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Originally Posted by NEOCORTEX
i would really like to just be able to have a couple of cookies or just one piece of chocolate because that's all i really want but it just seems impossible.
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It would be nice, wouldn't it? And yet I think some people are just not wired that way.
One thing I learned about myself while I was losing weight is that I am definitely not the sort of person who can eat "just one" and then put the bag away for tomorrow. I am not satisfied with small amounts of certain foods and never, ever will be. It is not a value judgment, or an indictment of my discipline or strength or value as a person to acknowledge this. It just
is.
To lose weight and keep it off I have had to learn to work with this personality trait of mine, rather than try in vain to change it and beat myself up because I could not change it.
That means not putting myself in situations where bingeing is available to me. There are certain things I don't even buy and bring into the house - not just cookies and sweets, but even a loaf of bread - because I know that once I start eating them I will not stop until they are gone. I strive to only eat these things (if at all) in absolutely controlled conditions where binge quantities are not available to me. If I am at an office party with a spread of treats I won't even touch them until I am about to leave the party, and then I will take one or two very special-looking items to try
and leave.
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i've lost 63 lbs so far (my goal is about 100 lbs) and i feel like these binges are hindering my progress so that i'm maintaining weight rather than losing by spending half of every week binging and the other have eating normally.
help?
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You've done amazingly well and should be proud. I feel very much what you are saying because I regained about a quarter of the weight I lost on behaviors very much like what you are describing - in control half the time, bingeing the other half the time. I am working on losing the regain now and I am
entirely focused on controlling the bingeing - the rest of it, eating on plan, I know how to do because I did it for 3 years to lose the 120 in the first place.
And I'm approaching the problem, as I said, by acknowledging that I simply will binge on certain things if I give myself the opportunity - so I do not give myself the opportunity. There is no need to test my purity by putting a pound bag of candy on the table in front of me and challenging myself not to eat it. I'm better off not buying the pound bag in the first place.