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06-28-2004, 02:30 PM
Since June turned out to be a total flop for me, I need some motivation.

I just booked a ticket to see one of my very best friends in Puerto Rico the last weekend in August. We haven't seen each other since last October, and I was at least 25 lbs. heavier then.

I also bought a bathing suit for the first time in forever. The last one I had was a size 24 -- and was what I affectionately refer to as my moo-moo suit -- a 2 piece suit that had oversize briefs with a little skirt and a top that ballooned out and over the briefs. I looked like a buoy out in the water...

Anyway, I went shopping with a friend last Thursday [the new apartment-guest] and I bought a real 2 piece, in a size 16!!! Now, it's no bikini: it's a shirt and brief but it's a normal/non-skirt brief. I feel quite self conscious in it --although I think my thighs are getting more muscular and less like cottage cheese :) It's still a bit tight in the b00b area as well.

So I am setting up a mini-goal for myself for the first time ever. By August 21st, the weekend before my trip, I would like to not only have lost 10 lbs., but look leaner -- and be toned.

I don't know how many lbs. = going down a size for me. Although I guess I could figure that out [just did and it's 11]. Even better would be shrinking so that the suit doesn't fit!!! So I am totally keeping the tags ON it. Unless I wear it before August.

Anyway, I am rambling because I just got motivated again after a very, very high cheat weekend [see my online journal].

Anyone else have any mini-goals?

06-28-2004, 03:35 PM
Good luck to you Jenne. I'm sure you can lose that 10 pounds by August 21st and you will look smashing :) My swimsuit has a little skirt on it, lol, that is the only type I'll wear cause of the cottage cheese factor. I could be a twig but I'd still have cottage cheese to deal with.

What gym do you go to?

06-28-2004, 04:20 PM
My mini goal is to look at least half-way decent in the HALTER TOP :fr: bridesmaid dress by best friend picked for her wedding in September. I'm glad she showed us WAY ahead of time what the dresses would look like b/c it has given me time to shed a lot of pounds.

I chose 220 as my goal weight for her wedding day b/c it is about what I weighed when I got married 4 years ago, and I liked the way I looked in those pics. The way it looks now, I should be just under that goal by September 4th (maybe 216-ish). :crossed:

I thought, back when I started this diet, that if I actually met the September 4th goal, my next goal would be to be in ONEderland by Christmas. I would LOVE to be able to show off in front of the in-laws. You know, to give them something nice to say about me behind my back... :lol3:

Jenn, congrats on the new tiny swimsuit! You've still got plenty of time to lose those 11 lbs. :) I'm still trying to get up the nerve to buy shorts for vacation next month. I've got a ways to go before I'm brave enough for swimgear...

06-28-2004, 04:21 PM
LOL WendyJo

I almost spit the cottage cheese I WAS eating out onto the screen. I didn't mean to insult anyone who wears those skirt suits. It's just that I haven't *NOT* worn one since I was maybe, 12? Sorry for the double negative there...

I go to the Y by my house. And I love it!

06-28-2004, 04:23 PM
Oh, and by the way, from looking at the Tally on your website I think that you've been doing very well. Don't be too hard on yourself girl!

06-28-2004, 04:34 PM
Thanks Fuzzy - it's not tiny YET. Good luck on your goal too! I think you are well on your way!

When I get to my goal size [12], I think I might just throw a party!

06-28-2004, 05:23 PM
Ya better invite me!

06-28-2004, 05:38 PM
Jenn, super congrats on that suit! It sounds fabulous and tankinis are very in, so no one will look sideways at you in it. So cool!

My mini goal is to lose 50 pounds by August 8. I'm going to a conference in Pittsburgh then, and staying at this wonderful old hotel. They have a very yummy-sounding spa there, and if I lose the 50 pounds, I'm going to get a back exfoliation, head rub, and pedicure. Ahhhhhhh.... :cloud9:

I think I'm going to make it...especially if this apparent break in my plateau is predictive...

06-28-2004, 05:53 PM
ahhhhh. A spa day. Sounds like a lovely reward. And you are so there Laurie!

I initially said that when I lost 50 lbs., I'd get the tatoo I've wanted for years. Considering I didn't want the thing to be all droopy and on lose skin.

Now that I am there, I am too chicken. I think it'll be my reward for my goal weight. I think.

Right now, maybe I can focus on making a goal for these next two weeks as an incentive to stay OP and back on P! [so far so good]. Perhaps a massage?????

I haven't gotten one since my ex and I split. And even then it wasn't good! :lol:


06-28-2004, 05:59 PM
Jenn, that sounds like a great reward! :goodvibes: I love finding healthy things to do for myself that have good long lasting effects (unlike the long lasting effects of some food...).

I hope you have a wonderful, decadent massage that makes you feel as good as you look! :)

06-28-2004, 06:22 PM
Jenn, hurrah, you must celebrate as that is great news. Most women who are the least bit self conscious won't even venture out from board shorts, like me. I know you've been bummed out lately, but keep up the good work and don't be too hard on yourself. The rest of the world is pretty good at doing that for us.

My mini goal is to be a comfy size 8 by the time I go back home for Xmas. Would be even grander if my ex...who was nice but in the past 24 hours has turned into a complete prat because he's suddenly decided he's not dealing with ex-wife issues as he told me when we broke up a month ago but he really has been in love with someone else the past ten years....saw me and realized even more what a mistake it was to let me go for a second time. Not that I'm hung up on him or anything :stress:

Yes I know I've got baggage, but it's cute and it matches!

06-29-2004, 03:01 AM
Woohoo for size 16!!! I don't know when I will go down a size either. I think the mini goals are the best bet since it won't seem like it is so far away. Congrats!!

06-29-2004, 06:42 AM
Jenn, the massage idea is a great one, and I really admire your commitment to the exercise and toning up too....I get a bit optimistic about that, hoping it will all just drop away and I will look great like I did when I lost weight aged 15......

hmm. No chance.

And the bathing costume sounds wonderful. I agonise over what style to get every year and always go for the lifeguard black look, which makes me look a bit like a very large corpse. Black is not my colour, clothes wise. I have vaguely ginger hair....ish.

anyway, mini goals. I would like to lose 12lbs by the middle of August. I am off on hols for five weeks at that time. But I also would like to tone up a bit. I am going to do the Goddess workout that I bought on Ellis's inspiration a few months ago.

little chick
06-29-2004, 08:41 AM
My mini goal was to get my belly button done pierced but I too have chicked out. I really don't like pain. I would like to lose 15 by the end of the summer. Jen the cottage cheese thighs cracked me up I was just commenting on mine on Sat as I was in the dressing rooms trying on clothes.

sweet tooth
06-29-2004, 11:02 AM
Jenn...Way to go. Big hugs to you for the step towards a mini goal.

I don't know if I would be able to lose weight without setting mini goals for myself. When I don't see a notable mini goal in sight, I often just reward myself when the scale goes below the next 5 lb. increment mark. Then I concentrat on trying to manage to get to the next one. It isn't much, but it keeps me a bit motivated.

My next mini goal, though, is to lose 8 lb. in the next 3 weeks. We are leaving for Puerto Vallarta on July 17 and I want to be in to my tankini by then. When I lost weight before, it fit at 142 lbs., so I am setting that as my goal.

Unfortunately, I started out by going off program slightly yesterday and gained 1 lb. However, I am back OP today, will do Phase 1 today, then back on the regular program. Hopefully, there won't be too much damage from the slip.

Looking forward to reading your posts and celebrating your successes with you. Take care.

06-29-2004, 12:08 PM
Ok well these are some great minis.

We'll stick together and achieve them. I know we will! If anyone needs anything from me [even a kick in the tush] let me know!


06-29-2004, 11:17 PM
well i had a mini goal that i have now acheived!!! it was fitting back into skinny jeans (miss 60 sz 31 which is a extremely SMALL 31) that i used to wear after I lost some weight on WW. for a while i could barely get the fat thighs in there let alone zip up. now they fit perfect again! i was estatic! its been 2 YEARS since i wore them! also i finally fit into a pair of jeans i got on sale and thought i would thin into. *snickers* 10 months LATER! HA! i'm now around my lowest weight ever so next mini goal is a size down in jeans. i figured it takes around 10 pounds for me to drop a size. so my next mini goal is being in the 130's i guess! virgin territory!!!!

06-30-2004, 12:01 AM
Guys, I must admit that I am a bit frustrated...I've lost about 46 pounds or so, and I've only gone down one size. I put on the 24 W pants I have and they just fit. They close and all, but they feel tight. Same with the shorts. One 24W dress skims my curves, and it's a straight dress, but I feel like after 40 pounds I should have dropped at least 2 sizes!! :( Granted, my size 18/20 undies seem less tight, and my stomach is definitely much smaller...but what is going on in the size dept?

06-30-2004, 12:17 AM
thats so weird! have you been tracking your measurements? i do and really find that helps. cause like this week i didn't lose but i lost some half inches here and there, so that made me feel better. and i would lose inches every week but clothing was the same for a long time. maybe all of a sudden you will notice a change! but wow, almost 50 pounds, that is so awesome!!!

06-30-2004, 12:20 AM
Thanks, Pika! :)

I didn't measure myself at the beginning...I was too embaressed. I knew that I would want to be able to see my loss in inches, but I just was afraid of the size of the original numbers. So now I have no idea how much I have lost in inches. *sigh* How I love being in denial... ;)

06-30-2004, 05:23 AM
Beachgal I have the wonderings about sizes in clothes as well. I dont think I have ever been less than a size 14 (that is 12 in american sizes I think) but my weight has gone from 140 up to 165 or so without me going to the next size up. These days I am in a size 20 but cant see me getting in to an 18 until I have lost at least another 30 lbs.

Some of it has to do with muscle tone I think. And I think some has to do with how much loose skin you have when losing weight.......and, umm, age

06-30-2004, 10:11 AM
That doesn't make any sense! For me if I lose 10-15 pounds I need to go down a size in clothes. I don't see how on earth you could lose that much and only go down one size.

06-30-2004, 10:40 AM
Laurie -- it could be you are losing in different places. Have your boobs shrunk? band size? shirt size? shoe size?

I know it wasn't until my first 20 was off that I went down a size because I lost a little from everywhere.

everyone is different -- I guess that's good to remember!

06-30-2004, 10:40 AM
I know that one thing I find frustrating is that the sizes vary so much. I just bought a size 16 pair of pants that fits (a little snug) while I still have several 18's that fit perfectly and another pair of 18s that hangs on me. It seems that everything is cut differently! I doubt I will ever get below a 14 no matter what I lose. I just seems like my bone structure and the way I am built requires more room. I know I was a 14 in high school when I was only 125 pounds. And I know too that I have a lot of hanging skin on my belly from being heavy (and one c-section) that gets in the way of smaller pants. I guess I'll just wait and see what happens.

sweet tooth
06-30-2004, 11:27 AM
Laurie...I can empathize with you about the size, but be patient. When I initially decided to lose weight, I went through the same thing. I had lost tons of weight, but my clothing size didn't go down. I was determined to lose weight, though and kept persisting with the weight loss. After losing just a bit more weight, I noticed that my clothes were very loose. I discovered that I had gone down 4 sizes in a very short time.

It was almost like the inches didn't come off initially, but then just seemed to fall off. Just be patient. You will eventually lose the inches and be healthy at the same time.

06-30-2004, 08:12 PM
From what I remember when I was much smaller you only needed to gain 10 pounds to go up a size but once you get past about a size 18 you seem to have to lose a lot more weight (about 30 pounds for me) to drop a size. I have a friend who is about 50 pounds heavier than I am but she buys one size larger than me. I think the cuts of the larger size are designed to accommodate a wider range of physiques. I have found I have toned up certain areas (mainly my waist and thighs) since going to the gym so I can drop a size now having only lost about 10 pounds on the scales (but probably lost a lot of fat and gained some toned up muscles).

07-01-2004, 01:01 AM
Good points, guys!

I'm still fitting pretty well in my DDD bras, so no cigar there (I wish!!!). My waist and thighs seem smaller, and my stomach is much smaller, but I think it's still big enough to get in the way. Maybe I'll find that I'm an 18 or so when I lose the stomach completley. My panties are size 18/20 and are starting to be very loose.

Pika mentioned that she thinks the same way you do, Chick. That the bigger sizes seem to have bigger gaps in between. She did the math and figured out that if I lost a size every 10 pounds, I'd be a size 10 and 210 pounds. No way! :lol: I figure I'll be a size 14 when I finish, maybe a 12. So that means I only have six or seven sizes to lose and 150 pounds total. At least 20 pounds per size. We'll see. I think I fit into a size 20 when I was around 190+, so...

Thanks for the support and suggestions. They help a lot! Is anyone else in my size range and seeing the same thing?

07-01-2004, 10:56 AM
I also think that the lower you go, weight wise, the less there is in between sizes. I was only an 18 for a few months, compared to getting from my size of a 24 to a 22 then a 20 [I think it was at least 7 months and at least 30 lbs.]

I know now, all the 16's I bought are lose on me [or actually, fit correctly since I am not squeezing myself into clothes to small for me like I used to], but I can't get into a 14 yet. Plus, my goal size is a 12 -- but weight goal is 165 or so. They don't equate if I go by the 10 lb rule so who knows...

Anyway, I am wearing a "fitted" [I think tight but I know it's not] shirt today and feel WONDERFUL. I am used to hiding behind my clothes. 2 co-workers called me thin today. My new roomie told me it looked GOOD on me, but I am so used to hiding beneath tents, that I can't see it.

Although I feel a bit uncomfortable, I do think I look good!

07-01-2004, 11:14 AM
Can I jump in with a mini-goal? My DH's class reunion is the last Saturday in July. And while I know I can't really change myself between now and then, I want to have that sense about me...that "I worked for it and look good" sense. Maybe I won't wow anyone cause lord knows I have a long way to go. But if I feel good about myself, it will show.

And I want an excuse to buy a new outfit. ;)

07-01-2004, 12:51 PM
In a month Jen, I lost upwards of 10. It's possible! Excersise and stick to the plan.

But no matter how much you do, or don't lost, confidence is what's important. You are doing a great job. Keep it up!