General chatter - Baby fever, anyone else want a baby?

08-13-2013, 03:17 PM
I used to not want kids. Then June 2011 I experienced a miscarriage before I even knew I was pregnant. Since then I have wanted a baby. We stopped birth control on Sunday.

I want a baby but also it seems so scary!

Anyone else consumed by thoughts of babies?

08-13-2013, 03:30 PM
Well I wish you good luck but no, I think I have anti baby fever :) I have a new niece who is lovely and was a sweet little angel when we visited. I held her for an hour or so while she slept. She was incredibly adorable but it really cemented my idea of not having children. I love kids though so I can't wait until she is older to interact with her more.

08-13-2013, 04:28 PM
I have had baby fever.. and still do. On Christmas day we got a positive, but it didn't workout for me.

Still trying, with no luck!

Good luck to you and please, don't let it drive you bonkers. :) I have to admit, it makes me breakdown once in a while when I see a BFN.

(BFN = Big fat negative, BFP = Big fat positive)

08-13-2013, 04:43 PM
I have baby fever!

Good luck to you!

08-13-2013, 04:47 PM
I have a three and a five year old who I love dearly but they drive me pretty crazy so no baby fever here lol. I photograph newborns so I get my baby fix on a regular basis. :)

Good luck with the baby making! It IS scary having a baby but also amazing and rewarding.

08-14-2013, 08:04 AM
My baby fever is bad news bears. My IUD comes out next Tuesday and then we're going with the "whatever happens happens" approach.

Arctic Mama
08-14-2013, 01:52 PM
I went from a desire for kids 'some day' to a really intense longing for them when I got married. Seven years and four kids later it still hasn't let up - I just can't think of a better thing here on earth to pour out my time, energy, and money than the raising of people :)

We'll see when I'm pregnant with #5 - we're not preventing for multiple reasons, and my cycles are completely weird because of nursing. But I'll be excited whenever (or if ever!) we conceive another. I can't imagine life without my precious kids and phenomenal husband!

08-14-2013, 03:53 PM
The idea of being pregnant sounds mighty unappealing and I am not interested in infants and toddlers or pretty much any person under age 6 or 7.

But I get it, I really do. I've gone from "I am 100% sure I want to be sterilized" to "Maybe when I'm 40" so who knows.

08-14-2013, 06:49 PM
I adore babies. I'll admit I get a bit wistful when I see a tiny baby in someone's arms. But it's a fleeting feeling. I was like a third parent to both of my step siblings and while I love them very much, the whole ordeal has made me realize I don't really want to be a parent.

Even if I wanted to have a child, there's another reason I can't.

I'm not willing to bring a child into this world for fear of one day losing them to one thing or another. I have seen parents lose their children and the pain they have suffered. I've seen my elderly grandmother lose her oldest child (my aunt, 61, who was like a mother to me) to cancer earlier this year and it completely broke her. I couldn't handle the loss of my child like that. The idea of my child suffering through something with no relief in sight breaks my heart. And even if there weren't natural causes taking them away from me, there's always the deranged lunatic at school shootings or a careless driver. I really don't want to upset anyone but these reasons are real and frightening enough for me.

Besides, I'm in nursing school at the moment, so if I decide to go the OB/Maternity route, I'll be surrounded by babies. Lots and lots of babies! :D That'll take care of my temporary baby fix.

08-14-2013, 07:22 PM
It used to be when my baby fever got too bad, I would go to Walmart and walk around. About 15 minutes in a Walmart, and I would run out of there fever-free. Unfortunately, now it's so bad that even screaming, snotty, crazy kids do not get on my nerves nor do they help with the fever. :( I am not in a place (financially, professionally, personally) to have a baby, so I try to just avoid them.

08-14-2013, 09:16 PM
I'm sort of leaning towards not having kids.

I "wanted" kids in the sense that it was simply what the next course of action was. People normally got married, had kids, etc.—it's simply just what was done.

As I grew up I began to doubt this. While I would talk about "when I have kids" deep down I wasn't sure I wanted them. If I'm not 100% sure then I shouldn't have any as far as I'm concerned (it's one of the reasons I broke off my engagement. My fiance wanted kids and I didn't think it was fair to jump into marriage if I wasn't sure).

I love kids—it's one of the reasons why I'm a teacher—I just don't know if I want any of my own.

08-14-2013, 09:29 PM
I love kids—it's one of the reasons why I'm a teacher—I just don't know if I want any of my own.

This sounds like me completely. I enjoy kids and that's why I'm going into the education field as well, but I really don't know if I want any of my own. I'm kinda going with the idea of if I was meant to have them, I'll have them. Meaning, if the cards play right and I get into a loving relationship and both of us wants kids, then I'll have kids. But until that happens, there will be no child bearing for me. :)

08-15-2013, 07:59 PM
I have baby fever pretty bad right now but I know I am wanting the baby part not the having a 5th child part. lol I know in my heart that 4 was enough for me so I had a tubal done in March. Now I am both sad and relieved that it has been done because I miss having a baby around but I know that our family is perfect as it is. So I really just have somebody around me have a baby so I can hold them fever.

08-15-2013, 09:55 PM
They idea of being pregnant really doesn't appeal to me and I really don't know why. Most people in my family and extended family have had incredibly easy pregnancies overall so I don't have some negative connotation to it.

I know this sounds weird but the idea of growing a baby sounds so much more exhausting than raising one! Which I realize is wrong and totally irrational but for some reason that is my emotional response to pregnancy!

I think though I would like to have a kid and adopt one. So many kids need a home and this way I don't have to get pregnant! :)

08-15-2013, 10:03 PM
I bust my ar$e to get some. Had two at once.

Both boys.

They are now smashing up my place.

So I have the baby fever vaccine. PM me address if need a vial.

Case in point.

Kitchenware becomes hats. WTF?

08-15-2013, 11:48 PM
Had twin boys. Love them. :D

Waiting on grandbaby #4 in December!:carrot:

Grandkids are way funner than kids!:D

08-16-2013, 06:49 PM
Since I'm typing with one hand while ny 2 week old is snuggled in my other arm, I'd say no fever here right now ;)

I have 3 boys. When I was in my early 20s I wasn't sure if I wanted kids. I was very focused on myself and just wasn't mature enough to be a mom. O know some women are ready at that age but I wasn't.

I married my bofriend of 6 years when I was 25 and got pregnant 2 months later. I was working fulltime as an RN and was pouring all I had into my career, I really defined myself by it. After my son was born everything else didn't matter anymore. Changed jobs to a position that was less demanding,and finallt left work last year and have since devoted all my time to my kids.

However since I'm getting older and we are not infinitely rich, we are stopping adter this one. I have barely put him down since he's been home, and just cannot get enough time with my last baby. DH says we can just have more but I know that whether its baby number 3 or 8, it'll be hard to know that there will be no more babies :(

I hated being pregnant, and had I had a weapon during this most recent labor, I'd have done myself in to escape the pain of pushing out a 9lb 6oz baby...I'm back to being fat again, my stomach sags, my boobs too, and I've got hemorrhoids (from pushing) that make me terrified to poop...and still when I look at my little baby and my other kids, its all worth it.

I'm still don't like other people's kids...but I loved and adore my own. I hope I don't get baby fever after this one though I likely will...because the feeling of holding someones else's baby in no way compares to how I feel holding my own :) So the only cure would be to have another!

Arctic Mama
08-16-2013, 07:03 PM
Ian, they're precious!

That vaccine never works for me - I'm at home pretty much 24/7 with everyone in infancy to first grade, and I'm their teacher as well as mom. Despite them getting into constant mischief and needing training and reproving and correcting until my bedtime (rinse, repeat) I still always get excited at the prospect of adding more. They're such awesome human beings I'm privileged to raise, though there are many challenges. Adding more just can't be that bad - I passed the logistical nightmare stage and now it's just more of the same.

What gets hilarious is when I'm watching a friends' kids with my own. Then the brood expands from four to eight or nine instantly and it's no more challenging to manage. That took a lot of my anxiety over the whole thing away - when I realized the managerial hump was passed several children ago :lol:

08-17-2013, 06:15 AM
Always thought I wanted at least 1 kid by the time I'm 30. Now that I'm 21 and still act like I'm 15, definitely not anymore. Also saw my sister raising her son and it kinda scared me (too much work.) Maybe after I'm done with school, establishing a career for myself, and traveling, I'll fancy the idea. I definitely don't want anymore than 2 kids tho, but adopting sounds like a good option too. No kids before 30, thats for sure.