Living Maintenance - Maintainers Weekly Chat September 30 - October 6




BillBlueEyes
09-30-2013, 05:20 AM
So much fun to sleep in long sleeves and to need a heavy shirt for warmth in the early morning. I do love the seasons changing.

It's that time to begin to enjoy California Navel Oranges. Loss of summer has its compensations.


Mudpie
09-30-2013, 05:47 AM
I have taken a few minutes to do things this weekend like look at the sunrise, the full moon at night, and a couple of really pretty trees fully showing their fall colours. There is life outside of the reno and the upcoming move. I can enjoy it, in between returning spigots and arguing about baseboards. :p

I think I will drink a G2 beverage or mint tea in the evenings. I tried that last night and slept for just over 6 hours (amazing for me). Part of my waking at 2 a.m. might well be due to dehydration. I've been through this before but I keep forgetting that I have to consistently practice the good behaviours for 6-8 weeks to make them habits.

Dagmar :cool:

alinnell
09-30-2013, 09:15 AM
Fall is certainly in the air here. The mornings are just a little chilly and we don't expect to see daytime temperatures over 100 degrees. I spoke to my Dad yesterday and they have snow in some parts of the valley (fully expected to have it melt) and a foot in the mountains. I hope that is a foreshadowing of things to come there--last winter was very dry and the reservoirs are depleted. I'd love to have an extra rainy winter here as we need it as well.

I stayed up past my bedtime last night so we could watch the final episode of Breaking Bad. I expected to be tired this morning (I am, a little) but I woke exactly 3 minutes before my alarm, so I don't think I hurt myself.


saef
09-30-2013, 09:33 AM
I walk to the gym through my apartment complex's gardens, which are still gorgeous, as we haven't had a frost yet, but feel I can't linger. I get stuck in traffic jams while commuting the office and try to breathe in some of that leaf-scented air. I sit in the office and gaze out at the gorgeous blue sky. And all the while, I feel like I am in captivity, and fall is happening somewhere just beyond my reach, like a televised event.

ggbsy
09-30-2013, 12:33 PM
I am so jealous of those of you who live in a place were autumn is a season. We are still in the 100's here.

traveling michele
09-30-2013, 01:03 PM
I am so jealous of those of you who live in a place were autumn is a season. We are still in the 100's here.

I'm guessing you live in Arizona??

Today has started off in full swing at work-- been running nonstop!

The weekend was a mixed bag. Saturday dh and I went out to dinner and to see Prisoners so that was great. Sunday, he worked all day (at home-- but glued to his laptop and phone)-- I kept thinking he'd finish and we'd do something but it never happened. His China project keeps him working horrendous hours.

I may be in the market for a new car. Dd took my Toyota RAV 4 to college, leaving me with a convertible mini cooper. Fun car but small. I certainly can't fit our Great Dane in it. We've been debating what to do but this weekend, I got fed up with the car. We've had it 3 years but have less than 19,000 miles on it so it should be like new. It had a few issues we were going to bring it in for but then on Saturday I put the top down and when I was putting it back up, it broke. Ugh. So, dh brought it in today.
I'm debating getting a Jeep Cherokee. We were going to check them out yesterday but couldn't with dh's work. So.... hopefully we will go Friday after work to look.

We are going to Napa overnight Saturday- Sunday so I'm looking forward to that. Booked a great restaurant (never been there but it's supposed to be one of the best) and massages. I'm planning on being spot-on with food and exercise in anticipation of some splurging!!

alinnell
09-30-2013, 08:54 PM
I came home to a lizard in my bedroom. These are the times I miss DS. He's usually quite adept at catching and relocating them. Seriously, I have no idea how my killer cats missed this guy--he was big! At least 3 inches long! Well, I herded the animals out, grabbed a fairly large tupperware with a lid and went to work. Held the tupperware under his tail (he was hanging on my blinds) and the tapped him on his head with the top and voila! into the tupperware he fell. After a photo to post on FB, I released him into the garden where he seemed happy to escape.

Mudpie
10-01-2013, 05:57 AM
I came home to a lizard in my bedroom. These are the times I miss DS. He's usually quite adept at catching and relocating them. Seriously, I have no idea how my killer cats missed this guy--he was big! At least 3 inches long! Well, I herded the animals out, grabbed a fairly large tupperware with a lid and went to work. Held the tupperware under his tail (he was hanging on my blinds) and the tapped him on his head with the top and voila! into the tupperware he fell. After a photo to post on FB, I released him into the garden where he seemed happy to escape.

Cool! Allison's lizard rescue service - :lol:

Dagmar :dizzy:

Megan1982
10-01-2013, 08:21 AM
Morning all,

It has finally been fall-like here since Friday. Over the weekend and now even in the afternoon between work and rehearsals the dog and I are able to walk longer than we could in the summer, because she isn't getting so hot with the change in weather. I am looking around and enjoying the walks a lot more, too. I'm hoping it stays this way. :crossed: I spent most of my weekend doing play stuff but things are going really well. Last night I came home to a nice dinner BF had cooked while I was at rehearsal. Don't worry, in anticipation of the late dinner I had a snack before rehearsal so I didn't get hangry.

Thanks for all of the thoughts for BF and his family. He seems to be dealing better with the situation. We haven't had any "new" news in a couple of days so I think even if the status quo is not good, he's sort of gotten used to it and that helps him keep it from bothering him too much. I'm sure this will be ongoing for... who knows how long. But thank you for the support.

Allison, funny. I've caught lizards in my house, but more often it's frogs. I have a lot of potted plants on my porch they like to hide in, and they like to hang out right by the door and catch the bugs that fly to the light. They get in a lot. Tupperware works really well!

Michele, I'm picturing you and the great dane in the mini coop. Funny. We have friends, a married couple who are both pretty trim and petite, who have a Honda Fit and a St. Bernard. I'm imagining it's a similar picture. :D Have fun car shopping.

Dagmar, let us know if hydrating helps with your sleep problems.

Bill, I love oranges and grapefruit, too. We have a little longer to wait until they're ready down here in FL, but the new crop of pears and apples coming in will keep me going until then.

Saef, how is your visit with your mom going? Any chance you can get upstate to visit her for a weekend and enjoy some outdoor time soon?

Back to work. Have a great day all.

ChrisMohr
10-01-2013, 09:53 AM
Hi all, Still hanging in with my higher maintenance weight... concerned that I'll gain in the cold season tho. This is the month we sell our wedding chapel, and I'll really miss the work (and still wonder what I'll do next, but many options out there). Best wishes to all my supportive friends here!

traveling michele
10-01-2013, 10:28 AM
Good luck to you Chris!

I'm operating on no sleep today. I am so grouchy. And thankful I had my children when I was younger. I don't think I could do it now. My mom was my age when I was 6. So what kept me up? Dewey the dumb dachshund. He woke me at 12:30 (after I went to bed at 11:00) and was crying. He basically cried (in my bed) all night. I kept taking him out and trying to figure out his issue. This morning he jumped out of bed and "cleaned up" cat puke. So my guess is he heard a cat puke and wanted to get out of bed but was afraid to jump out of bed during the night. Seriously?! Loser.... Did dh hear him? NOT ONE BIT.... reminds me of all of the nights with babies crying and dh never heard a thing. Ugh.

saef
10-01-2013, 11:58 AM
Today, it looks as though I can catch up with my work a little. I just delegated a writing job to someone, after recognizing that if I kept it when after receiving this opportunity to give it away, I'd be feeding a kind of martyr impulse inside myself.

Problem is, my mother's in the background, constantly asking me questions. I shouldn't let her come when I'm working and busy, but she wants to be here for my looming birthday.

I find myself jealous of furloughed government workers.

JayEll
10-01-2013, 04:10 PM
I am constantly busy with work and have been for months. My life is one deadline after another. When my partner was being treated for cancer, everything other than keeping up with work and caring for her and our household was set aside. Even though she is now well, and has been pronounced cancer-free, my work load continues.

She often interrupts me to ask a question. Sometimes it's in the middle of a very intricate and critical editing change I'm working out. This has always been an issue between us--that I must have uninterrupted time to think and work.

Since her treatment and recovery, though, I find I'm not as concerned when she interrupts me. Perhaps I lose the train of thought--perhaps that perfect sentence I almost had, that disappeared like fog in the sunlight, will never be found again--perhaps I'll have to start over again to re-create what I was doing.

But this is only work. It is only work. Not life itself. My brilliant revisions have a very short life in the world, and I am not going to be rewarded more or found more worthy by snapping at my partner and keeping locked into my task.

saef, your mother has come to be with you on your birthday. Try to keep in mind that that's a nice thing she wants to do, even if you are buried in work, even if it disrupts everything, even if you don't like her personality or her habits and the last thing you want is to spend time with her. Take a deep breath. The time will come when she won't be there, and you can work all you want.

Jay

traveling michele
10-01-2013, 04:39 PM
Very well said Jay. My mom and I had a very acrimonious relationship. My dad and I had only a slightly better one. My mom has been gone 13 years and my dad 6. I miss them every day. Especially my mom. I wish I could call her and tell her how my girls have turned out and how my life is.

Saef-- enjoy your time with your mom. She loves you.

bargoo
10-01-2013, 05:32 PM
I am constantly busy with work and have been for months. My life is one deadline after another. When my partner was being treated for cancer, everything other than keeping up with work and caring for her and our household was set aside. Even though she is now well, and has been pronounced cancer-free, my work load continues.

She often interrupts me to ask a question. Sometimes it's in the middle of a very intricate and critical editing change I'm working out. This has always been an issue between us--that I must have uninterrupted time to think and work.

Since her treatment and recovery, though, I find I'm not as concerned when she interrupts me. Perhaps I lose the train of thought--perhaps that perfect sentence I almost had, that disappeared like fog in the sunlight, will never be found again--perhaps I'll have to start over again to re-create what I was doing.

But this is only work. It is only work. Not life itself. My brilliant revisions have a very short life in the world, and I am not going to be rewarded more or found more worthy by snapping at my partner and keeping locked into my task.

saef, your mother has come to be with you on your birthday. Try to keep in mind that that's a nice thing she wants to do, even if you are buried in work, even if it disrupts everything, even if you don't like her personality or her habits and the last thing you want is to spend time with her. Take a deep breath. The time will come when she won't be there, and you can work all you want.

Jay

Jay, what good news that your partner is cancer free. News that I look forward to hearing myself someday,

JayEll
10-01-2013, 05:35 PM
And may it be so for you, Bargoo! :hug:

Jay

silverbirch
10-02-2013, 06:41 AM
leaving me with a convertible mini cooper. Fun car but small. I certainly can't fit our Great Dane in it.

As a child at primary school (ages 5-11) in the 60s, I spent such a lot of time laughing at this joke.

Q: How many elephants can you fit in a Mini?
A: Five. Two in the front, two in the back and one in the glove compartment! :lol3:

That was the original Mini (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mini), of course, which was launched in 1959.

I don't see your problem, Michele, as Great Danes are hardly the size of elephants!

traveling michele
10-02-2013, 10:15 AM
Yes, Birch, I suppose you're right. Ha Ha. Since Jozi is 9.5 and Great Danes typically live 8-10 years, we debated not doing anything with the car as odds are she won't be around too much longer. We have a pickup truck and she can fit in that.

Megan1982
10-02-2013, 11:16 AM
The conversation in my office this morning centered around the Camel "Hump Day" insurance commercial that's been on TV. I can't remember which insurance it's for, but the rest of the commercial is funny! Anyone seen it?

Saef, good for you for delegating. Try to enjoy this visit with you mother. Which day is your birthday? Happy almost birthday!

Jay, you always present such a wise perspective. Thanks :)

Shannon in ATL
10-02-2013, 12:02 PM
This has been a busy week for me, with working in human resources dealing with healthcare here in the US. I've been on the phone with employees nonstop since Thursday, and don't see it stopping any time soon.

Megan - saw the commercial, funny.

Saef - happy almost birthday to you. :)

Birchie - the image of five elephants in a mini made me snicker.

Megan1982
10-03-2013, 02:58 PM
Is anybody out there today?

We've been busy around our office/properties today, pulling our boats out of the water and fueling up all vehicles and gas cans with the possibility of TS/Hurricane Karen hitting our area this weekend. BF is doing the same, working on his boats at home. We will work on cleaning up underneath the house today and tomorrow. It shouldn't be anything too serious but since we are at sea level the flood threat is always there, and it might be windy enough to do some damage. We've been through this drill many times. Better safe than sorry, and also better to prep early rather than trying to run around in the wind and rain.

After 4 nights in a row of rehearsals I'm looking forward to having a night off, though I've got to catch up on dog walking and other chores. I hope I can leave work in time to catch a yoga class this afternoon. Last night I took 2 of my freezer burritos out to thaw for our dinner tonight, and salad is already made. I love my homemade "convenience" freezer foods. :)

Shannon, I didn't think about your work in HR. I'm sure you are very busy right now! Good luck dealing with the rush.

Michele, I hope you got more sleep last night. Whiny animals are no fun when they're in your bed. I'm like you, I wake up when the dog is moving around or has a problem and BF sleeps through it. I call it "mom" ears.

Chris, is the radio job a possibility? I'm concerned about the cooler weather too. In the summer it's easier for me to eat lightly, but in the winter I want comfort foods. We'll have to give each other ideas for lighter foods that still fit that category. I try to make a lot of bean & veggie soups, healthy chilis, tomato-ey veggie casseroles, etc that are still comforting and filling to trick my body.

traveling michele
10-03-2013, 03:24 PM
Megan-- I'm here! Good luck with the storm. I haven't heard anything about it but I haven't been watching the news. It's beautiful and sunny here. Got more sleep the past couple of nights so I'm feeling much less cranky. Hopefully when dh and I go to Napa this weekend we'll both get some rest. He has been working so late that he is super cranky and tired.

Megan1982
10-04-2013, 08:29 AM
Morning all,

Last night I started to feel overwhelmed with everything I have scheduled and need to do before I leave for Bermuda early Tuesday AM. I'll try to catch up on sleep this weekend. I did a mini house clean, car clean, and laundry last night, and am hoping it helps me feel organized. Tonight we are celebrating a friend's birthday at a bar near my house (her choice), so she asked if she might crash in my guest room if she needs to. Of course she is welcome and I want to celebrate her day, but I might go the route of leaving early and leave the door unlocked for her. I don't have the energy... and I hate it when celebrations become chores and get frustrated with myself for not being able to appreciate the moment.

I need sleep and an avocado. ;) I did have some walnuts in my oatmeal.

Does anyone know if you are allowed to pack a disposable razor in your carry-on luggage? Since my trip is only 4 days long, I'm not planning on paying to check a bag. Has anyone ever been to Bermuda? Trying to figure out diving/snorkeling plans from afar and balance time spent with my mother is on my to-do list, too.

I'm also telling myself I can leave work early today if I don't perk up. I have *tons* of personal time I never take, and nothing pressing on my desk.

Michele, lol, I'm complaining of being cranky and tired and am about to tell you that I hope you are catching up on sleep, too! Tired seems to be a theme here. Napa sounds like a fun place to spend the weekend. I hope you and DH have a great time and do get to relax. Good food and massages sound lovely.

What are everyone else's plans for the weekend?

alinnell
10-04-2013, 09:11 AM
Megan~have fun in Bermuda! I've been there, but only for a day as part of a cruise. I don't remember much--the straw market (I think that's what it's called--lots of souvenirs), a really cute bar/restaurant and the big resort with the aquarium you walk through. Oh, and LOTS of conch.

My plans for the weekend are a trip to Temecula with some new friends for wine tasting on Saturday and then Sunday morning we tackle cleaning our back patios to get them ready for "season" where we can actually use our stuff out there. It's finally nice enough to eat outdoors, but after a summer of heat and dust everything needs a good, thorough cleaning. We also need to pressure wash the RV lot before the in-laws return next weekend, but we can't do it on Sunday (park rules), so DH will have to do it one afternoon next week.

I took Chico to the oncologist yesterday. His labs are all the same so we'll continue with the chemo but the doctor thought Chico was starting to have a little difficulty breathing. I do know he is slowing down a bit and seems to be panting a lot more so I'm hoping the cooler weather is good for him. If his breathing gets worse we may have to start him on lasix which will be interesting as he already seems to pee a lot more than he used to.

ICUwishing
10-04-2013, 09:53 AM
Megan, I've flown a few times recently with razors and no one's made a peep about it. Hope you have a magnificent time! :) I'm waiting to see if and when the TSA folks are appropriately deemed "nonessential personnel" and sent home. ;)

allison, sounds like Chico's doing as well as he can, given the circumstances. This is where the doggy door comes in handy, I'd think. Evenings on the patio are one of my favorite ways to enjoy the fall - of course, mine tend to require fleece and long pants, but still ... !

I'm adapting to another change in schedule (added swim team practice for me, 3x per week) and still buried in backlog at work. I plan to work on work most of the weekend (yuck) to try to dig out and climb back up on top of the pile.

traveling michele
10-04-2013, 10:53 AM
Allison-- give Chico a kiss for me.

Megan-- have a great time!! I think I also did Bermuda like Allison but I'm not even sure now....

Becky-- good luck digging out from under the pile!

We're going to look at a new car after work today. I lamented to dh that I wouldn't be able to exercise so he said we don't have to look at the car! Um...no... I want to. We got quotes from a few dealers through USAA and unfortunately the one nearest to us seemed like a flake/pushy so we are driving 25 plus miles in rush hour on a Friday. We'll see what kind of car buying mood we're in by the time we get there. I was thinking we would just test drive, but if we love it and the guy has a good deal, we may buy it today. Dh leaves for China on Wednesday and will be gone for several weeks so he won't be around for paperwork signing. Wish me luck!!

Then, I need to pack for Napa, get the animals ready for the pet sitter, etc.

It is incredibly windy here. The winds kept me up last night and my eyes are pouring buckets. It's supposed to be windy all day.

Busy Friday at work for me, but it's FRIDAY! TGIF!

alinnell
10-04-2013, 07:56 PM
Dagmar~did you see this? Walter White (http://www.abqjournal.com/275038/news/abq-news/it-provides-closure.html) WARNING!!! Spoiler if you haven't seen the last episode of Breaking Bad!

Mudpie
10-05-2013, 06:13 AM
Dagmar~did you see this? Walter White (http://www.abqjournal.com/275038/news/abq-news/it-provides-closure.html) WARNING!!! Spoiler if you haven't seen the last episode of Breaking Bad!

I DID see it - excellent wrap up! I really liked that Jesse "won" in the end.

Dagmar :cool:

Mudpie
10-06-2013, 06:46 AM
I'm looking forward to being back at home Tuesday night. Even though it will only be home for 3 more weeks. No major problems with the pets here but the house is very non-functional and highly decorated - not an environment I enjoy living in.

Home really IS where DH and the cats are. I will really enjoy living in the new house with them for the next 4 months with no dog sits.

We should have most of our gear unpacked by my next sit in March! :p

Dagmar :cool:

saef
10-06-2013, 10:36 AM
Wondering how Jen is doing, as we haven't heard from her in several weeks, since before she set out for a long camping trip. I mean the Upstate NY-based Jen. But now that I think of it, there's the other Jen, also, the one who's Atlanta-based and knows all the places that Shannon talks about.

My mother's been visiting for seven days & I'm trying to think of a diversion today that we'll both enjoy. She didn't like "Gravity" in 3D at the local movie theater yesterday. She loves shopping but I have my limits because of the crowds & parking. Still pondering this one ...

Mudpie
10-06-2013, 01:49 PM
Wondering how Jen is doing, as we haven't heard from her in several weeks, since before she set out for a long camping trip. I mean the Upstate NY-based Jen. But now that I think of it, there's the other Jen, also, the one who's Atlanta-based and knows all the places that Shannon talks about.

My mother's been visiting for seven days & I'm trying to think of a diversion today that we'll both enjoy. She didn't like "Gravity" in 3D at the local movie theater yesterday. She loves shopping but I have my limits because of the crowds & parking. Still pondering this one ...

What did you think of "Gravity" saef? DH and I have a movie coupon we have to use before we move and I've heard great things about Sandra Bullock's performance in it.

How about taking your mom to an ethnic market or neighbourhood - like Chinese or Italian - to look around and then have dinner there? It's still kinda shopping but a little less intense.

Dagmar :dizzy:

saef
10-06-2013, 07:12 PM
Oh, I definitely enjoy movies like "Gravity" and "Zero Dark Thirty" in which the heroines have more stressful jobs than I do and go through some really bad days at work.

I thought it was worth spending the few extra bucks for the 3D showing.

Problem is, I saw Nicole Holofcener's "Enough Said" today, and that was a movie that was closer to my heart. Smaller-scale, low-key, about everyday life, with people whom I feel like I know.

alinnell
10-06-2013, 08:20 PM
We went to see Gravity today and enjoyed it as well. Best line in the show "I hate space." Never could I be an astronaut.

We went with friends to Temecula wine country yesterday and had a thoroughly enjoyable day. They actually have 60 wineries there--of which we visited only 6. The first was very small, family run and very amazing. We joined one winery and might join another. Fun, fun, fun.