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Merrick
09-08-2004, 10:05 AM
I am a single mother who is supporting my son physically, emotionally, and financially alone. I am looking for a group to support each other with weight loss, and any other issues.

I am a 38 yr old loney women raising my athletic son who is involved with many activites. I currently work as an Office Manager, I work in an office and at home. I am also looking for a position in a local school as an Adjustment Counselor, so that I will have the same hours, days, and vacations as my son. It is not easy being a single parent. There is not alot of time for myself, to exercise and the stress sometimes leads me to overeat and money sometimes leads me to purchasing not the best food choices.

I have over 100 pounds to lose and I love the support I get from this website and was thinking about other single mothers and the issues that seem to arise with trying to stay focused on weight loss, exercise, and stress. :?:


Charbar
09-08-2004, 05:16 PM
Merrick... I am not a single parent.. but I am a parent. How do you do it?! How old is your son? Sounds like you have a plan and that you are pretty organized. Keep here.. I'm not sure how many of us are single moms - but you will not find a more supportive group of men and woman anywhere. I've been coming here for a couple of years - weight loss or no weight loss - I wouldn't trade them.

All the best...

Dana

seashell
09-08-2004, 09:12 PM
Hey ladies!

I am also a single mom with 2 kids. My son is 12 and my daughter is 6. I own my own business and between that and the kids, I have no life! My typical day starts at 5:30 up and walking the dogs till 6:30. Then its' rush, rush, rush! Get the kids up, feed them, make the lunches, run the laundry, make the beds, take a shower and get ready for work, out the door at 7:30 and drop the kids at school. He's about 10 minutes away, her school is about 15 minutes from there. Then to work I go! I teach till 12, then office work till 3, teach again till 6 and then pick the kids up.
Walk the dogs, dinner on the table by 7, baths, homework, family time and bed by 9 for the kids. Then I finish the office work I didn't get to, more laundry, clean the kitchen, housework . . . Bed by 11. Then do it all over again. On the off chance that I got all the office work done in the office, I get to come on this board and chat with you!

SIGH maybe losing another 80 pounds will bring my RICH prince charming around? Then I might have time to at least read a book or wow, get this, go to the bathroom! LOL!

Single moms rule! We can do it. I have no doubt.


Merrick
09-09-2004, 11:10 AM
Good Morning Moms: :coffee:

It is so nice to meet all of you. :wave:

Seashell you have one of those crazy schedules. How do you find the time to lose weight, exercise, and deal with stress??

Jkfla how do you take care of yourself? I am having a hard time balancing time for me and momtime.

charbar you may not be a single mom, but a mom is a mom. And I do agree with you that this website is wonderful. I have gotten alot of great ideas from different members. I started this thread to get more specific ideas, recommendations. I Love this site and everyone has been wonderful, loving, caring and extremely supportive

I look forward to hearing from you all, what programs you are following, how you follow, what you do for exercise, and anything else you would like to know about me or share about yourself.

Please have a wonder day. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :) :) :D :D

barbygirl43
09-09-2004, 12:53 PM
Hi and welcome. I'm not a single mom but Jeff and I work different schedules so my schedule is similar to Shelley's. I have an almost 10 year old step son (who's currently staying with MIL until she goes back to work), a 20 month old daughter and 7 month old son.
I get up between 6 and 7, depending on if I've had my shower the night before. I get showered, diaper bag packed and sippy cup filled. Then I get up 7 month old, change his diaper and get him dressed. He just dropped his first morning bottle so that is saving me 20 minutes in the morning. Once he's dressed he goes into the bed with Daddy while I get Lilly up. It's off to the potty for her (we are potty training) and dressed and into bed with Daddy. (He gets home after they go to bed so this is their few minutes of bonding time). I grab my breakfast and lunch and load and start the vehicle. After buckling the kids in, I'm off on the 35 minute commute. Drop off the kids at daycare and head to work. I have a desk job. I was walking for 30 minutes on my lunch break to get in my exercise but it got too hot. Now that it's getting cooler I will be resuming them next week.
I try to eat my packed lunch but I struggle with wanting fast food. I get off work at 5, pick up the kids from day care, drive the 35 minutes home. If it's decent outside, I load them into the double stroller and we walk the dirt road beside the house. I get home cook a quick dinner and feed William. Get Lilly fed, bathe both kids and get them in bed around 8 p.m. That's usually when I've been eating, the Jeff comes home and we catch up on each other's day and then hit the bed.
I have to say that I've really been struggling lately with trying to get that walk in right after we get home. the past couple of days it has been beautiful weather but just so darn windy. Both kids have allergies and/or colds and I didn't want to take them out in it. I have a stepper but it kills my knees. I have a trampoline but I have to wait until Jeff comes home to go outside and by then I'm too tired. I'm hoping with picking back up my lunch walks it will help me. I still want to walk in the evenings because the kids love to go in the stroller.

I commend you and all the single moms out there. Especially for trying to find the time to also take care of you in the process.

Jen
09-12-2004, 10:24 PM
I'm not a single mom but I've felt like it a good deal over the past 3 years since my son was born. My husband has not been there at all to help with our son even though he swore upside down and sideways that he would do it all. He couldn't cope with the reality, sleepless nights, digustingly dirty diapers, endless crying, mess all over...just in the past few weeks he has started being at home with our son only because he has to as I've started a new job and work some evenings now. In some ways I think being a married single mom is worse than being a single, single mom. You know you are doing this alone, I have someone here who professes to love our child but doesn't lift a finger to help raise him and doesn't seem to realize that he is missing out on precious moments that are never going to come around again.

Anyway I digress. You single moms are amazing, I got tired just reading some of those schedules! Best wishes and take care.

Merrick
09-13-2004, 10:27 AM
Jen I know what you mean, I was a married single mom for 5 years, I was fortunate enough to be home full time for a couple of those years. Now I usually work two jobs, due to no financial support. I agree it was really, really stressful being a married single mom. I kept yearning for support and wanted him to be a big part of our son's life. Didn't happen, I agree, his loss. Well every couple ofyears my ex tries to come back into my son's life only to leave again. This time, I said no. It is too destructive. My dreams and yearning for my son to have is father are gone, now I wish, pray and dream for a wonderful step father for my son. My ex has too many problems and drags my son down with him, hurting him. Making me want to physically hurt my ex. But would never do that, it would hurt my son too much. Being a single mother has it's stresses, physically, fianacially, and emotionally. But being married single parent, adds more psychological to the mix.

Hang in there, we are all great moms, because we are there.... everyday, everynight. :)

djs06
09-13-2004, 11:16 AM
I'm not a single mom either, or even a mom, but I just wanted to drop in and tell you ladies that I've been keeping up with this thread and think you are all phenomenal women. Best of luck to you all, you deserve the biggest props in the world.

Merrick
09-14-2004, 12:02 PM
Dana thank you for your response, it is greatly appreciated.

dietdeva
09-16-2004, 06:29 PM
hello everyone. I am a single mum from the uk. Brought up my daughter alone since she was 6 weeks old. That's when I started putting on weight, feeling lonely, staying in by myself, eating felt good. It's been tough by myself to start with I barely had money for food so when any _ and I mean any_ food was offered to me I ate it as I really didn't know where the next meal was coming from. and in the UK crap food is cheap! I nearly lost my house several times could barely afford heating and nappies. I went back to work when she was 18 months as my mother could look after her (how great was that), I made the decision then that if I had to be away from my baby I wanted to be paid well. Fast forward to 2004 ,,,,,,, my baby was 13 in July this year, I have built up my own business, I was able to help my mother out in buying a bungalow and this year my daughter started at a fantastic private school in amazing grounds. I still am overweight but now - just from this summer I decided that now was the time to concentrate on me that I didn't need to hang to this extra weight - I don't have to worry about buying the next meal. I;ve lost 30 plus pounds since 1st June and although had a hiccup today - fish and chips supper - and look forward to losing more.
What I want to say to you single mum's is no matter how tough it is life gets easier my daughter was my motivation for success but now I know she's ok I need to think about me a little more.Take time out for me - that;s what I did this summer and it really helped. Good luck everyone>Take care,

Merrick
10-04-2004, 08:50 PM
:D :smoking: :smoking: :bravo: :cp: :cp: :cb: :dance: :flow1: :dancer: :high: :high: :sunny: :sunny: :encore: :cheer: :cheer:

Unreal, bravo to you. That is so huge, so wonderful, I am so proud of you. That is so wondderful. You must have felt so awesome. OHHHHH that is so awesome. How great of your mom to respond that way, even to ask if she gets in the way, that she cares enough to try...... :)

I am so happy for you. I do know exactly what you mean about the control, but not really. That is my life. I am the same way.

Keep up the good work...... :D :D :D :D :D :D

Br00klyn
10-05-2004, 11:01 PM
I'm not a mom either but was just reading through this thread! Great job for you guys keeping up the hard work! You're all doing splendid... just splendid! :D

Merrick
10-06-2004, 08:08 AM
Maybe your body needs those points, you may not feel like your doing alot of exercise, but you are. 4 miles on a bike is alot. Great job. what about allowing yourself to eat your points for that day, without eating any flex points. Save some of your flex points for day or one meal (not all of the points). Actually, these are just ideas. I just worry that if you feel deprived, then you may not want to stick with it. Good luck with figuring out what works with you. As for me, well I walked 2.41 miles yesterday. My eating was good, as for today, my truck is in the shop for oil change and tire rotation. I have to walk 3 miles to go get it, so I am trying to decide hwo much I will walk tonight at football practice, part of me was thinking, I already did my walking, and another part of me is thinking of getting extra miles for the week. We'll see. I am not sure if I told you but I will not be able to log in from Friday till Monday. We are going away to Block Island for the long weekend. I can't wait. I plan on doing alot of walking there. Well I'm off to get back to work. Have a great day and keep up the great job. You are doing so good, I am so happy for you.

Merrick
10-12-2004, 09:36 AM
Hey Shelly, great picture. Very nice.
Well, my trip was wonderful. But I got on the scale, which I haven't in a really long time, because my scale gets crazy with warm weather and will not give you the right weight. Anyway I got on this morning and I was up 7 lbs. I was so sad. I really need to get focused. I keep gettig bigger and bigger. I feel like I am going to explode. I felt I did really well on my trip. We walked alot. And I eat pretty good. I didn't deprive myself, but I ate much smaller portions. I made sure I did not eat it all, I left something at almost everymeal.
How have you been? Is everyone well? Is your mom still working out with you???? I hope so. Well, I have to get back to work. I will check back later.

Merrick
10-12-2004, 03:48 PM
so what kind of NEW friend is he????? :)

Merrick
10-13-2004, 09:41 PM
:bravo: on the weight loss :cb: :cp: :dance: :dancer: :high: :sunny: :cheer: :cheer:

That is so awesome.

As for the new :love: Man oh I mean friend :love: remember to take it slow, the last thing you need is another tough relationship in your life (like myself). Make sure he deserves you, if not start running.

I'm sorry, to be making so much out of this, but you seemed so happy when you talked about him. I just thought :love:

Well hope all is well I'll check in tomorrow. :D

Merrick
10-15-2004, 08:28 AM
Well, that sounds like something is up. that is really cool if it works out, I'll keep you in my prayers to keep your emotions and feelings intact and strong. how has the exercising been going????
Well for the past two days I did yoga, step and walking. Yesterdays walking was 2.28 miles. Today, is wet and rainy, and I am tired....so badly. So I have to tried to stay up and motivated, when I don't feel right I usually eat, to feel better.

I'm hoping to get out of work early and go home take a little nap, do my yoga and step. Then my son has a hockey game tonight about an hour away. So that will fill half my night.

Well have a great day. Icheck in when I can

Merrick
10-18-2004, 10:13 AM
Well, count it, and when you are done I'm sure you will get back into your routnine, I know that I get bored with some exercise so easily. Step, is step Aerobics, I have a platform and follow along with a reebok tape. I use to compete many years ago in Step Aerobics. It was created by Reebok, it is fun, but can be hard and get a sweaty workout. I did not exercise Friday, Sat, or Sund Well I walked. My pedometer is gone, I left it in Block Island. I am using my old one and I do not think it is set up right?????? But I have been averaging 2-3 miles each day. I'll take it.
Wow, he called again, any talk of him taking you out when he comes home or still friends?? Hang in there, have fun cleaning. I just bought a new bed, I'm waiting for it to be delivered this weekend. My son want to sleep on it with me, crazy.... he is such a bed hog. I love sleeping in my bed alone. Have a great day, I have to get back to work. Lynne

Merrick
10-19-2004, 10:42 AM
Oh I know what you mean about the cmmunity bed. My son does come in often. He states he can't wait for my new bed. He wants a big bed for himself, he says, then he would sleep in his bed all the time. I don't believe him. I think he would still come in to mine. Usually I don't mind, but somettimes I don't get to sleep well.
Well yesterday i felt the same way, I was tired as soon as I got up. I thought I was getting sick, but I knew I wasn't because I couldn't stop eating. I am really going to try to go back to WW meetings. I need something, motivation.
Well I have to get back to work. Great to talk to you. Keep up the good work. :)

Merrick
10-24-2004, 08:11 PM
Well, I am back, I hope your weekend went well. My was busy as usual. My son had hockey on Saturday, then I got my new bed and had to change my room around, due to it would not fit where I had it. Needless to say I am still working on it. All the wire, cable, phone, computer, etc. what a mess. I hope you had a good weekend with your kids. I did ok, I did not exerise alot, my regular 2 miles each day, but nothing else.

How did you get that ticker line to paste on your signature and how do you change it???? I tried but it did not work.

Hey have you heard from "the Man"...... I hope things are going well. :cool:

Well, I am off to watch the Red Sox. they are playing in the world series.... I check it soon. Have a great day.

Merrick
10-27-2004, 08:27 AM
Hey Shelly, thanks for the help with the ticker. I love it. Well, glad to hear that you are preping to dig in to exercise again. I know you will do it. the yo yo thing, I am that same way... sometimes I feel like it is a fear thing for me. I don't know. I want to lose weight, but I always gain some back, before I star losing again. Crazy, how the mind works.
Anyway, space, nothing like having extra space. use it well. Great to hear you found your son's glasses, you always need an extra pair. you'll get everything put away, I am still putting stuf in there new place. Someday I'll be finished.
My son's football team is playing extra this week, they want to win this weekend, if they do then they will make the playoffs. I love that he loves it, but it is every day for 2 hours.... freezing as I stand there waiting for it to end. We are having a very cold fall. I HATE the cold. I have been trying to work through it. I just got a catalog of all different exercise videos. I do not have it here at my desk, but I will send you the website next time I go down stairs (it on the stairs). Some of them look pretty good. I am going to try to look at it today.

Well, the MAN... are you ok with how it is going? When will he be back in town? Use his time away to get to know him and yourself with how you really feel about him. You are too great of a person to jump into a bad relationship. You are doing a great job with taking care of yourself. Keep up the great work. Stay focused on what is best for you. I look forward to hearing more about him. :)
Well I have to get back to work. Have a great day. I will get that website for you sometime today, I hope. Have a great day.....

Merrick
10-28-2004, 10:37 AM
Oh shelly, I am so sorry to hear about your sick baby. I always hated that. I remember one time my son was sick and we had no place to sleep, he threw up on everything, my bed, his bed, the couch. We were both so tired. Hang in there and take care of the both of you. I forgot about the website. I brought the catalog up to my home office, but got invovled with the Red Sox and never turned on the computer. Today I am working at the office. I will do my best to remember to turn on the computer today and send it to you. Sorry. the catalog is good I just hope the website is.

Well I lost 2.2 last night at weigh in. Well I really have to go. I'll try to check in later

Merrick
10-29-2004, 10:29 AM
Hey shelly great pic, is this you now? Glad to hear the kids are good. stay with your feeling about the man, but make sure your not creating feelings out of fear or connecting? Just be true to you and what you what. I have the website. I was going to send it last night, but something took over my computer. I did not want anything to be sent to anyone, Not even sure if it could but I have chose to only use send things through work computer. Just in case. I am going to be working with a computer guy today. Hopefully it is nothing big. therefore, until it is fixed I will only be logging in from work. This stuff makes me nervous. One computer guy last night said spyware had taken over my system, ????? whatever that means. I do have to find out more. He did not seem to think it was anything big. So I talk to you soon, have a great weekend.

Website: collage video's guide to exercise vidoes
collagevideo.com 800/433-6769

jkfla
10-29-2004, 11:35 AM
Hi Lynne. thanks! yes i took that pic yesterday. it looks a little pale. i've noticed that as i've gotten older my complexion has gotten darker (which i think is a family trait from my mom's dad's dad's side of the family) so my make up doesn't exactly match my skin tone anymore. i need to get some new stuff. i tell you though, sometimes it just really sucks to be a girl! LOL

i think there is a spyware program called adaware out there that you can put on your computer, i have it on mine... supposedly it deletes the spyware it finds but i'm not sure if it really works as it says it does because i have noticed that after my brother uses my computer i will get bombarded with porn email. :?:

dillon is staying home from school today. he was up all night puking. i think i'm going to get it either late tonight or tomorrow. i feel pukey now. but so it goes... one gets it, we all get it! LOL i hope you and your son can stay away from the sickies!

thanks for sending the website. i'll check it out!

have a good day!

Merrick
11-03-2004, 01:32 PM
Well, my computer is still messed up. I have adaware, spybot, spydoctor, etc.... ultilmate popup elim. and many more. None of them took it completely away. Although I was told that it is not a virus, I am still nervous to use it when connecting to others. That is why I am only using my office on, for now. When it stops then I use my home comp. Sorry to hear about your son, I hope you do not get It. Hope all is well, I weigh in tonight, but I won't be in the office again until Friday. I'll get back to you then. Have a great day.

Merrick
11-05-2004, 09:17 AM
Hey Shelly how is it going. I was down another 1.8. I was so happy. So how are you? The kids? Hoep everyone is well. Things are good on this end. I think I may have to puchase a new computer. I am so sick of dealing with mine..... I'll see. Anyway, my exercise has been almost nothing. I have been working on my crafts, polymer clay ornaments, magnets, pins. Cute little figurines. My show is next Sat and the following Sat. This is going to be the hard week. This week (starting mon or tues) I make candy.. truffles, turtles, and clusters and lollipops. I am hoping to stay strong and chew lots of gum... so I won't put the chocolate into my mouth. Pary for me. Well, I noticed you deleted all of your posts. There are a few people that do that. Why do you do it? Is there a specific reason.... or something that I should be doing???? Well, I'll talk to you afte the weekend, when I'm back in the office, Mon or Tues. Have a great weekend......

jkfla
11-05-2004, 11:27 AM
hey lynne. things aren't going so good here. i had a gain this week and i've been doing just horrible with the eating and the exercise (see my psychological problem? post LOL) i'm having stomach problems from all that i've put into my body and then brought back up. dillon came home sick from school yesterday so he is home today. i hope you guys are doing well.

you sure are busy! i wish i was all crafty like that. i tried scrapbooking once but it turned out to be a complete mess. i'm sure you'll do just fine.
how old is your computer? sometimes you just have to give in and get new. maybe you could save some money though and just buy some parts and upgrade yours? i delete old posts to free up space on the board and make the pages load faster for me since i'm still on dial up.. i don't think you HAVE to do it, its just something i felt like doing.