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09-10-2004, 05:13 AM
I just wanted to let you know that my Dad left us yesterday. He went very beautifully.
Mom was at the hospice in the morning, and she called to tell us that the nurses were no longer able to find an arterial pulse, that his extremities were getting quite cold, and that it wouldn't be long before he went. My sister and I went in right away. The doctor said he could last anywhere from several hours to a day or two.
We stayed and talked to him for some time while he slept. Finally my sister and I decided to pop out and pick up some magazines for Mom. Just before we left, I looked at Dad, and noticed that his breathing had become even more shallow.
When we were in Chapter's, I said to my sister, "Bet you anything he's going right now."
Sure enough, we got back, and he was gone. He'd left with Mom's head on his shoulder. She'd wanted desperately to be there when he went. It was as though he was waiting to be alone with her... it was very lovely.
We had a prayer with him (the doctor came in the room and joined us at that point... a darling man who was so good to Dad. He used to sit and talk to Dad... they were both avid soccer players, and both had owned an Austin Healey.) holding his hands, and then we all applauded Dad and his gracious departure.
Then the three of us toasted Dad with some tea and coffee, and gave him lots of hugs goodbye. And as one the nurses said to me when I was distressed at leaving him, "You're not leaving him. You're taking him with you."
We all had dinner at Mom's place last night, and toasted Dad a few times again with wine and whiskey. It was a good ending to the day.
Thank you for all of your support during the last few months. Your prayers and love and hugs got me through this. I'm so very grateful to you girls. :grouphug:

a broad abroad
09-10-2004, 05:28 AM
Sorry to hear of your loss. My condolences during this time of passing.

09-10-2004, 05:55 AM
Would that we could all have such a peaceful and loving passing. Take care of yourself now, Ellis. Your Dad is still with you. :love:

09-10-2004, 06:15 AM
He'll be there every time you do the right thing! You'll feel him in the breeze. You'll see him in the eyes of the kids on their special days. Take care. Miss you.

09-10-2004, 08:10 AM
((((Ellis)))) I'm so glad that your dad's passing was so peaceful. Like Ruth said, would that we all could leave that way.

Take care, Sweetie!


09-10-2004, 09:15 AM
oh ellis, i am so sorry for your loss, take care of yourself. your story brought tears to my eyes. please know my sympathies and prayers are with you and all of your family.

09-10-2004, 09:22 AM
Ellis, I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for trusting this group enough to share such a private journey.


09-10-2004, 10:09 AM
Oh, Ellis, I am sitting here at work with tears running down my face (good thing I'm the only one in so far). I'm so glad he went peacefully and that you were able to spend so much time with him.

09-10-2004, 10:13 AM
I am boo-hooing, too. What a special way for him to go. If we could all be so lucky. I am sorry for your loss as well, and will be thinking of you.

:) Lauren

09-10-2004, 10:15 AM
Thank you so much for sharing. I am so sorry for your loss. He will always be with you.


09-10-2004, 11:06 AM
Ah, Ellis, that is beautiful...especially what the nurse said. I know that's true...he is always with you...and now, as an :angel: he can be with you all the time! :grouphug: I agree with everyone else...that is truly the way to go...bless you all for giving him a passing filled with dignity and peace.

Ellis, I'm so sorry you had to go through all this, and I know this might be the hardest time yet, so know that you have my prayers and tons of virtual hugs. :grouphug:

09-10-2004, 11:22 AM
It sounds like it was beautiful and I'm so glad your mom was with him. There will be some difficult, lonely days and months ahead but hopefully you can remember the strength he left you with. Love to you.

09-10-2004, 11:24 AM
Ellis, I am so sorry for your loss. I'm so glad that he went peacefully though, that is the way to go. Your story brought tears to my eyes. You and your family are very strong and ya'll will be in my thoughts and prayers. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

09-10-2004, 11:44 AM
I got your email this morning and then read your lovely description of your Dad's last moments with your family. I can't tell if I'm crying because it's sad or because it was such a beautiful passing with your Mom. Probably both.
My prayers are with you (and so is your Dad :yes: )

09-10-2004, 11:46 AM
P.S. Take good care of your Mom!

09-10-2004, 12:10 PM
Ellis -- I am not sorry it happened the way it did, so peacefully, but I am sorry if you are hurting. Your dad is there with you in mind and spirit, and will always be with you in your heart...

09-10-2004, 12:23 PM

He went peacefully, beautifully, and romantically....I'm happy for him. My wish is for you to get through this time just that way.

You're in my thoughts.

09-10-2004, 12:29 PM

Your post also brought tears to my eyes. My condolences to you and your family.

09-10-2004, 12:43 PM
:cry: Oh, girls... you're just the best... thank you... :grouphug:

sweet tooth
09-10-2004, 02:06 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you, sweetie. I so glad that your dad is now at peace and his departure was so lovely. Take care in these busy days ahead. Talk to you later.

09-10-2004, 02:25 PM
Ellis, I barely know you, however your dad's passing has touched me deeply. God has a plan for each of us, and your dad is in the next phase. Bless you.


09-10-2004, 03:43 PM
Ellis, may your father's grace help you through this time. {{{{HUGS}}}}

09-10-2004, 05:10 PM
I am very sorry. Praying for you and your family.

09-10-2004, 07:12 PM
(((Ellis))) So very sorry for your loss.

09-10-2004, 10:06 PM
Thank you again, girls. :grouphug: I feel surrounded by love. :)

little chick
09-10-2004, 10:15 PM
Ellis I can't tell you how sorry I am for you and your family. So I am going to just send you a hug and a big I love you. Take care.

09-10-2004, 10:26 PM
Hugs to you Ellis. I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad that it was such a peaceful passing. Take care of your family, but don't forget yourself.

09-10-2004, 10:32 PM
Ellis, I am so very sorry for your loss! Thank goodness you and your family made his departure a very beautiful and peaceful one. Remember, you will always carry him in your heart.

09-11-2004, 10:52 AM
Ellis You know you are surrounded by love and support right now. I am thinking of you and your family.

09-11-2004, 01:50 PM
Thank you so much, sweeties... :grouphug:

09-11-2004, 02:19 PM
Ellis: I too am sorry for your loss, and pray that the days ahead for you and youf family will continue to ones of peace, courage and the strength that comes only from God, and the new angel he has with him. Lizzie

09-11-2004, 06:28 PM
Ellis~ I just found this and would like to add my condolences to
you and the family. Take good care of each other. Dad is where the angels take care of us all when we go. I really believe that.
((((((((((HUGS))))))))))~ Mel