South Beach Diet - Getting Married On The Beach!!!

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06-09-2005, 03:20 PM
I am trying to lose weight for my wedding, April 8th, 2006, and I was wondering if there are any other SBDers out there trying to lose weight for a wedding too...or that has recently gotten married. I'm looking for some buddies to discuss wedding and weight loss with!

06-09-2005, 08:02 PM
I am getting married September 9, 2006 and yup - want to be at goal by March so I can start looking for a dress :)

06-09-2005, 09:06 PM
I am getting married october of 07 :) and yes i want to be nice and fit :)

06-09-2005, 11:56 PM
I've been married for over 5 years, but I'm going to be in a wedding in August and one in May. My other friend just recently got engaged too, but I think they are going to have a LONG engagement while finishing up college. But needless to say, I will be in the weddings and I want to look good too dang it! It's not why I'm on the diet, but it helps me if I have those types of goals. ;) I also wanted to say CONGRATULATIONS to all the brides! You'll have the time of your lives! Enjoy being pampered and the center of attention! :queen:

06-10-2005, 09:34 AM
Wedding date of May 20, 2006. Let's get toning ladies!

06-10-2005, 10:14 AM
Oh Great! I am glad there are so many girls on here that are in the same situation!
Jenne: I want to be at my goal by November or December (and keep it through the holidays!) but I really have until about March to get there. I think I can lose another 30 or 40 pounds in 10 months no problem if I work for it.
Angelshine: Wow, that's a long engagement. We will have had a long engagement too. We got engaged on the 4th of July, 2004, so We will have been engaged almost 2 years when we get married April 8th. My daddy requested that I finish college first before the wedding so he's not paying for both at the same time. I didn't fight that!
Sadie: those pictures are awesome! You kind of look like my sorority sister Beth! :)
All: What colors and flowers are you all thinking about doing? Do you have any dresses in mind? I'm waiting as long as I can for the dress so I can be as skinny as possible! lol.

06-10-2005, 11:42 AM
yeah we got engaged 2 years ago..we live together...and are waiting till i graduate next year..and ofcourse the money issue! we aren't in a rush :)

06-10-2005, 11:47 AM
angelshine: Your situation is very similar to ours. We are waiting until I am done with Grad school. I'm working on my MBA right now. Fun Fun.

06-10-2005, 12:27 PM
We haven't gotten all that far in out planning. We are going to get married in ME and I've never been there (it's where she's from). So once we get up there this August, I'll be able to tell. I don't think, since we aren't traditional to begin with, that we'll do an expensive wedding (since she doesn't really talk to her dad and mine probably won't come, we are paying for it all ourselves). I want the ceremony by the beach and then maybe a KoC hall and catered dinner with a DJ? I have no clue.

It's hard enough planning a wedding but we have some tinkering to do - like finding someone to officiate...

Colors will be pinks (two brides, how fitting no?) -- flowers like these

Holly Marie
06-10-2005, 12:53 PM
Hi Jen,

Here's another bride to join you on the beach! I am getting married on June 18, 2006. I want to lose about 80 lbs over the course of the next year to fit into a wedding dress I already have... it is going to take tons of hard work!!!

We are having a garden wedding and reception. Our colours are going to be pink, mint green and white. We have also hired a classical trio for the ceremony and then are switching to a jazz trio for the reception. The only pain about an outdoor wedding is having to rent and bring everything in... that's the only part I am not looking forward to. Hopefully it won't rain!!!

Good-luck on the beach!


06-10-2005, 01:08 PM
Oh wow Jenne, that's very Interesting. I bet it will be difficult to find an officiant. Good luck with that! I am a little worried about that for us because Lar and I are living together, but I think I mentioned that before.
Holly: Our wedding dates are so close! Where do you live? Are you worried about rain?

Holly Marie
06-13-2005, 11:35 PM
Hi Jen,

Oddly enough I am not overly stressing about the rain factor... I am more worried about wind, lightening and thunder... those are the only things that can sabotage the wedding plans completely. We have made arrangements for a tent to be put up in case of inclement weather. Dave (Groom) says he is getting married outside no matter what the weather is like. He says people can watch us celebrate from their cars if they like. I am desperately hoping that the weather will be nice and sunny... but not too hot!

Obviously having an outdoor wedding is a huge risk... but we both fell in love wit h the place (and the people who run it) that we thought is was a risk worth taking.

Where are you getting married? Fill me in on some of the exciting details!!!!

I live in Pickering, Ontario... in Canada.

Looking forward to chatting anout weddings and the beach!


p.s how long have you been on the beach? What phase are you in?

06-14-2005, 10:24 AM
Great! Lots of questions! I'm excited too!
1) We are trying to get a non-denominational Church that's really close to our reception hall to let us get married there, but I haven't heard back from them yet. (We live together - since 5 months after we got engaged, and I'm not sure if that is going to cause problems with getting married in a church...) Larry (Groom) wants to get married outside too, so if we don't get this church, that's our next choice. I love Dave's take on the rain issue! That is so what my Larry would say.
2) We live about 30 minutes north of Saint Louis, Missouri. I went to Bemidgi (sp?), Minnesota one summer, but that's about as far north as I've been.
3) This is my 2nd go around on the beach, and I re-started Christmas 2004. I am currently trying to do phase 2, but it ends up being a cross between phase 3 cheating and phase 1 catch up. I do phase 1 during the day, and whatever is available for dinner. bad bad. I have lost 31 pounds with this route though. Some weeks, I will do a strict phase 1.5, and then I lose, but then I get on week plateaus where I am not paying enough attention to what I eat. I want to lose another 30 or so pounds by the wedding. Ultimately, I'd like to be around 125-135 range, but 145 will definitely do. Larry and I plan on having kids fairly quickly after the wedding, so I at least want to be at or below the 150's before I get pregnant!
Well, nice talking to you. I need to get to work! I am on here all day long at work, so talk to you soon!

06-14-2005, 11:04 AM
Well, we've decided to walk down the aisle together -- that way the attention is on BOTH of us at the same time. I also think we've decided to forgo the expensive wedding dresses. Since it will just barely be fall, we may do something like a bridesmaid's dress (the 2 pieces to choose from) or something similar. We can't afford to spend $500+ a piece on dresses, you know?

I am sure we'll come up with something.

Where are you all Honeymooning? We WANT Hawaii, but it depends on the cost and if my friend can help us with a deal! The tropics in September will be hurricane weather so that's out...

And what are you doing for favors? We need ideas! :)

06-14-2005, 11:13 AM
Hey Jenn,
For our honeymoon, We won a 3 day trip to the Bahama's, but we really want to go to Jamaica. We might do the 3 days in the Bahamas and then fly to Jamaica from there...(I have no idea yet) Have you checked out David's Bridal? You can get dresses there for $99 each. They are awesome there. Check them out at I have no idea on favors yet. There are great sites on the internet for ideas though. My favorite wedding site so far is You have to register, but its free. The site is like your free personal wedding planner. It tells you everything you need to have done that month, etc. And you can save all of the dresses you like there, enter in your guest list, plan out seating, etc.

06-14-2005, 11:31 AM
Jen thanks! I did visit the website but it doesn't show the kinds of dresses for $99. There is one in MD we may check out in the fall (I think they do the $99 sale 2x a year). I just wonder how many dresses will be less than $250 -- which is all we can afford to pay, you know?

The one I like on David's Bridal is about $900 :)

06-14-2005, 11:39 AM
Jenn - You should also see if there are any bridal gown rental shops around. I am very short and I rented a tea length gown (I think it was a size 20) for my second wedding. It was really pretty and only about a hundred for a gown that retailed around a thousand. I do have two gowns in my closet from my first and third marriages that were made especially for me but I don't know why I keep them since my son sure isn't going to wear them! The last one was a powder blue and really pretty. I bet it hangs on me now. But I'd love to try the one on from when I was 19 and see how I have changed in size. ;)

06-14-2005, 11:44 AM
Barb, that's a great idea. I haven't even thought about that for myself. I don't know why so many women buy dresses that they will only wear once. Plus, everyone knows that the daughters will want to pick out their own new dress anyway. Styles change sooo much. I don't want a dress with the puffy shoulders, like the ones that were in style when my mom and dad got married, lol. I am going strapless...

06-14-2005, 11:55 AM
Rental shops. Now that's something!!!

Thanks Barb. We'll check. I am flying to Maine in August so we'll have more of an idea then!

Jen thanks for pointing out THE KNOT to me. It's great (although not gay user friendly :lol: )

06-14-2005, 02:23 PM
Jenn, you are so right about the knot not being gay user friendly, but when it comes to a place that has every dress imagineable and a great search engine for them, the Knot is it! :)

I found my dress on the Knot, then called around to see what prices I could get at different places. Found mine at a discount bridal store...they got it for me at about $400 less than the retail price. :)

Good luck with the dress hunting, chickies! When you have them picked out, I, for one, would love to see! :love:

06-14-2005, 05:08 PM
Ladies, look for Bridal Shops with basements! Seriously! One of my clients owned a bridal shop here locally and after she sold it to her assistant, she gave me the tip of digging through the basement. It is absolutely loaded with dresses, organized by size, that all are $100! They're not 80s styles or anything over the top like that either.

06-14-2005, 07:04 PM
Jen, I just read the first page...hon, if you and HB really don't want to wear the traditional wedding dresses, that's fine. But if you aren't doing it because of cost, definitely look around. I know there are lots of places to get a dress at a much lower cost. You can definitely do it if you want to. :yes: :grouphug:

06-14-2005, 11:55 PM
Thanks girls

I bought her a ring tonight. I am a control freak. Even though a part of me wants to be proposed to, I want to suprise her.

I was going to take her to Disney (her favorite place on earth --aside from wherever I am) but can't afford it between the wedding and the ring...

So when we go to Maine in August I am going to do it.

SUPRISE! So, shhhh! ;)

Sheba's Mom
06-15-2005, 01:06 AM
My hubby and I got married 3 years ago and I have to tell you I loved The Knot. It was so much help. I picked out the dress style I wanted and the had it look for large size wedding dress shops in my area. It was a god send for me when I was planning my wedding.

We were also on a very limited budget. As far as favors we took tulle (sp?) that I found on sale and then make up little bags of hershey hugs and kisses with a little strip of paper tying it all together that said "Hugs and Kisses from Roy and Karla and our wedding date" on it. Everyone really seamed to enjoy them.

Our decoration theme was teddy bears. Even our invitation had a bride and groom teddy bear on it. I watched all of the sales and hit the dollar stores alot. It is amazing what you can get at the dollar store and then add a few flowers or ribbon and make something fabulous. I also watched for the craft store sales in July and at Christmas and got most of the ribbon, tulle and flowers for about 1/2-3/4 the cost of the original price.

Our pew decorations were a bride and groom teddy bears in a swing. My hubby is an advid woodworker and he made the swings out of junk lumber he found at construciton sights. Got the bears at the dollar store, hot glued a little tulle on the bride bear to look like a veil and one flower from a bunch in her hand and then we put a top hat on the groom bear and gold ring in one hand. Did basically the same bears for our table center pieces and then just sprinkled the table with glittery hearts. I think when we were all done each bear cost us about $2.50 and the swings cost about $1.00 each. When we were through with everything we offered each or the attendants a set of bears and then donated what was left to one of charies in the area.

You all have lots of time if I remember your dates correctly. The biggest thing for us was to pick a theme and then stay with it. What really set our theme for us was when we went and looked for invitations. I think we spent 3-4 hours going through the books and when we came to the teddy bear one we quit looking. It was the right one.

Good luck to all of you!!!!

Airmans Angel
06-15-2005, 12:04 PM
Hey girls congratulations on your upcoming weddings, I adore them and also like helping plan! My older sister got married two years ago in August. I thought I could help a little by sharing what they used for favors and etc.

Dress: She went gown shopping and picked two places she liked, they both had summer style dresses on clearance since they were getting ready to bring in the fall dresses, so try and shop between seasons, she then used her barganing skills to bargain between the two saying the other was higher but they did offer pressings and etc, so eventually the cheaper one had threw in two pressings with the sale price of the dress. She save over 4 hundred on the dress by hitting the sales between seasons and bargaining. Small bridal shops strive in competition so you would be suprised how much you can save. Also one more thing go to places that have an open show room where you can try on any dress and a lot of times they have spots of dirt on the trains and stuff from trying them on they sale those dirt cheap and you can get it dry cleaned way less then paying full price.

Rice/Birdseed: They had to use birdseed by the churches request so be sure to ask! They made satin roses and put the birdseed in them, they put the rosses in a big basket on the steps leaving the church, guest could pick them up as they went outside. All the guest had to do was thrust them toward the bride&groom/bride&bride and the seed came out very easy and were easy to fold back up so you could keep the satin rose! These were very cute, you can order them in any color online but my mom and myself made these! The directions can be found online as well went to a discount fabric store and bought satin fabric in the color for $10.00 for a big bulk of it. Something I thought some of you may like!

Favors: My sister had cd's made of their favorite love songs etc, she got hers off of ebay, they do the cd, the cd label and cases and its really cheap. However it can get cheaper if you have the time and things to do it with at home! Burnable cd's are cheap I think at most 12 dollars for 50-60 at BigLots or Wal-Mart. Burn your own and they have the program to make cd labels and case covers as well. Only downside would be the time and I know brides are busy, so if you have computer savy cousins, nieces, nephews etc con them into doing it!

Also for favors try going to the dollar tree someone mentioned this earlier they have lots of wedding stuff! Believe it or not, I saw it their yesterday, they have white garters, favor boxes if you decide to do candy! Place cards, tule and lots of ribbon, the down the street from me has all this and bubbles and bells. My sister-in-law bought silver picture frames from their as their favors they printed out a piece of paper that had ""thanks for sharing our special day" etc and it was noted at the bottom the paper can be removed and used as a picture frame. The were very elegant looking all set up on a table for the guest to pick up, wal-mart and party city always have marked down wedding stuff so check them out.

Decorations: Opt to make all the bows and things yourselfs! Except the bouquet/s I think those should be made for you! Bows are so easy to make thousands of insturctions online and also at craft stores like Michales they will have classes or someone would be glad to show you how. These places also have sales on flowers all the time if you would like to use artificial to save money. Center pieces get a simple glass vase add some clear pepples or colored if you can find a matching color in the bottom fill with water and add the flowers, around it add small little glass votive candle holders with tea lights or votives depending on how much light you want, this would look very nice with dim lights, also table clothes can be very expensive!!!! Trust me my sister spent a lot of money on them! My sister-in-law did something very smart she went to plejs (if you have ever been their then you know they have sales on things like this constantly and you get this stuff soooooo cheap) she got sheets plain white sheets, she then dyed them sage green with store bought dye, and had white china (rented) wine glasses they could take home (dollar trees) and the vases with pepples described before with different color pink flowers and mixed green vines and ivy in with it, had clear votives and pink candles inside them. This was beautiful!! Everyone was talking about how nice it was.

I think thats all I can think of for now if their is something else then I will post it for you girls. I hope this might have gave you some ideas to consider. Again congrats on your weddings.

06-22-2005, 12:59 PM
Here's the ring. I get it today. Deciding when to officially pop the question!!! UGH!!!

Here are the options, opinions?

(thanks Laurie, already!)

1-ask her on the plane/in the airport on the way to Maine in August when we go to look at prospective places. Complete on bended knee. That way she has the ring to show her parents and it will be tough for her to run away :lol:

2-Plan to meet her in DC (say I have a meeting that morning or something) at Caribou Coffee, since it's our place, earlier like in mid-July. I first fell for her on our daily trips there before the work board meeting. I told her I wanted to serve Caribou at our wedding Sit outside, her with her darned steamed milk and me with a coffee and get down on one knee on the sidewalk in front of everyone and do it.

3-We're planning on going camping July 4th weekend. It's her most favorite thing to do. I can do it the first night, after dinner and under the stars. Romantic and such.

4-I took her to see the Cherry Blossoms this year. She said it was the single most nicest thing anyone has ever done for her (she casually mentioned it and I made it happen, despite many obstacles). I can bring her back to the Jefferson Memorial at night when it's not touristy crowded, and ask there as well.

My only thing is, we both want to be proposed to first. She doesn't have the means to ($ to get a ring). I don't want her to be upset that I am doing it first so I don't know if I should hold off...Plus, she's a private person so I don't know if the ones in public will work.

The more I think about it, the more I am torn between camping and the Jefferson Memorial. July 4th is soooo right around the corner!


06-22-2005, 01:00 PM
PS--Airman's Angel -- we're totally going to do CD's!!! Thanks for the idea! We've got 5 songs down already :)

06-22-2005, 01:05 PM
My Fiance proposed to me on the 4th of July. It was awesome. Will there be fireworks where you are camping? I think the best would be to propose right before the fireworks start. Now, everytime we watch fireworks, it reminds me of the day he proposed. I think that's perfect. I get butterflies just talking about it. Also, it's Independence Day, it brings it a whole new meaning.

06-22-2005, 01:07 PM
PS, that ring is very pretty. Mine is white gold too (or platinum, not sure). It has a round diamond in the center, with two little round diamonds on each side (so 5 all together). It's not huge, which is perfect because I have small hands.

06-22-2005, 01:27 PM
Jenn, WOW!!! HB is one seriously lucky girl...that ring is classic, gorgeous, and just lovely! :love: I don't think she'll ever want to 'trade up'...what a beautiful ring!!! :faint:

Love the fireworks thought...that's super-romantic!

I just heard the cutest sappy story and figured you brides-to-be would enjoy it. ;) My coworker went to a 50th anniversary party for her friends. She just found out that they kiss each other at 3:00 on their anniversary, because that was when they got married. This year, they kissed underneath a tree they planted on their 25th. Isn't that like something out of a novel? :love:

Silicon Andy
06-22-2005, 01:48 PM
Hey ladies!

Congratulations to all of you. Andy and I got married on July 10, 2004, so we're coming up on our first anniversary. Our wedding was in South Lake Tahoe, CA, and then we honeymooned in Ochos Rios, Jamaica.

It was a DIY affair b/c of our limited budget. We burned cds instead of having live musicians or a DJ, I made the invitations/save-the-dates, etc. We had cupcakes from Alberton's instead of the $500 cake, and I made the cupcake stand. There are about a zillion pictures at if anyone is interested.

I didn't do very well in losing weight before the wedding (I lost maybe 25 lbs, which I have since gained back), but I'm trying to lose weight now to help with some fertility issues (as well as just to look/feel better)!

The best advice I got was that you can save money in a lot of areas, but not to skimp on the photographer. Also, we didn't have a videographer (one of Andy's uncles was supposed to videotape, but didn't). That is probably my biggest regret, especially because I'd have liked to "see" our first dance!


06-22-2005, 01:53 PM
my daughter got married in November. She & her husband are Lance Armstrong fans. They donated to the Lance Armstrong Foundation and got enough yellow wrist bands for their guests. Everybody loved them and it was something different. They made cards with a little picture of them and a note explaining that they had donated to the foundation in honor of their attendance at the wedding. the cards were attached to the bands.

Watch out for the CD may be a copyright violation. I doubt that the feds will show up at your wedding and haul you off.

06-22-2005, 03:14 PM
Sarah! I'm looking at your photos right now... they are so beautiful, I'm almost in tears! :lol:
You're a lovely, lovely girl, and Andy looks like such a sweetheart. :)

06-22-2005, 03:19 PM
Jenn, I just saw the ring! It's gorgeous, hon! Pop the question NOW! :D

06-22-2005, 03:25 PM
Ellis!!! You aren't supposed to tell me that. It'll be hard enough to wait until the 4th!!!

Which is I guess when I will do it. Don't think there will be fireworks in EastBumbleBlank, VA, but who knows.

I just think a black sky, under the stars, or in our tent, would be nice :)

Silicon Andy
06-22-2005, 03:34 PM
Jenne--The tent would be great, or fireworks. Andy proposed on a bench at a site we were considering as a wedding location (I announced to him that we were getting married in the summer of 2004 and needed to look for locations and he could propose whenever). He tried to get me to take a walk on the beach so he could propose there, but I didn't want to get sand in my shoes (and didn't know WHY he wanted to walk on the beach), so he had to improvise. As long as what you say comes from your heart, it will be perfect!!

Ellis--thanks for the compliments--Andy is a great husband (most of the time). Tahoe is so beautiful it's hard not to get great photos there. You'd think after nearly a year I'd get tired of looking at the pictures, but I don't. :)

FAVORS--I made candles for the tables, but no one understood them to be favors, so most are in boxes somewhere at Andy's parents house. His step-mom also ordered personalized M&M's (didn't know you could do that) from the M&M website in our colors that said "Andy & Sarah, July 10, 2004." I don't remember if they fit all that one one candy or if some had names and others dates. Anyhow, they were kind of cool, and you could put them in any number of bags/boxes/containers. I also don't know how expensive they were, but you can get tons of colors even if you don't personalize them.

06-22-2005, 03:43 PM
Now I am in the mood for M&M's!!! :lol: and I don't like chocolate!

And your pictures are beautiful!!!

06-22-2005, 04:16 PM
You can actually mix your M&M's colors and see what they look like and everything...unfortunately, they are wicked expensive (or at least, they used to be...might be better now! I think they were something like $14 a pound or more? :?: )!

Here's the link:

06-22-2005, 04:20 PM
Oooh, I was looking around cute are these?

06-22-2005, 04:25 PM
Adorable but pricey :(

Now I really want M&M's, especially after such a crappy lunch (I had some Perdue Short Cuts chicken and half a 50% light cheddar brick that was, luckily, in the fridge here at work)...

06-22-2005, 04:34 PM
Look what I get into in 6 minutes!

I took $2 and ran down to the vending machine here at work. I stared at both those Peanut M&M's and plain chocolate ones.

I stepped aside and got a Diet Pepsi, then back to the snack machine.

I put my dollar in.

And instead of pressing f4 for peanut or f9 for chocolate, I pressed f7 for lightly salted peanuts...

I am proud. But there will be NO M&M favors at our reception. NO SIR E BOB!!!

06-22-2005, 04:40 PM
Sorry, Jenn! :o

M&M's are yummy, but they always give me a headache. :dizzy:

Think about the yumminess of a long, healthy life with HB instead. Do you have a yummy dinner planned? What you guys had the other night sounded fabulous!!!

06-22-2005, 04:59 PM
We bought ground turkey but used it for "spaghetti [squash] and [turkey] meat sauce" last week and it was horrible. Was going to make taco bake with it tonight but an afraid of wasting the ingredients is we don't like the turkey!

I may go pick up Boca burgers and mustard (we're out) on the way home tonight anyway :lol:

06-22-2005, 05:53 PM
Boca burgers sounds good!

I bet you might like the turkey in the taco could try cooking it with a bunch of taco spices and see if it's any better. It's definitely an acquired taste... 95% lean beef might be better for you and tastier. :?:

I'm so proud of you for just getting peanuts, Jenn! :bravo: Good for you!!! Hey, at the reception, you'll already be fitting in your dress, so M&Ms could be long as someone else puts the favors together. :lol:

06-22-2005, 06:14 PM
:lol: Laurie!

06-23-2005, 10:47 AM
Another post from me.

Picked up the ring this AM. There is no way I am goin to be able to wait until August! I was worried about buying the ring online but it's gorgeous!!!! Bigger than I thought (considering it's only .35 carats) and more sparkly :)

I've decided, when I just showed a coworker (the only woman here who I like and who doesn't care that I am gay and isn't a boy--like my dept. is full of), that I am going to pop the question the July 4th camping weekend...

06-23-2005, 11:46 AM
Jenn, I'm so excited for you! I can't wait to hear the story!!! :D

The one thing I regretted was that DH and I didn't take a pic of us right after we got engaged...wish we'd had a camera handy!

I'm so glad you have a friend at work to share your news with! :) Can you tell your other friends or would they be likely to spill the beans to HB?

DH laughed at me because I kept staring at my ring when I got was SO sparkly and I couldn't keep my eyes off it! :lol:

06-23-2005, 12:03 PM
My other friends are kinda far away. The ones here in DC I've told, but they aren't here NOW to show!!!

There WILL be a camera, don't worry. I'd like to sneak her video camera (if I can figure out how to use it) on the trip too. We're buying a CD burner for the wedding CD's -- she also wants to make movies. This would make a NICE first one :)

Silicon Andy
06-23-2005, 02:16 PM
Jenn--HOW EXCITING! I'm looking foward to hearing "the story" once you've popped the question!

The funniest thing after we got engaged was that NO ONE was home when I tried to call to share the news. Seriously. I tried all my siblings, my mother, my grandparents, my best friend--NO ONE answered the phone. It was really frustrating! We were in Tahoe at the time, and my cell phone didn't work at the house where we were staying, so I was trying to fit in all my calls while we were at the grocery store.