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04-10-2005, 01:26 PM

What we really want in a weight loss support group, boils down to one concept; we are looking for a sanctuary.

Sanctuary means different things to different people. Sanctuary is a place of peace, rest, safety, and rejuvenation. It keeps our spirit and our sanity intact.

Many of us who have a long journey down the weight loss path find ourselves in need of a break. Sometimes our bodies crave it, and sometimes the choice isn't ours, but circumstances forces it upon us. Other times, we need the clamoring throng to cheer us along our way as we breeze past milestones and overcome obstacles.

Sanctuary can be all that as well. It is what you need and when you need it. Sanctuary can be found in good friends who aren’t afraid of your truths and in an open, honest atmosphere.

Sanctuary isn’t judgmental, neither does it discriminate or ask to be censured. It is open to anyone with a desire to share, and especially those in need of and willing to offer support

04-10-2005, 01:45 PM
Thanks for the birthday wishes. I had a good birthday, execpt I still have this sore throat.

After I post I am off to have some soup, Nyquil and a nap.

I have gotten so far behind on my Spring chores - I feel overwhelmed - but keep telling myself "if it gets done, it gets done".

BarbG: Loved the pop up guy!!!!

Gloria: I love your stories and you have the added bonus of getting into your "skinny" clothes. Congrats !!!!

Tricia: Don't be discouraged - remember you are my inspiration so keep going. It was good you checked out those pics and didn't let one picture ruin your progress.

Chelsea: Hope you are feeling better.

My high school best friend included a picture of us at 15 in my birthday present - I marveled at how small I was. The really sad part is that at that time I "felt" like I was fat. I sometimes think that I have eaten my way through the years into the size I always "thought" I was. The big question is why did I think I was fat in the first place????? I don't remember anyone telling me I was and I wasn't. I was 130 lbs most of my adult life, but I sure have always had that thought in my head that I was fat.

Okay, off for that soup and Nyquil.

We finally got much needed rain last night so I don't have to feel guilty about not raking!!! ;)

04-10-2005, 02:59 PM
:mad: Well, girls, I think I've hit another plateau. Cripes. But, instead of obsessing this time I'm just going go and by the cheapest pair of size 10 jeans I can find. I'll just try them on once a week and that will be my goal instead of a number on the scale.

I've also decided it is time for another "starting over" state of mind. So, I sat down last night and mapped out a new routine. I've decided that I'll get up early Monday-Friday and do a walk/jog combo for half an hour. I'm going to try and work up to all jogging eventually. This way if something comes up and I don't get to the gym I can at least feel good about having done SOMETHING. I'm also meeting with one of the trainers this afternoon to get a new weight routine. Plus, I'm going to reduce my calories from 1500 to 1200/day. I'm still going to stagger them throughout the week, though. I'm also going to try and up my protein intake and cut out some of the refined carbs.

I think if I just do these things for a month or so it will give me the mental boost I need. I hoping to recapture the enthusiasm that we all have when we first get going. I am still enthusiastic about losing weight - but I am a little bored with the same old, same old.

Will tested for his orange belt yesterday. I swear, I was a nervous wreck and he couldn't not have been less concerned. I work VERY hard to make sure he doesn't pick up on my stress. There was one part that he had to do three times before he got it exactly right and the instructor had to count it out for him before he did. In his age group and at his level I don't think that is anything that would keep him from passing. Still, it could. Honestly, it isn't so much that I care if he passed or not - he can always try again next time. I just know how disappointed he will be if his name isn't on the list tomorrow. Everything in me wishes I could protect my kids from ever being disappointed - especially in themselves. But, besides being impossible, I know it wouldn't be fair to them either. They'll have to learn to roll with the punches sometimes. Ahhh, the joys of motherhood!

How is everyone else doing? Chelsea, are you feeling better? I hope so. Have you had to miss any of your sign language classes from being sick? Gloria, how is old Blue? And Sky? Find any great treasures lately? Lucky, how is your throat? I hate to have one - they make everything so hard to enjoy! I know exactly what you mean about looking back and seeing that you weren't the size you thought you were. I don't know how I will do it, but I am determined that Addie will have a more positive/realistic body image as she grows up. Will and Jake too, for that matter. And still to this day I will say things like, "I've struggled with my weight all of my life." Which is technically true. But I think I could be more forgiving of myself if I could accept that I wasn't fat back then and move on, focusing on changing how I am NOW. It is so overwhelming to carry this weight (no pun intended ;) )on my shoulders from so many years ago. And silly to boot! Oh, well, just one more thing I should be working on. Hey, and don't sweat your spring cleaning - you should see MY house. And on top of cleaning we have a ton of projects that we need to get to - replacing a couple windows, filling in the backyard with extra dirt, painting the outside of the house - all of that fun stuff. :dizzy: I look at it this way. We have a roof over our heads, we are warm in the winter and cool in the summer. Anything past that we will get to as we can. We don't have the time, money, or energy to tackle it all at once.

I am off to the gym. I'm a little nervous to come back though. We had Jake's hair buzzed not long ago (he likes it that way, it doesn't look bad, and I don't have to fool with bed head!). Will has asked for the same cut. Greg has decided that instead of paying someone $10 to do it he'll just go buy some clippers and do it himself. Will thinks this is a cool idea. He isn't old enough to have the life experience he needs to know that this could be a disaster in the making. I am sure it will be fine and if it isn't, well, hair grows back. I'll report the results later this afternoon.

Have a great day!


04-10-2005, 07:30 PM
Tricia, I love the gung ho attitude to diet and exercise and in my head I am right there with you. My body however could barely get off the couch. I did go and drag my garbage to the end of the driveway for tomorrow. I don't know why but I feel so much better if I do it the night before instead of waiting until the morning! :shrug:

I don't know if it's the sore throat or the Nyquil but I feel just zapped today.

Send me "energy" thoughts. :goodvibes:

I will keep my :crossed: for Will.

5 dogs
04-11-2005, 12:24 PM
I am getting old. One thing that makes Carl and i so special together is our ability to not take life so seriously and act like kids sometimes. On friday Carl and i were playing air plane. I stand in back of him facing his back and put my arms over his shoulders. He then pulls me up onto his back while bending forward at the wast. While i am balancing on his back, i pretend to be an air plane and he makes the buzzing noise of the plane. I know, we're strange but we have been married 32 years and i love doing silly and down right childish things with him. It keeps us thinking young. Well, this friday i was on his back when i got this sharp stabbing pain in my ribs. Carl quickly put me down and i was okay, then on saturday we had to pick up the love seat/sofa bed i bought at the garage sale that was extremely heavy. When sunday rolled around, i could barely move without some kind of pain in my right ribs. I hope i didn't do any permanent damage. Carl was so sweet yesterday. He did wash, folded and hung everything and made supper for me. I know it wasn't his fault that i got hurt, but he keeps apologizing. We have done silly stuff like this since day one when we got married and i have never gotten hurt so i don't know what happen this time. I took some pain pills and i think there starting to work. I see stars when i run my hand across my face. Hooo look, all the pretty little stars.
I think i need to go lay down now.

04-11-2005, 02:46 PM
Gloria, I hope your ribs are feeling better soon. Nothing like a good pain pill, huh? You have a marriage made in heaven. Greg and I are much the same in that we enjoy being silly with one another. I hope we never lose that. Otherwise, it will be a loooong haul before we get to the "until death do we part" stage of life!

04-11-2005, 08:02 PM
Gloria your life is so entertaining!!!:hat:

I think you are right to follow in her footsteps, Tricia. :)

It has been raining for two days and is suppose to rain for two more. I keep thinking about all the work I have to do outside and get anxious!!! I know the rain is needed but couldn't it have waited until I was ready????

Food has been good (so far) today. I really need to get into exercise but I still feel so "crappy" in the head (NO comments) from this cold that I just don't want to move around. It may be just an excuse :mad: but I am going to wait one more day before I start back at exercise.

I forget, do any of you want Desperate Housewives?

Well, I really feel like a cup of coffee but no I can't have caffine this late in the day - hmmmmm, what to do????

What ever happened to Cheryll anyway?

04-11-2005, 11:39 PM
Just a note to let you know that I'm still around and still reading.


04-12-2005, 10:18 AM
Peekaboo :)

Just checking in to let you guys know I'm still alive :) School's been getting more hectic as we get close to the end, with them cramming as much information as they can into our poor heads to get us ready for our next big test. 7 1/2 hours, 350 questions of exam goodness ;)

Snuck in during class, so I haven't had a chance to catch up. I'm sorry I missed your birthday, Lucky; I did catch that. Happy belated birthday :)

I'll try to catch up as best I can (though, at this point, I'm not sure it's possible) *laugh*


04-12-2005, 02:29 PM
Did you ever have one of those boyfriends that you loved to be around right from the start? You got along with him so well and he treated you so nicely and everything he said seemed so important to you. But, then with no explanation he started paying less and less attention to you. You think you must have done something to deserve it so you'd go crawling back promising you'd be fix what ever it was you'd done wrong but then the same thing would happen again. For some reason you just keep going back until one day you wake up and smell the coffee and realized that you haven't done anything wrong - that cleary HE is the psycho and doesn't deserve YOUR attention.

That is me and my FREAKIN SCALE! I've haven't been weighing myself nearly as often - you know, if I give him his space everything will be fine. Well I stepped on this morning and that a**hole said I weighed 166.8! 2.8 lbs gained! I know, I know, I just got through with my whole, "not gonna worry abou the scale, gonna go by the size 10 jeans" speech. But, remember, I am in stupid girlfriend mode and I said all of that when I thought the scale was going to start being nice to me again! :lol:

Honestly, I'm really not that upset about it. I've been working much harder on the weights and I am sure I am finally starting to build more muscle. It was just such a SHOCK at first. I'm calm now - and back to sane, objective girlfriend mode - I've just got to find a way to break up with that ******* for good! ;)

Hope you are all having a great day. Our weather is beautiful and when the kids finish their lunch we are going right back outside.

Oh, and Gloria, my tomato and pepper plants have their first blooms so we'll have nice fresh veggies in no time. I can't wait!

Talk to you all later!

5 dogs
04-12-2005, 05:04 PM
Yes Tricia, i did have a boyfriend like that. Everyone including my parents just loved him. As it turned out, he was nothing but a blood sucking maggot that had everyone fooled. I put him out with the trash just like i did my scale. The funny thing though, my parents hated Carl but i just knew that this was the guy i could be truly happy with. To make a long story short, Carl and i went out on two dates in two weeks, moved in together for a couple of weeks and were married by the end of the month. Stupid old boyfriend sent me a letter wanting to get back together after Carl and i were married and still on our honeymoon. I sent him a letter back saying "You are a little to late. Boy that felt good signing my new name instead of my maiden name.

Could your extra pounds be from water weight instead of fat weight? You are still a young woman so i don't imagine you are going through menopause yet. I bet you will find that tomorrow your weight will be back down to normal.

After taking two days off to let my sore ribs heal, I'm having a hard time getting back on the "I hate my body and I'm not going to take it anymore) wagon. I'm wondering if its the heat. Even now as i sit here typing, all i want to do is go take a nape.

I am starting to worry about you Lucky and Chelsea. I hope you get to feeling better soon.

Hope to talk to you soon.

04-12-2005, 05:17 PM
Gloria, I don't know if it is water weight or muscle gain. I know for sure it isn't fat. I've been right on track with my diet and exercise. So, while it is possible to have not had a loss this week it is absolutely impossible that I've gained almost 3 pounds of fat. That is why I am not concerned. Just caught a little off guard is all. I look at it like this: I've got at least 30 lbs to lose before I hit my goal weight. I'm only 36 so I have many, many years to enjoy being at that weight. Three pounds up or down at this point isn't much a an issue in the big scheme of things. I am not going to stress about it unless I keep having unexplained gains. But, I'll cross that bridge if I ever come to it. No need to worry over something that hasn't even happened yet.

I was wondering where everyone else is too. Maybe everyone is feeling better and their weather is nice and they are just too busy enjoying being out and about. That is what I hope, anyway!

Oh, and Will passed his Karate test. We have the award ceremony tonight. He is sooo excited and I am soooo relieved!

Catch you all later.


04-12-2005, 06:03 PM
Hey everyone :)

Guess what I've been doing today! Even though we had some snow (yes, snow!) last weekend, the weather seems to be headed straight to summer now. I decided it was finally safe to buy my tomato plants! We chose 4 varieties, but the new ones we bought a single, larger plant. I love Roma tomatoes, but they carry a newer hybrid at our local nursery, and it worked very well for me last year. They make terrific salsa, plus I chop them up for omelettes and all sorts of other dishes. The others are an early girl, a heatwave and a cherry type tomato called a SuperSweet 100. The name alone made me giggle. Just in case the weather turns on us again, I only have them transplanted into larger pots at this time so they can come in for the night. I normally buy the really small plants, so the larger ones feel a bit like I'm cheating. I'll find a way to get over it. Probably will have something to do with eating those first tomatoes that are already growing on them. ;)

I'm almost over the nasty leftovers of this cold or whatever it was. I woke up this morning feeling ready to get back to everything, especially my workout, but my lungs still weren't quite up to the job. After hacking for a while, my back was all knotted up, and it felt like I was going to pull a muscle if I moved too quickly. Blah! Still, I checked with Tony, and we both think it is ok for me to be back on my food plan. I'm also going to go on a good walk this afternoon as long as the wind stays down.

I tried really hard to get my measurements taken this morning, but the lady I like to do mine at Curves was out right then. I do have a starting weight, and I'll get with her tomorrow. No point in stressing over it or using that as an excuse to wait another day to start back on my food plan. I doubt my inches would change that much after one day. :lol:

Tricia, I was so sad to read your frustrated post about that lousy picture. My first impulse was to tell you to get all dolled up, makeup, hair, your favorite outfit, etc., and to get out a digital camera. Step in front of the largest mirror you have in the house and take a picture of yourself! Take several, in fact. I bet the other picture just caught you wrong. You've seen pictures on tabloid covers that catch gorgeous stars and models in rotten lighting or some odd pose that makes them look 20 years older and too thin or too fat. A camera might not lie, but it isn't always telling the truth either. :) Anyway, that advice is probably far too late, because it sounds like you are rather on top of things again. Still, it might be fun to do, and you can look at the pics again when you are fitting those size 10 jeans comfortably. Right now I have a total love/hate relationship going on with older pictures of myself. I love to see how far I've come, but it makes me sad to know I was there in the first place. Oh, and the bad bf/bathroom scale analogy was so dead on! I still need to find a way to make a clean break with mine. :lol:

Gloria, ouch about the ribs! Are you sure you shouldn't be checked by a doctor? I hope it doesn't keep you off old blue, because I love those stories. :) The story about you and Carl meeting and marrying just made me smile. You two were really meant for each other.

BarbG, good to see you! How is every little thing?

Lucky, I think I pretty much know just how you feel. I feel like all my spring got put on hold because of this dumb chest cold. Still, glad to hear you are doing better. I'm really embarrassed I missed your birthday. Happy Belated! Oh! Almost forgot to ask. What do you think of cowboys? I mean the real thing. I have to find a way to get you in this part of the country to meet this great man who runs our equine therapy at the school. I swear, he can do everything. He even bakes his own bread! You planning a trip to Vegas soon? ;)

Kat, sounds like you've hit the post vacation busies bad! Hope it all settles down soon, because I miss reading your posts (yeah, like I can say anything here).

Chelsea, you feeling any better yet? You were writing really regularly, so the silence has me a bit worried.

Thought I'd close this by sharing the piece I wrote for the paper this month. It isn't my best technical writing, but it does come from the heart. Just sharing some of who I am with you. :)

Time ticks away, as time will. It is already the middle of April, and the year is a third of the way over. The year past seems a distant memory. So much has occurred, so many things have changed, and yet, so many have stayed the same.

I was looking through some pictures of my girls, the pictures just a few years old, and I was amazed at how much my children have changed in such a relatively short time. Time appears to have stolen my babies away and left a teenager and a soon to be tween instead. In another five years, my eldest will probably be off to college, and another five from that, I could reasonably be a grandmother. It all seems so distant and yet imminent.

Time passes, and with each waking hour, precious moments are gone beyond a point where they can be reached again. Although the temptation is to dwell in the past, we are forced to live in the present and to face a potential future with an open heart and hopefully open mind. There is nothing less inevitable than a new day dawning. The choice is left to us as to how we will greet that day.

These thoughts surface as I recall a recent image of coming home from work early in the morning and finding my two girls lying asleep in my bed. Their precious faces appeared soft and angelic in the morning light, and they looked so peaceful beneath my blankets. Watching their quiet slumber, it was hard to remember the previous week of runny noses and hacking coughs as they fought their way through a nasty chest cold. Those thoughts slid away as I realized sadly that moments like these would become few and far between in the years to come.

I fought the impulse to slip into the room and wake them, just to hold their blanket warm bodies close. It was a selfish impulse, and they needed their rest. They would wake soon enough on their own. No need to rush things. Time cannot be forced, she moves as she will.

As much as the reality of this strikes me, it also settles in that there are no guarantees. My hopes and dreams might just be that, and everything can change in an instant. Somehow, this doesn’t stop me from wanting to look forward, into a future pregnant with possibility. My heart grows warm and my step feels lighter. I can face the new day without fear and embrace my future as being another day closer.

Take care all, and have a great day!


04-12-2005, 07:32 PM
I'm sorry that I haven't been here in a few days. My mom's computer seriously crashed, and my cousin Rob took a couple of days to get it back on it's feet running better than ever! He is an electronics genius!!

Gloria-So sorry to hear about your back! At least you and your hubby have fun, eh? I hope it gets better real soon!!

Tricia-I know how you feel about the scale. The son of a gun has done many of the same things to me in the past!

I know there are more posts to comment on, but I can't remember everything right now.

I am feeling much better. Still got the cough, but have been taking better meds for it. Thanks all for the concern!! :D

Talk to you all soon!
Chelsea :wave:

04-12-2005, 08:10 PM
Andria, I LOVE your article. It is all so true and written with such heart. Thanks so much for sharing it.

And thanks for your concern. I was very frustrated but everything seems to be falling back into place. I've been especially hungry the last two days which is somewhat alarming. But, I've been really on top of my exercise and I think I probably actually need the extra calories. That sounds like an excuse to gorge, I know. But, I'm keeping them in check - I'm not filling up on chips or anything. I'm confident that I'm not feeding my head and that this really is physical hunger. Still, it is such a foreign feeling anymore that I feel like I am treading dangerous waters. I think I have just reached a stage that is going to require more evaluation and I may have to play around a bit with my plan before I find exactly what it is I need. In the meantime, I am happy with any pounds lost but am focusing more on at least maintaining, clothing size, health, and exercise. I have at least 30 pounds to go so I am sure this won't be the last time I have to step back and assess my plan and progress. I am hoping that as long as I keep my eye on the ball it is all going to be fine - just not as fast as I would like. But isn't that always the case? LOL. SLow and steady wins the race as they say.

I am off to throw a pork tenderloin on the grill so I will catch you all tomorrow. Have a great night!


5 dogs
04-12-2005, 08:42 PM
Wow Andria, i didn't know you wrote poetry. Your post was beautiful! When my son was 19 years old, he spend his third year in college as an exchange student in Japan. That same year, my daughter joined the Army instead of going to college at age 17. I went from two kids living at home to (swish), no kids living at home. The silence in my house was deafening. When i went food shopping i still bought the same amount of food for four people even thou there were just the two of us. Maybe both my kids moving out at the same time has something to do with the fact i have five dogs. I am content with my life as it is now, but am just sooo thankful that i have precious memories of when my kids were little and they called me mommy instead of mom.

Carl will be home soon so i guess i better start thinking about supper.
Take care.

04-12-2005, 08:54 PM
:dance: :cb: Tony posted. :cheer:

Hope you can pop in "a little" more often.

Tricia: I sympathize with your "boyfriend" story. However, remember muscle weighs more than fat, right Tony? I think you really need to move on to another "boyfriend". Your "how do your clothes fit boyfriend" and your "how you look in the mirror boyfriend". ;)

Congrats to Will!!!!

Gloria: I am better - almost normal. :lol: I actually washed dishes and am now doing my laundry. It's still raining here.

Enjoyed your "boyfriend" story. WOW you and Carl work FASSSTTTT!!!!

Andria: I am so jealous of the tomatoes!!! I can't plant for at least two more weeks. Hmmm I used to country dance, does that count? I can make bread too - in my bread maker :lol: Becareful who you want to hook me up with - I am old, ya know. :(

Well, I have paperwork to do for myself and my Dad's stuff. Not as though I don't get enough at work!!!! :mad:

Food was good today again.

Do you all want to do the 2 LBS IN 2 WEEKS CHALLENGE again?

04-13-2005, 01:59 PM
Hey everyone *yawn* :)

Guess who got called in to work last night. I'll try to not fall asleep at the computer while typing. :faint:

Lucky, you make me smile, know that? This isn't a bad thing, BTW. :) I really need the 2x2 challenge again. Any other ideas for a monthly challenge?

Gloria, poetry? No. Just opinion pieces that turn into feel good pieces some months. :)

Tricia, I love how you are willing to step back and reevaluate your plan to make it work for you. I think that is where most people fall to the wayside, to tell the truth. They get fixated on one "proper" way to diet, and they can't look beyond their blinders.

Chelsea, good to hear you are doing better and so is the computer!

I'm truly falling asleep here, so going to go hit the bed. Take care, all!


04-13-2005, 04:58 PM
Wow, just found the new thread! I wondered where you'd all gone! :shrug: Now I have a ton of catching up to do!

04-13-2005, 10:01 PM
Lucky, you are absolutely right and that is exactly what I intend to do. I stepped on the scale today and was back down to 164 - I was so excited. But it made me stop and think as to why I stepped on it in the first place and why the number is so important to me. I think it is because I've never gotten this far before. I've weighed a lot less than I do now but I only had to lose 10-15 pounds to get there. And back when I did that there wasn't any talk of BMIs, fat percentages, etc. It was the number on the scale. So, this stage of the process is very foreign to me.

Logically, I know that from here on out the scale will not be the best indicator of my progress, if even a good one. But I've been programed to judge my success on actual weight for so long that it is going to take time and effort to adjust my attitude. For all of my talk of size 10 jeans and muscle gain, deep down I still have a number in mind that sometimes overrules everything else.

To add to the confusion, this is the first real attempt to lose weight since having children. So, what I have in mind 130 being could still be way off track. I accept the bodily changes brought on by pregnancy - they are a small sacrifice for the children I have to show for them. Still, there is the mental image that makes it hard for me to know what a realistic physical goal is at this point. I feel like I'm stuck with a, "I'll know it when I get to it" situation. The problem is that I am a planner - always have been, always will be. So it is very difficult for me to feel like I'm just running around like a chicken with its head cut off.

With all of that said, I am working very hard to get to the place that I need to be mentally to successfully shed these last 30 pounds. I know I am doing everything right in terms of diet and exercise so I'll get to wherever it is that I am going - I just don't have a map to follow from here on out. I've got my fingers crossed that I don't get lost! LOL.

04-13-2005, 10:21 PM
Jeez, 8:15PM and I just got home - haven't even eaten my "evening" meal. :)

I have had three great day with the food and today I walked for half an hour during my lunch. So, why haven't I lost 100 lbs yet!!!! :shrug:

Tricia, sounds like you are onto a plan. I know what you mean about the number on the scale. It's like you can't believe it so you keep getting on.:goodscale:

Andria, how about we take the next few day to see if we can come up with something new? I like the 2X2 Challange but like Tricia does with her weight loss, I think it's good to "mix it up".

So come on Tony and you Chicks - brain storm.

We can decide next Monday on our plan, how's that? And NO I am not going on the "riding a bike while balancing chicken and a stool" challange!!!! Beside we already have a winner for that one.

Off hand I thought of "most exercise minutes" in a given period of time.

Hey - my vote is who rakes the most!!! :lol:

Well, off to read my emails.

04-14-2005, 03:07 PM
Hey, everybody, check out my ticker! I am almost to the first smiley face - and that isn't even the good news!

I stepped on the scale this morning not to weigh but to check my body fat percentage. Seeing 161.2 pop up was a really nice surprise but even better was seeing that I've gone from 42% fat to 34%. I feel so encouraged.

I have to go and make my grocery list but I wanted to pop in first and share my good news.


5 dogs
04-14-2005, 09:11 PM
I am so depressed. Since hurting myself playing airplane with hubby and had to take four days off to mend, i just cant seem to get excited about old blue or even the Y for that matter. Yesterday was an exhausting day of driving mother-in-law to the airport and cleaning up water from my neighbors toilet overflowing. (Neighbor is very ill and is unable to take care of himself. When his toilet got stopped up and proceeded to overflow, he called his daughter-in-law but she wasn't home so he called me). I need a good old fashioned pep talk. You know, win one for the old gipper. I can actual feel myself gaining weight and old blue is sitting in my backyard calling me but I'm just ignoring her. Poor old girl. Maybe tomorrow, if i feel like it. NOT....... Quick, someone please slap me upside the head to get me motivated again. I've fallen and i cant get up.

04-14-2005, 09:42 PM

I have cockel burrs ( if you know what they are, not sure how to spell it) all over the right side of my head AND I CAN'T GET THEM OUT!!!!

I was going to get llama poop for my fertilizer for my flowers but since the last llama died two years ago the area where they pooped is all grown over so while moseying around in the field I must have gotten my head too close to something. :mad:

Congrats, Tricia but I didn't fall for the "just checking my body fat" story! :lol: :goodscale:

Gloria WHACK
I know how you feel though. Okay, to help get back into it start thinking of some "challanges" we can do. I expect to see at least two from you tomorrow night when I check in. :D

Oh, good I just saw my SIL drive in their driveway - off to see if she can help my hair!!! :o This is NOT a good look for me.

04-14-2005, 11:28 PM
Lucky, I really in truly was just interested in my fat % - but it IS rather convienent that my scale happens to throw the weight out there first. Oh, I know, I could have just closed my eyes but I was so sure it wouldn't have moved I didn't even think of it. Of course, now that I have seen it move I fear turning back into a scale psycho. Heck, I got on it 10 times today just to see the number again - boy is it a spirit booster!

Oh, I know EXACTLY what you are talking about - those sharp, sticky, little devils are the worst. I've never gotten them in my hair though. One time I got my hair tangled in one of those curling iron things that has the brush attached to it. Stupid me didn't think to turn it off while I tried to untangle it all. My hair actually MELTED to the thing and my sister had to cut it out for me. Talk about a bad look. And she will never convince me that she didn't intentionally take out a little more than she had to. I would have done it to her!

Gloria, how is your weather? Have you been getting out much? Sometimes I find that if I stop stressing about exercising and just get out doors I find some motivation. I'll start out on the front porch and enjoy it so much that next thing you know I'm taking a relaxing stroll, my moods lifts and before you know it I'm back in the swing of things. Maybe go back and read your previous posts about Old Blue. Reading how excited you were and how much fun you were having might give you a boost too. I sure hope you find something that works for you. But, I know how you feel. We all get that way sometimes.

Take care, all!


5 dogs
04-15-2005, 10:30 AM
We call them sand burrs down here Lucky and they get stuck in everything. Trying to get them out of a dogs long fur is like trying to catch a wild turkey the day before Thanksgiving. Just a little southern humor there.

Hay Tricia, i think if i was doing as well as you are i would be on that scale every minute. You must be bursting at the seams with excitement.

I have an idea for a new challenge. If you don't like my idea let me know, you wont hurt my feelings. I was trying to think of something that all of us could benefit from in our daily routine life, so i am calling the challenge "hurdles. Everyone i think has hurdles that they have to conquer. Example: My hurdle this week is to get back on old blue and get back to the Y. Example: Not eating that ice cream thats in the back of the freezer and nobody knows its there but you. A hurdle could be anything that you know you should do, but just cant seem to make yourself do it. So time passes and that one thing never gets done. It doesn't even have to be about weight, it could be calling a friend that you haven't spoken to in years to trying new foods. Anything. So what do you think? Thumbs up or thumbs down.

Have to get this day started.
Talk to you soon.

04-15-2005, 11:15 AM
Thumbs Up from me! I'll just have to think for a little bit which hurdle to go for (I have so many these days!). I'm going to put some thought into it right now so I'll be ready if everyone else signs on. Great idea, Gloria!

04-15-2005, 03:30 PM
Tricia- A great big congrats on losing some more lbs!! Yeah, it's not all about the scale, but I know it feels good to see it go down. :) I did my weigh in today and I had lost a few more. At my weight I think it comes off faster because I am so heavy. The more you have to lose, the faster the weight comes off at first. So I think that's the main reason I've been losing quite a bit at first. Still, I can only tell a little bit. I mean, 12 lbs out of the 200+ I need to lose is practically nothing. But it still is nice. And congrats on the body fat % being less too!! Yay!!

Lucky-I hope you were successful at getting those things out. I don't know what they are, but I hope you got them out!

Gloria-Don't get too discouraged. I think Tricia's advice is very good. I am even going to take it because I haven't gotten out of this house much. Remember you're not alone. You will feel better once you decide to get back out again. I know it will probably be painful at first, just don't strain yourself too much. Listen to your body and know how much you can do. Just do a little bit at first if you need to. You know your body best, and you will be the best judge of how much you can take. I have to do that too. I really need to go for my walks again. With this cough hanging on, it's been hard for me to get myself out there, but I really do miss it.

I'm gonna go for now, but I'll talk to you all soon! Take care everybody!

04-15-2005, 03:32 PM
Oh yes, that idea sounds good Gloria, I'll think about what I want to do. ;)

04-15-2005, 04:57 PM
I've thought about the "hurdles" challenge and have decided that mine will be to incorporate more unstructured activity. I'm really good about getting out and doing an "official" workout. But I'm not as active as I should be day to day - leisurely walks, gardening, that kind of thing. It won't be long before I've reached my goal and won't need as intense workouts as I do now. I'll always go to the gym but I won't keep up my current pace. If I haven't incorporated more general movement I'll be packing weight back on in no time. It is so easy to justify just sitting around when I know I've done all of the exercise that I technically need. So, my "hurdle" is to do something active twice each day for at least half an hour each time (chasing kids doesn't count).

Chelsea, I know how you feel. One of the reasons I stayed at 214 for so long was because 80 pounds just seemed so impossible. But it was, and so is 200. I didn't see physical results very quickly either. I am only 5 foot 2 so it doesn't take much weight to make me very, very, round. It does however, take losing a good amount of weight before I start seeing a more oval shape emerging. Don't worry, you will get there as long as you stick to your guns. By the way, how is your mom? You had mentioned early on that she might start trying to lose weight too. Are you doing this together?

Alright, I'm off to get dinner partially put together. Karate is 4-6 on Fridays so if I don't do some stuff in advance we won't eat until 8. Have a great afternoon!


04-15-2005, 05:38 PM
My mom is not really working too hard on the dieting, but I think she is doing better than she was before, so that's good. Thank you for asking about her, that's very sweet!
I was about ready to give up on this whole thing until I realized I had lost some more weight. I thought I had been doing a great deal worse. I really need to go out and excersise, I just can't seem to do it. Any type of excursion just sets me into a coughing fit, and I just don't want to do that. But in the long run it'd make me feel better.
Tricia, your "hurdle" challenge sounds like it will be a good one. I'm really not an active person by any means, although I know if I were thinner, I would love to do more active things. I've gotta try more things to be active too. I mainly just sit around the house and on the computer. I wish I lived in a beautiful area where walks would be really pretty. But I just have to take what I've got, right? ;)

Anyway, take care.
Chelesa :)

5 dogs
04-15-2005, 06:54 PM
I am so excited! Went out on old blue today and am feeling like i could touch the stars. Went to the bank to cash am eight dollar rebate check on some silly thing we bought. I took my usual route thou the back roads where there is very little traffic and don't have to worry about getting hit by a car, and just as i was turning onto one of the side roads, i see something shiny in the middle of the road. I stop quickly and make a U turn to see what it was that caught my eye. It was a dime, a nickel and a penny. Now i wouldn't say i was cheep or anything but i LOVE finding money. Even if it is only sixteen cents. Anyway, i pick the money up and I'm on my way again. I have to cross in intersection in order to get to the bank and while waiting for the light to turn green, i look down and there at my feet is a quarter. As I'm shoving the money in my pocket, I'm thinking how lucky i am to have old blue and if i were driving my car i would have never found the forty one cents. So now that i have conquered my first hurdle of getting out on old blue, i can think about what i want to conquer next. I am thinking that maybe i need to address the drinking water hurdle. I hate drinking a lot of water during the day because 1.) i have to pee all the time and 2.) i hate the taste of it.

You know Sanctuary friends, there are no rules to this hurdle challenge so you could have two or more hurdles going at the same time. Some maybe easy to jump over and others you may have to really work at. What might be easy for you might be very hard for me, but i figure we could give each other support in the hurdles each one of us has to conquer.

Chelesa, I'm really getting concerned about you and your health. This thing that has a hold on you doesn't seem to want to let go. How long has it been since you've been sick? I hope you get to feeling better soon.

Have to go clean something or better get going.

04-15-2005, 08:24 PM
Gloria, I'm so glad that you went back out on old blue! You're adventures are starting again! Yay!! :dancer: Don't be too worried about me, I think I'm getting better. I've been sick for a good couple of weeks at least. But I'm not terribly ill, it's just kind of hard to do some things right now. I'm on the road to recovery!
Thanks for your concern! :D

04-16-2005, 12:24 AM
Tricia: So, you thought I would buy the :goodscale: story ??? :s: I weigh myself everyday. I have found it helps me get back on track if I "mess" up. Plus I read Tina Turner does it and if it's good enough to get legs like hers, it can't be bad! :yes:

Gloria: I love the hurdle idea. In fact I don't think I realized how much I need a "new" thing to motivate me. I love the 2 X 2 challenges but I think we can give it a rest for awhile - always there to do at the right time. It's good to be challenging ourselves to think of new challenges. :lol:

Of course, I have so many hurdles I will have to think on which one to tackle.

So how about we post our hurdle to conquer and start on Monday, April 18th? So we would go from the 18th to the 25th, as a goal. Not that you can't conquer it the following week if need be!!! ;)

I am so proud you got back in the saddle.!!!! :cb:

I hate drinking a lot of water during the day because 1.) i have to pee all the time I actually love water but because of this reason tend to stay away from it. I feel peeing takes over my life. I have to becareful where I go - I get scared to take a walk for fear I won't make it.

Chelsea: Glad you are getting better.

Well, it's late and I have a full day of raking, burning, hauling, digging, and painting tomorrow.


04-16-2005, 01:09 PM
Wow, I picked a great spot to pick up! I LOVE the idea of the hurdles, Gloria. Since I am famous for setting up my own hurdles, I think a challenge to jump over them is just what I need!

SO...for today, I'm going to get myself outside, the inside of the house be damned, and get moving in the yard, cleaning, raking, readying the beds, filling the birdfeeders...stuff I've been wanting to do all week, but didn't because there was always something else to do.

AND...when I'm done...or, I should say, when I stop (I'll never be done) I'm going to get on my bike (ol' Blackie?) and take a ride.

Thanks, Gloria! Great ideas!

Tricia, congrats on the numbers!

Lucky, did you get the burrs out of your hair? Without too much cutting?

Chelsea, if you can't walk around your neighborhood, what about driving to a park? There's one around here that I frequently drive has a nice place to walk around their small lake. Very calming to hear the birdies chirping and see and smell the flowers in bloom. Go at your own pace and stop when you need to. Treat are worth it!

Hi to eveyone else...I need to get started on my hurdle...I could find reasons to sit here all day, so I have to get moving!

Have a great weekend, all!

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