Dieting with Obstacles - Stop Saying, Start Doing

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01-07-2014, 10:09 AM
I am a horrible person. I see all these posts and I just want to scream and rip my hair out. "I need help." "I am fat." "Help me get accountable." And on and on and on. Man! NO! If you are making posts like this, you are not ready to lose the weight much less make a life long commitment in getting your health in order! The only person who can help you is YOU! First, nearly every single one of the "I need advice/I need help" posts end up having several people give such help and advise....and every single time the original poster says, "thanks, I've tried that but..." Okay, stop. Stop RIGHT there. There is no "but" in this. As Yoda says, "There is no try. It is do or do not." Same applies here. There is no "but." Either you have done it and it did not work...or you haven't done it. Not every diet works for every person. But there is no but. If it did not work, move on to plan B. If plan B did not work, move on to plan C. And if it doesn't work, well, there are 23 more letters in the alphabet and I am sure you get the picture on where I am going with this. If you are serious in about wanting to lose the weight and get healthy, there would be only one "but" in your day to day business and it will be yours busting it up hardcore to get it in shape. So drop the "but" statements. If you say that, you are jsut wasting your time, my time, and the time of everyone who is trying to help you and is trying to support you. We've all been there...but the difference is, there was no "but" in our speech. Get over yourself, get off the couch, and just do it. Yes, it is hard. Never said it was easy. But being overweight is hard too. Pick your hard. Stop making excuses.

"Help me get accountable" posts upset me too. I mean, we all need a little boost every now and then, sure. We all get down, we all think it is hopeless, we all beat ourselves up. Having an accountability partner is great, someone you can share your successes and failures with daily. But plain and simple, there is not a thing any one can do to make you truthfully share what you really did outside of you. Only YOU can be accountable for YOU. No one can help you with that. We can be a sounding board, we can call you or text you or PM you asking you to stay true to yourself, but in the end, only you can be accountable to you. You can easily lie to your partner. You can neglect to say you also ate a candy bar. Or, you can say you had one bite but in truth, had 10. We would never know. The only person you are hurting is you. No one can help you get accountable. They can support you, but you have to figure it out on your own. Sorry, but that is just the way it is. Wish there was more that could be done, but again, we've all been there. And the successful weight loss losers have all had to learn this hard truth too. It is hard, I know. But it is what it is.

And stop with the, "I've tried everything" whines! No. No you have not. You have NOT tried everything. If you had, guess what, you'd have lost the weight by now! Keep trying, keep looking, keep working! Stop giving up. Stop starting over. Stay true to yourself and to your goal. But more importantly, stop with the negative belief you can't do it. Because you can. Even with a medical condition, you can. I am proof of this. I LOVE telling my story. One, I hope it inspires and encourages people. Two, I need the daily reminder of where I was and where I am. I probably share it too much, but you know what, it keeps me with it. When something doesn't work, I just move on to the next plan. For those who do not know, I was 29 when I was hospitalized due to an O2 saturation of 42 and a cocktail of other diseases. I was dern lucky I didn't die. I was teethered to an oxygen tank and told by more than one doctor to file disability and that my quality of life would be limited to how far my O2 tank cord could reach. My "exercise" was walking back and forth from my bed to my couch, and passing out inbetween the two destinations. Plain and simple, I had no hope. Let's flash forward by 16 months. I have lost a good chunck of weight (hovering between 65-75 depending on my losses/gains due to predisone and other medications and diet) and am still going down. I can run between 2-5 miles, depending on the day and how my lungs behave. I lift weights and can bench 85 (I started off with less than 10 pounds.) I still have an oxygen tank in my house. It is currently collecting dust. I still have lung issues daily. I will never have full function of my upper left lobe ever again and my asthma went from moderate to severe and EVERYTHING sets me off. I have been diagnosed with ARDS and have been told in the near future (within next 6 months) will likely get a more permanent diagnoses of my lung issues and it will be something that will haunt me the rest of my life. My O2 saturation still drops below 70 on a regular basis. but I am not disabled. I am not giving up...and I have every reason and every excuse out there to be able to do it without fault. I refuse. Because I have to change. For me.

Again, if I can do it, so can you.

And by the way, I am at Plan N now. Even us "expert losers" have to keep trying new things. Keep your end goal in mind and do EVERYTHING to get to it. It WILL come. This I promise.

Again, I am a HORRIBLE person. I know this. I really hope the best for everyone. I just REALLY dislike hearing all these half arsed commitments and watching people (myself included) give time and energy to someone only to have them say it is worthless. Stop wasting everyone's time. Either do it, or don't. But stop whining about it unless you really REALLY mean to commit!

Hopefully I inspired someone out there to stop grumbling and just do. That was my real intent of this rant. But one never knows.

End of grumble.

01-07-2014, 11:09 AM
Very well said! And very true about only being accountable to yourself.

Mrs Snark
01-09-2014, 11:18 AM

I understand the tough love, but I'd suggest to you that perhaps you need a break from the posts you are reading that are making you feel this frustrated.

Alot of people try to begin their journeys at this time of year, and alot of people struggle to figure it all out. I'd say don't judge their language so much. If it makes you crazy to watch people struggle to find their own personal paths (and yes, sometimes that means they have to learn lessons the hard way instead of taking the advice of those who have gone before them) take a break from those posts.

10-06-2014, 01:09 PM
Kinda hateful if you ask me.

10-06-2014, 01:28 PM
Weight loss begins with a decision.......