100 lb. Club - Where do you find your motivation?

02-23-2005, 03:34 PM
I was sitting here, reading some of the posts, and wondering -- where do you all find your motivation? I see so many of you who have done so wonderfully in your weight loss, and I don't seem to be able to lose five pounds.

I simply lack the motivation to do something about it. I know I need to. I want to. But I simply don't do it. I don't drink my water like I should. Heck, I don't drink water, period. I don't exercise like I should. Again, I don't exercise, period. And eating... Ugh. I know what I should do. I even find myself eating, thinking *why am I putting this in my mouth?* But it goes in my mouth anyway.

My eating habits are terrible! Absolutely horrible. I tracked my food on Fitday for a week, earlier this month. Oh my. Looking back at them, I am seriously worried. I ate anywhere from 2500 to 5000 calories PER DAY. AAAAHHHHH! That is seriously scary. No wonder I weigh 257 pounds at 5'2"!!

What was your personal kick-in-the-butt to get started? What made you get up off the couch or out of the computer chair and lose that weight? Just typing this is making me feel better, like I am actually admitting I have a problem with food -- and I most definitely do, if I'm eating 5000 calories a day!

Sorry for the long ramble here. I would really love to hear everyone's motivations. What got you going?

02-23-2005, 04:23 PM
Maybe a complete health condition review by a doctor will give you the ę kick in the butt Ľ you need. This is where, among other things I found motivation. Last physical exam, when I was approx 315-320 showed: High Cholesterol, Hypertension and High Triglecyrides. Furthermore, there is an history of heart disease in my family, even if Iímy relatives are not obeseÖ If I have continued like this, I was heading straight for the grave at age 34. Iím too young for this. :(

Second source of motivation comes from the fact that I know myself better than in the past. The best example is ďcheat daysĒÖ. Many times in the past have I tried to loose weight allowing myself one cheat day a week, after a while, this cheat day occurred twice, than 3 times, then 4 times a weekÖ.I just cannot have such free days, or maybe only in very rare special occasions: ex: Christmas, BirthdayÖ

Finally, people on the 3FC forum are very supportive. Not only that they are very nice and friendly people, but they share the same goalsÖ.

Hope this helps and keep us posted!!;)

02-23-2005, 04:33 PM
My motivation is very similar to frenchie's...my health is my motivation. I have been obese for a long time and for most of my life. I can see the toll that it is taking on my body and I am so much better than the way I was treating myself. It has been a uphill battle but when I get down and think about giving up and gorging on candy, I think about what it will be like to run. I think about what it would feel like to not get out of breath going up 1 flight of stairs. I think about being healthy and not causing my own heart attack before the age of 30 and it helps steer me in the right direction.

02-23-2005, 04:34 PM
My motivation comes and goes in spurts. Some weeks (like the past few) it seems like I'm on fire while others I have to wonder what I've gotten myself into and wouldn't it just be easier to be fat. I had a stressful weekend and my motivation got knocked down quite a bit. I wrote about it in my blog http://barbygirl43.blogspot.com/2005/02/i-have-greatest-mom.html
I'm really, really wanting to start tanning this year and so when I get to 250 I will begin. That's been my motivation for this week. So I think to keep me focused I'm going to start setting up small rewards for every 5 pounds (next I'll probably buy me a cute and sexy shirt off of ebay. Other ideas is an evening out with Jeff going to the movies, new earrings, stuff like that. We're starting to get our finances in order so I can actually afford to treat myself every now and then.)

02-23-2005, 05:44 PM
Yup, health should be a big motivator. However, I have a bit of a stumbling block there. Middle of last year, I went to the doctor, to try to get some help jump-starting weight loss. This is the dr that told me I should be at the low end of the height/weight chart recommendations, and that I should weigh absolutely no more than 110 pounds -- I'm 5'2". BWAAAAAHAHHAHAHAHA. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Never. That will not happen. I haven't weighed that since grade school. Literally.

She had me get some bloodwork before she would recommend anything for me. When the lab results came back, and I went in to see her, she was so very rude. :censored: She was acting all shocked, checking over the paperwork to make sure she had the right chart. She told me that *somehow* I was a very healthy person. My bad cholesteral was very low, and my good cholesteral was just right. My blood pressure was perfect. All the other stuff she was checking for (I don't remember all the things she had done, and I don't have the papers here at work) looked exceptionally good. The bloodwork results put me in the <less than 5%> risk category for heart disease. So I'm healthy, but I'm fat. And she refused to do anything to help me lose weight. Just told me to go home, eat less and exercise more. Well, duh! I knew that!! Of course, she didn't give me any hints on HOW to do those things. Needless to say, I haven't been back to her. But I haven't made any appointments for any other dr's either...

I am hoping that posting here (rather than just lurking for a while) will help me out. :D I'm really hoping that having a swimming pool this year will help me out with the exercise portion. We've always had something like a pool, but it's usually been too small to swim in (like 3 feet deep and 15 feet round). This year, we are putting up a 4' pool that is 21' round (double the amount of water!!), and my daughter (six years old next month) is a fish. I am hoping that having the pool and her wanting to swim every night will get me outside and moving more often than I do now. I'm just not sure what to do until warm weather, as far as exercise goes.

We have a treadmill in the bedroom, but I always seem to find one excuse or another NOT to use it -- I'm too tired, I've got too much to do, etc., etc. I dunno... I guess I'm just trying to get myself out of a rut of doing nothing. I do love hearing all of the wonderfull sucesses on this board, and hope to be one of them before too long ;)

02-23-2005, 06:01 PM
I had a huge problem with motivation also (still do sometimes). It's like I think to myself, well, if I've already blown my diet for today by having too many calories (or too much sugar, too many carbs, whatever your vice might be), I might as well go out with a bang and eat whatever I want--I'll start dieting again tomorrow. Then tomorrow came, and it was the same story...vicious little cycle :devil: When I last had tests done at a doctor, my cholesterol was quite normal and my blood pressure was actually on the lower end of the normal range, so I had no immediately impending health issues to kick my butt into gear. Then my friends got a pool, and as much as I love swimming, I found it very difficult to wear a bathing suit in front of them, even though they were friends of mine. I was embarassed (especially since the girls I was with each weighed less than 130 and were slightly taller than me).

I can't honestly tell you what got me going again this year. I met my boyfriend last spring, so it's not like he had ever seen me thin--I knew he loved me regardless of my weight. The things that seemed to motivate most people just weren't motivators for me. All I can say is that you've got to figure out what it is that will make you happier to be lighter. I want to lose weight now to look good in my sister's wedding next March, to look good in my wedding dress whenever I get married, and to be healthier before I start a family and have no time for myself! I would also LOVE to be able to buy clothes at any store instead of having such a limited selection of plus-size departments (I find most stores around me that carry plus sizes carry mostly business or "old lady" styles--I want to dress like others my age!). I also want to be able to ride a roller coaster again without worrying that I won't fit in the restraint! Think about why you want to lose weight. Yes, health is always a good reason, but there's got to be more to it than that since it's obviously not motivating enough for you at this point. You've made a step in the right direction just by posting here, so just keep moving in that direction, and you'll do great :D

02-24-2005, 10:34 AM
Woo-hoo! Perhaps posting here is what I need to get myself going. I was actually very good yesterday/last night!

I actually drank some water. True, not a lot, but it was a couple of glasses. Way more than I usually drink. And I exercised!!! I got on the treadmill and did a quarter-mile. I know that's not much, but it is more than I normally do. I need to work up to a longer time, but even at that quarter-mile, my legs were hurting. And that was after doing laundry. :)

And the best part -- I didn't keep stuffing my face all night!! And that is just what I had been doing -- stuffing my face. I wasn't eating, because I wasn't hungry and didn't really pay attention to what I was doing. I was just putting things in my mouth. Last night, I had supper, and then didn't eat anything else all night! I actually thought about it once, but then told myself that I wasn't hungry and I didn't need to eat. Yippee!!

Thanks for your comments and support. It really does mean a lot to me.

02-24-2005, 10:55 AM
Way to go!!! Every little bit will help. Just add a little bit more when you can and you will get to where you want to be in no time.

I know how you feel about the water drinking. I was an absolute Dr. Pepper addict and never drank water. I don't even know how much I could drink per day but I am sure it was close to a liter or more, but now I drink about 2 liters of water per day and not much else. I sometimes take a sip from my DH's drink (dr. pepper or sweet tea) and I don't even want it any more. Its just way too sweet.

02-24-2005, 11:05 AM
I've found that with soda. I used to drink regular Pepsi -- all day, every day. I hated diet sodas. They leave a nasty taste in my mouth. But I have found two diet sodas that I actually like. Diet Cherry Coke and Diet Cherry Vanilla Dr. Pepper (that's a mouthful just to say!). So even though it's not water, at least I'm not drinking a ton of calories. I can't stand to drink regular Pepsi now. It tastes way too syrupy-sweet.

02-24-2005, 11:07 AM
Congrats on staying on program :)

I never had high blood pressure, or diabetes, or really any type of obvious health problem (knock on wood) due to my weight other than minor problems with my feet. I did have a scare a year or so ago with an unrelated health problem and after going through tests at over 300 lbs, I realized I was truly risking my life. I knew it would be harder to get any kind of treatment, or even surgery, had the problem ended up being something serious (which it luckily didn't).

Another motivation is that I feel the same way jillybean does, I want to be able to do more physically and to be able to shop in regular stores for clothing.

I find that when motivation is lacking, habit can be a huge help. Once I developed patterns for eating and exercise, it's more like a routine that I just do. The less I have a mental discussion about exercising or avoiding certain foods (chocolate!), the better off I am. Coming here and going to fitday every day helps me stay focused too.

I agree with Frenchie that the days off can be tricky. I take off one day, which is really more like one meal and maybe a snack, and I think I would be better off not doing it. I haven't worked up to giving it up entirely yet though.

02-24-2005, 12:53 PM
I was getting out of the shower and I was huffing and puffing like I ran up 5 flights of stairs. I thought I hate this. I can't stand it anymore. Last year I was walking and feeling great (but gaining weight) and then I got pg. I was too tired to walk and losing weight from morning sickness. Then I had that shower. It just clicked. I have to change. I can't live like this anymore. Normally I gain 35 lbs while pg so I decided to start now. I'm not trying to lose but I am. I'm drinking 4 L of water, eating healthy, tracking what I eat, and exercising. I already feel so much better. I'm not really sure why I'm still motivated. Other times after the novelty wore off I'd go back to my old habits. I will be 40 next year but I may as well be 80 for the shape I'm in. Being thin sometime while 40 is my goal.

Good luck finding your motivation!

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02-24-2005, 01:29 PM
I've been thinking about this a lot since you posted, and I think I finally figured out what my motivation is. I could put it like this: my motivation comes primarily from success, which comes from habit. What differentiates my current weight loss attempt from my past ones is that I focused first on developing new habits, when I wasn't even sure I would lose any weight in the process. My first habit was going to the gym every day. When I started to see my first success, THEN I started to get motivated to change other habits, like my diet, which was much like what you described (a pint of Ben & Jerry's several times a week, for instance).

I think dragonwoman really said it -- habit, not motivation, may be where you need to start. Motivation will probably come as you start to see some results. I see now that my past weight loss attempts were less attempts and more wishful thinking. Start small if you need to and change just one habit, but make it stick, work on it until it becomes routine. For me, it was definitely exercise (which made me more conscious of my body all day long, so I started to eat better).

Just know that you can do it, but I wouldn't wait for some magical inspiration to come. And if you do somehow find the magical inspiration, won't you PLEASE let me know where you find it? :lol:

02-24-2005, 01:37 PM
WTG on getting that one day under your belt. Pretty soon you will have more and more!!!

I think Marge hit the nail on the head for me.

I find that when motivation is lacking, habit can be a huge help. Once I developed patterns for eating and exercise, it's more like a routine that I just do. The less I have a mental discussion about exercising or avoiding certain foods (chocolate!), the better off I am. Coming here and going to fitday every day helps me stay focused too.

I started this journey almost a year ago. I was really focused and excited for about two weeks. Then my loss/gain pattern hit and it wasn't so exciting anymore but I knew it was something I had to do. Then summer turned to fall which turned to winter. I had been keeping up my eating and half-hearted attempts at exercise and pretty much maintained between 259-265. After the first of the year, I knew it was time to step it up and do something. What have I been doing? We started a "change your habits" thread in January and so I just found a few of my bad habits (not all were weightloss related) and started working on them. They say it takes 3 weeks to change/make a habit and that's what I've been doing. So now it is more of a routine for me to make sure I'm eating within my daily calorie levels and getting in my exercise. If I stray from my routine, I feel out of sorts and feel the need to get right back on track.

02-24-2005, 02:53 PM
When I first started this lifestyle change, funniegrrl gave me some great advice: she said that you can't count on motivation because motivation is a feeling that comes and goes. It's not a constant that you can rely on. So I agree with the previous posters who find habit is the key to success. However, I think something has to click to make you want to evaluate and change your destructive habits. For me, it was primarily having my son. He was beginning to want to eat what I was eating, and I did not want to pass on my bad eating habits to another generation. I cut and pasted this from another thread on the reasons why I want to lose weight:
1. To live a long life so I'll be here for my son.
2. To be energetic enough to play with my son.
3. To set a good example for my son.
4. So my son won't be embarassed about me. I don't want to be "the fat mom."
5. To feel sexy (although I already do ;) )
6. So it's easier to buy clothes.
7.To be healthy.

Maybe it would be helpful to make a simliar list. Or maybe you'll find you're not ready to make a major overhaul. If that's the case, then teapot has a great idea about changing habits one at a time.

Whatever your next step is, we're here for you! Good luck!

02-24-2005, 04:33 PM
I have been lacking Major in the motivation department myself.

Habits....hmmmmm....Thanks for the idea!

02-24-2005, 11:36 PM
My motivation to start was that I could not walk to the bathroom at work without stoping to catch my breath. I mean we are only talking 50 feet. What keeps me going now is my past success plus others success. Here and on TV. I love watching shows like Discoverys I Lost It. And then Fit TV's Health Cops. Seeing stuff like this and reading about it here keeps me going.

02-25-2005, 09:37 AM
What keeps me going now is my past success plus others success. Here and on TV. I love watching shows like Discoverys I Lost It. And then Fit TV's Health Cops. Seeing stuff like this and reading about it here keeps me going.

That's true for me, too. Seeing weight loss stories on TV really helped me to envision finally getting to the end point, which I don't think I ever really did before. I didn't realize how important envisioning the end goal was. It's a great positive motivator.

02-25-2005, 12:48 PM
Motivation is my killer. Iíve been working at this on and off for almost two years and only managed to get off 70 lbs Ė which is better than gaining, better than maintaining at 374 lbs. But all I have to do is start thinking about loose skin or how I let myself get this way or how long this is going to take and Iím off track and it takes me weeks to get back on the beam and I have to make up all the damage I didÖ

But I think Iíve finally made a connection that will keep me on track for the long haul. Iíve done Optifast four times and their favorite diagram was the cycle of addiction. The point of the cycle of addiction was that the sooner you get out of the cycle, the less energy it takes to stop the cycle. I realized that my getting off track always starts with a thought. That thought starts a cycle of that always winds up with ďitís too late, itís too hard, and I might as wellÖĒ whatever. It ends up with me comforting myself with food. So now I pay attention to my thoughts and whenever I start on that path, I look back on what Iíve done and I look forward to where Iím going.

Iíve learned you have to plan for motivation Ė it has to become a habit, too. You need the emotional energy to make this process livable Ė or else it just becomes work and everybody gets tired of working eventually. I have a little book where Iíve written little ďmoviesĒ Ė really detailed visualizations -- of what itís going to be like when Iíve lost the weight and set things up so Iíll look them over a couple of times a day to keep me focused on where Iím going. Thereís inspirational quotes, the odd Dyer-esque affirmation, inspiring pictures, my list of reasons why I want to lose weight. It also has my daily check off list and my food diary.

Thereís other actions you can take: use music that makes you feel good or inspired, watch movies and TV that inspire you (and avoid the ones that depress), write down your goals (Dilbert creator Scott Adams really believes in writing your goal down 14 times a day Ė he has a really interesting chapter about creating your realities), exercise for the fun of it (the dance like nobodyís watching theory), try Laurel Mellinís cycles. Having actions you can take helps you focus on the positive, as opposed to always thinking about the things you canít have and feeling deprived.

And being from the ďOptifast cultureĒ, Iím used to mammoth results quickly Ė if I didnít lose 3-5 lbs in a week while on fast, I was accused of not following the plan. I canít expect that now and I shouldnít have done that then. It cost me not only a lot of money, it cost me a lot of muscle mass and a decent metabolism. And I always gained the weight back anyway. At 300+, I canít really see how well my muscles are developing and I donít see the changes in my body. But I can feel my legs getting stronger, feel how much better I walk. Iím learning, very slowly, how to love the little steps. Iím looking at how many miles on the treadmill, how fast Iím walking, tracking my weights and reps. Iím looking for consistency. I still want to see a couple of pounds every week and disappointed when I donít. But Iíve got other numbers to look at to see progress so Iím not hanging my hat on that one number.

02-25-2005, 02:44 PM
I find mine right here. By reading of others who have delt with or are having the same issues as myself and have over came them. I know that it's possible to get to healthy weight and it does take time. I've learned to keep going even if you stumble...