So hubby and I have been trying to have a baby for years. I got pregnant in November of 2011, then miscarried in January 2012. Got majorly depressed, lost my job, hubby then lost his, and we moved back to our home state. Incurred major debt, etc.
Fast forward to now, both are working full times, have paid back almost all the cc debt we incurred, just moved into a larger place, etc.
Over the holiday, I allowed myself to indulge at the family reunion, came home at 212 lbs.
Lately have felt "odd" and I thought I was pregnant in December but took a test and it said negative (took 2 actually) and then got what I thought was a period, but only lasted less than a day, just a few drops.
I thought oh great, I've probably screwed myself pretty badly indulging in carbs and some sweets, but that's fine, I'm going to restart my south beach diet.
12/31, back home, I restarted phase 1, I hit 212 pounds on the scale (egads a 9 lb gain). Told myself it's okay, and started plugging along, saw 208 on the scale, was happy it was going down.
Friday night I could barely sleep and my breasts hurt so much I couldn't even touch them. Saturday morning when I woke up and went to the bathroom I said screw it, let's take another test. Got a BFP (btw we have been trying to conceive at least a year and have already started seeing a fertility specialist), I was shocked. It snapped me awake and I stared at the stick for no less than a minute and was shaking like crazy.
So I thought, okay, I am not sure if doing this diet is safe when pregnant, so I went online and found that they recommend just switching or starting at Phase 2 when pregnant. I thought that's fine, I can do that, so I switched myself to SBD P2.
I get up on the scale this morning, I'm back at 212? WHAT?! *sigh* I'm really getting tired of this "unexplained weight gain" crap with my PCOS.
I took a good hard look at my eating (I used MFP) and thought maybe I had too much sodium, so I am cutting down on cheeses and am using zero salt in my food from now on.
I'm just frustrated because tomorrow I have a follow up appointment with my gyno/obs (too see if maybe hubby is the reason why we can't conceive despite me having consistent periods each month and all my tests coming up normal- he got tested) and last time she commented on my weight, and I 100% know she will comment tomorrow, and I'm afraid I'm gonna spaz out on her and walk out.
AND not to mention I have the most terrible flu and I'm MISERABLE right now from it...
I guess if my doctor recommends a nutritionist I'll go along with it, but my problem isn't what I eat, I think it's how much, and my other problem is I just hate exercise. I already told myself once this flu is over I'm going to start going on walks each evening and my work has a gym so I told myself I'll just exercise at lunch rather than have lunch with coworkers. WHICH will probably be better for me so I don't spill the beans about being pregnant, I don't want to tell anyone at work before my 3 month mark.
*sigh* Thanks for letting me rant.
ETA: I went for a half hour walk and have planned my food for the next few days, as low sodium as possible, so I feel a little better.
01-05-2014, 08:53 PM
Sorry, but what is a BFP? Talk to your doctor about the possibility of losing weight while pregnant. It used to be that pregnant women absolutely were not supposed to lose weight, but there was a study that was published several years ago that said it was safe for obese women to lose weight while pregnant if their BMI was over a certain number.
I believe South Beach Phase 2 is okay for pregnancy. It's similar to what my doctor recommended when I was pregnant, but your obgyn might feel differently. I was told not to do Atkins.
01-05-2014, 09:25 PM
Thanks Sasha- BFP is big fat positive (as in a positive on your test) :)
Other than having a few bites of popcorn today at the movie theater, I was right on track with the eating.
I will ask my doctor about losing weight while pregnant, I didn't think I was going to get pregnant anytime soon after trying for 2 years (I'm honestly still shocked).
I don't plan on starting any sort of rigorous exercise, but to go for walks and to continue the low carb/good carb lifestyle. I'm mostly looking to not gain during this pregnancy!
I re-programmed myfitnesspal for 30% carbs per day, and will also ask my ob/gyn what they think I should do during the pregnancy in terms of exercise and if I should take metformin (I'm not currently on it but heard it helps people with PCOS).
01-05-2014, 09:27 PM
Keep us posted!
01-06-2014, 09:20 PM
I went to see the doctor, yup, there is a baby there! She thinks I'm only 4 weeks along though (I thought I was 5 or 6) so I see her in two more weeks.
Of course TONS of blood work to do, she just stressed eating healthy and trying to not gain a lot of weight.
I'm excited but nervous, when I see a heartbeat and pass the first trimester I'll breathe a huge sigh of relief.
01-07-2014, 10:10 AM
I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy!
Please go easy on yourself regarding weight gain. You are going to gain because of the pregnancy and that is normal. (no matter what your starting weight is) I always tried to not get over a certain number and I never succeeded! LOL
Yeah, the biggest thing is eat healthy and stay active. I would really push the staying active. Nothing crazy, just walking every day. I had one low activity pregnancy and I couldn't walk around the block by the end. It was horrid! My next pregnancy was so much better because I had a walking buddy.
I hope you are feeling a bit better. Congrats again!!!
01-09-2014, 11:19 PM
Thanks! Yes I've started talking a 15-30 minute walk each day. I'm exhausted and nauseous all day then can't sleep at night. I read that's normal in the first trimester :(
01-09-2014, 11:26 PM
Take a breath! This changes everything!
The body, you thought you knew, is going to do all kinds of strange stuff.
Just hang in there!
Brings back memories, for me from my being pregnant. Totally off the wall stuff.
But it worked out ok. I have great kids and awesome grandkids!:carrot::D
01-10-2014, 10:23 PM
That's wonderful :)
Yeah so far I'm just barely in and man I'm not only exhausted, but I can BARELY eat, I don't have to worry about weight when I can barely eat maybe a cup of food before I have to stop lol.
The mood swings are killing me, I'm going from happy to grumpy to sad, all in the span of 10 minutes.
Hubby wanted to take me out for dinner, I barely eat like 1/3 of my food, then we walked outside and a homeless man (and yes he had to be homeless the poor guy was filthy and searching through the trash for cans) asked if we had money I said no and asked him if he was hungry and wanted my food he said SURE! Then I cried cuz I had no cash to give him. :'(
My husband was consoling me when I was crying and the whole time I was also trying not to puke...
I will also be glad when this trimester is over- the nausea is the worst.
01-14-2014, 01:32 PM
I'd say stick to your south beach phase 2, but accept that YOUR weight loss is going to be "hidden" by the baby growing and all the baby's support systems growing (uterus, placenta, amniotic fluids, etc).
All this stuff exists inside you and has to weight something, so try to be patient knowing that you won't see "just ME" weight til after baby is born.
More important right now is to eat quality nutrition and get some exercise so you are providing what baby needs to grow and not upping your odds of gestational diabetes.
I had that with my pregnancy and had someone told me I was at more risk because I was a PCOS person, I would have just done the Gestational Diabetes class and diet from the start! It isn't like it is going to kill anyone to be on it, but to tell me at 6 mos in? With 3 mos to go? Argh.
So... something to consider.
Hang in there with the hormones -- it can certainly be rollercoaster. I felt possessed crying at cat food commercials while my head was going "My god. I don't even like cats. What's WRONG with me?" Enjoy it though -- pregnancy is a trip in of itself. You'll have some great stories! :)
Again -- congrats! :)
01-14-2014, 06:11 PM
Wow . . . I got pregnant for the first time in the fall of 2011 and also miscarried in January of 2012 so I feel for you. :( :hug: In my case, I'd been doing well with dieting throughout most of 2011 but went through a ton of stress that fall and completely jumped head-first (not fell, but jumped) off the wagon, rapidly regaining about 25 pounds before realizing that hey, I was pregnant! I was excited, yet so scared. I'd really let myself go and didn't know if I had the energy to go through all that; I already couldn't bend to pick anything up off the floor, how was I going to handle pregnancy and motherhood? :( And after I lost the pregnancy I felt enormously guilty over my feelings and the position I'd gotten myself in, so I did a lot of soul-searching. I decided that I couldn't allow my health to spiral out of control any further, especially if I wanted to have a baby someday. I set myself up to start a strict, healthy routine within a few months (I took baby steps while giving myself time to mourn) and we planned on seeing a specialist if I wasn't able to conceive in about a year (I'm 37 so my biological clock is ticking).
Throughout the rest of 2012 and part of 2013, I managed to lose over 50 pounds and got to my lowest weight ever. I was pretty happy with that! And amazingly enough, exactly one year after I started my "reboot," I conceived! :preg: My pre-pregnancy weight was 215, although I'd lost another 5 pounds before realizing that both my diet and my exercise routine would have to change. I was a little freaked out because I'd secretly been hoping I could have made it under 200 pounds first, but it is what it is. :^:
I was especially nervous about any potential weight gain and spoke to my OB and nurses about it, and they ok'd my supplements and gave me an idea of how much I should gain. I wasn't really counting calories while losing, but started to while pregnant in order to make sure I was getting enough for the baby, yet not so much that I'd gain a horrid amount. I mostly stuck with similar choices as before, just in larger amounts. My glucose tests were slightly high (I'd managed to put my type 2 diabetes into remission ages ago) so I was told to watch my sugar (which I'd already been doing anyway); luckily I never had any issues with gestational diabetes. I did admittedly splurge a bit during the third semester on burgers and cookies. :p I wasn't allowed any high-impact exercise since I was considered high risk, so my biggest disappointment was having to stop my C25K training and giving up on running the 5K I'd planned on that May. I was able to continue walking, swimming, and certain machines at the gym though.
Anyway, I know how scary the potential gain can be, but you've got this! :) Things can get crazy and unpredictable, but enjoy this time of being pregnant! I was so nervous myself about the second pregnancy (losing the first was utterly heartbreaking) until I finally got to hear the heartbeat for the first time. It was such an emotional moment that it brought tears to my eyes. :^: And in that moment I became confident that everything was going to be ok this time. I admittedly cringed as I watched the scale go up over the months, but everything was in a great range according to my doctor. There's more than baby of course, there's also amniotic fluid, extra blood, placenta, et cetera.
My last weigh-in while pregnant was 238.5, and I was blessed with a beautiful, healthy baby boy last month. :) I'm currently close to 5 weeks postpartum and only have five more pounds to lose to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. So it's like . . . I simply had to pause my weight loss for nearly a year. ;) I'm pretty much back on track now aside from the exercise, which I'm hoping will get approval at my checkup next week (no pool until I'm healed up, for example) so I can start building back up again.
Congratulations! I hope it helps you to vent and relate. :hug: And don't worry, you'll be fine. :)
01-15-2014, 01:11 AM
I have to say I loved being pregnant. I lost weight while pregnant.. I didn't see until after I'd given birth. I was pregnant with twins so although I'd lost the scale still went up ..only slowly. Gained 13 pounds the whole pregnancy and by 8 weeks post baby I was down 16 pounds from starting weight. My body must enjoy pregnancy. My only regret for not losing more before getting pregnant was I did get GD.. thankfully not bad enough to have to treat it. I believe because I was losing the entire pregnancy.
I wouldn't worry about losing at this point. Healthy choices as often as possible. You now have two reasons for healthier food choices. Pregnancy will soon be over and you can get back to SB when your ready. I gained all my weight sitting at home with two babies all day. After baby is when you have to be careful. It's hard to stay on track when so much of your attention is on your baby.