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02-12-2005, 11:55 PM

What we really want in a weight loss support group, boils down to one concept; we are looking for a sanctuary.

Sanctuary means different things to different people. Sanctuary is a place of peace, rest, safety, and rejuvenation. It keeps our spirit and our sanity intact.

Many of us who have a long journey down the weight loss path find ourselves in need of a break. Sometimes our bodies crave it, and sometimes the choice isn't ours, but circumstances forces it upon us. Other times, we need the clamoring throng to cheer us along our way as we breeze past milestones and overcome obstacles.

Sanctuary can be all that as well. It is what you need and when you need it. Sanctuary can be found in good friends who aren’t afraid of your truths and in an open, honest atmosphere.

Sanctuary isn’t judgmental, neither does it discriminate or ask to be censured. It is open to anyone with a desire to share, and especially those in need of and willing to offer support

02-13-2005, 12:05 AM
I counted 8.5 lbs lost here for the first 2 X 2 Challenge.

I didn't get as much reading of Dr. Phil done as I wanted today. My one sister called me three times, I cleaned, washed clothes, raked some mudd.

I think I will call it a night and tackle some exercise in the AM.


02-13-2005, 01:10 AM
I raked some mudd.

Around here, we just rake leaves! :lol:

I can't honestly say whether or not I have anything to contribute to the last 2x2...I've been too chicken to get on the scale! I will tomorrow. No matter what. I did get a good long walk on the beach today with my dog. It was really nice, not too cold at all. Nothing like the sound of crashing waves and the wind in your hair, to clear your head of the cobwebs!

I wanted to post more, but I can hardly keep my eyes open...I shouldn't be wasting valuable sleeping time when I don't have to work!!!

See you all on Sunday!

5 dogs
02-13-2005, 08:54 AM
Wow Kat, that sounds really nice. The only beach we have around our house is the Gulf and that's not really a beach. I can almost hear the crashing waves. Carl and i lived in Cranberry N.J. for about a year after we were married.

Hubby is sick in bed with a cold today. He wasn't feeling good yesterday, and i told him to get in bed but instead, he plays golf. Now its a full blown cold. Men, there like little kids sometimes.

Don't know what i will do today. Maybe a movie and then a quick swim at the Y.

Did you count my first pound loss yesterday Lucky? Only a billion more to go.
I need coffee so will talk to you later today.

02-13-2005, 10:53 AM
Here's to you this morning, Gloria. :coffee:

Raking Mud!!! Well, it has been so warm here that when people with trucks drive in my driveway they made BIG tracks in it. Of course this being Minnesota it freezes and then I have huge hunks of mud sticking up and I hate that. So since it was over 50 here yesterday I went out and raked the hunks down. Hmmm, Kat, too bad I couldn't rake down a different kind of hunk! :s:

Now I need more :coffee: and then's/oncoucheatingchocolate.gif

02-13-2005, 12:21 PM
YAY US! Check out my signature! 173! That is 41 total pounds and 3 lbs since the beginning of our second challenge. If I just lose 1.5 each week I will have met my mini goal of reaching 170 by February 28. For a while, I didn't think I was going to make but now I'm feeling lucky!

I have to congratulate all of us because I don't think I would be doing nearly as well if I weren't coming here and getting advice, inspiration, support. Not to mention that if my hands are on the keyboard I can't use them to shove food in my mouth. You can almost alway tell when I'm having a hard time sticking to plan - I'll have a post every half hour or so.

Gloria, good luck not catching your hubby's cold. An hooray for your pound lost! You have been so good about exercising, you've earned it. You'll work that billionth pound off in not time!

Kat, you contributed plenty to the last challenge regardless of what the scale tells you tomorrow. I bet you've lost weight, but even if you haven't, cheering everyone else on counts for something too. I for one look at our challenges as a team effort. All of us succeed in one way or another. I hope you enjoyed your shut eye. The kids actually entertained themselves quietly this morning so I got to sleep in until 9 this morning. It was HEAVEN.

Lucky, you naughty girl. Still, raking down ANY kind of hunk counts as exercise in my book! Sure, some are more fun than others, but exercise all the same. LOL.

I'm off to make my grocery list. I've avoided the store for as long as I can. Since the kids had kool-aid with their breakfast this morning, it could be argued that I've waited one day too long. Yep, I'd better get my rear in gear before lunch rolls around.

Hope you all have a terrific day!


02-13-2005, 01:33 PM
Another beautiful day here! I've convinced the boys to join me for another beach walk today. The dog is going to think she died and went to heaven! It's probably in the 40s, but so sunny and such a welcome change from all the frigid days we've had for so long!

Congratulations Tricia! You are surely going to reach your mini goal! What a wonderful inspiration to us all! :cp:

Lucky, I'm glad you clarified the raking for me. Now it's clear as mud! :lol: Maybe some hunky guy will get stuck in the muddy driveway and you can keep him for your very own! Mike the Plumber perhaps?

Gloria...If it's the town I'm thinking of, Cranbury isn't too far from here! I'm more coastal, very near the Raritan Bay and Sandy Hook.

Skittles, we had a lovely walk yesterday, you'll be joining us again today?

Uh oh, the man is back from the MAC machine...which means it's time to roll out. See you all later!

5 dogs
02-13-2005, 06:32 PM
I NEED YOUR HELP!! Gina (Daughter-in-law) called today and said she will be graduating on May 20th with her Ph.D. I just have to lose 20 pounds before then. Went swimming today so now all i have to do is control my food. One pound down, 19 to go. Wish me luck.

02-13-2005, 08:27 PM
Geez, Gloria I was trying to make it through February and now you are going for 20 lbs in 14 weeks. :yikes: I would love to join you, but feel I would be setting myself up for a disappointment. Hmmm Dr. Phil would not be happy with that sentence!!! :mad:

Shake that bootie!!!

Tricia: Or should I give you my name :lucky: Actually luck has nothing to do with it - your hard work is paying off - maybe I need more laundry to do?? :lol: What are the kids having for breakfast tomorrow????

As Kat said you are an inspiration. :thanks:

Maybe some hunky guy will get stuck in the muddy driveway and you can keep him for your very own! Mike the Plumber perhaps?

Oh, Kat do you know me or what.

Well, I have been taking notes from Dr. Phil as I read however I started to "play" with some of my scrap book tools and before I knew it - it was 6PM.

I REALLY want to stay on a good path - exercise :tread:
and eating well. :eating2: I have one day almost down! :rofl:

BarbPA - where are you???? Are you okay?'s/HappyVdaywithwordsblinking.gif

02-13-2005, 08:39 PM
Ten Fitness Obstacles and Their Solutions
By Edel Jarboe

Obstacle #1: "I don't feel like working out today." Whenever you feel tempted to skip your exercise routine or to put starting one off altogether, remind yourself of the reasons why you want to exercise. Write it down on an index card and read it whenever you feel like blowing off your health. Why do you want to get fit? How will being in shape benefit your life?

Obstacle #2: "I'm just not motivated to exercise." Setting specific daily or weekly fitness goals helps you to focus on your performance and keeps you motivated. For example, committing to working out four days a week or walking five miles gives you a specific fitness target to aim for and makes it easier for you to make the time to exercise. It is also helpful to keep a record of your fitness performance so that you can up the stakes and stay challenged. Most importantly, you can provide ongoing motivation by rewarding yourself at the end of each week or month with a pedicure, massage, or new workout gear.

Obstacle #3: "I don't have time to exercise." Schedule your fitness workouts for the week with a specific time, location, and activity. When you do this, you eliminate the excuse of not having enough time to workout. Quite simply, you make the time and honor this appointment with yourself.

Obstacle #4: "I have a hard time staying motivated." Keep a workout journal. Tracking your progress helps you to see how far you've come. Record the date, activity, how long you worked out or how many reps you completed, and how you felt afterward. You could also keep track of your measurements and how you feel about your body as it becomes stronger and leaner.

Obstacle #5: "I'm too busy to exercise." On crazy-busy days, instead of skipping your workout, do a mini-version of it. For example, if you don't have time for your usual one-hour step video, scale it down to 30 minutes using just the of warm-up and the beginner's level. Not only will you feel good about yourself but you will also maintain your fitness schedule. Being too busy is no longer an excuse because you can also take a couple of 10 or 15-minute fitness breaks during the day. Even on our busiest days we can find at least this much time for ourselves. The point is to keep moving so that we don't start using this excuse all the time and sabotage our fitness plan.

Obstacle #6: "I got sick and haven't exercised in months." Always have a backup fitness plan. Be creative and come up with alternative fitness solutions for when you are out of town, bored, or in a time crunch. Planning for setbacks keeps you in control of your fitness. Working out before you go to work, at lunchtime, or adding a new activity to your fitness repertoire are all good solutions to the above fitness obstacles.

Obstacle #7: "I'm not a fitness buff. I don't really like to exercise." Develop a fitness mindset anyway. When you see yourself as a walker, runner, or a step video queen exercise becomes second nature. How can you identify yourself as a fitness buff? Keep a regular exercise schedule and make your workout time as important as the other areas of your life.

Obstacle #8: "I don't like working out alone." Find a workout buddy. Having someone else there on your road to fitness makes workouts more fun and adds the spirit of competition to your routine. You also keep each other motivated. Make sure your exercise partner has the same fitness goals and that you both commit to a regular workout schedule.

Obstacle #9: "I'm bored with my exercise routine." Okay, so you've gotten your exercise routine down. Four times a week you run the same five miles. Yawn. Suddenly you don't feel like going for your run anymore. Spice it up. Look for new ways to make your workout fun and exciting. Try a new route or cross train. Alternate your running days with spinning classes, hiking, or rock climbing.

Obstacle #10: "I'll always be out of shape." Acknowledge that your fitness is under your control and that you have the power to take charge of your health. Believe that you can make it happen.

5 dogs
02-14-2005, 10:26 AM
Happy Valentines day everyone. Carl still has a cold and has not kissed me in days. I don't know what is worse, catching his cold or not being kissed. I sure could go for Mike the plumber or Larry the cable guy.

I love watching Dr. Phill Lucky. I have even tried to think up some weird thing i might have just so i can tell him about it and get to be on his show. Other than having five dogs and trying to loose 20 pounds by May 20th, my life is fairly simple. You know, if you stop and think about it, 20 pounds in 14 weeks is doable. Its about a pound and a half a week. If i only get the pound a week, i will be happy with that.

Tricia-You go girlfriend. Care to join my in my quest for a pound and a helf a week?
I HATE FOOD SHOPPING! I'm with you Tricia, i put off and put off till there is almost nothing in the house to eat. I do have to go this morning so i guess i better get my butt in gear.

Can BarbG., BarbPa., Cheryll come out and play? Would love to hear what is happening in your part of the world.

Later gator.

02-14-2005, 10:52 AM
Good morning all!

I can't believe I did this but I canceled our cable this weekend. We only ever watch two of the hundred channels we subscribe to - Cartoon Network or Nickelodeon and I don't want the kids to grow up in front of the TV. The problem is that I use it as a crutch anytime I need time to get something done. It is much less hassle to tell them to watch a cartoon while I am busy than it is to stop put on their shoes and socks, clothes, etc. and send them outside. That is my fault and I am doing them a huge injustice by plopping them down and letting them zone out for my conveniece. And, of course, it makes everything we do a pain. I mean what kid wants to leave the comfort of the couch to get dressed and go to the library? Or worse, to run errands. The funny thing is that our kids used to NEVER watch TV. But as they got older and each needed more individual attention we gradually started appeasing them with it. I'm guilty of sending Jake and Addie to the TV while I help Will make a poster for school or something. When, really, there is no reason (other than it is easier on me) that they can't just do a little craft of their own too. I'm rambling but the point is I am glad the cable is gone. Now if I can just convince DH that video games aren't any better. Of course, he argues that at least the games increase the dexterity in their hands and help their eye hand coordination - WHATEVER- a lot of good that will do them in grade school!

So far, so good on food and exercise. We grilled hamburgers last night - I use lean ground beef (170 calories for 4 oz) for mine everybody elsed gets ground chuck or they complain it is too dry. Plus baked french fries. Then we had fresh strawberries over low calorie, fat free pound cake with fat free cool whip. It was one of those meals that was EXACTLY what I wanted and really hit the spot. And I still came in just under 1200 calories for the day. And I made it to the gym for a couple of hours despite it being a yucky, rainy day. I had almost talked myself out of going then reminded myself that one of the biggest reasons I rejoined the gym was so that I would have an excuse not to exercise because the weather wasn't just right. I am glad I went, I had a good work out and felt much better afterwards (plus I didn't feel bad about having that shortcake!).

Gloria, I believe that you can lose 1.5 pounds each week until your DIL's graduation if you want to. And if you miss it by a little don't worry - any progress is good progress.

I'm trying to get to 150 by May 31 - also 20 pounds and 1.5 lbs each week so maybe we can cheer each other on. That is a fairly aggressive goal for me at this point so I know I'll need all of the encouragement I can get. I've lost more in the last couple of weeks but I think that has to do with switching to staggered calories one week, then adding heavier exercise the next week. Those are the last of any big changes for me so I know the weight I lose each week will start to taper down at this point.

We are off to get all of our running around done. I hope you all have a great day!


5 dogs
02-14-2005, 01:57 PM
I must tell you Tricia that i think you are amazing. To turn off your cable so you can spend more time with your kids is pretty wonderful in my book. I think back to when my kids were little and i wish i had done the same thing. When i was growing up, there was not a hole lot of love in my house, but if i had that growing up thing to do over again, i would want you as a mother. Keep up the good work.

02-14-2005, 02:23 PM
Happy Valentine's Day!
:love: :encore: :love: :encore: :love: :encore:

I'm here - just sort of lurking around. Today is my first day back at work and it's very emotional because I have so many people coming up to talk to me and express their sympathy and asking how I am doing. I've spent the entire day trying to choke back tears.

I'm also waiting (not so patiently) for my nurse to call me back and talk to me about the next steps in our process.

One the health front, I have regained my focus to feel better - emotionally and physically. Last night I soothed myself with ice cream and then felt icky afterwards. Today I am back to my healthy eating habits and my gym bag is packed and in the car waiting for me.

Big Hugs to you all!!!! I may not be really active on the boards for a while, but I am still here lurking around.

;) Barb

c bo be
02-14-2005, 05:27 PM
Happy Valentines Day Everyone!

Just now getting a chance to get on the puter after the weekend. I think I'll pass on weighing myself today, after going to Chuckie Cheeses on friday. Plus my husband went to the movies and yes had popcorn and candy. My grandson got down to some serious dancing at chuckie cheeses. He had a ball. The weekend was too short, thats for sure. I am leaving to go work out in about 10 minutes, so I gotta make this a quick one. Yes, I'm going to work out on Valentines day. I'm sure the gym will be dead, but I need to get right back on the healthy eating after the weekend I had.

Congratulations Gloria on your one pound weight loss. One step at a time. You will meet your goal. Also on the whole working out thing. That is the one thing that makes me feel complete. If I exercise sometime during the day, my whole attitude is better. It's no different than waking up and brushing your teeth. It's something you include in your daily routine. If I don't work out it dictates the day I have. It is like breathing to me. I don't look at it like drudgery, misery or anything. To me its a party for myself. I know that sounds corny, but it's time that I try to take for me. My husband has always understood how important that time is to me. And I have made so many friends from working out. I have and entire euchre club that has aerobic buddies in it. Just thought I'd share that. And as a group we all have that common struggle and and formed friendships within this forum.

Also just want you to know gloria that I love all your graphics. Love the fireplace glowing. Pretty cool.

Anyway, I need to get out of here but everyone have a good valentines day. Tommorrow I will tackle the scales.


02-14-2005, 07:57 PM
Hey all...Well, I'm back from the land of the lost. Dh and I had a great day at the gym today. We both saw the nurse for evaluations and then each met with a trainer to devise a program to follow. We picked our son up from school because it was POURING today, and he asked if he could go too. So we headed back over there, did a bit more on the machines, hit the pool and now I am bushed! And ready for bed...I have to work tonight. :p But I do feel good. Mentally and physically. I think the closer I get to menopause, the worse the PMS is getting. Really drags me down into the pit of despair and then *poof!* it's gone and i'm fine. :dizzy: Welcome to my roller coaster! Poor dh. And son. And dog.

Speaking of them, we had such a great day yesterday! We loaded the dog into the car and hit the beach, again. The weather was perfect. Not too cold, no wind, sunny as can be. We walked and walked and walked and talked and skipped rocks and picked up seashells and sat and just watched the little sandpipers scurry across the sand.

I should mention that my son and my husband had had a HUGE blow out on Thursday, so things had been very tense around here for a few days. Of course I'm stuck in between the rock I'm married to, and the hard place that I gave birth to. Two stubborn souls right there. Sunday morning I decided that enough is enough, we're dealing with this now and moving forward. And so we did. And went on to have a perfectly wonderful day together. It was so good to see the two of them laughing and playing together. Afterwards we went to a Stewart's Root Beer Drive In for a burger. No car hops yet, still too cold, but it was good anyway. I had a burger, a few fries and of course a diet root beer!

Today, my food has been great and I feel like I am back on track! Thanks to all for encouraging and supporting me when I felt so gloomy.

Okay, I REALLY have to get into bed now. 10:30's gonna be here before I know it!

Have a great night, all!

02-14-2005, 11:38 PM
Gloria, thank you so much for your kind words. I may have to print your post so that I can periodically read it to the children so that they know someone else in the world doesn't think I am the Wicked Witch of the West. I really feel like I'm doing the right thing even if they won't appreciate it until they have kids of their own!

And count me in for the 1.5 per week challenge - I think we can do it!


5 dogs
02-15-2005, 11:45 AM dance for me. Getting dressed this morning and was feeling particularly thin, so decided to try on a pair of my thin jeans. The last time i tried to wear these jeans, i had a choice of zipping them up and not breathing, and turning a nice shade of blue, or finding something else to wear. So i am trying on these jeans and i get them up over my butt and YES, zipped! Still a little tight, but its a start.

I'm curious to know what kind of exercise you do at your gym Cheryll. Do you take classes or are there just machines. The Y.M.C.A i go to also has a pool, and i found out that a half hour of water walking equals to two hours of walking on land. I like things done the easy way. I also take step and belly dancing when i get tired of the pool.
I also would like to know more about your job. Do you have to wear thoso funny little hair nets pulled down to your eyebrows?

I guess its you and me Tricia. Question: Since coming here to Sanctuary, do you find it easier to get motivated and stay there? I do. Even if i come here and talk about stuff that has nothing to do with weight, i know that there are friends out there that have some of the same problems i do. Just knowing that, helps me a lot with my weight. Okey, I'm rambling.

Have to go and get my hair cut. Talk to you soon.

c bo be
02-15-2005, 04:02 PM
Good afternoon all,

I guess everyone's pooped from celebrating valentines day, gloria. I still haven't got on the scales. Last night my hubby wanted me to make homemade chocolate cake for him for valentines day. So at 9:00 at night we're eating choc. cake. We did forgo the chocolate giving thing. But I know the scales will not be kind to me right now. I know it's stupid to avoid weighing in, but I don't want to get bummed out either.
I belong to a wellness center at our hospital. I do step aerobics and a strictly toning class. I use to belong to the Y last year but my husband and I also love walking and as soon as it got nice outside we spent all our time outside and plus we have a lake cottage in the summer so it seemed like we were paying alot not to be going. But I loved the Y. We did the machines, and we would shoot hoops with other people and play horse. It was great exercise but alot of fun too. As far as being motivated from this forum, i think it helps to just share with others the every day struggles of trying to lose weight. There's times I really focused and then I'll slip and get completely off watching what I eat. Then I feel miserable, and weak. Like i have no willpower. Thats very frustrating. Years ago when I was 34 I weighed 221 lbs. I lost alot of weight and got down to 135 lbs. I maintained that for a good 10 years and then little, by little the weight started coming back on. Never thought that would happen but it has. So I guess I know in my mind I can do this and take the weight off, but I don't know how to get things mentally in control in my head. If that makes any sense. When I lost weight before I just made a choice to eat healthly. There could be tons on candy, sweets, chips etc. in the house and I never touched them.
It didn't bother me. It was a choice I was making for me. I was eating good healthy food and losing weight. I never, never, never ate fast food. So I just need to get back to thatstate of mind.

Also we don't have to wear those funny little hairnets either. We do have to wear gloves. I really like my job. I'm off everytime the kids have a break or vacation. So that's great. I have summers off too. I get 10 sick days a year too. This works out so well because we have a lake cottage in northern indiana. We have a pontoon, and jet ski. We pull intertubes behind our pontoon boat. Next weekend at the state fairground they are having a boat, sport and travel show. We will go to that and check out all the boats, rvs, etc. It will seem like summer even though it will be cold outside.

Anyway, I guess I better get ready to go for my step class. Have a good one!

c bo be
02-15-2005, 04:04 PM
Oops, Gloria, they also have a belly dancing class, yoga class, and bootcamp class at the hospital fitness center. cheryll

5 dogs
02-15-2005, 04:13 PM
I'm curious Cheyrll, how do you play horse?

02-15-2005, 04:36 PM
I just got home from my cousin's husbands funeral. I couldn't help but think on that side of my family I have 34 cousins - with spouses that is 68 funerals. And that doesn't include the other side of my famly or aunts, uncles and second cousins. :eek:

I am reading this article on "raising your happiness set point".

The first thing is, don't limit yourself. The author set goals in eight areas:
physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, intellectual, professional, material and play. Consider every possible option. The author says we limit the level of success that you feel worthy of or comfortable with. It's time to raise your set point, imagine things you've neer believed you could achieve. Don't let your past determine your future.

I have to think on those - I will report back later. I loved this because I really need to raise my happiness level. To me I always seem to be in the "content" mode - rarely feeling happiness. At least what I perceive happiness is from watching others.

How about the rest of you?

02-15-2005, 09:19 PM
Have any of you ever tried a gazelle? What do you think of them, if you have.

02-16-2005, 12:22 AM
Lucky, what an interesting article. For me, my current contentment IS happiness. I think because I spent so many years climbing the corporate ladder. I thrived on success and no matter how high I got there was always a "next" position to strive towards or another bonus to earn, etc. When I quit working a couple of years ago it was a huge adjustment for me because being at home with the kids felt so slow. Now, I always wanted to stay home with the kids but it was really hard to make that decision because I didn't want to give up all that I had earned. But now, I can't imagine going back to that world - at least not until the kids are much older. So, what is currently giving me the most happines is not having to push any more boundries and just take things as they come. And, quite frankly, I think we are pushed to hard by all of the experts around these days. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with self improvement or wanting to better yourself. I just don't think anyone can teach you to do it. To give a real life example: Greg is very content in his current job. He likes it fine, earns enough to support a very comfortable lifestyle for our family, etc. But, society fully expects him to climb higher, earn more, want, want want. But you know what? He leaves for work at 7:30 in the morning and comes home at 4:30. We get to have dinner as a family, we get to take walks together, he gets to coach our kids soccer teams, etc. I would much rather him never get another promotion his entire career than move up to more demanding jobs that would take his time away from us. Now if he WANTED to do that himself and it made him HAPPIER I would support it - but I don't want him to do it just because other people expect him to. I guess what I am trying to say is that I don't think there is anything wrong with just being content. I think that is what we should work towards. And it may be that what you see as happiness in other people isn't necessarily what is happiness for you. In my opinion, looking for happiness is really just to much work and won't pay off in the end. I mean, you take what you've got, you make the most of it. If you decide you want more get out there and get it. But you shouldn't go out there and get it if you don't want it - if that makes sense. And I think that can be applied to each of the 8 categories mentioned. Anytime I've found myself feeling less than fulfilled I've just stepped back and taken another look. Usually, what I think it is that I'm lacking wouldn't make me any happier if I got it. I just have to remind myself that I already am happy. Sometimes I have to sit down and make a list of all the good things in my life. I've found, though, that more often than not, I'm letting some outside influence affect how I feel about myself and my life. Nobody's world is perfect even if it seems to be on the outside.

I am anxious to hear everyone else's take. Like I said, I think it sounds like a very interesting article. And, to me, this is exactly the kind of information that has the most value when it is discussed.

I am off for some shut eye. I will catch you all on the flip side!


02-16-2005, 09:37 AM
Interesting stuff here...I want to get back to it, but for now I'm heading out to the gym. I will ponder my set points as I pump up! See you all later!


5 dogs
02-16-2005, 12:22 PM
At the risk of sounding stupid, the only gazelle i know about is the four legged animal kind. If there's another one, please inform me.

Not letting your past determine your future is something i learned the hard way. Before my father-in-law died about three years ago, he had turned into a very angry old man. He was only 83 when he died, but he acted like he was a hundred and eighty three. After my accident, my world was turned up side down. Because of this, i was turning into my father-in-law. I think about it now, and i guess he helped me accept my world as it is now, and not turn into that old angry person. The anger i felt had turned into depression, and all i did was eat, sleep, cry a lot and watch T.V. Then one day i relized what i was becoming. I was about 40 pounds overweight and nobody wanted to be around me. Okay, i cant work, but i can quilt which is something i love to do. I cant turn my head like normal people do, but i can still drive. (I have to turn at the wast to see whats next to me) Sure money is tight for us some months, but if i was working now, i wouldn't be able to go on vacation with hubby five weeks out of the year. When i was working, there were lots of times when Carl would go on vacation without me, and that was okay with me. Now, i get to go.

My long turm goals are- When Carl and i retire, i hope to go back to work so Carl can stay home and do some of the things he has always wanted to do but cant because of work. I could be a greeter at Wal-Mart. Hows that for a long turm goal?

I guess it all comes down to, what are you willing to give up to the past? For me, its not about what i cant do, but what i can do now.

02-16-2005, 12:50 PM
I just came in from the gym. I almost didn't make it. I was dressed and ready, dropped my son off at school...and then came home. I forget why. Subconscious sabotage. Got on the computer, 'just for a minute,' and the time started to get away from me. At 8:45 I thought, "Well, now I'll miss the 9:00 aerobics class...oh well." ~and then~ I told myself, NO. NOT "Oh well." The gym is less than 5 minutes from here. I made it ith ime to spare. Did an aerobics class and then used the weight machines for about 45 minutes. I feel good and sweaty and tired anc accomplished. Had I stayed home, (and I was all ready to justify that because I worked all night, promising myself I'd go later, blah blah blah) I would feel guilty and angry with myself and would probably found something to nibble on to make me feel better. All in all, I'm happy with my choice.

I really want to discuss this happiness thing, you guys make great points, but my computer is NOT cooperating at the moment. It's taken me forever to type just this far...the keypboard seems to have a mind of it's own! I'll give it (and myself) a rest for a bit and come back laterr. .

02-16-2005, 03:37 PM
Kat, the exact same thing happened to me last night. I didn't have the kids dressed in time to make my 10:00 class and by the time I got them together the play room was closed (they close at 12 and open again at 4). No problem, I thought, I'll just go tonight. Well, after washing the car, picking up around the house, getting Will to karate, etc. I didn't feel like going. I justified not going out loud by saying to Greg that I'd been every day for a couple of weeks and one day wouldn't hurt. But, then I knew I would regret not going. After all, I sleep better, feel better, everything better when I workout even if it isn't for as long as I usually do. So, I dragged myself there expecting to MAYBE do 20 minutes on the elliptical. But, like always, I got started and couldn't stop. I did an hour of cardio and about 30 minutes of weight work. It felt great. Aside from the obvious physical effect I felt emotionally and mentally strong for having pushed myself. It is like I told Greg when I got home - once I get there I can't imagine what about it didn't appeal to me to begin with.

Gloria, you made really excellent points. The only part I disagree with is when you said, "maybe I can't turn my head like normal people." I think you should consider that NORMAL people can't turn their heads like YOU!

And I agree completely that true happiness can only come if you learn to balance what you want with what you are willing to give up to the past (or future). I've always wanted to open my own catering company. I think I would be good at it and I think it is my "calling" and would make me very happy. But, the truth is, I don't want to give up the family life I have right now and invest the time and money that starting my own company would require. So, a couple of times a month I cook and take dinner to a shelter for battered women and children. It's a good compromise, I think, as I get the pleasure of putting my cooking skills to work for other people and I maintain the family life that I've come to appreciate. I don't look at that as holding myself back or not pushing past my professional comfort zone even though I may always have a little nagging voice asking, "what if."

There is no question that I limit myself to what I am comfortable with. But, I don't see the harm in that. There is a song that says, "Its not having what you want its wanting what you've got" and I think that is so very true. In general, we heap way to much pressure on ourselves when, in reality, we can't achieve more until we accept and live with what we've already got. In my case, finding happiness wasn't about chasing and catching a dream as much as it was redefining what I perceived happiness to be. What I found was that happiness had been under my nose the whole time! I think sometimes we get so caught up in the notion that the grass is always greener on the other side that we don't bother noticing how green the grass is in our own backyard.

Frankly, I think happiness is a lot like losing weight. There is no quick fix and it boils down to just making up your mind to do it.

It is story time so I'm off to fill my lap with snuggly children. I hope you all have a great afternoon.

Oh, and I'm doing really well on the food and exercise front. I'm looking forward to seeing how I've done at the end of our challenge. I am a little worried though. Like I said before, I'm at the point in this journey that I don't think the scale is the best indicator of my progress. We shall see!

c bo be
02-16-2005, 04:02 PM
I just got home from work and logged onto the puter. I believe the Gazelle is a piece of excercise equipment that is put out by Tony Little. He's the guy with long hair pulled back in a pony tale on the infomercials. It is suppose to be simmilar to an eliptical machine, I think. Anyway, for the most part I think cardio machines are boring. I've done alot of different kinds, steppers, climblers,eliptical, biking, rowing, etc, and it gets boring to me. Give me a step or aerobic class anytime. It seems like time goes by more quickly and i feel a little more challenged. Just my personnal opinion. I can do that at home. I go work out as part of a social thing too.

And Gloria, horse is just a basketball game where you make shots from the same position on the floor. First person picks a shot and if he makes it the next person must make a basket from the same spot. If they don't make the basket they get an H.
If they do make the basket it goes to the next person and so on. If the person does not make the shot then the next person in rotation can make a different shot from another spot. Anyway, you keep going and recieving letters until you spell out the word Horse. Of course you lose if you spell horse first. The object is to make baskets and not recieve letters. And by the way, I think you'd make a fantastic greeter at Walmart. You have a good attitude thats for sure.

I also got on the scales this morning and I had maintained my previous weight loss.
Go figure. Anyway, I'm ready to get in the 1.5 lb. per week challenge. Count me in. I'm getting ready to head off to toning class. We had a nice warm day yesterday and took out dog for a walk. It was 58. Not too bad for feb.

Anyway, have a good evening and I'll check back in later. Cheryll

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02-16-2005, 04:54 PM,la,,la. How do you like my singing? Now i know what you are thinking, "You should be a professional singer! That is the very words i keep telling hubby. I just cant understand why he always looks like he's in pain when i sing.

Did you know that rye bread burns very fast when your making a grilled ham and cheese sandwich? Carl comes home for lunch so i try to make him something hot to eat. Today it was grilled ham and cheese on rye bread. About 15 min. before he came home, i had the sandwich put together and in the pan to toast. Had to make a quick stop in the bathroom, and when i came out i could smell something burning. It was the sandwich, so i quickly put the hot pan in the sink and ran water over it. Did you also know that hot pans and cold water don't like each other? Big gobs of smoke filled the kitchen so i started fanning the kitchen with a dish towl to get the smoke out. Just then Carl comes home, "Om dear, what are you doing?", "I'm making your lunch, you always said you like your food crispy. I wonder what i should make for dinner. Fried chicken maybe.

On my way out to water aerobics. Later gator.

02-17-2005, 08:57 AM
Hi all,

Just stopping in to let everyone know I am still around. I just haven't had time to log on and catch up. Have been having a hectic work week and yesterday took my hunny to the doctor because he was having chest pains and to check on his leg pain. He has to have an Echocardiogram, and an MRI. I will let you know how it turns out. Right now I am off to walk. I have been walking every morning. So anyway, I ask you all to pray that my hunny is ok. And I will check in later.

Love you all,

02-17-2005, 12:44 PM
Hey everyone :)

Wanted to let you all know that I did make it back from Texas. I had to return straight to work and also fit in a kitchen show, so I haven't had time to even finish unpacking yet, much less sleep or post here.

*hugs* I missed all of you!


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02-17-2005, 03:16 PM
Welcome back Andria. I was wondering where you ran off to. Can't wait to hear about your adventures in Texas. Hope to talk to you soon.
Gloria :wave:

02-17-2005, 11:10 PM
Hey Lucky Guess what I did this morning!!! My Oxycise commuter tape.

02-17-2005, 11:19 PM
Skitt, I hope your hubby is okay.

BarbG, way to go on the Oxycise.

I haven't been here much because my Dad isn't doing so well health wise. I am either on my way to see him, working, visiting him or sleeping. I have been running out of time most days.

I will check in for sure Sat !!!

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02-18-2005, 10:30 AM
Wow, everyone is so busy. I hope your dad will be okay Lucky. We will be praying for you.

I am on the South Beach diet and i got this article by way of email. I thought it was interasting. I guess exercise helps in more ways than just being able to fit into those cute clothes.

Getting Rid of Cellulite

Tired of your "cottage cheese" thighs or underarm ripples? The truth about cellulite is that almost all women have it, and no cream, pill, or diet can eliminate it. So what can you do to combat cellulite?

Cellulite is the top layer of fat just beneath the skin. Its dimpled appearance is due to the way strands of connective tissue separate fat cells into compartments. Women tend to have more cellulite than men because their connective tissue forms a honeycomb-like pattern that allows fat to poke out through the mesh. In men, connective tissue forms a much firmer crisscross pattern.

The best way to reduce the appearance of cellulite is to burn fat and increase muscle mass through a regular fitness routine. Unfortunately, you can't target a specific part of your body when exercising. Instead, try combining your regular cardiovascular workout with a strength-training program of weight lifting, yoga, or Pilates. Just 20 minutes a day can be enough to firm your legs and diminish the appearance of cellulite. Even if you can't make your cellulite disappear entirely, you'll look and feel better and will be healthier, too!

02-19-2005, 12:37 PM
Well, I'm all for getting rid of those dimples! Thanks for sharing, Gloria. Ya know every time I type out your name, all these different songs run through my head! G L O R I A...Gloria!

Skittles...I hope that all is well with your hubby. I'm glad he's getting testing done. Too often people just brush off real symptoms. Hugs and prayers to both of you. I'm glad to hear that you're walking every day! :cp:

Lucky...I hope that Dad is doing okay. Hang in there, girlfriend.

BarbG...You reminded me...I've been wanting to search for my Oxycise tapes. Commuter tape, huh? Hmmm....sounds interesting.

Andria...Can't wait to hear about your visit. Or is it X rated? :lol:

Cheryll...I'm with you. I'm not a huge fan of exercise machines. They're great if you have the discipline to USE them! The ones I've owned were useful only as 'valets' to hold my clothing! I much prefer an exercise class...step or some kind of aerobics. Even an exercise tape at home....just something to keep me moving around. I guess it's all a personal choice, though. What EVER gets you moving is good!

Tricia...I've been meaning to respond to your post about limiting yourself to contentment level. I have a different twist on that. I've worked at the same job, more or less--different shifts--for almost 30 years! In the back of my mind, I've always considered myself somewhat of a failure for not moving on, moving up, finishing college. But when I really stop to consider what I've done with those thirty years, I realize that had I not worked there, I never would have met my husband. :love: Working there for so long has given me the leeway to finagle my hours to suit our family's needs. One of us has always been able to care for the kids, we never needed to put them in daycare. My kids have gotten 'equal time' with both parents since we'd alternate our time off to be with them. The little bits of time that we do have all together are precious, and we enjoy each other's company immensely!

I guess what I'm saying is, if you're searching for something, try looking from a different angle, you may find exactly what you're looking for!

Well, I've been here WAY longer than I intended. I have GOT to get to sorting the mountain of pictures that I have for the photo montage we're making for Mom and Dad. Somehow, I took this upon myself and now I've been procrastinating for days! (like now, for instance) TIme to get cracking'!

Today is Mom and Dad's actual 50th anniversary! We're going down tomorrow for Mass, where they will renew their vows. And there's a big snowstorm predicted! Just makes me that much more thankful that we planned the big party for April! (Not that we haven't ever gotten a blizzard in April!) :crossed:

Have a great weekend all!

02-19-2005, 02:24 PM
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