Overeaters Anonymous - Went to my first OA meeting today




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projectjudi
04-14-2014, 10:30 PM
I was nervous so I sat in my car for about 1/2 hour before the meeting started. All the women going in to the meeting were very very young (I am 57). They were also very thin so I guess they have different issues than I do. Got very discouraged and didn't even go into the meeting. Figured that all the girls would think i am grotesque. I have about another 60 pounds to lose.
I am very familiar with the twelve steps as I am clean and sober in NA/AA for 17 years. Guess I will have to do this using the tools from the big book but am soo disappointed.


Shannonsnail
04-15-2014, 12:02 AM
I was nervous so I sat in my car for about 1/2 hour before the meeting started. All the women going in to the meeting were very very young (I am 57). They were also very thin so I guess they have different issues than I do. Got very discouraged and didn't even go into the meeting. Figured that all the girls would think i am grotesque. I have about another 60 pounds to lose.
I am very familiar with the twelve steps as I am clean and sober in NA/AA for 17 years. Guess I will have to do this using the tools from the big book but am soo disappointed.

I went to one OA meeting many many years ago when I was much younger (I am 40 now) and found the opposite. Everyone was much older and much more overweight than me. I felt uncomfortable. Eventually I began attending Celebrate Recovery which is based on 12 steps but with a Christian emphasis and it encompasses all addiction types. I definitely think you can apply what you've learned through NA/AA to eating/food. On the other hand if you really want to attend OA specifically you should go. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. As you know, you don't have to talk if you don't want to. I often gained perspective just from listening to others. You can find a sponsor and perhaps she will have some help for you in feeling more comfortable. Alternatively, I have heard there are phone in meetings. Best wishes!

mariposssa
04-15-2014, 12:06 AM
There are lots of online OA meetings around the clock. Maybe you could try attending one of them and see how you like it b4 going to an in-person meeting again. They also have conference call telephone meeting options.


mariposssa
04-15-2014, 12:11 AM
Here is a link to one of the sites for online OA

http://oa12step4coes.org/meetings.html

maddierep
04-15-2014, 05:36 AM
thanks maripossa!

projectjudi
04-16-2014, 08:22 AM
thanks for the feedback. think I will try the online idea

OK Lizzy
04-16-2014, 01:11 PM
Judi, let us know what you think about the online OA, will you please? I have wished for years that we had OA in my little town, or even within a decent driving distance! I absolutely know that I am addicted to certain behaviors and foods, etc. I have read books about OA, but that's it.

BarbieBoston
04-16-2014, 10:32 PM
Judi, I hear you about facing the thin-lings :) but courage!! You are there for you and you are worth it. I love your tag line!

BrandyEyecandy
04-17-2014, 05:26 AM
I Go To The Telephone Meetings Only Love Them

davina
04-20-2014, 01:41 AM
I havent gone to a face to face yet, some of the telephone meetings are good, you can check out on oa.org

keep in mind that some of the thin people you see have recovered/are in recovery and lost weight.