Mini-Goals - If you think you can't, then read this...




zoesmom
09-09-2013, 10:32 AM
The fair is in town and I took my kid this year, just like I have every year since she was born. I want to stress something first. Last year, I had just gotten out of the hospital after finding myself a hair's width from death. I had been told to file disability and told in not so many words to expect no quality of life. I was told I would likely always have an O2 tank near me and my mobility would be limited. And what I was told was very accurate, at the time. Let's just say that the then 29 year old me did not want to hear what they said and decided to prove them all wrong.

I just want to compare the differences a year makes. So next time you think you can't remember, you shape your future, no one else.


Last year:
It took me 45 minutes to get up 200 stairs that lead from the parking lot to the actual fair grounds. Since I refused to have a disability tag, I could not park in the disability zone that would have made life a lot easier. I was dragging around an O2 tank and found myself unable to do anything but sit at a table and cry as strangers took my child on various rides for me. Even though I was "dieting" at that time, I ate 2 footlong hand dipped corn dogs, a huge thing of cheese bacon fries, a funnel cake, and four soda pops. I was only able to get on one ride with my child, and never was able to actually ride it as the operator told me I was too big and he couldn't close the bar. Probably for the best because I needed my oxygen and didn't have it on at the time. I bought 5 blocks of fudge with the intent to share, but ended up eating all of it by myself. I had a caramel apple and half a bag of cotton candy. We stayed 90 minutes before I was wore out and had to leave. I never made it home that night...I had to stop at my mom's because I had no energy. Last year, I didn't think I would ever be able to do the things I wanted to do and I just knew that this was the beginning of a miserable life.

This year:
I RAN up those 200 steps and didn't break a sweat or run out of breath. I took my child on EVERY ride there and could fit in EVERY LAST ONE WITH EASE! I noticed I was more active than most of the other people there, who were sitting! Last year, it had seemed more moved than sat, but I highly doubt that now that I could see it on this side of things. I ate bad...but I only had one REGULAR sized corndog, a regular sized order of bacon cheese fries, only ONE bite of a funnel cake my friend had purchased, and SEVEN waters! I bought ONE block of fudge and split it between my daughter, her best friend, and my nephew after I had taken only one small nibble. I bought SIX apples...but there were NOT caramel apples. Just plain apples. And they were for lunches through the week, not for right then. We stayed for five hours and I wore my kid out, I could have kept going! No cotton candy was bought. This year, I realized I may have a long way to go, but I am healthier now than what I have been in a decade...BRING ON THE OBSTACLES OF WEIGHT LOSS! I GOT THIS!


lazylioness
09-09-2013, 12:04 PM
That is awesome!

I can totally relate to your story. I had a similar experience with Knott's Berry Farm in January.

Congrats and I look foward to hearing more about your journey!

vintagecat
09-09-2013, 12:06 PM
What a motivating story.

Apparently the fair is a common theme right now. Several of us have posted about our fairs. IMO you did the right thing. You worked within the situation of an outing in a sustainable way.

I wish you every success.

Cathy


Sum38
09-09-2013, 12:18 PM
You are just amazing!

I am happy to hear that you are living your life. I am happy to hear that your DD has her mom "back". -- This story brought tears in my eyes. :love:

mhill0823
09-09-2013, 12:27 PM
I just sat here in tears reading this, emotional day I guess.
Congrats to you! What an inspiration you are!:)

Snoooze
09-09-2013, 12:36 PM
What a great story & good on you for acheiving everything you have so far. Keep up the great work. You are an inspiration :)

Emula
09-09-2013, 12:45 PM
That is amazing! :cheer2: well done!
Thanks for posting! :)

betsy2013
09-09-2013, 12:50 PM
WOW! So happy for you and thankful that you did something about your situation as opposed to just giving in to the predictions. Great story and thanks so much for sharing.

KYgirlinSC
09-09-2013, 12:50 PM
Thank you for sharing...it's very moving and is helping me to stay motivated! Keep up the good work!

Mozzy
09-09-2013, 01:06 PM
Super congrats!!!!!!

Lecomtes
09-09-2013, 03:01 PM
This year:
I RAN up those 200 steps and didn't break a sweat or run out of breath. I took my child on EVERY ride there and could fit in EVERY LAST ONE WITH EASE! I noticed I was more active than most of the other people there, who were sitting!

...had me in tears! I'm so happy for you, hugs and blessings to you. What a beautiful inspiration you are!

iamritu
09-09-2013, 03:04 PM
awesome.....and so so inspiring!!! Hats off to u for not giving up...it sure must have been tough to decide to fight all the odds and get where u r today, but sure is worth it, isn't it.
I bow down to u....

cass2ander
09-09-2013, 03:40 PM
Awesome story! Thanks for sharing.

zoesmom
09-09-2013, 04:24 PM
Ladies - Thanks for your words :) It's nice knowing where I was compared to where I currently am, knowing I still have a ways to go but that is IS possible. Had anyone told me it could be done, I would have cried and called them a liar. but now, I KNOW I can go the distance, it just takes will power, drive, and determination.

Let me ask you, where were you a year ago...and where are you now? :)

Mrs Snark
09-09-2013, 04:43 PM
Well, that is just a fantastic post, LOVE IT! So inspiring reading about the tangible changes that make every day life SO MUCH BETTER!

YAY YOU!

boatingmommy
09-09-2013, 05:06 PM
Thank you for sharing...sniff, sniff and wiping a tear!!! Congrats on taking your life back! Enjoy it to the fullest and keep up the good work!

time2lose
09-09-2013, 05:17 PM
What a wonderful post, very inspiring! Thank you for sharing!

mzshaunna
09-09-2013, 07:54 PM
That's awesome and so motivating, congrats :)

Kitcherella
09-10-2013, 04:23 AM
:bravo: You are brilliant! Like you say, a year makes a big difference! Determination is key.

VioletDolphin83
09-10-2013, 04:44 AM
Very inspiring! :)
Maybe I'll be fit enough to be like that one day. I too have crippling mobility issues.

zoesmom
09-10-2013, 09:09 AM
Very inspiring! :)
Maybe I'll be fit enough to be like that one day. I too have crippling mobility issues.

Whereas I am not sure of what your mobility issues are, I am certain you can and will see an improvement in some shape, form, or fashion. Like Kitcherella said, determination is key. Remove the word "maybe" and you'll be on your way. :)

Things started slow. I could not exercise at first, at all. I had dieted first and it wasn't until six months later I attempted to work out. I started working out in February of this year. When I started, I couldn't walk down my stairs much less up them. My daughter told me one day, "Mom, I had to take baby steps to learn to walk. You just need to take baby steps too." Wise words from a babe of 3 (she's 4 now.) I would go a little further every day. I started the Couch to 5K program and about died. I couldn't walk a quarter of a mile, much less run for 60 seconds. I went slow. I ran for 5 seconds the first day. Seriously. I walked less than 1/8 of a mile before my husband had to come get me as I was crawling to the house. This is something I haven't shared before. It was humiliating, it was discouraging, it was heart breaking. I honestly thought at the time it was worthless to try. But my daughter kept at me, telling me, "Just one more baby step, Mom."

Today, I run anywhere from 1 to 3 miles most days (unless I am having a lung issue flair up.) I do strength training at least 3 days a week. I run an average of 12 minutes a mile, but when I started, it took me more or less an hour to get one mile, when I finally could do a full mile. If I push myself, I can get 7 minutes to a mile...but those days are rare, my lungs just can't take it all that often :)

The point is, if you are determined enough, ANYTHING is possible. :hug: Have faith.

jessica2231
09-10-2013, 10:36 AM
Beautiful! Thank you for sharing this. I bog myself down sometimes to. Baby steps is a great reminder. Thank you!

zoesmom
09-10-2013, 07:06 PM
Beautiful! Thank you for sharing this. I bog myself down sometimes to. Baby steps is a great reminder. Thank you!

Thank my kid, she was my inspiration and wisest words of motivation, still is even :)

newleaf123
09-10-2013, 07:30 PM
zoesMom, what an uplifting story. I am so happy for you!!

newleaf123
09-10-2013, 07:43 PM
I read where you asked to hear about what a difference a year made for other people. I've cut and pasted what I wrote on my 1-year date, which was 5 months ago. Everything I wrote is still true today, except I've lost 3 more pounds and hit my number goal too.

Even though I have a goal number in my ticker, a number on the scale has never been my goal. Instead, it has been to hit my 48th birthday, look back, and be able to say that 47 was the year that I turned things around. Well -- today I hit my goal!! Happy birthday to me!!

I'm 49 pounds lighter and have gone from a very very tight size 18 (should have been a 20) pants to a size 10. I've gone from having difficulty getting up off a deep couch to doing an 80-mile trek. I've gone from dreading having to find something to wear to an occasion to being delighted that I can choose something I like rather than something that fits. I definitely feel like I've turned things around! And, I've accepted that there is no end point. I don't get to meet my goal and be done. In fact, I have a new goal every day, which is to be able to say "I kept the weight off yesterday" Uggh to that LOL

zoesmom
09-11-2013, 09:01 AM
I read where you asked to hear about what a difference a year made for other people. I've cut and pasted what I wrote on my 1-year date, which was 5 months ago. Everything I wrote is still true today, except I've lost 3 more pounds and hit my number goal too.

I've gone from having difficulty getting up off a deep couch to doing an 80-mile trek. I've gone from dreading having to find something to wear to an occasion to being delighted that I can choose something I like rather than something that fits. I definitely feel like I've turned things around! And, I've accepted that there is no end point. I don't get to meet my goal and be done. In fact, I have a new goal every day, which is to be able to say "I kept the weight off yesterday" Uggh to that LOL

I LOVE LOVE LOVE hearing stuff like this! I think that is why I enjoy sharing my story now, the good, bad, and ugly. It is nice to have reassurances you are not alone and when other people share their stories, it suddenly seems real and possible to keep moving forward. 3FC has been a WONDERFUL place to get the support and motivation and inspiration needed in achieving goals. Everyone here "gets it" in some shape, form, or fashion.

Congrats to you on hitting goal! I cannot wait for the day I can post that I hit goal. You are an inspiration :D

MrsKevin
09-13-2013, 06:23 PM
:cheer: :cheer: :cheer:

Zoesmom, you are something else!!!! sooooooo good to hear this story- I was having a crumby day-- NO MORE! You were my "bright spot". :)

God Bless you and Zoe too!
:hug:MrsKevin
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Long Term Goal: 82# to lose
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Secret Swan
09-13-2013, 09:46 PM
You're amazing, and that was so inspirational. Congratulations. If you can change your life that dramatically, I am sure you will be able to stick this out.

Megan33
09-13-2013, 10:04 PM
Good job!!!! I bow before you!! YOU ROCK, KEEP IT UP!!

zoesmom
09-13-2013, 11:05 PM
Good job!!!! I bow before you!! YOU ROCK, KEEP IT UP!!

OMG! Look at you! True inspiration right there! WOW!!!!!!

lotsakids
09-18-2013, 04:40 PM
Let me ask you, where were you a year ago...and where are you now? :)

What a great question! I was weighing in at anywhere from 278 to my "down weight" of 273. I was tired and had gout attacks every other month that were keeping me from being very mobile. We had no insurance and I pretty much had no hope.

4 months ago I had my worst best day of my life. I was dx'd with diabetes, hypertension (219/120 bp :?:) and of course gout. I started medication and started walking to the end of the street and back. Since then I've increased my walk to 5+ miles a day and my weight this morning was 227.6. I'm following a low carb diet, taking meds and plowing ahead. :D

zoesmom
09-18-2013, 04:46 PM
What a great question! I was weighing in at anywhere from 278 to my "down weight" of 273. I was tired and had gout attacks every other month that were keeping me from being very mobile. We had no insurance and I pretty much had no hope.

4 months ago I had my worst best day of my life. I was dx'd with diabetes, hypertension (219/120 bp :?:) and of course gout. I started medication and started walking to the end of the street and back. Since then I've increased my walk to 5+ miles a day and my weight this morning was 227.6. I'm following a low carb diet, taking meds and plowing ahead. :D


LOVE this type of inspiration! :hug: how awesome you are!

Dolly Sunshine
09-18-2013, 04:53 PM
What a great thread!!

skinnyki
09-23-2013, 10:53 PM
Wonderful! I agree yes you got this!! Keep up the good work. I can relate to the riding rides thing I purposely have not been to an amusement park bc of this. I also have been avoiding the airplanes. I couldn't live with the embarrassment. I am so looking forward to be able to do these activities with confidence and no fear :cheer: great post for a I job well done :bravo:

Hamoco350
09-25-2013, 05:52 AM
What an amazing thing to share.

I am very glad that your health has improved so much. I'm also happy to see you're motivated and reaching your goals. I know I've been struggling with health issues (I'm only 23) and sometimes losing weight feels impossible. I'm glad you shared this because I needed to hear it.

Jacqui_D
09-25-2013, 12:37 PM
Simply wonderful! Thank you for sharing your inspiring story! :hug:

tefrey
09-26-2013, 08:35 PM
Thank you for reminding us that the victories we encounter on our journey aren't just numbers ... scales and dress sizes are fantastic but the real reward comes in living the full active life we deserve.

Big hugs!

ReenHag
10-01-2013, 10:31 PM
Thank you for sharing your moving story and for encouraging each of us to find our own motivation! I wish you and your daughter the best!

A year ago, I was just a few weeks past losing my brother, who was 49. He was fit, into sports, ate well, but his heart just gave out. I was 20- 25 pounds heavier than I am now, starting in a new situation at my job that was also highly stressful. I knew I had to do something, but didn't really act on it until April of this year. A combination of my brother's birthday coming around and then my weight being the highest it has been in my adult life kicked my butt into gear. I started exercising, eating better, dropped ten pounds, and then started the Ideal Protein program at the end of summer. I am doing this for myself and for my family.

zoesmom
10-02-2013, 11:01 AM
Thank you for sharing your moving story and for encouraging each of us to find our own motivation! I wish you and your daughter the best!

A year ago, I was just a few weeks past losing my brother, who was 49. He was fit, into sports, ate well, but his heart just gave out. I was 20- 25 pounds heavier than I am now, starting in a new situation at my job that was also highly stressful. I knew I had to do something, but didn't really act on it until April of this year. A combination of my brother's birthday coming around and then my weight being the highest it has been in my adult life kicked my butt into gear. I started exercising, eating better, dropped ten pounds, and then started the Ideal Protein program at the end of summer. I am doing this for myself and for my family.

Good for you! I've found that my family has been my biggest motivator. Every time I think of giving up, I see my kid and I know that if I give up on myself, I give up on her. That isn't an option. :hug: I am SO sorry for the loss of your brother. I'm a strong believer that everything happens for a reason, even if we don't see it at the time. Perhaps his untimely death was the factor you and yoru family needed to get healthier. In any case, I hope you reach your goals and find the strength to continue on. And again, :hug: I don't know what I would do if I lost my sister. You have my support.

tadaponce
10-03-2013, 05:30 PM
Absolutely beautiful story, seriously....above everything else, this is what we are doing this for anyway right? Sometimes I think we need reminders that are not scale based....and this is definately it. Congratulatinos on your journey so far, as it is truly inspiring!

Goddess In Training
10-04-2013, 02:21 PM
Your story choked me up. My kids are the biggest reason I want to do this. I want to experience everything with them, and be around a long, long time for them

xoxo

happybug
10-22-2013, 06:37 AM
Wow, what an inspiring story. A lot of people in your situation might have decided that this was their lot in life and wallowed in self pity, so I'm really impressed that you decided, "Nope, I want better for me and my kids," and set about achieving that. They say that a good story stays in people's minds after they've read it and I know yours will stick in mine.

diamondgeog
10-22-2013, 02:45 PM
It is a great story. I'm 48 my adopted daughter is 3. I HAD to change. And it is way more awesome losing weight than I thought. I feel beyond fantastic although I have a long way to go. Not going to change my signature until I reach 220. But I am not stopping till I see a 1 as my first digit and then maintaining that forever.

One thing I've found is Huffington Post. So MANY awesome stories there. I spent one night hours going through them. They have a slideshow with hundreds. Google Huffington Post Weight loss success stories. Trust me, awesome to read. If you liked this for sure go to the Huff Post site. You will really like it.

wishfuiiy
10-24-2013, 04:34 AM
This post made me cry because I am so happy for you.

Fairs have been a sore spot for me too, because I went a few years ago with my ex for a date and the one ride I wanted to ride I couldn't get on because the bar couldn't close. I was too big. I cried, and cried, and cried.

I was offered to go to the state fair this year, and I refused only because I worried about the rides and all the food. I bet I could've gotten on the rides though now that I think about it. Man, oh man! I should've went.

Congrats on everything! Gosh, I am still crying these happy tears for you because I know what it's like.

zoesmom
10-24-2013, 10:01 AM
:grouphug: You all are going to make me cry if you are not careful!

Reading over all your replies once more made me realize that not only am I blessed to have the kid that I have and the will power I possess (even if it took me years to realize that), I am also blessed to have stumbled across this forum and across each and every one of you. Your own stories are just as motivating and inspirational to me as mine is to you. Knowing that others face the same battle makes the trek seem less drear and more doable. Knowing I inspire people pushes me forward, and when I stumble, I read the posts of the very people who I once inspired so I myself can be inspired by them.

Talk about a gift that keeps on giving. And one that is worlds better than the Annual Christmas Fruit Cake. :grouphug: