So let's say three out of three women don't do this.
A lawyer at the gym brought up an interesting point.
He said that while the guy was in prison he had nothing else to do except plot revenge, but once he was out he had many more options but continued to act like he was in prison.
Therefore, the prison was now of his own making, a mental prison.
Maybe the mental prisons are more difficult to escape than the real ones!
Thanks for your help.
Now I will go off and try to figure out how to get out of my mental prison!