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Rechyl
01-26-2014, 05:16 PM
so i've just ended week 2 on the restart of my healthier life-style. Been eating mostly within my calories (one bad night where 5 choc biscuits were eaten) and ive walked/jogged for 30-40 mins on 3 days each week. The first week i lost 2lbs and tomorrow i weigh in again. I am so scared that it will be bad, its all i can think of. I tell myself all these sayings - slow and steady, remember TOM is due soon, remember water retention, remember building muscle, remember even 0.5lbs is a loss but i know if i dont see a nice solid 2lb weigh loss tomorrow i will be disappointed and it might throw me off track.

HELP! what do i do? part says, just dont weigh, then i cant get wound up about it but i dont know if not knowing would be worse.


shcirerf
01-26-2014, 05:28 PM
Just do it. It's only data.

Saw this saying the other day.

"The scale can only give you a numerical reflection of your relationship with gravity."

Fluctuations are normal. Just keep concentrating on the little things and the big things will fall into place.:D

Secret Swan
01-26-2014, 05:29 PM
Weigh yourself anyway. Remind yourself that it's just a number and not kind of judgement. You've been doing well. Trust your plan. But knowledge is power. Your weight will be the same whether or not you measure it, so measure it. As you build a data set, being familiar with regular fluctuations is very useful.


SeeMyFeet
01-26-2014, 05:59 PM
A weigh-in is a photograph, and your life is a movie.

I've lived this question, an also seen it asked over and over on this forum. If your psychological relationship with the scale might lead you to backslide or self-sabotage your efforts when you see a "bad" number, then, in my opinion, you should weigh yourself daily OR monthly (or even less frequently).

I weigh every day and graph the results. If I only graphed Sunday's weigh-in results, or Tuesday's, or Thursday's, etc. and compared the weekly results, I would draw different conclusions regarding the success of my efforts. It's the average that's instructive.

Have a look at some of the daily weigh-in postings. The daily weights can vary quite a bit even for ladies who are losing quickly. PATIENCE is important.

seagirl
01-26-2014, 06:16 PM
if you think you are going to be thrown off one week in, what does that tell you about your commitment to this?

I weigh daily, too, and it prevents the whole "ooh, all my hopes and dreams depend on the one number on this one day!" It is a number, and if you weigh daily it takes some of the power away from it.

It;s more important that you find a sustainable plan you can live with, day in and day out, come holiday/bad day/good day/etc. You said you are in "re-start", think about what you stopped that you need to re-start.

This is a long journey. Breathe, have patience, and work on the things you can control. The scale is not one of them.

Mad Donnelly
01-26-2014, 07:05 PM
Yeah, it's just a tool. Not the end all and be all. And it's not a static number. There are all sorts of things that can show a variation. I have shoved the scale around to different parts of the floor just to see if I could get a change and, yep, after enough tries, it'll sometimes change by a half a pound.

But, if it doesn't, it doesn't throw me off either.

lin43
01-27-2014, 03:13 PM
I lost down to my goal weight without stepping on the scale even once during the process. When I finally weighed myself (after I decided I was the size I wanted to be), I was under my goal weight. That was more than two years ago, and I still only occasionally get on the scale (every couple of months). For some folks, getting on the scale daily helps them to conquer the fear of weighing. For me, though, I tend to fret about fluctuations too much, so I find it best to avoid it and just check up every now and then to be sure I'm not lying to myself.

LilDazed
01-27-2014, 03:19 PM
so i've just ended week 2 on the restart of my healthier life-style. Been eating mostly within my calories (one bad night where 5 choc biscuits were eaten) and ive walked/jogged for 30-40 mins on 3 days each week. The first week i lost 2lbs and tomorrow i weigh in again. I am so scared that it will be bad, its all i can think of. I tell myself all these sayings - slow and steady, remember TOM is due soon, remember water retention, remember building muscle, remember even 0.5lbs is a loss but i know if i dont see a nice solid 2lb weigh loss tomorrow i will be disappointed and it might throw me off track.

HELP! what do i do? part says, just dont weigh, then i cant get wound up about it but i dont know if not knowing would be worse.

If seeing the number is going to stress you out too much, then I say wait another week. But make sure to keep up the good habits until your next weigh-in. It still shows commitment.

Unless seeing the number is going to push you to work even harder, which if that's the case, go for it and see what you're working with. :)

Koshka
01-27-2014, 03:46 PM
One reason I weigh every day is that I get used to the every day fluctuations in weight. This morning I was up .4 pounds. But I know that I did fine the last couple of days, so I'm not panicked about it. I weigh in officially once a week at WW and it used to drive me crazy to be up, particularly when I had had a good week. I would avoid going so I wouldn't weigh in at a gain. And, that then meant I went off track.

So, now I weigh every day and while I don't like having a gain at WW I am much more philosophical about it, particularly if the day before I have a loss and the day after I have a loss. I realize that "up" weigh in was just a normal fluctuation.

On the other hand, if I'm up every day for a week then I know that I actually have gained weight so I need to change something.

Mad Donnelly
01-27-2014, 04:31 PM
Clothes Sizes (not lbs):
Aww, I really wanted to get down to 6 pounds. :) :D I mean, I wouldn't even be a complete head, right?

Avezy44
01-27-2014, 04:53 PM
I agree with what was said about putting it off to your next weigh in if you're super nervous about it. If you do weigh in on the day you'll be holding yourself accountable which is pretty empowering. Neither is really wrong or right. You know your mistakes and your accomplishments. It's just a number girly. Don't let it rule your life. You've made a lot of progress just keep your head up and keep pushing ahead :)

TooWicky
01-27-2014, 06:00 PM
Once you have a few more data points under your belt, the weigh-ins do get easier :) You'll see that weight loss isn't necessarily an even, same number every week weight loss. It may even be a gain here and there, some same weights, and a lot of losses. It's the overall big picture trend that counts. I've been doing weekly weigh-ins since last July without fail, even when I reeeeaaaally did not want to get on that scale, lol. It taught me that, yes, factors like water retention, TOM, and muscle building do indeed "interfere" with weigh-ins, but that is part of the process. Have faith in your methods and don't let an undesirable weigh-in derail you. Stay the course, and good luck :)

Rechyl
01-27-2014, 06:20 PM
thanks all for your replies. I did weigh in and was down 0.4lbs. To say im disappointed is an understatement but i have to keep going. This is my second burst of weightloss, i lost 25lbs a year ago and then fell ill with random blackouts and unable to get out of bed most days and if i did by lunch i was exhausted. during this time i managed to maintain within a 5lb bracket without much effort. I think im better now health wise so thought i should get going again.
i wanted slow and steady but 0.4lbs is too slow for what i hoped for my third week. its disappointing but i wont let it stop me. i will keep going and if in another 2 weeks i havent lost much more (say 3lbs) ill revise what im doing. Its frustrating because before i got ill i was losing great.

Radiojane
01-27-2014, 06:25 PM
I weigh every day, because it keeps me on plan. I either am so happy to see it moving down that I stay on plan, or I'm ticked off that it went up and I work harder. Basically, weighing once per week or less wouldn't keep me accountable enough.

But I'm one type of person. If you're this freaked out about it, then you aren't doing yourself any favors. Maybe take your measurements once a month. Or watch your clothing sizes fall. As long as you have the willpower to stay on plan and some way of tracking your progress, then you don't really NEED the scale.

Radiojane
01-27-2014, 06:26 PM
We must have been posting at the same time!

.4 is still a loss. And since you're weighing weekly, it could be a one day anomaly masking real progress. Keep up the good work!

nitrus29
01-27-2014, 06:35 PM
don't be scared of the scale. Once you start losing a bit more, you'll be obsessed with it trust me :) you're doing well.. keep at it!

seagirl
01-27-2014, 09:00 PM
What speed are you expecting the weight to come off?

What are you doing now that you think you would change if the scale doesn't say what you want next time?

.4 is weight loss. Don't ever knock it or make your body feel bad for not doing what you think it should be doing. Just because you have decided to go back to whatever it was before when you were losing weight, doesn't mean your body is going to instantly cooperate in a way that is regularly, sufficiently and consistently reflected on the scale.

You have lost weight 2 weeks in a row, AND maintained your prior loss while you were sick. I think your body is doing pretty freaking awesome right about now.

LovesToTravel
01-27-2014, 09:12 PM
thanks all for your replies. I did weigh in and was down 0.4lbs. To say im disappointed is an understatement but i have to keep going.

I didn't have time to reply yesterday, but I just wanted to add my support, Rechyl. I'm sorry the weigh-in was a disappointment, but I still say congratulations! Both for your loss and for being brave enough to face your fears once you decided that weighing was what you wanted to do. I hope your health issues are gone for good and wish you the best of luck. Please continue to let us know how you're doing!

Atarimae
01-28-2014, 07:57 AM
Congratulations on the weight loss! One thing you'd also have to remember is that as you become smaller, it'll become harder for your body to shed off the weight. Also with TOM around the corner, you have to remember it's a period of time (no pun intended) in which your body will retain water, so keep that in mind! I'm obsessed with my scale as well, and I can't exactly say it was always a good thing. Weekly weigh-ins may not be for you if you're worried too much about that number. Personally I'd go for every day or once a month. (Every day because at least you can track the general direction your weight is going; once a month because if the weight doesn't come off, with that number it's a little more obvious that some tweaking is necessary.)

CrystalNichols44
01-28-2014, 08:15 AM
I weighed myself a few weeks ago and the scale said i had lost a total of 32 pounds. I was really excited and then a few days later i weighed myself again only to have it tell me i gained 10 back. (I made the mistake of holding onto the wall a little to much becaus of where my scale is and it took off the 10 pounds and made it look like i lost it when i really didnt) But before i realized what i was doing wrong i got really upset i was crying and very depressed about it. But then i started thinking "I made it this far why give up now?" So i started working harder and thats when i realized what i was doing wrong weighing myself, but it gave me the motivation to try harder and work harder so i can see results. Dont get upset if you happen to gain a pound or two. Let it motivate you to work harder. My fave saying I have hanging on my bathroom mirror says "If your tired of starting over, STOP giving up!":hug:

gymrat05
01-28-2014, 01:39 PM
Keep in mind that if TOM is due you could *gain* weight. I went up 2 lbs right before my TOM and then it all came off (and then some) a few days in. Losing at all is great. I bet you'll get a good whoosh next week.

sweetnlow28
01-28-2014, 03:48 PM
I second those who mentioned TOM being the culprit. I always avoid weighing around that time even though I don't have periods anymore (hysterectomy) but I still bloat . Hormones wreck havock with our weigh ins for sure. You are doing amazing! If you find the scale is stressing you out, you might want to consider weighing only once or twice a month. That is what I do now. I pick a random day when I feel like I'm not bloated in the morning and I have used the bathroom. It seems to be working well and I am less stressed. Everyone has different needs when it comes to tracking. You will find what works for you ;)

Rechyl
01-30-2014, 04:13 PM
just to update, i weighed again this morning and 1.2lbs down since monday so thats good. TOM came this afternoon so thats also good, a few days and then i can see what difference it makes

sparklesgirl007
02-01-2014, 05:33 AM
I always say weigh anyway. sometimes i hate knowing but in the end you don't want to wish you checked earlier. that's how my weight gain all started =(