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Jaz050465
09-13-2013, 01:27 AM
I'm constantly 'trying' to lose weight/ eat healthily but never succeeding. One of my problems is getting it in my head that the one biscuit/ workout is going to make a difference longterm. I always eat and think that i'll start properly tomorrow. I haven't much to lose but constantly feel this is a battle which I'm never going to win.


iw4els1
09-13-2013, 02:02 AM
That's what i Always do to i just signed up today for this group seeking motivation. iv tried every diet and wasted lots of money on diet pills snd shakes that sit around the house either un opened or just a couple of doses taken. So i guess i just gotta suck it up nn do it the old fashion way of smaller portions no fried food lots of water and good ild fashioned walking lol or at least that's what I'm trying this go around. :cheer: WE CAN DO IT ...hopefully lol

Rhiko
09-13-2013, 02:51 AM
It takes 2 weeks to start a habit and one to break it. For years I was in your position where, I thought, I'd shed half my weight if I went for a long walk or didn't eat that chocolate cake. To keep my motivation, I set a long-term goal that was beyond numbers on a scale and so far this year I've lost heaps of weight (see my sig for exact numbers).

My advice, think about that reason which made you want to lose weight in the first place. Write it down on post-its and place them around the house, make it your computer wallpaper, put it as an alarm on your phone, write it down every day, guilt yourself with it when you are making excuses to get out of exercising..... Whatever it takes, especially if it means that much to you. :) (Guilt, reminders on my phone from MyDietPal (I think that's what it was called) and inspiring quote wallpapers got me started!)

I hope this wasn't too over-the-top or intense for you! I'm recovering from a long, tiring run and my bright-side is slowly returning as I recover lol :)


ILoveVegetables
09-13-2013, 02:54 AM
I did that too, for the longest time (literally years). I kept telling myself that this was the last burger, and tomorrow I would totally give up junk food and start exercising. Of course, it never happened.

What finally worked was starting slow. I began by trying to cut down portions (eat half or 3/4 what I normally would) and eating slowly (worked like a charm... I felt full halfway through). Slowly I cut down on sodas and junk food as well. Today, barely a month after I started, I don't have sodas anymore (apart from the occasional sip), I barely eat out, and I have half the food I normally used to. I've already lost 6 lbs in the past 20 days or so, and it's seeing the small changes that keep me motivated. I also started out by walking 30 minutes a day, not even a really fast pace, but mentally it made me feel like I was doing something, and I didn't want to waste my exercise by eating something unhealthy.

In a nutshell, my suggestion would be to start small, and don't deprive yourself.

Good luck :)

happybug
09-13-2013, 03:04 AM
I know what you mean, I used to feel exactly like that. I only needed to lose 10kgs but it seemed impossible. I'd lose 5 then gain it back. I just didn't want to give up sugary foods and I thought that by cutting back or cutting down on them it would make a difference. It didn't, I just kept setting myself up for a binge. I can't say what exactly motivated me to change this time. Perhaps it was realising how hard it was becoming to start again in the first place. So, I cut out all junk food. I cut out sugary foods completely for the first two weeks, including diet desserts, knowing they spiralled me into a binge. I started exercising as well. Just using the exercise bike for three minutes then swapping to skipping for three, then back on the bike at a harder speed. I did this for about 25 mins while listening to music, 5 times a week, alternating with walking on the days I didn't feel energetic. Two months later, with the help of Weight Watchers I've gone under what I lost the last time and am three kilos off what I want to be. The first step is always the hardest, but seeing results is so worth it! You can do it!

Jaz050465
09-13-2013, 03:54 AM
From replies to this and to another post i put up, I'm beginning to think that I need to get rid of my all or nothing mentality and start slowly. I haven't got too many bad habits and generally eat OK but obviously not good enough, or else i wouldnt be over weight. I'm thinking of bringing in one new target a week and rewarding myself with a coin if I meet it each day. I will then buy a new charm for my bracelet when I have enough money.

I think I will use Eating Less by Gillian Riley to help with my targets as well. This week will be think before I eat anything- do I want to eat because I'm hungry or for another reason. I rarely eat out, so when I do, I'm going to allow myself to ignore this.

Munchy
09-16-2013, 01:14 PM
To tell you honestly, the only way I could do it is by planning my meals. If I just say "eat healthy" it gives me zero guidelines for what I will eat. If I sit and write down foods next to

Breakfast:
Snack:
Lunch:
Snack:
Dinner:
Snack:
TOTAL:

then I can make sure that it all adds up to the right amount (of calories, points, exchanges, etc).

I also pre-cook many of my meals and separate them into portions to freeze. Then I can just pull out whatever meal from the freezer that is on my plan.

jerah
09-19-2013, 05:08 AM
I've been doing a little bit better but now its morning and I have a slice of cake in front of me. Always want to go jogging but damn near unmotivated. Looking out at the weather, I'm just enjoying staying indoors as much as possible.

Sum38
09-19-2013, 06:17 AM
To tell you honestly, the only way I could do it is by planning my meals. If I just say "eat healthy" it gives me zero guidelines for what I will eat. If I sit and write down foods next to

Breakfast:
Snack:
Lunch:
Snack:
Dinner:
Snack:
TOTAL:

then I can make sure that it all adds up to the right amount (of calories, points, exchanges, etc).
I also pre-cook many of my meals and separate them into portions to freeze. Then I can just pull out whatever meal from the freezer that is on my plan.

^^^
This!!! And I also record my weight every day, good or bad. Some people can not handle the daily weigh-ins; I would totally lose it if I did not do it.

There are some great challenges here at 3 FC. I love "lose 2% of your bodyweight" challenge....for me it is a tad bit over 3 pounds; small steps. It also helps to see that barely noone is dropping pound after pound day after day. We all struggle.

Good luck, and remember it is only one meal at a time. You don't have to wait till tomorrow when you can start with your next meal :)

Wendyg311
09-20-2013, 12:04 PM
OH YES!! Tomorrow......

Actually, isn't TODAY the tomorrow I promised yesterday??

Not making light of anything, but it's true. I said Yesterday I was going to stop this nonsense. Well here it is...and I've just eaten half a plate of brownies. I'm full, and ashamed. Full of brownies and shame.......

Somehow I KNOW being full of energy and feeling proud of my accomplishments would be better.......but, but, but. Ugh

Desiderata
09-20-2013, 10:13 PM
Tomorrow never comes. It's never tomorrow. It's always just the present moment, the immediate space we're in. We can't ever actually touch the past, and we can't ever actually be in the future. Right now is literally the only moment we have complete control over. To make progress - of any kind - we have to choose the right choices in the present moment.

Wendyg311
09-21-2013, 06:50 PM
Have you read "the power of now" that sounds like the philosophy from that book. That is a very powerful book.

polymertastic
09-21-2013, 10:53 PM
I'm in the same boat as you! It's been over half a year since I last logged on because I tell myself this every day. And I start the day thinking I'll control myself, but before an hour is even up, I've already given up. One of the users above seems to have sound advice, where maybe it's best to start off little by little. I'm definitely one of those people who do the all-or-nothing. Maybe we can go through this battle together!

Fionnin
09-22-2013, 07:01 AM
It is very hard but there will be something that makes it click. Everyone needs to find their own way to start their weight loss journey. But the main thing to remember is a journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. The important thing is to start, when your ready. Even if it's just small changes, like take a walk after dinner or counting your calories. I use myfitnesspal to count my calories. It's a free app for your phone and really helps me monitor what I'm eating. Best of luck with your journey.

DrivenByAmbition
09-22-2013, 09:35 AM
^^^
This!!! And I also record my weight every day, good or bad. Some people can not handle the daily weigh-ins; I would totally lose it if I did not do it.

There are some great challenges here at 3 FC. I love "lose 2% of your bodyweight" challenge....for me it is a tad bit over 3 pounds; small steps. It also helps to see that barely noone is dropping pound after pound day after day. We all struggle.

Good luck, and remember it is only one meal at a time. You don't have to wait till tomorrow when you can start with your next meal :)


What both of these ladies say. It's all about holding yourself accountable. Try not to only look at the big picture, celebrate small accomplishments along the way... 5 lbs, 10 lbs, certain %, sizes, etc.

Plateaus do occur, that just gives you an excuse to change it up.

Big Fat Rooster
09-23-2013, 06:16 PM
This may sound different, but it is the same thing. I will talk cigarettes, you substitute eating or ANY OTHER ADDICTION.

For three years I bought cigarettes one pack at a time because I might stop tomorrow. Three years went by, actually a little over, before I finally took the step. I nearly killed myself, and food kills also be it a different method than tobacco. For the past few years I knew I had to lose weight but kept putting it off....... tomorrow maybe. A doctors visit and being told what I needed to hear finally put me on the right path. Hope I can stay on it. I weighed in at 279. The doctor told me to lose 10%. That if I did many of my health problems would end. That was July 8 of this year. I now weigh 250, down 29 lbs. But my goal is 180 now. I feel soooooooooo much better it is unbelievable. I managed to stop smoking, from 4 packs a day to zero cold turkey. I have a much harder time with losing the weight, but am dedicated to doing so, and keeping it off.

As the ladies above said, the longest journey starts with the first step. One will not make the journey if they don't take the first step.

And I will add, there are many individual paths to take to get to the end of this journey. But all of them have one thing in common. Taking in less calories than you burn. This excludes liposuction of course, but what a DRASTIC measure that is, and it also does not last at. Some have to weigh daily, some do not, and lots of other things. Myself, I only weigh once a week, I do not care to be bothered with the daily fluctuations of up to 8 lbs that occur. The overall downward trend suits me just fine, but that is me.

I noticed that different sites gave different calories for the same amounts of the same food. I searched this morning and came up with the best recommended site the most trustworthy calorie information. That is the US government site www.supertracker.usda.gov which has not only calorie information but the entire healthy eating program including personal logging/tracking both your calories and the health of your eating.

Good luck to all of you, and thanks for being here for me, it sure helps.

B F R

BaileyMonroe154
11-02-2013, 06:16 PM
Me too....:carrot: lets get moving together

Daisydixon
11-08-2013, 09:49 AM
You're absolutely right! I have found it very helpful to not only write my goal but also the reason why I want to achieve it. This helps not only to keep me motivated but also serves as a deterrent should my willpower begin to wane.