40-Somethings - Putting weight ON is so much easier than taking it OFF.




Mrs Snark
04-25-2014, 02:22 PM
Am I right?

Rough past month for me, and I'm back up over my original goal. I'm trying to take it all in stride, but I'd really like to hit something.

Anyway, just standing up in full view of the public (that would be you) and saying that I'm putting a stop to some vicious backsliding RIGHT NOW.

Apparently, I still haven't learned how to deal with serious stress yet. I actually ate better while on my last 2 vacations than I did in my own home over the last 2 weeks. Eek!

Onward.


berryblondeboys
04-25-2014, 02:31 PM
it is way, way, way easier to gain. That is for sure. It can even be downright fun!

Not helping... I know... Enjoying is one thing. Seeing the pudge in the mirror and the bad health effects are a different story.

Shannonsnail
04-25-2014, 03:12 PM
Being that I am losing and nowhere near goal or maintenance it is kind of scary to see how easy it is to gain. For the past 4 yrs I have been very overweight but basically maintaining that weight, not gaining, just staying at an overweight weight (if that makes sense). The thought of regaining after working so hard is disheartening but I am thankful to see the two of you and others here being honest and taking charge. It gives me hope for down the road.


Mrs Snark
04-25-2014, 03:51 PM
We always have hope -- and lots of hard work. Supposedly both are good for the soul! :)

I keep telling myself "Don't Panic." And I know where my towel is. ;)

Thanks for the encouragement. :)

IanG
04-25-2014, 08:31 PM
Not really. I find the faster I gain, the quicker I lose. It's the old weight I have been carrying for years that seems to be tough to bust.

LRH
04-25-2014, 09:45 PM
*Sigh* "Here I go again" seems to be my frequent mantra. But, like you, Michelle, I have hope! That's why my closet is full of too-small clothes! We'll all get there! As you said: Onward!!!

newleaf123
04-25-2014, 09:55 PM
:hug: onward, indeed.

It comes back surprisingly fast. I'm coming to accept that this will be a lifelong battle. For me, that takes some of the power and emotion out of it. The important thing is recognizing the problem and getting back at it.

I am so disappointed in my re-pudgification, but I will not let it get the best of me. I know that you feel and will do the same. :hug:

Zumbachica
04-25-2014, 10:29 PM
Snark you are so right...but I have no doubt in my mind that you will once again get that weight off...and you will find the secret to keeping it off...i once met a woman that lost 100 lbs and she told me that there was a lot of "starting over" along the way...

berryblondeboys
04-25-2014, 11:35 PM
Not really. I find the faster I gain, the quicker I lose. It's the old weight I have been carrying for years that seems to be tough to bust.

Mmmm.... I'm not sure you can really count your "flying overseas, changing my diet a bit, coming back from overseas and seeing the scale has gone up 8 pounds" a true weight gain. Those are fluctuations as your body goes "Whoa!" flying.... different diet.... different awake and sleep times... flying again.... LET'S HOLD WATER!!!

Then, a few days of back to normal and WHOOSH!!! That weight goes away.

That's not the same as staying at home and easing up on exercise, eating twinkies and soda and gaining the "good old fashioned" way. That stuff? It doesn't come off fast and easy. Nope... I think it's slower the second time around. That our perimenopause has me in her grips and is having her way with me.

Bindii
04-26-2014, 01:26 AM
I'm refusing to get on the scales this close to the tail end of Easter - not to mention that we've had house guests for the last two weeks so while I've tried to eat right and I was mostly good I'm thinking that I also will have put on a few of the kg's that I had originally lost.

BUT I am refusing to beat myself up over it and neither should you Mrs Snark because just look at what you have achieved! And I know that you'll drop those pounds quickly because you're so motivated and determined to do it (as I will)... so life is too short to be spending too much time fretting over small slides, instead celebrate the victories and smile! :)

FatAbbi
04-26-2014, 01:37 AM
Try to remember why you lost weight originally. Public shaming yourself will get ya on track ;)

Sydney_2009
04-26-2014, 02:10 AM
Not really. I find the faster I gain, the quicker I lose. It's the old weight I have been carrying for years that seems to be tough to bust.

Lucky blokes always seem to have an easier time losing weight! My partner and I will do the same exact everything, and whereas I lose a measly kilo or two, he loses upwards of a stone or more!! So infuriating!

Mrs Snark
04-26-2014, 10:59 AM
I understand that long term weight loss will be a series of gains and losses, but it's still tough. And I'd like to keep those gains and losses on a smaller scale. Plus I'm disappointed with how willfully and deliberately I sabotaged myself recently. That's disappointing.

I'd been feeling pretty good for a while, but now my feet are back in the fire. I'm anxious to prove to myself that I can self-arrest before I slide right off the mountain (how's that for mixed metaphors).

Thanks for all the calming advice, y'all are the best!

FatAbbi
04-26-2014, 11:17 AM
You have been someone I've read about on here and wished I could be more like. You are stronger than you think!

berryblondeboys
04-26-2014, 01:43 PM
I understand that long term weight loss will be a series of gains and losses, but it's still tough. And I'd like to keep those gains and losses on a smaller scale. Plus I'm disappointed with how willfully and deliberately I sabotaged myself recently. That's disappointing.

I'd been feeling pretty good for a while, but now my feet are back in the fire. I'm anxious to prove to myself that I can self-arrest before I slide right off the mountain (how's that for mixed metaphors).

Thanks for all the calming advice, y'all are the best!

Unfortunately, yes it will be a series of gains and losses, but you did great by catching it quickly!

Mrs Snark
04-27-2014, 11:23 AM
I'm feeling more confident with each day that passes that I can bounce right back and feel good, so thanks you guys for giving me that confidence and dragging me out of the down-in-the-dumps! :hug:

Shannonsnail
04-27-2014, 12:37 PM
I'm feeling more confident with each day that passes that I can bounce right back and feel good, so thanks you guys for giving me that confidence and dragging me out of the down-in-the-dumps! :hug:

So glad to hear that Michelle!

WeightGoingDown
05-01-2014, 08:59 PM
Bravo for admitting your diet snafu and making strides to get back on the right path. I have gotten so angry at my bathroom scale that I have wanted to literally throw it! I overindulged and gained back seven pounds in three days. But, I just put on my big girl pants, sucked it up, and pushed onward.

Pattience
05-01-2014, 09:17 PM
For stress, i have learnt to tackle it sooner rather than later. I know we always don't know what the best thing to do is but if you at least decide to tackle it sooner, a solution will probably come forward sooner.

for me, finding a counsellor to talk to always helps a lot!!! I can't stress that enough. Pardon the pun.

And keeping talking to the person as often as you need until the problems are resolved.

With regard to the food side, this time and in future, i'm determined that life difficulties are not going to force me off my wagon. Part of my determination comes from knowing how hard it is to pick myself up after a fall and the other from having such confidence in my current plan.

So at most, with stress, i would suggest eating a little more at meal times. Ease up on the calorie restriction so this way its planned and i would still eat good foods not the ones that cause me to lose the plot. In fact, don't even try to lose weight under stress conditions. Rather eat at maintenance calories so reduce the appetite and focus on dealing with the problem.

Right now i am procrastinating but i've learnt to do denial quite well so i'm not stressing. But i'm far from perfect.

So i do hope you can get back to it and maybe just start by going back to maintenance calories and eating tons of fruit and vegies. I have really found and am somewhat surprised at how good physically i am feeling because of the variety and bulk of good things in my diet.

Make a firm decision to start this instant and start doing the stuff you have to do. The next time you want to eat make sure its good food, not the carby stuff. chuck out all the junk, count calories, buy lots of vegies and start cooking salads, and fruit. And drinking lots of water. Talk to yourself positively a lot. Positive reinforcement. Lots of that. Avoid looking at, seeing, and thinking about other foods. Change the tv channel. I don't watch a lot of commercial tv but i've noticed that there is a lot of food advertising which can't be helpful.\


Oh i've just seen i didn't read the second page. So its good to see you are on the up again.

IanG
05-01-2014, 10:17 PM
Mmmm.... I'm not sure you can really count your "flying overseas, changing my diet a bit, coming back from overseas and seeing the scale has gone up 8 pounds" a true weight gain. Those are fluctuations as your body goes "Whoa!" flying.... different diet.... different awake and sleep times... flying again.... LET'S HOLD WATER!!!

Then, a few days of back to normal and WHOOSH!!! That weight goes away.


No, I eat a ton when I travel. Not junk mind you and as you state. But if I am at the best restaurant in x, I'm not going to pick a salad! I'm in it for five courses.

kelijpa
05-01-2014, 11:49 PM
It is scary how old habits are lurking in the shadows ready to attempt a return if given the chance.

It is gratifying how quickly getting back to healthy habits can shine a light in the dark corners.

The slippery slope is tough whether it's a few pounds or a few dozen pounds, I'm scrabbling back up trying to get back on unslippery land...

I just came back from a vacation where I was relatively "good" basically got exercise, ate healthier foods than I would have in the past, but on returning home I felt like slacking off, not tracking, not getting the same level of activity, drinking some extra calories...got to the grocery store, got back on plan for a few days, now I feel like my new old self, if that makes any sense. The first day back on was super tough, the next day better and now I feel again like I'm back.

Mrs Snark you're an inspiration, we've got this!

:sunny:

Mrs Snark
05-02-2014, 12:43 PM
Kelijpa - :hug: thanks for the encouragement!

I have no doubt that we can both find our way off the slope and onto flat, solid ground! :) I know for sure what lies at the bottom of the mountain if I fly off the edge, and for all the difficulty that weight maintenance can throw at me, it is still better (waaaay better) than giving up!

And you're right, it is the first couple of days that are the hardest!

kelijpa
05-03-2014, 12:28 AM
:hug: ... and for all the difficulty that weight maintenance can throw at me, it is still better (waaaay better) than giving up!


So, sooooo true! :sunny:

Mrs Snark
05-22-2014, 02:01 PM
So I took the gain back off in a month, so YAY for not allowing the pound-pile-on to get worse, right?

Posting my food in my blog (as boring and as repetitive as it is) really helped me keep focus and gave my mind something to do while chafing against impatience. I'm so not a patient person.

1Bluerose68
08-13-2014, 05:48 PM
Yes I agree. It all goes back to ,"The set point theory of weight loss." Some famous scientist found in his Longitudinal weight loss research that many dieters,Not all, but many have a set point for the body's level of weight loss comfort.:)

If the dieter goes below this range, even by 1 lb it begins a see saw effect or yo yo result in dieting. Long term results were studied, and most dieters who lost weight would usually rebound back to a level of at least what is expected by the Metropolitan Health ht/wt acceptability chart. :carrot:

So if one was 5'9 and wanted to be 125 lbs forever, eventually, and especially in our 40Something years, and esp for women, they would eventually chunk back up to about 145Lbs. This actually is the acceptable weight for a lady of 5'9. :jeno::jeno::jeno::tape::tape::jeno::jeno::jeno:

Therefore, depending on how she lost her weight, either exercise or say bulimia induced, or only fasting and nothing else. One day that woman will inevitably chunk up to a weight that is safe and comfortable for her height and weight, and that's just the theory which i read.:jeno::jeno::jeno::snail::snail::snail:

Also, if 1 enters a treatment program to bring their weight up to speed; they may use this type of a ht/wt chart. Therefore if a woman was always at the weight of say 125, but she's 5'9. They would probably ? how she stayed at the low weight of 125 before she became actually diagnosed with an eating disorder(type ?).:?:

Thus they might require a woman to gain enough to weigh at least 145 lbs before medically releasing her. This is because if a female stopped having her menses :mad::mad::mad: for many years, even before becoming diagnosed as actively having an (ED ?); they may require evidence of Return of Menses prior to medical release of patient.

Unfortunately, many med insurance policies may Not cover this length of the ED patient's stay, and may cut off her coverage after 3 months, whether or Not the patient has regained enough to have her menses return. :mad:

The remainder of the patient's bills could be $1000's of dollars per month, no longer covered by the health insurance either. The cost would then become, 100% the family's responsibility.:?:

It could even become a court battle :judge: if it were a minor and parents would be responsible in finding a source :?: to pay this bill while the youth remained in recovery until she chunked up enough for a "medical clearance"....This could be very costly,:D much more than braces even.....:dizzy::grouphug::coffee::snail::jeno:

1 recovery requirement could be that she regain enough to experience her menses again. For many females this may be at the chart level for wt/height...i.e,(5'9 = 145 and No Less) .:mad:

P.S, it's Definitely more costly to put the weight back on in cases of ED's too.....

Am i still in the U.S.A????? Or, is my Name is Dorothy?????

1Bluerose68

1Bluerose68
08-17-2014, 04:48 PM
Congrats, it looks like you are really losing weight according to your stats.