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gma22
09-30-2003, 08:11 AM
TIME FOR SERIOUS FUN #30

We are a thread dedicated to making losing weight a pleasant experience. We laugh, cry and talk together. We have challenges, points for staying on program, drinking our water, and exercising. We have a daily topic to join in. Our only focus is to help us realize that dieting and all that goes with it need not be unpleasant, but can be fun. Come join the fun here at Time for Serious Fun! Everyone is Welcome!

TOPICS:

Monday: Mission Monday New mission each week
Tuesday: Target Tuesday We target something to work on
Wednesday: Wednesday's Woes Our day to complain about anything and everything
Thursday: Time for Us Thursday The day set aside to pamper us!
Friday: Fabulous lbs Down Friday We get to crow about loss or ask for help
Saturday: Sunny Thoughts Saturday We share stories and jokes to help us smile
Sunday: Silly Poll Sunday A new poll to give your thoughts to every week


POINTS VALUES:

STAYING ON PROGRAM IS 2 POINTS
DRINKING YOUR WATER IS 1 POINT
EXERCISING IS 1 POINT

CURRENT CHALLENGE IS UNTIL DECEMBER 31ST. TO LOSE 30 LBS BY THEN.

POSTING A WTG: A WTG IS WHEN SOMETHING NON WEIGHT LOSS HAPPENS TO YOU LIKE A NEW DRESS IN A SMALLER SIZE. TO POST A WTG, USE ALL CAPS AND POST IT IN PINK. FOR EXAMPLE: WTG: I rode my bike 2 miles instead of one today.


gma22
09-30-2003, 08:25 AM
TUESDAY: Today is Target Tuesday. Let's target the hunger side of weight loss. We have talked about it before, but each time you are hungry, don't just give in to it right away. Give yourself some time (at least 15-20 minutes) to see if it is real hunger or just a response to something like stress, boredom, etc. Work on this aspect of your weight loss this week. You will be surprised just how many times you DON'T eat when you wait it out.

Morning ladies. I can't post much as I have so much to try and get done to get the house back to normal. Here is a pic of the four of us at Harry Caray's on Sunday. I have to say I looked pretty good that night and it was fun being taller! :lol:

Check in later.

Faye;)

Mirabelly
09-30-2003, 08:58 AM
Yeaaaaaa........WELCOME BACK FAYE!!!! We missed you around here, but I'm sooo glad you had such a fabulous time.....YOU DESERVED IT!!!

I'm curious, since you haven't updated your stats lately, did you make your birthday goal? If not, you must be darned close! Anyway, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU:hb: :joker: :grouphug:

So here goes my last points posting--
I got 4 for yesterday, FINALLY... :bravo: for me.
Lisa gets a :bravo:
Dorothy gets a :bravo: and a :balloons: for the day before (I think....my brain is kinda fuzzy)
Amanda gets a :balloons:

CONGRATS GIRLS.....I can't believe how incredibly important those little smilies are for making you get all your points! Faye, thank you so much for doing this little thing for us every day!!!

My body aches all over, and I feel like I did something funky to my hip......last night's class was difficult to teach. One of my students suggested it might be a vitamin/mineral deficiency since I haven't taken my vitamins in about a week. I think she may be right. THere's no other explanation that I can think of!

Well, The kids are yelling at me to get in the car........so, I'll check back later,

Julie


Sandybrat
09-30-2003, 09:20 AM
WELCOME BACK FAYE!! I am sooooo glad u had such a wonderful time... u do deserve it!! I got all 4 yesterday!! You guys look great !!! My brother did a fabulous Harry Carry...lol he was known for it! LOL I am also glad the cubbies gfave u such a nice gift for your bday!! LOL Did u have that planned??
Hope all is well with allof u! I am feeling better... not quite normal yet but better... and well enuf to exersice!! yeah!
Take care of U and i love u all...

Sandy:dance: :flow1:

Mirabelly
09-30-2003, 09:46 AM
Morning again,
Ok, I got on the scale this morning......didn't weigh in on Friday cuz of TOM, but couldn't wait until next Fri......

I've lost another 4 pounds this week!!! I broke the 230 mark and am now somewhere around 228/229 (it's hard to read our scale). Now, while I'm thrilled at the loss, I'm also a bit confused. I really am only trying to lose 2 pounds per week. Am I setting myself up for a massive stall later on? Am I losing too fast? Or should I just not look a gift horse in the mouth?? :lol: I guess there's just no pleasing some people, huh?

Glad you're feeling better SandyB.

I've discovered the joys of spaghetti squash!!!

Later,
Julie

Sandybrat
09-30-2003, 10:08 AM
CONGRATS JULIE!!! woooooohooooooo!! u deserve a WTG! for that!! Hey would u care to share the joys of spaghetti squash?? i love squash but have never tried that one. My vegetarian friend used to cook it and serve spaghetti sauce over it and tell her kids that was spaghetti... they loved it! LOL I am interested in trying new foods... I am sooo proud of u for losing... me personally?? i would just be happy its gone... not worry about it being too much... it will even out over time.. it always seems to...lol
Have a great day...
Sandy:dance: :flow1:

Amanda Panda
09-30-2003, 10:32 AM
Welcome back Faye! We missed you - although Julie did a fantastic job filling in for you.

Happy Birthday Faye - 50 years young!! :hb:

Glad you had a great trip!

I got 4 points yesterday - I'm trying to get to the gym every other day so I'll get in 4 sessions this week.

Congratulations Julie on your 4lb loss! - I wouldn't worry about it - make the most of it! Perhaps you were due a big loss after some slow weeks? or maybe it was just after your period and you've lost alot of water retention?. Anyway - well done!

Take care girls!

Love Amanda xx

pjkdreamer
09-30-2003, 10:57 AM
Good Morning All,

Faye! Welcome Home!!! We missed you. Happy Belated Birthday!:hb: Sounds like you had a marvelous trip. Have only passed through Chicago, would love to go and stay a while....
Great picture! You are looking goooooddddddddd girl!

Pts for yesterday: all 4! yippppppppppppppeeee! 2 pts for program 1 for water and 1 for exercise, took a 20 min walk around the neighborhood, the weather was delightful! and I did the 2 mile WATP video, feeling :strong:

Can't stick around, have an appt with my Dr. just follow up, and have to get my prescriptions for the next 3 mos. Get to weigh in too....YAHOOOOOOOOOOOO :lol: DON'T FEEL LIKE I HAVE LOST MUCH SINCE THE LAST TIME, BUT WHATEVER IT IS, I WILL TAKE IT!! EVEN IF IT IS JUST ONE OUNCE!

Check in with you all a little later:wave:

happy dance dot
09-30-2003, 11:16 AM
Julie-WTG!!:high: Hope ur hip feels better.

Faye- you look great in the picture...thanks for sharing.

gma22
09-30-2003, 12:32 PM
OUR HAPPY LITTLE GROUP IS CHUGGING RIGHT ALONG: OUR 4 POINTERS SO FAR TODAY ARE:

PAM :bravo:
AMANDA :bravo:
SANDYB :bravo:
JULIE :bravo:

Someone ask me about my birthday challenge and no I missed it, but that is ok. I am going to really start kicking butt!

Julie: Don't freak about rapid weight loss if you are staying on your program. Sometimes it does come off fast.

Thank you to everyone for the beautiful birthday wishes. It was one of the best birthdays I have ever had. Chicago is a truly magnificent and beautiful city. If you ever get a chance you should visit.

Well girlies, I am hearing the laundry continually calling.
Later!

Faye:)

pjkdreamer
09-30-2003, 03:06 PM
Hello Girlies,

I am down another 1.6 lbs, that brings my total to 40 lbs gone forever-yippppppppppppppppppeee :D :D :lol: :lol:

Check back in with you lovelies later, time to get moving.

Toodles;)

happy dance dot
09-30-2003, 03:14 PM
WTG Pam:cp:

gma22
09-30-2003, 05:10 PM
WE PAUSE FOR A MOMENT OF SILENCE AT THE DEMISE OF 40 LBS, GONE FOREVER..... OK, THAT'S ENOUGH. WOO HOO PAM YEAH FOR YOU!!!!!!! :cb: :jig: :hat:


Faye:)

friendsforfitness
09-30-2003, 06:51 PM
That's awsome Pam!!

Ok I stayed O/P today, exercised and drank all my water. Everyone is doing so good I'm really glad to be a part of this thread.

Lisa

Sandybrat
09-30-2003, 07:33 PM
AWESOME PAM!! U ROCK! AWESOME PAM!! U ROCK!

I think that says it all... lol!! U go girl!!


Sandy:flow1: :dance:

gma22
09-30-2003, 07:48 PM
Lisa:YOU GET A: :bravo: for points! Terrific job and we are thrilled you are here with us!

The Cubbies play at 7 tonight so now that I have all the laundry caught back up, dishes cleaned up and hopefully everything settled for the night, I will be able to watch them kick those Braves butts!

I talked to dd today because we are going out together with Thomas on Thur for my birthday to lunch. We talked about her brother getting married and she asked me if Jay had said anything about T being in the wedding. I could hear the little stinker in the background saying, "I talked to Unca Jay and he said I am going to be IN the wedding and you aren't!" So I guess Thomas must be going to be the ring bearer and what a circus that will be. Kelly says she thinks that Thomas thinks HE is marrying Alicia! She says she can just see him refusing to give them the rings. I am sure he will be absolutely adorable as she never dresses him up.

Well, I need to go. I will talk to you ladies in the morning.

Faye:)

happy dance dot
10-01-2003, 12:40 AM
just checking in to say I got my 4pts for today. yay me :lol:

take care girls

gma22
10-01-2003, 07:37 AM
WEDNESDAY: Today is Wednesday's Woes. Got a problem or a gripe? Today is the day to complain!

Dorothy: YOU GET A: :bravo: for Monday.

Check in later ladies.

Faye:)

friendsforfitness
10-01-2003, 08:40 AM
Thanks Faye, Your grandson sounds adorable. Do you have a pic?

I finally got a pedometer. Does anyone else have one of these that they use on a regular basis? I have a couple of questions.

I hope everyone has a stupendous day!

Lisa

Sandybrat
10-01-2003, 08:50 AM
Good Morning Lovelies!! All 4 yesterday!! No gripes.. not yet at least... hahahaha I dont have a pedometer but am thinking about getting one... let me know what u think of it Lisa. I am going to journal so i will check back in a while... Take care of U

Sandy:flow1: :dance:

Mirabelly
10-01-2003, 10:13 AM
Good Morning lovelies!

Well, let's see........I got 4 points yesterday! I don't know where I found the grace to get my butt off the couch and exercise, but I did...and I felt better afterwards.

I think I found the cause of my hip problem....poor posture at the sewing machine. I've been sitting at the machine about 4 hours a day lately, and I've noticed that my posture has gotten really bad, and that was when my hip started hurting. SO, I did some yoga therapy for my lower back and hips and hopefully it will feel better soon.

Gripes........only that the garage has had my van since MONDAY and they still haven't figured out how to make it pass inspection! They won't pass it because the wiper fluid doesn't work...(it hasn't worked in 2 years) They can't figure out why, something electrical probably......I'm getting very nervous that they are spending so much time in diagnosis that the bill will be astronomical! In the meantime, I'm driving a truly dangerous car that stops running whenever I slow down or stop (probably a clogged fuel filter), but IT"S legal ....... STUPID POLITICIANS!!!!! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I haven't been able to run errands or get to the grocery store all week because I'm afraid the car will just totally die and then I'll be stuck :bomb: :bomb:

Oh well, now I feel a little better. If they don't find the problem this morning, I'm just going to tell them I want my van back and I'll take it to yet ANOTHER garage that hopefully won't bother to check the wiper fluid.

I'm wearing my hot red jeans today......with black heels! DH actually growled at me this morning1 YOu know, the GOOD growl :lol:

PAM--WAY TO GO--- I can't wait to say I"ve lost 40 pounds!!

Later babes,
Julie

gma22
10-01-2003, 10:24 AM
OUR FOUR POINTERS THIS MORNING SO FAR:

JULIE :bravo:
SANDYB :bravo:

Julie: I notice that too. Sometimes I would sit with my leg not straight out in front of me or something and go to get up and OUCH! Woohoo bet you look great in your jeans!

SandyB: You are doing stupendous with everything. Keep it up!

Lisa: My grandson is a total hoot. He is 3, going on 30 and extremely stubborn and independent. He is a beautiful child and I absolutely adore him. Here is a pic of he and I at his 3rd birthday party in June.

Faye:)

mugirl213
10-01-2003, 12:02 PM
Hey guys...sorry I've been MIA. I'm just a bit of a wreck right now. I've dropped a few lbs. but I don't even know how many, how's that for craziness. I'm driving myself a little mad right now because I've met someone new that I really like and I always stress myself out over these things. Like we are talking REALLY stressed. I need to work on calming myself down and relaxing. It's just SO hard for me. I'm feeling really depressed right now and I don't know how to pull myself out of it. PLUS on top of it all, I'm sick. BLAH

gma22
10-01-2003, 12:26 PM
Missy: Honey, you just need to calm down. Find some time by yourself, just sit in a chair and close your eyes. Don't think about relationships, your job or anything else. Just inhale deeply and exhale through your mouth. Concentrate only on your breathing and nothing else. Do this for about 5 minutes or until you feel calmer. I know meeting new men is always stressful, but it can be interesting too and if the gentleman that you were originally seeing and you are just dating friends now instead of romantically involved than go for it. You are young kiddo, enjoy it while it lasts. DON'T EAT TO SOLVE IT THOUGH!

Faye:)

mugirl213
10-01-2003, 12:36 PM
Fay that is good....just deep breathing and stuff. I will do that. I take on stress SO easily it's not even funny. I'm like a stress sponge. But this new guy, I've hung out with 2 times and I am so into him it's not even funny. I really think he likes me too, but things are just weird b/c we kinda hooked up a little over the weekend and he had a really bad allergy attack on Monday so he's not feeling up to par or himself. Trouble is, my best friend, who fixed us up has kinda been playing middle man with us and I'm not sure what is going on exactly. But as far as the other two I was dating...yah I am free and clear. I just hope I can get a little luck on my side and have things work out.

As far as eating...that will NOT be a problem today. I feel like utter crapola! :(

friendsforfitness
10-01-2003, 01:34 PM
Awwwww he is so gorgeous Faye! Hug him tight for me too! I just love kids.

-Muggirl-Hang in there, I too have depression, sometimes it helps me to do something for someone else, kinda odd, but it seems to help the process move a little quicker sometimes.

We're here for ya,
Lisa

gma22
10-01-2003, 01:46 PM
Ok ladies, I trust your judgement and so here is the other poem I submitted for my prize money. Be honest ok. If you think it is crap please tell me so! My original "fat" poem will be published in a book along with this one in 2004. The second one though has a chance of winning $10,000!

Here goes:


Eternally Constant

You walked into my life, a life so sad
And took away the hurt and all the pain
You wedded me and made my life most glad
And gave me hope your love would never wane

You showed me every day your adoration
Gave of yourself the deepest love possessed
Created for my life a firm foundation
Surrounded me with utmost happiness

Though years have past more gray than not adorns
And what was youth has now become old age
Each day finds romance evermore reborn
And endless love is written on our page

When death comes knocking, taking us away
Forevermore connected will we be
For love like ours can never be held sway
It lives within our hearts eternally.


So that's it girls. I am going to print it out on card stock and frame it for my husband's birthday, which is less than two weeks away.

Faye

Sandybrat
10-01-2003, 02:26 PM
Faye... I think your poem is absoulutely beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes. Its amazing enuf to actually have a love like that but to be able to put into words so beautifully is truely a special gift. Your husband will love it!

Sandy:dance: :flow1:

pjkdreamer
10-01-2003, 02:28 PM
Good Afternoon Chickies,

pts for yesterday: 2pts for program, 1 pt for water, and 1 pt for exercise. (already well on my way to all 4 pts today! just finished my exercise...feeling strong)

Faye, beautiful poem, your husband is a lucky man, as are you!!!

All the rest of you chicks, gotta run, have to leave for work in a bit!

Toodles:wave:

friendsforfitness
10-01-2003, 02:39 PM
Faye, I think you're poem is...ummm..wellll..let's just say... it's really beautiful !! I think you're hubby will adore it.

Now for my whinning,

For those of you who read my bio, If i reapeat myself I'm sorry. My ex & I were HS sweethearts. We were married for almost 13 yrs. One day he woke up and said he was no longer in love with me. Out of the blue. Come to find out he was having an internet affair. Long story short, I filed for divorce. In the papers I had it so that he paid 300.00 child support monthly through the court system. (advice from a friend) He paid maybe six months and then moved close enough to ask me what I thought about the idea of joint custody. He meant brittany lives at his house one week and then my house one week. He's a good father, just a terrible hubby. I said lemme think about it. I agreed for the best interest of Brittany, mind you with this change, there was no more child support. This change took place about 2 or 3 years ago.We would split all expenses, such as back to school,field trips,lunch money ect. I had her on my insurance and he paid co -pays. Then He gets a subpeona to court for back child support debts unpaid in the amount of $12,000.00. He never once paid through the courts so they think he never paid at all, nor did they know about our verbal agreement.
I need an opinion an honest one so here are the facts:
1- when we were married i made more money than he, had better benefits and carried all of our insurance, i also worked over 70 hours a week.
2- one of the many reasons he left me was cuz he felt single cuz i was never around(so he says)
3- he worked 40 hrs a wk max
4- since then i have gotten remarried and left that job for a less paying job with normal hrs.
5- since then he is now working crazy amounts of hrs and working more and making more money than i.
6-he now carries her on his insurance and i have been paying the co-pays which avg. about 50 bucks a month or more.
7-he never takes her anywhere, dr's,school events, anything. if she gets taken it's by me or his new wife who doesn't work.
8- I take her to all of her responsibilities at least 2/3rds more of the time no matter
9-i also am an hourly employee, so when she has appointments and orthodontisits, ect. I lose pay.
With all that to consider ask me if I'm out of line on this, before we went to court, (i had to go to say he doesn't owe me $12,000.00) I went to him and told him that I'd like for him to pay the co pays as well. Since he gets to save face w/ boss for not asking for time off,he makes more than I and he doesn't take her so i use up a lot of gasoline as well. He lost it. We have always gotten along and now we don't speak unless necessary. Today my daughter had to go to dr's, $20.00 co pay, ex rays, will be billed co -pay for those, she left with another appointment on Fri with specialist which will be another co-pay, and 3 prescriptions. I'm looking at close to a hundred dollars in one week. Am I wrong to ask him to pay these??????
I can't believe him, he pisses me off so bad!
Lisa:mad:

PS I did tell the courts he is free and clear of all past due child support and any future child support unless we end up in court to make revisions.

Amanda Panda
10-01-2003, 02:40 PM
Hey there!

FAYE - I LOVED your poem! It is absolutely beautiful, full of love for your husband - brilliant!

I only got 1 point yesterday, for water - I started off really well, then fell asleep in the late afternoon and when I woke up, Nigel had ordered us pizza! I couldn't say no could I?????. Oh well - today is a new day!

PAM - 40lb lost - wow! What an amazing achievement - be very proud!

MISSY - So sorry to hear you are feeling down and ill. Go easy on yourself and try not to worry about this guy you like - just let it happen and see where it goes. Aren't relationships supposed to be fun?;)

DOT / LISA / JULIE - you are doing great girls - keep it up!

Where are you Ritu? Come back soon - we miss you!

Love Amanda xxx

happy dance dot
10-01-2003, 05:00 PM
Hi girls!

Mugirl- hang in there with the dating situation and glad to hear you are not turning to food.;)

Julie-Oh boy that van thing is really drivin you nuts huh...I dont blame you. Hope all turns out ok. Oh and those jeans must look great on you- hey its getting growls from ur hubby.;)

Amanda-its okay and like you said to day is a new day just get back on that horse.:D

Faye- I really like your peom and am sure it'll make a very special gift for your husband. Its great when there is that kind of love between two ppl.:cloud9: :cloud9: :) As far as the poem itself I like the flow of it and the tone of it. Good luck:lucky: Oh and your grandson looks ADORABLE in the pic. Btw love your hair.

Lisa- Hmmm its hard to say, especially since I have no kids, but maybe you should just let the court decide how much he needs to contribute with and in this way avoid any biased calculations among the two of you. It will also avoid Brittany from seeing the two of you fight or argue about her and the financial situation. I do know kids hear and understand a lot more than what we give them credit for. Also in this way you will aviod having to nag him for money or him trying to brush you off with an unfair amount.:?: Hope this helps and if any of you girls think I am crazy or don't have a clue pleeeease jump in and advice Lisa. :dizzy:


Well take care girls.

Lee7861
10-01-2003, 05:10 PM
Hello everyone!

I am back from the land of darkness! The man just reconnnected our phone line. I went through the eye of the hurricaine at 5:30 September the 18th. I'm sure I had you all thinking of me. I was without power for five days and without phone for 13. I missed you all and can't wait to get back into a routine. Faye I'm glad you enjoyed your trip and the storm didn't mess with you. I haven't read all the missing posts and may never as I'm sure everyone has written a lot in the time I was out. Congratulations to everyone who seems to be doing so well. I haven't had any smilies except maybe exercise. I had to cook or throw out everything in my freezer and I had to eat what I could. Thank God for bbq grills! Anyway--glad to be back

friendsforfitness
10-01-2003, 06:11 PM
Happy you made a lot of good points, but I feel like court isn't an option. We haven't used it to this point and my daughter is old enough to hate me if I was to get any kind of child support, because she doesn't understand and her father would just fuel the fire.

Thanks,
Lisa

gma22
10-01-2003, 07:21 PM
Afternoon points are as follows:

Pam: YOU GET A: :bravo:
Amanda: YOU GET A: :flow2:

Lee: We missed you! I thought maybe you might be one of those with no power so I didn't stress out TOO much, but we are sure glad things are back to normal for you and you are back with us!

Lisa: My advice is NEGOTIATE. No matter what, the most important thing is your daughter. I would nicely ask your ex to sit down with you and discuss your daughter's future with regard to her insurance etc. Here is what I would propose: Since you are not following the court order and you are both ok with that it seems, I would 1) make sure the court knows he paid so they let him off the hook 2) both of you forgive any money in the past you feel is owed and start fresh 3) DO NOT argue about this and ignore the "who makes more money" issue, because it could reverse at any time 4) Offer to split everything down the middle, her custody, her insurance, child support everything. In this way, you are sharing equally in her care. If the insurance is say $1000 a year and the copays are $600 you should each contribute $800. Negotiate where she stays though it sounds like the week on week off is ok with you. Each pay one semester of school fees, split any extracurricular activities that cost like band, cheerleading etc and any school trips. If you pay for school pics and they are $50 than he should pay for band or whatever. In this way, you are both equal, neither or you is carrying a heavier load and most important there should be no grudge holding as this is FAIR to both of you. If he doesn't agree, then say, "well then we go to court and since you are making more than I you may end up taking on more of her care than 50%." What is important is NOT who is making more and can handle more, but how this bickering would effect your daughter negatively and your overall pleasant relationship with your ex, which you need to preserve for your daughter's sake.

Thanks for the input on the poem. Poetry is pretty easy for me as well as any kind of writing (the fat poem took 10 minutes and this one about 1/2 hour) This poem is pretty much our life together and stupid me, cried when it was finished and I read it completed because I think about what it would do to me to lose him.

Well, game 2 of the Cubs/Braves is on in 1/2 hour so have to get hopping!

Faye:)

Mirabelly
10-01-2003, 08:45 PM
Hi ladies, The kids are playing video games with their dad and so I get a minute to myself :)

Lisa--A thought occurred to me while reading your post about the whole who pays what for your daughter. It seems to me that it's all too darned complicated and that's why you argue about it. You absolutely CANNOT predict when she's gonna need money for what. So how about you set up a savings account just for her and you each contribute a certain amount each paycheck. That way, you always know the money is there when she needs it and you don't have to argue about "I paid last month's doctor co-pay so you have to do this and that to make up for it." You both contribute exactly even, and it's easy! If you trust each other enough, you could both have an atm card attached to the account to get money for her when you may be strapped yourself. If there's money left over, GREAT! She's got a nice little savings started for college.......if the money runs out, then you both give it a cash infusion equally.

I could be wrong, but it seems like the easier the arrangement the more likely you both are to stick to it.

If he doesn't go for that and it seems like he's trying to welch out on the bills, then DEFINITELY go to court! It is not fair for the woman to have to shoulder all the responsibility!!!! My father paid very very little of his child support and my mother was always stressed out. He would pay a tiny bit, then move to another state so she had to file papers all over again. And he was CONSTANTLY trying to "renegotiate" things. It was a very sucky situation. It doesn't matter if your daughter doesn't understand, someday she will. You have to demand that he pay an equal share.

I sincerely hope that you can deal with this easily and amicably. And may I be spared the hardships you and so many other women face everyday! I am sooooo blessed to have the wonderful family I do.

Well, There's my two cents.........
Julie

gma22
10-01-2003, 10:05 PM
Lisa: YOU GET A: :bravo: for points.

Faye:)

gigglez
10-02-2003, 08:22 AM
Good morning everyone! Been MIA for a while, actually had a weekend off and enjoyed it with my son. First of all I get 4 points for Mon-Wed! I know that it is Thurs but I missed yesterday so I am goin to gripe. Doctors! Went to my ob on Monday. Had a total hyst. in Feb, due to the endo. Everything was going along great until 4 weeks ago. I started having pain once again. The pain was all too fimilar so I was getting concerned. When I was at my doc's office he said that there was a possibally of the enod turning into cancer, but on the other had I had been on HRT so the endo could be growing. During the hyst all traces of endo were remove except for the endo on my bladder. He wasn't trained in exicision. So I had the blood work and was told that this could also show if there was new growth on endo. Well in the meantime I am just scared. I called the office yesterday and was told that it could take a week or so for the results to come back. I wish that the doc at times would keep some of their thoughts to themselves. On the other hand I have always told this doc to be straight with me, so I know it is on me as well. Guess I feel a little better for getting it out. Now I am praying for this to be enod growing. Eventhough it will be hard to find a specialist where I am located it will in the end be more pleasant.

Lisa, I think that the ladies here have offered you some good advice to your problem with your ex and support. All I got to say is that at least you are getting some help. THere are those of us out there who do not get any help at all. When we go to court the judges throw out the cases and the local child support refuses to help cause the ex is in another state. I amhere to tell each and everyone of you that all a man has to do is to move out of state and he is free and clear of support obligations. Have been told by way too many law enforcement officals that there isnt a state out there that will cross state lines on that matter. I guess my point is that hey you got some help, be thankful for it. I know that I may seem like a total ***** on this matter but my pov is comming from someone that has to pay everything themselve 100%. Sorry if I have offened, which I have no intention of doing, just stating the facts of life.

friendsforfitness
10-02-2003, 08:57 AM
Thanks Faye! Back at ya! :D

Giggelz-I empathize with your situation. I also have always appreciated his "help" It is his responsibility. I showed that to him by releasing him of the $12,000.00 back child support. I don't feel that because other men out there are getting away with not taking care of their children at all, that I should allow my situation to become unfair on my behalf or my daughter's behalf for the sake of "it could be worse". You didn't offend and I hope I didn't as well. I really appreciate everyone's point of view and it's very theraputic for me to see things from so many angles, but I don't want to upset anyone either.

Ok let's get back to the good stuff, enough of the griping Lisa! It's done and I have some great ideas to work with. Thanks to all of you! :) I am happier for it too, BTW. I feel like a load has been lifted off my shoulders and I haven't even talked to him yet.

What is Thursday?? Lemme check...Ohh ok it's pamper yourself day, hmmm that's gonna be kinda hard for me today. I work till 6 and then I go babysit for a friend her 3 month old baby Jayce is like a nephew to me. He's so beautiful!! I just love him so much and I'm really glad I get this time to spend with him. I won't get home till after 9, so pampering will have to wait until Saturday, but I do get to videotape Survivor tonight! I don't watch much TV, but that is my one show every season.

Happy Pampering to all!

Lisa

gma22
10-02-2003, 08:59 AM
THURSDAY: Time for us THursday. Take some time for yourself today. It is important!

Sandy: Honey you are in our prayers. I know you have to be just terrified waiting for the results but we are here for you all the way. We will prayer for you and hope that it is nothing serious. In the meantime, you have to work to keep it from controlling your thoughts all day. YOU GET A: :bravo: :bravo: :bravo: for your points.

Check back later.

Faye:)

Mirabelly
10-02-2003, 09:01 AM
Morning Girlies!
Just a quick note before I'm off to do all the errands I couldn't do this week cuz of the van being gone. I called them up yesterday afternoon and said "I'm picking my van up at 9 am....have it ready!" They said "ok." GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR............

Anyway, 4 points for yesterday. This weekend will be tough. My family volunteers at a living history museum, and this weekend we're camping over for all 3 days. Which means we'll be eating 18th centruy food......fried chicken! Hot biscuits with BUTTER! POTATOES! mmmmmmmmm.......... Deep down I know I could eat all this stuff and just not lose any weight this week. But I also know, unfortunately, that I WILL end up getting sick! All this whole grain/low fat/no starches thing has gotten into my blood and when I cheat I get sick everytime! I guess that means it's nearly a way of life, now. Yeah!

So my plan for this weekend.........if I write it to you gals, I'm more likely to actually do it! I will buy a huge bag of fresh off the tree apples, and actually eat them. I will buy a big ole' pumpkin and roast pumpkin seeds tonight (I've been craving pumpkin seeds for the last 2 weeks!). I will make up a batch of sugar free pumpkin/oatmeal/raisin cookie bars for breakfasts. I will also let the kids eat whatever they want! They deserve a break for not complaining (too much) about all these changes :) Oh, and WATER! I must bring a couple of gallons of drinking water!

There, I feel better.......I can cope.

Welcome back LEE--I remember the no power/no phone thing from hurricane FRAN back before we moved to Maine.

Lisa--I hope you can work things out....Gigglez is right! So many people live with no support at all (my sister does! My mom did!). BUT that doesn't mean that you should "just be thankful for what you get" and let him off easy! Don't underrate yourself!

Geez, I said this would be short!!!

Ok, Gotta Go......Stay :strong: everyone!
Julie

Sandybrat
10-02-2003, 09:04 AM
Hello Ladies!! Lisa I hope u and your ex can work this out without losing your relationship.... these women are wonderful and very intelligent so use there advice... Gigglez... its a shame that some men have no problem with shirking their responsibilities... I am thanksful to be blessed with a man who not only is a wonderful daddy and husband but treats me like a total equal... always has... its truly a blessing.
I made all 4 points yesterday... was rather difficult last night... i am trying not to eat after 7pm... but hubby like to eat popcorn after dinner... usually around 9 or 10... It works for him and his weight loss journey... but not for me...lol Hes a lucky man in that he can just put his mind to losing and do it... he just seems to do it so effortlessly... which is rather frustrating at times...lol but he is supportive of me and my journey... i am justa babbling arent i? lol
I did my yoga yesterday... feels good... 3 days down I want to do it 5 times a week... every week day... the weekends will be mine to decide what exercise i do but i do like the morning yoga...
WEll ladies... each and every one of you is a remarkable, beautiful and amazing woman.... Remember to take care of U
I love you all....

Sandy:dance: :flow1:

Amanda Panda
10-02-2003, 12:01 PM
Hi all,

Aaaaah, the PMS monster has got me again and I feel crappy - my life seems to revolve around my menstrual cycle - it feels like I only have about a week of feeling ok before it gets me again! Anyway, Nigel has gone out to buy me CHOCOLATE - I haven't had any since I started this diet about 8 weeks ago.

I got 3 points yesterday - no exercise.

Love Amanda xx

happy dance dot
10-02-2003, 01:43 PM
Hi girls...just checking in quickly to say I got 4 pts for yesterday...almost didn't two, but then I did enough walking to count as moderate exercise. Okay I will check back in later.

gma22
10-02-2003, 02:45 PM
OUR FOUR POINTERS TODAY:

Julie:bravo:
Sandy B:bravo:
Dorothy :bravo:

THREE POINTERS:

Amanda :cp:

Hope you ladies are all having a great day!

Faye:)

gigglez
10-02-2003, 05:39 PM
Afternoon all.

Thanks everyone for the encourgement. Amanda, I can remember those days of wantin chocolate when TOM was around. I guess that is one thing that I am thankful for, no TOM! Julie, I hope that your vechile is fixed and the garage hasn't set your pocketbook on fire. Sandy, yoga sounds as if it might be interestin but have no idea what it is all about. I think that it is great that you have been able to get it in 3 days so far. I agree with the weekend being yours to decide what to do for exercise. Just wanted to check in before I ran my son to one of his friends house for a bit.

Here's to a blessed day

sandy

pjkdreamer
10-03-2003, 12:14 AM
Good Evening Chicks,

Too pooped to post, but I did read and catch up with all of your happenings, been a lonnnnnnnnnng day, but will post tomorrow, I do not go into work till 3p-so should be able to post a few times. Sorry for my absence today.

Take care of yourselves. ;)

friendsforfitness
10-03-2003, 08:49 AM
Morning all,
Sorry I dind't get to stop in last night. Long day. I have good news and bad news, which do you want first??

:)Good news- I drank my water, I exercised, I stayed O/P.

:(Bad News- I gained 0.8 of a pound. I don't get it. I've done very well this week. Maybe it's already time to evalutae my calorie intake? I'm on 1900 calories, but stay around 1750-1800. Ah well, I hope everyone else does well in their weight loss this week.

Lisa

gigglez
10-03-2003, 08:56 AM
Morning all!

Lisa, have you thought that you could have gained muscle instead! I know sometime you have to eat a little more to loose. I learned that the hard way. I was once told that your meterbolism(sp) is like a fire and you have to keep on adding fuel to it to get it to burn hotter. By no means I am saying to overeat but like you said maybe reelevated your cal. intake. I used to go up each time a week before TOM, and I hated it.

Got in all 4 points yesterday! So far today I have already gotten in the exercise and the water is comming along wonderfully. I think that I can, dare I say it 5 days in a row! Shock!

Here's to a Blessed Day

sandy

gma22
10-03-2003, 09:44 AM
FRIDAY: Fabulous Lbs Down Friday!

Our 4 pointers so far this morning are:


LISA :bravo:
SANDY :bravo:

Lisa: Do NOT sweat weight gains of any kind. Your body will go back and forth and you ARE going to build muscle. You are doing great so don't worry about it!

I got in a good walk yesterday but have been so tired lately that kind of felt blah all afternoon. I hope to be a little more rested today so I am up and at em!

Later

Faye:)

Amanda Panda
10-03-2003, 10:54 AM
Just popping in quick - still feeling blaah - got 2 points yesterday, went off programme with the chocolate!

See you later alligators!

Amanda xx

pjkdreamer
10-03-2003, 11:50 AM
Morning Chicklets,

pts for yesterday: 2 program pts, 1 pt for water and 1 pt for exercise.

no losses to report, will not weigh in again until around the 15th, but you know I will let you girls know!!!!!! Hope to have a few more shed!!:lol: :lol: :lol:

Hope all of you have a glorious day......by the way, still waiting to hear about the job, maybe today??

later girlies, stay strong;)

Sandybrat
10-03-2003, 11:55 AM
Morning ladies!! Got all 4 in yesterday... but the headache and sinus pressure came back last night... yuck... feel major crappy today... dont think i will have to worry bout overeating tho...lol feel to yucky! I just took some sinus meds... and will take my allergy pill here soon... making coffee to help me breathe again. did NOT eat after 7 last night again!!! Yeah for me!! Mybe is will make some soup today... its that kind of day! DS was supposed to have a picnic for school today... but its raining... so no picnic. So DH and i told him we would take him to McDonalds so he could eat and play. Hope you all have a fabulous day. I will cjheck in later...hopefully i can get trid of this pressure... Take care of U!

Sandy:dance: :flow1:

happy dance dot
10-03-2003, 01:27 PM
Hi girls.

I got 4 pts yesterday, but barely didn't make it...ate almost a bit too much. Hehehe I guess it was one of those days.

Julie- how's the car thing going?

SandyB-hope you feel better.

Pam-good luck with the weigh in and the interview results.

Amanda- Hope you feel better too.


I been pretty tied up with work lately, which is good because it insures me a job:lol: , but it gives me little time to come here and see you girls. Hmmm hopefully I'll get more time next week.

Take care girls TGIF!:dancer:

mugirl213
10-03-2003, 02:02 PM
Hi everyone...just wanted to send out some good vibes to you all. I have alot of love for my girls here old and new. I'm sorry to be a delinquent poster here of late...I just have ALOT of stuff going on in my life right now that is causing me ALL sorts of stress. (And I'm a little bummed right now that my new guy hasn't asked me out for our third date yet! But hopefully that is attributed to him being sick.) Anyway it's been a very trying week for me, but I am bound and determined to have a great day today. I feel beautiful AND sexy and all that other good stuff. I've been repeating in my head today and I'm starting to believe it all. But we are ALLLL beautiful and sexy! I'm just praying that from here on out life starts handing me something other than lemons, because my mouth is all puckered from the lemonade I've been drinking all week!!!

gma22
10-03-2003, 04:17 PM
We ARE all beautiful now and when we are at goal. Never forget that you are a beautiful person and that weight loss DOES NOT change that. It does not make you more beautiful and does not take it away. Think of weight loss and exercise as a huge vitamin pill, that when taken will build you up, make you feel stronger, more energetic and take away health issues NOT that it improves your looks. You all are so beautiful right now!

LOTS MORE POINTS THIS AFTERNOON:

Amanda :grouphug:
Pam:bravo:
SandyB :bravo:
Dorothy :bravo:

I wish you could see what I did with my husband's poem. Maybe when I have it completely framed I can take a pic. I put it on this beautiful cream colored cardstock and did the lettering in a bold almost navy blue. I also did the lettering in a font called Amae and it looks like what you might find in a romantic greeting card. His birthday is a week from today and I can't wait to give it to him. I am going to start shopping for frames and hopefully I can find just the right one.

I need to go. I have been droopy all day and have gotten not one thing accomplished!

Faye:)

gigglez
10-03-2003, 11:39 PM
Evening ladies!

Faye I am sure that you will find the perfect frame!

I made it 5 days in a row! 4 pts for me! Now to concer the weekend

sandy

gma22
10-04-2003, 10:53 AM
Sandy: YOU& GET A: :bravo: for points

gma22
10-04-2003, 10:54 AM
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