40-Somethings - Did that number 40? throw you for a loop?




ames14
01-09-2014, 10:20 AM
Hello,
maybe its just me.. But since I have turned 40.
I cant seem to get out of my own way..
I cant decide where I belong... Mid Life Crisis?
I cant figure out, how exactly I should feel.

LOL. pathetic I sound..
Deep inside I want to lose the weight...
When you turned 40 did it seem to make it impossible for you?


Sum38
01-09-2014, 10:39 AM
40's have been a very interesting decade for me, to say the least. My hormones have gone wild. I felt more balanced in my 30's and hope that my late 40's and 50's will bring calmer waters my way.

I was very thin until my late 30's. Due to some unseen circumstances, an illness that was misdiagnosed, I was placed on mega doze of prednisone and it brought on, partly, the pounds. Secondly I think because of my raging hormones, I gained weight.

I do feel more balanced in my mid 40's. Partly because I have obtained some inner peace, and come to terms of being 40 something.

Weight loss is doable. One just has to be ready to commit. I think metabolism has slowed down a little bit and one must work at it a bit harder, but it can be done.

Looking forward to seeing you on 40 something forums. Good luck.

FatAbbi
01-09-2014, 01:10 PM
I have taken 40 badly. My oldest girl turns 21 this Saturday, which I am taking about as well as I took 40.... ugh. ugh. ugh.


ames14
01-09-2014, 02:16 PM
I was never actually able to have children.. Lost 1 pregnancy.
So I think 40 kinda of Snook up on me.. I always been over weight..
but just seems like since I turned 40 Im OLD...
MY hormones always been screwed up rofl.. so its not that..
just seems like I think of myself as old..
Positive thinking is needed I guess..
I just don't feel like I will ever lose this weight..
Anyone over 40 losing weight? lol

Mrs Snark
01-09-2014, 02:27 PM
I took 40 better than I took 45, that's for sure. Then 46 happened, blerg.

I'm mentally saving up for a real conniption fit on my 50th. It's going to be something to see, you can bet on that. ;)

And yes, you can lose weight in your 40s.

TooWicky
01-09-2014, 06:36 PM
The 40s have been a strange combo for me (I'm in my late 40s now.) While most of my peers have children in college or out on their own, and are starting to get some time to themselves, I have two kids in elementary school. I am living the life of a mom with young children in the home, even though I am grandma-aged for the rural midwest area in which I live. It has kept me young in some ways, I guess. My interests usually dovetail with those of a somewhat younger generation (gaming, etc.)

I'm definitely older, and, obesity aside, there are the usual changes in appearance happening as women get into middle age. I'm a cerebral person, so I have been viewing how the world treats and sees aging women with interest. Sometimes we become invisible to people or at least that is what I have been observing. Despite this, I have always loved whatever age I am, and my 40s are no exception! I definitely feel more... confident, settled, peaceful, balanced, etc. I have tackled my weight loss with aplomb - you can absolutely lose weight at 40+ years of age :) This is a great age decade, although the hormonal changes can be annoying ;P

mezmerelda
01-09-2014, 06:50 PM
I've been happier in my 40s, but my hormones have been wonky too. To be fair, the hormones and wonkiness started in my late 30s, and I think it was due to birth control, and I'm trying to fix that now. I haven't been able to lose weight since my late 30s, and the weight gain didn't really start for me until 39. I'm not giving up, but I'm also trying to learn how to love myself extra pounds and all. I'd still prefer to be 35. :-)

Cattails
01-09-2014, 08:33 PM
I was thin until my 20's and started having children. My weight bounced around from overweight to obese for the past 2 decades. It wasn't until I was 44, heavier than I'd ever been before and I felt so lousy (physically and mentally) that I found it in myself to seize control and lose all the weight. So, for me, no, turning 40 wasn't really traumatic in itself, and I didn't find it difficult to lose weight in this decade.

Here's hoping that you get settled into your 40's more comfortably soon. :)

Lunula
01-10-2014, 12:32 PM
40 was traumatic for me, but, when the calendar flipped to 2011 and I was faced with turning 40 that April, I finally decided to change my life and get healthy. I reached a point, honestly, that it was either follow-through with suicide, or change my life.

So far, my 40's have been much happier and more interesting than my 30's. Every wrinkle and every gray hair STILL bother me, but my weight is not an issue anymore - and that was the thing that more heavily weighed on me than anything else.

EagleRiverDee
01-10-2014, 03:17 PM
40 was hard for me. I had no problems with 30, or 35. 40, yeah. I think it's because I identify 40's with becoming middle aged and since my family tend to live to be about 80 I see that half my life is used up and that's disconcerting. Also, I haven't achieved some of the things in life that I feel I should have achieved at this age, and that makes me feel kind of like a loser.

Narae
01-12-2014, 11:46 AM
I am a few weeks older than 45. I do not feel too much older than 44. :)

ames14
01-12-2014, 02:51 PM
First of all, thank you all for sharing your feelings
about 40 with me..

I know it may seem silly, I would appreciate any age I am..
Look at the other choice..

But again not having kids.. I didn't see the years really go by. same thing in and out...My husband is great he still thinks im the same.. Beautiful and all of that.. but I would say the past 4 months I put on about 15 lbs. and It really pushed me over from being chunky to FAT...

So tomorrow 1/13 Im going back on low carb.. Water and walking..
hoping to be down 15 lbs by valentines day! so I can hold my head up higher because right now.. Im a mess..

thank you all !

Vex
01-13-2014, 11:40 AM
Heck no.

I'm 44 and am the smallest I've been since I was 17. I started losing weight when I was 42.

Yes, I have wrinkles and as my highlights grow out of my hair, there's gray underneath, but I feel and look better than I have in a long, long time.

BuffieLynn
01-14-2014, 01:46 AM
I guess 40 will be ok for me...5 more weeks. I have been looking around on this board rather than the 30-something's board. I seem to have more in common here. :)

Anyway, I feel like 40 is a whole new world...I will be my smallest in the past 21 years. Still have kiddos at home but, two of them are in high school.

Somehow I thought it would bug me but, we are headed to Vegas to celebrate and with my new "getting healthy" body will have loads of fun! Here's looking forward to 40 Fit and Fabulous!

Sassyblonde
01-14-2014, 03:08 AM
Coming up on 40 was hard but now at 41 it's actually great. I feel better at 41 than I did in most of the last 20 years. At 40 I would joke that I wish I had my mind at 40 and my body at 20 but now I weigh less and feel healthier than I did at 20! I feel like 40 opened a brand new Chapter in my life. I am going after all of my goals and believe they are within reach! I am loving my 40's!

lyv33
01-20-2014, 08:53 PM
No, but 41 did make me depressed

pkstracy
02-24-2014, 02:19 PM
I loved turning forty, It didn't bother me at all, I will be 41 Sunday and am looking forward to that, the reason being is because I got to live another year and enjoy life, I am at a place now to where I can start FLYING< (finally loving youself) I am thankful that I have had 41 years, if certain things didn't happen I wouldn't be here to say hello to all of you. :)

Sum38
02-24-2014, 02:39 PM
Happy Birthday pkstracy!

Babylongal
03-31-2014, 10:13 AM
Hello,
maybe its just me.. But since I have turned 40.
I cant seem to get out of my own way..
I cant decide where I belong... Mid Life Crisis?
I cant figure out, how exactly I should feel.

LOL. pathetic I sound..
Deep inside I want to lose the weight...
When you turned 40 did it seem to make it impossible for you?

I know this is old.but I just joined and could've written this. Its alll me.

kaplods
03-31-2014, 10:25 AM
I just turned 48, and it's the first birthday that made me uncomfortable in any way. I've said since my late 20's that if I'm ever tempted to lie about my age, I will lie "up" so that I'm guaranteed to look younger than the age I claim.

As to my weight loss efforts and aging, ageing (maturing, anyway) has actually helping me in some ways and is hurting me in others. My metabolism is drastically reduced, but my knowledge and patience with myself are drastically improved.

seaurchin
03-31-2014, 08:03 PM
Turning 30 was traumatic for me. I always said that once I hit 40, that i would start counting backwards! I'll be 30 again soon. I wonder how traumatic it will be the second time around LOL. Seriously though. I'm not looking forward in reaching 50 in just a couple of short years. Turning 40 wasn't so bad! However for the last 5 years i've been trying to get healthy, lose weight, and live a better lifestyle in anticipation of feeling younger and looking better in my 50's. The best part of my life has been the last 10 years, so I can't complain much about being 40+. Let's see how I feel when I hit 50 in two years. If i'm at goal weight and still have no wrinkles, i'll be a happy camper at 50.

Lunula
04-03-2014, 02:42 PM
Did turning 40 make is seem impossible for me? Quite the opposite!! The year I turned 40 was when I started all of this, and 3 years later, I'm still maintaining and working - something I tried over & over & over in my 30s and even in my 20s, and couldn't accomplish.

40 turned my world upside down and I'll admit, I had a mid-life crisis. BUT, it worked in my favor because I haven't been this active or healthy since my early 20s.

I have a different perspective on my life now because by all accounts, it is half over. That was a sobering thought for me, but that's what midlife means. Did I really want to waste the last half of my life miserable, stuffing my face with anything I could get my hands on, ruining my health, losing friends and isolating myself from the world? Heck no!

I've said it on other threads, but I'll say it again, the last 3 years have been some of the best years of my life - and it's ALL because I made the choice to get healthy!

Zumbachica
04-03-2014, 05:15 PM
I don't remember really having a crisis when i turned 40...I was in good shape, and I was very busy with my kids so I didn't really think about things as being any worse .....I think now that i'm quickly getting to 50 (Im 47 now) Im starting to panic..I just HATE that number...to me 50 means old...so that is when the crisis will come.

Mrs Snark
04-03-2014, 05:55 PM
Zumbachica -- I will admit to hyperventilating a bit when I think of 50. I think of all the things I was supposed to accomplish by 50:

- Read all of my insurance policies (home, auto, life), from the first word to the very last word, and attempt to understand them. Nope, still haven't done that and to be honest, I don't see it happening either.

- Learn how to play Bridge and guitar. Nooooooope.

- Learn how to dirty talk in French (this was requested by Mr. Snark). Unless "cherchez la femme" and "un oeuf" count as naughty talk... FAIL.

- Have my "colors done." Nope, still clueless but I'm going to go with "Black like my heart" as my signature color.

- Sky dive. Ha ha ha haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. Not going to happen.

- Pierce my eyebrow (I added this to the list during my brief goth phase of 1982). I've since rethought this as being way too painful.

- Wear a monocle (added to the list during my super brief Steampunk period of 2010). I now need REAL glasses to see at all, so the fake fashion ones are a no go.

- Locate my chakras. Still searching.

And so much more -- the list of my non-accomplishments is endless. And 50 is just coming up way too fast.

Zumbachica
04-03-2014, 06:07 PM
OMGosh Snark, if i made out my 50 list i'd probably be typing forever....depressing.....

Shannonsnail
04-07-2014, 01:14 AM
Sometimes I feel like I wasted alot of time or rather took my time for granted. I will be 41 in May. Most women my age seem to have teenagers or even college age kids but I married late and have a 3.5 yr old. When I am at the preschool I am clearly the oldest mom in my daughter's class so I am reminded regularly of my "advanced maternal age" lol! I think our daughter will be an only child at this point but I'm a little sad because I always hoped to have 2. Weight issues in both me and my husband have contributed to that so I'm resentful of the 40s too. But, it is what it is and I can only change me so I am finally ready to focus on doing that by working on my health and weight. I am hoping at some point the husband will follow.

Martha L
04-12-2014, 08:16 PM
I really need to be here. This is my first time. I need to say that I need this support group. I am having trouble since 40 to lose because my metabolism has slowed and I have terrible self control issues. Another problem I have is waking up every morning beating myself up for the day's binging yesterday. I will get to a diet, be on it for a day, and the next day I will be eating whatever I want because-I don't know! It feels like there is some kind of switch in my mind that is stuck on "fail again". I really feel embarrassed that I have to tell you all this but I know that I have to have some support. Even if no one comments, it's feels so good to get that out there. Thanks for listening. M

novangel
04-13-2014, 11:16 PM
I'll be joining you guys in August. *sigh

I have been dreading the big 4-0 for about 2 years. I lost all of my excess weight but now my face now looks older. Can't win. :/ I admit I'm vain and having a very hard time accepting getting older.

There's a lot of things I have wanted to accomplish and I'm working on it. Traveling is a big one and I'm finally putting it into action starting this November even though I'm petrified of flying. I have avoided flying since 1995 so this is huge for me.

Oh well.. See you ladies soon.

Martha L
04-25-2014, 02:04 AM
I'm new here and I hope my post gets read. I have been doing well on a diet, I use a diet app and I woke up looking thinner two days ago. I loved it. Then I slipped and now imI'm not so thin looking again. I'm 42 and still want to be thin. Love what eating less does for me in other areas too. I want to start a overeat and nightmare thread when I learn how because I am having nightmares not only when I eat 3000, but now when I eat 2000. It's just too much food at my age. Our need to get up and move. Thank you.

Shannonsnail
04-25-2014, 10:38 AM
I'm new here and I hope my post gets read. I have been doing well on a diet, I use a diet app and I woke up looking thinner two days ago. I loved it. Then I slipped and now imI'm not so thin looking again. I'm 42 and still want to be thin. Love what eating less does for me in other areas too. I want to start a overeat and nightmare thread when I learn how because I am having nightmares not only when I eat 3000, but now when I eat 2000. It's just too much food at my age. Our need to get up and move. Thank you.

Martha, join us in the Dance like a chicken day thread. It says "challenge" but it's more like a chat/accountability thread.