Support Groups - Pregnant and Staying Fit May 2001!

05-21-2001, 12:21 PM
Hiya Preggos!
Well, this place sure has slowed down! I too find myself lurking and unable to post as often as I'd like.

How is everyone doing? As for me, I am a hormonal mess-- although most everyone else can't see it, I certainly feel it. I feel like crying over everything.

I have to share something that happened today. I finally felt the baby kick from the outside. It was a wierd nudge, and I was like, WHOA! ;)
I wished that DH was here to feel it, but the baby hasn't done it again yet. I suppose that it is a prieview of things to come.

Gee, I am approaching my 22nd week tomorrow and I can't believe it! It feels like I was just 7 weeks and worrying about cramping and spotting and "possibilities". 5 more weeks until 3rd trimester seems increible and amazing. I am trying very hard to enjoy this and savor it as much as I can. I am now at the point where my belly is making it hard to lay on, and I am waking up to go to the bathroom a lot in the middle of the night. I find myself breathless so much (even climbing a flight of stairs seems to wind me) it is frustrating. I was looking at myelf in the mirror yesterday, and I feel like I look so big already. So far I have gained 6 pounds, and I admit that is what I consider reasonable, but it is in my belly and hips. I am gonna be really W-I-D-E... I tried to not be overly critical but I was not doing a good job. My exercise regimine has slowed down--I mean, well, I have stopped and that is the only way to stay as slim and fit as you can.
I know, I know, I was the one who said that I wasn't gonna worry about it. And here I am getting negative on myself. It;s so strange. Some people that I know act like they couldn't even tell that I was expecting, and others see it. Maybe some people are just more observant, and perhaps the ones who don't see it may have thought that I was just putting on weight. ???!!! I don't know. That is why it is cool for me to wear Maternity clothes, cause I think that the clothes tend to emphasize the pregancy. One woman thought that I was really showing a lot for 5 and a half months. I said really? I only gained about 5-6 pounds...then we went to this party and someone took a polaroid picture, and OMG! I looked so fat in the face, it really struck me so hard, and I admit that I had a hard time enjoying myself from that point on.

Don't get me wrong. Many people compiment me all the time, and I am so grateful for any positive thoughts on how I look right now. I am a very self-conscious person anyway. I really try to keep myself looking good and not frumpy because I need to keep my self image high right now. With 4 months to go, I am now getting afraid of what the end result will be...

I am not going to allow myself to get crazy about this, but it is getting to be a challenge already.

Thanks for letting me vent here. I am trying to remember that I can make positive choives currently to keep me as fit as I can be, and also, when the baby comes, there is Weight watchers to return to. I think that it is so important to take good care of yourself, mentally and physically while pregnant because the hormones really don't always allow to keep things in perspective all the time. I'm lucky that my DH is the kind of man who thinks I am always hot, LOL...if he were down about my physical side, it would be way harder. Anyway, I'm gonna stop for now.

I am wondering where Sara B is at? Haven't seen anything from her here or at the Labor of Love...I hope that you are jsut busy girl, I miss hearing from you...

And of course, everyone else too!

Let's try to keep updated as much as we can okay?

We all know that once the baby comes, that it will be harder to post.

Happy New Week mommies and mommies to be!

Scully and Bellybean

05-22-2001, 12:51 PM
Hello, pg friends! I am still here, but haven't been at the computer much. I've been busy working out in my yard and May is generally a busy month for us at church with lots of end-of-the-year type of events.

Thanks, Scully, for sharing all your thoughts and feelings because I can TOTALLY relate. I swing back and forth -- half the time I am so proud to be pg and think I look great, and the other half I am in despair by how big I am getting and feel just huge! I worry that I will be right back to square one as far as WW is concerned after baby is born. I have already decided I will be returning to WW at 6 weeks p pardem, no excuses! I want to get right back into the program.

I feel pretty good, although I know I'm not eating as healthy as I should. I am getting exercise but it is sporadic (yard work, mostly). I am swimming once in a while but not twice a week like I was for a while. I'm not feeling sick anymore but still get pretty tired. And I find it hard to catch my breath, which really freaks me out! Sometimes just sitting on the couch I feel like I can't breathe. I didn't have this with my other pregnancies. Baby must be higher.

Tomorrow I have another doctor appt -- can't wait! I get another ultrasound to see if we can tell the sex. I think they're also going to give me the stuff for the glucose test, yuck.

Hope everyone else is well! I'll let you know if we can tell anything from the ultrasound!

EDD 9/08

05-24-2001, 12:16 AM
Exercise???? What is that???? It has been so long I don't really remember what that is like!

Hi all. I'm glad to see a little action in here. I know everyone is busy especially with it being summer (almost) there is so much outside to do. I spent 4 hours out in the garden on Sunday which I was regretting on Monday as I was sore everywhere. It is getting increasingly difficult to bend over and I get short of breath easily. I am having a lot of trouble with my sleep too. I just cannot seem to find a comfortable position and end up doing a lot of tossing and turning. No wonder I want to sleep in everyday til 10 or 11am. I bought a body pillow today so I hope it will help. I had a dr's appt today, everything looks good, my ultrasound was fine, no troubles. I'm not sure how much weight I have gained as I tend to retain a lot of water on the days that I work and it falls off when I am not working. I'm not sure how that works but I have gained at least 15 lbs for 25 weeks. It is more than what I was hoping but what the heck. I'm not going to beat myself up about it.

Scully - like Sara I totally relate to what you are talking about. I feel so huge. I know I don't really look pregnant because I was so big to begin with I just look fatter. Probably by the 8th month or so I'll look pregnant (I hope). I bought a couple of pairs of what I call 'fat pants' to wear for work, otherwise I am hoping to get by in sweats and shorts.

Sara - glad to hear that you aren't feeling sick anymore. My baby must be right up against my diaphram somedays too, I have a hard time catching my breath if I overexert. Once in awhile it will just come over me like you were saying sitting on the couch, having problems breathing. I feel better knowing I'm not the only one this happens to!

Take care all. Look after yourselves and your babies.

05-24-2001, 07:58 AM
Hi ladies and babies.
I must admit, it's hard to think about keeping fit when the weather is hot and the babies are growing!
Scully, reading about seeing the baby kicking...I LOVE lying in the bath and seeing the ripples when the baby kicks. I keep shouting for DH to come and see but invariably the kicking then stops.
So how ready are you? 2 1/2 months to go and I've got the cot up, pram out, bought sheets, vests ..all but a car seat and a box of nappies! Well, i left it to the last minute before and had to puff round the shops with swollen ankles.
I found a photo taken the day after I had Ted yesterday and I've framed it. I'm holding him looking so happy and so fit and trim. the fattest bits of me are my swollen ankles. It breaks my heart to think that the depression took all that away from me and left me about 45lbs larger.
I'm keeping the photo where I can see it and focusing on the big smile. I'm so determined not to get the same again.
Enjoy the sunshine...

05-24-2001, 11:48 AM
Hello, friends! Just a quick note to let you know know we aren't much further along in knowing the sex of this baby! This time she thought it was a girl, but said not to count on it (last time she thought it was a boy). So I guess we'll just see!

Glad to read everyone's posts. It's so great to know I'm not the only one feeling these various things.

We are coming along with baby "stuff." Of course we have most of it from the other two babies, it's just a matter of finding it in storage (ycuk!) and cleaning it up. We are doing painting the nursery. We still need to buy a car seat.

Blessings to everyone!


05-24-2001, 05:18 PM
I have been so exhausted lately that I do not even go to the computer. It is very hard to sleep now but I do make sure I get a nap in the afternoon.

I am now officially at 33 weeks. The dr said it can be anywhere from 5 to 9 weeks from now. I can now feel her moving lower in my abdomen. Sometimes it feels like a foot or hand poking me in the hip bone.

Scully - I can relate to those hormones. But these third trimester hormones are worse for me than the other trimesters. Sometimes I think it is from the reality and pressures too. Plus, my little sister is getting married next week and I can not go to the wedding. It is over 2000 miles away and the dr said it is too close to baby time to be on the airplanes. So that is not helping my emotional state either.

Sara - Glad to hear you are not having ms anymore. Good luck with the glucose test. My results were well below accepted levels. I brought a bottle of ice water to drink after the cola stuff. I didn't feel that nauseus then.

Be well, ladies.

05-24-2001, 07:11 PM
Hiya friends
It's so good to hear from everyone again! :)

I'll tell you, I am so tired lately. I dropped the kids off at school and DH at the train and came home and went back to bed for two and a half hours! Can you believe it?!

Okay , here comes a MAJOR vent from me...

I am blaming the hormones on everything. Life is always posing new and frustrating challenges for me. Not that I am trying to sound so negative, but I am so worried about stuff lately.

DH works incredible hours, and my older son is having "social" problems in school,--my younger guy was suffering from stomach aches for almost 3 weeks and I had them run every imaginable test on him...and everything is NORMAL.

No diabetes ( there is a connection here but too long to get into) or lupus (I was grasping at straws), no H Pylori bacterium, no lactose intolerance.

His stomach aches have subsided and he is apparently better. It all started on his birthday with Kentucky fried chicken and a few days later, he bites into one of those "glow sticks" by accident...hmmm

Thank God that everything is normal, but it left me with no logical answer other than perhaps it is stress related? Maybe he was worried about being poisoned ( the glow stick)or who knows what goes on in a 7 year old mind?

Then the younger guy got some boo boo on his nose. So I took him to a dermatologist who said, ( and I have to tell you that I think this guy is a complete bumbling idiot) "Well, it is either impetigo OR psoriasis, and here's an RX for an oral antibiotic, a topical antibiotic, and a topical steroid". And within 5 minutes, he was racing out the door. My mouth dropped to the floor and I was so upset, but at the time I didn't have the forthought to tell the guy that his method was unacceptable. He never took a sample of the skin, to make sure what it was--

any way, long story, growing incredibly longer, I decided to call the dermatologist that he saw at a Childrens hospital in Chicago for something else. I told her that I didn't want to use a steroid on him without knowing what it was. I went ahead and tried the antibiotic (topical) and it seemed to be clearing it up, until a few days ago when something reappeared, even though I have continued the medication for almost 23 days now. So, I am at a cross roads now because since a skin sample was never taken, I hestate to use an oral antibiotic now, not knowing for sure what it is. My only recourse is to let it come back, and have her perform a skin sample at that time. It was a painful lesion, so I am worried about letting it come back, ya know? AHHHHHHHHHHHH!
There is now only about 10 days or so of school left and this is really bad timing. I dont want to infect any other kid, if what he has is indeed impetigo, but I can't, in good conscience use this antibiotic ointment longer than the 3 weeks that he's been on it.

So I obsess over all this stuff, trying to play scientist, doing research on the internet.
I know that it is not good for my baby. My stress hormones are probably too high. But I am not doing good at getting a grip on this. DH has his own set of challenges at work, and that is why he is working long hours.
And it leaves me feeling isolated, and left to figure stuff out. Getting a Dr.s appointment at eh Childrens hospital (where they specialize in stuff) is like pulling teeth and getting in there in a reasonable time is difficult. I am fortunate enough to be in contact with the department head, Professor of Dermatology, and she is always so kind and caring to call me back. I wish that I would have taken him to see her to begin with 3 weeks ago!
I am finding myself having a harder time making decisions and I am frequently frustrated, and I admit, I feel like I am becoming more depressed about having little to no answers in a short/ reasonable period of time.

Finally, my last gripe is lame, but it bugs me . A friend of mine told me that she was going to throw me a shower, after I had mentioned that I would like one. So a few days ago, I asked her if she wanted a list for the shower. And she proceeds to tell me that she can't do it, her DH told her that they can't afford it. I felt so stupid for asking, because in the back of my mind I was kind of excited that I would be having one. If I hadn't asked her about it, I don't think that she would have told me that she wasn't.

It isn't about getting stuff at all. I don't want you to think that. I just would like a celebration of having a new baby in my life. It is an honor to be surrounded by people who are excited for me. I think a lot of times, that people believe that showers are meant for 1st time mom's. I don't believe in that tradition, as I feel all babies should be welcomed by family and friends. But it would be rude to ask someone to throw you a party-and I wouldn't do that. And throwing my own party might not be looked at as proper either. Even if I emphasized that I didn't want gifts...maybe after he is born, we can do that to welcome him home.

Okay, I'll stop with my gripe now.

Are your eyes tired from reading yet? LOL...
Well, I'll continue with other things later. I want to respond to each of you as well. Next time I'll continue on a more positive note.

I am so sorry for the diatribe going on and on. I need to let it out. It's just how I am feeling and it has never been any good for me to keep it bottled up.

Bellyrubs to all,
Scully and Bellybean

05-25-2001, 05:44 AM
Hello to everyone,
Please don't take this the worng way, but it's so nice to read about all the ups and downs because I relate to your feelings so well. All I want to do most of the time is lie down somewhere cool and read a trashy novel but life goes on and on, domestic emergencies of one kind or another people who want my time or waste it, and I keep thinking I should be able to concentrate on being pregnant and doing what I want to for the next few months because after that I'll be a baby slave for ages.
I'll probably have to miss a friends wedding (which DH has said he will go to alone which I'm not sure about) his parents 50th wedding celebrations (quite glad to get out of that but as I apparently have so much time on my hands I have to design write and send all the invitations) and a big trip to Ireland to celebrate my brothers 50th, his eldest daughter becoming a doctor and his middle daughter's 21st and youngest daughter's 18th (really upset about that as everyone else is going on and on about how good it will be and how much they are looking forward to it).
We don't have baby showers here..I wish we did. Celebrations seem to consist of people arriving unannounced and staying until the baby starts crying. Having had one myself I turn up and start offering to clean floors/make up bottles etc but that approach seems to be frowned upon. I think you have showers before the baby arrives? What kind of things do people bring? Some people bring presents after the baby is born, usually flowers or clothes, and of course all my aged aunites are busy knitting ridiculous frilly matinee jackets and booties (very appropriate for August). Best presents are at the christening, Ted's was only last year and he was given some lovely 100year old silver and a crate of port and champagne from his birth year to be kept until he's 21.
This morning I'msupposed to be heading off to the zoo with one of my sons little pals. Their idea, we all agreed last week, I stupidly volunteered to make a picnic and here I am waiting for the mother to call me back and let me know how many people are coming and what time they think we should meet up. I'm giving it another 30 minutes before I phone my Mother and ask her if she fancies a swim and lunch out which is what I'd like.
I've chickened out of the glucose test. I just cannot drink that horrible sweet stuff first thing in the morning without being sick. Only once have I kept it down long enough to get tto the hospital and then they were too busy to give me the test in time. I'll just have to talk to the mifdwife.
Anyway, I'm aware I'm rabbiting on again so will leave you with my best wishes.

05-25-2001, 10:15 PM
Hi all. Glad to hear I'm not the only one feeling like laying around all day watching her belly get bigger. Honestly I could spend the next 15 weeks in bed and be perfectly happy. Unfortunately I'm healthy as a horse so that is out of the question. I did take today off work though as I slept terribly last night and my back has been so sore.

Geneve - people can have baby showers whenever, before or after, I have seen both. I don't want a shower myself. I don't really have that many close friends to throw me a shower so I'm not too worried about it. I think your idea of offering to do stuff like cleaning up etc is nicer but I can see where others might not think so. Makes them feel inadequate that they can't take care of this stuff as well as looking after the baby. I would go with making them up some little treats, baking cookies or muffins or something like that. Also anyone that drops in unannounced on me isn't getting in the house for more than 5 minutes. That has got to be the rudest thing ever.

Scully - I'm sorry to hear that your son is having this boo boo on the nose. The nose is an odd spot for psorasis, usually it is on the elbows or knees, my dad had it. Of course it can show up anywhere, a girl I used to work with had it all over including her scalp and face but then you are likely to have more than one little spot on the nose. I have eczema myself and I know how stress related some of these skin conditions can be. Just before my dad died my whole face and neck was one big rash but generally I don't have a lot of breakouts anymore. Have you changed the type of soap he has been using? Ivory and Dove are supposed to be the best for sensitive skin. Also did he just putting on sunblock? It could be a reaction. Also you said that it was a painful lesion, psorasis usually isn't painful unless you happen to scratch at it a lot. It sounds like your best bet is to stop all treatments until it comes back and then have it properly diagnosed. The dr that gave you 3 different treatments needs to have his head examined. You don't do it that way, you try one thing at a time, giving each treatment a sufficient amount of time to work or not work.

bensmom - I'm only at 25 weeks and I could spend easily 12 hours sleeping. I don't sleep well at night anymore, I toss and turn a lot. Do you have one of those body pillows? Anyone, what are you supposed to do with it? I tuck it between my legs and try and get it under my belly a bit but it really doesn't seem to be helping me.

Sara - I haven't got anything for the baby yet. My mom has bought us a few outfits and we have a stroller and playpen from my brother. He's going to give us a bunch of other stuff eventually. What is holding me up is waiting for the DH to start working on the baby's room. Until then I refuse to buy anything because I won't have anywhere to put it!

Take care all, have a nice weekend. Jennifer

05-30-2001, 03:25 PM
Hello everyone, I'm having such a weird day I have to write...found out a friend died a few weeks ago. About my age and she had a daughter just a few weeks after I had Ted, called Teddie. I know some of you will think that I shouldn't talk about death when we are all in the middle of new lives, but it has been a real shock, not because we were very close, the friendship originates with my DH who went to university with her husband, but because it has put all my little gripes and worries into perspective. I think it was John Lennon who said something like 'life is what happens while you're busy making other plans', and I guess that's me these days, living my life 10 weeks into the future when all the time it's going on all around me. It's just so sad for all of them, a few weeks ago they were planners and dreamers too.........
Sorry, sorry, sorry..
on to other things. DH broke his hand playing cricket and has ruled himself out of all domestic duties for a while. I'm half cross and half sorry for him. It was rather gory and I guess it hurts as I now have company in my sleeplessness.
I went to my first parentcraft class (horrid expression) and found out to my horror there are masses of pregnant women in the village all due in the next few months. I put it down to the terrible autumn we had...we were flooded in October/November and most people couldn't get to work etc...
There were some lovely women there though, so I am swallowing my cynicism and am going to go just to see if I can find a few new friends. They also asked me to do a reflexology talk/demonstration which I was very flattered by. I LOVE treating pregnant women, especially since I am one myself, the flow of energy is very uplifting.. hard to describe but if any of you have tried reflexology you might understand.
Thats about all. Forgive me for asking but if any of you pray, please say a word for poor Teddie and family, i do believe it will help.
Sending my very best wishes to Mums and babes.

05-30-2001, 06:01 PM
Geneve - You are so right. Sometimes it takes a slap in the face to make us realize how small our problems really are. You can count on my prayers for the family.

Scully - I hope things are going better for your sons. My son actually came to me the other day and told me I was not giving him enough attention. Well, talk about a slap in the face. He has been so independent this year that I guess I got used to not doing everything with him (he is nine). So I dropped what I was doing to go and play with him. I felt terrible at the time but I realized he was right. There are a lot of things I want to finish in the next six weeks. But if that means not doing things with him, well then it will have to wait.

Friends gave me a surprise shower the other day. And I can say I was definitely surprised. Instead of a wishing well they had a "big brother basket" for my son. I thought that was a great idea. He enjoyed that a lot.

I had my 34 week check up today. And all is going well. Baby sounded good and is moving a lot. I can't believe how fast the time has gone by.

Hoping everyone is having a good day.

05-30-2001, 09:07 PM
Hello, dear pg friends!

It's good to hear how everyone's lives are going. You are so right, G, that sometimes we need something to wake us up and make us realize how thankful we are for all we have been blessed with. I am praying for the family.

I feel like I've gotten HUGE just in the last week! Baby is really growing (or at least, I sure am!). Those kicks and rolls just keep getting stronger. I just love feeling the baby move. Especially in the evening, when I am sacked out on the couch too tired to move, I just love feeling the baby move all around. I will be sad to see this pregnancy come to an end.

Does everyone have names picked out? We are all set for a boy (Josiah) but still up the air about a girl. Our choices are: Samantha, Abigail, Alyssa, and Grace. Middle name will be Danielle. Anyone out there have a favorite?

Cassanda, I think at 34 weeks you are the closest to delivery in our group! Are you getting excited? How are you feeling? Is you back holding up?

Blessings to everyone, and Scully hope everything is okay with your sons.


05-31-2001, 05:36 AM
Cassandra, Sara, Thank you both.
We are still struggling with names to, personally I really like the name Grace and I might have chosen it myself but we already know two girls with the name. Also the fact that neither of us are in the least graceful...
DH and I seem to have totally different taste in names, especially girls. I also made the major mistake of asking my family for suggestions so have had some scary ones from my father in particular. For a boy I think we have agreed on Leo James, although I still like Magnus and Hamish (I was very keen on a Scottish name to go with my surname).
I'm off to see the consultant this morning to talk about a c-section. I still can't decide. My friend the midwife says I should but I still think if the baby looks a reasonable size in a few weeks time I might try for a normal delivery. Wish I know what it was.Had another dream it was a girl last night, but my waking self thinks it's a boy.
Whatever it is it can sure kick!

05-31-2001, 11:55 AM
G -- When are you due? Why do you maybe have to have a c-section (I'm sure you discussed it before and I somehow missed it, sorry.)


06-01-2001, 06:11 AM
Hi Sara, I'm due 10th August. Possible section because when my son was born he had shoulder distocia (shoulders stuck in birth canal). When this happens I believe they generally dislocate or break the babys shoulder to get it out, they cannot do an emergency c-section once the baby is stuck that way. Luckily Ted got away with a dislocation and has no subsequent problems using his arm, but I was a real mess. Because of the tears I needed 3 pints of blood and no end of stitches. A gory story, but NOT going to happen to any of you, it's unusual, and I've no regrets as we both survived healthy which is the main thing. However there is a chance it may happen to me again so they have to try and work out how big the baby is,or more importand how big it's shoulders are. Now I'm tall (5ft8) and very strongly built, broad shoulders etc, DH is similar but taller although his family are pretty average build. My family throws out a fair number of giants on both sides, many men well over 6ft on both sides and my son is supposed to finish at about 6ft5. SOOO will it be a biggie or a little one? Turns out no one knows, all they can do is keep on scanning but I learned yesterday that the scans can be up to 2-3lbs out either way, which is a lot. My uncle Jim was 13lbs at birth and frankly I'm scared!! On the other hand, hospitals here don't like sections, I know it's different in the States, but my consultant keeps hedging about a decision and wants to decide at 38/39 weeks.
Bet you wish you hadn't asked now!!!!!
Well,off for a bit of a walk (waddle more like).I'm up almost 14lbs in all now and I can feel it!
Best wishes to you all.

06-01-2001, 12:40 PM
Hi all. I am so sick!!! I have a cold, just started yesterday with a sore throat and I feel warm but I don't have a fever. I just feel miserable. I'm drinking a lot of water and orange juice making sure I stay hydrated. The last thing I need is to end up in the hospital for dehydration.

Geneve -We do get quite settled into our present lives and forget about the long term. Having a friend pass on would certainly make me sit up and think about things too. I guess in some ways I am less sensitive because I see a lot of my patients pass away (I am a nurse) and it doesn't affect me the same way anymore. As long as they are comfortable and painfree I usually feel it is for the best. I hope that doesn't sound callous. I am more affected by patients that are in a lot of pain and can't get any relief. Yeah they do tons of c-sections in Canada and the US. If you were living here it probably wouldn't even be a question, they'd probably plan for a c-section right off the bat.

We are struggling with names also. We definately have Drake Arthur picked out for a boy (which I am almost positive it is) but we cannot agree on a girl's name. A long time ago I had said that I like the name Tatiana and that would be our girl's name. In the meantime my brother had 4 girls, their names being Tanita, Anastatia, Kerryssa and Callista. So all their names end in 'a' and Tanita is too close to Tatiana and so I have gone off that name. All this time he has had the name Tatiana stuck in his head so now he is having a tough time considering anything else. So far we have tentavtively agreed on Michelle, Brooke and Caitlyn. I would really, really like Heather Catherine, I think it sounds very feminine and pretty. We should start a separate thread just for names.

Scully - how are things with your boys? What happened to your younger boy with his nose boo-boo?

Sara - I think we are due about the same time, you are Sept 8 and I am Sept 6 so it will be interesting to see who goes first. I have been feeling a lot of little kicks but just the last couple days have I felt some really good kicks that could be felt on the outside. My poor DH has been waiting ages to be able to feel the baby kicking. I've just got too much abdominal fat for the baby to kick through. Out of all those girl's names you gave I think I like Samantha the best, I like names ending in 'a' but not for my own when she will have 4 cousins with 'a' names.

Bensmom - what a nice idea for your friends to make a basket for you son. Won't be much longer!!

Take care all. Hope everyone is well. Jennifer

06-02-2001, 07:20 AM
Hi everyone.
Jen-hope you feel better soon, and that you get time to rest. I love the name Heather, it's gentle and elegant.
Must dash, I have my 8 year old nephew staying and he and my son are playing archaeologists in the garden...digging a big muddy hole to you and I and I've just seen Ted putting a bucket full of mud into his paddling pool!

06-02-2001, 11:06 PM
The hubby finally felt the baby kick. We were just laying around in bed this morning, half dozing and talking and I felt a good one by my belly button. So he put his hand there and sure enough the baby gave him a good kick. He was really happy to finally feel it. I think it makes him feel more apart of what is going on. So far I think he has felt a little distant from the whole thing and hasn't been doing much to get ready for the arrival. I'm hoping that will change soon.

06-04-2001, 08:53 AM
Good Monday morning, ladies! I hope everyone had a great weekend.

Jen - I hope you are feeling better by now. I have had a head cold for two weeks now. It started off just like spring allergies but has not gone away since we have had a lot of rain. So, I just have to wait it out.

Sara - Part of me wishes this baby was due tomorrow and another part wishes I had another three months. We are not set up yet for her and we have not bought all of the essentials yet. But we are getting there. It just seems like there s always something else that needs to be done (i.e. son's baseball game, awards assembly, meetings, mowing the lawn, etc). I know we will get it all done. Sleeping is getting uncomfortable. I usually get up twice a night. I guess that isn't too bad.

Be well, everyone.

06-06-2001, 08:28 AM
Hello all. Quiet in here lately.

I'm still sick but today is the first day in awhile that I feel like I have a bit of energy. I'm not going to overdo though because that is how I got worse over the weekend and had to take 2 days off work. If I have just relaxed and rested on the weekend more I would have been able to go to work I think. Oh well, that's all in the past now. I have my regular days off now and suppose to be in to work on the weekend so hopefully my cold will be mostly gone over the next 2 days.

Finally we picked out a girl's name, it will be Michelle Catherine.

Bensmom - we are no where near being ready for this baby so don't feel too bad. I am still waiting for the DH to clean out one room so I can start getting it ready. I refuse to buy anything until I actually have a room to put it in.

How is everyone doing with their weight? I got on the scale today and I have gained 19 lbs for 27 weeks. That is a bit more than what I was expecting and I know it is me and not the baby. I've really got to start watching my diet because I didn't want to gain more than 15 lbs in the first place. Well if I can watch my diet and not gain more than another 5-6 lbs of actual baby and not me than I will be happy. But whatever happens, happens. I'm not going to get too worked up about it. Take care all.

06-06-2001, 11:47 AM
Hello everyone,
pleased you are starting to feel better Jen, and that you have decided on a name...
Bensmom, not long now...exciting. I keep waiting for an 'I've had the baby' message to appear here, especially when someone goes quiet....Scully, are you there?
On the subject of weight, which I guess is the other thing we all have in common, i really think that none of you should worry about the amount of weight gained...not that I will stop worrying of course! I haven't weighed for a little while,my belly is getting much much bigger and I'm strting to feel like I don't want to know. I plucked up my courage to walk about 2.5 miles this morning and I can FEEL how much heavier I am, my feet are killing me! I have promised myself that I'm going to join a gym after the baby is born and have put the cash aside, and made DH promise I can have the time off in the evenings or whenever to go. I honestly don't much care anymore if I'm never slim again but I dearly want to be fit and have enough energy to run round with my kids on the beach. Also it's so hard finding energy with a baby and I know one of the best ways is to exercise.
I know how much I weighed before I was pregnant and my first goal will be to get rid of the extra pounds. After I had my boy I was so disheartened by the amount of weight I had gained I just continued to eat and put on even more!
On the baby front, my blood pressure is too high (as per usual) so I'm going to try and walk and swim as much as I can. Also after a chat with the main man at the hospital and the midwife am pretty much decided to go for the section. I wonder if theres any chance of a bit of liposuction while they're at it?
Bye for now,

06-06-2001, 12:13 PM
:devil: Hello Shei, and everyone! Lurking a bit, here and there.

Getting ready for the boys to be out of school and trying to pick colors for our nursery (and bedroom). We finally picked out a nice midtoned blue with Linen white for our room, but the nursery is definitely more of the challenge. This is the first "real" nursery that I get to have, as we had lived in a condo before.

My son's nose is somewhat cleared up, but there is something going on there still. The dermatologist said that it is now eczema, but I am still skeptical. I wish they would have just cultured it to begin with. I am not a huge fan of the Medical profession, can you tell? :s: I swear, they can't diagnose any better than I can--everything is always a guess.

Anyway, I am feeling great. I reached the beginning of my 24th week today, and I can really feel Bellybean moving a lot more. At my last OB appointment, thier scale said I was up 11 pounds , but my scale (the one I have been weighing myself on since before I was preggo, says I have gained 7 pounds) - I think I like My scale better! :o
I am so winded when I walk up the stairs and even my normal walking pace is slowing down substantially. I suppose that is normal, right? I'm woth You Shei, I am really trying to not get too down about the weight gain, and take it in stride. The challenge to stay mentally upbeat afterwards will be a little harder. Ihave a gym membership now, and I really should make it a goal to get there on the weekends for some respite.
Is everyone as busy as us? I swear, there are days I can bearly breathe to get things done. :devil: but here I am on the computer, when I theoreticaly could be at the gym...

The weather here in Chicago has been so yucky. Raining and cool for the most part. By the weekend, we should be getting back into the 70's, thankfully! I am looking forward to going to summer activites with my boys.

I hope that everyone is healthy and happy. These darn hormones are rough! I miss my Dh so much lately. He's been working really long hours and I have been a bit lonely. Although, I am very busy during the day, night time is harder. We are winding down our Baseball league and have 2 more games til the end. Liam is signed up for soccer for the fall and I am really looking forward to that- although it hit me yesterday, that in October, I WILL HAVE A NEW BABY!!! :smug:

Be well everyone!
Scully and Bellybean

06-06-2001, 10:40 PM
Hi all. I just finished colouring my hair and it turned out awful. I goofed big time. Usually I am pretty good at it but I missed at lot of spots somehow and in some spots the roots are lighter than others. Oh well. I guess I'll have to take another crack at it tomorrow and hope my hair doesn't fall out.

Scully - that is fantastic that you have only gained 7 lbs! I always go by my own scale. About your boy's nose boo-boo if it is eczema, I have that as well. I don't know what the doc has given you but you can buy hydrocortisone cream over the counter, it is a weaker strength but it usually clears mine up right away. Watch the kind of soap he is using. I can only use Ivory, Dove or Oil of Olay soap. Same with lotions especially sunblocks, they will give me breakout in about 2 seconds. I have also read a lot about eczema being caused by emotional stress which I can highly believe. As I told you before, when my dad died my whole face and neck was one big rash and afterwards cleared right up and I have never had it that bad again. Just some thoughts.

Geneve - that is a great idea to join a gym, also it will give you some time to yourself. I have so much equipment at home right now that I wouldn't consider it myself but I might think about going to a pool or something during the winter and taking some water aerobics.

Next topic: stretch marks. Does anyone know any kind of cream that will reduce them or stop them from getting bad to begin with? I haven't gotten many yet as I was already big to begin with but I have seen a couple starting. I bought some cream I saw a commercial for yesterday, it is called Nivea body skin firming lotion with coenzyme Q10. Well it can't hurt anyway!

06-07-2001, 03:38 PM
Hi everyone, I have the horrible truth about stretchmarks!
There is a way that most people can avoid them, but sadly for us it involves having your babaies as a teenager when the skin is stretchy!
If you have them only time will lessen their size and colour (or you can have a tummy tuck, which my Mum did but then you get a scar anyway). There is no cream or potion which can prevent them. Believe me, I know, I've spoken to doctors and midwives and alternative therapists and they all agree.
I hated mine, but now I don't, they remind me of the fantastic things my body can do and as a rite of passage reminder they beat the **** out of a tattoo or piercing!

06-08-2001, 11:26 PM
Geneve - I have plenty of stretch marks just from gaining weight so I know that they do fade over time. I have heard that some lotions will stop them from being quite so bad, nothing will completely get rid of them. I figure it is worth a try, not like I am spending a ton of money on it.

06-09-2001, 03:16 PM
Jen, I have a friend who has them on his arms and thighs from body building at the gym! All that work to get a great bod and he still won't show it off...I'd much rather have a few on my belly.
I have a story about mine might make you smile. When DH and I were forst together he used to call me 'panther' (OK...but I bet you have dumb nicknames too). After my son was born I hated the way my body looked and one day when he used the name I turned on him, showing my flabby stretch maked belly and said something like 'Oh yes, I really do look like a panther now don't I?' He gave the stretch marks a good look, smiled and said 'Thats OK, I like tigers too!'.:lol: