Weight Loss Support - 300+ and Ready to Try Again # 403




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BarbPA
09-06-2003, 02:58 PM
God Bless America!

We want to invite everyone to join us in our journey.
We share laughter and tears.
We share what works for us and what doesn't.
We recently started a Topic of the Day.

Monday........Motivation Monday
Tuesday.......Tuesday Tips
Wednesday.....Wednesday Weigh ins
Thursday......Thankful Thursday
Friday........Friday Facials, Fingernails and Fun
Saturday.......Sit-up Saturdays - any physical activity
Sunday.........Soup and Salad Sunday - recipes

These are not required topics ...just ideas to share. We have found them very helpful. We also share heartaches and fears...joys and celebrations.

We chat at 8:30 PM EST, 7:30 PM CST on Wednesday and Saturday.

Please feel free to jump right in with us.
And be sure to check if there is a second page. We don't want anyone to miss any posts.
We want to invite everyone to join us in our journey.
We share laughter and tears.
We share what works for us and what doesn't.
We recently started a Topic of the Day.

WELCOME!!!

:cb: :sunny: :cb: :sunny:


BarbPA
09-06-2003, 03:02 PM
Hey Gang!
I hope everyone is having a wonderful day! It is absolutely beautiful :sunny: in this part of the country.

Our poor little thread nearly fell off of the page so I decided to start the new one and bring us to the top. ;)

I started out my day with an hour at the gym, followed by some weeding in the front flower bed and a short walk with the dogs.
:)

Saturday is very important for OHIO STATE FOOTBALL in our house!!! However, we couldn't get the game unless we paid $15 on pay per view. So instead we went to Damons and ate lunch and watched the first half.

Now I am going to enjoy this beautiful weather while I sit out on the deck and read a book.

Catch ya'll later!
:)Barb

katrinabgood
09-06-2003, 03:17 PM
Hey y'all...

Just wanted to get in on the new thread...I almost started one this morning, then I lazied out. I sat on the patio and had my coffee and finally finished my book. Downtown by Anne Rivers Siddons. It was a good read...takes place in Atlanta, 1966-68, during the Civil Rights movement, on the cusp of all the changes that radically shaped our country...Good stuff.

Speaking of books, I've got two boxes packed up for Mary's library so far. I'll mail them out Monday. Lots more where they came from!

Barb is right...It's lovely in this neck of the woods today! Sunny with cool breezes, blue skies...ahhhh.

My exercise so far has consisted of vaccuuming, and dusting and boxing books...I've got to get outside!

Have a great day, kids!


QueenB
09-06-2003, 05:56 PM
Hello everyone..... It is absolutely gorgeous today here in Tennessee. Sunshiny, nice breeze and only 75 degrees. Ahhh

I re-did my Tony room today and that has taken up the better part of my day. I had so many new items and things that have been autographed for me just sitting over in the corner of my room in a pile, so I had to get busy organizing it and getting everything hung up. I'm about to take some pics in awhile and when I re-install my scanner, I will post them for you. I'm SURE you want to see them, right? :yes:

Other than that, the race comes on tonight because it is a night race and I am happy to say that I have no company. Just me, dh and probably Trey will hole up in the living room and watch without having to entertain anyone and I am totally fine with that.

I hope you all have a lovely day and I'll hop in later tonight!!

katrinabgood
09-06-2003, 06:55 PM
Of COURSE we want to see them, Tina! Make sure you're in one or two of them!

My 'little' girl just called me. She's on her way to dinner, but she said she'd call me tonight to wake me for work. Isn't she a good girl? Have I mentioned lately that I miss her? :yes:

I spent most of today cleaning and de-cluttering, but I didn't mind. I crank up the "Show Tunes" station and sing and dance around the house as I go. Yeah, what a sight! I was happy to be able to get around to repotting the plants that I've been meaning to do forever...my big accomplishment for the day. :cp:

Big decision time...my sister's been going to Weight Watchers on Sunday mornings lately. I'm thinking about joining, again, but I don't want to start only to stop again after a few weeks. Can someone send me some stick-to-it-ive-ness, please?

All right, I'm going out for a bike ride now. Maybe I'll get a chance to pop in at chat tonight...

see you later! :wave:

pjkdreamer
09-06-2003, 07:19 PM
Good Evening Chicklets!!

Missed you all!! I worked last night till 10:30p and back this am at 6:30--felt like I spent the night in that place :o so needless to say I didnt have the "mind" to post last night nor this morning:D :D

Sandy, please come here and post whether you are on program or not, I will take you anyway I can get you!!:lol: :lol: I miss talking to you to, maybe we can catch up Tuesday morning, you will be off right? Hope that Amanda gets settled into her new house soon!! I miss her something awful!:dizzy:

Katrina: singing and :dance: :dance: around the house sounds like fun, the dancing will burn up those old nasty calories!!:devil:

Tina, it has been glorious here to, cool and crisp 60's in the mornings and the next several days are going to be mild too. WONDERFUL!!! A WELCOME RELIEF.:)

Hi Barb, the deck and a book sounds fantastic!!! hope you are having a great weekend...

2cute, Andria, Mary, Connie, Katrina, and all the rest of you crazy gals...love and hugs to you!! stay :strong:

thinthinker
09-06-2003, 08:10 PM
CHAT AT 8:30 EST, 7:30 CST!

Be there, or be square! :D

BarbPA
09-07-2003, 12:04 AM
Sorry I missed chat tonight. I hope you all had a good time. Jeff and I went out for a late dinner and a drive around.

I spent part of the afternoon cleaning out my closet (FINALLY!) I have piles of clothes all over my bedroom right now - Donate, trash and consignment. I've never done consignment with clothes but I have so many in such good condition that I thought I might try it. Or maybe E-bay? Has anyone sold things on E-bay?

I have to vent a bit about my dear husband. Or tonight DH might stand for something else! :o We are getting ready for this trip next weekend - or, I should say I am getting ready. I've been planning, organizing, making reservations, ironing packing, cleaning, etc. What has my help hubby been doing???? Playing his d@#% computer game non-stop. Tonight at dinner I nicely reminded him that he has done NOTHING to help me around the house in months. He acknowledged it and told me that he realizes he does nothing and that he knows I do everything and he give me credit for it. That's nice. :yes: but does he offer to help me at all??? :no: I should be use to it. This has been a sensitive spot for years!!! Ok, I am doing, I got it off my chest. Sorry to bore you with it. :^:

I got a little (ok, a lot) out of control with food yesterday and today! Well, enough of that!!! Tomorrow is back to business!!

Well, I am headed off to beddy-by.
Catch ya tomorrow!
:)Barb

VermontChick
09-07-2003, 12:12 AM
Ack!!

It's been a horrific weekend!! I had to work 9-6 at Filene's..thinking it was my last day as a regular employee, ONLY to allow myself to be conned into coming in for a entire night shift on MONDAY...MONDAY!! There will be NO business on a Monday night, but I need the money :(
I got a *new* job, I now merchandise Hallmark cards for local wal*marts.
So back to my horrible weekend. Apparently my stomach has shrunk, because I ate three pieces of pizza yesterday :( and I got so sick I threw them all up!! My mom and grandmother were both freaking out (but I would never do something like that on purpose). So then this morning I had a doughnut for breakfeast..leftover pizza for lunch...a piece if birthday cake..and then chicken mcnuggets and french fries for dinner! :mad: I don't even want to THINK about the points that I have consumed today. I feel ill thinking about all the junk that went into my body today.
This makes me all the more determined to lose weight this week, and I will!:?:
I couldn't find my Walk Away the Pounds tapes among the rubble in the foyier, so I went and ordered Walk Away the Pounds Express...it's a new line of videoes by Leslie Sansome but it's just fresh tapes, instead of having to walk to the same ones over and over again. And I ordered the DVD's :p
I hope the rest of you had better weekends, mine sucked and I feel terrible about myself. Today I went up the stairs and realized I was panting..after one flight of stairs :( I'm sick of being fat and I need to do something because my health is suffering.
Hopefully I'll be happier next time I post...sorry I didn't do individual messages but I just want to go to bed and end this horrid day :(

Melissa

QueenB
09-07-2003, 03:42 AM
Kat: If you need a buddy.... look no further. Here I am ! :wave: I confess I am scared to death right now at the thought of re-joining WW on Monday. Scared to go to the meeting? :no: Scared of losing weight? :no: Scared that this time.....like many many times before I'll start and quit in a couple of weeks or months? :yes: I keep saying "THIS time I'm going to do it" but this is about the 20th time I've said the same thing, isn't it?

Read this entry in my journal:



So, why do I want to lose weight......


Sometimes I don't know the answer to that question.....but most days, I do. :)


Everytime I look in the eyes of my children....I know the answer. I know why I want to succeed in this thing we call life. But I'm not naive', I know that as much as I love my children, as much as I love my dh.... I can't do this for them. I can't lose weight for them. I must do it for me. I must do it for my health. I must do it for my well being. I must do it for my life. I want to be that success story. I want to be the one that people look at and say, "Wow, how did she lose all that weight?" I want to encounter someone that I haven't seen in years and them not recognize me. I want their jaw to drop to the ground when I tell them who I am. I want to be that person....

NOT the person that keeps her head down while she's walking to avoid eye contact. NOT the person who pulls at her shirt in a vain effort to hide her stomach. NOT the person that can't fit into any reasonable sized amusement park ride, stadium chair or movie seat. NOT the person who doesn't attend her dh's work picnic or her child's school meetings because she doesn't want them to be embarrassed of her.

I want to be the healthy Mom who rides the rides with her children. I want to be the woman who can look anyone in the eye because I know that they are no better than I am. I want to be the wife that dh's co-workers look at and say, "Damn Ron...your wife looks good." I want to wear cute clothes. I don't want to wear shirts that come down to my knees.

So, let's look at the definition of WANTS and DO's.

Want: I want to lose weight. I desire to lose weight. But wanting it is not enough. So what do I have to do?

Do: I have to DO something about it. I have to get up, off my fat butt and start moving. I don't have to run a marathon. If I can only exercise 10 minutes a day, isn't that better than nothing at all? Isn't that better than sitting still? I have to drink my water. Not a gallon. Maybe only four cups till I work my way up. I need to adjust my eating habits. Not go on a starvation diet.....just make better choices and eat smaller portions.

The sad part about this declaration is..... I've already made it. Actually, I've made it several times. This is probably about the four millionth time I've made close to the same declaration. So why do I think this time will be any different? Why do I think I will do it this time when I've failed so many others? The honest and true answer is..... I don't know. I don't know if I will make it. I don't know if I will be the success story that I want to be.

But...what is my alternative? To quit? To stop? To just let my arteries harden and clog till I have a heart attack? To get to the point that I can't even walk anymore? To get diabetes? To die at an early age and leave my dh and children here without their Mom and wife?

I think not. So you know what? I'm trying again. I'm going to reach....dig and claw my way through these food infested waters and come out on the other side. So what if this is my 20th declaration or my 2000th? The point is: I'm not giving up. I'm not laying down and dying. I'm going to try. I'm going to succeed.

I'm re-joining WW on Monday, September 8th 2003 for the final time. I'm making a promise not only to myself, but to anyone who reads this: I will succeed this time. I WILL be the model WW. I will go to my meetings and will not just go and weigh in. I will allow one hour of my life to be spent just for me.

My goal is to one day be contacted by WW magazine because they want to hear my story of how I lost the weight and kept it off. And you know what I'll do?

I'll refer them back to this post in my journal. I will let them see the actual day and minute in time that I made up my mind that I was going to succeed.

I CAN DO THIS! :)

So Kat, you need accountability...so do I. You need a shoulder to cry on....so do I. You need a swift kick in the tush.....so will I. :drill: If you need someone to be strong for you when you can't, I will. We CAN do this together. We can be a success story.

Are you with me?

katrinabgood
09-07-2003, 08:37 AM
Honey, I'm bent over...KICK ME!

I came in from work all wishy washy..."should I or shouldn't i call my sister to go with her?..."

Thank you Tina, for giving me the answer I needed.

Love ya!

Jehari
09-07-2003, 08:53 AM
Hiya Ladies!!

Barb: Oh I LOVE to Ebay!! My DH calls me Ebay queen!! Of course I buy almost as much stuff as I sell. Every spring and fall I clean out my kids closets and drawers and sell everything they've outgrown but is still in good condition. I usually do very well. I just finished selling the school clothes from last year and made about $100 bucks. I only sell the stuff that is still in good condition though. Also, here's a tip. If you can, take pictures of the clothes and post them on the auction. People don't like to buy what they can't see. If you have any questions about it, let me know.

Tina and Kat: You go girls!! Tina, I found myself just nodding my head through your whole journal entry because I have thought all those things myself. Giving up just isn't an alternative, because we all know where that road leads. So to both Tina and Kat, KEEP GOING!! You will do it!!

Melissa: Oh man, what a horrible time you're having. Sometimes eating all the junk at once is a real good way to remotivate. I know when I eat like that, I get so sick that I WANT to eat healthy and stay on track for a while. Hope things smooth out for you soon.

Thin: So you're just going to come in here and yell at all of us about chat and not post huh? :lol: Fine! Be that way!!!

Pj: HI!!!!

I think I've got everyone on this thread so far.

As for me, I just had to come in here and do a little happy dance cuz I weighed in today and I am now down 50 pounds!!!

:cb: :cb: :cb: :cb: :cb: :cb: :cb: :cb: :cb: :cb: :cb: :cb:


:balloons: :balloons: :balloons: :balloons: :balloons:

OK. Now that I've done that, hopefully in a couple of weeks I'll be able to do another happy dance for getting below 200. That is my next mission in life.

Hope everything is going OK for everyone else. Talk at ya later,
Jen
:wave:

256/206/150

Terri in MO
09-07-2003, 10:05 AM
Good morning ladies!

Sure am disappointed that chat doesn't work well for me. It did that with my other computer too. :(

Okay, I'm in a quandry. I love bike riding. Nine years ago, I got the wild hair up my butt and made a commitment to riding in the MS 150 in September. Its a bike ride to raise money for MS - a two day ride that totals up to 150 miles. I joined WW for the first time that March. I trained hard - 5 days a week because I didn't want to not be able to do it. I lost down to 227 and was in good shape. I was able to ride 100 miles the first and then the 50 the next day. Of course, I quit WW because I was burned out and thought I would restart at January. I joined - but didn't lose more than 10 pounds of the weight I had put back on. I was a size 18-20 for about a month. :mad: I rode again the next year but rode only 85 miles and then the 50. I wimped out the next year. Every year since, somehow I manage to end up driving through the MS 150 route and having feelings of terrible regret. I loved that bike ride and the accomplishment. Since I've been married, I can't seem to get it to be a priority enough. I start out thinking I'll do it and somehow seem to get sidetracked.

Yesterday, on the way down to mom's, I had to drive through the riders again. What a gorgeous weekend to ride through the country. I want to do this bike ride again. But I need to start now and keep at it because I won't have the time to train as much as when I was single.

I'm wondering how to make the commitment and stick to it this time? I need to get recommited here as I've been doing a great maintain according to the scale. I really want to see 235 on the scale by years-end.

Kat - I'm with you about WW and not quitting again. I joined on 1/2/03 again for about the fifth or sixth time. I have only been going about every 2-3-4 weeks. I'm not sure I'm up to the weekly meetings or paying for it every week. I have contemplated lately about quitting since I am really using an online program to track my food instead of the point system. However, I can't quit this time. I want to get to goal weight and be a lifetimer. Also, I'm afraid if i don't go and weigh-in every few weeks, that I'll get lax and the weight I have managed to lose this year will creep back on. So join and make that committment with Tina and me. No matter how long this take, let's not quit.

Barb - Good for you for doing all the cleaning out. DH's sometimes are not dears. Mine does that too where he thinks its a major contribution to half-heartedly clean the kitchen. Somehow, me doing the laundry, ironing, dusting, vacuuming, toilet cleaning of all the other rooms and downstairs is equal to his keeping the dishwasher loaded and unloaded. They just don't get it. Have you tried making a list and asking him to do things? They don't seem to "see" what needs to be done and think, gosh I could do that. But mine will do things if I ask. Silly isn't it?

Tina - Thanks for posting your journal entry. Very heartfelt and inspiring. I'm so proud of you for being so open and honest about yourself and for all the positive vibe you've had lately. Keep working at this and you will be posting a 100 pound loss!

Jen - Your numbers are looking great! :bravo: I've been contemplating selling my wedding dress on ebay but have no idea how to go about it.

Pam - Did I ever tell you how great it was to see your pics? Thanks for posting! Sorry about bailing out on chat.

I know there have been some of you ladies who have posted losses lately - :bravo: :bravo: Keep us inspired!

So ladies, who's going to make the big recommitment with us? Who's going to commit to joining the Y so they can continue to swim? Who's going to get back into Curves? Ladies, this is the time of year when we start thinking like bears - storing the fat for winter hibernation - and we need to be thinking like well...something other than a bear! :lol:

I better get ready for church. I still have to take this stupid test on Friday so I'll be studying this afternoon. But I will work in a session with the Leslie Sansone step aerobics and 30 minutes on the spinner (or maybe even outside on the bike).

Have a great Lord's day!

pjkdreamer
09-07-2003, 11:24 AM
Good Sunday Morning,

TINA, THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!! YOUR POST WAS AWESOME!!! JUST WHAT I NEEDED! I appreciate your heart-felt sentiments, and I know without a doubt you are going to do it this time...you are a beautiful woman, you are intelligent you are strong and you are so very worthy, as are your children and husband, they need you around!! and I do too. Together we can do this!! I am right there with you, we are climbing to the top of that mountain, remember...see you there!!;)

Katrina, thanks to you too! you are such an inspiration....:)

Jen, WOW 5O LBS, THAT IS FANTASTIC!!

MissMeliss, hope today is a better day sweetie.;)

Barb, you are so right, today is another day, you can do it!:)

All the rest of you chickies, get in here and post, by the way enojed chat last night..later chicklets.

peekabooangel
09-07-2003, 11:30 AM
Morning girls...... I forgot I had not posted on this thread yet. Hope everyone is having a nice weekend.

Hugs,
sandy

katrinabgood
09-07-2003, 12:20 PM
Okay...so I went to WW...feeling a little foolish because it's only about the millionth time I've re-joined. But! I've never been there on a Sunday! The leader was excellent, she lost, and has kept off for 20 years, 135 lbs! She must have been a young chickie then, cuz she appears to be maybe in her mid 40s. She is dynamic and caring and friendly and I knew that i had made the right choice about 2 minutes after she started speaking. (BTW...I called my sis to pick her up for the meeting, and she informed me that she wasn't going today...TOM) :rolleyes: I almost backed out then, but I thought of Tina and how I had already posted that I was going...so I HAD to go! Let me tell you...you were all there with me! Valerie (leader) spoke of making the commitment last longer than the usual month and a half or so...you know, when the honeymoon is over and the losses are measured in tenths up and down. She spoke of the need to keep working to get past that and to make this a lifelong commitment. I can't possibly re-create her words and how she spoke them, but she was very powerful. So much so, I threw down some $$$ and purchased the starter kit with the dining out companions, handy dandy spiral bound daily journal and a pedometer, which I've been wanting anyway.

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...here I go again...and as my avatar states...

"this time I (really) mean it!"

Good luck to us all!

2cute2Bfat
09-07-2003, 12:46 PM
I am just peeking in for second.. hiding from everyone here... but I have to say....
You guys are all AWESOME !!!! What an inspirational thread. !!!!
I am STILL pop and bread FREE !!!!!! And after reading this thread and all of these great posts I will remain Pop and Bread free today too !!!! I love all of you so much and appreciate you even MORE !!!!

Be back tonight when I can stay longer. My visit is going great.

QueenB
09-07-2003, 01:02 PM
Well Miss Kat when I read your first post after mine, I was all ready to come in here and give you a good http://www.gifs.net/animate/dem3.gif but NOW, I see that's not necessary! I am SO proud of you!! I just KNEW you could do it! :yes: First of all....you should never feel foolish and even if you do, who cares? Isn't feeling foolish alot better than the alternative? You are doing this for you darlin and I am majorly excited....for BOTH of us. You keep those :crossed: because as of 5:30 tomorrow....we will have both officially re-joined WW!!

Now, onto other replies:

Sandy: I hope I'm not going to have to come up to your house and kick your butt too, am I? :drill: I remember the days when you would come here so excited and proud of all that you were accomplishing. This is not meant to throw anything in your face. This is just ME, reminding you of how good you felt and how good you can FEEL again. I KNOW how hard it is and you know that I do, but please...don't give up. Remember, we are always here for you and we can do ANYTHING...together! :yes:

Pam: Thank you so much for the sweet words you said. It's like I've always said, "If you can't be honest here, where can you?" That's why I love coming here so much, because we all have so much in common and I feel like I can open up my heart and not be judged on it. Thank you so much for being part of my loving family. :love:

Terri: I know exactly what you're saying about WW. It seems like we are all just alike when it comes down to it. We go to WW and join and for the first couple of weeks, we are all gung ho. Then little by little other things become more important and instead of going to the meetings, we just go to WI and leave...I mean, isn't that the only reason we're there anyways? :no: Then, before you know it, you're not even going to WI anymore and you've skipped a week or two and you keep thinking, "Hmm, I'll get back on track tomorrow and work really hard so I can go in there next week with a loss." In the immortal words of Jim Carey.....WRONGO! Next week never comes and before you know it, you've gained all your weight back and then some. Come on Terri....let THIS be THE TIME that we don't back down to anything else and take care of ourselves. Let this be the time that we say we are worth it and we are taking that time our for our good health. I mean, if you're honest, if we don't take care of ourselves, we are literally putting one foot in the grave and could there be anything more important than preserving our life? I want to see you run that race next year! You CAN do it. We can do it together!!

Jen: I am SO proud of you! 50 lbs down is awesome!!!! http://www.gifs.net/animate/cheerldr.gif I know you have got to feel such a sense of accomplishment. I have no doubt that before you know it, you will be in onederland! Congrats!!!!

Ok gals.... to EVERYONE else, I love you from the bottom of my last toenail to the tip of the longest hair on my head! :eek: :lol: I hope you are all having a truly terrific OP day and I will try to pop in here later or at least in the morning.

WW.....here I come. Just one more day!!!!

QueenB
09-07-2003, 01:06 PM
You snuck in here on me you little darlin while I was posting! I know you're busy right now with your company, but how sweet are you to jump in here to visit with us for a minute. I must say also how proud I am of you for sticking to your guns and staying away from bread and "pop".

This is just for you!

http://www.gifs.net/animate/am369.gif

BarbPA
09-07-2003, 01:40 PM
Hi Gals -
Just a quick :hello: and note to tell you how wonderful you all are!!! We can all do this --- we each have our own demons :devil: and goals and accomplishments. Each of us have to work to find our own niche, but we can do this TOGETHER!!! If I hadn't found you all, who know if I would be on track with my healthy lifestyle. There is no time for the "what ifs". LET'S DO THIS!!!

I just had a great workout at the gym and since I am all sweaty and stinky I am going to hop in the shower. Jeff and I are going out for a healthy lunch and then running some errands. I have a million and one things to do today, but I'll be back later on.

I just had to tell you all how great you are!!!
Love,
Barb
:)

qsilver
09-07-2003, 01:51 PM
Hey everyone :)

I didn't make it on yesterday because I was out spending an evening with DH. We had an appointment to go to (sales pitch for something we couldn't afford) and took advantage of the hour in the car each way to reconnect. We don't get to do a lot of that lately. It was so nice. We stopped and picked up How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days on the way home to give the evening a nice, romantic closing. Well, wouldn't you know it, but my stinker dh sat down as soon as we got in the house and turned on a computer game! I was busy shooing the girls off to bed so we could enjoy our movie and he kept playing. I asked nicely 3 times if he would turn off his game so we could start. Finally, I asked him if the game meant more than our marriage. Ok, it was a bit dramatic, but nothing else was getting through. We had been having a really nice time with honest and open communication, and I wasn't going to have it dashed to pieces that would leave me going to bed yet again with bad feelings towards him and somehow blaming myself for it all. Guess the drama worked, even if not perfectly to start, because we got to watch our movie (it was great fun, but pushed the edges of pg-13, for those of you with munchkins around) and we did a nice bit of snuggling and pillow talk after. SUCCESS!!! :D

One other thing happened last night, and I really need to get it off my chest. My oldest daughter is 12. 5 years ago a 16 year old in our neighborhood tried to rape her. We kept our heads cool and worked with police and the local Children's Justice Center and had him put in jail. They kept him for not just the two years until he turned 18, but all the way to his 21st birthday. They would have loved to keep him beyond, but he was tried as a juvenile. My daughter was not the only child he had sexually assaulted, just the other child was 4 and hearing and speech impaired. The little boy didn't know enough sign language yet other than to crudely describe what had been happening to him. He had also raped his 4 and 6 year old nieces several years earlier and had been "treated" for that. Ok, so you get the idea. This guy is a total creep and predator. The system has done it's best for him, but eventually they had to return him to the outside world and pray with the rest of us that he doesn't commit any further crimes.

Now, jump forward. We were informed that he was getting out of jail and his grandparents wanted to return him to our community. We let the grandparents know how uncomfortable we were with that situation, and it wasn't spoken of again.

Last night my daughter begins asking me questions about pepper spray. I answered her questions and told her it was for protection, not something to be joked about like she had described her friends doing. She said she knew it was for protection, and she wanted to feel safe. Hrm... On asking what made her feel unsafe, she described how some of her friends have been talking about this guy getting out of jail and how really cool he is. He takes her friends out 4-wheeling and does all sorts of other great stuff with them and is planning on moving back to town soon. Her eyes teared up, and she said she wanted something to protect herself and her sister.

Chicks, I've got to tell you, the mama bear inside of me wanted to search this male out and tear him apart limb by limb for making my baby girl scared again. We've dealt with the other issues and continue to deal with them as things come up, but... moving back here is asking us to bear one too many things, and there is not one thing I can do to stop him. He committed the crime as a juvenile. All I can do is get a restraining order and pray he doesn't ever decide to waltz right through it.

Ok... I know it was lengthy, but it feels better just getting it off my chest. These are the sort of things I used to eat my way through. The food didn't save me. The food didn't make it feel better or make it go away. It just served to make me fat. Now I'm going to get off the computer and give the mother of one of those girls a call. I think legally I can do that. I won't be telling any lies, and it might save her a lot of heartache in the end as well.

*hugs* to all of you! I know this post might sound like I'm in a bad place, but I'm really not. I'm feeling strong and although not ready to stand up to this challenge, very willing to do what it takes to see it through.

Andria

VermontChick
09-07-2003, 02:17 PM
Hey, yes this morning has been going much more smoothly thankfully...I had my cereal and then for lunch I had one of those instant lunches (not the best choice I know, but I counted the points) and some grated cheese and bread.
My new walking tapes should be in any day now! :-D

Stepping Out
09-07-2003, 03:37 PM
Sorry I missed chat last night..Just HAD to watch them GATORS . They lost, but they played a good game!

Andria: No wonder you were ticked at your DH. You need to keep the lines of communication open w/him now. I can't imagine what you and your daughter are feeling . You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.:grouphug: When you're feeling overwhelmed, don't go to the fridge-come here!

Jen: :dancer: :dance: :cb: :cp: 50 lbs gone! WTG!

Tina: Thanks for your openess and honesty. You're an inspiration to all of us :goodvibes

2 Cute: Good job staying away from soda and bread! :D

Kat: I'm glad you started WW anyway. Your lecturer sounds very inspiring. I know you'll do great :cp:

Barb & Meliss::grouphug:

Enjoy your Sunday!

MichelleK
09-07-2003, 04:18 PM
Good Afternoon Chickie Poos!

I am sooo glad I you all are recommitting again! I weighed in last week and I stayed the same...how disappointing. The weigher asked me if I was getting my period...I said that was hit or miss these days...some months I get it some I don't so she says I have a paper for you to read and she goes over to the cabinet and pulls it out and hands it to me and you know what it says at the top in big blue letters? "MENOPAUSE" !! Geeessh....what a slap in the face!! I was disappointed because I stayed at my points and did all I was suppose to do...but this chick is NOT GIVING UP! That was my problem in the past...when I lost the weight the last time I never gave up...those WW people have seen people join and rejoin a hundred times, they have seen people gain weight 4, 5 and 6 weeks in a row...but the people who are successful are the ones who come back each week even though they didn't lose or gained!! I know...I was one of them once before! Sooo....if I could do it then I can do it now and so can all of you! I don't care about paying the money each week...I don't think twice about spending $10 at McDonalds...why should I even consider spending $10 each week at WW? So lets all make a pact...NO QUITTING! NO EXCUSES will be allowed!! No one who ever quit anything was successful!! This is a way of life for us...even when we lose and get to goal we will still have to count our points and watch what we put in our mouths!!

Phew....I will step down from my soap box now!

I took Andrew swimming at the Y today...I had to take him out kicking and screaming though! He starts his swim lessons on Wednesday. This ought to be fun!! I'm ready for a nap now but he ain't cooperating! He has learned to climb up the side of the bunk bed to get to the top bunk. I was hoping he wouldn't learn that part. He just can't get down yet and keeps calling me!

Well I better get going...I got interupted by a phone call that lasted about an hour! I'll catch you all later. I couldn't make it to chat last night...we went to a birthday party and didn't get home till after 10 pm ....everyone was gone when I finally checked in!

TTFN Michelle

Grannie39074
09-07-2003, 06:58 PM
Hello fellow chicks

Hope all of you are well today food has been ok for me today. I am recommiting to staying op. I will not eat any fast food during the week and very little on the week ends.(at least I'll try)

I made a low cal pink lemonaide pie for tonight.
1small bx vanilla sugar free pudding instant
1 tub crystal light lemonaide (all I had was pink)
1 1/2 c skim milk
whip together
add 8 oz tub fat free cool whip
pour into graham cracker crust chill several hours.


I am thinking of joining WW online. There is not one close enough for me to go to.

well I'm out of here wish me luck .

QueenB
09-07-2003, 07:34 PM
Man.... this thread sure is inspiring!

Michelle: Good for you girlfriend. NO QUITTING this time. Even if we gain.....even when we lose, there is no giving up. No matter what, we are going to do it this time. $$ will not be an issue. As a matter of a fact, I'm writing a check tomorrow that I pray will not hit the bank till Friday, cause I had a few things come up that took my WW money.....but I will NOT wait another week. Checking acct be darned!! :lol:

Mary: I am SO proud of you for re-committing yourself. I know that you can do this....we ALL can. I honestly believe that anything is possible if we are just willing to put ourselves out there and give it a try. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts this week.

Joanne: Just HAD to watch them GATORS :lol: Dh had to watch them too. I'm sorry they lost, but it was a real good game. I'm not a real big fan of football....but little by little...I think is dh keeps bugging me, I may just be his *Nascar AND Football buddy" :lol:

MissMeliss: Hey there lady! How are you doing? Fantastic, I hope. What kind of walking tapes are on the way? Inquiring minds want to know!

Andria: I'm glad you ended up "getting your man" last night. Sometimes we have to be dramatic to get what we want, don't we? :lol: Also.....I can't even pretend I know what you, your family and your daughter are going through, but I can definitely see why the mama bear in you would come out. I'll be keeping your family in my heart and prayers.

Barb: Awwww, thanks for all the nice things you said in your last post. I am once again in awe of you and your commitment to exercise. You are definitely an inspiration to me. :cb:

Alright guys.....I'm actually going to get off my fat butt and do some exercise myself. I'm going to do my 1 mile WATP and then take a long bubblebath. Have a terrific night and I love you all!!

Terri in MO
09-07-2003, 08:13 PM
Okay, I did it!

I got my bike out, put air in the tires and got my butt on it. Too bad I have to ride up hill to get out of the cul-de-sac but, it will make me stronger! I rode for 40 minutes which was seven miles doing laps around the neighborhood. While my form was not good and it was not a zippy ride in any way, I did notice that I was able to ride the upslopes and did more of them instead of just the flat circles. I have made some progress this summer on the spinner. I'm going to have to be careful about my left hip because it sure was tight and kinda hurt. I may have to change the pedals. But....I tried and I'm glad for the accomplishment. Too bad I get inspired in September when it will be cold soon. :rolleyes: :lol:

Have a great night. I'm looking forward to Sopranos and Sex and the City tonight.

Mary - I used the WW online last year before I started going to the meetings. I loved the menu planner and the online journal. Give it a try as you can always cancel it. Good luck and be strong this week!

peekabooangel
09-07-2003, 08:35 PM
Tina: Me~mad at you???? Never :no: !!!! I remember those days when I was so excited and full of energy too, and I want them back desperately. I have gained back a lot of what I lost and that makes me feel even worse, but I will start again and again and again till I get it right. And I know you will all be here to cheer me on or kick me in the butt or what ever it is I need at the moment. thats why I love it here!!!


Andria: I'm so sorry about the mess you are having to deal with right now. I wish you all the luck in running the boy out of town for good!!!

Mary: The pie sounds yummy. I will be starting the WW thing again soon, but at home too. Not sure if I will pay the online fee or just do it myself again. Along with coming to the thread a million times a day.

So many of you have recomminted I am bound to have to do this again. Actually I have decided after this last weekend away I will be back on the "wagon". Move on over girls and make room for this girl on the seat.....and please tie me down tight, I tend to loosen the knots a little sometimes.

Now I need advice....not so much advice as much as what would you have done in this situation.

My daughter Alexis who is 6 went to Sunday school today and my Mother in law is one of the teachers. Well she asked to stay for church services with Nana, well no big deal......so I thought. Well, come to find out from my 6 year old, they did communion today. And my lovely MIL who 6 months ago would not accept communion cause she did not feel right about it yet took it upon herself to let my 6 year old join in on this. I am sorry, I hit the roof.......Alexis is not old enough to know what she did or was doing, or the meaning of it!!!! And besides that, It was my right to be there for the first one and to be the one who said it was okay!!!! My mil took something from me today that I can never ever get back, and I am very very hurt!!! I called her and told her this instead of stewing and stewing about it. Alls she said was " Well, alls I can say is I am sorry, I did not think anything of it, did not think it was any big deal!!!) I am still mad and upset, and hurt....I cried over this, I don't know if I am being to emotional about it or what, but I feel it was my right and it was taken away with no thought what so ever!!! Please feel free to comment either way you feel. Maybe I am missing something.

Gonna close for now, cause I am tearing up again....

Love ya all,
Sandy

BarbPA
09-07-2003, 09:13 PM
Hi Chicks!
I had planned on coming back in here tonight and catching up with everyone, but the day got away from me. I started reading "Kentucky Rich" by Fern Michaels and I have been buried in it most of the afternoon and evening. Now I need to get a few things around here done before watching Sex in the City and getting to bed early.

Have a great evening.
:love:
Barb

Grannie39074
09-07-2003, 10:23 PM
The pie was good. It could have been a little firmer.

2cute2Bfat
09-07-2003, 10:45 PM
I was not going to post just yet... but had to comment to Sandy.

Sandy... I understand your pain and frustration you are feeling. {{ HUGS }}
You truly feel in your heart right now that your MIL took that first Meaningful Communion away from you.... BUT SHE DID NOT !!! You said it yourself... Quote....
Alexis is not old enough to know what she did or was doing, or the meaning of it!!!!
You were correct. She did not have her first "meaningful communion".
She just followed the crowd.
YOU STILL get to teach her the meaning of it and you STILL will be there when that day comes. :)

Your MIL now knows NOT to do that again.. and when you feel that your daughter understands the meaning of communion YOU and YOUR DAUGHTER can take that step Together :)

I know the pain is still there.... I know the disappointment is still there... BUT ... trust me... when that day comes that you and your daughter take communion "together" .... you and your daughter will KNOW that this is her TRUE first communion. {{{HUGS}}}

2cute2Bfat
09-07-2003, 10:48 PM
STOP !!!! DO NOT POST HERE !!!

[B]COME FOLLOW US TO THE NEXT ON GOING THREAD... # 404

Syn
09-07-2003, 11:00 PM
Hey All,

QueenB and KatBGood....Wonderful to read your posts regarding recommitment....I am once again REJOINING WW on Friday.....Can't tell you how many times I have fallen off that wagon..but if you can pick yourselves up, dust yourselves off and try again you are truely my inspiration! Who cares how many times we have to start over...We can DO this!


peekabooangel : there is a nice seat right by me on the OP wagon...but I have asked them to put up some higher sides on the wagon and watch for bumps in the road so I don't fall off!



determined to succeed: Way to go with the exercise! You go girl!

Grannie39074 : Good looking recipe, thx...and I too, have thought about WW on line, but I guess I am the kind of person that needs the accountablility of weighing in weekly...*sighs* But oh, How I do hate that @+#+!# scales!

MichelleK : I do like your determination!!! There is a very long seat on my wagon, climb aboard...we will not fall off we enough of us are sitting together!!! And we can hang on to one another when the going gets iffy!

homebound : I so wanted to join chat last night myself...I can't get the java thing to open.....I have no idea what to do so I can join you gals when you chat.....


MissMeliss: Glad your day is going smoothly....Sounds like you are going to have something to walk to.....Are they musicial tapes? I am just to big and too uncomfortable to walk without pain and need to figure out a better mode of exercise that I can stick with....There I have said the truth...hard to admit, but I get out of breath and I hurt like heck after just a few feet of walking....so embarrassing to face the fact that I have only myself to blame....that and the fact the arthritis and other health issues are compicated by food addictions!!! Wish I had something else I was addicted too...but I can't imagine any addiction is easy to overcome....

qsilver: Geeze Mama Bear in me would not be happy until that guy was faw away form my child/Children.....I saw a poster once that read "Disarm rapists" That says it all doesn't it? You sound like a very courageous family.... Bless your little girl she sounds so brave.

BarbPA: You are right...we can do this! We just need to keep reminding ourselves of that!!

2Cute: Good job on the bread and pop.....I don't have an issue with the bread! But I can go thru a lot of Pop...Now it is diet pop but non the less, I drink far too much of that on a regular basis....

I have responded to one page of posts....I better quit before I lose my whole reply....that has happened to me more than once! Makes me so huffy when that happens! :mad:


I need to get off this computer and feed the cat, and go and un pack some more boxes....I hope I don't have to move again...At least I have all the boxes in one room so I can shut the door if I need to when company comes..:s: My friend Cissy says she is coming to make me get rid of half the stuff I haven't used in years! She says, a keep pile, a give away pile, and a throw away pile...is what I need to have....and she says the keep pile should be very small..:drill: Sounds like a drill sargent to me...

Here is to a good week!