Looking Good, Feeling Great - How do you know if you're too fat to wear something?




Bout2Lose
04-16-2014, 06:54 PM
I am 5'8 and weigh 165lbs, (want to get down to 130lbs)the other day I wore a miniskirt out in public and felt a tad bit insecure at times. No one gave me any crazy looks that I know of. But I have one of those body types where its hard to tell if I am overweight or not, or if I look too fat in something. if I was too big for the mini dress would someone have told me? or gave me a crazy look. I just don't know how to tell if I look good in something or not


luckymommy
04-16-2014, 06:58 PM
I know what you mean....I often find it hard to tell. You either have to ask someone you trust or you can take a photo of yourself in the mirror. It does help to have a full length mirror, but I find that my brain plays tricks on me. Mainly, you should judge it based on how it makes YOU feel, not what others think. If you feel good in your skirt then don't worry about it. I do believe we should dress in an age appropriate way so at my age I wouldn't wear a miniskirt but you're probably a lot younger. Also, when I do wear a skirt, I wear it with hosiery but that's because my skin has been through a lot after years of ups and downs with my weight.

Locke
04-16-2014, 07:37 PM
You're never too fat to wear something. Ever. Don't ever let anybody tell you you are too heavy, barring public decency laws of course. Wear what makes you feel comfortable. Nobody else can tell you what to wear, only you.


Wannabeskinny
04-16-2014, 08:00 PM
You have to be a little careful about deigning yourself too-fat to fit into something. In my experience it's a slippery slope and it opens a lot of new doors to insecurity. I notice that if I one day say "i'm too fat to wear spaghetti straps" that it even when I lose a little weight the confidence to wear spaghetti straps doesn't come back with weight loss. So really be careful about telling yourself you're too fat to wear something.

On the other hand, having good style and good taste goes beyond weight/size. I can be a dunce about it so I take selfies from my closet or department store dressing rooms and send them to my BFF and she gives me immediately advice like "yo did you get that in the old lady's department???" or "you look great in that but do they have it in a different color? Pink washes you out." And I trust her so I go with it, I know she wouldn't let me look bad and she's very sheek.

Sometimes a selfie can even help me make up my own mind. The mirror and a picture tell different stories so sometimes I look good in the mirror but don't like how it looks in a picture, or vice versa. Find ways to support yourself and keep the words "too fat" out of it! Use words like "Does this compliment my shape?" "Is this shirt to long or too short?" "Would this look better if it was tailored in the bust?" Remember, clothes are inanimate objects, they exist solely for the purpose of making YOU look good, they are not made so that you can make THEM look good got it??

Pattience
04-16-2014, 08:18 PM
I see lots of girls wearing short skirts who i think gee you've got a lot of confidence. I think they don't look great on very big girls but you don't sound like you are in that category at all.

But as suggested above, ask for a second opinion from a trusted friend or family member and if you aren't confident dressing in a certain way, don't push yourself.

I once went to a party wearing a ******* suspender belt and knickers with bra (borrowed from a friend). It was a knickers and jocks party. I was pretty skinny at the time and very young but i felt soooo awfully self conscious and wished i was wearing something more tame. Still no one gave me a hard time or even attempted to maul me. I figure they were quite nice people there. I only knew the two friends i came with. I was glad to leave.

Its usually only boys who would give you direct negative (cruel) feedback about your dress sense but boys will say anything to anyone regardless of how they nice or not they look.

brittslosingit
04-16-2014, 08:40 PM
For me, as long as it fits well and you're comfortable in it, then you can wear it. :)

Brandis
04-16-2014, 09:16 PM
I always think if I don't feel comfortable in it, then it probably isn't for me. I want to be confident in what I wear, because confidence is the best accessory. If I feel great in it, I strut a little and don't much care what others think. If you are comfortable, wear it with your head held high. If not, figure out why and proceed from there. I like the idea of sending a selfie to a good friend. There may be a reason why you are feeling that way. Maybe it's not the worst fashion disaster, but perhaps there's a reason for the insecurity. A little off color- wise, or perhaps it's accessorized poorly. Then again, maybe it is completely unflattering all together for your body type. I do agree that saying someone is too fat for something seems harsh, but there should be some limits with regards to occasion, age, and decency level. Call me a fashion prude I guess, but I do trend towards old lady clothes a lot of the time!

IanG
04-16-2014, 09:22 PM
If I can't button it up.

Katie816
04-16-2014, 09:31 PM
I ask my husband or I take a picture of myself in it. I've found in general that if I have to ask it probably looks bad.

LRH
04-16-2014, 09:38 PM
As the others said, if you feel comfortable and confident, it's probably a good fit.

Sasha29
04-17-2014, 12:23 AM
I think anyone can wear a particular piece of clothing if they buy the right size (not the size you wish you were) and know how to style it. If you like miniskirts but are nervous about people staring, start off with a dark miniskirt and dark tights so you feel more covered. If you like leggings, wear them with a tunic and a nice belt. You don't have to be a size 0 to enjoy fun clothes.

Even skinny fashionistas have an off day, so if you wore something that made you uncomfortable later, try to shrug it off. And like others said, be confident. I saw a video of an overweight woman who walked up and down Sunset Blvd in a tiny bikini. She was confident even though some people made nasty comments. Her confidence and energy made her look great, regardless of her actual size.

krampus
04-17-2014, 11:54 AM
If you can't go on with your business without worrying about how your clothes fit or look and feel uncomfortable, you're not too fat, the clothes are just not right for you.

It's very liberating to lose the "I'm too fat for clothes" and replace it with "These clothes aren't right/These clothes are too small" or something similar.

pixelllate
04-17-2014, 12:47 PM
In my experience, its pretty individual/subjective. If, when you read magazines, or see people in similar outfits, do you personally think that they pull off their outfits well? That could give a good indication of what current state of you can pull of what outfit.

Novus
04-18-2014, 07:48 AM
It's really not so much about body size as it is about body shape. For example, if you've got great legs you're probably gonna rock it in a short skirt (whether you're fat or thin). The question is, "Does this compliment my body?" Not "Am I too fat to wear this?"

Also, you should consider your body style and not what's trendy. The maxi-dress trend is killing me. Tall willowy girls look hot in maxi-dresses. Everyone else looks like a Weeble. Why does no one understand this?

Wannabeskinny
04-18-2014, 08:13 AM
Also, you should consider your body style and not what's trendy. The maxi-dress trend is killing me. Tall willowy girls look hot in maxi-dresses. Everyone else looks like a Weeble. Why does no one understand this?

I'm 5'4", hourglass shape and I rock this trend and intend to rock no matter what anyone says. I've heard a lot of people say that nobody can pull off maxi dresses and have probably said so about me wearing them. But. I. Don't. Care. I'm short, I wear them with gladiator flats, I love how they narrow at my waist and hide my legs, are roomy and breezy, and they show off my upper decolletage which is one of my favorite parts of me. So.... :rain::rain::rain: nobody can rain on my parade.

PatLib
04-18-2014, 08:13 AM
I would follow the fashion blogger Gabi Fresh. She has a lot of great of fashion advice for plus size girls! She is very into dressing for you body type, LOVE her!

http://www.gabifresh.com/

She just started a plus size swimsuit line that is really awesome. You might of heard of it last year the fatkini? That was her! :)

Sum38
04-18-2014, 08:33 AM
As long as you don't get a muffin top and your clothes are not too small, nothing is off limits.

I absolutely hate when people try squeezing into stuff that is clearly too small on them.

underanalysis
04-18-2014, 09:45 AM
If it fits, wear it!

If you're not sure if it fits right, I recommend marathoning What Not to Wear ;) That will definitely teach you what a good fit looks like.

My biggest pet peeve on fit that people seem to think they can get away with is cardigans and blazers that don't button right. If it's too small to button all the way, either don't wear it or wear it open. Buttoning all but the bottom two buttons not only doesn't fool anyone, it draws attention to the fact that your clothes don't fit. Either make sure it buttons 100% before you buy it, or never button it at all. Period.

alaskanlaughter
04-18-2014, 07:07 PM
i think it's really two different questions here:

how do i tell if i'm too fat to wear something?.....when I can't put it on....when it doesn't button up...when it fits like a second skin/sausage casing

comfort is an entirely other matter...and i personally wear what i find comfortable...because if i'm self-conscious wearing it out in public, or if i'm constantly tugging or re-adjusting my clothes, or i feel claustrophobic in something tight but flattering...i simply don't wear those any more...

and i'm extremely picky about what i buy in clothes because if i am not truly comfortable in it, it's just better use of my money that i just don't buy it to start with :)

Hotaruchan
04-19-2014, 10:22 AM
You shouldn't wear something if it makes you feel uncomfortable. If you love how you look in it and strangers judge, that's their problem, not yours.

I would be aware of where you're wearing things and maybe not wear a tiny minidress to a funeral, but at the end of the day if you look in the mirror and feel like a million bucks, that's what you should be wearing.

nostoneunturned
04-28-2014, 03:30 PM
Agreeing with all those who say it's about how you feel. I also agree about highlighting your best features and downplaying things that you feel self-conscious about. I for one never wear shorts or dresses that are above knee length since my thighs are just not my best feature and I feel super, super self-conscious showing them. (I heart Maxi dresses!) I couldn't understand why for the longest time designers made every skirt and dress in super short length. Now I see more knee length things so thank goodness that is coming back in style. Meanwhile I love my collarbone and shoulder area so I rock halters all summer long.

nonameslob
04-28-2014, 03:51 PM
I definitely agree that if you don't feel mentally comfortable in something, don't wear it. However - sometimes you have to break that rule and go out of your comfort zone, because if you don't, you may never realize that you should feel amazing in, for example, that miniskirt!

Whenever I wear a kinda short dress or skirt, I'm constantly paranoid that my butt is showing (big butt problems?) even if I've checked it at every angle and it's 6 inches below my bum. But now and then I'll put on a short dress and suck it up, as long as a friend has told me I look great and need to put the anxiety to rest. Eventually I get comfortable in that piece of clothing. If that makes sense.

angie828
04-28-2014, 03:51 PM
I ask my sisters how it looks on me. They will always be honest with me no matter what.

Olivia7906
04-28-2014, 04:13 PM
You shouldn't wear something if it makes you feel uncomfortable. If you love how you look in it and strangers judge, that's their problem, not yours.

I would be aware of where you're wearing things and maybe not wear a tiny minidress to a funeral, but at the end of the day if you look in the mirror and feel like a million bucks, that's what you should be wearing.

AMEN SISTER!

Paulitens
05-03-2014, 04:15 PM
It's a tricky thing. I don't wear mini skirts or sleeveless tops, or expose my midriff so I guess my outfits are pretty "weight safe" but I do like tight clothes and that's where I have to take a second look and think how I feel in those clothes. For example before I started dieting I was wearing this skinny jeans and I did not realize how they made my thighs look fat and jiggly. I noticed this walking in front of a full body mirror at Target. I felt AWFUL! Nobody was giving me any weird looks but I felt that my body wasn't right for those pants, or that those pants were right for my body. And stopped wearing them.

Sometimes people do wear things that earn them funny looks because they do look plain ridiculous even if they don't care (which, really, good for them if they don't care! but I'm of a different mindset and I like to respect others by dressing in a manner that doesn't result obnoxious to their sight). Anyhow, where was I? Oh, yeah, sometimes our outfits choices are subtle and if we care what others will think (which I do) that's where your choices come in. If we feel comfortable and we don't think we're being ridiculous, then I say go for it!

canadjineh
05-09-2014, 04:54 PM
LOL, I agree with most of the posters... you should be comfortable physically & mentally. There's no point tottering around on high heels if you can't make it from your door to the car without looking like some newborn deer or breaking your ankle.
Also, if you are rockin' the mini, you'd darn well better practice getting in & out of a vehicle (we all remember Britney S.) and swooping (not bending over) to pick something up.
Sausage casings only look good on sausages, form fitting is more flattering. I loved What Not to Wear... Stacey & Clinton were great together and helped so many improve their look. I google Walmart People for a shocking peek at what REALLY not to wear.
Please don't wear fuzzy jammie pants out of your house or those horrifying garden clog Crocs anywhere but your back garden... just sayin. :p

Liana

curvynotlumpy
05-09-2014, 05:07 PM
I google Walmart People for a shocking peek at what REALLY not to wear.


canadjineh, I just pulled up this website...nearly wetting myself! And the commentary...just PRICELESS! Reminds me of the fabulous Cake Wrecks site! Thanks for the Friday laugh! I needed it.

EscapeKitty
05-18-2014, 10:25 AM
Remember, clothes are inanimate objects, they exist solely for the purpose of making YOU look good, they are not made so that you can make THEM look good got it??

As a fashion-impaired gal, let me say this is probably the best piece of fashion advice I've ever heard. Thank you!!