100 lb. Club - Observation from An OldTimer




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GirlyGirlSebas
06-01-2014, 01:58 PM
I've been around the boards for a while, but not very consistently over the last year or so. When I first joined, I remembered that the board had a lot of fun and thought provoking posts where everyone chimed in. There was a very strong sense of community and we all got to know each other and there was tons of support. You can check in at different points in the day and always find someone willing to help lift you up and keep you on track. Now, it seems like everyone is separated into smaller groups and there isn't much interaction outside of the groups. I guess it must work well for those in the groups and everyone does seem welcoming, but I do miss the larger community. I need accountability and I need consistency and a group who is very active. Honestly, I find myself not very sure of where to plug-in.


Mozzy
06-01-2014, 06:30 PM
I know what you mean, I miss it too

Novus
06-01-2014, 08:15 PM
I loved this place when I was first here in 2010. I made so many connections and had such great support. I joined the Biggest Loser Challenge because I was involved in that back in 2010 and it was very active and encouraging. The team I'm on now is just....well, not what it was when I was involved before. And there seems to be so much more whining and contention on the boards in general. Honestly I feel kinna lost and often wonder why I'm still here. :(

So, yeah, I agree.


FeraFilia
06-01-2014, 10:15 PM
I noticed that when I came back, too. (I had a previous account, konfyuzed or some such, account info and email are both gone).. It makes me kinda sad.

I remember you from before, Rhonda. I was here back in 2011 and 2012, mostly, and lost over 50 pounds (I posted in the daily weigh-in thread a lot), before gaining it all back plus some during a really stressful end of 2012, 2013, and beginning of 2014.

Arctic Mama
06-01-2014, 11:05 PM
It's a different board now, with different membership. A lot of folks have regained and disappeared and even the landscape of diets have changed. I find myself doing a lot of floating because the smaller threads and groups by and large don't quite fit someone maintaining (excepting the maintenance group). It is still a nice community but a bit less friendly, however I have noticed that on the Internet in general, on multiple places I haunt. People are ruder, less intellectually curious, less involved, and more flighty. It's not just a 3fc thing :)

time2lose
06-01-2014, 11:08 PM
Yes, I feel the same way. I thought maybe I had just changed.

ubergirl
06-02-2014, 02:23 AM
Hi ya'll. Was thinking the exact same thing. (and yes, I'm back.) It definitely was as smart place back in 2010-2011 when I was here a lot.

I have noticed the same thing on another board I frequent-- that was primarily because most of the really serious people have found smaller groups-- perhaps the same is true here too.

Arctic Mama, why has the landscape of diets changed?

Slashnl
06-02-2014, 12:46 PM
Yep, I would agree as well. I have followed the decade threads, meaning "getting out of the 250's and 260's" type of threads. It's ok, but the one I'm in is so quiet.... I talk to myself a lot.

So, what's the answer? Should there be a more generic thread or maybe an oldtimers thread? I don't know. I like the support of this site though. I would hate to lose that.

BeachBreeze2010
06-02-2014, 05:43 PM
Yes! I have noticed the same thing. Maybe we should have an old timer's forum but that would make it even worse. I guess it's just up to us to keep it going. With that said, I have never found another message board system anywhere that's anywhere close to 3FC. I have a myfitnesspal for food logging purposes or just checking calorie counts on things and read through those forums and was amazed at how awful they are. I'm thankful for what's still here, but yeah, I miss some of the other old timers and the more "commeraderic" feeling.

GirlyGirlSebas
06-02-2014, 06:44 PM
I'm glad I'm not alone in my thinking. What I'm going to start doing is posting generic threads that everyone can chime in on. And, I'll start posting every day. Maybe if we start off and people start responding, it will take off from there. It may just be a matter of giving everyone a chance to get to know one another and keep it positive and motivating.

LadyPetite
06-03-2014, 12:40 AM
Chiming in to say that I agree. I'm a more recent member but I've been a lurker since 2006. I used to love the 100 lbs sub-forum but most of the threads in it are chat-type threads and a lot of people in it are super friendly but I'm not much of a chatter.

+1 for creating more general threads.

Slashnl
06-03-2014, 01:07 PM
Yes! I have noticed the same thing. Maybe we should have an old timer's forum but that would make it even worse. I guess it's just up to us to keep it going. With that said, I have never found another message board system anywhere that's anywhere close to 3FC. I have a myfitnesspal for food logging purposes or just checking calorie counts on things and read through those forums and was amazed at how awful they are. I'm thankful for what's still here, but yeah, I miss some of the other old timers and the more "commeraderic" feeling.

Ha, ha! I use myfitnesspal too, but just for calorie counting. I agree, those forums can be so brutal. They make me chuckle sometimes, but most of the time, I don't read them.

Trazey34
06-03-2014, 02:05 PM
I'm glad I'm not alone! I love checking in daily, keeps me on track and I get interested in how my long ago friends are doing. I scroll page after page for some meaningful conversation but it's mostly weigh-ins for challenges or getting out of the XYZ weight class LOL

maybe it's up to us to post some topics for discussion??

FeraFilia
06-03-2014, 02:10 PM
Trazey! It's good to see you are still around and maintaining. :) Congrats on that! :)

Trazey34
06-03-2014, 02:26 PM
thanks Mandy! I can't believe I've been around 7 years or more, yoikes LOL

ubergirl
06-03-2014, 02:38 PM
I'm glad I'm not alone! I love checking in daily, keeps me on track and I get interested in how my long ago friends are doing. I scroll page after page for some meaningful conversation but it's mostly weigh-ins for challenges or getting out of the XYZ weight class LOL

maybe it's up to us to post some topics for discussion??

Hi Trazey!

Trazey34
06-03-2014, 03:19 PM
Hi Trazey!


hiiii ! :D

SunnyMac
06-03-2014, 08:02 PM
Me too me too! I'm technically an old timer from 2006-2008. I had to create a new account. I couldn't tell you what my original name was but I recognize some of yours from back then. I'm only just back on and recommitting since yesterday but I'm on board for all of this especially since I'm trying to see where I fit in after being gone so long. I came back to the 100lb club because I was here before and am trying out the 30 something's now too. The best thing about 3FC was always the community and activity level. Whether you are having a good day or a bad day someone was always there. I'm on board for it all!

Slashnl
06-04-2014, 12:35 PM
Thanks Rhonda, for bringing this up. I like the new threads that have been showing up! Fun!!

Desiderata
06-04-2014, 12:58 PM
Maybe the general tenor of 3FC (or the Internet as a whole!) has changed, but I also wonder if those of us who have been around for years have changed a lot, too. Less starry-eyed and the glow of 'new' has worn off? As you grow from novice to seasoned, your perspective changes -- and what you contribute changes. I think there are a lot of "long-time" posters that lurk more than anything, because after a long while of being in your groove and doing your thing, there's not a ton of new things to say about it. But a lot of us find hanging around to be super-helpful in staying on track.

I also wonder a lot about the forum's metrics - because I suspect numbers have changed the feel of the site. My subjective take is that compared to five or seven years ago, there are now fewer active posters, fewer new posters, and fewer threads started (at least in the general forums not related to specific diets). Even if just one of those things are true, it will change the feel of the place. There have always been dominant voices that come and go, but if you drop the overall level of chatter, those voices seem even louder than before.

Edit - I would love to know the perspective of someone around even longer, say from 1999 or 2001.

berryblondeboys
06-04-2014, 01:08 PM
Well, I've been on this forum here and there for FAR longer than I care to admit. I first joined in it's infancy -forgot my password, they changed platforms, etc. I was here in 1999 and back in 2001 and back again in 2010/2011 and now again in 2014.

WAY back in its infancy, I liked it, but didn't. There were no "blogs" back then, so people had their journals/blogs as individual threads that they just added to it every day - until they quit. :-) people would respond to your posts, etc. There were less individual groups, of course, but there were.

But for current times like 2010/2011 it's just the group dynamics change. Like a classroom, a few posters (same as a few students) can change the vibe of the place. Making it negative, positive, supportive, not supportive, divisive, harmonious, etc.

But, I also think that long time posters do change their behaviors too. And regainers do too. I am having to relose nearly everything I lost... this time I have no need for fanfare, or new photos or announcing new mini goals as the excitement of the journey and new found body is GONE. Now I'm just trying to get back to where I was - where I should be and I know the journey already. I just want to get through it!

I don't have as much patience for "how do I eat on vacation?" or "What should I do for Christmas?" any more. BTDT.... I've got it figured out and get tired of repeating myself. :-)

synger
06-04-2014, 02:04 PM
Like BerryBlondeBoys, I've been around since before the platform change. This was my "home" weight-loss forum, even when I'd also frequent low-carb or diabetic boards.

What I see is more goal and challenge threads, where you give regular updates. And fewer question, news/studies, discussion threads. So I find that I don't participate as much as I once did. I'm not an every-day poster, so I don't want to get into a thread where I need to come back regularly to report.

I'm amazed and gratified by the response to this thread. I thought I was the only one who noticed the change.

The only way it will change BACK is if we put effort into posting threads that engender discussion.

Here are some ideas to get us started (start a new thread for each!)


What health articles have you read lately that have raised questions or given you food for thought (pun intended)?
What sorts of challenges do you have with family or social issues dealing with food?
What is your plan, and why does it work for you?
How do you incorporate exercise into your daily lifestyle,especially if you are still morbidly obese?

SunnyMac
06-04-2014, 06:07 PM
I hear all of this. As an old timer that went away, came back and lurked, went away and has now made the re-commitment coming back active I absolutely know I have changed - I mean I'm almost 10 years older at this point then I was in my first journey where I did successfully lose 50 of my goal 100lbs. My problems are all still there but I am a different person, at a different stage of life, different energy level, different metabolism etc. I think that even though I know the process and what needs to be done and want to just get through it as well I think I also need the fanfare again. It's been so long since I gained back that I don't remember my reformed body anymore and this time it won't be the reformed body of a 20 something so it will be different. I think the fanfare helps me get pumped up and motivated - I never finished my journey last time and I think when I stopped posting here and reading everyone's stuff even when it was a repeat of something I'd already done that was the final straw in when I gave up.

I love the idea about the new threads - I'm a very heavy exerciser and can give advise on that a bit so i can volunteer to get that one started....I've got an hour long train ride home and it will give me something to do!!!!

berryblondeboys
06-04-2014, 07:36 PM
I hear all of this. As an old timer that went away, came back and lurked, went away and has now made the re-commitment coming back active I absolutely know I have changed - I mean I'm almost 10 years older at this point then I was in my first journey where I did successfully lose 50 of my goal 100lbs. My problems are all still there but I am a different person, at a different stage of life, different energy level, different metabolism etc. I think that even though I know the process and what needs to be done and want to just get through it as well I think I also need the fanfare again. It's been so long since I gained back that I don't remember my reformed body anymore and this time it won't be the reformed body of a 20 something so it will be different. I think the fanfare helps me get pumped up and motivated - I never finished my journey last time and I think when I stopped posting here and reading everyone's stuff even when it was a repeat of something I'd already done that was the final straw in when I gave up.

I love the idea about the new threads - I'm a very heavy exerciser and can give advise on that a bit so i can volunteer to get that one started....I've got an hour long train ride home and it will give me something to do!!!!

This is totally understandable. I needed the fanfare between my two big previous attempts as it was similar to what are dealing with now- a decade between attempts. My case this time is that it is less than 2 years, so the old journey is still super fresh in my head.

ubergirl
06-04-2014, 08:14 PM
This is totally understandable. I needed the fanfare between my two big previous attempts as it was similar to what are dealing with now- a decade between attempts. My case this time is that it is less than 2 years, so the old journey is still super fresh in my head.

I hear you on this. Weirdly enough, I see myself as a maintainer with a regain issue, rather than a first time loser.

berryblondeboys
06-04-2014, 08:20 PM
I hear you on this. Weirdly enough, I see myself as a maintainer with a regain issue, rather than a first time loser.

Yes. Exactly.

Durian
06-04-2014, 08:47 PM
With so many sub-forums, the communication is spread out. It's hard to have that community feeling when that happens, IMO.

I think there are a lot of "long-time" posters that lurk more than anything, because after a long while of being in your groove and doing your thing, there's not a ton of new things to say about it. But a lot of us find hanging around to be super-helpful in staying on track.

I agree. The portion I underlined is very true for me.

berryblondeboys
06-04-2014, 09:19 PM
To try to stay on top of things I just hit new threads at the top of the moan forum page and I don't really pay attention to the separate forums. Like this one is in the 100 lb club. Well, not all old timers with opinions are part of the 100 club. I will look to see what forum it is before posting, like, I will refrain from joining a challenge meant for those over 300 pounds, or about dating in the 20s forum, but I will respond to things in various forums without really watching a particular forum. It's the only way I can deal with all the gazillion sub forums.

Arctic Mama
06-04-2014, 09:33 PM
I'm just lazy and have gotten really, really tired of repeating myself :lol:

love2b150
06-04-2014, 11:40 PM
I'm chiming in here ... I hope it ok since I know most of you from the past ... For the reasons that you all are saying it is why when I came back about a year and a half ago I started my own thread and tried to gather up all of the old crew. I have also found that the threads have truly changed since 2010 and people are more competitive it seems rather than helpful. And if something isn't done to suit them they shoot you down, just plan rude. I've always been chatty so I don't mind that as most of you know :)

Olivia7906
06-05-2014, 08:19 AM
I'm chiming in here ... I hope it ok since I know most of you from the past ... For the reasons that you all are saying it is why when I came back about a year and a half ago I started my own thread and tried to gather up all of the old crew. I have also found that the threads have truly changed since 2010 and people are more competitive it seems rather than helpful. And if something isn't done to suit them they shoot you down, just plan rude. I've always been chatty so I don't mind that as most of you know :)

I've noticed some of what you say about shooting you down. That's one thing I can't stand about these boards. People treat their own opinions about particular issues as absolute truth and if it's working for them then everyone should be doing it too. It would be nice to see more acceptance of differences in choices and methods. One person's truth may not be someone else's truth. These boards can be real catty sometimes.

synger
06-05-2014, 11:47 AM
To try to stay on top of things I just hit new threads at the top of the moan forum page and I don't really pay attention to the separate forums. Like this one is in the 100 lb club. Well, not all old timers with opinions are part of the 100 club. I will look to see what forum it is before posting, like, I will refrain from joining a challenge meant for those over 300 pounds, or about dating in the 20s forum, but I will respond to things in various forums without really watching a particular forum. It's the only way I can deal with all the gazillion sub forums.

I'm kinda like that... only 100 lb. club is my "home" forum on 3FC, and I subscribe to two others. I certainly don't go to all the subforums.

Durian
06-05-2014, 01:06 PM
I've noticed some of what you say about shooting you down. That's one thing I can't stand about these boards. People treat their own opinions about particular issues as absolute truth and if it's working for them then everyone should be doing it too. It would be nice to see more acceptance of differences in choices and methods. One person's truth may not be someone else's truth. These boards can be real catty sometimes.

I, too, have noticed this, and I agree with you. The goal is the same/similar, everyone gets there in a different way.

The funny part about it is what works for their body now may not always work for them.

SunnyMac
06-05-2014, 01:40 PM
@berryblondeboys I agree with you 100% - HUGE difference between 10 years and 2 years!

I like to find a 'home' and for me before that was the 100lb club and so thats where I came back to again now that, well, I'm back to having to lose 100lbs. While I lurk on other areas I don't always post but I like to read recipes and look at success stories and photos etc. I'm not going to follow anything that isn't a fit for me (ie I'm not a 20 something anymore so why go there). I follow what resonates for me - I certainly also do not follow everything there is just way too much and I try not to be a jerk and sound like I'm a super know it all - if I knew it all... well.... I wouldn't have regained all my weight.

I like to share what worked for me before, what is working for me now, what HASN'T been working for me at all and I LOVE hearing everyone else's strategies. I find it also helps me to just share in general if I'm struggling - posting is an avenue for me to turn when I want to eat etc. We are all different...what works for one doesn't always work for another. @Durian is right - the goal is the same/similar for all of us - otherwise we wouldn't be here - but our paths and journeys are very personal and individualized. It's not a race, and it's not a competition (but hey if you are competitive person and that helps you then the competition threads are there!). We are here to give support and help each other succeed!

love2b150
06-05-2014, 05:12 PM
Olivia yes they can. I actually like to read what others are doing. Helps me tweak the by the book plans that are out there. Goodness knows I have a bunch of different plans put together to help me get through this journey and it is surely not by any ones book, but it is working for me right now ;)

Durian, my point exactly, ditto :)

SunnyMac ... this is what I've said --> if I knew it all ... well.... I wouldn't have regained all my weight. I too like to share what is working for me. And to re-state what Durian said, the funny thing is what worked for me before doesn't seem to work when I try it again. :dizzy: keeps me learning and trying to figure it all out again. I keep coming back to the boards because here I feel as if most of the people I come in contact with will help me get through what I'm going through on this journey.
again I agree --> our paths and journeys are very personal and individualized. It's not a race, and it's not a competition (but hey if you are competitive person and that helps you then the competition threads are there!). We are supposed to be here to give support and help each other succeed!


thanks for starting this thread Rhonda, and it is nice to talk to talk/chat with nice people :) You all have a great day :hug:

SunnyMac
06-05-2014, 06:04 PM
oh love2b I NOTHING I did the first time seems to be working the second time either!!!!!!! probably the only thing about my 20s that I miss!