Goal! - Here It Is! My Big Weight Loss Secret!!!




MrsJim
03-31-2004, 09:57 PM
Okay, I knew you'd look! :lol:

The truth is, I get PMs asking 'what my secret was to lose the weight' often. I'm sure I'm not the only one...and thus, this post.

"What's your secret?"

"Did you use diet pills?"

"Can you tell me how to do it?"

Well...the big secret is...there is no secret.

I remember watching an Oprah video that she released in conjunction with "Make the Connection" back in 1995 or thereabouts. She said something that stuck with me and RESONATED. Okay, I can't quote it WORD for WORD, but basically she was talking about the Majic Pill. Paraphrasing here: "If there was a magic pill to melt off the fat, I would have it. I would take all my money, I would go to the mountain and buy the potion. I would have it. I would have it."

But as Oprah said...there IS no potion. Proof of that are the many, many famous, fabulously rich people who have everything yet still struggle with their weight. Who comes to mind? Oprah...Anna Nicole Smith...Liz Taylor...Kirstie Alley...et cetera. If there was a majic pill, they would have it. (BTW, I'm sure that ANS' recent weight loss is strictly temporary, based on recent interviews where she claimed not to exercise or eat healthfully - she just 'stopped eating' which means a binge is likely imminent IMO.)

As Dr. Phil so wisely said in his recent best-selling book, obesity and overweight cannot be CURED, they can only be MANAGED. We ALL have the propensity to put on the pounds - it's part of our genetics, since we didn't always sit on our butts in front of a computer, then come home and watch TV and eat pre-prepared food. I'm just one generation away from farmers (Dad's side) and coal miners (Mom's side) who did hard manual labor 12 hours a day, came home, did chores around the house and sat down to dinner. And 'dinner' didn't mean going to the store and picking up something to toss in the microwave or even the electric or gas oven. For both my parents growing up, dinner and other meals meant fattening up and butchering their own meat, planting, growing and gathering their own vegetables and fruits, grinding their wheat and rye into flour, chopping wood for the stove that cooked their food (well in my Dad's case anyway...they were pretty much dirt poor). Preparing a meal was a HUGE job back then. (If you got a chance to see it, or can check it out of the library - PBS did a show called "Frontier House" that shows exactly how much work was involved without electricity or any of the modern conveniences...I'm waiting to see "1940's House" which is coming up soon...)

And the meals were not loaded with sugar either. As my Dad never tires of telling me, sugar was a luxury for them - one of the only things they actually purchased at the store (salt was the other one). Even the desserts such as pies and cakes had relatively little sugar in them in comparision to what we're used to these days.

Anyway...flash forward to the 1950's, the advent of TV, and our GI's back from WWII who were accustomed to eating K-Rations - the early fast food - bland, easy to eat, and with more sugar and fat than 'regular food' to sustain our troops. McDonald's opened their first restaurant in San Bernardino with the bland, cheap, fast food, Ray Kroc stumbled across the store when he was selling milk shake machines, and the rest is history...

Flash forward again to today...2004...most everyone works behind a desk or in a job which requires little manual labor. We're surrounded by cheap, high-calorie food. Thanks to the development of high-fructose corn syrup, it is no longer a luxury to have sweet, sugary food. After work, many of us go and sit in front of the Tee Vee or computer.

And meanwhile, the epidemic of obesity overwhelms us. :(

The secret??? Hard work and persistence kept our grandparents lean...they didn't think about it, work was just part of their day, hard manual labor. Now, we need to do what Dr. Phil calls "Intentional Exercise". And food - our grandparents weren't surrounded by Krispy Kreme donuts and cookies and baskets of candy in their workplaces. It's up to us to be STRONG and resist the temptations placed in our path, and not become The Human Garbage Disposal 'because it's there' to be gobbled up in a few seconds and forgotten a minute later.

Basically, you just have to decide what's more important - a momentary pleasure of sugar and fat or lifelong good health?

I posted the following earlier this week at the Ladies Who Lift forum on our weekly thread in response to a post there:

[Willingness to do the work] - that's the BIG secret of losing the weight for real. It's not a book or a program or a plan or anything like that, although there are tools that can aid you on your path.

It's WORK. Yup, there's nothing 'easy' or 'effortless' about weight loss, especially when you have a buttload of weight to lose - despite the marketers and advertisers who would have us believe otherwise (as long as you buy their miracle product!). I was there too, so I know, believe me, I remember. It's like someone handing you a teaspoon and a cup, pointing at Mt. Everest, and saying "move this mountain using only this spoon and cup" when you have 100 pounds or more to lose.

I was/am a big fan of Laura Ingalls Wilder and I always remember something her Pa said in one of the Little House Books - I think it was "The Long Winter" when he was digging up the sod for the first time: (paraphrasing here) "Rome wasn't built in a day, nor is anything else worth having".

Nope, losing a lot of weight and (more importantly) keeping it off for good isn't easy, but believe me, it CAN be done - through hard work and (oh yeah) PERSISTENCE! Jeez, I almost forgot about PERSISTENCE...ai yi yi.

And as any of us who have lost a great deal of weight and kept it off can tell you - it's hard work, it takes effort (especially with all the temptations surrounding us these days!) but dang - the rewards are SO RICH. Kind of reminds me of the women I know who've had kids. They've gone through the pain of childbirth (Bill Cosby quoting Carol Burnett on childbirth pain: "Take your lower lip and pull it over your forehead" ), but once their tender new bundle is delivered safe in their arms, the pain is forgotten (I haven't ever given birth myself, but I have three sisters who are all moms plus dozens of friends who are also moms).

I'd also like to recommend (if I haven't already) a little paperback book titled "Diary of a Fat Housewife" by Rosemary Green. (get the paperback rather than the hardcover - it's much more up to date - you should be able to find it pretty cheap at half.com) Rosemary went through the same sort of fat **** and wrote about it at length in her diary. She did eventually get to her goal weight of 135 (and I've heard that she's still at her goal weight after 8 years of maintaining!) and had some terrific insights at the end of the book (I do admit that sometimes during the diary itself she drives me nuts...). Just a must read, IMO - although keep in mind that it is NOT a diet book.

Just don't give up - keep learning and reading and WORKING HARD and you CAN do this! It's not an insurmoutable goal!

A friend of mine, Kristi Larsen, is a certified personal instructor and has done a heckuva lot of research on nutrition and exercise in weight training. (If you don't know who she is, she has a website at www.kristilarsen.com with a ton of info and her journal - you can also subscribe to her e-newsletter as well).

This article is from her latest newsletter...


The Importance of NUTRITION For Looking Your Best
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Take a look around next time you are in the gym. How many people are pushing huge amounts of weight or running like mad on the treadmills and their bodies seem to always stay the same? The reason a lot of them have not seen a change is because they have not realized how important proper diet is. It's difficult to believe (especially considering the media's influence on diet and exercise) that fat loss is 80% your eating and 20% exercise- give or take a little either way.

Don't make the mistake of thinking there is a diet plan made for you out there and all you have to do is find it. Stop buying bodybuilding, health and fitness magazines looking for the secret diet or training program that will change your life forever.

Those who strive for a stellar physique are continually experimenting with their bodies. Each and every body is different and will respond (or fail to respond) to training and diet in a unique way. What is overtraining for one, is not for another. One may have phenomenal success with a low-carb diet, whereas, another might have minimal results. One person may be able to attain 7% bodyfat with little to no cardio training, when his friend might require two cardio sessions per day to achieve that same body composition. No one said it was fair. But that is reality. In fact, two people with the exact same body composition will not necessarily respond the same to diet and training protocols, and supplementation the same way. To get the results you desire, you MUST customize your program to your body.

"99 percent of the human population are lazy *******s! And 99 percent of the fitness industry plays to this strength." ~Jacob Wilson

Honestly, if you are tired of being overweight and "soft," or if you desperately just want to develop your "six pack," then you must educate yourself and get serious about changing your body. It has to become a priority in your life (at least until you reach your goal). There are no quick fixes, however if you use the right information, you will be able to make dramatic changes to your physical appearance in a very short period of time.

One of the best suggestions for customizing YOUR nutritional approach is to log every morsel you consume. Sounds like a hassle- and maybe it is- but if it got you to the body you desire, would it be worth the trouble? Logging your intake keeps you honest. The New England Journal of Medicine found that when people wrote down what they ate, they had UNDERESTIMATED on average by 1053 kcal/day. That is MAJOR!!!

Logging makes you aware of what you are putting into your mouth over the days/weeks/months (and it all adds up over time) and it just may clearly illustrate why you are not getting the results you expect. Your dietary log can be later used as a concrete tool to seek out professional dietary help.

You can start by logging all foods in Fitday (www.fitday.com) or Excel- especially in the beginning until you know everything by memory. By using a computer program to log your diet helps make sure you are getting the proper ratios of fat/carbs/protein.

Americans are fatter now than ever, even though more Americans are dieting now than ever and over 30 billion dollars per year is being spent on fat loss.

You can't buy fat loss with money. Only with hard work! Quite simply put, there is no easy way out!


"There should be nothing standing between you and your goal. Until you reach your desired body, you should be living, breathing and eating fat loss."
~Anthony Ellis

Summing up...finally... :) Nope, there's no Majic Pill or Potion out there. What magic there is is within each one of us. We ALL have the power inside us to lose the weight - it's in there waiting for us. There truly IS a lean person inside us waiting patiently to be released! Now it's up to each one of you to find her! (and nope, you don't have to pay $153 for it either!)


Wisertime
03-31-2004, 11:02 PM
Thank you Mrs Jim, I really enjoy reading your posts!

Lynn

diphthong
04-01-2004, 06:35 AM
I don't get it. JUST KIDDING! :lol:

You nailed it, Mrs. Jim. Thanks for the thought provoking message.

dip


Domina
04-01-2004, 05:35 PM
Thanks, Mrs. Jim. Those are some great points.

I think the TV has really hurt a lot of Americans because they are absolutely addicted to it. I gave up on TV years ago;it's all a bunch of junk. What happened? A friend asked me to go out with her and do something fun. I told her I couldn't because one of "my shows" was on the boob tube. Later I regretted not going with her and turned the stupid tube off!

Along with the TV comes junk food. For many people, TV-watching goes with eating (mostly foods that aren't good for you.)

I happen to enjoy food which caused me to have a weight problem several years ago. Now I'm approaching two years keeping my weight loss off. I feel so much better. I continue to watch my intake and I continue to exercise.

Thanks again for explaining that there's no magic pill!!

Jennifer 3FC
04-01-2004, 10:12 PM
Great Post!! Wonderful reading, ALL so true, and very uplifting. Thanks for sharing!!

GreatBigMonsterMomma
04-04-2004, 04:44 PM
It's always good to be reminded of what it really takes.

One of my favorite moments came during a prenatal appointment with my second daughter, when I mentioned to the doctor that I had lost 30 pounds between pregnancies. She asked me how I had done it. That moment is equalled only by the time, in my first pregnancy, when a doctor asked me how I'd gotten pregnant. ;) In both cases, I thought the answer was pretty obvious.

You know, there are magic pills. They are advertised online, in magazines, on the radio, & on TV. Of course, none of them actually work. I have found for myself that exercise feels good (I never really hated myself for being fat, but God I hated myself for being out of shape!) and "real" food tastes better anyway.

MissDiana72
04-15-2004, 03:17 AM
MrsJim, you are, for lack of a better word, *amazing!*

Thanks for such a great, inspirational piece--my eyes welled up with tears by its end. I joined the message board about 2 mos. ago and wanted to chime in with my own advice to the rest of the Board People.

In a way, I feel sorry for Anna Nicole Smith, because she seems so lost, attention-starved, and I can't even imagine the nutritional catastrophe going on inside her body at the moment. Someone with her kind of money could afford efficient personal trainers, access to state-of-the-art exercise equipment and the best, healthiest foods.

If there's one thing I'll recommend for 'quick weight loss' is RUNNING. 5 years ago I lost 50 lbs in about 3 1/2 mos. by eating low-fat foods, loads of protein and running 6x a week for about 30 min. Though I was never an athletic person, I started by walking around my Company's huge parking lot during breaks, then PowerWalking, gradually increasing the amount of time and speed. By the end of the 1st month I'd lost 10 full lbs. and was running 4 mi. in 40 min. By month #3, I was doing 5Ks.

I moved to Manhattan 2 yrs. ago and most of the weight came back, due to overeating stemming from anxiety and lack of places to run outside. Yes, I got lazy. I refused to run on a treadmill, because doing so was SO boring to me! There's just *something* about running out in the open air!
Anyhow, I am proud to say I have started running again, on a gym's treadmills and am regaining control of my weight. The weather's clearing up, Spring is here, and I'll be running out in a local park very soon. I've already dropped 8 lbs. in a month.

Thanks for your great message to everyone out there!

Diana

Leenie
04-15-2004, 02:19 PM
Okay so tell us your secret?

MrsJim
04-15-2004, 02:30 PM
Aw jeez youse guys! :)

I wanted to add this from our Meg. I came across this post she wrote this morning on the Support forum in a thread titled "Oh, I Wish This Was Easier...": http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39446

Meg's post is copied here for your reference...

If thereís anyone who can relate to what youíre saying, itís probably me. :) I walked the same road myself back in 2001 and 2002 and experienced all the same feelings that you talk about in your post. Youíre not kidding when you say that losing weight is hard work, but I want to tell you that itís so so worth it. From where you are now, you have a vision of what your lifeís going to be like at goal, right? A dream about how youíre going to look and how youíre going to feel?

OK, I want you to step into my skin for today and feel what itís like to be me. You with me? You see, I used to think it was all about how Iíd look when I got to 135 pounds. I never realized that the pay-off is how good I FEEL. So if you can walk around in my (sweaty gym) shoes for one day, I guarantee that nothing in this world will stop you from losing the rest of the weight.

Here we go!

Itís 4:30 AM and I wake up before the alarm, bursting with energy. I need a lot less sleep now than I did 122 pounds ago. I never dreamed that I could feel so good! The first thing that goes through my mind every day is ó woo hoo! I did it! Iím not fat anymore! To me now, every morning is Christmas morning; every day is the best day of my life. :D

I jump out of bed, make coffee, and throw on my gym clothes. Thatís a huge change from before, when I was allergic to exercise. :lol: Iím at the gym when it opens and do my cardio for the day, listening to music with a great beat. I notice how much faster and more intensely I can go now than when I was heavy and every day I try to do a little more than the day before. That endorphin rush is a great way to start the day ó Iím always so jazzed when I walk out of the gym. :hyper:

Back home to breakfast: oatmeal and chocolate protein powder. The way I eat now and the way I used to eat are like night and day. No more sugar highs and crashes, no more feeling bloated, no more hating myself and feeling controlled by food. I plan my meals for the day and enter them into Fitday.

Then the usual Mom stuff and household stuff. Itís so cool to fly up and down the stairs without having to stop and catch my breath or having my knees and feet hurt. I get my chores done in about half the time it used to take. I love the feeling of being strong just while doing the everyday tasks of life: taking out the trash, carrying the laundry upstairs, hefting the 20# box of kitty litter. :strong:

And then the highlight of my day: back to the gym for weights. The gym was the scariest, most alien place in the world for me when I was heavy and now itís home. I love lifting weights and love the muscles and the look they give me. I used to be afraid to look in the mirrors at the gym (you know how the walls are lined with mirrors) - now I catch a glimpse of myself and marvel at the stranger whoís looking back at me. How could this be me? I spent all my life as the fat girl and now I have toned arms and little hips. I walk out of the gym on :cloud9: , knowing that I've pushed myself to my limits as I worked to build my best body. Lifting weights has taught me that I have strength and endurance and discipline that I never imagined and it carries over to all other aspects of my life. I know that Iím capable of anything that I set my mind to doing.

Letís stop and do some clothes shopping on the way home, OK? :) I walk in and bypass the plus sizes and head for all the pretty clothes in the regular sizes. I donít have to shop for camouflage anymore ó no more big T-shirts to hide the butt or long sleeves to cover the jiggle. No more elastic waists or towels strategically covering up my bathing suit. I can look at crop tops and low-rise pants, beautiful (and sexy) lingerie, and tank tops. I see something that I want to try on and look for it in a 4 or a small(which can be hard to find). Now stand in my shoes with me in the dressing room and hold up a pair of jeans in size 4. Theyíll never fit, right? Theyíre WAY too tiny ó I used to look at small sizes and think that no one could have a butt small enough to fit in those. :lol: But they slide right up over my hips and fit perfectly (no sucking in the gut). The problem with clothes shopping when I was fat was that nothing looked good. The problem now is that too much looks good ó hard on the old budget. :D

Back home, normal life. My dinnerís different from the rest of my familyís but it doesnít bother me or them a bit. And then to bed, knowing that I physically feel better than I ever have in my life. But more than just how good I feel is the knowledge that I did it! It took me 47 years, but I finally got rid of the fat that weighed down every aspect of my life. Thereís no better feeling in the world.

Losing weight ó and more importantly ó keeping it off is hard work and itís a job that weíll have to do for the rest of our lives. It takes sweat, hard work, planning, and self-discipline. You know what to do; like you said, the elements are habit now. But trust me, the pay-off at the end of road is far, far better than you can imagine.

Keep going ó youíve come so far now. When you think about the alternative ó going back to being fat and unhappy ó really, what choice is there? I guarantee that when you reach your goal (and you will, Iím sure) youíll agree with me that it was the hardest and, at the same time, the best thing that you ever did in your life.

Sweetmel
04-15-2004, 04:24 PM
Wow! I can't wait to feel like that! I 'm just so happy now that I'm in a size 12(14 in some ) and that is the smallest size in Avenue it too big for me now makes me really happy. The smallest I've been was a size 7 went I was dancing almost everynight in a dance company. Actually I did get to a size 5 once but it was unhealthy( I couldn't eat because I was scared out of my mind I was pregnant) I didn't grow up with bad eating habits my mother always made for the most part healthy foods for us and gave us fruit for snacks and only made desserts on weekends. We hardly ever had fast food because we were poor! We had pizza once every 2 weeks, the same with KFC or McDonalds It was a treat for us because it cost a lot to feed 5 kids for a struggling family but they did want to give us a treat once in a while and thats what I grew up thinking of it as.
I didn't start gaining weight until after I moved out and had my our money, I kinda went wild with all the choices I had and ate out alot out of boredom too so I never had a
weight problem as a kid because I was always running around playing and when I was a teenager I was busy with my swimteam and dance classes so it wasn't until I got
a desk job and started having afterwork drinks with co-workers and going to all-you-can-eat buffets.

I really like what you said about how there's no "magic bullet" or we would all be thin! But I tkind of makes me mad that It seems that I put this weight in what seems to be such a short time and It's taking a such a long time to get rid of it.

It's not fair! Oh well. thats again for sharing your inspiring story!


Melodie

findingmyself
04-20-2004, 06:29 PM
Thank you Mrs. Jim!!!! I have been looking for a miracle even though I know the only miracle that is going to happen is for me to stop eating junk!! Tee Hee. Just kidding. I will stop eating junk. I started exercising and I do well on diet 50 percent of the time. Unfortunately the other 50 percent I spend searching for some easy way out of this bod. I know what it takes yet I am still trying to find some hidden secret. Very catching title.

Thanks again

rochemist
04-21-2004, 01:55 PM
Perfect, just perfect Karen and Meg. Also knowing everything about nutrition,dieting, and excercise doesn't work as well as actual application. For some reason I always thought my vast amount of knowledge and research and trying everything would put me a step ahead of the game. I think a wise woman on the LWL board once wrote, "Abs are made in the kitchen". I have not found words that have been more true to my weightloss. Thank goodness Meg said 47 years to get it, at 32 I was beginning to believe I am the worlds slowest learner. :D

Chris

Daisynyc
04-22-2004, 12:44 PM
I always love your posts, Mrs. Jim.

You know, for me, it's not trying to find out someone's "secret," as in the Magic Bullet.

Recently, I have started asking people (who, like me, are insulin resistant or diabetic) on this board what eating plan they used or are using simply in an effort to find a place to begin.

So, when I have asked people on this board "how they did it," I guess I don't see the answer as obvious. When I ask "how", I don't mean "did you reduce calorie intake and increase exercise." I mean: did you journal? Did you do a low carb diet? Did you focus on cardio or a mix of training? Did you count calories? Weigh portions? Get group support? What else? Which of these factors helped *you* and why?

I'm just lookin' for ideas. Inspiration. A nudge in the right direction. It is quite possible to work hard at losing weight, restrict calories and not have success.

Maybe when your Dr. asked how you did it, she was just wondering how you overcame the obstacles that throw so many of the rest of us off course. That's really what I mean.

In any event, you're an inspiration. Thanks for the great post.

SHIRLEYQ27
04-22-2004, 04:26 PM
Hi I Am New To This Sight My Doctor Has Recently Put Me On Glucophage 500 Mg A Day I Have Lost 11 Pounds In 21 Days. Has Anyone Else Tried This Way Before Please Let Me Know Thank You Chrissy

cathyxxx
04-22-2004, 04:35 PM
Hi Shirley! congrats on the weightloss!

I have never heard of Glucophage so I looked it up and it seems to be for "Type 2 Diabetes Control". Do you have sugar diabetes?

SHIRLEYQ27
04-30-2004, 05:01 PM
Hi Shirley! congrats on the weightloss!

I have never heard of Glucophage so I looked it up and it seems to be for "Type 2 Diabetes Control". Do you have sugar diabetes?
HI AGAIN NO I DONT HAVE TYPE 2 DIABETES. THEY STARTED USING GLUCOPHAGE AS A WAY TO ALTER PCOS SYMTOMS. WHEN U HAVE PCOS YOUR BODY RELEASES WAY TO MUCH INSULIN WHEN YOU EAT AND WHAT YOUR BODY DOESNT USE GETS TURNED INTO FAT. SO AFTER 3 YRS OF STUDIES THEY NOW SEE THIS MEDICINE HELPS THE ONLY SIDE AFFECT IS BATHROOM VISITS WICH TO ME DOESNT MATTER AS LONG AS I LOSE WEIGHT. YEAH THERE IS ANOTHER GIRL ON IT AND SHE HAS LOST 60 POUNDS IN 6 MONTHS JUST FROM TAKING A PILL AND FOLLOWING A 1600 DIET. WRITE AGAIN PLEASE LOVE TO TALK TO PEOPLE. CHRISSY

SeekInnerThinChick
04-30-2004, 09:24 PM
I just wanted to add something... While losing weight and getting fit is certainly a lot of hard work, it's also a lot of fun, at least for me. Throughout this process, I've met lots of new people, tried out new activities, learned new things, experimented with new foods, and just generally expanded by life and experience in many different directions. I've also improved my health greatly, and become much more relaxed and happy as a result of my new habits. Even the struggles are gratifying, like winning a hard-fought game. So the rewards of a fitter way of life aren't just at the end of the process-- they happen all along the road. It's actually fun! :dizzy:

rochemist
05-21-2004, 10:37 PM
Someone quick get this to the top of the posts! Start with page 1, and one day at a time.

Chris

Simplyme
05-27-2004, 02:21 PM
I have a question...
I don't really eat unhealthy, and I do keep a food log... On a daily basis I burn more then what I eat.
I typically have a Lite Yogurt for breakfast occassionally accompied with a 'Special K' breakfast bar.
For lunch I either eat a salad or a small portion from the night befores dinner.
For dinner I normally bake chicken or tuna and accompany it with a vegatable.
I drink lots of water, hardly ever any pop, and a couple cups of coffee in the morning (sweetened by 'Sweet n' Low' only).
The worst thing that I do is have a beer or two everyweek.
I rarely snack, and when I do it's normally chips and salsa or a pickle.
All of this maintains my weight at what it is (220lb).

Is there anything else that I can do to help myself loose weight.
Any suggestions?? :?: :?:

MrsJim
05-27-2004, 03:01 PM
I have a question...
I don't really eat unhealthy, and I do keep a food log... On a daily basis I burn more then what I eat.
I typically have a Lite Yogurt for breakfast occassionally accompied with a 'Special K' breakfast bar.
For lunch I either eat a salad or a small portion from the night befores dinner.
For dinner I normally bake chicken or tuna and accompany it with a vegatable.
I drink lots of water, hardly ever any pop, and a couple cups of coffee in the morning (sweetened by 'Sweet n' Low' only).
The worst thing that I do is have a beer or two everyweek.
I rarely snack, and when I do it's normally chips and salsa or a pickle.
All of this maintains my weight at what it is (220lb).

Is there anything else that I can do to help myself loose weight.
Any suggestions?? :?: :?:

Well, first thing I'd ask is...how about exercise? You didn't mention it...

Also, you might want to subsitute something with protein in it for breakfast instead of that Special K Bar, which I would bet has a significant amount of sugar.

This might sound totally loony, but you probably need to be eating more often. (note that I didn't say "eating MORE" - rather than three big meals a day, space out your calories in 5-6 smaller meals. Here's an example (using 'real food', not protein shakes or anything like that).

Breakfast: Hot oatmeal, 2 eggs (or 1 egg + 4 eggwhites) (I generally scramble the egg and whites together or make an omelette - feel free to add veggies such as baby spinach, tomatoes, mushrooms, etc. The more veggies, the merrier! :lol: )

Midmorning snack - piece of fruit (such as an apple or peach) or a "light" yogurt (100 calories or less)

Lunch - Chicken-breast sandwich in a whole-wheat pita with lots of veggies and mustard (no mayo!)

Afternoon snack - piece of fruit (if you're really hungry, add some protein like cottage cheese or a hardboiled egg).

Dinner - lean protein (chicken, fish, lean meat) with lots of veggies, maybe a small yam or baked potato (no sour cream or use the fat-free kind - or try salsa!)

Oh and don't forget portion control - with the exception of vegetables, make sure your portions aren't huge.

Hope that helps :)

Obviously, if you're eating like you posted and maintaining, all you need to do is 'nudge' the caloric intake/outtake a bit to start losing!

Simplyme
05-27-2004, 05:28 PM
The only real thing I do for excersising is I walk, at a faster pace then normal but not power walk, about 1 1/2 to 2 miles per day (it's the dog factor). Plus I go out dancing one night a week for about 4 hours. Also, on either Saturday or Sunday, I take my dog to the local canal and power walk for about an hour or two.

What you listed seems like a lot of food to me. I do only eat 3 times a day, but it isn't large portions. I've just always thought that the more u eat, the more u gain weight. Normally I don't get hungry in the evenings, so it's a little hard for me to eat then. But I do live by the golden rule 'don't eat past eight or before bedtime'.

I've just been getting frustrated lately because a coworker of mine, not to mention several others, is loosing weight. However, she as well as my roommate had 'the surgery' to lose it. She has lost about 35lbs in the past two months, and it just makes me feel down and fatter when I'm with here and people talk about it. I have done several things in the past year, but I have stayed the same size - never gaining or losing. I personally want to lose the weight the 'old fashion' way, but it becomes frustrating when you never see any results. This is why I have joined this forum, for help and guidance. The bottom is, I don't know how to lose the weight. I have always suffered with it since I was a child, and I am ready to be thin- I want to go down to at least a 14 (currently I am and 18/20). I understand that I am not going to be thin overnight, but to start seeing some results would be wonderful. I don't want to sound desperate, but sometimes I feel that way...

MrsJim
05-27-2004, 06:40 PM
It might *seem* like a lot of food, but it's what Dr. Phil calls "High-Response foods", mostly low calorie and high in nutritients. As a rule, the more unprocessed 'natural' foods you eat, the better for weight loss. And portion control is ESSENTIAL. A 'serving size' of protein (chicken, fish, lean meat) should only be about 3-4 oz. (the size of a deck of cards). A lot of times, I've found it's PORTIONING that is skewed.

I just entered my sample menu in Fitday (without the veggies, since they add so few calories) and came up with 1,045 calories, which is actually pretty low...

Breakfast: 1 egg + 6 eggwhites, 1/2 cup dry oatmeal - 318 calories, 7g fat, 28g carbs, 33g protein

Snack: 1 medium apple - 81 calories, 0 g fat, 21 g carbs, 0 g protein

Lunch: 3.5 oz boneless skinless chicken breast - 160 cal, 3 g fat, 0 g carbs, 30 g protein
1 medium wheat pita bread - 123 cal, 1g fat, 25g carbs, 5 g protein

Snack - 1 medium apple - 81 calories, 0 g fat, 21 g carbs, 0 g protein

Dinner - 4 oz steamed or poached salmon - 164 cal, 5g fat, 0g carbs, 28g protein
1 medium sweetpotato - 116 cal, 0 g fat, 27g carbs, 2g protein

You just need to get out of the 'diet mindset' and into the 'lifestyle mindset'. Losing weight ain't easy - it takes hard work and PERSISTENCE - but it's DOABLE and the rewards are RICH. (I'd recommend reading the Dr. Phil 7 Keys to Weight Control book - QUITE good and it's one of the very few that go into the 'head issues' which is the main part of losing weight permanently IMO :) )

Simplyme
05-27-2004, 06:59 PM
THANKS....
I will pick that book up this weekend and give it a shot.
Also, I will try out the meal plan that you described and then go from there...
Thank you very much!

MrsJim
05-27-2004, 08:23 PM
No problem! :)

If the Dr Phil show is available in your area, you might want to tune in over the summer - I'm hoping they rerun the Weight Loss Challenge shows. They were EXCELLENT. However, if you aren't able to catch the show, no fear - there are very good synopses of the shows on the Dr. Phil website.

He's got a seven-day sample menu plan here: http://images.drphil.com/weightloss/7day/

And you can look up all the WLC shows here ==> http://www.drphil.com/weightloss/weightloss_show_landing.jhtml?section=Weight%20Los s%20Challengers&subsection=Weight%20Shows

girly
03-09-2005, 05:53 PM
I read this a long time ago. I wasn't quite ready. Now I am. I came looking for it because I want to pass it on to someone else. What a great post you made that I still remember it!!! Thanks

marbleflys
03-10-2005, 10:53 AM
Great Post Mrs. Jim !!! and so very true, I've watched Operah's video too, it was what first helped me make a real decision

......when i was a child (40 million years ago), we never had processed sugary foods,(my mother was a big advocate for preventing tooth decay) we were NOT allowed to watch TV during the day, (the soap operas were sinful to my young impressionable mind)....we walked to and from school unless the weather was bad, we were sent outside to play, build tents, forts, ride bikes, climb trees (to make my mother scream that I'd break my arm).... I guess it was the early version of aerobic exercise....at night we washed dishes by hand and got up off our butts to change the TV channel.

I take immense satisfaction from my daily exercise lately and being able to shut my mouth when I'm full....it's getting easier each day, and I am thrilled with every small positive change in my body....hopefully it will continue!

MrsJim
03-10-2005, 01:46 PM
Thanks EVERYONE! :)

I'm REALLY happy that I can help in any way possible.

Believe me...if I can do this...YOU can. I'm not Superwoman by a long long loooooong shot. I really believe that a positive attitude, willingness to work on permanent changes and concentrating on overall HEALTH are absolutely essential towards success!

Amarantha2
03-11-2005, 10:03 PM
Great thread! Just found it!!!! Starts with excellent points from Mrs. Jim and the good discussion has gone on for some time.

My secret ingredient for losing weight is the same as Mrs. Jim mentioned in the beginning: it comes from inside and we all have the power.

Recently I found out there's another key for me: dropping refined sugar, white flour and a few other high glycemic items from my WOE (basically Sugar Busters).

This has changed everything ...

luvmyboys82
03-13-2005, 01:04 PM
Awesome thread! Lasting, healthy weight loss truly does result only from a healthy lifestyle that you enjoy maintaining, not a fad diet or dependency on diet pills or other *iffy* weight loss methods. :dizzy: (I <3 Dr.Phil's advice as well...)

aphil
03-17-2005, 04:43 PM
MrsJim-caught the thread title and I just HAD to respond... :lol:

At my husband's company Christmas party a couple months ago-I wore a pretty smashing new dress. Now, we attend this Christmas party every single year-and I see these same people every time. Well, over the past year I have only lost about 7-8 pounds in scale weight (the rest came off quicker the year before) but because of my increased exercise the past year (in duration and intensity) things are "shaping up" a lot, you know?
Well, my hair has grown out some as well over the past year, and one of Jason's co-workers wives came up sort of ticked off-because she thought Jason came to the party with another woman. :lol: Well, that made my day-and then she said:

"What's your secret?"

Now-what I have noticed from people who notice your weight loss, is that they ask this question with keen interest. They want to know what pill you took, what crash diet you went on, or that you have been doing herbal body wraps at the new dayspa-but the minute you start telling them that you have diligently reduced the amount that you eat, eat better quality foods, and work your tail off with the exercise-THEY LOSE INTEREST. :shrug:

MrsJim
03-17-2005, 08:38 PM
Now-what I have noticed from people who notice your weight loss, is that they ask this question with keen interest. They want to know what pill you took, what crash diet you went on, or that you have been doing herbal body wraps at the new dayspa-but the minute you start telling them that you have diligently reduced the amount that you eat, eat better quality foods, and work your tail off with the exercise-THEY LOSE INTEREST. :shrug:

Yup...I've found that to be true myself. :(

jillybean720
03-24-2005, 10:54 AM
Simplyme,

It sounds like maybe you aren't eating enough calories. I have read in magazines, online, books, heard on tv, you name it, that you should NEVER go below 1200 calories a day without the strict supervision of a physician. This puts your body in starvation mode and makes it more difficult for you to lose weight because your body is trying to conserve the weight rather than let it go. For those of us who are very overweight, even 1200 a day may be too low (since our bodies are larger and require more caloreis simply to function even if you are not very active). I was eating 1800-2000 calories a day and not exercising regularly and was still losing weight because it all comes down to calories in vs. calories out, but WITHOUT depriving your body of the essential amount of calories it needs to function. I know, it doesn't really follow common sense (if I eat less, I should weigh less, right?), but it is true and has been proven time and time again, not only by experts, but by real people on these boards who gained or maintained weight at 1200 calories then lost weight when they upped it to, say, 1500-1600 calories a day.

If you think you ARE getting enough caloris, then maybe all you need to do is shake it up a bit. Your body gets used to eating the same things every day and settles into a pattern of satisfaction that does not include weight loss. Try varying your diet a little more or having 3 high-calorie days and 4 low-calorie days a week (to average out to your desired number of calories per day). Often, this will wake your body up and keep it on its toes instead of being contently settled into a pattern, therefore jump starting the weight loss again.

I agree with MrsJim that you may want to eat more frequently, also. Eating every 3-4 hours throughout the day is much better for your metabolism, for it's not so stop-and-go, it's a consistent pattern of working and burning and processing.

I know it's hard to hear "eat more" or "eat more often" when you're dieting because it just doesn't seem to make sense to our minds, but it does to our bodies, and after all, that's what you're after is a better body :)

PURPLEPANSY
03-24-2005, 11:16 PM
well said mrs jim

sreschaib
03-25-2005, 09:03 PM
WoW I am very touched and very moved by what you ladies had to say.THANK YOU!!! I have struggled with my weight all my life and no one has ever had such an impact on me like you have. I guess I have always known how important it was to watch what you eat and exercise, but for me growing up my parents idea of watching what you eat was to watch it go in your mouth. Not exactly right, huh? Any way I just wanted to thank you for inspiring me to pay more attention to my body, and what I am doing to it. Stacey :)

rubyblushu
03-29-2005, 06:18 PM
Are you kidding? I do have a secret to losing weight-it's called getting off my lazy butt and exercising! I tell you, it's a miracle solution.

I think I'm one of the lucky ones, though. I was raised to believe exactly what you said. Whenever I see a new diet or pill, I think, "I'll believe it when I see it."

MrsDawsondn
05-04-2005, 05:15 PM
Awesome article!! Great advice I really appreciate this.

Digital Girl
05-05-2005, 11:57 PM
MrsJim:

I wanted to say in your before picture, you have beautiful brown hair! You look so young!

maggie2005
05-06-2005, 12:11 PM
The glucophage is used to treat insulin-resistance, which my daughter has as a by-product of her polycystic ovarian syndrome. My daughter is also encouraged to eat a healthy diet to assist with the weight control...just FYI.....

margaretmorgan29
05-31-2005, 03:37 PM
Thanks

I have just joined and I love reading success stories. I feel so discouraged. I have been overweight most of my adult life. I have tried Weight Watchers twice, ediets once and am now on the Okinawa online diet. While I appreciate having these structures to help me get motivated the time I have lost the most weight was when I did aerobics 3 times a week.

Seeing the posts by so many people losing weight is encouraging and discouraging at the same time - will I ever lose this weight like every one else here? (Sorry to be such a stick in the mud)

stephmcm
06-23-2005, 04:45 AM
MrsJim,

Your posting is a great summary of where we are today. If I look at my lifestyle, it's desk bound, long commutes, business travel and hotel breakfasts, (lunches bought from petrol stations - never nutritionally sound), and a constant list of 'Things to do'. But my family were engineers and gardeners - physically hard work, and dinners were big, fresh cooked and plenty of vegetables, because they were a cheap filler.

We know that abundance is killing us. Supermarkets offer everything we could possibly desire in extra large portions, quick, cheap, convenient and deadly.

So it's time to take a stand. No longer a slave to the job / lifestyle / junk food, I have to be stronger, more consistent and more knowledgeable than ever before. The hard work starts here!

kayemu
06-26-2005, 04:41 PM
[will I ever lose this weight like every one else here? (Sorry to be such a stick in the mud)[/QUOTE]

That's my newest kick and it seems to be working.

HourglassLass
07-03-2005, 01:13 PM
[will I ever lose this weight like every one else here? (Sorry to be such a stick in the mud)

That's my newest kick and it seems to be working.[/QUOTE]

Yep.. I'm right in that canoe with you ladies - however - I can honestly say that I am going to DO it this time if I have to revert to super glue lip gloss (which, I don't think will happen).

Mrs Jim, Meg, etc. (sorry, I can't remember ALL the lovely names) I wanted to say that your posts are beautiful and a heartfelt encouragement to me. Meg's post really hit home - in fact, if I had ink in my printer I'd have put it on my fridge by now! :) (And I NEVER put things on my fridge!).

No one here is a stick in the mud - it's what you call HONESTY! And I feel it is being honest to say that, although correct diet and exercise is the golden key to being slim - it is also just a plain ole matter of fact that it just doesn't work for everyone due to commitment issues, lack of time, willpower, medical reasons and down and out impatience, to name but a few. I am one of these few. I do not believe that there is or ever was any 'magic pill' or 'magic diet' that will whisk the weight away and I'll wake up tomorrow a size 2. However, I DO believe that there are products out there which CAN make the process easier for people who, frankly, just do not have your dedication - for right, wrong or indifferent.

I applaud you MrsJim, from the bottom of my heart for all of the dedication you have put into your health and lifestyle. I only wish I had it in me to do what you have done but, I don't. If I did, I wouldn't be sitting here at 34 and weighing in at over 200lbs. Everyone KNOWS that this is the way to go, but the knowing just isn't enough sometimes.

I'm currently on the Medifast diet after trying just about ever diet known to man (and woman) and a few ad-libbed diets I created on my own - calorie/fat counting, etc. I've had gym memberships where I worked out 5 days a week for months and ran myself into the ground trying to get the weight off. I've done WW countless times - grooming myself into a near obssessive compulsive disorder behavior of logging everything that went into my mouth and the points thereof - only to lose a pound - or maybe two - a week. I've done Atkins until I swore I could feel the fat oozing from my pores. I've done Fat Loss for Idiots over the internet until I ate so much chicken I thought I'd grow feathers....

The problem, for me, lies in the fact that I suffer from obssessive eating disorder. I need structure. I can't have 'everything in moderation' because the moderation is always an issue. I also don't want to spend the next 3 or 4 years of my life trying to lose 150lbs when this is supposed to be one of the most exciting times in my life. I'm single. I want to go to concerts and festivals, I want to go to the dance clubs and wear what I want to wear without looking like a middle-aged woman trying to dress like a 20 year old - regardless if it fits or not. I freely admit it. I'm impatient. :(

So, for me, it's Curves twice a week and Medifast shakes. And, if that does it for me, then it's all good.

I'm only saying this because I used to read posts like MrsJim's and feel downtrodden and sad that I didn't have it in me to just do it the reasonable way like they did. I felt that if I had to resort to Phentermine or some diet or other, that I was a failure and I couldn't be proud of myself for losing weight because I didn't do it - the diet did it or the pill did it. Well, I was wrong. Now I can read those posts and see the beauty in them. I can see how everyone is different and, even though it may be the right way, it just isn't for everyone and THAT IS OK!

So way to go to everyone - despite what you choose to do - and congratulations for taking control.

The best of success and congrats to you all!

~Alisha :hat:

Hey Jude
08-09-2005, 01:38 PM
Thanks Mrs. Jim and Meg, As you can see, there are still plenty of people out there looking for the magic bullett. Those of us who have been around the block more times than we can count can see the truth in your message.

Pesistence, not Perfection. It should be our Golden Rule.

Autumn Night
08-21-2005, 06:09 PM
"What are you doing?" I've heard that a lot this summer. People don't actually want to know what I'm doing, because as soon as I start to tell them, they say, "That's too much work." NO, IT ISN'T. It's exactly the amount of work it takes for me to continue on my healthy journey. I will keep a food (and emotions) journal and weigh and measure everything that goes in my mouth from now on-and its worth the effort. I can't just stop eating when I'm full, because I can't tell that I'm full until I'm stuffed. I am not able to "guestimate" portions, so a food scale and measuring cups have become indispensable weapons in my weight loss arsenal. I will keep using them after I reach a healthy weight, or I won't maintain that weight for long.

I have dieted many times. This is the first time I have been honest with myself and fully comprehended the fact that I must make a life-long commitment to a new way of eating. I promised myself that this time I would not do anything to lose weight that I was not willing to do for the rest of my life. So, no fad diets, no cutting out of whole food-groups, no dening myself food that I really want, no silly combinations of food, and no eating food that I just plain don't like. I don't know if I will reach my goal, but even if I don't, I am still way better off today than I was back in April when I got serious about this business of improving my health.

There is no easy way. There is no easy way. Say it again, and again, until you believe it. What you weigh is a combination of what goes in your mouth and out of your body as physical effort. It isn't easy, but it is knowledge that will last you a lifetime. It also doesn't matter how long it takes, as long as you keep going in the right direction.

Some people want the weight to come off as fast as possible. Personally, I think that what the scale says five, ten, or forty years from now is a lot more important than what it says a month from now. And don't forget, your health is gauged by a lot more than just a number on the scale. Skinny people can be unhealthy, too.

I wish you all continued success.

Donna

bull39
08-24-2005, 09:02 PM
Isn't everyone looking for that magic pill? Some, like me, have tried every pill, fad diet and liquid diet out there. The only secret is eating right and EXERCISE (which i hate with a passion) but since I started doing these things the pounds are melting off. I still hate to get up in the morning and walk on the treadmill but seeing the way my clothes are fitting so loose now keeps me going. That is my magic pill!!!!!

MrsJim
08-24-2005, 10:06 PM
There is no easy way. There is no easy way. Say it again, and again, until you believe it. What you weigh is a combination of what goes in your mouth and out of your body as physical effort. It isn't easy, but it is knowledge that will last you a lifetime. It also doesn't matter how long it takes, as long as you keep going in the right direction.

Some people want the weight to come off as fast as possible. Personally, I think that what the scale says five, ten, or forty years from now is a lot more important than what it says a month from now. And don't forget, your health is gauged by a lot more than just a number on the scale. Skinny people can be unhealthy, too.


I always remember what Pa Ingalls said to Laura in one of the Little House books - I think it was "Little Town on the Prairie" - paraphrasing here - "Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither was anything else worth having".

But hard work doesn't need to mean 'bad' or 'something to avoid'. Remember reading "The Good Earth" by Pearl S. Buck in high school? (one of my all time favorite reads, BTW). During the entire book, Wang Lung was always happiest when he was working hard on his land. His wife, O-lan, was always most content when she was working - in her home or by her husband's side in the fields. It was the satisfaction from that hard work - and the results - remember the part where Wang Lung, O-lan, his father and their baby son were sitting in their house filled with the results of their hard labors - their bountiful harvest and 'richness and reserve' of the silver hidden in the wall?

I remember just recently (about 5 years ago) when I was first learning to ride English and I just COULD NOT GET the posting thing down (you know, rising out of the saddle at the trot - specifically getting the right diagonal). It was SO FRUSTRATING! for MONTHS I couldn't get it...but now it's just second nature. Sure it took a lot of hard work, but it was well worth the effort.

IMO a lot of your results depend on the JOY and positive energy you put into it. How boring would life be if everything came easy? Pretty darn boring IMO! ;)

chick_in_the_hat
09-22-2005, 03:54 PM
As partners in my weight loss success I would like to thank the makers of the following products:

1. VELAMINTS. Especially the vanilla mint ones...I buy them 24 boxes at a time now...just don't eat a whole box in a day - your tongue will hurt. please don't ask how I know that :o

2. Dreyers Slow Churn low fat ice cream...

3. Ruffles Light - who needs prunes when you can have OLESTRA? And I know if I eat too many I will be SORRY... :lol:

Jen415
09-22-2005, 04:44 PM
:lol: GINA what a riot!!

Thbecer
11-11-2005, 02:07 PM
Thank you Mrs Jim for reminding me of how good I felt when I lost a huge amount of weight last year and how much of my life I have lost by putting it all back on. I feel inspired. Thank you again.

ChunkyThighSyndrome
11-22-2005, 12:13 AM
Thank you... I have been a lurker for a while, and have decided that now is the time to get my life and my body back...

Your post makes such perfect sense!

Wonder Woman
12-04-2005, 08:42 PM
MrsJim, thanks for such a great post - and thanks for stickying it so I could see it. I've had some good success with my weight loss over the past year, and people around me are noticing (especially at work). One of the most surprising things I found was they all asked me "how did you do it"...and even more surprising is the disappointed looks on their faces when I told them how. Just watching how much I eat, watching what type of food I eat, and lastly exercise. I was kind of amazed at how disappointed everyone was with my answer. It's like they all expected me to hand them a little pill and say, "here, swallow this my dear and 30 lbs will melt away right now"...or "I went on a cabbage diet for three days and lost it all, it was so easy!".

I really related to your post.

haley
01-07-2006, 11:42 AM
"I went on a cabbage diet for three days and lost it all, it was so easy!".

I love that quote! I do so wish I could get to my goal and be able to say that! I'm just getting started, so it will be quite some time before I can use the line! Thanks.

travelchick
01-15-2006, 12:22 PM
Wow! I am so impressed by your words. I've also struggled with my weigh since about the age of 13. I was a skinny child, but during times of strife during those hard teen-age years, I tried to buy happiness with food. Well, now I'm 47 and I've been at my lowest adult weight when I met my husband (I remember it well....I hadn't eaten for 3 days)....awful. Anyhow, I was around 128, but I did warn him that I was normally a fat girl. My highest weight was 242, and I lost 70 pounds about four years ago on a supervised high protein diet. BUT, I got lazy, stressed, overworked (you know all of the excuses) and recently weighed in at 230. This was Jan. 2nd when I joined Curves. I am doing their six week challenge hoping to get on track. I weighed yesterday and was down 9 pounds, so that's very encouraging. I really have to monitor myself and make sure that I eat what they have on program. I catch myself going to old diets and pulling bits and pieces from each one. Bottom line is that I have no moderation in my life. I'm either eating, or I'm not. So, the consequences are that I yo-yo and then my entire metabolism becomes shot. So, my goal is to eat healthy, in moderate (big problem) and exercise daily.
You have all given me a great way to start my week, and I thank you!

MrsJim
01-18-2006, 01:58 PM
Wanted to make sure that *EVERYONE* got a chance to see these awesome posts by LovesBassetts :D (Thanks to Mel for bringing these to my attention!).

This is GOLDEN advice. GOLDEN.

The actual thread is located in the Support forum - see this link (http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=72927).

Post #1 (http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showpost.php?p=1083818&postcount=2):

This whole weight loss thing has been 100% mental for me, too, and (like I said) my trainer has REALLY helped me shift my attitude and entire way of thinking about food, exercise, body fat, etc.

A couple of the biggest and best tips she's given me:

1. It's NOT about a number on a scale. It's about how your clothing fits.
2. Protein, protein, protein. Aim for 100 - 140 grams a day.
3. Be consistent. No excuses. If your goal is exercise 3 days a week, DO IT.

One thing she's really good at is asking great "why" questions when I have a complaint, comment, confession, etc. She's now gotten into my head (so to speak), so when I try to talk myself out of exercise or into a cookie, her "why" pops into my head. Example: if I eat something I really shouldn't have and vent to her about it, she says, "Why'd you eat it?" which makes me really think about it...and the answer is usually boredom, stress, or being tired. Then she'll say, "The next time you reach for something to eat, first ask yourself if you're actually hungry. If you're NOT hungry, ask yourself WHY you want to eat it." It's the same thing with exercise. Cardio, actually, which I despise. I was at the gym Friday and DID NOT want to get on the elliptical. I said to her, "I don't think I'll do cardio today." She said (of course), "Why?" I think I snorted and said, "I don't want to." She looked at me and said, "What DO you want?" LOL...and I said, "to be 135 lbs." So I solved that one on my own and got on the darn elliptical :D. She's just so fabulous about asking just the right questions at the right time to get me thinking about things...I hope that makes sense.

We also talk a lot about why I was heavy to begin with. And again, it's all about the "why" questions: Why did I gain 50 lbs in college? What was is about college that made me eat so much? Why do I hate vegetables and chicken and CRAVE pasta? Why did I never try to lose weight before? Why did I gain another 30 lbs while I was a teacher?

I won't bore you with all the answers to those questions about me, but I WILL tell you that by breaking down my entire life into little sections -- looking at the times when I gained weight, etc., her questions really helped me focus in on the fact that for me stress + depression = self-medication with food + weight gain. I never made that connection before, but she could see it as an objective observer simply by saying, "Why did you gain 30 lbs as a teacher?" and then listening to me babble on and on during our weight session about the correcting, the parents, the administration, and the sheer EXHAUSTION of dealing with 7th graders all day every day...

As I write this, I'm thinking now that these might be good questions to ask YOURSELF and maybe put down into journal form.

She also asks questions like, "When in your life did you feel MOST healthy?" and then of course, "Why? What was happening in your life then that was different?" And looking back at those healthier times in my life has taught me a lot about what I need in my life to BE healthy. If that makes sense...which it probably doesn't...LOL.

ANYWAY...

She also gave me a whole new perspective on the purpose of food. Which sounds mighty moronic, I know. But for me, food was either (a) bad for you but yummy, (b) good for you but disgusting, or (c) a good, loyal friend on a lonely Saturday night :p . And despite middle school health class, etc. I never *got* the fact that food is fuel. Food was something my mother never ate (she was anorexic), something my father OVER-ate (he was obese), and something I never learned how to prepare beyond the boil-water-insert-macaroni level. But when I first started out and she had me doing food logs, she went over absolutely everything I was and WASN'T eating. So I learned that my desperate need to sleep every day at 3pm was linked to the fact that all I ever ate was carbs. Etc...

I hope I answered your question, Robin...I fear I may have started babbling BIG TIME!!! As usual. :dizzy:

and post #2 (http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showpost.php?p=1084470&postcount=5):
To continue on with the food is fuel concept...

I used to drink something like 4 - 5 cans of regular Coke a day. And mentally I *thought* I needed it. Like I said, I was a teacher, and somehow I'd convinced myself that I needed the caffeine infusion all day -- 2nd period, 4th period, lunch, faculty meeting, the drive home, etc. When I started seeing my trainer, she said, "How many calories are in one can of Coke?" And LOL...I had no idea. And she taught me a concept that was utterly new to me: "empty calories." Being a nutritional disaster area, I'd never heard of that before. Once I realized I was taking in 500 - 1000 extra, useless, empty calories a day I was like "whoah!" and then took her previous advice to cut back.

I've always known what was "right" as far as food, but I never really understood the WHY -- the MATH behind it.

I also drink a ton of tea, usually in HUGE (10 - 12 oz) mugs...and I never thought about the 3 tablespoons of sugar I used to put in each mug. It makes me sound like an idiot, but I was chugging down hundreds of extra calories a day without even thinking about it...until she pointed it out. Again, she'd already suggested Splenda instead of sugar, but to me it was all about the TASTE of my tea. I think I said something like "no one messes with my tea" :dizzy: . But then she showed me the math. And it clicked.

She also emphasized something that a lot of 3FCers say all the time: BABY STEPS. If you try to change everything all at once, you're setting yourself up for failure. So I cut DOWN on the Coke -- I didn't quit cold turkey. I switched to Splenda. I started reading the nutritional labels on food. She taught me that carbs are basically sugar and that protein goes (practically) straight to your muscles.

I also thought you *had* to lose weight before you started weight training. For some reason I had always thought of the "get toned" process as something for thin people. I didn't know muscle burns calories at rest. I didn't know cardio only was only part of the exercise equation.

MOST importantly, I didn't think I could lose weight. I thought it was 100% GENETIC and that I was destined to be fat forever. My biological mother weighs probably 350 - 400 lbs. She needs a scooter to get around because she is so heavy. And I accepted obesity as my fate. After all, I'd ALWAYS been heavy (or so I thought). How could I possibly lose weight when I hadn't ever been thin? I didn't know what thin WAS.

But slowly....very slowly...she helped me to understand that it WAS possible. That I could do it -- anyone could do it with the right nutritional understanding, perserverence, commitment, consistency, and (most importantly) MINDSET. You have to believe you can do it. You have to tell the negative, self-defeating voice in your head to SHUT UP. And this was probably the hardest thing for me. But as long as you believe in yourself, if you trust the process despite the inevitable set-backs and occasional failures you CAN succeed. And it's easy for me to say that, but unbelievably difficult to put into action.

And the last thing I want to say is something that I wish I could shout from the rooftops: getting fit and healthy CAN change your life. When I complained about my weight in the past, friends would say "being thin won't change your life, Kate. You have to learn to be happy with yourself no matter what size you are." And while that's true on one level, I have to say that (for ME, at least) my life has improved 500% since I started losing weight. Telling my self I COULD do it -- and then seeing progress -- taught me I could do lots of OTHER things, too. I quit teaching, sold my house, and moved to the UK for a year to work on my dream of being a published writer. The old, fat, depressed and self-defeating Kate NEVER would have done that...but the confidence I gained by taking control of my life trickled into other parts of my life. I'm now back in school. I've started a new career that I LOVE. And (the best part) is that some of my writing IS published.

So I guess my (very long-winded :dizzy: ) point is that you have to have faith that all this hard work will not only pay off in weight loss, but it has the serious potential to change your life entirely. I have a confidence now that I haven't had since I was 16. I'm living two dreams simultaneously -- my writing career is (slowly) taking off, and I work with animals. I'm not a different person; I'm the "real" me now. And then there's the "superficial" stuff. I'm wearing size 8 jeans. I feel GOOD everytime I'm out in public. I'm happier, more relaxed, and more willing to interact with other people. I take risks now -- I do things I always wanted to do but never did because I told myself "I'm too fat" or "that takes too much effort," etc.

If there is one thing I want to tell EVERYONE, it's that all the work and struggle and frustration is absolutely, positively, without a single doubt, WORTH IT.

Tell yourself you can do it, and you can. :)

One of the unique things about the 3 Fat Chicks forum - and the reason that I rarely or never post at any other weight loss forum - is the fact that we have SO many *STARS* here with SO much valuable info to draw from.

IMO, LovesBassetts is worth more than a solar system of Kevin Trudeaus, Anna Nicoles, and all of the other 'miracle weight loss system' infomercial peddlers out there *AND a bag of chips* :dizzy:

Just my two cents!!

Cardiomonster
01-18-2006, 06:34 PM
One of the unique things about the 3 Fat Chicks forum - and the reason that I rarely or never post at any other weight loss forum - is the fact that we have SO many *STARS* here with SO much valuable info to draw from.

IMO, LovesBassetts is worth more than a solar system of Kevin Trudeaus, Anna Nicoles, and all of the other 'miracle weight loss system' infomercial peddlers out there *AND a bag of chips* :dizzy:

Just my two cents!!


Hear hear! :cheers:

susie_sunshine
01-19-2006, 10:49 PM
I always remember a cartoon I saw in the paper one day, it had a doctor pointing to a chart that said:
1. eat less
2.exercise more
3. repeat

If only it were that simple!

fitchick2be
01-21-2006, 12:44 AM
Congrats on the weight loss, everyone!

I understand all about *what* I need to do to lose weight. The problem is making myself *do* it. I literally want my cake and to eat it, too. I want to lose weight, but I want to stuff myself with Swiss Rolls! Any advice? Thanks in advance.

garnetfairy
01-22-2006, 03:19 AM
Congrats on the weight loss, everyone!

I understand all about *what* I need to do to lose weight. The problem is making myself *do* it. I literally want my cake and to eat it, too. I want to lose weight, but I want to stuff myself with Swiss Rolls! Any advice? Thanks in advance.

I know it sounds funny but Stop buying the Swiss Rolls!!! Take control of what is in your house to eat! When you buy stuff like that and have it in the house you are setting yourself up for failure!!

Teach your family to eat healthy by setting a good example and providing good, healthy food. So there will be resistance and maybe even anger but maybe they will sympathize with you and be willing to make the change with you. At least they can eat their junk away from the house if they absolutley insist on having it.

If you show them you are really trying and putting real effort into your weight loss, they will begin to support your efforts or they may be threatened by them...you need to go on anyway, because it is your life and your health and your future that depends on you losing weight! You cannot let others sabotage you or guilt you into eating inapropriately!

Maybe you are like me and do not buy the food for the family and half the family eats whatever sweets and junk they want and have it all over the house. You just have to walk by and keep walking by it until it is a habit not to have it. You are worth the effort. YOU ARE WORTH THE EFFORT! Dont give up on yourself...YOU CAN DO THIS BUT YOU HAVE TO MAKE THE CHANGES NECESSARY FOR A HEALTHY LIFE!! No one can or will do them for you.

Dont feel like you have to eat all the fattening food in the house before you can start working on your weight. It just gives you more weight to lose and worse habits to break. Throw it away or donate it. So it is wasted money, better than inches on your waist! Get real with yourself! Are you going to do it, make the effort, make the changes or not? That is what it boils down to, how much do you care about your health, your body, your life??

srmb60
01-22-2006, 12:58 PM
I always remember a cartoon I saw in the paper one day, it had a doctor pointing to a chart that said:
1. eat less
2.exercise more
3. repeat

If only it were that simple!


It is that simple. The trick is ... it's not easy.

Try this .... as many times daily as you need to, think 'is this the right thing to do, right now'.

fitchick2be
01-23-2006, 10:31 AM
Thanks for the replies!

momasita
01-23-2006, 04:53 PM
Wow! Everything said here is so very true.

I've just gotten back on the site after being *MIA* for I can't tell you how many months! I have not weighed myself yet, but I am eager to get going again.

I watched an interesting documentary last week (Super Size Me) and it really opened my eyes. Since I have seen that show I have not set foot in a McDonald's, Wendy's, Whataburger, Arby's, Burger King, etc. It's been just about a week now and I can honestly tell you that I'm starting to feel a little better. I'm sleeping better at night and I don't have as strong a craving for the *JUNK* I used to eat everyday.

I did see the "Frontier House" series and was fascinated by it. I can't wait to see the next series.

I'm really working on simplifying things and getting my entire household back to eating home cooked meals and working to get away from processed foods.

I agree, the key is to take stock in what we are putting in our bodies and to take a minute to think, "do I really want this?".

Thanks everyone for the great info!

fitchick2be
01-24-2006, 08:04 AM
Hoping to really do it today!

crankybubbles
01-27-2006, 01:34 PM
WOW that was some inspiration I will say. You started at the weight I am and down to 140. I am feeling better already!

healthy2b
02-02-2006, 04:55 PM
I am new and was hoping someone out there could help me. I am 43 yrs. old, mother of four, (23, 21, 19, and 17) and wife of 24 years. Six months ago I decided I was tired of being fat and hired a trainer and began a workout program. I have lost no weight in these last six months. I do notice change and have lost three inches from my hips and three inches from my waist but that just doesn't seem like much with all the work I've been putting into my workouts. I lift weights on Monday (legs), Tues. ( back, chest and shoulders) and THurs. (biceps and triceps) along with additional 20-30 min. of cardio and on Friday cardio only about 40 minutes. I also do abs three days a week. I use fitday.com to log my calories and exercise and according to it I burn approx. 3000-3500 calories a day and eat approx. 1600-1800. THis should mean I should be loosing weight but I am not. I have had my thyroid checked and everything seems to be okay. Does anyone have any suggestions? I am desperate to see some results on the scale!!!

Splenda
02-21-2006, 04:54 PM
I could be wrong but I read that exercise builds muscle and muscle weighs more than fat. So if your exercising and not losing weight you may be losing inches.:dizzy:

kelijpa
03-20-2006, 11:03 PM
Mrs. Jim,
Thanks for the inspiring words and the intro to Fitday, what an eye opener! I was getting losts in all the posts and personal stories (no offense to anyone) so I went back to your original message. Just have to do the work.
thanks!

peanuts
03-27-2006, 05:35 PM
ty mrs jim,thats very good advice.thanks for sharing ...peanuts

lilybelle
03-29-2006, 09:55 PM
Thanks Mrs. Jim for the incredible insight. It made so much sense to me. There were times in my life that I tried to use the "magic Pill" only to regain the weight and then some. Now, I stick to my low-carb program and work my butt off, literally, with exercise and it is working for me. I journal my food at home each day. I log it honestly and truthfully. I try to drink all the water that I should. I believe in my ability to succeed now and that has made a huge difference in my weight loss journey. The people in this 3FC forum are inspirational for me. I am also hooked on watching the Celebrity Fit Club and The Biggest Loser. It encourages me when I see others who are working at changing their lives for the better. Makes me want to get up and get more exercise. I now believe the biggest obstacle for me, was myself. I didn't think I could do it, but now I know I can. No pill can ever change my own bad habits, only I can do this.

Michelle
04-10-2006, 04:09 PM
Thank you Mrs. Jim for sharing that post. You really hit everything correct with the wording. You are such an inspiration...;)

PrestonsMama
04-10-2006, 09:20 PM
I just want to tell you THANK YOU for posting this. A few months ago I read this and it really sunk in!!! All that time I wasted looking for that "overnight fix" and then I found this! I have kept this article in mind ever since and I've lost 65 lbs so far!!!

alextucker
04-21-2006, 08:33 PM
Hi I Am New To This Sight My Doctor Has Recently Put Me On Glucophage 500 Mg A Day I Have Lost 11 Pounds In 21 Days. Has Anyone Else Tried This Way Before Please Let Me Know Thank You Chrissy


Glucgophage is used to treat Type II diabetics and yes weight loss is one of the side effects because it is keeping your blood sugar stable. Basically your blood sugar is to high so you bod stores the extra sugar as fat. Taking the med's keeps your blood sugar regulated so your cells can use it for energy rather than store it. I took Glucophage for a year when I was first diagnosed with Type II Diabetes, but after loosing the weight I was able to stop taking it and keep my blood sugar within normal ranges with exercise and diet. I unfortunately figured out just how much I could eat and keep my blood sugar down, but not low enough to keep the weight off so I am now back in the boat I was before. I am trying to exercise and eat low carb to keep from having to take med's again.

Elaine1951
05-14-2006, 10:27 AM
Just for my reading over and printing off.

lipidful
05-16-2006, 01:27 PM
I will tell you what changes I made.
I stopped eating junk "indiscriminately". What I mean by that is-I do sometimes have junk, but it's either the light version or it's for a special occasion, like a sliver of my niece's birthday cake. I will NOT eat it just because it's there in front of me. I am trying to keep that promise to myself. If I really REALLY want some, I will have it, but most of the time, I don't even really want it anyway.
I also stopped eating regular food indiscriminately. I have to keep track of what I'm eating, at least in my head.
I will NOT allow myself to get too hungry. I'm eating something every couple of hours. My blood sugar seems too sensitive to go too long without eating. So I tried eating smaller amounts more often, and lo and behold, it worked for me.
I never starved myself. In weight loss mode, I started out at 1500 and my nurse practitioner told me that was too low for me so I raised it. I'm now around 1900 a day and holding out at around 145 lbs.
I can live with that.
It's now always easy, but I have (I hope) convinced myself that every meal does not need to be a "feast", which seems to be the way I was living before. The very hardest part for me is restaurants, and not because I really want to eat the huge portions of junk, but more because there seem to be so few sensible options available.
I also exercise a little, but not nearly enough.
Losing weight was not that difficult. It truly is keeping it off that is the toughest. I wish us all strength in this constant battle!
Oh, and I never believed in a "magic pill" LOL and never took any weight loss supplements. Just multivitamins!
edited to add: I'm glad I don't really like fast food or hot dogs/cold cuts/sausages/any kind of strange meat. It saves me a lot of grief! LOL Easy to avoid b/c I don't even like it! ;)

carolr3639
06-29-2006, 12:18 PM
I read something on here about nondieters after a search for Jean Antenello. But once I'm logged in I can't find it. Help!!! I don't think I'll ever be able to figure this place out. Ha! :dizzy:

Glory87
06-29-2006, 12:30 PM
Jean Antenello is mentioned in the following three posts. If you click the links, you will see individual posts. If you want to read the entire discussion, you can click the Thread link on the top right hand corner of the single post window.

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showpost.php?p=476274&postcount=7

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showpost.php?p=477923&postcount=19

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showpost.php?p=476247&postcount=1

mnleadfoot
06-29-2006, 03:06 PM
I laughed out loud when I read this post. Thanks to Weight Watchers and The FIRM exercise routines, I've managed to lose 85 pounds and SIX dress sizes. (HORAY!) I can't tell you how many people have come up to me and asked me, "How did you do it? What's your secret...?" As soon as I say the words "diet and exercise", their shoulders slump. Absolutely everyone is looking for that miracle that will make them shed pounds while eating whatever they want and doing absolutely nothing. I'm here to tell you...nature doesn't work that way.

It took me 2 years to take my weight off. I jumped on the wagon with all sorts of enthusiasm, then fell off the wagon...jumped back on...fell back off...I'm sure many of you can relate! I chose Weight Watchers because it's one of the safest "diets" out there. I hesitate to use the word "diet" at all because losing weight and keeping it off is truly a lifestyle change. The older I got, the more I realized I needed to exercise in order to not only lose weight, but keep it off as well. If I fall off my exercise wagon, my pants start getting tight and I know I need to buckle down and get back on track. I never want to see that size 16/18 ever again! I also have heart disease that runs in my family, and as a woman I'm much more susceptible to die at an early age because of it. Three more cheers for exercise which will significantly lessen that possibility for me! :carrot:

Another thing that helped me was not weighing myself throughout my weight loss adventure. I don't even own a scale. I took my measurements when I started and periodically checked my progress every once in a while. I can't tell you how elated I was to see an inch gone here, two inches gone there...it was great! I'm happy to report a total loss of 35 inches. Also, muscle weighs more than fat so I didn't want to get discouraged by seeing either little or no weight loss after 2 weeks of exercise.

One piece of advice I'd like to give everyone struggling with weight issues is DO NOT beat yourself up when you cheat on your diet or fall off the wagon! Just acknowledge the fact that you "slipped", and get back on track the next day. Don't let your guilt drive you to give up altogether. Also, it takes a while to safely lose weight. I guarantee if you add exercise to watching what you eat, you will see results much faster than you anticipate. Imagine that wonderful feeling of buttoning a pair of pants only to have them fall halfway down your hips because they're TOO BIG!

GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE OUT THERE!!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!!! :hug:

WaterRat
06-29-2006, 04:18 PM
Congratulations on your success!! And you're right, no one wants to hear the dreaded "diet and exercise" formula. :lol:

Your post did however, hit one my "buttons. You stated that muscle weighs more than fat... It does not. A pound of fat weighs exactly the same as a pound of muscle. It's just that muscle is denser than fat so that a pound of muscle is smaller than a pound of fat. There's a photo wandering around in a lot of threads here showing the difference in size between a pound of muscle and a pound of fat. Amazing.

But again, you've done a great job. Making a lifestyle change is what works!

ziggy71
08-26-2006, 01:23 AM
Thank you!

lacydee
09-28-2006, 10:20 AM
I figure over the past few years of being an adult, I have probably lost about 500 pounds. The problem is...they have been the same 20-30 over and over again. This time, I have decided, I can't do this on my own. I prayed and told God, "Lord, you know my weaknesses, you know I can't do this on my own. Help me." When we realize our limitations, we have taken the first step. I started with watching by using the Weight Watcher's point system in May. I have lost 35 pounds by doing so. I will always have a problem with my weight because I love groceries. I love Pizza Hut, I love Taco Bell, etc. But, I can make the healthier choices and still have some yummy junk food. I realize this isn't a "diet" this is a life change. This is something I have to live with the rest of my life. I also have realized, I don't have to be a size 2, or a size 4 or any other size. I just want to feel better, look better in my clothes and live longer. I am still over-weight, and I still need to lose 35 pounds, but I am half way there, and what's the rush? I'm not in a race to see how much I can lose in x amount of time. This is a life long thing, I have the rest of my life to get it off. Attitude is everything!

t's babygirl
09-28-2006, 03:43 PM
I like the things you have to say...i too love groceries and pizza hut ...Keep up the good work..

MessyJesse
12-08-2006, 12:38 AM
I loved your post. Its very inspiring. Although I agree that its in you, it doesn't help to have the money for the healthier foods, I know this is a problem that I'm having, being a college student I have trouble buying fresh foods all the time because they are so much more expensive. Very inspirational though!

futuresurferchick
03-10-2007, 09:37 PM
Your post did however, hit one my "buttons. You stated that muscle weighs more than fat... It does not. A pound of fat weighs exactly the same as a pound of muscle.

It's all in how you look at it. If you take size as the basic unit, then muscle does weigh more than fat. That is, if you have a "piece" of muscle the same size as a "piece" of fat, the muscle will weigh more.

Obviously a pound is equal to a pound. If you take mass as the basic unit (like you are doing) then what can be said is that fat takes up more space than muscle, because a pound of muscle is "smaller" than a pound of fat.

Ultimately the issue is density, that is, mass per volume.

want2Bme
03-12-2007, 12:40 AM
Very inspirational. Thanks for sharing :hug:

JenJen76
05-07-2008, 05:57 AM
hmmm

pink angel
05-07-2008, 08:53 PM
i always keep searching for secrets and stuff

but when ever i start i never walk to the end:(

Destiny2009
02-10-2009, 06:24 PM
Great job on losing the weight. You sound very inspirational. I am gonna look at your friend's website. I am trying to decide the best way for me to lose weight. I liked ww alot but i really didn't lose that much cuz my thyroid was inactive. I'm on medicine now. So, I may give it another try.

missjay
02-11-2009, 09:11 PM
Yeah Shirley I take it twice at dinner. And insulin in the day and night.

sukierd
05-09-2010, 11:17 AM
Thank you for your post and this thread including everyone's comments and additional advice. I sit here this morning struggling with the process. I know I need to eat less, exercise more. It isn't that part of the equation that gets me. It is the mental part. My goal for the last 4 weeks has been to exercise 5x a week. Have I done it...yes. Have I lost a lot of weight...no. Down 4lbs...up 2lbs. I still let the scale drive me, even when my goal isn't about the scale. It truly is the mental part. I let the scale disappoint me...then I get depressed...will I always be the "fat" one? I feel like giving up. I like the poster who said tell your head to "shut up". That is what I need to do. I can do this. I have faith. I have hope. I have dreams. I can believe in myself. I will keep exercising. I will track my food better and make wiser choices. I will tell my negative thoughts to "shut up". And I will continue to read more threads like this to inspire me.

Thanks again.:)

Onederchic
05-17-2010, 03:59 PM
Thanks for sharing and congrats!

Christy3
05-19-2010, 03:44 AM
Congratulations! I really enjoyed reading your post. And you're right, there is no "magic potion".

DhaniCauldwell
05-28-2010, 11:03 AM
Excellent post and congrats on your weight loss!

:queen: Dhani :queen:

Arnold77
06-07-2010, 10:58 AM
congrats on the weightloss!

AYearAndThreeMonths
07-06-2010, 12:28 AM
Wow, I've been struggling with weight for along time . What you wrote just clicked for me.....thank you very much!

inkdiva
07-12-2010, 03:35 AM
We all know that, in our heart of hearts. It's kind of simple, eat better and move more. I'll get there, eventually. Thanks for the words of wisdom.:D

waiting2exhale
07-28-2010, 06:35 PM
i remember that video! i tried finding everywhere and no luck till i found a web site and found it! It is so inspiring!

bigjosie
08-23-2010, 03:03 PM
Amazing journal and you are right there is no such thing as a magic pill!

Shades
08-29-2010, 05:22 PM
What a great and inspirational post Mrs Jim.
Posts like this are a great help to those like me who are just starting our weight loss journeys. This is one I will return to again and again when I need spurring on.

couponmom85
11-30-2010, 07:11 PM
thank you for posting this.
it really helps.

Raspberry 1984
12-12-2010, 01:29 PM
i wish if there was a magic pill or potion .. i would be releaved :D

thanks for the post

jessica2231
05-05-2011, 08:13 PM
Hi I am new to 3FC and reading this was amazing. Its like I know all my life that eating right and excercise is how i will get what i desire. But no I have tried so many other things and am still fat!

Not anymore!
im only 1 1/2 weeks in but God definetly brought me here to 3FC.
This is it! Im not giving up! thank you so much for your post Ms Jim!

SW254
CW249
GW126

mamato2boys
05-07-2011, 09:56 AM
Thanks so much for this!

fatferretfanatic
05-07-2011, 11:18 AM
What a wonderful post. Thanks, Mrs. Jim! I think it's great to know that there is no magic way to do it, but that we are all capable of doing our own internal magic and getting it done. There is no miracle, except the miracle of ourselves. That's very positive.

kmelody
05-07-2011, 08:58 PM
This is such a great post! Thanks for the reminder that our hard work really does pay off! :)

lillyw
05-08-2011, 03:56 PM
In the past, if someone had said to me that their "secret" was to eat less and exercise more, I would have been one of those who would be discouraged. Not because I didn't want to put in the effort, but because I had and it wasn't that simple for me! I actually eat more now than I used to.

What I try to tell people, if they're genuinely interested, is that I learned to eat smarter, not less. I learned what works for my body--eating often, lots of lean protein and veggies, moderate amounts of good fats and fruit, much less whole grains and starchy veggies than the government's food guide, and almost no simple carbs at all. That evened out my blood sugar enough to give me the energy to be able to exercise, and the more exercise I did, the more activities I could do and enjoy doing. And I emphasize that I'm never hungry and have loads more joy in life.

I'd tried losing weight by eating less and exercising like mad, and it just wasn't sustainable. What finally worked was deciding that whatever I did this time, it had to be something I could live with for the rest of my life. It's taking longer than I would wish, but since I'm out of the "overweight" BMI range (just barely), I'm not fixed on reaching a goal by a particular date. That doesn't work for me at all (my body seems to get stubborn if I try to force it). I am a smaller size than I'd ever thought possible. My size 6 jeans are starting to slip!:o I'd like to lose another 10 to be able to get my wedding ring on and indulge in a pizza occasionally, but I'd really not change much of anything, goal weight or not. I wouldn't say it has been hard. Hard was getting through the fat years, being exhausted all the time.

shakespearestoe
05-26-2011, 02:38 PM
I couldn't agree more! Great job!

ETLM
03-17-2012, 12:30 AM
Lol

highonlife
05-19-2012, 09:49 AM
Very insightful post! The quote is very accurate...

"99 percent of the human population are lazy *******s! And 99 percent of the fitness industry plays to this strength." ~Jacob Wilson

FattyFatFat
05-22-2012, 06:58 PM
I love your summary more than anything! The power is in US! Get motivated, stay motivated, and DO IT! Excellent babe!!!

jessica2231
06-07-2012, 12:43 PM
thank you!

Jbhigdon
07-24-2013, 07:28 AM
Great thread!!! Real inspiration!!!!

diamondgeog
07-30-2013, 03:03 PM
Just saw the original post, thanks for keeping the thread alive.

I have lost around 22lbs since May 1 and it has been hard but also getting increasingly easy. And I have so much more energy and fun everyday totally worth it.

I don't think this is a 'magic pill' but I always said the first thing I would do if winning the lottery (and Oprah certanitly has that kind of wealth and more) would be to hire a pro chef well versed in nutrition and weight. And a personal trainer. I can't believe Oprah can't have fantastic tasting yet healthy and weight reducing meals all the time.

But for the rest of us it is...changing habits. Not being perfect. More good days than bad...Trendline ....going down. Not straight down, but downward. That is where I am at, a lot of room for improvement still but way more good going on than bad. Yes no pro chef, no pro trainer...but Oprah could have those in spades. So desire makes up for a lot of that.

Downward and downward everyone.

diamondgeog
07-31-2013, 12:05 PM
In the past, if someone had said to me that their "secret" was to eat less and exercise more, I would have been one of those who would be discouraged. Not because I didn't want to put in the effort, but because I had and it wasn't that simple for me! I actually eat more now than I used to.

What I try to tell people, if they're genuinely interested, is that I learned to eat smarter, not less. I learned what works for my body--eating often, lots of lean protein and veggies, moderate amounts of good fats and fruit, much less whole grains and starchy veggies than the government's food guide, and almost no simple carbs at all. That evened out my blood sugar enough to give me the energy to be able to exercise, and the more exercise I did, the more activities I could do and enjoy doing. And I emphasize that I'm never hungry and have loads more joy in life.

I'd tried losing weight by eating less and exercising like mad, and it just wasn't sustainable. What finally worked was deciding that whatever I did this time, it had to be something I could live with for the rest of my life. It's taking longer than I would wish, but since I'm out of the "overweight" BMI range (just barely), I'm not fixed on reaching a goal by a particular date. That doesn't work for me at all (my body seems to get stubborn if I try to force it). I am a smaller size than I'd ever thought possible. My size 6 jeans are starting to slip!:o I'd like to lose another 10 to be able to get my wedding ring on and indulge in a pizza occasionally, but I'd really not change much of anything, goal weight or not. I wouldn't say it has been hard. Hard was getting through the fat years, being exhausted all the time.

Found this scrolling through and I think it is spot on. I too was eating the wrong things...dramtically wrong. Just way toooo many refined carbs.

I am slow and steady losing weight now eating smarter and exercising. 22lbs lost since May 1, right about 1.5 lbs a week. If I can stay on that pace that would be 80lbs in a year. I would be very happy with that. Feel so great, starting to run, exercise everyday. Never thought 22 lbs would make such a difference, but it is probably also not having so many carbs and exercising more. I've also had to have added some lbs in muscle as I am much stronger now. I have gone from 8 pushups to 25.

elliemackay07
09-26-2013, 11:02 PM
Thanks for sharing

destiny3
10-05-2013, 12:38 PM
Great motivation, thanks for sharing!

Inovmart
10-19-2013, 08:47 PM
Nowadays not only focus on weight loss, but more on fat loss and shape up and tune up...

ahna
04-03-2014, 03:31 PM
THis is a good thread! It takes work to lose the weight and keep it off. Day in and Day out! Its for Life! Keep going!

free529
04-07-2014, 11:57 PM
Thanks for sharing! :)