100 lb. Club - Completely Off-Topic - Is This a Mistake?
03-04-2005, 07:47 PM
I've been thinking about getting my hair cut short -- not REALLY short, but maybe a chin-length bob of some sort, something really stylish and different. I've had my hair long for several years now, and I am feeling like it's dragging my face down, especially as I'm losing weight. Is this crazy? I know my husband does prefer long hair (although he says he likes variety above all), but I really want something new.
Am I going to regret this? I'm seriously thinking about it! My hair is really fine and kinda just hangs when it's long...
I'd love any suggestions or talking-out-ofs. :lol:
03-04-2005, 08:05 PM
Even though, I am new to the site, I think that a chin length bob would be very cute. Especially with a couple highlights. I am trying to grow my hair out, but since it curls up, it seems like it is taking forever.
03-04-2005, 08:17 PM
My hair gets shorter and shorter. It's just easier to take care of. If you're concerned about how it would look, why not find a place that sells wigs and try on a few in the style your thinking of?
03-04-2005, 10:07 PM
GO FOR IT!!!! What's the worst that could happen...you don't love it and you have to grow it back!! Do it! I was very nervous about going red and I have never liked anything so well!!
03-04-2005, 10:12 PM
A haircut isn't permanent, so why not give it a try? If it's very long, you could get a few inches cut off now, then another few in a week, so it's not too much of a shock. It's fun to try something new, but if you & DH don't like the change, you can always grow it out again.
03-04-2005, 10:41 PM
Well, I don't know if this will help you, but I"ve got thick, straight hair. I've had it long, short and in between...and I think the way it looks best on me is in a chin length bob with some shorter pieces towards the front to give it some style and shape. I think this makes me face look thiner and makes me look younger. It might have the same effect on you! :)
03-05-2005, 02:13 AM
I have a question... if you ever picture yourself thin (they say picturing yourself thin helps for some reason, dunno why!), do you see yourself with long hair, or short hair? Do you notice that whenever a woman loses a lot of weight, she cuts her hair really short? Maybe it's just be, but I've always observed this on random tv shows, and at my work (I work in a plus size women's clothing store). Personally, I say get it trimmed, some layers, maybe some bangs? I'm loving the swept aside bangs look still, however, I am biased, because I've had mine this way for 4 years.
03-05-2005, 08:35 AM
I cut my hair all the time.. does wonder for my attitude! Do you normally put your hair up in the summer time (b/c of the heat)? If so - just cut off enough so you can still pull it back if you want. Say cut 3 inches at a time.
I'm trying to grow my hair right now - including the bangs.
03-05-2005, 10:03 AM
I too have thin fine straight hair. I never thought my hair could do anything, but a lady at work talked me into a hair cut, and wonder of wonders, because of the particular way she cut it, my hair would finally "do something". Sometimes I feel like my hair is the only good thing on me. I like my hair. I am a big chicken, and have had the same hair style for a long time, but I still get compliments on it. It is easy to style, I can do it up in a few minutes ~ I don't have the patience or time for a lot of fussing, so I am sticking with it.
A few months back one of the hair cutting ladies, thought I needed an update ~ she cut it and styled it ~ similar to my hair style but a little poofier. It looked cute, but when I got home, I could not make it look like she made it look. So, back to the old hairstyle for me.
You should do it ~ if you don't like it you can always grow it out. Maybe like the others said ~ cut it a little at a time.
Ivanna B. Skinny
03-05-2005, 02:01 PM
DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! You (most likley) wont regret it! I have always gone between long and short. Cant stand shoulder length on me. I just reciently went short again...I LOVE IT!!! Go for a sassy littl bob, maybe with some layers up the back...you've got the hutspa to carry it well!!! ;)
03-05-2005, 04:55 PM
Totally! Do it, Jennifer. I think it will make you look really.... what's the word? Radiant. But you already look radiant! It will really lighten you up. You'll like it, I swear. Whooohooo! I love when people change hair styles.
03-05-2005, 06:28 PM
You guys rock. I'm going to think about it a little more, but I'm really leaning toward chopping it off. I too have noticed the number of people who cut their hair when they lose weight... I think it might be that they don't feel so much like they have to hide behind it.
We shall see, ladies... we shall see... I will certainly post pics if I do it!
03-05-2005, 06:36 PM
I'm late with the discussion (dang this time difference thing!), but I say do it. I am still a fat chick, but the first thing I did when I decided to start on this journey, was to get my hair cut into a funky short style, and have it dyed dark brown with red highlights. Even though I have only lost 20 pounds, my neck and face have been the first to benefit, hidden behind my shroud of hair, I don't think I would have noticed!
My hair is really fine too, and it's much happier being short!!! And all the girls with long hair at the gym look really jealous when I pop into the dressing room after them, and leave before them, with my hair looking fine, whilst they are still dealing with their long tresses!!!!
03-05-2005, 10:42 PM
Maybe not super short or a huge cut, but how about a new style? have some layers put in, some highlights or lowlights painted in. I think you should do it, but look at magazines & find a look you like that would fit your face & doesn't take too much time to do.
I say, go for it! A new cut can really lift your spirits. :)
03-06-2005, 09:12 AM
A style which adds some height to your hair will draw attention upwards, too. I started out last summer with long hair - all one length, down to the lumbar area of my back. With the first cut, I donated a 12" ponytail to Locks of Love (http://locksoflove.org/) (they make wigs for children undergoing chemotherapy). Style-wise, my hair still looked a lot the same, only shorter. Finally, I took the plunge, got it cut shorter yet and really styled. I also had highlights put in.
The thing which convinced me to go shorter rather than have my hair at my jawline was the hairdresser pulling my hair up and away from my face and puffing up the top. My face immediately looked thinner and my eyes really stood out. I realized that my previous styles had just dragged everything down.
But that's me! :)
03-06-2005, 09:34 AM
You should go for it Jen! You will never know unless you take the plunge. Plus, if you really hate it, it'll grow back, and then you'll know if short works on you or not. I'm going to be trying the same thing in the next few weeks. My DH got me a spa day for my b-day and I think I'm gonna tell them to just give me a new style and see what happens. This is completely out of character for me but I feel like I need to try something I wouldn't normally do. So let's take the plunge together!!
I've also donated my hair to Locks of Love for years. I used to keep my hair down to my rear and would donate a 10-12 in. ponytail everytime it got long enough. My DD has done it a few times as well. We both keep our hair a lot shorter now so we haven't been able to donate lately, but it's such a worthwhile cause, I hope more people get the chance to do it.
03-07-2005, 02:48 AM
I totally agree with you. I think that some fat women hide behind their hair. Sometimes it's the only thing that keeps you feeling feminine. And I know at my current weight I would look like a big fat head with short hair.
But... shhhh.... I sooo want a pixie cut when i lose this weight. How funky would that be. Plus, bed head would be stylish.... :)
03-07-2005, 10:21 AM
I too have very limp, baby fine hair and for the past few years have kept it long, but this week-end I took the plunge. I got my hair cut just above the shoulder (about 8 inches came off) I say go for it!
03-07-2005, 11:34 AM
Jennifer, I just saw your before and after pics (I've never gone to that folder before. You have just done an amazing job. What an inspiration you are. Wow. (btw, I've always loved short hair :) I'm sure you'll look great either way!)
I found that I looked heavier when I had long hair and thinner when I had short hair. That has pretty much been all the motivation I need to keep my hair short. Plus it is about a million times easier to look after, just a quick wash and comb, don't even need to blow dry. Also I find that my hair is okay if I don't wash it every day. Really you aren't supposed to wash every day as it is damaging to your hair and stripping it of natural protective oils but when I had long hair I had to wash it daily or it looked terrible. I don't know why overweight women keep their hair long and then chop it off when they lose weight. I'd rather do it the other way, keep it short until I am well on my way to achieving my goal and then start growing it out.
I work with a woman who has a very fashionable chin length bob, she styles her hair daily so it looks great. She does it with a little flip at the ends. She used to have long straight hair but she looks so much better with a bob. I think her hair is pretty fine as well so I think that would probably be a good way to go.
03-07-2005, 12:51 PM
Thanks for all the advice, and Marge, thank you so much for the compliment! I'm hoping to put up a new pic soon, because that one was 20 pounds ago (boy, it feels good to say that!).
Yeah, angled bob sounds good, but i still have to screw up my courage. Plus, I'm going to take a bellydancing class, and I think it would be fun to still have long hair. We shall see.
p.s. We're neighbors, Marge! Where do you live in Brooklyn?
03-07-2005, 06:32 PM
I think a short do would compliment you loss. go for it!!!
03-07-2005, 10:29 PM
Great post. Ive been debating this too. One thing Im scared of though is Im going to pick a style that makes my face look even MORE round. What are the best slimming hairstyles? Gardenwife, when you chopped it all off did you cry? Im so scared Im going to cut mine and then lose it and regret it as soon as the first cut is done. I have long hair now but all I do is wear it up in clips and its SUCH a pain to dry! It takes forever! Ive read articles online for do's and dont's for slimming hair cuts but I want opinions from people who have actually done this. Thanks!
03-07-2005, 10:39 PM
No, I sure didn't cry -- I was READY! I figured, worst-case scenario, I'd dislike it and just grow it out again. I was sooo ready for a change. The long hair made me feel dowdy and matronly. I was ready for a big change. It took a few more haircuts for the big change, but it came.