Support Groups - So what are you doing differently this time?

01-05-2014, 09:43 AM
I'll start!

1. I have a reasonable goal: 5.5 lbs every month = 66 lbs by December 2014. I had always been reluctant to give myself mini goals. 5.5 seems easy especially at the beginning, but there are months that losing one lb is a big victory.

2.. I bought a treadmill. My former gym was far away and some days even if I wanted to exercise, the idea of the trip to the gym watered me down.

3. I allow myself a few treats weekly. My cravings don't help when I lose motivation. I jump on everything I've craved and avoided as soon as disappointment sets in. So I've decided I'm not going to deprive myself anymore.

4. I'm staying away from forums' competition and challenges. I have a tendency to fast/over exercise just to log great results in. Now I prefer to focus on form.

HOW about you?

01-05-2014, 11:20 PM
Those are all good goals and expectations thirti4thirty!

Mine are:

1 burn 500 calories everyday either at the gym or at home

2 try not to measure my progress on the scale, I want to get strong and acquire some definition

3 I want to have 1 day a week I can eat what I want in moderation and stick to it the other 6

4 I will increase my water intake greatly

01-06-2014, 12:33 AM
1. I am not going to stop dieting when I reach goal. I will adjust my diet for maintenance but I will continue to log my food and track my fitness. Permanently. Because when I stop, I gain it all back. Six times I have done this. NO MORE.
2. I am going to continue to have goals. They will be fitness goals. But I will have goals and plans related to fitness and health. I will never be "done" with my health/fitness plan.
3. I am going to continue to post and participate in this support forum, instead of disappearing for two years while I gain it all back, again.
4. I got a Fitbit Flex, so that will hopefully motivate me to move around more.
5. I do not have permission to eat bread. ever. again. Seriously. Identify my binge trigger foods and avoid them, permanently.

Mrs Snark
01-09-2014, 11:36 AM
Wow, ShrinkingMe, except for #4, we have pretty much all of the same goals! We're twinsies! :)

01-19-2014, 10:10 AM
This time I went back to what worked for me so well when I was younger: counting my Weight Watchers "Points." Even when I was counting calories using my Lose It! app, I wasn't losing! I just couldn't understand it! But for some reason, that WW system works for my body. I dunno! So strange! When I was counting calories, I was gaining weight. When I started my WW Points yesterday, I woke up and the scale was down 3.4 pounds. Yes, water weight, I know, but I'm just tickled pink that the scale is moving down! :cheer:

01-19-2014, 10:30 AM've really had some awesome points that I need to adopt! Mine are actually pretty similar

For me:
1. Stop letting my mind dictate what I'm doing or not doing. I'm sticking to my plan that I know works. When I lost all the weight before it was hard (but sooo worth it!) and now I keep psyching myself out of committing...the mental aspect of it is harder than the physical for sure!! But just like when I run...I'm *crashing* through that wall for good!

2. Seeing my fitness and new lifestyle as permanent...and never letting myself get to this place again. When I'm back to my healthy weight...I'm never going to stop being accountable to someone and just disappear and crawl into a cocoon to eat. That is the *opposite* of who I want to's the opposite of who I am today. Never again.

3. Get out of denial about myself and food. I'm never going to be able to moderate my trigger foods. Food cannot be a source of comfort and release for me anymore. And the weight never just goes away by itself nor does it bottom out at a certain number. What I do and eat WILL manifest itself on my body...good or bad!

4. Get out of my head and realize that there is more to life than FOOD! I love to run, lift weights, and explore. I love building relationships with people and pushing myself physically and intellectually...and that's what I need to focus on. There's a whole glorious life to be lived and I'm not letting my weight or food hold me back from that anymore. Food needs to be used as a delicious way to *fuel* my life...not be the purpose!

5. Learn to LOVE MYSELF. For who I am. Today. I'm never going to be's never going to be perfect. But I need to be grateful and appreciate what I do have and who I am...because I'm realizing life is a beautiful thing! And as much as I never admit it...I am too! Self hate only leads to binging and I've ridden that train before and I don't like it. Plus...the only way I can truly help and encourage others is if I'm comfortable with myself and I know who I am. :)

01-20-2014, 11:54 PM
This time around I'm doing an actual diet, for the first time in my life. I never followed a certain protocol, I always watched what I ate on my own, without a schedule and a strict list of foods I could or couldn't eat. Knowing exactly what is expected of me helps me keep on the right path. :)

01-21-2014, 12:10 AM
My biggest difference I think is I set a lot of little goals for myself instead of a couple big ones.

Before my usual pattern was "It's January. I have an event in March. I'm going to start going to gym and then I'll look good in March!"

And I always had good results, but once my March event was over, the gym petered off and finally died.

This time around, I have a goal deadline in March, one in April, one in May, one in August, and one in October. Hopefully by the time I hit October I'll be in a habit and/or have new goals after Halloween.

02-01-2014, 04:38 PM
The only thing Im gonna do differently this time around is "Stick To It No Matter What"

02-03-2014, 04:40 AM
underanalysis: I feel you on that one. The only difference is that in my case I never reached the march event slimmer. I would tell myself that no one will notice any difference from my fat self anyway, and was that event really worth all the work I was putting in? And there it stopped.
Terra1984: I have to adopt that sentence this week. I've been blowing it for 5 days now and I need to put myself back on track.

02-09-2014, 11:13 PM
Thats cool, I hope your able to get back on track

02-09-2014, 11:59 PM
You can do it, Thirti4thirty!

02-10-2014, 02:19 AM
Thanks for cheering me up! We can all do it with support and encouragement.

02-10-2014, 07:15 AM
For losing weight, I know that different things have worked for me at different times. The big thing I am doing differently this time is REALLY taking into account what I know I am able to do (and NOT do) once I reach maintenance.

Specifically, I am not counting anything. I know that despite my resolutions to keep doing that in maintenance, I don't. Been there, not done that too many times.

So, I am trying a small eating window and food "guidelines" that I know I can stick with. Since I've never done this before, I'm not 100% certain I can make it work for weight loss all the way to goal, but I truly want to design a plan for success in maintenance, not just the weight loss phase.

02-10-2014, 08:32 AM
That's a good plan, yoyoma. I'm thinking about after-the-loss too. I've regained so many times. I want to do this once and for all so I've decided I won't start doing anything that I know I can't do for the rest of my life.

02-10-2014, 12:16 PM
The difference this time is my health. I was dx'd with metabolic syndrome last June, (diabetes, high bp, high cholesterol, and gout) I knew if I didn't get on and STAY on plan I would not be around to do it LATER.

02-11-2014, 12:44 PM
Great lostakid!! It seems like when you have a strong motivation it's harder to quit. All the best for the rest of your journey!!

02-11-2014, 03:30 PM
This is a great thread! I'm 18 months into this - the longest I've ever lost or maintained, and going into the next stretch I'm focusing on

1. Moderation - it doesn't have to be (and can't be) all or nothing.
2. Discipline - I'm trying out IF, not because of any perceived edge, but for the mental strength that comes from knowing I'm not ruled by food.
3. Expanding my palate and thus my nutrient variety and intake.

Mad Donnelly
02-11-2014, 03:49 PM
Eating the way I'm always going to eat, no sugar, no grains, no starchy veg. This gives me the "permission" to eat anything I want when I want it, yet I choose not to. Weird, right?

Velvet bean
02-11-2014, 06:40 PM
It's different this time because:
 I have more time to workout,
 I have a better scale,
 I joined this forum to help me stay motivated! :D

02-18-2014, 10:13 AM
 I joined this forum to help me stay motivated! :D
I didn't mention that one, but same here. 3FC is great help!

02-18-2014, 10:20 AM
I just joined this forum today to help with motivation. Things I am doing differently than in the past:

1. Setting SMALL goals - my first one is to lose 5 lbs per month

2. Not counting/tracking calories - in the past I have quit because I get tired of doing that! I am trying to just be more mindful of what I eat and control snacking. If this doesn't work, I will re-evaluate.

02-18-2014, 10:23 AM
It's different this time because:
 I have more time to workout,
 I have a better scale,
 I joined this forum to help me stay motivated! :D

I just joined this forum today to help with motivation. Things I am doing differently than in the past:

1. Setting SMALL goals - my first one is to lose 5 lbs per month

2. Not counting/tracking calories - in the past I have quit because I get tired of doing that! I am trying to just be more mindful of what I eat and control snacking. If this doesn't work, I will re-evaluate.
You and I are doing the same things! I have mini monthly goals of 5.5 lbs too! And I don't count calories.
Welcome and all the best to you for the rest of your journey.

02-18-2014, 10:26 AM
I have learnt more with each diet i've taken on in the past 6 years. I've lost weight a number of times over that period, mostly with the help of a lot of exercise. I go on long cycling journeys which makes it really easy.

However this time, exercise is not part of my basic strategy though i do intend to do some for other reasons down the track. I want to win a 10km race.

So this time different things are:

1. don't depend on formal regular exercise. I do do gardening work which is strenuous but its an easily sustainable activity for me.

2. Fasting. I have only done one in two months but when i started out i thought i would use them more often. My intention is that if i find i stall or backtrack (which usually doesn't happen) I will fast for one whole day and drink only water. Its not easy but it can be done. And hopefully i won't have to do them very often. Its just part of my toolkit.

3. Be willing to keep to food diarising for ever. Its seems ridiculous to think i would actually do that but to be hoesnt, i think i have to try. This diet is for life. I will always have to be vigilant.

4. I have given up sweets before and its fine but I also don't want to rule it out forever. But i know i can't be moderate so i have some rules about when i can eat sweets - i.e. in company, but family doesn't count. The idea of company is that it will inhibit my tendency to keep on eating.

5. Oh another trick i learnt but which is not actually part of my diet since i am not eating sweets is to eat sweets at the beginning of the meal because if i leave it to the end, i usually just want to keep on eating more. If i do it at the beginning i go on to the next course and my sweet tooth is taken care of. But that's just a trick i learnt not so long ago. For now its no sweets. I still have to resolve what to do around christmas time.

02-18-2014, 10:31 AM
I am more focused on getting fit rather than skinny. My goal is to be more athletic.. which is something most people have never seen me be. I really want to run and I've never been able to.

02-18-2014, 03:08 PM
1. Mini goals and much lower expectations. By that I just mean goals of losing 4 pounds, or whatever, where in the past my goal was to lose a whole 80 pounds.

2. Also, slowly incorporating diet changes rather than going cold turkey on everything at once. For example, the first time I started visiting this site I lost about 15 pounds in a matter of weeks because I started eating plain salads two meals a day and working out for 45-50 mins 5-6 days a week. That was great, although totally unrealistic for me. Of course I didn't stick with it and then gained all the weight plus some back. Which leads to:

3. Keeping in check with reality. I'm not expecting the unexpected out of my efforts, such as expecting to miraculously lose five pounds from one good day, and I'm also not expecting myself to stick to some crazy diet or exercise regime when I know I won't keep with it in a month. I'm only doing things that I know I can keep up with for now, and once I'm past the initial food withdrawals, I'll challenge myself again.

02-21-2014, 03:17 PM
I just joined the forum today, and I am trying something completely different this time. I've decided not to be a follower!
1.Although I am doing a high protein low/good carb diet, I have adapted it to incorporate ideas I have come up with through my own research and experiences. I eat lean proteins, seafood 3-4 days a week, whole grains, and lots of veggies. I eat red grapes if I want something sweet, and nuts and seeds as snacks. I avoid processed foods as much as possible.
2.I'm not starving myself this time, but instead not giving myself a chance to get hungry. By eating more often but in smaller amounts, my blood sugar remains more consistent, which I've read is essential for weight management. 3. I am not using diet pills or other miracle fixes/fads this time, but instead adding a few natural vitamins and supplements that not only help with weight loss, but will improve my overall health as well. (omega-3s, Vitamin D3, glucomannan which I haven't purchased yet, and apple cider vinegar, along with a good multivitamin, biotin for skin and hair health, and super B complex.)
4. I am doing Taebo for 45 minutes each morning 4-5 days a week.
5. I am forcing myself to get at least 6-7 hours of sleep a night.

I'm 40, it isn't all just about being skinny these days, but about my health in general! ;-)

03-05-2014, 03:10 AM
Go girls!!!

03-05-2014, 04:07 AM
Well I don't eat as many sweets on this diet as I did before. I also am trying to up my protein compared to 10 years ago. I find it's harder than I expected, especially when I want a snack. This means not eating as bread as I did before in hopes of losing weight faster since the first time it was a really slow weight loss. Last but not least, I've kind of through the scale away and will rely on my clothes. So far so good. :carrot: