Weight Loss Support - Goal weight and body size? 0.0
04-01-2014, 07:24 PM
I started out at 267, my weight now is 205, goal is 130 so I'm halfway there. The thing I'm scared of is I'm 5'2 and 20 years old and I'm afraid that on my medium frame, I'm still going to look fat like... I mean I want your alls opinion does that seem like a good size because I want to be a little on the smaller size..I'm just scared that I will reach that goal weight and I wont look like how I imagine. Am I setting my goal a little low should I be aiming for 120?:?:
04-01-2014, 07:44 PM
I have the opposite problem. Wide shoulders long chunky thighs (all that cycling when I was a kid) and 5'6" . I may be able to shed another 30 lbs at a push(currently 212) but it's going to be very hard to maintain. You need to find a weight you can maintain and look healthy at the same time.it would be a shame to get down to where you want to be and realise that you won't be able to maintain your weight. My height and build means my BMI will probably never reach "normal". Well done on your achievements sofar and I look forward to reading your posts ! Xxx Sorrow
04-01-2014, 07:46 PM
I've lost weight before (eons ago) and believe me, you can't really "Pick" a number. Just set something in around a healthy BMI and evaluate when you get there. I got down to 211 (I'm 6 feet tall and big boned), and I looked fantastic. I had originally aimed for 175, but it would have been impossible to maintain and I would have looked sickly.
04-02-2014, 12:43 AM
I used to always weigh between 125-135 with a slim/slender body... well I have broad shoulders, and back then I was thin I was pear-ish...I would say hourglass BUT not thanks to my breast, but to my ribcage and shoulders lol. Now I feel like I can't ever be back to that weight because I've decided that I would like to be more toned and have muscle. So my NEW goal is about 145=) I've seen people tone up and weigh more but look skinnier! I say aim for your original weight but do some weight training...you might surprise yourself and end up looking amazing! Good Luck!!
04-02-2014, 09:38 AM
Target weights should be flexible. If you have Ben overweight for most of your adult life, it will be hard to know where to settle. And... Then there is the "what am I willing to do to maintain that weight". On top of that, our image of what we want to look like and reality won't be the same. Maybe you will discover you are more of an apple shape... Or your boobs will disappear. Or you will have saddlebags that won't go away. You could be at a perfect BMI, but find that your image of your body doesn't look like the magazine covers because you don't have a magazine cover body. So then what? Give up? Gain the weight again? No. Be ause without a doubt you will be healthier at a lower weight and you will without a doubt look better, even with imperfections.
It can be discouraging, but you have to come to grips with it. Al ost no one is happy with their body - even those you might find perfect, the owner of that body probably doesn't feel that way about it. We are just stupid crazy like that.
And as far as lovers go - they will be far more forgiving than you will be. Most people just want a healthy partner. They don't expect their lover to look like they are a porn star.
04-02-2014, 11:36 AM
It might help to see others that are similar sizes. Check out mybodygallery.com. You might find that you're closer to how you'd like to look than you think :)
04-02-2014, 12:54 PM
I would only start to think about a final goal once you are 5-10lbs away from it, otherwise how will you know? Best to just focus on the mini goals before the stop.
04-02-2014, 03:07 PM
I agree with everyone else. I think without being really close it is just to hard to pick a realistic goal weight.
I set mine to 165 which is just at the line above normal BMI for my height but I think that will still be much bigger then I would like. So once I hit 165 I can reevaluate and see where I wanna go from there.
So maybe stick with 130 for now and once you hit it then rejudge if you want a new goal or stay there.
04-02-2014, 03:55 PM
I have this same battle too, as I have been overweight my entire adult life and most of my childhood. I set a number based around BMI for now, and am trying to remind myself that I will figure it out when I get there.
Breathe easy. You'll figure it out when the time comes. And you're already doing amazing.
04-02-2014, 05:51 PM
I am 5'2" and my goal is between 105 and 110, but I would be happy anywhere under 120. Of course, theses are just my goals and you have to do what feels right for you. I notice that my athletic performance improves a lot when I lose weight. When I'm losing I'm often weaker, but after when I am maintaining I am a lot stronger, so think about your athletic goals if you have any. Also, I would definitely do toning exercises because I saw a picture of a girl who weighs 135 and she looks better toned than she did not toned at 118 (fitter and slimmer). I rock climb and I run track and cross country, so I think I'm pretty toned, but I don't look like how I want to yet. Also, I may not get down to between 105 and 110 because it might be too hard to shed the last few lbs or maybe I'll be happy when I look in the mirror at 115lbs. I would just see how you feel. I'm just giving you my goals because we are the same height but by no means do I think you should change your just because of what I say
04-02-2014, 05:56 PM
I'm 5'2, currently 203lbs and aiming for 130. When I was 130 before I think I looked good - and it was maintainable (even if I didn't!). I have a photo of when I was about 130 and I'm hoping to look like that again.
04-02-2014, 06:12 PM
I'm 5'2 & 223, but I have that big shoulder, little leg body- the upside down triangle with a big belly is me. I'm currently aiming to get under 200- that's my focus for now- but I think it will take me many years to break 150 if I ever do. that's been my lowest weight since puberty, and I was at peak health then. I agree with the suggestion to look at the body gallery. It always gives me an honest perspective.
I also agree that goals are flexible. I would love to someday be in a healthy BMI range, but maybe I will be happy and confident at some other point along the way & decide to maintain there for a bit.
Also noticed you're in Kingsport. All my family is in Morristown, and we're pink hair twinsies :)
Good luck to you!!
04-03-2014, 03:00 AM
I think that your goal of 130 is fair if you don't want to be too thin. I'm at 132 now and I still have 15ish lbs to lose. To be in the healthy weight range, I have about 5 lbs to go. In all fairness, I would wait until you lose 1/3-1/2 more of your weight before you make any decisions on what you want to stop at because, from my own experience, it's hard to judge imagination vs. reality.
04-04-2014, 08:43 AM
I believe a person's ideal weight is where he/she feels alert, energetic, fit, and healthy. So simply just focus on your healthy diet, effective exercises, and other weight loss plans and don't worry about the numbers.
The important thing is to:
Be persistent - don't give up. And trust your feelings and what your body tells you.
04-04-2014, 09:16 AM
Like everyone is saying - choose a weight that you think will be comfortable. I am not a huge fan of BMI calculations because at 5'7 a healthy weight for me is supposedly between 135 and 150 but I am never going to be a small girl. If I get to 150 (never mind 135) I will look like a skeleton with my structure. Don't structre everything around teh BMI but rather around how you feel when you hit your goal weight.
Once you hit 130 - take time to reevaluate and if you feel you could lose more then go for it!
04-04-2014, 02:35 PM
H*ll...I'm 5'1 and somewhere between 135-138. My lowest was 126 and I've been maintaining within 10lbs for nearly 4 years. I would rather weight 125lb, but I'm done counting every calorie and being miserable. My measurements are 34/27.5/37 and I wear size xsmall for tops, 4 or 6 for bottoms.
I lift, run, cycle, walk a ton, practice yoga and my bodyfat is at approx. 22%. ....who cares what the scale says. I'm sure many people would love to have my body even if it's "heavier". it's how you look and how you feel. At this "weight" I can also eat without being obsessed about the stupid scale.
Like the others have said too, you won't know for sure until you get closer to goal, and Melissa (berryblondeboys) has probably given you the best advice.
....it's a shame that we spend so much time focusing on the scale. we need to concentrate our energy on the quality of our diet and exercise. Eat a variety of whole foods (not food products) that are good for you in moderate amounts, get lots of fresh air and activity, and focus on a healthy lifestyle and everything else will fall into place and be manageable for years to come.
good luck and all the best :)
I'm aiming for 130! and I'm 5'2. I have photos of me where I think I'm around 140-150 and I still look bigger that most girls, but nothing like my starting weight. I always get told my goal weight is still high, but my doctor has told me that's it's a good place to be, so I'm just going to be flexible when it gets to that point!
04-04-2014, 05:56 PM
I am your height and 130 looks great on me. Curvy, muscular, not too "wasted" looking.
04-09-2014, 10:26 PM
04-10-2014, 05:09 PM
I am 5'2...130 is my goal even though it has been a looong time since i have been that weight! I just recently got into the 160's and that was exciting!
06-16-2014, 01:58 AM
I'm 5'3 and aiming for 105-100 too. I have broad shoulder and big belly. I lose weight but the only problem I have now is how to reduce my fats in my shoulder and belly. I tried many workouts, lifting and other exercises but swinging, cycling and swimming are the best for me. It toned up my muscles and I don't have that fat anymore.
06-21-2014, 07:53 AM
I'm 5'2 and 124 and don't look fat. However, it is true you can still look fat at 120. we all have seem women who are thin but are outta shape and still have fat.
I don't know if you lift weights. But i tell you this if you lift weights it will help you. Cardio is great but it's only for that time you workout.. when you lift weights it keeps the body burning calories all day.
A lot of women are scared to lift weights because they think its manly. however, we all need to build muscles because as we age we lose muscle mass.
06-21-2014, 09:20 AM
It really depends on your frame. I am just under 5'6" and my goal is 130...I've been down to like 142 at my lowest and I was definitely still fat and roley poley. But I have a very small frame. I hate it. For someone that struggles with weight, it would be nice to not have to struggle with this all the way down to such a low weight for my height. And I also just picked that number. Its possible that I might need to lose a bit more once I get there. Like others have said, just pick the number and you will really know whats good for you when you get closer. Don't forget, if you are doing a weight lifting routine, that you can weight more and be leaner. My last time losing weight I was only running, no weight lifting, so I'm hoping this time around that 130 (maybe even higher) will look good because I am lifting. :)
07-06-2014, 09:12 PM
Just as other people have been saying... I wouldn't set a goal in stone entirely because you need to feel your way there. Everybody's body type is different, everybody carries weight differently, and loose skin is something else entirely that might cause a bit of a higher number on the scale than shows.
Everybody's goal is to be healthy, strong and happy. If you have to, don't even think about the scale. Just keep going until you can look down at yourself and say, wow, I'm happy with where I am! Satisfaction is a feeling, not a number. You'll know it when you feel it and the scale's not going to tell you. Just rely on your own feelings and comfort, that's your best judge.
Maybe it's way higher than you think or even a bit lower... just keep going until you find what you're looking for. :cheer2:
07-07-2014, 01:26 AM
I think picking a goal is really hard. I've had doctors and nutritionist both tell me that at 5'1 I should weigh only 115 lbs at most. I got down to that weight once before my first child and I looked anorexic. My problem? I was gifted with an hourglass figure on a farm girl's frame as in...I have what my grams called birthing hips, a narrow waist, and broad shoulders. Even as a young girl I had to wear larger t-shirts to fit my shoulders in them. My ideal weight is around 140 but I'm setting a more manageable goal at 150-160 lbs.