz of water a day no caffeen(sp) no sugar no fried foods nothing like that Ive been keeping track of my food in my diet/food notebook of cal's and fat Im also taking trimspa and apple cider vinegar (just started). At the gym I do have a trainer and she seems happy with what im doing, I do 1 hour of cardo that consists of 30min on treadmill, 30 min on bike and 30 on Eplical(sp) the stairclimber/glider Then I do around 40 to 45 min on the weight michines (so dont know the names) then I do around 15min of floor excersises like crunches and bottom lifts. Ive been working so darn hard but i feel like its worth nothing. And as for my sister I think she is jealous that I am finally starting to do something about my weight and she is not at the point yet.

When I started this new way of life I weighed in at 285.5lbs my heavyest ever as of this morning at 7:00am I weighed (naked) 269.00 I know that is down 16.5lbs but I phically dont see a change when will this happen??? when will others (besides my family who know im on a diet) start to say somthing.... :?:

Well Im trying to hang on for dear life here and Im trying so hard not to give up...

Thanks for your time


06-17-2005, 01:48 PM
Deb: Thanks for the words of encouragement! I think you have one of the greatest jobs in the world! Teachers are WAY underpaid as far as I am concerned! As for my exercise program (or lack of one I should say :o ) I have problems with my neck and bone spurs in my back so I have to be very careful what I do. I live in a very small hick town (we just got Starbucks about a year ago!) I am thinking of seeing if one of the local gyms here has a pool so that I can do water arobics! I will keep you all posted!

Vi: WOW you have my respect! You are really trying and you probably don't see the changes but remember you are building muscle at the same time. So I bet pretty soon you are going to start feeling little muscles! Keep up the great work. I only wish I had that type of willpower. I am lazy :D I tend to come up with every excuse in the book not to do something!

I have a hard time sticking to a diet. I also have SEVERE migraines and I take 3 different prevention medications every night, I think that has a lot to do with my weight gaing (besides that middle age thing).

Well this weekend I have a very busy schedule I have 2 double headers Saturday with our boys so I will be at the baseball field probably from 9:30 am until around 8:00 pm. The one good thing is that there is no snackbar at this field! My neice and nephew are also flying in from South Dakota for the summer (my brother is in the military and he is divorced so the kids come here first then he comes and gets them) and of course Sunday is Fathers Day. My kids are going to their dads for the day (except for my daughter she chose not to go with her brothers to her dads house she wants to go with us instead, she is 18 so her dad can't really say anything, besides he didn't even invite her in his plans anyway) so the rest of my clan (my 3 stepsons, hubby, daughter and me) will be heading to San Francisco for the day. I think that we are going to the zoo. I haven't been to that zoon in years and the walking will be great for me (I think I will wear my pedometor so I can see how much I walked).

I plan on going grocery shopping this weekend, I have been reading up on all the different diets and I kind of like the southbeach one. But I think that I am going to just kind of make up my own. A little from each one. Part of my problem is I usually don't eat breakfast and sometimes I skip lunch too, so this is what is storing my fat! Well when I go shopping this weekend I plan on getting quick healthy things that I can eat. Plus I am drinking green tea at least 3 times a day right now since I read an article that this helps lose the weight! We shall see! I plan on going full steam come Monday! I am changing companies next week and I hoping that this will also help me get motivated!

Plus all of your support I should be ready to take on the world! I hope all of you have an awesome weekend!


06-17-2005, 05:01 PM
Hello ladies :wave:

Sounds like we have a great bunch of people to use for support here. Thank goodness! :grouphug:

My day has been kinda sucky. Woke up late, tried to iron my shirt but the iron leaked rusty water on it :tantrum:, didn't eat breakfast because we're out of milk and I won't eat anything but cereal (childish I know... whatever! LOL), wore a short sleeved shirt to work and it's cold and rainy,work geeks were invaded my office, and I did sales calls with a big jerk.

BUT, now I've eaten my lunch, work geeks are gone, hubby brought me a sweatshirt, this is my last day of work here (I think), and it's Friday! :sunny:

Tomorrow is my free day and I think I'm going to eat a chocolate muffin and mounds of pasta. :hungry:

I did my 2 miles of walk/jogging last night and even though it's a little chilly I'm going to do it again today. I'll be glad when I have this extra 50 lbs of fat gone so running will be easier!

Have a great day guys!

06-18-2005, 10:23 AM
Kathy-sorry to hear about your day—you said it was your last day…..are you getting a different job? Awesome on your 2 mile walk! YOU GO GIRL!!!!

Annette-thanks for the comment about teachers. One of my students made a statement last year that he couldn’t believe I make less money than a garbage man. I said yes, I do. It is hard work. I sometimes wonder if I could get another job with less responsibility. The NCLB law and FCAT-I find myself wondering when does the fun come back into teaching! WOW on all the kids at your house. Family seems like it is very important to you.---changing companies? Work companies? Good luck with finding the water aerobics class. I’ve also looked for aquatic centers in the towns near me.

VI-wow 16 lbs. in 4 weeks is great-that’s 4 pounds a week. Are they taking your measurements at the gym? I bet you are losing inches! Have you been to your dr.? I’m not in the medical field at all so I’m just asking…have you had your thyroid checked? I have hypothyroidism (sp) and it makes losing weight so hard! It runs in my family-I developed after my son was born. Sweetie you are doing great---and hey I’ll take the 269! As for your sister-yes, she could be jealous of you-don’t let that interfere with your goals. You are doing this for YOU-not your ex, not your family-but for YOU! Also, changing your habits and taking it off slowly is the best thing. It’s hard when you hear someone say-I lost 20 lbs. in 4 weeks---but is what they were eating realistic? You keep at it—you are doing great!!!

Well we didn’t go to the beach. Instead we are going to go to the pool. My husband hasn’t been there yet. Then we are going to the $.50 movie theatre to see Kicking and Screaming. I have some things to clean up and I should probably start packing! AHHH!!

I hope everyone has a great Saturday! Enjoy!


06-18-2005, 11:16 PM
Wow...seems like I have found what I'm looking for. I need a group that understands this is a constant battle for me, at least now at this point in my life.

Anyone else need a buddy?

06-19-2005, 11:11 PM
:dizzy: PHEW! What a weekend! I am so tired after all the running around I did that it's bedtime at 9pm for this girl.

Mojjo, we're all here for you as a group. No need for just one buddy here :grouphug: Welcome. :)

Friday evening I went and did my 2 miles at the track like normal. Then I was back at it Saturday morning. Except instead of jogging the last 100 yards I did walking lunges. Holy crap that hurt... and still does!!! I took hubby to lunch for Fathers day then did some cleaning. Around 4 in the afternoon my hubby, myself and our neighbor went dirt bike riding for about 3 hours, and that my friends is a tough workout! But incredibly fun!:bike: Today we decided to take it easy and go for a little hike. Yeah right. We went to the nearby mountains and hiked about 1 1/2 miles up a hill, then 1 1/2 miles back down. My legs were screaming the whole time because of yesterday's abuse. I just got done playing with my dogs for 45 minutes outside. Now I am resting my butt doing nothing and it feels good :D

My one small victory this weekend. We were going to Coldstone Creamery to get some ice cream and I decided not to get any. Yeah for me!

How did everyone else do this weekend? Do anything fun? Have any small/big victories.

Debs, did you keep your dates? Oh, and about my job. I am going to go to training starting in August to be an insurance agent and I want to take some time off before I start, but because of finances *dang it* I'll need to stay at my current job a couple of more weeks then I'll take most of July off to do nothing.

Take it easy ladies,

06-20-2005, 10:42 AM
Welcome Mojjo!

Kathy-whew girl my legs hurt just listening to your adventures. That's awesome that you are getting so much exercise and including hubby!

Quick post-I didn't do formal exercise on Sat. or Sun.-but I did swim at the pool.l I tried to do some "moves". I'm going to Curves tonight!

I'm going to spend time this week I have to go into work on Tuesday and Wednesday (only for 3 hours each day-but :dizzy: )

Cleaning today and some shopping....

talk to you guys later!

YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!

06-20-2005, 11:59 AM
Good Monday to all in the group!

I want to thank everyone who have given me support, just when I was about to give up you all came threw and saved my life thank you from the bottom of my heart. :D

Well my weekend was pretty good, I like everyday went to the gym and worked my butt Its kinda strange I weight myself one moment im down 16 then the next im up 10 I just dont get the scale thing its driving me nuts :stress: Anyway I finally got up the nerve to measure me again and from May 31st to Yesterday June 19th My "gut" went from a 55" to 49" not sure if that is good or not but Hopefully alot more will come off. I have started taking Apple Cyder pills and Maybe they are working not sure, In highschool I was told I had a theryoid problem however I dont any more (thats what the dr said)

On the topic of my sister she is still being a pain in my backside, she still has not said one positive thing about what im doing It really breaks myheart.

Today has made this new way of life 5 weeks this is the longest I have been on a diet so maybe I can do it....

Hope you all have a great day!!!

Thanks again

06-20-2005, 12:10 PM
My "gut" went from a 55" to 49" not sure if that is good or not

That's not good.... it's fantastic! :encore: A 6" loss in size is a great accomplishment, don't doubt yourself. Prove your sister wrong, you won't always be overweight and you're now on your way to show her you CAN do it!

I'm still sore today, so I might have to take a day off to rest. (phew) But I'll be back at it tomorrow.

Have a great date with curves tonight Debs!

TTYL ladies!!

06-20-2005, 12:15 PM
Can I get in on the buddy thing too???? I'm 42, a teacher (thank God for summers!!!), a mother of an 11th month old daughter (HUGE surprise, but GREATER blessing), a 16yr old son, and I'm sick and tired of being sick, tired and FAT. I only gained 10 pounds with my pregnacy and after my daughter was born I lost 50 pounds(it wasn't me I think, it was the diabetic diet I had to follow my 3rd trimester). Anyway, after I stopped nursing my weight has begun creeping back (I'm up 30 pounds). I can't go back. I have over 100 pounds I need to lose to be healthy and normal again. I need a buddy to do this. Can I join the crew?

06-20-2005, 01:48 PM
Okay, sounds like everyone had an eventful weekend here! I as usual was running in 20 different directions at one time :dizzy: Saturday was baseball, baseball and more baseball! I don't remember eating breakfast (Oh wait yes I did it was Jack in the box sourdough something or other) lunch? What in the world did I have for lunch :?: I can't remember but for dinner we bbq'd ribs. I only ate a 2 small ribs, a corn on the cob and a small amount of mac and cheese.

Now Sunday we went to Lyons for breakfast and I had a country skillet :( couldn't help myself, by the time we ate breakfast it was lunch time! Well after breakfast we went to 6 Flags Marine World so I did ALOT of walking :D so I did get some exercise in there! My legs are so sore. The only thing I ate there was some garlic fries. Okay, I also ate a funnel cake :o that is my weakness. By I rationalized it with all of the walking I did! So for dinner we were to wiped out to cook so we ordered pizza. I only had 2 small slices!

So this morning I am going to have some yogurt for breakfast and hopefully something a little healthy for lunch! I haven't even begun to think about lunch or dinner yet, I need to go grocery shopping today so I plan on stocking up on good eats for me! I am switching mortgage companies after today and I am totally excited about the new company I am going to work for! I am hoping that the changes that we are making right now will help move us into the right direction to get things back on track for us. Things have been tight and I think the stress has added to the weight gain. So keep your fingers crossed I am hoping to start reporting awesome news in the next few months!

I woke up this morning feeling refreshed and ready to go! It is kind of funny because I thought for sure I would not be able to move my legs from all the walking yesterday! The whole time we were walkikng around the park and I was sweating and huffing and puffing :o I was so irritated with myself for letting myself get into this type of shape. It is like a little buzzer is going off in me right now, telling me I need to get my butt in gear! So many health problems lately I know that they are related to this weight gain and I know that I only can change it. It is just trying to keep myself motivated is the problem!

I hope everyone is off to a great start this week! I know that I am ready to conquer the world this week!

Vi - 6 is more than 0! Keep up the great work! I hope to report those type of number soon! Don't worry about that sister of yours, you just keep doing what you are doing! You seem to have determination right now and that is awesome!

Debs - how did the packing go? Hey doesn't that count as exercise? How much longer before you move?

06-21-2005, 10:50 AM
Good morning chicks! :wave:

:coffee: mmmm I love drinking my coffee in my office before anyone comes in and the phone starts ringing. :coffee:

I was officially offered the job to be an insurance agent yesterday!!! :cb: I'm so excited to start. I'll have a much nicer office, a much better job and much better pay. Sounds much better! :lol: Annette, soutnds like both you and I needed a change of sceenery. Good luck to you on the new job, I hope you're much happier there.

We went out to dinner to celebrate and I had shrimp cocktail and a chicken salad with about 1 Tbsp of dressing, so I was a good girl. I didn't exercise but I'll either go to the track tonight, if it isn't 100 degrees again, or I'll use my bike downstairs.

I'm kinda discouraged today with my weight loss because I've been working my butt off and eating really good, but I gained 4 lbs last week. :( I know it's not all fat, but it's hard to look at the scale and see that when I've been so dedicated. It maked me feel like such a fat sausage in my clothes. However, I'm keeping focused and trying to keep my spirits up so I don't just say screw it and quit. If I did that then I'd gain a heck of a lot more than 4 lbs and that would be bad.

Have a great day guys and tell us how you're doing!

06-21-2005, 11:21 AM
:) Good Morning All!

Today is the first day of summer and I woke up in a really good mood :lol: maybe it was the fact that I got my final paycheck yesterday and I have a ton of money in the bank - yeah like that will last long the bad thing about working on commission is that you have to play catch up so you never get to really enjoy the money. Well I shouldn't say that, I wasn't too far behind this time so I actually have some extra money - I think I will go to Reno this weekend with the hubby since we will have no kids!

Well I never got around to the yogurt yesterday for breakfast, for lunch I had 5 toquitos and 15 mini pretzels! Now for dinner, my hubby took me out to dinner to celebrate my last day at the bad job and to celebrate that I am signing my contract on my new job this week! Okay, okay now to confess on what I had :o a side salad with ranch dressing, I tried to use as little as possible, but then I had 2 chicken enchiladas (well actually 1 3/4) and some spanish rice and water. So that wasn't that bad, but then last night I got a craving for something sweet and had to eat about a cup of Ben & Jerry's Cherry Garcia! I am planning on making up for that today with extra exercise! I am going shopping with my daughter and my neice so I figure I will park farther in the parking lot and walk the mall a few times, plus I need to go to Costco and go grocery shopping. So I will make it up for sure!

Kathy that is awesome about the new job! Do you have to be licensed there? I know here in California you have to be! I have to get my realtors license with this new company to do my loans, but that is okay. I have already have taken the required courses I just have to go take the state exam! I have heard that insurance agents make pretty good money, so hopefully you start raking in the cash! What type of insurance will you be handling?

Well girls I need to get into the shower, I have a very busy day today! I have decided to sub at our school district this year, just for a little extra cash I will be doing yard duty, cafeteria and so on. I thought all our kids would stress out over that, but they actually think its cool that I may end up at one of their schools! So I have to go this morning and pick up my packet and get my fingerprints scanned. Then I have to go drop off all these bills I wrote out this morning and a ton of other errands and then 2 of our boys are playing against each other tonight at the baseball field..... :dizzy: I am dizzy already!

I hope you all have an awesome day

06-21-2005, 01:08 PM
Good morning to all and happy first day of summer!!!! I hope this summer is filled with much sun and smiles :)

With that said I hope you all had a good evening, mine was pretty good I went to the gym right after work as usual and worked my butt off... I am in lust with one of the trainers there however im pretty sure he doesnt know im even there (the story of my life) :rolleyes: Anyway I got one of those huge ball things the night before last at Walmart so I can do crunches at home (SO NOT AS EASY AS IT LOOKS) I swear I almost died!!!!! Lastnight I made turkey burgers on the bbq They were actually very good, **** I think this may just be working for

CONGRATS PhycoPhat on the new job :woo: I totaly understand about the weight gain I am starting to believe that the scale is the devil :devil: It is a horrible thing and all need to be disposed Its hard everytime I go into the bathroom I feel the need to weigh myself my weight goes one way then the other Im really trying not to depend on that so much because if it doesnt say what I want it to I go off the deep end :(

Well in all i think im doing okay today im pretty motivated today and am looking foward to being a smaller me!!!

06-22-2005, 10:42 AM
Good Morning! :wave:

I have to go to training for my old job for the next few days. YUCK! But I need the paycheck so I'll suffer thru it. At least the motel I'm staying at has a gym, but they also have crappy food so I'll be hitting a grocery store when I get there.

Vi, nothing wrong with lusting after the hotty at the gym, maybe it'll give you a little more motivation! :wl: Be careful of those stability balls, they're dangerous. I was laying on mine and put my arms around the ball, rolled forward, and couldn't move because my arms were stuck underneath the ball, and did a face plant on the floor. :lol: Ok, so maybe they aren't dangerous, I'm just a huge klutz!

I do have to get my license to sell insurance. I just got done passing the test, now all that's left is sending in my application. I'll be selling the usual types, life, home, auto and securities later on when I get that license. I'm hoping to make good money! :dancer: Have fun in Reno this weekend and don't blow all your extra money in the bank. I know it can be done because I was a blackjack dealer for 8 years.

You all have a great rest of the week and I'll check back in on Friday or Saturday. Be good!!!


06-22-2005, 02:07 PM
Good Morning all~ Hope today finds you all well, Everything is going well for me so far this morning its Seattle so as you all figured its rainning on the second day of summer!?!!???! Last night I did the usual went to the gym and came home and cooked dinner. At the gym lastning A woman came over to me and said that she has seen me in there working my butt off and wanted to tell me that she can see how much its paying off, and that to see me so motivated and deturminded I inspire her it was soooooo nice that a complete stranger took time out to say such nice things and my own sister wont even admit that im trying to better myself :(

Kathy: I know what you mean with those balls, I used mine again lastnight and as i went to sit on it, it rolled away and I fell on my butt but yea i am also a klutz!!!lol

06-23-2005, 12:03 PM
Well ladies, I did it. I quit my job yesterday right in the middle of sales training. :D So now I'm official on a 1 month vacation. :cb: :dance: :woo: :balloons: :sunny: :cheer: :bike:

I'm a little excited about it! ;)

Vi, don't be sad about your sister, be happy someone told you you're doing great. You should be proud of yourself! Not only have you changed YOUR body, but you changed someone else to be in better shape. You go girl! :cheer:

Now for the bad news: I pulled my back yesterday when I was lifting a laundry basket and I can barely move. I was planning on working out 2 times a day for the next month and now I have to wait a few days until I can start. Very very frustrating. Oh well, I'll just get on the stationary bike and do what I can for now.

You all have a great day!

06-23-2005, 12:27 PM

Hi! I know I haven't posted much this week-it's been a busier one than the last few! Boy I LOVE summer vacation.

Stayed up past midnight and slept till 9:30! AHHHHHHHHH. I'm going to my school today-to put a few things away-...I was going to register my son...but I don't know if I know where all the official documents are...I better register him soon! LOL

I'll be back later today. I have my date with exercise later today.

I'll post more personals later.



06-23-2005, 02:31 PM
Good Morning all buddies~

Yestedrday was a pretty good day I had a hard work out burned 625Cal's :D Im getting happy about all of this now that Im starting to see a small change in my tummy area. and in my sholders :dance:

Phyco~ Congrats on leaving your job, (seems odd to say that ) Dont stress about your back just get better and then go full speed on the workout. No use working out if your just hurting yourself. when you get better I know you can do it :D

Well the weekend is fast coming and so far I have no plans (just the gym) I am hopping to spend the say with my sister shopping however she doesnt seem to want to so ill leave it up to her...

You all have a great day :)

06-23-2005, 10:01 PM
:grouphug: I wanna be in your little support group...After reading all of your posts, this is the group for me!

I am Amy and I am also a 5th grade teacher. I have 3 children who are 7 9 and 11. I weigh 208 and want to get down to 150. I have been working very hard since school was out...I lost 4 lbs, then gained 3. I go to Curves, too and went today. I am a bit discouraged.

I joined this forum 3 weeks ago, but I am just now posting. I would love to have a bit of support from some others who seem like they are in the same boat. :tread: I feel like I can do this...but then I am not sure. I lost 50 lbs in 2001, and have only gained 15 of them back. The time before, I was in a Weigh Down group Bible study and became very aware of my body's food needs. I need to get that back....

So, ladies....hopefully, I am IN!

06-24-2005, 11:59 AM
And a happy good morning to you all!!!

Friday is the best day ever!! I hope you all had a fabolus day and evening yesterday. My day went well I had a borning work day and a great workout I think i need to step up my workouts make them harder and longer. Then number on the scale is still the same wont go down and its about to drive me over the wall :( I just cant understand why after one month i have only lost 13lbs but im starting to see that my clothes are bigger and fitting better i just cant explain what is going on but im about to cry Maybe I need to cut back on food and start getting tought and counting every cal and fat that goes into my mouth again.... I dont know I need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Amy~ Welcome to the group, anyone is welcome here to our buddy group!!! My name is Viana and Im 27 years old I may not fit into this group as well as everyone else meaning I do ont have kids but i do have cats ;) I need to loose over 100lbs actully 125lbs... please think of me as a buddy

To everyone have a great day and Ill talk to you soon

06-24-2005, 04:28 PM
Vi~ My hubby had the same problem. Did you know that muscle weighs more than fat? 13 lbs in a month is nothing to scoff at BTW..You may be converting to a trimmer build, not weight. Listen to me...after being depressed for the last couple of days because my scale has snapped the wrong direction...LOL! :lol: But, I do know that. It is what keeps me going...

I need to get to some exercise today. I feel totally unmotivated. I have been sitting here online for the whole day....yuck! We are going to my hubby's Nan's tonight and she is fixing supper...a PA Dutch carb feast, so pray that I will fight the urge to binge! :devil:

06-24-2005, 08:05 PM
Amy~ thanks for the reply, I have been told to throw away the scale, ive been told only weight once every couple of weeks, Ive been told that muscle weighs more than fat Howvere I swear im not 273lbs of muscle!!! if I am god help me id rather die :( Its just very hard for me to go threw this I am becoming very very discouraged I know im starting to see a very very small differance however I just want to wake up and have all my fat gone and a new me there.. Its alot harder than I figured it would be.

For one month (monday ) I have been full on with my diet and workout and I feel that i have been working so hard and yet not seeing a huge differance is very upsetting to me..

06-25-2005, 09:29 AM
Keep on keeping on Vi! At least you can look in the mirror or scale and say "I am doing what I am supposed to and I will feel good about that!" Yep, you are not 273 lbs of muscle LOL! But you may have converted 3lbs of that fat to 3 lbs of muscle ;) .

I did well at Nan's last night. I had only one serving of each carb laden dish and man was it GOOOD. It is no small victory that I didn't binge and load up. I resisted the urge to have the spice cake with peanut butter icing so that is another victory. Go me!

I am off to Curves now and I will work my fat off (not my buns...they aren't my problem area).

06-25-2005, 11:52 AM (

OK, so I was soo discouraged Thursday because I had lost 4 then gained 2...well I was at Curves this am and weighed in...I was down another 2 from the original 4 lost. I guess the scale shouldn't make me that happy, but at least for the moment I feel like I am getting somewhere LOL! See, Vi...I deal with that too! ;)

06-25-2005, 12:36 PM
Ok, I got on the scale this morning and it is 3 pounds down...Yea, but, I went to a local festival last night and ate what I wanted. Not as much as I usually would...1 slice pizza, nachos, watermelon, but my fear is that the scale is on delayed register...that tomorrow or Monday it will EXPLODE to reflect the pounds I have to have reaped from the festival food. I wll be so bummed if I have to move my ticker back.

Amypa, I too did weigh down many years ago. I found it really opened my awareness for when I am hungry or satisfied. Even after all these years, I say to myself "approaching full" as to not keep mindlessly shoving food in my mouth.

06-25-2005, 06:28 PM
K, tchrnow...just be happy with what you have and start making good choices now. that is all you can do...right?

06-26-2005, 06:10 PM
HI GANG!!!!!!

Sorry I've been MIA-I've been doing ok.

Got a little bit more busier than my doing nothing days.

I did do 3 days at Curves! Yeah!

:dizzy: (that's from my son-he saw me and wanted to add it....hence this will a short post....) :?:

I'll be up early tomorrow so I will post away!!!!!


Did you schedule your dates for next week?

06-27-2005, 12:32 AM
Good evening everyone! :D

This has been day 4 of my vacation and it's very weird not to worry about what day it is, what has to be done, or even what time it is! I don't even look at the clock until my stomach starts growling then I know it's time to eat, and honestly that's the most important time, right! :lol:

My husband is leaving to visit his mom on Wednesday for 10 days. He's only going about 3000 miles away so I get the house to MYSELF. :cb: No kids, no husband, no nothing. Don't get me wrong, I'm going to miss him, but holy crap! I haven't had any alone time in 5 YEARS!

I plan on staying on track and being extra good because I won't buy any bad stuff for him to eat, or go out to dinner by myself. Plus we have 3 dogs so that means 3 walks a day on top of my workouts. So I'm going to be a walkin' fool! :yes:

Welcome to all the new people here! :grouphug: We all can use all the help we can get.

Right now, I'm going to bed, to sleep in, because I don't have to work tomorrow. :dancer:

Kathy :wave:

06-27-2005, 12:19 PM
Amy and Lynne-WELCOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D

Kathy-I can totally relate to the not knowing what time/day it is. It has been like for me since the beginning of June. Last week was the first week that I had to be somewhere at a certain time! Enjoy the time! AHHHH 10 days alone! I like just getting a few hours! LOL

Amy and Lynne-I use to get on the scale every chance I got. It actually got to the point where I asked dh to hide it and only take it out once a week. I’ve settled a bit on the scale now. I’m not going to get upset about the numbers………..yesterday I got on-UGH the number was WEIGH HIGH! Two minutes later-I lost 7 pds! I am going to go by the numbers at Curves. I weigh in once a month. I think my month is coming up again. I’ve been doing ok

Amy-teachers rock! LOL……I’m getting a bit nervous about teaching 3rd—I told my new team member…I should have stayed in 5th! She said NO WAY!!!! (she’s looping with her 2nd grade class to 3rd-we’ll be the only 3rd grade teachers on the first floor-and we are next to eachother)

I’ve never done the Weigh Down. I do know that my body needs fresh foods-veggies, fruits and some proteins. It craves WATER.

Nathan had his first formal swim lesson today. He did great. He actually has been doing awesome in the water. He is swimming underwater (not that graceful-but he’s under and moving forward!). There are a total of 6 kids-we might get another one. It’s not one-on-one…but that’s ok. We went to the pool on Sat. and Sun. It is suppose to rain later today so we are staying in-it is HOT! We’ll probably go to the pool on Tuesday and Wed.

Hope everyone has a great Monday!!!!!!!!!!!


06-27-2005, 12:26 PM

Ok ladies........get your calendars out......get ready to mark your dates for this week.

I should be able to go to Curves every day this week. Three days is a must. I will aim for all five! WOW.....I can do it!

What about you? What/when are you planning on your exercise dates? Post to let us know!

Happy Dating!

06-27-2005, 01:48 PM

I hope you all had a good weekend, mine was okay I had to miss they Gym on SAturday :( however I worked out yesterday 2hrs and 45 min to make up for it. I did eat out Saturday with my sister but had baja fresh so it was okay for me but Im trying not to stress about it. Today make 1 month that I have been on my new way of life and my weight this morining is down 14lbs it was 16 however Im going by what you all say and all that up to muscle or that im PMSing ( i know TMI) Anyway still no love from my sister when we went out Saturday she told me I will fall on my face and that I wont get to where I plan that made me sooo damn mad :mad: I just cant believe it and she said that because Im always at the gym I am not seeing my Nephew and am being a bad aunt :mad: :mad: :mad: How can she say that I see him every weekend I cant help it if I work 10 and a half hrs aday and then work out for an hour and half every day I mean how often am i suspose to see my nephew????? what if i lived in a different state????? im so angry i could just spit nails :mad: :mad: :mad: I told here well u said after i get out of the gym its to late to come see zach and she denied that she said that.

anyway moving on~

I am so happy for all of you guys you all are working so hard you give me hope and faith that Im not alone and that I can do this!!! if any of you need anything please ask

Have a great day
Viana :D

06-27-2005, 04:01 PM
I worked out at Curves this am...I am planning on going Mon, Tues., Thurs., and Sat. so I won't miss for the 4th.

I made my children walk to the library today, so we could all get exercise and some good reading material. ( I didn't tell them that, I told them it would be fun ;) ) We walked another half a block to get water ice at Rita's. One of my students gave me gift certs. for end of year. We got a kids size, and I can't find the nutrition info for that...if any of you know. I figured that walking with the kids somewhere they had been begging to go was a good way to get them moving and save some $ on gas. I think we at least walked off our Rita's :)

Really working out for 1.5 hrs a day? Man...I wish I had the time, VI. And BTW...I have 6 nieces and nephews and I am lucky to see them 4 times a year, so don't stress. Just use your sister's annoyance as inspiration to prove her wrong on all counts. Grr...that would make me angry too!

06-27-2005, 04:38 PM
Hi everyone

I am Nickie. I am a stay at home mom with 2 kids ages 10 and 6.
I'm not going to tell you how many diets I have been on or how depressed I have been regarding my weight. I'm sure there is nothing I could say about myself that you all haven't already said.
I WILL say this though. If I don't go thru with this lifestyle change this time...
Do you remember the movie "what's eating Gilbert Grape" I am not far from that point. I am 5'8" tall and, in the past, have always been able to carry extra weight without any problems. Now my feet are swollen, my legs hurt and the floors in my house creak when I walk around. The last time I weighed myself it was close to 350lbs. I know I have gained more since.

I'm not asking for anyone to feel bad for the pains I have talked about, I just need to announce to myself and to anyone listening that this is it. It's not about how fast I lose this-It's about doing this without a doctor having to rearrange my organs in order to stop me from eating.

I know there are a lot of believers in this type of surgery but it is not for me. Death isn't for me either, which is why I am taking control. I don't believe in Bullemia or eating nothing but grapefruit for months. I believe I have found what works for me-being a big girl with an oversize appetitie and no energy because of that.

You're not going to hear a drum-roll when I tell you that I am now on a low carb diet. The bad carbs I was eating was slowwwwwing me down in a big way. I'm a strong girl, I can carry this weight-but not when I have white carbs inside my body. That is all I have gotton rid of. It's been 2 days.
Would you believe that I am not tired anymore? It's ok if you don't. ;)
It's my first milestone down this long road of mine.

Thank you for listening...and for being here.

06-27-2005, 04:47 PM
I live in the Metro Detroit area. I would love to have a walking buddy sometime!

06-27-2005, 05:51 PM
Welcome to the group Nickie :dancer:

This is a GREAT group, My name is Vi and I am happy to hear that its time to change, I am at that point also its been a very hard long battle and its just starting however with these great buddies I have made from this group its easy to go to the next day. Please if you need anything please just ask.

I know its easyer said than done but just take it day by day (I dont even do ;) ) But its the best I am slowly trying to live by that but I want it all off now.. I need to loose 125lbs and im down 14 as of this morning and its so hard to keep my mind on tract, are you also starting a workout plan? I find that the low fat and low cal thing is working for me I am also taking trim spa (so not working ) how ANNA Nichole did it Ill never know...

Anyway I wish you the best keep up the good work

06-27-2005, 07:34 PM
Hi, NIckie! Good for you...We will be here working on this thing together. Your kiddoes are about the same age as mine...I am sure that they keep you hopping. I am trying to become healthy without drastic measures too. It is amazing how eating right has a way of pepping up your energy!

06-28-2005, 01:04 AM
Thank you for the encouragement. I So appreciate it!

I am 37 and have been fighting this battle since my early teens. Everything else in my life has been great. I have a loving (and gorgeous) husband who proposed to me in 1992 at a weight of 250lbs. I knew he was in this for the long haul, you know??

I am doing some non impact excersises at home until my legs are stronger. After that, I'm hitting the pool. I am a swimmer. Was on the team in school, competed and all of that. My 20th yr class reunion is next summer. I did not go to the 10th because I knew the reaction would be too much to bear. I'm looking forward to the next one.

Congratulations on the 14 lbs, Vi! WOOO-HOOOOO!

Amy...Do they keep me hopping? If it weren't for my kids, I wouldn't have half the determination I have now. I am truly blessed.

06-28-2005, 10:02 AM
Welcome Nickey! You said you were at good swimming-check your local pools-they might have water aerobics-it is really great exercise. Take it slow!

Vi-arggggg at your sister....did you say she is overweight also? She's probably jealous-You are taking your life in your hands!

A bit overcast here--it rained a lot yesterday. Didn't make it to Curves-dh got home too late for me to go. He said he had to go to the store after work-I told him to come straight home! I won't be able to go on Friday-I forgot that we are going to a surprise 40th bday party at 6:30.

Swim lessons to you all later


06-28-2005, 11:01 AM
I just got back from Curves. I am so glad that my kids are old enough ( my oldest is in middle school) to leave for an hour. It doesn't take me that long to work out, but it is nice to have the freedom to go for a short while. I am starting to push myself a little bit more in the workout.
I also left some of my pizza last night. I only had 2 slices of homemade pizza. I feel good about that. Jim and Hannah made fun of my 98% fat free popcorn and told me it wasn't worth eating :p LOL! I don't like it much either. :lol: But hey...I will sacrifice some things!

06-28-2005, 11:46 AM
I do have a pool nearby and I use to go to it before I gained the last 30 lbs. I will go back to it-I'm giving myself til the beginning of school so I can do it when the kids are in school all day.
(Last year my daughter was a half-day kindergartener)

We live down the street from Greenfield Village/Henry Ford Museum so we spend a lot of time walking there. (it helps to have an annual pass!)

I think Debs hit the nail right on the head regarding your sister's comments. Some people are just like that. They don't want to look bad standing next to someone who has taken control of things and is moving swiftly in the right direction. It makes them feel like they're going to be left behind. You're doing SOOO good.

When it comes to a scale, It was suggested to me that this time-I don't use a scale. I get so sad when I know I have worked my butt off and don't see the number I expected to see. It makes me so sad that it gives me an excuse to stop the effort all-together.

Anyone else have that happen?

06-28-2005, 01:05 PM
Morning all ~

Okay so lastnight I did it I fell off the wagon, I had 2 peices of pizza and 2 pieces of garlic cheese bread :( Im weak im a loser I have failed :mad: I am just like my sister said ill never get skinny if I keep doing this i cant even begin to tell you how much fat and cal's were in what I ate!~!!!!!!!!!!!!! :( Today im very emotional and very upset with myself that I can be that weak after a month ive crumbled into a billion little pieces. Also my work out was lame I only worked out for an hour and did not do all of my fat buring on the stair climber and did not do the weight machines :( What to u think my problem is???? is this normal????

As far as my sister goes yes she is also heavy, my mom and dad are also heavy and we grew up in a house hold that lived on fastfood and junk food. My sister lost weight when she was in highschool but soon gained it all plus more back. I have asked her to go with me to the gym there is one very close to where she lives and she said she could not when she is nursing the baby so maybe after. Im sure she is jealous however she is my sister and she should respect me and love and support me no matter what. I would never act like how she is, i support her in everything...

So the guy at the gym so not into me as like most me :( :( Im afraid I will be single old hag with a billion cats...................

06-28-2005, 02:24 PM
Vi....give yourself a break! I bet 2 pieces of pizza and garlic bread was less than what you used to eat. Start with will only defeat yourself if you keep up the self talk about your sister being right......You are sooo worth keeping going and renewing your motivation...YOU WILL do it! I know that you can!

Yes it is normal and the reason people give up on weight loss. Change that negative energy to positive and work even harder. We all fail...but I have found what I think is a failure might have been a victory at one point...perspective is everything. Beating yourself up will not help anything... ;)

06-28-2005, 03:23 PM
You've been granted a do over!! Do you know what last night did to your body? NOTHING. It didn't make you gain...It didn't make you lose. You maintained your present weight. Eat some fiber today and you'll most likely get rid of it by bedtime! It's as easy as that.

Don't you dare get angry at yourself!

When you were gaining weight, you also ate healthy things from time to time right? It's only normal that the reverse has happened here. You were eating healthy and you made the decision to allow something extra. That's it.

The only way for this do harm (because it hasn't harmed you yet) is if you give up control and decide to chuck it all.

That means that those 14 pounds were all lost for nothing.
Do me a favor. Do good for the rest of this week and Do not weigh yourself til Friday.

I PROMISE YOU...what happened last night was normal, and added no weight back.

06-28-2005, 05:05 PM
WOAH VI!!!! :jig: Don't be so hard on yourself - you are NOT a loser and you are NOT weak. It's only a couple of pieces of pizza, not the entire thing!!! What I like to do is write down how I feel when I'm down and then pull the paper out when I'm tempted to cheat. However, you really need to cut yourself some slack and cheat every now and then or you're going to go crazy. Cheer up girl, we're here for you :grouphug:

This is crazy, Vi is way down about eating 2 pieces of pizza and Amy is way happy about only eating 2 piecse. Good job to both of you for not eating more! I ate a whole medium pizza 2 months ago, that was bad!!! :T

Hi Nickie! :wave: Welcome to our group! We're always happy to have more people for support.

Debs, howyadoin'? I've set my dates this week for Tuesday thru Sunday. *holding right hand up* I promise!

This is day one without my hubby, so far I've taken a nap, had some pasta, worked out and dinked around on the computer.... ahhhhhhhhh no worries here :smug:

Have a good day guys!

06-28-2005, 08:13 PM
Hi I'm new here but I agree with Kathy, Nicky and Amy you are not a loser. Let me tell you what I did today. I went to a backery to order my oldest daughter a birhtday cake for next Tuesday. While I was there I ate a slice of cake and I took a piece home. Now I weigh 207.5 pounds and I need to lose weight. I felt a little bad a first but that is only one day. Do you realize how many more days in this year to get it together? The most important thing is to get back up and do your best. Stop saying horrible things to yoursel. When you say negative things you are full filling a prophecy in your life. Start telling yourself how wonderful you are, how beautiful you are, how caring you are. Loving yourself has to start with you first before anyone else can love you. If you don't love you or feel good about you why should anyone else? and realize that there are going to be people in this world that in order to make themselves feel good that have to make you feel bad. This is very sad to me but like I tell my daughters, never let someone elses opinion be the guide for who you really are. Start loving on you and you will see how things and people will change around you. (

06-28-2005, 11:07 PM
You know those great low/no carb candy bars loved by us Atkins fans? I just read on a post here (in another forum) that they may stunt weight loss!


It's ok, but I'm glad I found out early in the game. I feel sorry for my husband...

I ate 4 of those bad boys!!!! :lol:

06-29-2005, 08:47 AM
You got that right. boy when you think you are doing something great there is always somehting happening. I'm glad you have such a great attitude. I exercised this morning and I feel great. Now I have to decide what is the healthiest food that I need to eat today. I was thinking about eating salad and fruit today for lunch and dinner. My daughter want to go to the Taste of Chicago tomorrow. Oh my I will need some self control for this event. There is so much great food to eat. I think that the hardest part is that there is so much food to eat that I haven't tried so this is the prime opportunity to eat at the different vendors and try new food and see if it is worth going to that particular restaurant. (

06-29-2005, 12:41 PM
Good morning buddies!!!

I want to thank all of you whom has given me support a huge hug :grouphug: your posts helped me so much yesterday it really means alot to me that you all would take the time thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Today is going pretty well so far Lets see I got stung by a yellowjacket it flew down my pant leg and into my boots :mad: but im I worked out hard yesterday and stuck with my diet, I am sorry I got all pitty party on myself yesterday.

Hope you all had a great day


06-29-2005, 02:22 PM
Morning All....I hope you are doing well. I feel like I am really controlling my eating and my psyche today... YAY me! ;)

06-29-2005, 02:23 PM
Hello ladies!

You know what? I think this low carb thing is going to be too hard since I found out my favorite low carb treats are not so good for me. (granted, eating 4 in 1 day is not the norm...but this chocolate need happens once a month!)

I am going to raid the local fruit and vegetable market and load up on my favorites!
Viana...Pity parties are ok if you just need to get all these emotions out-no apologies! Glad you're not letting it take over. I "indulged" in the last 12 hours too! I got over it and made a new plan!

Yvette...have a great time! You're certainly within your right to sample and figure out what will make your body and mind happy.

Have a positive day girls!!

06-29-2005, 02:26 PM
Amy, where in PA are you from? I married a PA dutchman! We lived outside of Philly in a small town called Harleysville.

Glad all is well with you today! yaaaaaay Amy!

06-29-2005, 02:54 PM
Good morning everyone!

Today is day 2 of being by myself until my hubby comes back, and I'm bored! :lol: I really do like being around him and now I miss him like crazy. :cry: I though I was going to enjoy this time by alone, doing whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted to do it, but I don't really care about all that. I just want my hubby home. I've already played with the dogs, had breakfast, worked out, took a bath, ate lunch and now I don't have anything to do. Maybe I'll go shopping! :chin: That always cheers me up! LOL

Vi, good to see you're back on track! Sorry about the whole yellow jacket thing. I hate bee stings.

Nickie, I don't think I could EVER do the low/no carb eating. I love my pasta way way too much. I just know to eat them in moderation-most of the time. :lol:

Hi Amy, keep up the positive attitude, it's very addictive to everyone around you. Maybe you should go be around Vi's sister, I hear she needs an attitude adjustment. ;)

Have a great day everyone! I'm going to try to find something to do -that doesn't involve cleaning - I hate that crap! :D


06-29-2005, 08:37 PM
;) Hi Buddies! Wow we have a great group going! The more the merrier! I might have to think of some fun"game" to play as July hits us!

Vi-honey glad you are back and not going to give up!

Welcome Nikki and Yvette!

Kathy-hee, hee

I had a LONG post ready this morning......but I didn't know if you guys wanted to hear about my friend that drives me crazy!

Rained here again. Went to the movies--I didn't get popcorn and ohhhh it smelled so good!

Went to Curves. Have to admit--didn't push myself that much today--I wasn't even sweating! I usually am huffing and puffing. I guess my mind was on other things--I couldn't even remember how many times I went around the curcit!

I think my friend who drives me crazy is coming over house will need to be sparkly. I did talk to my very dear friend-she lives in NY state. I told her I wished she lived here. She wishes I lived there. My brother and his family spend yesterday evening with my folks out on the boat...the boat I haven't even seen yet. :mad: I guess I'm missing home a little bit, especially since I have to look for a new house to live in. We are going to rent, then probably relocate to NC. Summer is almost who......Not going to the beach this weekend...2 parties! Maybe the beach on Monday.

Sorry....I'm really ok......

I must go......

06-30-2005, 12:07 PM
Good morning buddies!

I had a pretty good day and night lastnight, After the gym I went to see my nephew, my sister actually and finally said she was proud of me.. However knowing my sister that is the only time I will ever hear that. I had a great work out at the gym did do as long as I would have liked but ill double it up today after work. I weighed myself this morning and I am down 1.5lbs... that makes a total of a weight loss of......(drum roll please)15.50lbs!!! I now weight 270.0 :dance: :cb: :goodscale

I hope you are all doing great today and once again I would like to thank you all for your help.

06-30-2005, 02:08 PM
Way to go Viana!!!
I gotta go run some errands, but had to give you a pat on the back! Good for your sisiter too. I'm glad she finally gave you a pat too! :D

06-30-2005, 03:11 PM
Will someone please tell me how to join. I am tech challenged. I want to join this group. You all sound like you care. My name is Connie and I am a 3rd grade teacher. I am older than you girls, but just as eager to get in shape. I have 77 lbs to lose. My knees and ankles are killing me. I also have to take hypertension medicine. Please help me with instructions on how to join.

06-30-2005, 05:28 PM
Well, I am also a newbie...but I think that if you are able to post must already be a member! Feel free to look thru the website and join in on the many forums here!
TA DA! Was that easy or what??? ;)

We all usually check in just to say hi and to see how everyone is doing. This is a great place to get ideas or give them and to support each other in our quest to battle the bulge!

My name is Nickie. I am 37 and I have more than 100 lbs to lose.
Welcome to the group!!!!

06-30-2005, 05:39 PM
I need to lose about 100 lbs to be completely happy! Does it seem as if you will never get there? How are you losing? Weight watchers? I lost 30 lbs on WW 1 1/2 yrs ago, but am slowly gaining it up 10 lbs. I'm trying to lose again, but am not nearly as active as before because I have a newborn at home, which is how I've gained back 10 lbs!!! Makes me want to cry! But I'm not taking two kids to WW meetings. I'm very frustrated right now! Sorry to unload..hoping you all can offer some encouragement?? I'd appreciate it more than you know!

06-30-2005, 08:02 PM
congratulations!!! On the birth of your baby!

I have been dieting for so long and tried sooo many different ways to do it. I am not doing just one thing to lose it all. Now it has become clear to me that all along I was looking for some easy miracle diet so I could get it to all come off in just a short while. It has all come down to this:
I did not get this way because of 6 months of bad eating. I have to reverse the way I look by reversing the way I have been eating. I am getting back to the basics of food (vegetables, salads, chicken, fruits and a light dessert) I am eating these things everyday now and feeling better about myself everyday. I tell myself that everyday I am going to look a little bit better.
And you have to look for that improvement everyday in the mirror. It could be that your face looks a little less puffy, your feet may hurt less, etc.

I have also learned this: The less restrictive your diet, the longer you'll be able to tolerate it. Some people don't like to use the word "diet" and instead refer to this as a lifestyle change.

Your excersise plan doesn't have to include hauling the kids around to a fitness center. It could be the everyday walk you take with your kids. It is frustrating when life goes on while you're struggling to lose this weight. Just let life go on, take your kids to the park and everyday before you go on your walk look in the mirror and find the place where you notice a change and tell yourself ... "I look better than I did yesterday"

06-30-2005, 08:12 PM
Wow, you have such a great attitude! Can I borrow it? LOL I'm sure it'd make others around me happier!
We actually adopted the baby....she's my special gift! I was excited when we found out we'd be adopting because I thought to myself, "Hey, no weight gain with this one!" (I have a 6 yr old biological child) Boy, was I wrong! I've gained almost 10 lbs with this birth!!! But, I've found new determination today (thank you!) and tomorrow is a new day! Actually, I've not done badly today with eating, just haven't exercised much at all. Part of me wants to just go back to work because I know it'd make it easier to not overeat. But I don't want to do that with my new one...I didn't do it with my son either. He was 18 months old before I went back to work.
It's so hot to take the kids to the park. I worry about my daughter getting too hot. I bought my son one of those big blow up water slides at WalMart (cost $300...really cool!!). He asked me today to go slide with him. I should've. I <b>will</b> tomorrow! And I'll be back here tomorrow looking for more encouragement...don't worry, all, I won't become a leech. I'll eventually become more of an encouragment than a discouragement! I was soooo much more outgoing when I lost those 30 lbs. I can't wait to get back there!!

06-30-2005, 08:13 PM bold didn't work. I wondered if it would. Sorry 'bout that.

06-30-2005, 09:57 PM
Hi ladies!

Vi, Finally, your sister says something nice!!! Yeah! However, you can (and WILL) do this without her approval! And way to go on the weight loss!!! :cheer:

Debs, did you get your house all sparkley for your guest? And we're here for you if you need to let off some steam about a friend. Besides, I have no life beyond my family so I would LOVE to hear some gossip! :lol:

Welcome Teacher and LosingWeightinLA ( I changed your name - ha!) Congrats on the new baby! I know you say it's too hot for the park, but can't you go their really early in the day before it starts to heat up? And get out there and slide with your son, he's only 6 once. He doesn't care how you look, only that you took the time for him. You'll feel better that you did. Listen to Nickie, she has a lot of good things to say. :sunny: Hi Nickie :wave:

I did my 2 miles at the track today with a little twist. I jogged the firs 100 yards, walked the second, did 20 lunges then walked the 3rd 100, then halfway thru the 4th 100, I did 15 calf raises. It was tough and I was tired at the end, but the lunges and jogging are getting easier for me finally.

You all take care!

06-30-2005, 10:30 PM
Hey Kathy!
I'm tired just listening to your work-out!!! :lol: Good for you! I'm curious about your screen name...? There has to be a joke in there somewhere!!!

I know what you mean about the heat, "LA". You may be in the south, but our Michigan temperatures are matching yours these days too! :o I'm glad you're taking some time off for your little one...she deserves it!
I'll send you some snow when it comes...which should be anyday now! HA!!
Oh, and I made a copy of my attitude so you don't have to borrow can have your very own!

I'm heading to Little Bavaria tomorrow for the weekend (Frankenmuth, Michigan) for a much deserved get away with my Mom. (we do this once every year) I can't wait! I'll see you guys in the AM!

Have a great night!

07-01-2005, 11:22 AM
:coffee: Good morning everyone!

I did a naughty thing last night, and I'm pretty happy about it this morning! Get yer minds outta the gutter! :lol: I had a few beers *I worked hard for them* and I emailed my old boss telling him off because he was saying some crap about me. Then I emailed HIS boss telling him how crappy my old boss was. :devil: I didn't lie or make anything up so it's not too wrong, right? ;)
I re-read them this morning, and thankfully I didn't have any typo's. LOL I haven't heard from either of them yet.

My plan for today is to take it easy, maybe work on another project but I don't know what yet. I may head down to the bookstore and get some reading material, or I may lounge around today, my legs aren't that sore so I may do some light cardio....decisions, decisions, decisions.

Vi, Unfortunately I have no story behind my username, but it does fit my personality quite well. :dizzy:

You all have a great day, and be good!

07-01-2005, 12:37 PM
Good morning all and welcome all new buddies!!!!! :) I hope you will all find our group as helpful and inportant as I do everyone here is so kind and its a great feeling to know they are always here.

Well yesterday was a pretty good day it was slow at work, i went to the gym again like always had a good work out, I was not able to get messured but I will try tonight to do so... This morning I was down another pound, so that is a total of 16.50 total :) Hopefully by the end of this month i can be down a total of 30lbs but we will see....

I hope you all have a fun and exciting 4th im not doing much May have my nephew and sister over so ill pick up some fireworks tonight after the gym.

I have a hot new neighbor defently someone i want to get to know better ;) he spoke a bit lastnight he smiled and started talking to me first... Maybe when i loose more he may think im (wishfull thinking)

07-01-2005, 01:40 PM
Hello everybody. My name's Alisha and I was wondering if I could gate crash your party here? :o Everyone is so helpful and supportive and seeing that I have about 150lbs to lose, I figured I would fit in!

Let's see.. a little bit about myself..

Well, I'm 34 years old, I'm 5'3" and I'm aiming for 110lbs. I just started the Medifast diet and I'm currently on day 3 with 4lbs down. I know it's only water weight but I'll take it! :) I'm a vintage girl and always have been. I love collecting hats from the 40's and my aim is to be able to wear the vintage clothes from the 20's - 40's once again. Long ago, in high school, when my waist was 24" I could - but now I slouch around in jeans and t-shirts, which I abhore. :p I frequent the Agent Provocateur lingerie site to keep me on target - having made a promise to myself to treat ME to a set of Fifi lingerie when I hit goal. :D It would be nice to own a pair of stockings once again!!! :smug:

I just moved back to Florida from England where I spent 7 miserable years. I did make a few really good friends but it's also the place where I gained all of my weight after a 90lb loss! :mad: I've pretty much been overweight all of my life. ****, I was even a fat baby, weighing in at 8lbs 6 oz! Due to swimming and my neighbor's trampoline, I was pretty healthy despite everything, but after college the weight kept steadily climbing and I was eventually diagnosed with a compulsive eating disorder.

I've tried just about every diet known to man and woman - and a few ad-libbed diets I've created for myself but to no avail. Instead, I've been on this magic YO YO ride for what seems like forever - losing the weight and then putting it back on and then some. BUT... this is IT. I've had enough now and come whatever natural catastrophe, I'm determined this is the last time and it will work and stay off.

You all sound like such beautiful people on the inside and out. It's my pleasure to offer any support and help I can. Please use and abuse at will. My PM box is always open.

Take care everyone and have a fantastic 4th. You all deserve a pat on the back!

All the very best of success!

~Alisha :hat:

07-01-2005, 01:53 PM
No crashing needed...the door is always open! ;)
You have the right attitude...I'm in the same boat! All of us are. I'm glad Medifast is working for you! Water weight counts! Without the excess water you'll look less "puffy"!
I used to live in St. Augustine, Florida. I loved it there. I grew up here in Michigan though. I always seem to end up back here after testing the waters somewhere else.

Well, Ladies...I am off for my adventure In Frankenmuth! I'll check back in with you on Monday! Have a beautiful weekend!!!


07-01-2005, 02:11 PM
Hi Gang! My computer broke! After 3 hours on the phone with Dell my dh said it was an adapter that isn't standard with our model? I dunno? Anyway I am on the DINOSAUR computer. This baby hasn't seen so much action in a long, long, long time. It is so SLOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW.

I got started on my day late-my friend was over she asked one question about my brother and I pulled out a box of pictures....2 hours later! At one point she said-man you were skinnny! YES!!!!!!

Ok.....gotta run......going to a surprise 40th party, then a 3 yr old bday tomorrow am......I"m not far behind.................son wanting to me help him saying-it takes 3 hours to do to the store and bake! AHHH!!!

I'll post more later.........


07-01-2005, 02:32 PM
Thanks so much for the welcome! :) I'm actually a Michigan girl too. Born and raised in Kalamazoo of all places! Graduate of MSU (GO Spartans!) and have only been living in Florida for 6 months (post - England) and for 1 year (pre-England). I haven't made any friends yet as I won't let myself go out until I'm at least somewhere near goal. Sounds harsh, I know, but I don't want to make my debut in the Sunshine State looking like Free Willie! :cool: But, I work with a great bunch of people and I go to Curves so I stay semi-socially active.

Best of luck to you and everyone. Have a fab holiday!!!

~Alisha :hat:

07-01-2005, 02:48 PM
Welcome new buddy!!!!! Everyone is always so welcome here in our group, I was reading your post and I totaly hear you about getting into some cute panties.. my goal is to get into a jucy sweat suite. I welcome you with open arms and if you need anything please feel free to ask.

Vi (

07-02-2005, 08:32 AM
H there! You chicks have certainly grown into a super support group.
Since you are up to nearly 100 posts, I will be moving your thread into Support Groups. Have you any suggestions for a name for your group? PM me and I'll rename when I move you.

07-02-2005, 11:50 AM
Good Morning gals! :coffee: mmmm coffee....

Welcome to the group Alisha! :hat: You've come to the right place for support, and we could always use another buddy. You should go buy some sexy lingerie (go by the cheaper Walmart brand :lol: ) then hang it where you're going to see it everyday for motivation because it's something you really want. It might help you stay focused.

Vi, congrats on the weight loss! :woo: Were you able to get measured last night? Let us know how many inches are gone! And you should go buy that juicy sweat suit you want for motivation! Do something now for youself, you don't need to wait until the very end to reward your accomplishments.

Debs, I'm typing really slow so your computer can keep up with me :comp: :lol: You sound like you have a busy weekend, have a blast!

So I have exactly 3 months until I start my new job and I really need to buckle down and get to work. I do ok in the mornings and afternoons, but I have a hard time in the evenings. I used to have such strong will power, but I seem to have lost it in the last 5 years. I was putting up old some pics on our smugmug site and I got depressed. I looked really good, and I wasn't happy with my body. Now that I've gained 50lbs I wish I weighed what I did back then. I guess I should stop feeling sorry for myself and get my butt to the track!

Today I commit to exercising for 45 minutes and eating no bad food. How about the rest of you, are you with me on this today? :high:

Do any of you have an idea for a group name, because I'm at a loss.

Have a great day gals! :flow1:

07-03-2005, 11:56 AM
Hi everyone and good morning to you! (Well, it is here at the moment :) )

What a fantastic group! Vi, it was actually your first post in this thread that made me register because I could SO identify with you. (Congrats on the loss!!! Way to GO!!! :strong: ) I had a boyfriend for 4 years (when I was still in England - he was a Dutch guy) and sometimes people are just NOT who you think they are. After 3.5 years he decided to move in with me - only to spend ALL of his savings on bills so he could sit around for 16 hours a day and play computer games! What a joke! He didn't want a relationship, he wanted someone to cook for him so he didn't starve to death in front of the computer screen! Well too bad! He could move back home and his mommy could do that for him! Out he went and I came home and now, at least for awhile, it's all about ME! I figure I deserve it. As I said to my mother - I'm 34 years old and finally I am able to say that I don't want or need a man in my life right now to complicate things. I want to get this weight off and make my life into what I want it to be without having to worry about the effects on someone else. How liberating! :angel:

So, here we are ladies!! It's day 5 for me on my Medifast diet. I'm down 8 whole lbs and feeling great. I don't have any plans for the 4th but I think Deb is doing enough for the both of us! :lol: Have fun at your parties!!

Wow, our own little group! Thanks Ruth! :cp: The only name that kind of 'came' into my head (and don't laugh - I know it's cheesy) was the Can Can Club. It's the best I can do at 10:30am but I know we all CAN do it! (I did briefly think of the Can-Do Club but that reminded me of the kids' bathroom wipes!)

I'm with you, Kathy! I can't commit to the 45 mins of exercising because it's not recommended on my diet BUT I sure as heck will commit to NOT eating anything that isn't on my diet - so it's shakes for me! :) I haven't cheated yet and by gosh I'm not going to! :nono: It is definitely NOT in my best interest to do that!!! The first two days I spent somewhere in the seventh circle of **** as my body fought to rid itself of all the junk and toxins in my body and I sure as heck don't want to go through that again. What a motivtor! :D

I hope everyone is having and will have a great day! I'll check back to see how everyone is getting on.

All the best!

~Alisha :hat:

07-03-2005, 06:35 PM
I've only posted here a time or two, so you all probably don't really know me yet as you seem to know each other. I will change that!! LOL :)
I'm only down a few pounds, but a lady came up to me this morning (she had no idea that I'd just started trying to lose weight recently) and said to me, "Girl, you've really dropped some weight! You look really great!" I'm quite sure I beamed...and of course I thanked her. Made me not want to eat anything today....but then lunch came and I was, just kidding. I didn't totally blow it. I'm doing weight watchers. My point target is 26 (actually 28, but I'm saying 26. That just means I eat less calories, which I know won't hurt me one bit). So far today I think I've had approx. 13-15 points. It's hard to calculate exactly when you go out to eat, but I'm pretty sure that's a pretty close count. I had 1 1/2 C. mashed potatoes, 1 1/2 C. Cabbage, and a baked chicken breast for lunch. Would have been satisfied with just the was soooooo good!!!
The first few days are the hardest, but the longer you do it, the easier it is. After being on it the first time for about a month or two, I ate some pizza and it almost made me throw was so nasty!!! My husband and I just looked at each other and said, "How'd we used to do this all the time???" It's habit, though. Your body gets used to eating junk and that's what it wants. If you train it to want other things...good for you stuff, then that's what it wants. I lost 30 lbs on WW about 1.5 years ago and had gained 10 back. I'm hoping to be back down to my 30 lbs this coming week.
Sorry to rattle on and on.....

07-03-2005, 07:38 PM
HUGS AND WELCOME TO ALISHA and GainingWeight (I didn't see your name)

Alisah-where in SUNNY Florida do you live? I live in FL! Hey-don't stay in the house. Go out in the evening....find a nice park and walk! Trust me......I kept myself cooped (sp) up inside and regreted it! Go to the really cares if we look like!!!! I don't know what the Medifast diet is? What is it?

Kathy-you don't start work for 3 months! can come to my house and clean...I go back to work on the 25th? of who!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yo, VI! AWESOME on the 16+ lbs! Girl send those unwanted pounds..wait I mean send the loss to me..not to add to mine but to get off of me! On the neighbor........I laughed out loud and my dh asked why....the guy already thinks you're a doll-how could he not! Remember......YOU ARE FIRST right now! Hey if you read this before the 4th-----if your sis says anything nasty...just say thanks sis I'll keep that in mind......NO ONE is going to get you off this new lifestyle!!!! YOU ROCK!

Hi gang! I was actually thinking of a new name for us since we do have a lot of posts-which is great!!!!!!!!!!!

I like the Can Doers. I'm game for anything.

Our computer part didn't come in, so here I sit at this old computer. We'll need to get it fixed up a bit for our son to use....eventually! LOL

Food been so-so this weekend. We are NOT going to the beach on the 4th. We are going to go over to a friend's house from church. They have a pool--I won't be swimming....TTOM.

I'm going to be making a fruit pizza for the get together tomorrow. Never made one!

07-03-2005, 07:48 PM
Ok...I ended my other post because I thought--open a word document this way I can toggle back and worth. Well guess what? This dinosaur doesn't have WORD on it. Don't ask!!!! My dh put xp on this computer and it really should not have it.........poor computer....Wait...poor me!

Oh and for some reason I can't read most of my PM's...urgggg

Ok....I'm gone a few days and I'm so far behind with posts....BUT we have new members!!!!!!!YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Connie-welcome! Teachers rock!

LOSING weight in LA-(gaining not no more!) Congrats on the new baby girl! You and your husband were chosen for HER! I know it's hard to get out there! My 6 yo is noticing my big belly-and it's not a baby it's FAT!

I was holding a 6 month old yesterday--it felt so good--but I realized there is no way I can handle it at this size! I must lose 50+ pounds--but I have way more to go!

AHHH.. I didn't realize the time.....urg....I better get going..we are going to a famiy night w/fireworks.

Happy 4th of July to all!


07-03-2005, 09:42 PM
Okay I've been lurking around and decided to go ahead and post because I truly need some support and encouragement in losing these pounds.

Debs, like yourself I'm also a teacher and I know about Florida Comprehensive Assessment Test (FCAT), I'm also ESOL certified (English for Speakers of Other Languages), I've taught pk-8, ESL (that's what we call it in Texas), Special Education or what they call ESE in Florida. Goodness...sounds like I'm posting my resume LOL :)
I'm in the process of relocating to Florida in a couple of weeks!!!

So did you say teachers get in to Sea World FREE!!!

Do I ever need help in shedding these pounds!

07-04-2005, 11:03 AM

Welcome Healthy! What part of Florida are you looking to relocate in? Yes, if you have a FL certificate and a job(I think you need a job..I can't remember if I had to show a pay stub) get into SeaWorld for free, also Kennedy Space Center.

It's going to be HOT today! Just hanging out at home-cleaning up a bit...packing???? and then going to the friend's house at 2. My dh's bday is Saturday...we are not doing anything fancy. I might surprise him with a party in November when he least expects it!

Still looking for a place to live. I'll be looking hard starting tomorrow. I know we'll find something.

I better go. I have the cookie recipe in the freezer and I have to roll it out for the fruit pizza. I have 1/3 less fat cream cheese--so that's probably the only low fat part of this Holiday! LOL



07-04-2005, 11:13 AM
:) Happy 4th of July everone! :)

Welcome to the group healthy! We're here to help you lose those pounds!

I don't have a whole lot planned for the day, because my family is still all away. :( I'm going to go with my sister and brother-in-law to watch the fireworks, and that's about it. I'll get in my workout too, and I guess since I'm not going to a BBQ, I'll have an easier time eating right. My kids come home tomorrow, they've been away for about a month now visiting my parents in Colorado at a dude ranch where they spend the summer. I'm really excited to see them :D

Debs, my new job starts in 3 months, but I have to start 2 months of training the beginning of August, so I really don't have all 3 months off. I think I would go crazy! :lol: I think the Can Doers is a good name for the group, and since you did start the thread, I think you should name it.

I hope all of you have a fantastic day! :flow2:


07-04-2005, 03:46 PM
Thanks Debs & Kathy. Debs I understand about looking for some where to live because the real estate market in the Orlando area is wild. It's definitely a sellers market and the sellers are getting whatever price they ask. I'm already certified by the Florida Dept. of Education and I'm looking forward to my new position with the school district.

Kathy where can I get that tinker tape?

I signed up with yesterday so I'm going to give it a try by monitoring my food portions. For the last couple of weeks I've been exercising and losing inches although the scale remains the same I know that will change soon. Hopefully, by logging daily my calorie consumption I find out where I'm going wrong and make the necessary adjustment.

I look forward to giving and receiving support :).

Have a great day!

07-04-2005, 07:34 PM
Welcome to the group GainingWeightInLA and Healthy! I'm so glad to have you here! Don't worry, I'm new as can be and everyone is SO nice!

Gaining - How fantastic that someone noticed your hard work! Doesn't that make you feel so good? It sounds like you've got your head on and you're succeeding in a very good way! How fab. I'm very proud of you :bravo:

Debs - Hey there busy gal! I hope everything turned out okay for you today but it sounds like everything will be fantastic! :) Yeppers, I live in Florida - right near St Pete Beach. The place is lovely and it sure beats the English gray skies and rain all the time for sure! I must admit that I feel like I'm under constant attack from the Raisin People, but once I get this weight off I can take a trip to Ybor and join in the night life. :cb: I can't wait for that. I'm not a drinker but I'm sure as heck a 'go to the club' kind of girl :dizzy:

Kathy - I sure envy you. I want to teach more than just about anything but I will have to find someone to hire me without the cert so I can get the temp cert and then go forward to permanent cert. Oh what a tribulation! I want to teach high school English (that's what my degree was in) and I really think I could do a fine job given half a chance. Cross your fingers for me! :goodluck: I'm not doing anything today either (not even fireworks because I can see them from my balcony) so I understand. It's kind of frustrating to be locked indoors with nowhere to really go. Oh well, the less temptation the better I say!

Healthy - it's great to have you on board. It sounds like you have your plan and we're right behind you ALL the way! You go girl! Think Loreal... you're worth it! :encore:

As for lil ole me... well I hopped on the scale this morning and I was happy to see that I'm down 9.5lbs since Wednesday. I'm beside myself with encouragement and, if I squint really hard, I think I can see a pinpoint of light at the end of the tunnel for once.

Take care everyone and I wish you a safe and happy holiday!

*virtual hugs* :grouphug:

~Alisha :hat:

07-04-2005, 08:59 PM
Hello Alisha, I like your name (same as my dd) :). Now how did you lose 9.5 lbs since Wednesday?

Gaining, those are truly wonderful words to hear. I look forward to hearing them on a regular basis real soon. We Can Do This! :)

07-04-2005, 09:19 PM
Hi everyone!

Hourglass, I really appreciate the kind words, but I'm affraid they weren't directed at me! I unfortunately don't have the patience to teach, but Debs and Healthy do, and possibly one more of us. however, I do agree with you, teachers are wonderful, and I hope you get to be a teacher too! :D Congrats on the weight loss, things are looking up for you! :goodvibes

I had a wonderful suprise show up at my doorstep today.... my sons came home!!! :cp: I have 2 sons-11 &13. They were supposed to go to their dad's house but everyone was sick there so I get them by default. :cb:

Ok gals, I'm off to watch some fireworks. You all have a great night - no matter what you're doing!


07-04-2005, 10:36 PM
Hello All:

I have been reading the thread and thought I would join in. I have 100+ to lose and I am just starting to get motivated.

I work in an office, but have had serious back pain and have had to work from home lying on my floor completely inactive for awhile. That was not good for my overall health. Now that I am mobile again and the doctor's are saying to walk everyday I have to learn to be healthy all over again. I was never really good at it in the first place!! Hopefully this time around I can do a more complete job of it!!

My goal is 100# in 50 weeks. I have lost 0 so far. Tomorrow is my first day of actually tracking my meals/snacks and exercise.

Have a great 4th!

07-04-2005, 11:05 PM
Hello everyone,
Well, I have been lurking on this site for a while now but today I decided I wanted to join. I have a lot of weight to lose and it makes me so mad to know I could be at my goal weight by now. I started WW back in 2001 and lost over 60 pounds...I was well on my way to a healthy lifestyle. Then we moved to Michigan and the cold weather set in and the pounds started to creep back up. I am now at the highest I have EVER weighed. I gained back all 60 pounds plus an extra 20 :( I am tired of being fat!!! I have 2 kids and a wonderful husband. I am afraid if I don't do something I will miss out on all the fun I could be having with them. We just moved down to Florida in May so now I am even more motivated to get skinny. I refuse to be the beached whale at the beach.

07-05-2005, 01:51 AM
Teddybear welcome like yourself I'm tired of being overweight. I'm not particular about counting calories, but I'm going to give a try in hopes that I can see where I need to improve. Hopefully, I'll find what works for me.

07-05-2005, 10:13 AM
Good morning everyone! A big welcome to Teddybear and Margiann!

Kathy - I got myself all muddled up. :dizzy: Sorry for the confusion!

Healthy - thanks for the compliment. I must, however, hand that credit over to my mother :) My weightloss? Well, I am doing Medifast. I started it on Wednesday and today I hit my 10# mark. I'm so excited! I have a long way to go but if I squint real hard I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. :cool:

I don't find the diet hard at all. I just drink 5 shakes a day and that's it. No hunger, no cooking, no preparation and no fussing. I couldn't ask for more. They have other meal replacements too (chili, oatmeal, bars, etc.) but I opted for just shakes this first month because I'm trying to break some very old and nasty habits with food. Moderation has never worked for me due to some emotional issues with food. The ole take out one cookie and the rest come out stapled together kind of thing. But this way, I have no choice. I either drink my shake (which are good!) or I go without (which isn't good). So.. I drink my shakes. :D

If you want to check out what it's all about, go to I'm sure it isn't for everyone, but it's been around for over 20 years and has the stamp of approval from Johns Hopkins University Medical staff.

Anyway, how is everyone this day after the 4th? I'm feeling well rested and kind of annoyed that my break was so boring. I didn't even have to drive to see the fireworks! I stood out on the waterfront and saw three shows from there. It was cheap and nice, but it would have been nice to go out with people too. I just need to meet some. :)

Take care and I'll drop back by in a bit!


07-05-2005, 12:09 PM
Good morning all!!!

Okay so I was a no show all weekend I want to wish you all a late happy 4th :) I hope you all had a safe and fun weekend.

WELCOME ALL NEW BUDDIES :D I hope you will find this site as helpfull as I do If it were not for everyone here I would have given up ages ago. I owe you all my life(no Lie) if there is anything I can do please just ask I am always here for all of you.

Okay OKay so I was EXTREAMILY NAughty this weekend :devil: I totaly fell of the wagon but I am taking in all your advise and not stress but to just kick it back up hard this week.... I feel bad however I think I needed it I just hope I did not do any extream damage I dident eat too much but I did and a few drinks and chips and dip and a hotdog.. thinking about it makes me angry now but STILL NOT GONNA STRESS...( :mad: okay so maybe alittle) As far as the gym I missed 2 day but went yesterday. I sorry if I let any of you down because of my weakness.

My sister was still a :censored: this weekend and bascally told me everything is gonna come down and Ill fall on my face and will always be fat!!!! :nono: i just walked away before i hit her in her damn head..

As far as my neighbor... OMG he is very hot :love: :dance: :dizzy: so I went to sears at the mall to get a croket(sp) set and HE WORKS IN THAT DEPT!!!!! boy was I suspried so My mother.. she asked him over for a BBQ Sunday night (he dident show :( ) But that night I light fireworks for my Nephew and he came out with a friend to watch.. LAST night he came over to chat real quick and I could barley speak :dizzy: I just want to grab him and kiss I know a bit physco but i get the feeling that he probably doesnt like me and thinks Im odd he doesnt talk to me very much or maybe he is just shy he doesnt have a problem talking to my mom he comes in and see her at work.... Just dont understand why he acts like i have some desise(sp) I dont know i was just so hopeing he would aske me out or something it drives me crazy :stress: :tantrum: :dunno: Maybe when the weight comes off more.

Well I better get to work you all have a great day


07-05-2005, 01:11 PM
I had forgotten how tough it was to try to be precise in what I eat. I feel good that so far I have succeeded in not eating off my plan, but I can't count the number of times I have gotten up to get something to eat only to remind myself that I should wait for my meal or snack. My plan is to eat every three hours so this really should not be that long of a wait!

I know this is my first day back at trying to control what I eat instead of eating whenever. Does it get easier?

Vianacox - I have a sister who sounds very similar to yours. I am impressed you were able to walk away. It shows remarkable restraint.

Have a great day!

07-05-2005, 01:27 PM
Aww Vi don't stress! :eek: So you fell off the wagon a bit - who cares? You'll get right back on and I'm sure you didn't do any massive damage. Everyone is allowed a cheat now and again. :smug:

I'm sorry that the meeting between you and that guy didn't turn out the way you'd hoped but you know what? You're a lovely, beautiful person and if he can't see that, then he isn't worth your time. :no: After my little 4 year fiasco, I'm done on the man front for awhile. I don't mean that in a 'lets bash the men' kind of way - I just mean that I'm sick to death of catering to someone elses needs and/or wants. This diet is about me and that's all that matters to me right now. I have to do this and I just don't want someone getting in the way. I figure that when the time is right, I'll meet someone who can value me for me and I'll have enough spine by then to NOT settle for a change. Sure I miss having someone around to talk to and that, so I just play with my cats instead. They don't cause me nearly as much grief! :D

Just hang in there and concentrate on doing what you need to get to the size you want to be. And don't worry about your sister. I'd just stop talking to her about it altogether. I mean no offence, but you are your own judge and jury :judge: - not her and not anyone else. I think you're doing very well and she should be ashamed of herself for behaving in such a manner. I guess sometimes when someone is jealous, they try to break the person down to make themselves feel better. I'd just carry on with what you're doing and show her what you can do! You CAN do this and you're worth it. Before you know it you'll be on :cloud9: and then you can have the pleasure of strutting around her in your brand new, barely there bikini!

You CAN do it, and we're here to help. :grouphug:


07-05-2005, 02:20 PM
Okay, I did rather well yesterday. I had to increase my potassium intake because of some medication that I was taking that affects electrolytes and potassium level. So I ate a banana, yogurts, and orange juice. I logged my food intake on and total calories was 1900. I'm not sure if that is good or not. Maybe I should be trying to remain around 1200 calories a day inorder to lose these pounds. Does anyone have any idea?

07-05-2005, 02:26 PM
Good morning everyone! :coffee:

Wow! We just keep growing and growing! Welcome Margiann and teddybear :wave: We're here for whatever support you may need. And Margiann, it DOES get easier, it just takes time... lots of time. Don't give up even when it seems too tough. Get a hold of one of us, that's what we're here for. :grouphug:

Vi- You're so funny with your neighbor! :lol: Just relax around him and don't worry about what he feels. Enjoy looking at him and talking to him without the pressure of "what's he thinking now". You never know what will happen, and maybe he is just a shy kinda guy. :yes: Good job on walking away from your mean sister, you deserve to be treated better than that. And way to go for not getting to stressed about the eating this weekend. That's all in the past, just keep your head up and do good today. You CAN do it! :goodvibes

Hey Alisha! :bravo: on the pounds dropping! You have WAY more will power than I do, I need some solid food to eat. I'm really glad you found a way to do this that you're comfortable with.

I am so tired after last night! I really do need about 9 hours sleep a night and I only got 7, I know boo hoo! :cry: I'll take an nap this afternoon then exercise after that. I've been really good with my working out, but my legs are still a little tired after Sunday's torture, so I think I may work my upper-body later. I'm a getting discouraged though. I've been doing this for a couple of weeks now and I've gained 5 pounds. :tantrum: Not exactly what I was looking for. No, it's not TOM, and I really doubt I've gained muscle. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. :dunno: I guess it's time to start to journal everything I eat and see where I can make some improvements.

Anyway, you all have a great day!

07-05-2005, 03:01 PM
To say that I fell off the wagon this past weekend is like calling Texas a little plot of land! :lol:
But I'm ok now because I am back home! The problem with this indulgence is that I was with my best friend doing what we always do...eating for recreation! I love to eat and have a good time and unfortunatley, those two things go hand in hand with her!

It's my mom! This is the way me and my sisters were brought up. I feel like a party pooper if I don't join in (because I really did want to indulge this weekend) and she can't usually keep up with my walking so we could at lease walk it off. (she is obese too)

But this weekend was a little different because I had a cyst growing behind my knee and didn't know it. I was the one having a hard time keeping up with her! The weekend ended up with her taking me to the emergency room because we were convinced I had blood clots growing in my leg. My father was just diagnosed with the same thing and is now on a blood thinner. It scared the heck outta me. PLUS they made me get weighed! I thought I was around 350. I was wrong!

ok, so before this becomes a novel let me just tell you that as far as this website goes...I am here for the long haul. I have no choice.

I am glad to see new faces on the board and look forward to getting to know all of you.

07-05-2005, 03:33 PM
Oh Boy our group is getting so big!!!!! Thats great :D

Alisha~ :woo: Congrats on the weight loss, Keep up the great work, Im glad that is working for you. I may check out that website to see if that plan may work for me. Thank you for you support, I agree about my sister Wont she be suprised when im one Sexy Hot Chick :rofl: :flame: She maybe will come around but if she doesnt that is not my problem so :snooty:

Kathy~ Thanks so much for the kind words. as for the cutie across the street Ill give him time, My dad thinks he is shy and kinda likes me since when he sees my mom at work he asks about me or brings me into the convo. I just feel like that little guy on South Park that when his crush talks to him he :tied: and pukes..LOL I dont know I feel like im in highschool again.

Nickie~ Keep your head up girl, things will be better believe me I know

All this is alot harder then i was thinking it would be but I am so thankful I have all of you Thank you


07-05-2005, 03:34 PM
Alisha, my old principal has done well over the years with Medifast. The last time that I saw her she had kept the weight off. I have irritable bowel syndrome and hypoglycemia so I have to becareful about what and when I eat. So that is my dilemma right now in trying to find the right woe that will be healthy. I'm still leaning towards the South Beach Diet, but a vegeterian form of the SBC. Lately meats just repulse me (yuck). I'm still doing my research, but in the meanwhile I'm practicing more portion control.

Go Alisha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

07-05-2005, 07:23 PM
It's 5:22 p.m. and my total calories for today has been 993 according to fitday. How is everyone doing?

07-05-2005, 07:24 PM
Do any of you go to support groups like "overeaters anonymous"? I have been thinking about it. I don't know if I wan to be that open with this compulsive eating problem I have, you know?

07-05-2005, 07:32 PM
Hi again....thanks for the warm welcome. I am trying hard this time to get motivated. I went to the grocery store today to try to get some diet friendly food for me to eat. I like to have diet snacks and stuff so I am not tempted to eat the snacks I buy for my 2 kids. It is hard being the only fat person in the house :D I have been drinking a ton of water and following the WW plan to a T. Now if I could just get my butt out the door and walk I would be good to go. I have a hard time getting motivated to go walking because it is so hot outside. I know that once I start walking every day I will feel better, but it is just hard to get myself started. I also really want to prove to my husband that I AM going to do it and actually make it to my goal. I have a LONG LONG way to go. Finding this site was like finding a gold mine. I really think I am going to like coming to this site. Everyone seems so supportive. :goodvibes

07-05-2005, 08:19 PM
Okay so there is no purpous to this post however im so bord at work and my mind is going a billion different ways first and for most I cant (well can) make it to the gym tonight See I have a little time however I have a birthday party to go to at 7pm so that only gives me a little time and I dont want to go to the party all stinky. But i feel so bad like im giving up 2 easy i mean I missed the gym Saturday and Sunday however I kept busy doing yard work and playing with my nephew, I just feel like im "skipping school" like im being Naughty. :devil:

ALSO Im going to a Mexican restruant for dinner tonight and i think ill crack again and after a bad weekend i think im getting weak!!!!!! :( I keep trying to tell myself to just be cool and all will work out fine but i just cant i keep feeling so bad . Does anyone understand where im coming from???

And what is with cravings do you give in even if you have been Naughty or do u pretend they arent there?????

I have often given thought about Overeaters Anoymous however thats not so anoymous to Ive also thought about Tops and Being hyptyonised but have never fully looked into it. I have also thought about stumach sugery (sp) however I want a nice flat tummy so I can show it and not a huge scar.. so that leaves me here with extreamily hard work.

Anyway im taking off soon, you all have a great evening and wish me luck 4 tonight...


07-06-2005, 11:56 AM
Good morning all! :coffee:

good to have you back Nickie :yes: Now don't worry about this last weekend and concentrate on how GOOD you're going to do this week to make up for it. Sorry to hear about your leg. Is that going to effect your exercise routine at all? Get well soon!

Vi, Vi, Vi.... You can't let your eating get you down. I sure hope you didn't crack under pressure at the restaurant. There are always healthy alternatives when you go out, you just have to look for them. I KNOW you can do this, it just takes a HUGE effort on your part. Maybe instead of eating bad all weekend you can take one day off. I used to do that, that's how I lost 150lbs in one year. I would think of all the bad-for-me things I was going to eat all week then I would go wild on Saturday. It worked and I don't know why I quit. Oh yeah, I got married and I gave into hubby's cravings! :lol: It will be worth it in the end, I promise. Go to the gym, eat good and it'll happen. :drill: Listen to me! LOL

Where did Debs go?

Only 2 more days until my husband gets home, yeah! :cb: I really miss the big turd, but I'm sure by Sunday he'll be driving me crazy again. :lol: Today's plan is to do 45 minutes on the bike, and eat good. I didn't exercise yesterday because I was too tired. I know, excuses-exscuses. I did eat right though.

Hubby's on the phone, so I'll write more later,
Kathy :goodvibes

07-06-2005, 12:55 PM
Alisha, my old principal has done well over the years with Medifast. The last time that I saw her she had kept the weight off. I have irritable bowel syndrome and hypoglycemia so I have to becareful about what and when I eat.

Aww thanks for the inspiration Healthy and Vi and everyone :D I sure need it. It's not easy living off shakes and seeing all the food on TV and driving past them, etc. but - it will be worth it so I'm sticking it out. I'm so glad to hear that your principal has done well with Medifast. It gives me encouragement. I will also say to you Healthy, check it out. I know that diabetics can use the system as they have special shakes, etc. for them so I'm sure that you'd be able to do it. Check with your doc maybe. I also suffer with IBS - have done for over 10 years. I haven't had an attack since I began this diet!! It's wonderful. Lots of fiber, no gas, no anything. You can even take fiber supplements like Metamucil if you want the extra. ;)

Anyway, no diet is for everyone but I'm just having such a good experience I have to share. Forgive me.

Hugs to you all and I'll check back when I have more time! (work!!)

~Alisha xo

07-06-2005, 02:40 PM
Good morning group~

I hope this finds you all well. Lastnight was a horrible evening, however I am trying not to stress I mad crappy choices on picking food at the mexican restruant :eating2: Too many chips and too much food.. I just couldent help myself :(

Well Today is a new day and im planning on going to the gym and working my rear off :tread: :barbell: :ebike:
i still cant get over the feeling of losing when i cheat I just get so damn mad at myself.

07-06-2005, 03:43 PM
I'm here.....I'm going to catch on posts and I'll be back.

:comp: My computer is back! YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!! :comp:

ok....I'll be back....


07-06-2005, 04:03 PM
:cp: Welcome Teddy and Margiann! This is a great group and we keep growing as we shrink!

:D Vi-hey as long as you recognize the indulgence and get back on track that’s ok. I’d go overboard at a Mexican joint too! Cut yourself some slack—but not too much! You are doing great! On the neighbor-he works with your mom?

:coach: Alisha-whatever works for you—great! Do you only drink/eat the shakes? Is it for the rest of your life? I know nothing about Medifast.

:dancer: Kathy-I see that you have found some great icons on your time away from dh! Are you planning anything special for his return….oh wait……some things we don’t need to know ! Did your kids have a good vacation?

:flow1: :flow1: Teddy-I know all about it being hot in Florida. Check the local pools for water aerobics. You don’t necessarily have to be a member to take a class. I’m sure St. Pete has TONS of places. (you are in St. Pete right?).

:spin: :spin: Nikki-How is your knee? I’ve never thought about, probably because I never really thought I over ate! HA! If you think it will be beneficial look into it. I don’t think I’d be able to do it. Admit I eat raw cookie dough and sometimes brownie mix? AHHH (ok…I admitted it  )

:cb: Healthy-what are you eating? I should probably get back to keeping track.

07-06-2005, 04:12 PM
I had a nice time on the 4th. Didn't really eat healthy :mad: .
Tuesday I didn't do that much. I was so tired! I was looking places for rent. We went to look at a place :rollpin: It was a dump!

We then drove around for about 1 1/2 hours-no luck.

Today I looked up a few places-left some messages-no one has called me back. UG! I am getting stressed :no: ! Our lease is up on the 26th. I am so not even looking like I am moving-like maybe 2 boxes packed. I have to get some stuff today.

Nathan and I went to the pool. It has HOT outside so the water felt great.

I have no reason to not go to Curves tonight! I'll be ready-when dh gets home I'll leave. I think I need to get weighed and measured. It's been about a month. I don't think there is much change. UGGG. My fault completely.

I only have 3 weeks of vacation left. Next week I have training all week-all day. :( I really wanted to get into my class and get it set up before we have to go back. I moved rooms, so I have to unpack all my stuff! I hate MOVING!!!!

I'm stressed....and I always eat horribly when I am stressed!! AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

I better get going...tons of stuff to do!


07-06-2005, 04:24 PM
Thanks for the suppor Debs Im trying to not be so hard on myself but as im sure you know it hard.

As far as Trevor my neighbor goes he works at the sears at the mall across from where my mom works she works at Rite Aid and he comes in to get beer and stuff every few days and they talk all the time, My mom thinks he may like me bust said to just give it time and let things happen.. but my golly he is a hottie!!!

07-06-2005, 04:50 PM
You must really be bored at work, Vi! LOL

I'm falling asleep sitting in this chair. I should grab a drink...water! LOL


07-06-2005, 04:56 PM
lol yes Im at lunch well I have 4 min left..... but yes im always bord!!!! wish I got the summer off

07-06-2005, 06:48 PM
Hello Ladies! It's going to take me awhile to get into the swing of things around here, but I plan to be around awhile.

I'm still trying to eat all the right carbs. just in smaller portions. I haven't exercised in about two days and I'm looking forward to getting back into the routine. My body and mind feels better after exercising. As I wrote earlier I'm going through perimenopause and having a difficult time emotionally and physically. Exercising is suppose to help, but believe me my medications are one of my BIGGEST help :). When I first began experiencing symptoms and did not know what was going on I was going semi-regularly :) to a gym. I lost about 30 pounds but my emotional state was not good. Believe me, hormonal imbalance is more than an occasional hot flash. I'm saying this because we hear so much about exercising, exercising, and believe me all the weights, and cardo. did not help my emotional state. Yes, my clothes fit wayyyyyyyy better and I was regaining my girlish waistline, but who cares when you can't get off the sofa, sleep, or function. I think the majority of you ladies her are a lot younger than me so you have some time before you cross this bridge.

Deb, I know about that moving and setting up a classroom. This will be my first year of being in the education profession that I will not have to set up my classroom. I accepted a position working with immigrant students and parents and I'm EXCITED!!!
I bet my family is also glad, because setting up my classroom was a family affair whether they wanted to or not LOL.

Vi, don't beat yourself up today is a new day. I just ate some eggrolls...well they were a little more than some :(, but I plan to put in a few extra minutes of exercising to hopefully burn off 2 or 3 eggrolls :).

Alisha, I'm so proud of you with the Medifast!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

07-06-2005, 08:49 PM
Blah! Yelled at my dh about moving. Since I'm home, I'm doing the leg work. Well my dh has his own opinions. He's not a jerk, just particular. We *must* have a garage-ok...easier said than done! UGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!! We really got a great deal with this place. I so don't want to pack! He's on vacation next week-so I know he'll help out with packing. I know it will all work out.


07-07-2005, 08:58 AM
My thoughts and prayers go out to London. Brings back memories of 9/11.



07-07-2005, 09:10 AM
Thursday morning. Woke up with dh telling me about London.

Last night we got a call back about a house for rent. It's in a good neighborhood. It's 2/2 (we live in a 3 bedroom now). We have an appointment this evening. We are bring the $$ with us. We drove by the house last night. We really like it from the outside. It has a HUGE, WOODEN fenced yard--a great thing considering I have a 6yo. We have yard space now, but we don't let Nathan outside unless we are with him. We live off of a VERY busy road---many people drive by. It's less than 10 min. from here. It would only add about 5 min. of work time. There is a Curves up the street. It has a 2 car garage. The rent is the same as here, which is ok with me.

We don't really need 3 bedrooms. We used the 3rd bedroom for over a year as a "junk" room and computer room. My friend came in March with her 5 month old, so I set the room up as a nursery. We put Nathan's crib up and put a few other baby things in there. We moved to the computer to the kitchen. We have a decent size eat in, and we don't use it--so we moved the comuter. Hopefully this new house has enough space for the computer.--our lifeline! LOL. Hopefully they like us and will rent to us. Oh-it's available next week! Perfect for us! That's what I wanted. I wanted to move next week, dh is on vacation. Have a yard sale (here) on the 22 and 23. Go back to work on the 25th.

I better get going. Today is the last day of Nathan's swim lessons-well the 1/2 level. He starts the 2/3 level on Monday. My dh will be taking him because I am at an inservice all week. I have to write all the TO DO things for today. I MUST go to the library-have to return books. I have to stop by the Kirby place to pick up shampoo for the vaccuum. OH! Today is a friend's b-day gotta call her. Plus I never saw my other friend for her b-day.

Talk to you all later!


07-07-2005, 12:04 PM
Good Morning all my buddies,

I woke up to a very sad morning today my heart goes out to everyone in London, My heart just breaks with the news of the bombings, It does bring me back to 9/11 and many thoughts of all whom are nolonger with us :( May we take a moment and reflect on all the pain this terror group is causing everyone. my prayers and love is with them all..

Anyway on to better things I had a great night lastnight I worked my butt off at the gym and had a very healthy dinner a Salda with bbq chicken on top. I have gained 3lbs probably because of the horrible weekend but ill just relax and go with the flow and work harder... No news from the hottie across the street... I need to work on that too its so funny its like im in high school all over again..

Hope you all have a good and safe day


07-07-2005, 01:03 PM
Well good afternoon (almost) everyone. Yep, I woke up with the same horrible news about London that put an immediate stone in my stomach. My friend Sarah, who I met while I was living over there, recently moved to live in London to work at the Tate Museum. It just makes me sick with worry and the mobile networks are all down so I don't even know if she's alright. :?: It's a terrible feeling.

So, aside from that..

Debs - It sure sounds like you found a great house after all those trials and tribulations! I know how tough it's been on you and I really hope that everything works out for you. You deserve it. I understand completely about the packing thing. When I had to pack up an entire apartment and three cats to move back to the States I thought I'd lose my mind. Every friend I had within visiting distance sidestepped helping me in one way or another until I was like the cheese who stands alone. But.. after I had a very disturbing panic attack on the train to work one day, I decided that I was going to take one day at a time and quit worrying. I had to put faith in myself that I'd get it done and I did. You'll do the same. Just try and take one thing as it comes and don't worry about the whole picture at once or you'll go cross-eyed. :dizzy: Trust me hun!

Healthy - Thanks so much for the encouragement :angel: I'm not finding this diet hard at all, except for the occasional want for something, but every little helps. I'm so sorry that you're having a rough time health-wise. I haven't gone through what you have yet- I'm hoping to hold it off until I can have at least one child. I just need to find daddy first and I'm not even looking right now. I'm 34 and pushing my envelope a little too far I think. But anyway, I think you're coping brilliantly. To **** with the eggrolls lady! You're working very hard and a treat or indiscretion now and then won't upset the apple cart. :no: You just hang in there and remember, we're all in your corner. :balloons:

Vi - Well darlin it sounds like you're on track. 3lbs? Pshaw! Those will float away in the wind. :bubbles: My guess is that it's just a little water weight. You can't gain 3lbs of fat overnight ;) I found that, when I was doing the Fat Loss for Idiots diet, I'd eat healthy for all 11 days, but when the three cheat days came along, I'd gain about 3lbs. That was because I was intaking MUCH more sodium over my cheat days than what I did following the diet menu. So don't worry hun, you're doing very well. Just check out your ticker!!!

As for me.. well, I was down another pound as of today. I'm going to quit weighing now for at least a week. I don't want to get all obssessive. It's so hard, though. I'm being very good and drinking all of my water - 10 8oz glasses a day. Yesterday was hard getting it down, but I picked up some more flavored water and not it's easy peasy. I really enjoy the Fruit 2 0. I have lemon this time and it's very refreshing, especially in the hot Florida weather. My lovely mother said she'd pick some more up for me today (saves me $$$) and that's probably a good thing with Dennis heading in. :devil: I've never been through a hurricane and I'm in NO hurry to try it out. (Even though I always wanted to be a storm chaser!)

Anyway, my beloved colleague just brought me a diet cherry coke so I'm going to enjoy my treat before my next shake.

Take care ladies. I'll be back to post later.

~Alisha :hat:

07-07-2005, 02:36 PM
Glad to see you are still with us, Healthy. Did you do the exercise you'd planned? I didn't notice the exercise affecting my moods until I'd been at it regularly for a few weeks, then it sort of struck me that, gee, I had been feeling better. I expect my dh probably noticed it before I had become conscious of it. LOL Now that I am aware of it I go for more exercise when I feel stressed, like I used to go for tylenol.

07-07-2005, 03:45 PM
Sea, oh yes I peddled away those pounds last night and felt wonderful. Afterward I took a warm bath some magnesium and slept like a baby :).

Alisha, I just had to laugh when I read about you wanting to be a storm chaser, because your name sake, my dd, could easily have done the samething. She's 21, but when she was a child she would find great delight in storms. She would remain at the window looking for a tornado or some natural disaster. Her brother on the other hand takes cover whenever two drops of rain falls from the sky. Total opposites.

Deb, I am also packing to relocate to Florida. I don't mind packing, but I dislike unpacking. Thank God for my dh who likes to unpack. So we have a unspoken understanding. I do the majority of the packing and he unpacks.

I'll be back after I log in my foods for the day.

07-08-2005, 09:51 AM
Good Morning Everyone!

We left the security deposit for the house. We'll know by Tuesday. They seemed to really like us and our son. The house is SMALL, but that's ok---we need to down size. I'll have to go the permit for a garage sale. We are going to have to sell our den furinture. When we moved to FL we didn't have any livingroom/den furniture. Now we have too much! LOL.

I'm not doing anything today except clean up and pack some stuff and be with my son. We've been doing stuff every day. He went to bed after 11pm!

My friend, S, is driving me crazy. I guess I never realized a few things....1-she's a control freak (actually I discovered on a vacation to the Outer Banks-they drove from FL and we drove from NY.....I'll just say by the end of the trip I was so nuts that I got into the worst fight ever with dh and was calling for a divorce....and he didn't DO ANYTHING...she stressed me so much. 2. She is so unsure of every aspect.

That I just figured out last week. Our boys are 10 months apart-mine being the older. They are totally different boys! She was very hard on him (he's only 5) as a toddler/preschooler. I'm a little bit more slack on discipline. I mean I let my son experience things......her son couldn't play with any toy unless he was using the proper way. I could care less if Nathan was taking a toy from something else and playing with it on another toy. She would make him eat his food. I never really forced Nathan...yes he had to eat something. My mother told me not to stress over it....he'll eat when he's hungry.

Just the other day she told me that she doesn't make a seperate meal for her son if he doesn't like what they are having. I do. I don't do it every night, but there some meals that my dh and I enjoy, but my son doesn't. Am I wrong? Nathan is right were he needs to be on his healthy charts. He doesn't have much of a belly.....he's not skin and bones. Her son has a big belly! He walks on the tredmill and does exercises now (he's 5!). When they saw how great Nathan was reading, the next week her son was reading great also (he starts kindergarten in August). It's like whatever my son does, her son better be able to do it also.

Nathan doesn't know how to tie his shoes---well....kinda. Her son has known for a long time time. I don't make him do it...I know he should know...he's rarely worn tie shoes all summer....we'll work on that in the next few weeks. Her son has been riding a 2 wheel bike for about a year....they bought Nathan a bike for his 5 bday.........he doesn't know how to ride a 2 wheel bike. I guess my point is that I don't make him stuff just because J can. I go with the flow of my child.

As you know, Nathan has been taking swimming lessons. He would swim with a life vest on and be as happy as a lark....but it was time. He needed to know how...especially living in FL. Her son had those safe start $300 survival swimming lessons....boy wouldn't swim afterward...terrified of the water. He took them when he was 3? He cried...hated it. Well my lessons are $35-and like a FOOL I said that he was swimming without the floats and was swimming under the water and doing great. Her husband was here last week and I was telling them both this.......I could tell he thought it was stupid that they paid the big bucks and their son couldn't swim....yet Nathan is progressing. Well, well, well....her husband calls me yesterday (he rarely does that anymore) and before we ended the conversation he said he was rushing home because J could swim without his floats. I was like your are f****** ( I don't cus so I was really mad.....I didn't say that to him)kidding me. Am I wrong here. It's as though whatever Nathan can do her son has to be able to do it. She tells him....why can't you behave like Nathan...Nathan isn't doing that. Look what Nathan can do. Her son doesn't need the added pressure. He already has to do everything her way. He must perform exactly as she says. She rides his case about everything! She forces him to do stuff. I could just imigaine how the kid reacted in the pool. She probably yelled at him, told him Nathan can do can you. THEY ARE NOT THE SAME AGE!!!!!! When they are teenagers it won't matter...but 10 months apart is a big deal at this age.

Tell me if I'm wrong...that's only a brief account.
She is like the best "homemaker." Always making dinner/lunch from scratch. House always clean. I'm not a housework kinda gal. I work! She does work, she does home health care the 11-7 shift.....she works more now than she did because of her dh's job...but when her son was first born (1 1/2 years I think) she didn't work. Go to the park and play with my son....or mop the floor. Sorry-my son will come first! I can cook. I enjoy doing it. She acts like its a big deal when I invite her over. She'll say....I don't like when you cook for me...I'm like we were just at your house last week. Give me a break.

Now this friend is like a 6/8. Looks are very important to her. Whenever she describes something she always tells me what the other person looked like and what they were wearing. She likes to be tan so she has a tanning bed (sounds vain....I know). She has been busy lately and wasn't laying in it. Guess what I've been doing? Going to the pool/beach. I am tan. She made a comment--Wow Deb you are so dark! Well in just a few short days she exclaims how she laid in her tanning bed-she needed to get some sun. I was like........being competitive with the boys is one thing.....I'm learning to not let it bug me as much.....but being competitive with me is a whole new thing...don't go there!

I often wonder why she is my friend. Now, I've only painted the part that bugs me! She would do anything for us. She has done a lot for us. She was there when I had Nathan, I was there when she had her son. We are close friends. When we were moving back to FL she spend several weeks going to houses, taking pictures, getting all the information....that's a headache.

I told her husband that I would call her today to do something...truth of the matter is that I don't want to do. I know she will suggest I can see her son. She said she'd come see Nathan...never came...he was disappointed. I feel like saying when she tells me his accomplishment (which I am very glad that he is doing it...I just hope it wasn't under harsh circumstances and that he was able to enjoy it!)"I figured you'd have him doing the same thing as always do". No, that's kinda mean. I guess it boils down to this.....she has a wonderful, smart son. She stifles that in him. He's becoming like her. He won't know how to make any decisions for himself because she controls it. She wonders why he lies to her....he doesn't want to disappoint her, get spanked (and boy did she spank him a lot). My son adores her....but he doesn't like the way she yells at her son. He can only handle so much of it.

I'm not perfect. My son isn't perfect. I don't think my disipline methods are the greatest.....but most of the time it works :dizzy: . I have a happy, healthy, confident son. He knows he's loved. He knows its ok to make to mistake. I let him frost the cookies anyway he wants and not CONTROL how he does it (she wouldn't let her son do it his way...she had to tell him step by step how to do that.....imagine the scene......I'm letting my son do it by himself....she is struggling to hold the knife and tell her son how to do it exactly the way she wants).

Ok guys.....thank you for letting me vent. Maybe I'm being the jerk. I don't care that her son can do what Nathan does.........but at what expense is it to him and to how he feels about Nathan. He drew something and he said..."Now am I a little artist like Nathan"--because he probably heard her saying it to him. It broke my heart when she told me he said that. She's like, Nathan is a good artist. I'm thinking...huh? Nathan will draw.....but it's on his time. I told her that he picks up one color and will color the whole page that color, he doesn't really color in the lines. I know that probably bugged her...she has made comments that her son will color everything the same color and not color in the lines...she repeatedly tells him how to do it. I told her that... I don't make Nathan draw (she makes her son). It's not that my son doesn't know how to color in the lines-he wants to finish. He draws when he wants too. I go with the flow. I'm sure she loved that. Her son read the clock at 10:41 instead of 10:14. She said she got on him and said....why did you read that know 14 and you know 41. She was telling me she was frustrated that he does that sometimes. (remember he's 5...he won't be 6 until Feb.). I said it's developmental. I know she hates that answer because I tell her that a lot (because she keeps trying to make her son do stuff that Nathan does and 10 months and a year in kindergarten makes a huge difference!). She said...what does that mean....I said, well maybe he learned before he was ready. She stopped asking me about it after that. I told her how Nathan will sometimes rush through his work and he talks in class. I wanted to let her know that kids are kids. Nathan is a good boy......he'll admit he talks....but not when the teacher is looking (great thing to hear since I am a teacher LOL). I don't want to give her the impression that my son is perfect. No one is.

I am so sorry to go on and on and on about this. I just had to get it off my chest. I just think I'm going nuts. My husband said it's probably best that I not do anything with her today because I set myself up. He doesn't think she does it on's just her personality. He feels bad for her son. We spend time with him--without her. We watch her son, more than she watches Nathan.

I have another friend (they know eachother) and she said she was surprised we've friends this long. She pegged it about her. She made comments about how she treats her son a few years ago. After Nathan's bday party in April, both sets of friends were there. That hasn't happened in along time-I know Carrie doesn't care for S that much. They got along great. I was so excited. Carrie told me later (like a few weeks ago)-that she was really trying to be nice and friendly...for me. Gee, thanks! I really believe that she pushes people to the point that they don't want to be with her...because she doesn't hang out with that many people. Here my husband and I were invited to like 4 places on the 4th of July! Oh, yeah...we're real popular! LOL :D

I love my son. I am very proud of everything he does. He amazes me with the words he says (good ones). He has a soft, gentle spirit. He obeys (most of the time). He gets excited about things. He is caring. He's eager to learn (he got that award from school). I don't make him learn to ride his bike (he said the other day he wanted to ride it without the training wheels). I don't make him do stuff because J can. Gee, I didn't realize that Nathan was the top reader in his class. His teacher had to send home supplemental reading. (oh yeah, S had her son read the same book one time they were show me he can read the same as Nathan).

Ok....I've vented enough. It's 9 am! Ahhh...I must get going.

Talk to you all later.


07-08-2005, 10:19 AM
Good morning all! :coffee:

Debs, way to go on the house! You're friend sounds SO nice! LOL I really do feel sorry for her son. I can't imagine trying to have a "perfect" child. Each kid has their own pace to do things, and own imagination, desires, etc. I hate to see parents push and push when often times all kids really need is a gentle nudge in the right direction and they'll figure things out on thier own. Your DH is right, take a break from spending a lot of time with her, but still spend time with her son, sounds like he needs someone like YOU in hes life. :cp:

I'm going to go pick up my husband from the airport to day! :dance: I can't wait to see him. I have a little cleaning to do before I leave though, not that he'll notice when he comes home. :lol: I'm probably going to skip my workout today, but I did 2 yesterday (cardio in the morning, and weights in the evening) to make up for it. Tomorrow is my free-day of eating and I really don't want anything special. Usually it's chocolate and fatty/salty foods, but I've been eating really good food this week and enjoying every bite of it. So, maybe I'll just have a cheat meal instead of day.

Everyone have a wonderful day, and I'll check back in tomorrow.
Kathy :sunny:

07-08-2005, 11:10 AM
Kathy and her dh sitting in a tree!

Welcome home to Kathy's hubby!

;) :love: :flame: :flame: :cloud9: :cloud9: :cheer: :cheer:


07-08-2005, 11:27 AM
I think we all know someone who is like your friend. :dizzy: I think a lot of women are competitive when it comes to the accomplishments of their kids. You know what's sad? When the kids are all grown doesn't matter when they learned how to tie their shoes or when they learned to read... blah blah blah.
At the end of our lives, our accomplishments are not listed on our tombstones. The memories you leave behind are your legacy.

You're raising your son to be happy and well rounded. It's good that you had some good things to say about your friend. That's what keeps the friendship going. All you can do is to continue being a role model for your friend. My guess is that she had perfectionist parents who were SO hard on her, that she knows no other way to parent.

I'll bet if you ask her about her childhood one day...she'd end up crying. (most of us do...I mean NO parents are perfect) But it may let her know that some of their methods are rubbing off on her son and does she really want that?

She's lucky to have a friend like you, just keep letting her know that it's ok not to be perfect.

You know how a duck swims? sit one day and just watch how it glides-- ever so smoothly, keeping it's head high, being admired by all. but if you look under the water.... HER LITTLE WEBBED FEET ARE PADDLING LIKE **** TO GET TO WHERE SHE'S GOING.

Take Care Debs.

07-08-2005, 11:37 AM
Good Morning all,

Debs your frend sounds alot like my sister :mad: :devil: I say let her be the way she is and just be how you are. My sister is always trying to compete with her sister in law and its too funny she had to get a air conditinor because her sister in law has on.. My goodness we live is Seattle It rains more than its hot even in summer!!!! I think people like her and like your friend they are miserible with who they are...

Okay so I finally had my meserments done yesterday at the gym and in all im down 9 1/4" down in one month... Is that great or should it have been more??? im new at mererments My trainer dident say anything like good job or nothing all she said was to push my floor excersises and to cut back more on my food intake. because my weight aint going down like it should....

I dont know my trainer was kinda mean like im not doing as well as I should be she really made me feel crappy about everything, in one month ive lost 16lbs and 9 1/4" I know thats not great but its better than nothing Right??? I almost started crying but saved it untill i got into my car then the faucet opened up and i was crying like a babby :(

Well whar are your guys imput??? should I be down more inches and weight being a month into it???

Have a great day

07-08-2005, 12:52 PM
Viana, that is absolutely fantastic! Your trainer must have either been very distracted or out of her mind! My guess is she doesn't know how to relate to those of us that aren't 19 year old anorexic waifs.

I repeat, YOU HAVE DONE ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC !!! Keep doing what you are doing. It is working.

07-09-2005, 03:30 PM
Viana, your trainer is definitely lacking the needed social skills for that profession. I know that everyone has their bad days, but as a personal trainer they have to be encouraging. Sounds like your trainer should have taken the day off.

You are doing marvelous!!!!! If I was to lose 16 pounds a month in 5 months...(counting my fingers and toes)...I would be 80 pounds lighter!!!!!!!!!! You go girl :)!

07-09-2005, 03:36 PM
I'm not quite sure how I found this website, but it is exactly what I am looking for.

I've tried ediets-was a member for about 3 years. I didn't lose any substantial weight-I would lose focus after a few weeks. I can plan my own meals. I miss the support. A buddy or a few to chat with-support.

I am 35. I've been married for 7 years. I have a darling son, he's 6. I'm a teacher and this summer I am not WORKING!

I joined CURVES in January. When I was going on a regular basis I felt great. Now that school is out, I have no excuses.

That's a little about me. Anyone looking for a buddy?


Hi! I am in FL, too. I joined Curves in January as well and I love it :) I've been to various other gyms in the past and I've never been able to make myself go to them on a regular basis like I do at Curves.

07-09-2005, 07:49 PM
Hi there everyone. I decided to sneak onto the computer between storms to see how everyone is doing.

Debs - I just can't get over your 'friend' :s: . That whole post really upset me because it reminded me of things I've heard all my life from my biological dad. That man made me so ashamed of myself and so self-conscious - I ended up having court proceedings when I was 24 and disowned him so my step father could adopt me. I was never pretty enough or smart enough or thin enough. I had this friend as a kid, called Diana. She was slimmer than me, but that's about it. Yet, all I heard was "Why can't you be slim like Diana?" "Why can't you do your hair like Diana?" Well I heard that from dawn til dusk some days until one day I screamed at him that I wasn't f****ng Diana :mad: - I was ME and I was his kid. Diana already had a father and that's just one more thing she had better than me! :bomb: Well, he shut up after that, but what a very hard thing for a child to go through. I was in middle school when all that came about, so I can't even fathom the amount of damage that woman is doing to her son. I don't know how I'd handle it, but I suppose I'd quit putting the kids together and I'd quit saying anything about my son at all. Then if she asks why you never talk about Nathan, I'd just tell her. :yes: If she's a friend, she'll appreciate your opinion whether she likes or agrees with it or not. If she isn't, then she'll get nasty. By the sounds of it, it's like Nickie said - she doesn't know any better. Maybe if someone tells her, she may get mad, but she may learn something too. :crossed:

Vi - Way to go! :cheer: I'm so proud of you!! You have done SO incredibly well. I'd be of a mind to tell that trainer that you didn't appreciate her attitude one bit :no: and that she better learn to be a bit more friendly and diplomatic. I know what you mean though... I've been going to Curves since May. In the beginning I was going 4 times a week to try and tone a bit before my cousin's wedding. :wl: The whole time, one of the women who works there was on my back about not coming 4 times a week because muscles have memory and I may not be reaping the benefits blah blah blah :blah: . Well, after the wedding, I slowed it down to 3 times a week and 3 circuits rather that 2.5. That was fine. But now that I'm on Medifast, they tell you to cut your regular exercise routine in half for the first month because due the very low calories of the diet, it could actually impede your weight loss. :tread: After the first month, you can increase it gradually if you want to. So, I go twice a week but only do one circuit. Well everytime I go now, the OTHER woman who works there gives me grief because I don't come 3 times a week. I've explained what the diet is and what they recommend, etc. but that just doesn't seem to be good enough. "Well can't you come 3 times a week and just do the machines and not the aerobics?" or "Can't you come 3 times a week and do 2 circuits?" I keep explaining what the diet says, but last time I really got frustrated. I nearly told her to get off my back, but instead I just let everything go in and run right back out. It's my money, it's MY diet, and I will do what I see fit. :tape:

So yeah, Vi, I know how they can really grate on your nerves. I told them I had lost 11lbs in 9 days and the first thing the woman said to me was, "'Well you know that's water weight". I was so mad! :tantrum: I looked at her and said that certainly some of it was, but I'm drinking at least 80oz of water a day so it certainly had SOME fat in there. I thought, "jerk!". It's like if you don't do it THEIR way, then you're doing something wrong, unhealthy, it won't work or they refuse to give you any sort of praise. Personally I think they need to get their butts out of the abductor and into a class that teaches how to provide support to your gym attendees! :write:

And, a BIG welcome to Cuqt! :wave: I'm in Florida too (but more near the St Pete area. I do like Curves, actually, it's just that sometimes the two women can say the wrong thing and it makes me very cross. Anyway, it's lovely to have you here. :) We're like one big happy family. :grouphug:

So as for me... well I treated myself today! I ventured out to get my hair trimmed and then I decided to go buy a Vans Warped Tour ticket that I've been putting off for two months due to lack of funds! Of course I get there and the TicketMaster outlet is down so I had to go to the mall. I didn't mind too much because I wanted to pick up some of those no sugar/no carb flavored syrups like they use in the coffee houses to put into flavored lattes and such. So I got the ticket and I also bought two syrups - one raspberry and one hazelnut. Oh MY how good! I have Vanilla, Dutch Chocolate and Swiss Mocha shakes so I figured they may taste good with some other flavor. How right I was! I put one oz of the raspberry into my Dutch Chocolate and it was like HEAVEN! :cheers: It was like a choco-raspberry frozen latte! I highly recommend picking some of these up for use in your coffee or even plain water. They are so good and have absolutely NO calories if you get the sugar free. :coffee2:

I still haven't weighed myself - I have three more days and then I'll see. Wednesday morning roll on!

Take care of yourselves and I'll write in between storms!

All the best.

~Alisha :hat:

07-10-2005, 02:03 PM
Alisha, what is the name of the store to get the sugar-free flavored syrups?????

07-10-2005, 02:14 PM
Hi Sea! Well, the place I got mine was a coffee house called Barnies, but I'm sure they sell them at Starbucks (although they're probably outrageous) and they also sell them online. Try They have several different distributors to choose from and a plethora of flavors, even unique ones like cotton candy, bubblegum and white chocolate! Mine weren't Torani, they are Monin 0'Free, but I'm certain they are all the same. I've had Torani before and these taste no different.

Good luck! These are a great find!!!

~Alisha :hat:

07-11-2005, 12:51 PM
Hello all I hope you all had a good weekend... I hope all my buddies in the Fl area is nice and safe from the storms.

Well again I had a nothere horrible weekend I did not go to the gym at all and ate like a pig :ink: I really dont know what is wrong with me I was so badley want to stay with it its just so hard and my parents are so over their diet, I said to them yesterday that nomore will I be cheating on my diet untill the next holiday (thanksgiving) I just really not sure what is wrong with my brain on why I cant keep with it I so badley want to be thin and be able to work out like I use too. HELP what can I do ???? How can I get my frame of mind back?????

07-11-2005, 01:43 PM
Aww Vi, I completely sympathize with you. I want to be thin more than a drowning person wants their next breath but for whatever reason, I just could NOT stick to diets either. :stress: I was thinking about trying Super Glue lip gloss :ziplip: until I found this Medifast diet. Even now, I won't let myself have anything but shakes because I'm afraid that if I get the snack bars and oatmeal, I'll go nuts and binge on them. :corn:

My doctor diagnosed me with compulsive eating disorder in 1995, which helped explain why I just couldn't control my moderation. I'd eat like a starving person at a feast :hun: and then not eat at all for 3 or 4 days because of the guilt I felt. :( I don't begin to know what havoc that wreaked on my body, but even knowing that, I still couldn't control portion sizes, I couldn't say no to food I wanted at social functions, restaurants and movie theaters... it seemed hopeless. :?: So I KNOW exactly what you mean. It's like, "I want to be thin so why can't I just STICK to something?"

This Medifast diet is the only diet I have been able to stick to in over 10 years. I think it's because I KNOW that I'm only allowed the supplements and because I'm not hungry. Chances are, that if I'm watching TV and one of those fast food commercials come on, if I crave it, it's usually time for another shake and I'm hungry. After I have the shake I'm fine and I couldn't care less about them. :mcd: It's so refreshing. I also don't go to restaurants anymore because I can't eat the food. :tape: I don't have to worry about making the "right" choices because I can only have my supplements. I know it doesn't sound very fun and it is hard when my mom and grandma go out to eat and I can't go, but I know that it's not forever. I have to remind myself that the food isn't going anywhere. Once I tackle this obssession with food and the bad habits that go with it, (such as looking to food when I'm sad, happy, bored, etc.) then I can gradually introduce other supplements into my diet such as chili, oatmeal and snack bars. Then, I will have broken those bad binge habits, I will be able to eat only ONE bar a day and NOT the box, so when I go off the program, I will be able to make wiser choices and not feel like I'm on death row doing it. :yes:

What a tremendous amount of effort to put into something as simple as eating, but it goes to show you what kind of damage past eating traumas can affect your life. :cry:

I'm not saying you'd want or should do the diet I'm on, but you may want to sit down and try to work out the reason behind your attraction to food. I had to do that as well. I finally realized that my obssession stemmed from when I was an early teen and living with my biological father. He was an alcoholic and more often than not we'd have condiments in the fridge and vodka in the freezer and that's it. Talk about Ole Mother Hubbard! Then, he'd go to the grocery store, blow $300 on all sorts of food and it was like, "OHMIGOD, what do I eat first????" So I'd binge because the food was there and I knew it wouldn't last. The rest of the time I ate at 7-11 or a friend's house, whose family's cooking ranged from sloppy joes to pizza to hamburgers. I realized that I've carried that whole binge mentality with me right up to the ripe old age of 34. So, I have to have a constant check on myself to remind me that the food isn't going anywhere. I can have it in moderation once I reach my goals and it will be there. It will be there in a year, it will be there from week to week and day to day so there is no need to glut.

I don't know if you had something similar in your early years that may have had an impact on your eating habits, but I find that most overweight people I've ever known usually have some demon to fight :devil: - possibly a parent that forced them to eat everything on their plate or friends/parents who ostracised them because of their weight, causing them to hoard food and eat in private. There are a million reasons that can cause this - it has nothing to do with willpower or desire to be thin. It's some strange, ingrained compulsion that can't be dealt with until you find out where it comes from.

I probably haven't said anything that you don't already know hun. I just feel that it's very important for you to know that you aren't alone in this. I know I still go through it and I'll be here to support you in whatever choices you make. :grouphug:

Hang in there.

~Alisha :hat:

07-12-2005, 12:50 PM
Vi, planning what I eat, using prepackaged foods to manage my portion control for me , as well as having my package of light yogurt or a banana, each 100 calories, for deliberately planned 3 hour snacks, has made a world of difference for my success. Eating every three hours keeps me from feeling so deprived, while preventing the hunger pain and headaches. And it doesn't have to cost a lot to use prepackaged stuff. I eat a lot of Budget Gourmet lasagna or manicotti at 88 cents a meal. Eating lasagna and manicotti, I feel comforted. Being 88 cents and a mere 230 to 300 calories, I don't feel guilty.

Now if I could just get my head around the exercise to make it that easy.... Really, while I don't yet enjoy the exercise, I can see that it helps my weight loss, moods, and sleep. Maybe it's my dh that enjoys my exercise...LOL Just don't give up. You aren't alone. Even if your parents have abandoned their diets, you haven't and we haven't. We're with you, Vi.

07-12-2005, 01:05 PM
Thank you both for your support, Its true im at the point where weight just is not comming off and I think in my mind and heart I gave up.. However I kicked myself in the backside and told my family that was it no more cheats and if they wanted to eat crap to do it when I am not home or before I get home from the gym. Yesterday I did work out and changed it up just a bit, Ive been having some knee pain so i skiped the bike. I also did 200 crunches yesterday. I so deep down inside dont want to give up its just i feel so depressed and feel i cant do this that it is too hard. I want to be thin, I want to be healthy I just never thought it would be this challanging. I am lonley also and when I look in the mirror I make myself ILL think i just look so huge and fat how could I even think the guy i have a crush on would like me when i hate myself.... all I want to do is cry I feel like I hit a wall and have no place to go.......

07-12-2005, 05:41 PM
I'm here.

I don't have time right now to read all the posts.

Inserice all week.

Suppose to get keys for new house today-some hold up....I'm getting nervous

Friend coming over (not that friend...another one)....packing, packing, packing, packing, packing........


07-13-2005, 12:24 PM
Vi, just have faith in youself and you'll get there. Everyone reaches plateaus but let me share some info that an RN shared with me when I was on that clinic diet 10 years ago. It has always stuck with me. When you diet, rather you have a lot or a little weight to lose, it still means that your body is changing. You can loose only so much weight before your body has to take some time to catch up with itself. It needs time to shrink the blood vessels and to re-adjust the skin around the lost fat (just imagine the size of a pound of fat!). This is when you lose the inches!

If you keep going as well as you have been, your weight loss will pick up again - just have faith in yourself and the fact that you can get where you want to be. It just takes a lot of patience but it will pay off.

Please don't be so down on yourself. Everyone has slip-ups and everyone who diets gets discouraged. Just hang in there and remember that we're here to support you all the way!

Debs - It's great to see you despite you being so busy! Deep breaths... everything will work out in the end. ;)

Alisha :hat:

07-13-2005, 03:18 PM

Thanks for the support, lastnight was an okay night I broke down and had a turkey burger the bad part was I had cheese and light mayo.. I did have a good workout but I know I did not burn off nearly enough cals for it to matter. Ive been very depressed this week and right now im not seeing the light at the end of the tunel. When I look into a mirrow i just get ill all i see is this huge tummy and huge arms I cant see the good changes ive made how can I change this??? I just get so hungry or i think I am, Im thinking maybe I should stop taking Trim Spa and try another supressent.. any suggestions for me ??? Ill do anything!!!!!! Also does anyone know how much fat is in gronila, my mom got some at Costco and it has no nutrational info on it Ive been having that 4 a snack maybe its too high in fat and thats my problem.. what you u think?

07-14-2005, 09:44 AM
Vi hun, you've just got to hang in there. It's unfortunate that when you have quite a bit of weight to lose (like me) the fruits of your endeavors don't show up as fast as they would for those who only have 15 or 20lbs to lose. I have trouble with that too - that's why I needed a plan that I could lose slightly faster on because I simply don't have the patience for 1 or 2lbs a week. I get discouraged because it takes SO long to see the results.

Ground turkey is very good for you - it's a very lean source of protein, so that was not bad at all. A little cheese and light mayo isn't bad either - if you were doing Weight Watchers, you'd be able to have that so I don't think it sabotaged anything.

Granola - well, every single "breakfast bar" I've ever seen always has loads of sugar and fat. Granola itself isn't too bad, but by the time they get finished putting in the chocolate or honey and all the "bird seed" - the fat and sugar raise dramatically. I don't think having one once in awhile will do any damage, but using them for a regular snack may not be as beneficial as the food industry would like you to believe.

I'm trying to adapt my eating style through my diet so I get used to eating (or in this case, drinking!) at least 5 times a day - only smaller portions. I've never been a snacker, but because I'd usually skip breakfast, I'd gorge on lunch because I'd be famished by 1:00pm! So, rather than "snacking" on a piece of fruit (which has a lot of sugar as well) perhaps make up some significant dishes and separate them out so you are eating less but more often. I know it's been proven to keep your metabolism from rising and falling and you don't get those huge sugar rushes. On my past diet, where I was required to eat 4 times a day, I'd do things like brown a whole pack of ground turkey (lean) with bell peppers, onions and spices, (and a touch of Jamaican Wildfire sauce - I love hot sauce) and then I'd put portions into small tubs and take it to work with me. I'd also do the same with salads or 1% fat cottage cheese, etc. That way you're always getting some sort of protein, which helps stabilize your metabolism.

I learned a LONG time ago - before Atkins, before South Beach, etc. - that my body just doesn't like carbs. When I melted away 90lbs on that clinic diet 10 years ago, eating high protein, low carb, low fat, I finally understood what my body was about. I don't mean to cut them out altogether, but I have to be very careful. As soon as I start eating a generous amount of them, I begin to crave sweets. I don't even LIKE most sweets, so that was very bizarre. However, if I cut down the carbs (basically all the white and refined stuff) and stuck to protein and a lot of veggies, the weight came off MUCH easier and after about a week, I stopped craving chocolate and pasta and things like that altogether. I am pretty sedintary at work, so I am just not active enough to burn off all the carbs I was intaking. In turn, they would turn to sugar and, eventually, fat.

I don't know if that helps, but I hope it does. I was a strong believer that I couldn't lose weight unless I used an appetite supressant like Phentermine. However, I realize that it's only the FOODS causing this intense hunger and, in my case, overproduction of stomach acid, which MAKES you feel hungry when you're not. I drink 5 Medifast shakes a day and drink 2 bouillon for the potassium. Once in awhile if I get a hunger pang, I eat a pickle. (2 per day are allowed). Other than that, I'm not hungry! No grumbles, no over-production of stomach acid anymore, and NO cravings for sweets or, anything for that matter. Ketosis, even in a very mild state, has a wonderful way of curbing hunger all on it's own without drugs.

The only other thing I can say (again, only from my point of view with a view to helping you) is that I HAVE to have some sort of reigimented eating routine to lose weight. I don't have the ability to do an open program like WW where you can have "everything in moderation". Moderation for me knows no boundaries. I'm getting better, but I'm not there yet. Maybe some type of regimen would be easier for you to follow than trying to do it all on your own. I don't know why that is, but I find it much easier to say NO if it isn't on my diet rather than trust myself to only eat a little of whatever I want.

Anyway Vi, I can only tell you things from my perspective, however, what works for one is certainly not for all. Either way, you have GOT to stop being so down on yourself. You've done so well and, like I said,your body needs time to catch up with itself. You don't want to lose 50lbs and then have excess skin hanging off everything. :) So just keep on keeping on and you'll surprise yourself. I promise!

I'm with you all the way! :cp:

Alisha :hat:

07-14-2005, 12:46 PM
Thanks again for being here for me Alisha!!!

Im doing okay lastnight was a bore I went to the gym however I quit 10min b4 I was suspose to but thats okay right.. Is that medifast died expansive? so thats all you do is drink the shakes?? I need to reflect on where I am and where I want to be and just take time and not stress about results, at least im trying and a little is better than none at all.. I just had the vision that I would be down so much and look so different that everyone would notice however I cant even see it in my self so how can oters? Its diffcult for me to be patitance and to just be happy with myself maybe I have something other than stress of the diet wrong with me maybe i have a little depression. Plus I find myself worried about Trevor the neighbor across the street like if im this way he wont even look at me and who is to say when Im thin he will look, but then its like its taking so long to see a change he may move or find someone b4 i get thinner... i dunno i think im nuts.. as for the gronla im stopping that im sure that is the deal thats its 2 high in fat...

07-15-2005, 10:11 AM
Quick post--

Alisha-you a great addition to our group!

Vi--we have slumps, but pick right back up.

I didn't really read the post-sorry guys......I'm in the middle of packing/sorting/cleaning.

We are going to move over as much stuff as possible today. We are only going 5 miles-so it won't be that bad.

It's just that we have a LOT of stuff and the house we are going to is considerably smaller! That's ok, though. It is so clean! The stove looks brand new-but it's not. How on earth did she get it to sparkle? I am going to have to clean the stove out every week!!!! And there is no self cleaner on the stove.

My friend I mentioned (um yeah...I mentioned her alright) coming over today. They have a small pick up truck and we want to use it. She probably won't be over until noon! I know, she worked last night and needs to rest. I just wish we would have switched vechiles last night. She is going to probably hang out at one of the houses. I don't really want her to help me. I am UNORGANIZED..I want to pack myself. She can keep Nathan busy.

Ok....I've been on break long enough. I told my husband the kitchen would be packed before he got

LOVE YOU GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!!


ps...eating-terrible! exercise--horrible drinking water--not at all...
Will drink water today!

07-15-2005, 11:56 AM
Well another friday is here and Im so not wanting to be at work today it seems everyone else feels the same way since Im the only one in the office today... Maybe ill take a nap later if we r slow :D Well Lastnight was uneventful I did not do much at all but I did go to the gym had a good workout and I spoke to my "trainer" about what I should do differently she feels i need to just relax and it will happen however she was able to help me with a few thing and I think I will change weightloss sumplments insted of Trim Spa like Ive been on I think I will take the Apex ones from the gym and see how they work, heck they r cheaper then Trim Spa. Well I weighed myself this morning on the flipen devil machine :devil: called the scale..LOL and I went down 2.50lbs so that makes me a little happy :) Sorry for my mid week melt down im so trying to hang in there.. But thanks so much for everyone helping me it means so much to me ;)


07-15-2005, 03:41 PM
Well I hope this post finds everyone well.

Vi - WEIGH to GO on the 2.5lb loss! See, I told you so! :cb: Just hang in there doing what you're doing and it will pay off! Personally, I wouldn't even waste my money on that Trim Spa or any over the counter weight loss stuff. I honestly do not believe that they work - I think they have more of a placebo effect. I also don't trust what they put into them - look what happened with Ephedra! Just be careful, okay?

Debs - well what can I say on the go-go girl? It sounds like you're running around in circles so fast you're like a whirling dervish! Just remember - one step at a time and you'll get there. Once the stuff is moved, then you can worry about what goes where and what to get rid of, if anything. I find it really hard to get a mental image of what something will look like until I put things away in their proper places. I'm very good at spacial relations, but finding the 'perfect' spot for something drives me to distraction! I wish you the best of luck. Hang in there - you're getting there. Just don't do what I do - let yourself get run by everyone else's schedule. I hate that. No one specifically tells me to rush, but yet they put time limits on things and then I find myself under the gun. I try very hard not to do that anymore and it benefits my stress level. :dizzy:

As for me... well, I went to Curves yesterday for one of my two workouts. I'm going again tonight. I'm still a little frustrated at the women there.. one of them asked me yesterday how I'm doing and how I felt, so I told her. I lost 15.5 lbs in 2 weeks and I felt great. Then she started on about losing weight too fast and blah blah. I just looked at her and said, "Well, if it's good enough for Johns Hopkins, it's good enough for me." and just carried on with my workout. I swear I'm going to stuff her mouth with a shoe protector if she and her counterpart don't get off my back. You know, a little encouragement wouldn't hurt. And I swear, if I go back tonight and the other one starts in, I'm going to tell them. It's really upsetting me and I'm no shrinking violet. I'm going to tell them that I'm working very hard and it upsets me that, even at the gym, they can't even support me. Oooh they make me mad! :mad:

So anyway, here we are today - I'm down 17.5 lbs (the tickers don't register half a pound!) and I'm fine. I have a slight headache but I think that's just because. I suffer with headaches and migraines all the time - always have done. I was running around like a headless chicken today so I think that had something to do with it. Otherwise, everything is fine. I'm getting nervous about tomorrow. I need to get up early and buy concert tickets and I'm petrified they'll sell out. Sounds kind of stupid, but I haven't done anything in months and I'm REALLY looking forward to it. It's not til October 22, so I'm hoping I'll be in ONEderland by then. Please cross your fingers for me. :crossed:

You all take care and I'll check in over the weekend!

Alisha :hat:

07-15-2005, 04:02 PM
Alisha ~ What concert will you be going to??? YOU GO GIRL your doing GREAT!!! im so proud of u keep up the awsome job you inspire me girl

Much love

07-16-2005, 10:22 AM
I've officially relocated to Florida! I haven't checked in, read any posts or even kept up with because I've been so busy. My furniture should be coming this morning so all that moving and unpacking will be my exercise for the day. I'll check back later. Have a great day!

07-18-2005, 09:40 AM
:hat: Hey Vi, thanks for the encouragement! :angel: I've been going pretty strong and steady, although I admit that those Pizza Hut commercials still sting once in awhile. :T I even bought a stuffed pig to sit on top of my TV so everytime I see a fast food/restaurant commercial I just stare at the pig and remind myself of how I do NOT want to be. :ink: It's pretty stupid I guess, but it works! I bought tickets to see Nine Inch Nails. :cb: I knew the tix would sell like fire :flame: so I got there early. I missed out on floor tix even though I was 4th in line but I have a seat so it's better than nothing. :^:

Healthy - you've relocated now? You're in the Sunshine State like me! :flow2: I tell you... all the beach bunnies in bikinis are a really great inspiration for sticking to a diet. It's a godsend that my apartment window looks over the pool! :) I only moved back from the UK 6.5 months ago and I remember that "moving" feeling very well. :dizzy: I didn't know if I was coming or going half the time but you'll get there in the end. :yes: Just try not to put yourself under the gun to get everything perfect. I tried that because I love a clean house, but all I ended up doing was driving myself crazy because I didn't own any furniture at the time!! Even now I have box after box in my spare room because they're full of books and I don't have a bookcase! But, I'll live with it. Thankfully it's in the spare room so I can shut the door and forget about it now and then. I wish you the best of luck!!! :crossed:

As for me - well, I did my Curves thing on Thursday and Friday. :strong: I was glad to see, for their sake, that they kept their mouths shut about my diet. :tape: I told the woman that I was going to be on that Elite board by the next weigh in. Then I'll get my Elite t-shirt and wear it very proudly. I'm sitting here at 18.5lbs lost (the ticker doesn't register half a pound) and it's driving me nuts to get to 20lbs. :tantrum: I should be ashamed of myself, really. :sorry: I've lost 18.5lbs in 18 days so you'd think I'd be satisfied but NO... there's always another hurdle! I guess it's really small goals I set for myself so I don't get complacent but I need to learn to be satisfied with what I've done too. I guess when you have weight to lose it never can come off fast enough. :stress:

I've been getting in all of my water (80 oz per day) except for Saturday. I was so tired after getting up early to get those tickets and then I had to get an oil change for my car - I just didn't want to do anything but lay there and watch TV - so I did. :smug: Usually I'm dying of thirst because my body is used to all the water intake but I didn't even feel thirsty. I was just dead. But, Sunday I got in all of my water and I'll ensure that I get it in all this week. I'm petrified of loose skin so I force myself to finish it to keep my body and skin hydrated. :beach: I drink Fruit 2 0 Plus (with vitamins) and I find that it helps a LOT!!! I highly recommend it for any of you who have a difficult time getting your water intake. ;)

Anyway, take care and keep in touch! We NEED each other! :grouphug:

All the very best.

Alisha :hat:

07-18-2005, 08:06 PM
I am now on day 4 of moving stuff! We should have just gotten a truck. It would be done and over with. We thought with having both places for a little over a week we'd do just fine. AHHHHHHHHHH!!!! My new place is a mess. We will need to bring back one of the couches to sell at the garage sale on Friday, Sat, Sun. Was I crazy???? AHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! Bedrooms are done, computer room just needs stuff shifted to the correct piles and vaccummed. Living/Dining done. Kitchen---pantries and then CLEANING IT-stove/fridge you know all the good stuff. Then the garage. We are trying to tackle the garage tonight. It's 7pm and I know my dh is tired! He's taking a load to the new place. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

Oh.....I am suppose to go set up my classroom this week-I think NOT. I go back to work next week! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! I have to unpack and set up my room! I am putting a note on my door--DON'T BUG ME! Boy, that sounds real friendly, huh??? LOL

We should have computer service on Thursday. I will get back to regular posting and my NORMAL life soon. I HATE MOVING!!!! How can be gather so much stuff???????

I need those space saver bags---anyone ever use those??? I need like 50 of them!!!!! AHAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH


07-21-2005, 11:34 AM
Alisha, yes I'm in the humid sunny state of Florida. I lived here 23 years ago for about 3 years...and now I'm back. I'll be honest...I really prefer Texas. I love the land, my church, the people, the diversity, their accents, the food (I'm still wearing plenty of it :))...and all my wonderful friends. Sigh...I know that I will adjust in time. You are so right about the "moving feeling". I am beginning to come out of that I can't believe I've moved fog. It was an emotional time having to surrender my Texas tags and license the other day. Oh, my goodness brand new Florida tags cost me $185!!!!!!!!! Thank God that it was only twenty dollars for the license. I think if I say "it's not like that in Texas" one more time some of the Floridians will give me a one way ticket back to Texas...probably in a crate by a very slow train, LOL :).

I've been doing very well with my eating. I haven't actually resumed exercising, but moving these boxes, unpacking, organizing, the many deep knee bends to put things in the top cabinet then change my mind and put them in the bottom cabinet, is definitely an extensive workout.

I hope everyone is doing well. Unpacking all those clothes that are too small for me has provided added motivation. We can do it!!!!!!!!

07-21-2005, 01:11 PM
Hi there Healthy! I'm glad to see that you've made it!

The Florida humidity is a real killer isn't it? I'm used to the rain and damp, but in England it's usually about 42 degrees, NOT 92! I can't even shower in the mornings anymore because I just get so clammy. I can't even get my makeup on straight because it wants to run down my face. So, unless I want to show up at work looking like Marilyn Manson, I opt for an evening shower these days :lol:

I know exactly what you mean about the "they don't do it that way in ____" feeling! I did the same thing for about the last 4 years I lived in England. I know that people were ready to kill me but I couldn't help it! I really missed all of the 'conveniences' we have here and it just got worse as time when on. That's why I was really glad I could come home! :D

I'll bet you'll be surprised at how much weight you lose or even maintain while moving. It's very hard work! I remember when I moved from one place to the other, I was eating rubbish - a Cornish Pasty here, a bottle of Coke there, a box of fries from the local take away place... but funny enough I dropped almost 10lbs because I was so stressed and packing and unpacking. I think that was one out of two times in my LIFE that I've lost weight without actually going at it full tilt. Don't worry and don't get discouraged. :nono: Remember, it's all about what you put in versus what you burn off so you may be very suprised! :cbg:

I'm very excited today because I hit my 20 pound mark plus a half a pound! So, 20.5 lbs down in 3 weeks. I'm so happy I could just dance around! :cb: I can't SEE a huge difference but I can feel it in places. Things that used to bind and hurt don't anymore and I can actually get my hands comfortably into the pockets of my jeans! It's baby steps but I'm getting there. :cloud9:

Tonight is my night at Curves (and tomorrow) so I'll be visiting them. I'm just waiting until August 7 so I can get on that scale and blow them all away! They'll probably have some downer to say but who cares? It's working!

I don't know what happened to everyone else (although I know poor Debs is running her socks off! :tread: ). We're getting a little thin on the posts lately. :sorry: Where is everyone? :shrug: I miss everyone's reports and support!

Anyway, take care all and hang in there!

Alisha :hat:

07-25-2005, 02:24 PM
Alisha, I am soooooooooooooo proud of you and envious. To me 20.5 pounds sounds like 50 pouds. If I stepped on my scale and saw that I was 20.5 pounds lighter I'd jump around shaking my 20.5 pounds less behind!!!!!!!

I don't know what happened to the rest of the ladies, but I hope that they are all doing well. They'll probably post again soon.

I've got to do something about my large arms! I decided to wear a suit to church yesterday and I was pleasantly surprised at how loose the pants fit (yeah!!!), but the right arm of the jacket was snug. I've noticed this with several tops that I've worn lately. So today I'm going to begin more arm exercises in hope of reducing my arms. Do you have any suggestions? My husband an I are going to begin walking in the evenings. Maybe a few hand weights while walking might do the trick.

Hey, how do you access all those cute smilie faces?

I am going to a new gynecologist this Thursday to discuss my hormone imbalance, slightly enlarged thyroid, routine check up, and weight issues. I pray that I'll leave her office a new healthier woman.

I gotta get back logging my food intake because it's a good accountability strategy for me.

Well, time to unpack another box and figure out where to put all this "stuff" that I've accumulated over the last 23 years. The trash sounds good to me right about now :).

07-26-2005, 12:20 PM
Aww thanks for your support Healthy! I really appreciate it. :thanks: The woman at Curves certainly was no help (as I suspected). When I told her I'd hit the 20# mark she just went, "Oh, good." I might as well have been talking to my wet dishrag for all the inspiration she gave me. :mad: Oh well. No skin off my nose - just fat off my body. :D

I don't weigh again until Wednesday (officially) but so far I'm down another 2lbs. :cp: I still haven't cheated and I'm doing the Curves thing twice a week despite it all. :strong:

Oh the smilies... well if you click on Post Reply (not the quick one) you'll see the smilies on the right hand side. If you click on More, it will open a separate window with tons of them. :joker: Just put your cursor in the message where you want the smiley and click the smiley from the window and poof! :wizard: There ya go!

Are you right handed? It's a general rule of thumb that whatever hand you use the most (ie right handed) your body on that side will usually be slightly larger because you inadvertently use the muscles more. I'm left handed so my left fingers, arm, thigh and even foot are all slightly bigger than my right. :dizzy: I'm ambidextrous in a lot of things so I don't have a huge difference, but I can certainly tell. But don't worry! You just keep on losing and EVERYTHING you try on will be loosy goosy! :lol:

I hope that your appointment goes alright and that your doctor can help you feel better. Just hang in there. At least there's one thing that can be said: Your lifestyle has improved greatly so you're reaping many benefits besides the weight loss! :cb:

Take care and post when you can.

Alisha :hat:

07-26-2005, 03:27 PM
Hi, just joined last night. I am 59 years old and have 13 grandchildren. I live in Florida and have lost 45 pounds. I have about 25 to go. Been struggling with these last pounds for months. now. As I get older, it's harder to get off. :dizzy: I am on the WW plan - its a great plan.
Been looking for a good support group.
Have a great afternoon. :)

07-27-2005, 10:52 AM
Hi Sparklerose and welcome to the forum and our support group! It's lovely to have you here! :wave:

Weigh to go for losing 45lbs! :bravo: That's a tremendous achievement! We'll give you plenty of support so those last 25lbs will fly off! :angel:

You're from my neck of the woods - I'm in the Sunshine State too. :flow2: I've only been here for just under 7 months and there are times I swear I could sweat the rest of my weight off! Nevermind the humanity - Oh the HUMIDITY! :sorry:

I'm sure that you'll find that you receive a LOT of support here because you're doing WW. :yes: A lot of poeple on the forum have done or are doing that program. I tried it three different times but I just have too many old and difficult habits with food so the "everything in moderation" just didn't work for me. :no: I'm over the moon that it's working so well for you, though! Wow.. 45lbs.. what I wouldn't give! :hyper:

As for me.. well I'm only down 2.5lbs this week, which is kind of a bummer. However, I've finished my first month with a 23lbs loss so I guess I shouldn't grumble. :nono: It's very difficult to remind yourself that you can't have it gone overnight (although it sure as heck seems to have come on that way!!) Tomorrow and Friday are my Curves days so I'll be a good girl and go despite it all. :barf:

I hope this post finds everyone well. Take care.

Alisha :hat:

07-27-2005, 11:56 AM
Hi, just joined last night. I am 59 years old and have 13 grandchildren. I live in Florida and have lost 45 pounds. I have about 25 to go. Been struggling with these last pounds for months. now. As I get older, it's harder to get off. :dizzy: I am on the WW plan - its a great plan.
Been looking for a good support group.
Have a great afternoon. :)

What a blessing to be such a young woman with 59 grand babies!!! I'm looking forward to my daughter getting married and having "MY" first grandchild :lol:.

Wow 45 pounds, way to go Sparklerose :dancer: !!!

07-27-2005, 12:05 PM
Hey Alisha, thanks to helping me with the smilie faces :comp:, now I'm on a roll....

I still have not found the courage to step on my scale to see how much I weigh. I guess I won't have a choice tomorrow when I go to a new gynecologist. Oh, I dislike stepping on that dreaded scale. The only good thing is that several nurses have told me that I look smaller than the weight that's registering on the scale.

Alisha, I am right handed and you are right about everything being larger on my right side. I've been doing some arm exercises :cp: the last couple of days and I feel the aches and pains...soon I should see the benefits :cheer:.

Well off to run my errands. Everyone take care!

07-30-2005, 08:34 AM
Hi gang! Where is everyone? Vi? What are you stuck at the gym or the new neighbor?

We are moved in. Well we moved-I still have TONS of boxes to unpack. Going from a larger place to a smaller one has been a challenge.

I went back to work on the 25. :( I've spent a lot of time there this week. I am going in today-Saturday. I haven't done anything to get ready for the first week of school.

Went to the dr. because I needed a refill on my knee medication. I gained 20 lbs. since 2003. The dr. was not HAPPY! He might adjust my sythroid even if the levels say I'm in normal range.

He suggested eating less carbs and more protein. AHHHHHHHHHH. I won't go Atkins or South Beach--I'll just limit my carb intake. That is going to be hard-but I will do it and I must do it!

I am going to stop by Curves on my way to work and see if they transfered my membership. I haven't gone since the first week of July. That sucks!

Everyone have a great day!


07-30-2005, 05:39 PM
My family and I went to Universal Studios yesterday, in all that heat, and had a good time. I believe that after 5 hours of walking around I have sweat off 50 pounds :D :D. Wouldn't that be nice.

I woke up this morning with everything hurting after that work out yesterday :cb:, but I feel good.

How is everyone doing?

08-02-2005, 01:13 PM
How are you ladies doing?

08-04-2005, 10:20 AM
I'm sorry folks - I didn't mean to leave you hanging! :o I do most of my posting at work and our internet has been down from last Thursday until yesterday morning. :tantrum: Needless to say I was busy playing 'catch up' and couldn't do a lot of recreational anything! :censored:

So Debs! It's great to hear from you! :flow1: I can imagine the frustration of trying to condense everything to fit into your new home, but I always look at it as a great opportunity to throw out things that I really don't need. I'm down to bare bones now, especially after moving from England, but it feels good. :hyper: Although my flat in England was a pretty good size, there was just NO storage for anything. :no: I had ONE closet and that was packed to the hilt with plastic storage containers full of photographs, sewing stuff, my cats' carrier boxes and the like. After living that way for 4 years (in that flat) I had had enough with clutter. :yes: My apartment here is practically Japanese minimalist! :rofl: Anyway, don't worry - you'll find a place for your things - it will just take some time and patience. Hang in there! We're with you all the way. :goodluck: It's just great to have you back. :cp: Things are getting a little empty in here. :(

Healthy dear! I'm sorry I left you in the lurch there. :sorry: Stupid Verizon! :mad: I'm glad to hear that your arm exercises seem to be working for you. :workout: My upper body strength is about nil but I'm trying to work on it. I work extra hard on the arm machines at Curves and it's nice when I can feel that they're doing something. You went to Universal Studios in this heat? :flow2: Oh my, I bet you weigh all of about 10lbs now! :D I just step outside and I break out in instant perspiration! I've never dealt really well with humidity, but here I am anyway! :cool:

Let's see... other than downed lines and internet, what can I tell you all... Well, I only went to Curves one day last week. :nono: I went Thursday and had intended to go on Friday but I had to wait for the UPS guy to deliver a package Friday. He came about 6:00pm and, even though I still could have gone, I honestly couldn't get the energy to do it. :yawn: I know.. shameful. :o I should've gone Saturday but I had a headache and I didn't even get out of bed. SO... I'm going tonight and I'll have to go on Saturday. :rolleyes: I'm going to the Vans Warped Tour all day tomorrow (hello SUN!) and I've been looking forward to it for months! :cb: Saturday it is then.

Despite my downfall, I lost 4lbs this week. :cloud9: I'm edging towards a 30 lbs loss and it's driving me nuts to get there. Isn't that absurd? :dizzy: I have another 123lbs to lose and I'm worried about hitting 30lbs like it's some huge thing! I mean it is, but it isn't you know? :dunno: I guess we always want more, huh?

Anyway, I hope this post finds everyone well. I'm also going to use it as a swift kick in the booty for each and every one of you to post! :kickcan: Our group has slid down to page 2!! How pathetic! We need each other so let's at least try to set aside 5 mins a day to write and at least say hi. :wave: No one has to write novels :write: but a general how you're doing would be great. :crazy:

Take care everyone. :balloons:

Alisha :hat:

08-09-2005, 10:01 PM
Hello everyone.

Alisha congrats on reaching the 30 pound marker since you last post :). I just know that you've done it.

Guess what? I've lost 8 pounds!!!!!!!!!! It was a pleasant surprise to step on the scale at the doctor's office and not see the nurse adjust the scales so much towards the right. I attribute my weightloss to my exercise program. I've even noticed a reduction in my arms. Shirts that use to cut off the circulation in my arms are now becoming loose.

Like you Alisha I'm happy with the 8 pounds, but I'll be ecstatic when I reach the 50 pound that's 42 more to go. Let me get on my recumbent bike...maybe I can sweat off another 2 pounds :).

08-11-2005, 12:54 PM
Hey Healthy! It's nice to finally be able to post! Our stupid DSL went down yet again at work and it's caused no end of trouble! The bugger better stay up now or I swear I'm going to rip it off the wall! :devil:

Well, I didn't hit the 30lbs mark as I had hoped. :no: I had a slip-up and I'm not happy! :( I went to that all day music festival last Friday... well suffice to say, I ended up in the first aid tent about 7:30pm that night from heat exhaustion! :hot: I was so good too! I took my shakes with me and drank them and water all day. :angel: What I didn't do was drink Gatorade. I should have because I was sweating so much that my electrolytes got depleted and caused a near tachia cardic (sp?) episode! :faint: Stupid me, but I didn't want the sugar. Anyway, I slept most of Saturday but Sunday - oh jeeze I was SO hungry! :yikes: I had shakes and pickles and bouillon but I still could have eaten my own foot! :foot: After four hours of arguing with myself, I finally ended up going to Burger King! :fr: It just looked so good on TV! :burger: Well, I ended up throwing most of it away because it didn't taste very good and made me feel unwell. :barf: My stomach bloated and I couldn't even sleep during the night because I felt so gross! :ink:

I still managed a 1lb loss this week :spin: but I'm very disappointed that I did that or I'd probably have hit the 30lbs mark. Oh well. What's done is done. :dunno: I went right back on my program and realized what a foolish thing I did. :o I'm almost glad, in a way, that I did it because it reminded me that although these things LOOK good on TV, they really taste nothing like you expect them to. :no: It also reminded me what horrible things they do to your body! :tied: So, back on track with a view to hitting 30lbs by next Wednesday morning. :goodscale

So besides me, how are you doing? You had an 8 lb loss! :cb: My LIFE how amazing is that?? You must be very proud of yourself! :D I'm sure proud of you! Weigh to GO GO GO! :bravo: You're doing everything right and your results show you that you are! Just keep the faith and if you feel like having a cheat, just remember my little "indiscretion" and maybe that will keep you from the no-no food. :nono: You hang in there and let me know how you're doing!

As far as the rest of you... well, I hope everything is going alright. This thread has pretty much dwindled down to nothing and I'm pretty sad about that. :cry: Nevertheless, I hope that everyone is well and that the scale is moving in a steady downward direction.

Take care all.

Alisha :hat:

08-11-2005, 02:20 PM
Alisha it is sad that this thread has dwindled.

Please do not beat yourself up about having a few bites of Burger King food. You are doing excellent :) . Let's look at the have lost a lot of weight :cheer: , have made some postive lifestyle changes, exercising :tread: , and although the burger wasn't appetizing you have gotten that out of your system and moved forward. Would you have done that in the past? I don't know about you, but with me I would have gone from Burger King, to chips, pretzels, Subway tuna sandwich, cookies, cookies, would have been like a snowball and all the time I would be saying, "oh, well...I'll just start my diet tomorrow! :lol: ".

You are awesome :bravo: !

I am back to modifying my eating. Lately I've eaten some foods that have triggered my IBS so I MUST get back to eating correctly. I look forward to getting on my recumbent bike tonight since I didn't yesterday.

I was reading a Curve magazine at the doctor's office today and I'm going to try to remain at 1400 calories a day. There were some really inspirational stories and pictures of women, just like myself, who lost an amazing amount of weight. What I have heard about Curves is that many of the women begin to bond and encourage each other? Is this true or just a publicity tactic? There is a Curves across the street from me...maybe I need to check it out. May I ask how much should I expect to spend to join? My local YMCA is fairly reasonable, although higher than what it costed us in Texas, but I think I need a facility that's all women. Some of those co-ed places are just a place for men to pick up women and visa versa :dancer: . Also, seeing those petite women in those cute, but skimpy outfits does nothing for my ego :D as I'm sweating off those calories :tread: in sweat pants and my husband's old tee shirt :lol:.

Hopefully other women will begin posting again. If not I might just start sending you PM.

Stay cool :cool:.