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05-02-2004, 12:26 PM
Welcome to a thread devoted to those who have the ultimate job of taking care of their family. Here you will find wonderful women raising a family and trying to find time to take care of themselves and their weight too. So if you are a SAHM jump right in and say hello and to all you who have been here before I look forward to a new day with you!!

05-02-2004, 12:27 PM
Geri - I feel that way somedays too. Taylor will throw massive fits in stores and when I pick her up from playdates its horribly embarassing sometimes I'm pretty sure people think I'm kidnapping her. Hang in there girly it will be ok. I think maybe you should tell dh that you especially need a couple hours to yourself today, but thats my opinion lol.

Ok I got my 2 hour walk in and I'm going to try for another mile after lunch. Hubby wants to go use the treadmill since the baby just went down for a nap so I guess we'll go to the park this afternoon.

Well I'm gonna get going and get my house picked up AGAIN!! lol

05-02-2004, 12:42 PM
Hi girls, I'm checking in somewhat late for me. My net wasn't working this morning for some reason. I'm working on putting together some teacher appreciation gifts for my mom's work. I'm putting some Watkins samples and a business card in some bags. Need to take a shower and later we're going to dh's grandparents for dinner to celebrate lots of family member's birthdays.

Anyway, I'm doing a little better than I was yesterday, still not great. I'm still alittle emotional, thinking it's getting ready for TOM. At least that's what I hope it is. Last time I got so emotional that I could tell myself, I was.....................(gulp)!!!................. know........................PG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not this time, I assure you.

Anyway, thanks Spryng and Michelle for your kind words and cyber hugs. I really needed that. I don't have anyone close to me. My sister and I are close but she lives about an hour away and has 7 kids, doesn't always have time to chat. My other good friend lives over an hour away and is like NEVER home. That's the extent of my friends.

I've been feeling so unappreciated. You all know what I'm talking about. We stay at home mom's always go through this. And I tell myself that, it will pass. But while those feelings are here, you have to just deal with them. Like yesterday for example. I needed my dh to help with the kids so badly, the garage sale and the weather on top of that was worse. But he procrastinated ALL week on something he needed to do for work, so he chose yesterday to do it, after driving to Dallas to get some paperwork, he went home to do some work that lasted only about an hour and a half. You know, he could have thought to himself, "why don't I go get the kids from Crystal so she can finish up the sale and get it cleaned up, that would be nice," no no, instead he chose that time to get his fishing stuff out and get it cleaned and ready to go fishing today. I was TOTALLY exhausted yesterday, you can imagine, and what does he ask, "what time are you going to bed?" You get the picture what he was leading to, I was pi**ed. Today, he's fishing. Did he do the few dishes yesterday while he was here, NO. Did he make the bed, NO. This is why I'm emotional, it's just getting to me. I can't gripe and complain, he throws in my face I chose to stay home or he works all week. I can't really say anything. I've told him that I chose to stay home, but imagine if I had a job and still had to do all this house stuff. Yes he works all week, but he has his weekends to himself and me, 24/7. You all know what I'm talking about.
Anyway, I'll get over it. Sorry to not get personal, but I'm doing a few things at once and still need a shower. I'll check back later.


05-02-2004, 01:02 PM
Crystal - I'm sorry to hear you're still down in the dumps. We are always here for you. I'm kind of the same as you all of my friends kind of floated away when I got pregnant and married, and then when I got sick they all kinda got scared and that left me and hubby clinging to each other. My sister is going through the same thing as you with her boyfriend she stays home with their 2 kids and he is always off doing something or other when he could be home with them, I told her to tell him that she needs time with him, and some time alone. I think you should have a little chat with dh when I start feeling things in my house going that way I just sit him down and tell him what I need and I'm truely blessed cuz he is so understanding of me and my needs and especially patient with my quick temper. Oh geez I'm rambling aren't I lol. Any way you get the picture. If you need to cry then cry and if you need a shoulder to cry on Mine is always available. I certainly hope things pick up for you today!! If you wanna talk I'm on here off and on today. I'm gonna go finish cleaning my house then I'm gonna come back and check on you hun ;) :grouphug:
Just so you all know you guys are my friends and totally make me feel much better about myself and for that I love you all!

05-02-2004, 01:07 PM
Today looks like is a down day for a couple of you. I wish I lived close and we could all go do something together.
I think I took too much excedrin... I am so lightheaded and over heated right now. My heart is beating fast. I took 4. Which is alot for me but I was in so much pain that I just wanted relief, you know? Now I am regretting it. Is there anything I can do to get it out of my system faster??

Geri, hang in there. I know what you mean about so tired of yelling at your kids day in and out over the same things. Bubba does the same thing to me. When he gets that bad and I'm so overwhelmed I put him in his room (and lock the outside so he has to stay there) and take a few minutes to myself. All that yelling just gives you a sore throat and no relief. It's like he doesn't even hear me. So I let him have his fit in his room and when he is quiet for 5 min I will go in and calmly talk to him before I let him out. But don't feel like you are alone or a bad mother because you are neither. You are a wonderful mother who just needs a well deserved break. I hope you get a couple hours to yourself today. That is why my kids go down for a nap whether they are tired or not. I need that time to myself. I would go insane without it. Most of the time they don't sleep but play in their rooms and that is fine, it's still 2 hours just for me. Could you arrange something like that? I truly hope today gets better for you. If you want to call feel free!! I'm just hanging around the house praying this medicine will get out of my system soon. I feel so strange. I know it will pass.
Crystal, your DH sounds just like mine. Oh in public he will say I have the harder life staying at home with the kids, blah blah blah, but when he is home and I need him to help with anything he gripes moans and complains about how much he works and how tired he is and all I do it stay home, you know the drill. I can totally relate. And you CAN say something! Yes he may work outside the home but that doesn't mean he deserves a vacation on his days off... you work hard too. I don't think it's just him not appreciating you, it's you not appreciating how hard you work too! Give yourself some credit girl, you are a wonderful mother, wife and caretaker of your family and your home. Not to mention doing watkins too. He should help out and give you a day off every now and then too. My Dh knows when he is home not to say contriving things because he'll be getting "nothing" (if you know what I mean) and those next 2 weeks will be mighty lonely for him, lol. He knows that when he helps out some and says positive things than I am more willing and in a better mood to make his weekend better too. :) I really hope your day gets better. Hang in there.

Well, I did clean out my linen closet. What a mess of empty bottles, cleaning supplies, etc. Now I have room for clean towels and everything is organized! That was my 5 min room rescue for today. Now I think I just need to take it easy and let this medicine get out of me. I think it is the aspirin in the excedrin that is doing it.

05-02-2004, 01:31 PM
Thank you both for your words.

Spryng, take it easy with that medicine. I hate when I have that feeling if I take too much or something. Especially with the kids around. My dh is the same, he'll be all sweet sometimes, for people to see, but yes behind closed doors it's different. Like yesterday, I was so tired and after him asking what time I was going to bed, then he went on to say that he is ALWAYS tired and he started picking on me and wanted me to wrestle. All I wanted was him to hug me, kiss me, rub his hands through my hair and pity me alittle. But instead, he left to go to Walmart, you know needed more fishing stuff. Seeing as though he hadn't been around me and the kids all day, he had to go then.

Michelle, thanks so much for your words. And you're right I should talk to him, but he's not the kind of man to "understand" at all. If I say ANYTHING, it backfires some how or another. I ALWAYS come out the bad guy. It's not worth it. Just starts a fight and I come out the bi**h and nothing is accomplished. So I just leave my mouth shut and deal with it.

Well you girls are GREAT. I'm almost in tears because I don't have friends to talk to and y'all have filled those shoes even being as far away as you are. Not to worry, next Saturday is MY day. My sister and I go to the homeschool bookfair at the Arlington convention center. We leave at like 7 in the am and have lunch there and have SO much fun and get home about 4 or so. I can't wait. I know it's a bookfair, but it is so much fun, may be because I don't get out much. DH has no choice but to help out then. But all he has to do is give the kids cereal, get them dressed and take them to my mom's or his mom's and he's free the rest of the day. Not fair, but I'll still get my day. I can't wait, just thinking about it, makes my day better.

I'll be around later, still have to go to in law's for dinner. Thanks again girls.

05-02-2004, 02:58 PM
Crystal - Sorry about the bad day! Dh is now feeling better and I have a list of things that I want him to do. He seemed to be understanding, but 4 hours later and the only thing he did was take out the trash and unloaded the grocery, but only bc I was feeding the baby. I have given him tons of hints for Mother's Day, so I hope he follows thru.

Michelle - Dh is generally pretty supportive. I end up feeling bad when I yell at him about him, bc he starts that stuff "Oh you are such a good mom".

Spryng - Will the dr call anything in for you? I use to get o.c all the time before the baby. The pill regulated it a little. Mine were worse than childbirth. Ask for a Darvocet or Lortab? It can make you kind of loopy.
I am glad that it came across that I was positive about LA, bc it is so strict. I don't know how long it will last. I did it for 10 weeks before and lost about 15, but 2 of those weeks I was actually preg.
JW is pulling himself up and standing now. I am so looking forward to him walking.

Penny - Get back on the wagon, gf. Any lose is better than nothing. Good luck with the Italian meal.

The 3 time weigh in is so you can see how your weight fluct. from what you eat. I think it is a bit obsessive, but they talk with you about any problems or setbacks you might have. The people that work there are people who have lost weight. They have a rd, md that they can call with any questions. They are not really into exercise at first, which I do anyway. Ithink it is a must.

Geri and Michelle - when do the fits start? JW is in the only mommy stage. I think my arms have actually gotten stronger, he doesn't want anyone else to hold him.

Happy Sunday! Looks like I will have to check in more often. You gals are busy.

05-02-2004, 03:09 PM
Let's just take a few minutes to STOP and think about all we have accomplished in the last few weeks TOGETHER!! We have all worked really hard and been successful with so many of our goals, and those we haven't mastered yet...well, don't you all feel so much more confident that we can meet those goals because we now have each other?! I know I do. We have exercised more, lost some weight and gotten our homes in order TOGETHER!! But more important than that, we have found a circle of friends that we know we can depend on for any of our needs, not just the healthy lifestyle ones. That is worth so much to me.

Crystal, my dh is alot like yours and I just have to realize that I need to take care of myself, because no one else is going to. So I do. I leave him home with the kids and go shop or whatever, he doesn't seem to mind it. But I remember watching Dr Phil explain how men are so different from us and we have to learn to ask and not expect them to be mind readers. Males are just selfish for the most part. But I have found that many times it's just that I didn't ask and my dh didn't pick up on my needs. So maybe try, when you need something, to just ask him nicely..."Honey, will you please _______" Don't beat around the bush, or wait for an offer that never comes and makes you angry. Just ask and see what happens. I think it's all in the approach.
I am always here for you as well!! You know that!

Spryng, it's likely the caffeine in the exedrine that has you racing. Try to flush it out with lots of water. Hope you get over it very soon, I hate that feeling!

Michelle, WTG on the one pound lost!

As for me, I wore my jeans that WERE several inches from buttoning to church today. No laying on the bed to zip and button or anything like that. My pants are not even tight, actually they are baggy in the legs. My belly and my legs are not proportionate with each other at all, LOL! I guess I am one of those with the chicken legs! Going to do a big grocery run later today and see if I can find some decent fruits and veggies. I need to do better in the quality of food I eat more than the quantity.

I'll check in again later, CHINS UP FRIENDS!!!

Love to All!!!

05-02-2004, 03:23 PM
Cindi - You are exactly right, this group has come a long way. Way to go on the jeans. It has already gotten so hot in our parts. I won't see jeans until the fall and not those same ones. Have a great day shopping.


05-02-2004, 04:59 PM
Hi girls I just wanted to pop in and say Hello....

Spryng I really wanted to reply to your post about the ovarian cysts. I had one as large as a grapefruit that bursted and it was so darn painful. This is when I was sixteen and didn't know I had them. They thought it was my appendix. But come to find out there it was, they found out during surgery. I used to get them but I have them pretty much under control now since last September being on the bc pill. I know the pain, it is so severe and then it takes a couple of days to recover because it feels like you got punched in the stomach. Take care of yourself. Too bad Dh is not there to help you out. Hugs

Geri my 2 1/2 year old is really starting to get mouthy and sassy. Hang in there. Or atleast try and make sure to take some time for yourself if possible!

Well I have to go figure out supper. Happy Sunday everyone. Julie

05-02-2004, 05:33 PM
Hi again!
Julie, you are exactly right, I feel like I have been punched in the stomach. It is so sore now and aches when I move around. Which makes me wonder how big this one was that ruptured because the last one I got the pain went away in a couple of hours with no more aching or anything. I think I will take some tylenol for the rest of the day and no more excedrin. I made myself take a nap when the kids went down even though I wasn't really tired hoping I'd wake up and feel normal again but I'm still hobbling around. I guess I won't be doing anything extra around the house today. O-well. There is always tomorrow :) What did you figure out for dinner? I think I'm doing leftovers, don't really feel like standing and cooking.
Cindi, you are absolutely right about our group. Before many of you joined I remember going through a period where nobody was exercising (except Ginny because she walked every morning religiously) and no one was on plan ever. It went on for months that way. Very discouraging. And now look at us!! most of us has a loss every week and we are all trying our best! I know that someday we will all be maintaining together. :) Congrats on getting into your old jeans!!!! That must have felt soooo good.
Melinda, I don't have a personal doctor. If I am in pain or something I just see who ever is on call but I know they will want to see me before they prescribe anything for me. But thanks for thinking about me! I will just take some tylenol and rest up. Is LA Weightloss shakes and bars or do you have to cook stuff or how does it work? I know you mentioned it was similar to SB.
Crystal, have fun at the in-laws for dinner! And I know what you mean about these ladies here filling in those shoes of friendship. My bf lives 2 hours away and she is so busy now with her newborn and all that that I don't burden her with my problems and such, but I know I have all of you to talk to, or vent to , etc and you understand. I'm proud to call you all friends. :)

Well, I guess I need to get off here. TTYL!

05-02-2004, 05:43 PM
Melinda - My 2 yo started throwing fits when she was about 18 months old and they are horrible, scream at the top of your lungs, crying fits. I hope she outgrows them soon but probably by time she does Teagan will start throwing them lol it seems as if it's a never ending cycle. But they are worth it.

Hugs to all you girls who are having a hard day! :grouphug:

Ok I kind of had a late lunch salad with 1/2 cup fat free cottage cheese 8 oz tomato juice and 32 oz water so I'm pretty full. Dinner tonight I'm gonna have a chicken breast with some broccoli.

I haven't gotten an extra mile in yet but I'm kind of tired I was gonna sleep in today but I was excited to weigh in lol. We just got the girls to nap and I think I'm going to take this oportunity to relax a little.

Okay girls I'm gonna rest just a bit.

05-02-2004, 06:51 PM
Just a quick hi are being demanding today! Spyrng I have decieded on Shepards Pie for dinner. A frozen blueberry pie for dessert and maybe just a little scoop of vanilla ice cream to go with it. I hope I can keep my portions under control :^:! Hope you are feeling better. Thats what I usually do take tylenol and a hot bath. Julie

05-02-2004, 08:58 PM
HI guys!! I had supper which was a chicken breast sauteed with onions and garlic and some broccoli and a string cheese and 32 oz of water it was good. I gave Taylor some broccoli and she took it off her plate over to daddy saying "daddy it's yucky" ugghhhhh lol gonna have to work on getting her to eat more veggies.

Crystal and Geri - I hope you are both feeling better!! :grouphug:

Me and hubby watched Love Actually tonight I was shocked at some parts but bawled like a baby at the end lol such a great movie. I have another movie called Pieces of April that we are going to watch in a little bit my sister said it was cute.

Julie - I miss shepards pie it used to be one of our favorite dishes and easy to make too. I could also go for blueberry pie. Darn these diets anyway lol.

Spryng - I hope the effects of the medicine has worn off and you are feeling better now. I'm so sorry that you had to be in pain. When I used to have gallbladder attacks they were how you described your pain I would just fall to my knees and scream from the pain and vomiting all at the same time, the first time I had a really bad one was when teagan was like 3 weeks old and I had it in the middle of the night and hubby was at work and the baby was screaming and taylor was scared cuz I could barely move she brought me the phone and I called hubby to take me to hospy, I had 6 attacks like that til I got my gallbladder removed thank god I dont have those anymore lol. Sorry to ramble on lol I get that way sometimes.

well I have a slight headache I'm gonna go soak in the tub and see if I can relieve it.
Take Care Guys!!

05-02-2004, 09:12 PM
well, this is a quick post. After I eat something, gotta gives the kids a bath and get ready to watch Alias and The Practice. This may be my last check in tonight because of my tv shows.

Just wanted y'all to know, I'm doing better. Not sure why, it was no one thing. Just as the day went on I got better. We got out of the house today and enjoyed company and I didn't have to cook and it's just been a lazy Sunday, those are the best. I totally haven't done well on plan this weekend, but this is one time that I don't care and it hasn't gotten to me. Just didn't have a great weekend. I will be back tomorrow as good as new and on plan. My goal for the week is to exercise EVERY day, not sure what or how much but at least 20 minutes of some intense exercise.

Sorry I'm not getting personal, but this is an on the go post. Thank you to ALL of you for being my friends and helping get through this difficult time and these darn mood swings. As much as it sometimes sucks being a woman, I don't think you could pay me to be a man. We'll just leave it at that. Thank you so much. Hope you all have a great evening.


05-02-2004, 09:13 PM
Spryng - On LA, I can have list of certain foods. The breakdown is 2 P, 3 V, 3 F, 2 S, 1 F, 4oz Milk, 2 La lites. The La Lites are shakes, bars, snacks, etc. Since I am nursing, I can only take the bars. You would think they would not sell the other things. If it is not safe for your baby to ingest, why should we put it in our bodies. I hope you are feeling better. Try hot tea and a heating pad.

Working tomorrow, so I hope to get on tomorrow night. Have a good Monday! It has to be better than last week for me.

05-02-2004, 10:52 PM
Hi all...thanks for the kind words. I'm better but very, very tired. My Uncle is not doing well...waiting for the phone call...I hope it happens quickly :(. Cried so hard when my Aunt told us my Grandma, who will be 94 in Nov, said "he can't go before I do" about my uncle. It'll be her 3rd son to die. I'm so sad for her.

OK, gotta go. I'll talk to you all tomorrow. I love you guys!

05-02-2004, 10:53 PM
Hi Ladies! Well tomorrow is a new day and a new week! :)
Hope everyone has a great week on plan!

We can do this! Hope we are all a bunch of "losers" this week :) :lol:

05-02-2004, 10:55 PM
Oh Geri.......

I am so sorry for you! I know things must be hard for your family right now! I will keep them in my prayers!
Your Friend,

05-02-2004, 11:04 PM
I went shopping with a friend and we had dinner out at an italian restuarant. It's really hard to make a wise choice there, I had Chicken Parm, ate all of the chicken and left alot of the pasta and had a salad. I probably overdid it a bit, but I didn't have alot of anything else today, so maybe it will even out. I had a nice time away from the kids and that was worth it to me.

Glad to see that spirits are lifting!!!

I am going to do more crunches and lunges...I did 100 crunches this am, but only about 15 lunges, I did that many two days ago and felt it good(still do)!! So maybe 5 more walking lunges to add to that number. I am just doing a variety of toning exercises daily as I watch TV and am still trying to find a daily spot for the exercise, as I just can't get up any earlier at this point. But the stronger muscles should increase my endurance to do the cardio when I can fit it in!

Hope the rest of the evening is p;easant for all! Gotta go get Justin from work now!

05-03-2004, 12:03 AM
Good evening all!
I'm usually so glad sunday is about over... weekends really bore me to death when DH isn't here. But this weekend hasn't been too bad at all. Despite my bad morning I am in a great mood. :)
Cindi, my DH loves chicken parm.! It sounds like you had a nice time. Italian is my favorite cuisine so I never make good choices there. I love Olive Garden and I usually order the ravioli de portibello, yum! I do have the salad but the dressing on it is really high in fat (did you know they use raw eggs in that dressing?) and of course I go crazy with the breadsticks. Thankfully we don't go there very often. When I was pregnant with Tanner we went there every time I had a doctor appoint so towards the end it was once or twice a week! :devil: No wonder I was so HUGE! LOL. But it's always so good.
Penny how has the past couple of days been going for you on SB? I'm looking forward to this new week too!
Geri, my heart goes out to you and your grandma. How difficult that must be for everyone. Get some rest and if you ever need to talk I'm here 24/7, just call ok?
Melinda, that is strange they won't let you have the shakes because you are nursing. What is in them that could be harmful?? I am feeling a little better tonight. Still am aching when I move around and feel alot of pressure in my abdomen (it feels swollen) but much much better than this morning. Hopefully though I am my old self tomorrow. We start on a new zone and I want plenty of enerfy for it! lol.
Crystal, so glad you are feeling better tonight. Maybe just getting out of the house cheered you up.
Michelle, that is funny about the broccoli. My ds (3 yo) will fight you for broccoli. He loves it. But he loves most veggies and fruit, thankfully. And my dd is a meat eater. So they balance themselves out.
Julie, what is sheppards pie??? Sounds interesting. Is it like a pot pie?

Well, guess I need to call it a night. TTYL!

05-03-2004, 12:18 AM
My mom bought me a one million and one recipes cd and I have every recipe known to well woman that is! lol

There are many variations of this recipe but here is one of them

My hubby loves it!

1 lb. ground beef
1 can cream corn
Mashed potatoes
Cheese slices (any kind)

Brown ground beef. Put in bottom of a casserole dish. Put cream corn, then mashed potatoes, then cheese. Bake at 350 degrees for 30 minutes.

05-03-2004, 12:33 AM
Spryng I make it all different ways. Whatever I have on hand. Brown ground beef, add salt and pepper to taste, brown gravy mix, or brown gravy in the can, frozen mixed veggies or fresh, (whatever you like) mix all together and top with hot whipped mashed potatoes, and you can put shredded cheese on top. Bake at 375 for 30-45 min until hot and bubbly. It is so good. Probally healthier than pot pie because it doesn't have the crust? Glad you are feeling better. Julie

05-03-2004, 12:52 AM
I just wanted to say I am glad to see you posting regularly!
:) :) :) :)

05-03-2004, 01:04 AM
Hi girls!!

It was a pretty wonderful day here. Got a lot done and me and hubby watched a movie together and actually had a good conversation which you all know how rarely that happens with kids crying and screaming and begging for attention. So it was nice.
I got 116 oz of water in today so thats pretty good. I've been working on drinking more water. We got Taylors room cleaned tonight which was just a disaster area so I'm glad to have that done. Floors are scrubbed and kitchen clean and Laundry is done and put away!! I wont have anything to do tomorrow lol.

Ok here is my recipe for Shepards pie and mind you mine doesnt have veggies in it cuz my hubby is a meat and potatoes guy strictly.

2lbs ground beef
2 packets lipton beefy mushroom soup
1/2 cup water
Mashed potatoes

brown the beef add the 2 packets of beefy mushroom along with the 1/2 cup of water cover and let simmer for about 10 min. In the meantime prepare your tatoes and set aside. Put your beef in the bottom of casserole dish and then spread the potatoes evenly. put in the oven heated to 375 for about 30 minutes .
Ok just had to put my recipe in lol I really like it with the beefy mushroom stuff.

Anyway I'm really glad to see that everyones weekend got better!!


05-03-2004, 08:21 AM
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Good morning all. It's 615 but I am still so sleepy. Maybe I'll get a chance to nap today.

Spryng, glad you enjoyed your weekend. And I've got several recipes for shepards' pie. I've never made it or eaten it. It just doesn't appeal to me for some reason.

Michelle, wow on the water in take. I've been doing well except for this weekend. My almost 3 yo. loves broccoli too. She would eat it for like the entire meal. She does NOT eat chicken at all. I've tried tricking her and she knows and spits it out. Will not eat it at all, I can't figure it out.

Geri, so sorry to hear about your family's tragedy. I really hope it comes to an end soon for y'all. I will keep you all in my prayers.

To all of you others, HI!!!

As you can see, I'm in a better mood. I'm glad it's Monday, back on plan and ready to get my routines started. Does anyone know what our zone is this week, I haven't even checked? I've got a slight problem, I stepped on a belt buckle last night and I mean on the little stick piece that goes into the holes. YEAH!!! It didn't go into my foot, it went into my skin and out my skin. It is SO sore, I have to tiptoe around. I may have to wear shoes today in order to get all my chores done as painlessly as possible. Thank you again girls for helping me through this weekend. I hope everyone has a great day.


05-03-2004, 09:34 AM
Hi Ladies!

You sound so much better :) I am glad you are doing better! Ouch ! On the belt buckle! I dont think there is anything you can do about it. It is kind of like breaking your toe :(

This is going to be a great week for losses!

This week on flylady:
The Front Porch, the Entrance area and the Dining Room

But only focus on one! I am doing my porches this week. Since Andrew's bday party is next month and it is outside, I need to get the porches extra clean :)

Have a great ON PLAN DAY :) EVERYONE!
Penny :)

05-03-2004, 11:06 AM
:balloons: HAPPY 3RD BIRTHDAY WILL!! :balloons:

Today will be a great day no matter what's my big boy's birthday!!
He got his first present this morning...a new Schwin bike. It took him about 15 minutes to go even close to it (he's kind of strange around anything new) but now he can't wait to go out and ride it. Unfortunately it's not even 40 degrees yet so he'll have to wait!! later we're making cupcakes and he'll get to decorate and then his grandma's are coming over for dinner. The big party isn't until the 15th because Tony's bday is the 19th so we're having a combined party.

I have to make this quick! Crystal, so glad you're feeling better too.

Thanks all of you for your kind words. It really helps. Gotta get going here. I'll talk to you all later.

05-03-2004, 11:18 AM
Good Morning ladies!!

Crystal and Geri - I'm soo happy to see that the both of you are feeling better today!! I'm sending out big hugs to you!!

Well since I don't really have porches and a small entry way and a small dining room I think I'm gonna work on the coat closet and the utility closet for this week. My utility closet is packed!! And my coat closet is almost full too I tell you I have so many shoes that I can't even wear since I got fat lol It will be nice to have cute shoes again lol, But for now I'll stick with my comfy nikes!

Ok haven't really thought about breakfast but I'm gonna have 1/2 cup cottage cheese and a couple cups of coffee with fat free non dairy creamer and sugar free davinci syrup. yummyy!!! I'm trying to get my body used to eating smaller portions but on the south beach diet its crazy I can eat soo much food and still come in under 1200 calories a day!! Oh yeah I'm adding a cup of tomato juice to my breakfast.

Anyway my lil cherub is crying to be picked up, I'm gonna go give her some lovin!

See you guys later and Hugs to all!!

05-03-2004, 11:19 AM
Good morning all.
Boy I feel terrible this morning. Like someone kicked me in the stomach. I'm debating going to the ER. I mean it only hurts when I move around so maybe I'm just sore from yesterday or could it be something else?? I'm going to see how the next few hours go. I took some extra strength tylenol and it doesn't seem to be helping. It hurts so bad when I move around but if I am sitting I feel great. Walking requires me to hobble bent over like an old woman, lol. Ugh. I just want to feel good so I can clean my front porch!!! lol.

Geri, leave it to our kids to show us the good in the world. Even when such sadness is around us we look at our kids growing up and we smile despite it all :) Sounds like you have a wonderful day ahead!!! :
Crystal, so glad you are much happier today and so sorry about that belt buckle. Sounds painful. Hopefully it heals fast.
Michelle do you take a multivitamin? Getting in all that water is great but don't forget that there is such a thing as too much water. You could be washing vital nutrients out of your body so be sure to take a multi-vitamin.
Julie that pie does sound very good. I'll have to check out cookinglight or something so I can figure out the pts for it. I have all the ingrediants though so I'll have to try it sometime this week. :)

Well guess I will go check out my flylady stuff and see what I can get done today without overdoing it. I just feel like crap. My front porch is very small though so it should get done today. It's mostly shoes and jackets that need to be put away. I hope I can manage that. DH will be home this friday and I am so excited!!! We are planning a trip to the zoo on sat or sun. (I hope I am better by then)
Julie was it you that said you used to get ruptured cysts and you were sore for a few days? I hope that's what is going on with me. Last time I got one after the initial rupturing pain I felt normal again with no more aching or anything. So this is really making me worry I guess. Maybe I should read up on it. TTYL!

05-03-2004, 11:47 AM
Good morning everyone. Very sorry to all who had a rough weekend. It rained here all weekend long. I got out my stuff for the yard sale for next weekend, got my kitchen all clean. I got my exercise in this morning, now I need to shower and get ready for recipe club which is coming here. Yesterday I went out to my mom's house to go walking, and it kept raining, so my sister took my mom and I to go see 13 going on 30. It is a great movie, go see it if you get a chance. It has a great sound track too which I need to get. Today is my anniversary. 7 years. Hard to belive. Dh and I will be going out next weekend, I hope. Anyway, I will check back in later and get personal. I hope everyone has a great day.

05-03-2004, 12:00 PM
Happy Anniversary Ricci!!

Spryng, get to a doctor!!!

Hi to everyone else.

05-03-2004, 12:05 PM
Happy anniversary Ricci!!!!! Does it feel like 7 years? I know Dh and I just hit year 6 and sometimes it feels like we've been together forever and sometimes it feels so short. Boy I love that guy, lol.
Geri, I'm not sure yet about the doctor. Several things are holding me back. One is money. I have no insurance on myself. The kids come first of course so we are paying for their coverage but can't afford to get me on it yet. At the time it was a great descision because I never get sick or anything. So going to the ER will cost me a fortune right now. I know, bad excuse. Also... I am just really sore inside my abdomen. I don't think it is anything major. I am keeping a close eye on myself though and trying to take it easy. The more I get up and move around the better it feels so maybe I just need to let it work itself out. But if I'm not better by tomorrow I will call a doctor and go in. That is my plan anyway, lol.
Well, gonna try to put away all those shoes on my front porch. TTYL!

05-03-2004, 12:10 PM
Spryng, so sorry you feel bad. Take care of yourself. If you need to go to the doc, you better. you can't take care of your kids if you're sick.

Ricci, happy anniversary. Way to go for 7 years. I'll be celebrating 9 years in September. Making it past 1 in this world is great.

Geri, so glad you're doing better too. Hope Will has a good 3rd birthday. Ally, my second, will turn 3 on June 9th. Love em at this age.

Hi to everyone else. TTYL

05-03-2004, 01:19 PM
Spryng - I really hope you start feeling better. Definately go to the doctor if you aren't feeling better, it's probaby something that should be checked out "just in case".

Geri - Happy Birthday to your little Will I'm sure it will be a wonderful day. Taylor will turn 3 on August 25 and we are so excited but still haven't decided what to get her hubby wants to get her a dune buggy lol I say no friggen way lol.

Ricci - Happy 7th anniversary to you!! My second anniversary in September 7 I can't wait! I think for our fifth we're gonna take our honeymoon since we really didnt take one when we were married.

Well I havent gotten too much accomplished yet cuz my sister came over and we sat and talked and it seems some of my motivation flew out the window lol. Now today I'm still working on getting taylor potty trained and she's already peed her pants once lol good thing she has tons of clothes and tons of panties lol.

Ok girls I'm gonna go and try to get motivated.
Love to you all!

05-03-2004, 01:38 PM
I see there is MUCH more celebrating going on here today! YAY! Was thinking I'd have to get rough with a couple of you ;) .

Well, I went to the doc today. She was thrilled with my weight loss, but guess what? Their scale is 5 pounds LESS than mine!!! So which one do I go with? My starting weight was from her scale, then I went a week or so with no scale before I bought my digital one. She said I could possibly ditch the meds if I kept doing this well.

I feel horribly bloated and yucky so I am eating very good and drinking alot! Guess that dinner just didn't set well with me! I have had a Krave bar, and two bowls of lettuce and tomatoes. Thinking about dinner, but not sure what to have yet. Will have granola for a snack and maybe something with protein, as the veggies might not fill me up for long.

Spryng, I am worried about you.

Crystal, I am not as worried about you anymore!

Geri, I really admire your strength to attempt to make this such a different kind of day than it could have been!! (((((((((YOU ROCK!))))))))))

Michelle, Potty training is such a chore, but it's great when it's all over. I have one more to go!

Penny, yes it will be a great week for losses! We have a good thing here!

Ricci, Happy anniversary!!!

Julie, good to see you...Post LOTS more!

We miss you, Leigh!!

Did I see Melinda this am? Hope your day is going great!


05-03-2004, 02:01 PM
Still have some computer problems....I have left 2 posts and neither one showed up.

Spryng- GET TO THE DR!!!!!!!!!!
Your family needs you....and they need you healthy. I know that you are familiar with not having a mother, per se- and I know you well enough to know that your three beautiful children need you and want you around for a long, long time.
Go to a can always find a way to pay the bills.....but God only made one you.

Sorry not to get personal......hormonal computer. Hope to get back here later.
See ya!

05-03-2004, 02:17 PM
Finally I've found this thread where I can feel like I belong! I am really psyched now. I am a new mommy (to my three week old son Kyle) and I stay at home....I will work part time evenings for extra income when my hubby gets home from work, starting in a couple of months.

I am here to lose weight and get support. I have a total sweet tooth, and I find it VERY hard to say no to late night sweets. My hubby (who also has a big sweet tooth, but never gains weight) I've asked him to eat his sweets somewhere else, but he doesn't...and offers them to me...then I become weak and foolish...I need some support from him...and I'm not asking him to give up his late night sweets. Any ideas on what I can do differently until I am strong enough to turn my back to temptation??


05-03-2004, 02:25 PM
Sarah, WELCOME!!! I live in Terrell, TX. about 30 minutes East of Dallas. BTW, I love your name. I wanted to name one of my daughters Sara, but we got stuck with all A's: Alisa, Ally and Andrew. I'm a 26 yo, sahm. Alisa is 5, Ally is almost 3 and Andrew is 17 mo. So glad you found us. You will totally feel at home here and become part of a family. Let me tell you that I'm a sugaraholic too. I started by cutting back to sugar free snacks. Believe it or not, there are several that you can't taste the lack of real sugar. Now all I snack on is sugar free stuff or fruit or I get the WW frozen desserts and occasionally have something like ice cream or something good like that. I don't follow any plan but low calorie. It works GREAT for me. I love it this way. I tried Weight Watchers for a couple of weeks but just can't follow it well enough.
I hope you stick around and feel at home. Tell us more about you. What plan are you following or do you want to follow, etc.

05-03-2004, 03:08 PM
Hi again!
Just a quick post before I go down for a nap.
Welcome Sarah!! And congrats on your new little baby!! How exciting :) Are you breastfeeding? I am Spryng, mother of 3. Ava 4, Bubba 3, and Tanner 10 months. I am on weight watchers and hit my goal weight a couple weeks ago. Now I'm working on my personal goal weight. How much weight do you want to lose and what plan are you on or thinking about? I hope to get to know you better!
Ginny so glad you were able to get a post in!!! And I know you are right about the dr, but I just don't see how I can get there right now. It really is easing up. I feel like I've done a million crunches and my abs are sore. But it really is getting better. I know my kids need me and if I ever had anymore pain like yesterday morning I will call an ambulance ASAP. I promise. But it is nice to know so many people care about me. I talked to my SIL this morning about it and she brushed me off. I think she was afraid I was going to ask her to sit with the kids while I went to the doctor so she changed the subject and then quickly got off the phone. That is what DH's family is like for me. The last time I went through this I called MIL at 4 am (she was up getting ready for work) and I was crying and in so much pain and she said she would be right over... well 1 1/2 hours later she shows up and said they were doing pictures that day at work so she had to fix her hair!!!! UGH. Good thing I wasn't dying because I would have been dead. I guess that is why I hesitate to go to the doctor because I know I will get the run-around from anyone I ask to watch the kids for me unless I'm shelling out big bucks for them to watch them which I don't have today. I feel very alone sometimes.
Cindi I would stick with your home scale numbers since you use it most but it's nice to see a 5# difference (in your favor!) at the doctors isn't it?? :)
Michelle I hope the potty training is going well. Both of mine were pretty easy to train and had it down within a week... just one more to go! By the time Tanner is trained I'd been changing diapers for more than 5 years solid!! :( That is huge to me. I won't know what to do with myself! (maybe another baby?? JK!!!!)

Well I am off here for a nap. Oh I did create a low fat Shepherds Pie recipe out of the ideas you all gave me. I can't wait to try it tonight. That is what we will have for dinner. What is everyone else having? TTYL!

05-03-2004, 03:13 PM
Sarah Welcome!! I'm Michelle sahm to 2 yo girl Taylor and 7 month old girl Teagan. I am 26 yo and live in NW Montana. You will love this great group of women I know I do and I would have fallen off the wagon if it weren't for them!! Have you decided on a plan yet? I'm doing South Beach along with taking Meridia (weight loss rx). I was on atkins and lost 12 lbs then on the advice of my doctor switched to south beach and was prescribed Meridia today is day 3 and I feel wonderful!! I peeked at the scale and I've lost 2 lbs since switching to the new diet but my official weigh in is on Sundays. Penny (mompen) is my diet buddy, so if you havent decided on a plan and are interested in SB you can certainly join us! I also do Walk away the pounds tapes as do a couple of the lovely ladies here and I love them!! LOL sorry I just noticed i was rambling on lol I had 2 cups of coffee this morning and it kinda made me jittery. Well hope to get to know you and again welcome.

Spryng- How are you feeling? I thought i would come and check on you I hope that you are feeling better. I wish I lived closer and could come help you out. AND, Ginny is right God only made one of you so take care and I hope you get better :grouphug:

Ginny - Glad that your computer is running but sorry that it is being hormonal. lol How have you been?

Cindi - Yayyyy!! WTG on a great doctors visit!! Are you also taking weight loss meds? If you are I'm curious as to how they make you feel and what ones you take.
I can't wait to go see what the scale says on sunday (my weigh in day) I'm sure it will be great!! Tell me about potty training being a chore, I'm trying to give her a potty party if she actually goes potty in the toilet but she's pee'd herself 3 times this morning, she tells me she has to pee when she doesn't and then ends up peeing her pants when she does have to, maybe she just isn't quite ready to potty train yet. I'm not gonna rush her I'll try again in another week. I just don't want her to feel like I'm pushing cuz that will make her back off I think.

Ok enough coffee fueled rambling for me I'll talk to you all later.


05-03-2004, 03:29 PM
Spyrng I am so sorry you feel alone sometimes. I do too. Even with a mother and father and in-laws. I do not have a close relationship with my husbands sister either. And I really do not know why? You will have to tell me how you will make your shepards pie low fat when you get the time and energy to post the recipe. Take care okay hon. Have a good nap. I wish I could get these two to go down. I could really use one myself :).

Michelle I always wanted to go to Montana. On tv it always looks so rugged and beautiful and natural. Do you like living there? Just to let you know I tried SB last winter and lost 6 pounds in a week! I am more in phase two of my own modified version. At the end of the 1st week induction I could not look at another egg :lol:. Good luck and keep us posted.

Hi to everyone else....Julie

05-03-2004, 03:36 PM
starting a new thread...see you there...!!!

05-03-2004, 03:39 PM
Spryng- Could you possibly have gallstones? The pain you are describing sounds like how I felt after I had a gallbladder attack. Just maybe something you might wanna check into :) I'm concerned for you is all. Now if that pain gets worse you better call that ambulance and get ur butt to the hospy before my fat butt comes down there and drags you to the ER myself lol jk ;) :grouphug:

Julie - I love living here it is so beautiful and peaceful (well mostly) we do live in one of the bigger cities in the state, its not huge by any means but the valley (which consists of several smaller towns) has about 35000 people. The schools are good, the crime rate is relatively low and the cost of living isnt too bad. For instance we just bought a 3 bedroom home with 1900+ sf livable space on a corner lot fenced backyard for 110,000. thats just to give you an idea of the economy around here lol. I find that I am loving South Beach diet I feel like I'm eating sooo much food but on the first day I came in at 927 calories for the day and yesterday was 1093 calories and I feel stuffed and totally satisfied but it could also be my medication doing its job. lol
Ok I need to go straighten up my kitchen I will talk to you guys later!!

Hope everyone else is doing well!!

05-03-2004, 10:55 PM
Hi Crystal, Spryng, and Michelle! You ladies are VERY sweet! Well, here is a some info on little ole me....(Well, big ole me, lol :dizzy: )

I am 23 sahm, I've been married for almost three years to my hubby Steve and I have my three week old little light of my life, Kyle Steven. My hubby and I are from the Seattle area, but have lived all over the NW. We moved down here to the Dallas area in December because Steve lost his job and wasn't able to find work in his field in the Seattle area. I wasn't able to work because I was on bedrest from the pregnancy. My family moved here to TX five years ago, and my parents offered to move us down here because the cost of living is MUCH cheaper and the economy is better than up in Seattle or anywhere in the NW.

Needless to say throughout my pregnancy I have been incredibly lonely :( ...and THANK GOD I didn't put on more weight than I was supposed to, since I was overweight (technically obese) to begin with. I am scared to death I am going end up like my parents and aunts (morbidly obese, depressed and on MANY medications) I have been up and down on the scales my entire life, dealt with bulimia throughout HS and college and I want to end this war with myself and my weight FOREVER. Kyle and Steve (and me) deserve the very best of myself. I don't want to put Kyle through what I went through as a kid...having parents too tired to do anything or go anywhere. I am not following weight loss program, except journaling what I eat, exercise, and feel. I am trying (and succeeding) in not having seconds at dinnertime and eliminating fast food. My stats are : 5'6'' Old weight: 238 Current: 221 Goal:145

Spryng, I love NW Montana! I have relatives in Kalispell and Lakeside. It is so beautiful there!!

Crystal, have you lived in TX all your life? DO you like it here? I love the southern hospitality, people are SO much nicer here than up in WA.

And Michelle (I think you asked this..) I breast and bottlefeed.

Take Care! And thank you for the VERY warm welcome!!

05-04-2004, 12:39 AM
Hi Sarah! after the thread gets to 3 pages someone starts a new one the next number up, we are all at SAHM's #161 now... here is the link see you there!