Hi Jackie, I know this is probably not what you want to hear and I am so sorry if this offends you or hurts your feelings in any way because that is certainly not my intention. But I feel like I have to ask because I am scared for you and your potential baby. Have you really considered holding off on trying to conceive until you've brought your weight (and most likely your BP along with it) down some? I don't know if you have high BP naturally and would have it even if you were thinner but if it is something more weight related then wouldn't it be a good idea to at least try that route first? I know that when I was my heaviest I was developing chronic high BP and my Dr. was starting to discuss different options like medications. But since losing just some of the weight my BP stabilized and I haven't had a problem with it since. Believe me, I know the desire to have a child, but I'm scared that the potential harm to both you and your child in, what I guess would be a high risk pregnancy, are just too great a risk to take, IMO. I'm sure you've already agonized over all of this, but I just felt an overwhelming need to at least ask. Again, I'm sorry if I've offended you in any way, and I realize that it is certainly not my place to question your personal choices. So please don't take this inquiry the wrong way. I want to wish you all the best and will support you no matter what, because we are all family here and that's what families are for.
Much love,
Beverly