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RookaWins
07-23-2013, 12:07 AM
I'm sure a lot of you on here are the same way.
I've been fat my whole life. There were no "skinny high school days". Every spare calorie i eat, goes directly to fat. I can't escape it. I've never been able to just eat what i wanted and not worry about how it would make me look.
I got married in october, and over the 9 months i've been married, i've gained back
EVERY SINGLE POUND i had taken TWO ****ING YEARS to lose.
I put it back on SO EASILY.
I'm tired of it.
Is there some supplement (natural) on TOP of excersise, that can help keep weight down? Something that maybe tells my body to say "hey let's just POOP out the extra food instead of cramming it into her ***."
I can't even be a happy newlywed without ruining my life!!! I can't say "hey babe let's go out to eat because we're married and i love you! let's have dessert! No! for the rest of my damn life i'll have to eat like a ****ing rabbit! And worry about how something will make me balloon up!! I've gotten so out of shape and i'm back to the weight i HATE.
HELP.
Calorie counting works for me. but if i **** up on ONE DAY, it will make me gain 5LBS of water weight and make me feel so bloated and my confidence goes in the TOILET.


GlamourGirl827
07-23-2013, 12:16 AM
nope, no magic pill, but... I was running before this pregnancy, and it was like a magic pill. Aside from being awesome and addicting, the weight melted off. I know a lot of people say weightloss is 90% what you eat, and 10% of exercise, and whilie that might be true if you are doing the ellipticle for 30 minutes, it is not true if you are getting out there and running 5-6 miles a day. The calorie burn on a long run is uncomparable. My longest was only a little over 7 miles, I was still increasing my weekly miles and long run when I got pregnant. But I'm telling you, I was able to eat a little more relaxed. I couldn't eat a whole pizza, but I spent most of that summer NOT counting cals, and the weight still came off. I got down to 145 lbs. But if you stop running and keep eating like you are, the weight will FLY back on!

Good Luck!

RookaWins
07-23-2013, 12:24 AM
nope, no magic pill, but... I was running before this pregnancy, and it was like a magic pill. Aside from being awesome and addicting, the weight melted off. I know a lot of people say weightloss is 90% what you eat, and 10% of exercise, and whilie that might be true if you are doing the ellipticle for 30 minutes, it is not true if you are getting out there and running 5-6 miles a day. The calorie burn on a long run is uncomparable. My longest was only a little over 7 miles, I was still increasing my weekly miles and long run when I got pregnant. But I'm telling you, I was able to eat a little more relaxed. I couldn't eat a whole pizza, but I spent most of that summer NOT counting cals, and the weight still came off. I got down to 145 lbs. But if you stop running and keep eating like you are, the weight will FLY back on!

Good Luck!
oh wow you're about to have a baby! congrats! lol
I have tried running, and at my weight, it honestly starts to hurt my shins and my feet way too much. i get so sore, and i stay off my feet for the next 4 days, it really doesn't help :c i'm not sure if it's the shoes or what. But running sucks. I can do the elliptical, though, and i feel perfectly fine afterwards. (aside from being sweaty).
But how intense do i have to do the elliptical, to get the same workout as a treadmill?
When i get thinner and my shins don't hurt so much i would love to be a runner :c


GlamourGirl827
07-23-2013, 12:41 AM
oh wow you're about to have a baby! congrats! lol
I have tried running, and at my weight, it honestly starts to hurt my shins and my feet way too much. i get so sore, and i stay off my feet for the next 4 days, it really doesn't help :c i'm not sure if it's the shoes or what. But running sucks. I can do the elliptical, though, and i feel perfectly fine afterwards. (aside from being sweaty).
But how intense do i have to do the elliptical, to get the same workout as a treadmill?
When i get thinner and my shins don't hurt so much i would love to be a runner :c

Oh I was not talking about the treadmill. I mean outside, on the road or trails. I did hte gym machine shuffle for almost a decade, and did not get teh results I got when I actually got outside and ran. I actually did the treadmill when I started running after baby #2 because I still had quite a bit of weight to lose so I was embarrassed to run outside. I was at the point that I was "running" non stop on the treadmill. THe first time I went outside I ran for about a minute! It was like starting all over again. In my opinion the treadmill was way easier than outside because outside you are pushing your weight forward while on the treadmill the ground is moving for you. My calfs hurt at first too, and my lungs! But I stuck with it and it got a lot easier and fun.

I was probably about your weight maybe 10 lbs lighter when I started outside running, but there are a lot of people that are running at closer to 200 lbs or more. ANd I was over 200 lbs when I started treadmill running. I don't think you would be too heavy to start running. BUt if you really want to burn serious cals, get out of the gym and onto the trails. You need to really feel the workout kicking your @ss. Some may disagree, but that's been my experience. Hope this helps.

I will be calorie counting this time but I fully plan on running again to aid with the weight loss after this baby!

excuse all the typos!

Arctic Mama
07-23-2013, 01:29 AM
No magic pill. No end date. Find a diet you can live with, with foods you enjoy and parameters that are not a daily struggle for you to work with, then rinse and repeat until you depart this earth.

Your daily eating and activity needs to become as automatic as brushing your teeth, or wiping your shoes at the door. Do you grumble every time you grab the toothpaste? Do you track mud in because you can't be bothered to wipe your shoes off (and make even more work for yourself with the mess)? That's diet - a necessary thing in our daily lives. You can rail against the unfairness of it all, but that won't shed a single pound off your rear and is very self defeating.

Embrace this for YOU and your husband. Get mad - we all do on occasion - but don't stay there. Make it work, tweak and never give up. Your self talk regarding weight is hugely important, given that maintenance is far more a mind game than a numbers game. You're slashing your own life raft by fighting against yourself over your eating. If it isn't livable keep searching until you find a diet that is suitable for your preferences and needs - but don't set yourself up for failure.

I can't eat everything and be healthy, but I can choose to love what I DO consume and value my energy, vitality, and yes - waist circumference - more than the comfort of junk food. Fighting with that reality does nothing but defeat me, and I have enough working against me, without my own will adding to the dogpile :)

JohnP
07-23-2013, 01:50 AM
From the sounds of it - you know how to lose weight. Now you just need to learn how to maintain that loss. You're at least 50% of the way there! To answer your question ... there are only two "magic pills" I know of.

#1) Weight lifting. A mid volume high intensity weight lifting session does wonders for the number of calories one can consume. You'll have to build up your work capacity but in addition to burning calories before and after the workout weight lifting improves whole body insulin sensativity.

#2) Intermittent fasting. While not for everyone*** intermittent fasting works like magic for many people by acting as a calorie limiting mechanism that is effortless. Like working out - you'll need to build up your fasting muscles. Hunger comes in waves and temporarily can be ignored.

*** I don't think anyone who does not already have reasonably good dietary habits should try to tackle intermittent fasting.

Matisse
07-23-2013, 02:44 AM
I am not part of the ones who have it figured out but I wanted to say that I have enjoyed reading this thread tremendously.

I feel like exercise and muscle is the key. It's inactivity that brought up our fat percentage. Each day, we have to fight to be more active, build muscle and bring our metabolism up.

I remember what I used to tackle in a day, the chores I could accomplish, the 100 km bike rides. I want to be that person again.

Rooka - If you do not feel comfortable running yet, is there another high intensity activity you can do? Spinning? An aerobic class of some sorts?

Arrwillia
07-23-2013, 03:51 AM
I second running and weights. You do need good shoes though, I ran with bad shoes and my shins hurt all the time. I started running this time with good shoes and the difference is amazing!! I also have a set of 10 lb dumbbells and an exercise ball, I looked at some youtube videos and found exercises that I felt comfortable doing without hurting myself but still getting a good workout.

I feel your pain though. My husband was deployed for 6 mos in 2011 and I dropped 27 lbs by mowing the yard, walking every day, then working my way into running. ...And then I gained it all back in 12 mos .Now he's deployed again, I started running again (trying to escape my 4 kids hehe...mama needs some quiet time!) and my times SUCKED. But after 2.5 mos of running 4 days/wk I've increased my pace and mileage to even better than before. It's great because not only is it excellent cardio it also tones and flattens your tummy/hips/thighs/calves. Believe me, I've had 4 big babies and my tummy needs all the help it can get! In high school (16 yrs ago...) we were both skinny and fit, ate so much junk it was ridiculous. When we got married we both gained 15 lbs within the first 6 months. I've discovered for myself that it doesn't matter how much I diet, if I don't stay active the weight comes on quickly. When we moved and I was no longer walking 4 miles/day to and from their school I gained 20 lbs in a short amount of time. When my husband came home I stopped running and gained back the 27 I had run off. It was frustrating and depressing, but now that I know I have to stay active to lose/maintain it's become a part of my normal routine, something I absolutely have to do.

RookaWins
07-23-2013, 04:25 AM
I am not part of the ones who have it figured out but I wanted to say that I have enjoyed reading this thread tremendously.

I feel like exercise and muscle is the key. It's inactivity that brought up our fat percentage. Each day, we have to fight to be more active, build muscle and bring our metabolism up.

I remember what I used to tackle in a day, the chores I could accomplish, the 100 km bike rides. I want to be that person again.

Rooka - If you do not feel comfortable running yet, is there another high intensity activity you can do? Spinning? An aerobic class of some sorts?
i would love to ride a bike. i don't currently have one, and i rode EVERY day as a kid. i'm just not sure how to make that a good workout.

RookaWins
07-23-2013, 04:29 AM
i'm really glad to hear that if i lose the weight, just keeping up exercise every day can help keep it off. (WHO KNEW? >.> )
lol
but really. Now that i have a job, and a gym membership, and i'm pretty sure i'm gonna buy a bike tomorrow, i'm gonna like exercising more. I would love to lose the weight, and be the skinny chick at the gym, and riding around on my bike being awesome.
this has helped.
And to cope with my blown diet today, tomorrow i'm gonna hit the gym and really stick to my calorie limit, and hopefully it will even out. lol

tricon7
07-23-2013, 09:41 AM
i would love to ride a bike. i don't currently have one, and i rode EVERY day as a kid. i'm just not sure how to make that a good workout.

I bought a 10-speed bicycle off Craigslist, fixed it up some, and ride it regularly for exercise in addition to working out. I used Google Maps to map out a course where I live that takes me about 30 minutes to complete - biking hard. I do have an exercise bike in my bedroom that I can use for when it's raining or very cold, but I'd much rather get outside and be on the road with the wind in my hair. I personally can't run - I don't have the body or stamina for it; never have. But I love bike riding. When I'm done with my ride, I'm a sweaty mess, so I know I've had a nice workout.

Song of Surly
07-23-2013, 11:08 AM
Everyone has given some great advice. I've maintained weight loss for the past two years for longer lengths of time than I've been in losing mode, so I feel pretty practiced at it. So, my first piece of advice is to go slow. Don't burn yourself out, which it sounds like you may be. Half of this, for me, was changing mindset and habits, which can take a WHILE and come on SLOW. When I was trying to marathon lose, I didn't learn very many good lessons. While I get frustrated with my mental plateaus in weight loss, I realize that each plateau is really just me taking the time to entrench even better habits, because as I get smaller, it gets harder. There is no magic cure that can replace this process.

I second the weight lifting and running. I recommend to everyone that they buy The New Rules of Lifting for Women. I love it, love it, love it. I got off track with it at the beginning of this summer for stupid excuse reasons (lots of summer travelling and whatnot), but if you already have a gym membership, it is an AWESOME book to teach you how to really use all those weights at your disposal. Be wary, however, in that lifting can make you more hungry. I don't count calories and usually just try to read my body and stick to routine, "safe foods." When I started lifting, however, I stopped losing weight. I figured out that I couldn't always trust my hungry feeling when weight lifting, as it was making me consume too many calories. Instead, I had to start eating smarter (more filling protein and whatnot). So, lifting can be a bit of a double-edged sword.

Also, I started running at 230 pounds, but it started on a treadmill. I now run outside, but like GlamourGirl said, it's like starting all over. Good shoes are an absolute MUST, and while everyone's form is a bit individual, reading up on good form is also a must. Some people just hate to run, however, and I often need some other kind of cardio, because I get burnt out. Check out your gym's classes for something fun. I find that when I go to a class every week and people are expecting me there, that one day of structured exercise keeps me structured the rest of the week.

Also, this: "can't say "hey babe let's go out to eat because we're married and i love you! let's have dessert!" Some people would say you have to retrain your brain not to associate celebration with food, and as a whole, you do have to a bit, in that you don't need to be celebrating every small success and bemoaning every disappointment with a pint of ice cream. I am going to tell you, however, that there is nothing wrong with celebrating with dessert. Just PLAN for the dessert. If you know you are going somewhere where you will really, really want that dessert, then lighten up on your food consumption for that day. Give yourself some wiggle room. There's been times where, naturally, after deciding I was just going to do it and have a blowout meal of really good food, the next few days I just didn't want to eat as much food. That was not always habit, however, and it took a while to get here. There's just some things in this life I decided I can't do without, and I was going to work around how to enjoy them. Pizza and a thick slice of rich, homemade keylime pie are two of them.

Also, on the food front, finding healthier versions of some of my guilty pleasure food has been great. You do not have to feel like a rabbit. :) I just had lasagna last night with zucchini as the noodles... Still a little too much fat probably, even though I did small portions of low fat cheeses and lean hamburger, but it almost tastes better to me than the real deal, and it's even one of my boyfriend's favorite recipes. Finding awesome, healthy recipes for home has been a big deal for me.

jessicado22
07-23-2013, 11:26 AM
I'm with Glamourgirl. Running is my major weight loss secret. I started out running a minute, and now I'm up to about 3 miles in 30 minutes. No other exercise works for me like running does. I HATED it when I started. H.A.T.E.D. I avoided running at all costs for years. But now I kinda look forward to it and seeing how much more I can push myself. I ran 7mph on the treadmill for 1/2 hour the other day and was thrilled. (I know that is slow for some people, but it is fast for me, lol).

Something about running has finally kicked my metabolism into gear when nothing else would. I do run on my treadmill as I just had a baby, so running time is limited and often I have to get off and do mommy duty. She doesn't really like the stroller. Also, the treadmill helped with my bad knee until I lost enough weight as it has shock absorbers. Now I do run occasionally outside as well when I can. Hoping the stroller will grow on her!

Trail Runner
07-23-2013, 11:29 AM
nope, no magic pill, but... I was running before this pregnancy, and it was like a magic pill. Aside from being awesome and addicting, the weight melted off. I know a lot of people say weightloss is 90% what you eat, and 10% of exercise, and whilie that might be true if you are doing the ellipticle for 30 minutes, it is not true if you are getting out there and running 5-6 miles a day. The calorie burn on a long run is uncomparable. My longest was only a little over 7 miles, I was still increasing my weekly miles and long run when I got pregnant. But I'm telling you, I was able to eat a little more relaxed. I couldn't eat a whole pizza, but I spent most of that summer NOT counting cals, and the weight still came off. I got down to 145 lbs. But if you stop running and keep eating like you are, the weight will FLY back on!

Good Luck!

I disagree. I can easily out-eat a 20 mile run. I actually gained weight while running 50-60 miles per week. Not to mention for someone that doesn't run, working up to 5-6 miles a day is going to take time if you want to do it safely. Running is not a magic cure. Yes, it gives you more calories to work with, but so does any form of exercise. It all just depends on how long/how intense the exercise you choose is.

If the OP likes to bike, I definitely suggest getting a bike and riding some hills! Low impact and fun!

Riddy
07-23-2013, 12:07 PM
Here's my 2 cents - DON'T GIVE UP. So many times before I've gotten frustrated when my weight loss stalled, and just gave up. This time I decided no quitting, even when it got tough. And it has - I've been fighting the same 6ish pounds since last August. I just keep tweaking and working at it. I am NOT quitting!

Also, get acquainted with your hunger. I still have to remind myself almost every day that a little hunger won't kill me.

Find some exercise you like. It won't help if you won't do it. But don't use it as an excuse to overeat - I struggle with this, too.

And eventually you have to come to terms with the fact that you can't eat whatever you want and weigh what you want. Inside I still throw a little tantrum over this sometimes. I try to console myself by saying I have the Irish famine survival genes. ;)

Good luck! It's not easy, but it really is worth it.

sontaikle
07-23-2013, 01:07 PM
There is no magic pill; we know this.

It's also going to be hard for you to succeed if you view this as a "punishment."

You can't "go back." You need to find a way of eating and a way of exercising that work FOR YOU. You must move forward and not go back to the way of eating that isn't working for you.

So what if you mess up for one day? Get right back on track the very next MEAL and you'll be fine. This isn't all or nothing, we all screw up sometimes :)

TooWicky
07-23-2013, 01:14 PM
I'm still early in trying to lose weight, so I've kept things pretty basic... get an eating routine and stick with it, no matter what. Even if I screw up, I keep trying. A partial success is better than not trying at all! Every day, even every mealtime, is a new chance to do my best. I plateaued for two weeks when I was around 17 lbs lost and it was SO HARD to keep going and not completely give up. One of my coping skills involved apple pie a la mode with a second helping of a la mode -.- Even so, I picked myself up, brushed myself off, and kept trying. I'm so glad I did. We are here for you, and you can do this!

lin43
07-23-2013, 06:24 PM
Here's my 2 cents - DON'T GIVE UP. So many times before I've gotten frustrated when my weight loss stalled, and just gave up. This time I decided no quitting, even when it got tough. And it has - I've been fighting the same 6ish pounds since last August. I just keep tweaking and working at it. I am NOT quitting!

Also, get acquainted with your hunger. I still have to remind myself almost every day that a little hunger won't kill me.

Find some exercise you like. It won't help if you won't do it. But don't use it as an excuse to overeat - I struggle with this, too.

And eventually you have to come to terms with the fact that you can't eat whatever you want and weigh what you want. Inside I still throw a little tantrum over this sometimes. I try to console myself by saying I have the Irish famine survival genes. ;)

Good luck! It's not easy, but it really is worth it.

Great advice---every bit of it! I think one of the key differences between maintainers and those who regain the weight is that that the former do not give up.

To the OP, I recommend really trying to figure out what derails you from sticking to a plan. Is it that you feel you will be forever condemned to eating "diet food"? (You don't have to be). Is it that you despise exercise? These were the reasons that I always regained any weight I lost. I figured out that I disliked having to plan my diet so much; I like a little spontaneity in my eating. So, even though I calorie count, I have a weekly rather than a daily total and I start my "day's" count with my most unpredictable meal (which is dinner, for me). That gives me A LOT more flexibility in my eating: If I overdo it one day, I'll just cut back a bit the next day. If I have a couple of days in a row of not being hungry or nothing special going on, I'll eat light, and that leaves me extra calories for those other days of the week where the spontaneous dinner plans pop up or if I go out for a few drinks. Also, I used to despise exercise until I found a way to incorporate it into my daily routine (with a homemade tread-desk; Google it) and found that I love the group fitness classes as my gym.

The point is to identify what is holding you back and create a plan that is customized for YOU.

Best wishes!

ninae
07-23-2013, 07:08 PM
Oooh, a fellow cycler!

I just started a thread in the Exercise forum to keep track of how far I cycle, and on which days. Care to join me?

GlamourGirl827
07-23-2013, 07:48 PM
I disagree. I can easily out-eat a 20 mile run. I actually gained weight while running 50-60 miles per week. Not to mention for someone that doesn't run, working up to 5-6 miles a day is going to take time if you want to do it safely. Running is not a magic cure. Yes, it gives you more calories to work with, but so does any form of exercise. It all just depends on how long/how intense the exercise you choose is.

If the OP likes to bike, I definitely suggest getting a bike and riding some hills! Low impact and fun!


Not ot be rude, but you must eat a lot. I could never out eat my runs and I'm a pretty big eater, and I do have a nasty habit of binging. Even then, I could not eat enough ever while running to gain my weight back, and I can only imagine at 50 miles a week I struggling to keep weight on.
Some of the weight came back on after I *stopped* running completely, after 2 miscarriages. THen the bulk of it came back during this pregnancy. I'm sure it depends on someone's eating habits, but I doubt everyone can out eat running even 20 miles a week. That might just be your experience.

Beside other people seems to agree that running has really helped them with weight loss, so idk why you have a different experience??

ANd I said in my post I could't eat a whole pizza, but I could be a little more relaxed. So I never said it was a magic cure for stuffing your face all day, but it definitely helps when eating a healthy amount when you dont want to count every little calorie you consume, or would like to eat a little more than like 1200 cals a day with out gaining.

Oh and it only took me from January to October to go from walking on a treadmill to running outside. THat's only 10 months, yeah it takes some time but it takes time to increase endurance on any thing. I posted my post before the OP said she likes biking. Why do you have to be such a Debbie Downer?

Lizzyg
07-23-2013, 08:17 PM
So yeah - the same thing happens to me - if I eat a high sodium/unhealthy meal - I bloat up 5 lbs. And then it takes a week to lose that if I'm lucky.

If you are going to try running - get good shoes!! I started running 4 years ago and I was probably close to 240 lbs. And you can see my weight right now. And geting the right shoes with the right support helped so much. Like SO much. I can't stress that enough!

I do have to agree for me, that running is not enough - I trained last year for the Marine Corps Marathon and did not lose any weight because of how I was eating. I can really out eat a long run - it's not hard for me at all. So for some they can run and eat what they want and lose weight. I am not that way at all. And I pretty much ran outside the whole time because really - who wants to run 20 miles on a treadmil?? :)

I do think both the treadmill and running outside have benefits - different benefits.

ETA: It just shows how everyone is different and how you have to find what works for you.

gagalu
07-23-2013, 09:13 PM
as everyone else has been saying, exercise is the answer! and you can go out to eat and have dessert. you just can't do those things every day. ;)

sontaikle
07-23-2013, 09:27 PM
Not ot be rude, but you must eat a lot. I could never out eat my runs and I'm a pretty big eater, and I do have a nasty habit of binging. Even then, I could not eat enough ever while running to gain my weight back, and I can only imagine at 50 miles a week I struggling to keep weight on.
Some of the weight came back on after I *stopped* running completely, after 2 miscarriages. THen the bulk of it came back during this pregnancy. I'm sure it depends on someone's eating habits, but I doubt everyone can out eat running even 20 miles a week. That might just be your experience.

Beside other people seems to agree that running has really helped them with weight loss, so idk why you have a different experience??

ANd I said in my post I could't eat a whole pizza, but I could be a little more relaxed. So I never said it was a magic cure for stuffing your face all day, but it definitely helps when eating a healthy amount when you dont want to count every little calorie you consume, or would like to eat a little more than like 1200 cals a day with out gaining.

Oh and it only took me from January to October to go from walking on a treadmill to running outside. THat's only 10 months, yeah it takes some time but it takes time to increase endurance on any thing. I posted my post before the OP said she likes biking. Why do you have to be such a Debbie Downer?

Well it depends on WHAT one eats. It can be super easy to out eat a run if you choose high calorie foods. With some restaurant meals clocking in at 3000 calories I'm sure that could easily kill the calorie deficit of a run...

Starting to exercise helped me lose some weight, but I just dropped from a size 18/20 to a 12/14 over five years or so. I was totally out eating all the spinning classes, weight training, boot camp classes, etc.!

I don't think anyone was trying to be a downer—just realistic. MOST people really do need to watch the eating more than the exercise, or at least control their portions a bit. It's a good idea throw it all out there so that if the OP starts running and DOESN'T lose weight she'll at least understand why.

My brother lost a substantial amount of weight through exercise alone, so I know it can be done :) He fully admits he likes to exercise like crazy because he can never give up his sweets! :dizzy:

I, on the other hand, can't really tolerate sweets anymore...

Krazy
07-23-2013, 10:03 PM
If the average person burns 100 calories per mile running, even if you ran 5 miles a day that would only be 500 calories. You wouldn’t really need to eat A LOT to eliminate any deficit. But calories aside, running is a great exercise!

You could also try HIIT (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High-intensity_interval_training) – you can do it on pretty much any cardio equipment at the gym or while running.

JohnP
07-23-2013, 10:15 PM
I didn't mention running because unlike weight lifting there is no magic with running other than it burns calories while you're running. :D

I would agree it is easy to out eat the calories you burn while running, depending on how you eat.

When it comes to exercise though - the important thing is doing something that you like so you do it regularly.

RookaWins
07-23-2013, 11:03 PM
You guys are all giving great advice.
Honestly, when i first lost these 45lbs, i maintained for a good year! I think me quitting my job of 3 years, and then 2 weeks later getting married, i was stuck in a "I'M FREE" mindset. I wanted to do whatever, and be free with my new husband.
i'm past that now. lol I realize i can't live in lala land, and like i said, i've joined a gym and found a similiar job that i love. I guess you learn from your mistakes! Lol
I love doing the elliptical. And i can't wait to find a good bike. lol

Vex
07-23-2013, 11:13 PM
There IS a magic pill. The pill is keeping your head in the game.

Whether it's exercise you like to concentrate on or diet that gives you the big boost you need, the most important thing is to keep doing whatever it is works no matter how many times you waiver.

How do you do that - keep your head in the game constantly? I do it by coming here, or reading about weight loss, or watching health shows - ANYTHING that keeps your mind in that zone.

Yep, 5 lbs comes and goes on me like you wouldn't believe possible, but losing weight does not condemn you to salads for the rest of your life. I love going out to dinner and I love dessert. You can still do those things. Have something healthy on the menu, and if you really want dessert, have a small one and keep it within your calorie limit. If you go over, big deal, get right back to it tomorrow.

luckymommy
07-24-2013, 01:28 AM
The scale is not the most reliable indicator of fat loss. Water fluctuations can be wildly misleading and upsetting. Having a 5 lb. gain in one day is very unlikely to indicate what is truly going on because you'd have to be consuming an extra 17,500 calories in one day. I recommend taking measurements and before photos to see how you're doing, along with weighing....but only weigh if it helps you. I sometimes have to take weighing breaks if I find it frustrating.

A lot of us wish we didn't have to worry about calories or weight loss or deserts, but we do so what do we do? Give up? Throw in the towel? There are people (myself included) who have to deal with chronic medical conditions. Most people struggle with something but the great thing about weight loss is that it is something you can actually control. If you have a disease, there might not be a cure and even though it's hard to accept, believe me that there is something empowering once you get your mind in the game. I'm actually having a good time, now that I've made some progress. I hope you find that to be the case as well.

Trail Runner
07-24-2013, 01:01 PM
Not ot be rude, but you must eat a lot. I could never out eat my runs and I'm a pretty big eater, and I do have a nasty habit of binging. Even then, I could not eat enough ever while running to gain my weight back, and I can only imagine at 50 miles a week I struggling to keep weight on.
Some of the weight came back on after I *stopped* running completely, after 2 miscarriages. THen the bulk of it came back during this pregnancy. I'm sure it depends on someone's eating habits, but I doubt everyone can out eat running even 20 miles a week. That might just be your experience.

Beside other people seems to agree that running has really helped them with weight loss, so idk why you have a different experience??

ANd I said in my post I could't eat a whole pizza, but I could be a little more relaxed. So I never said it was a magic cure for stuffing your face all day, but it definitely helps when eating a healthy amount when you dont want to count every little calorie you consume, or would like to eat a little more than like 1200 cals a day with out gaining.

Oh and it only took me from January to October to go from walking on a treadmill to running outside. THat's only 10 months, yeah it takes some time but it takes time to increase endurance on any thing. I posted my post before the OP said she likes biking. Why do you have to be such a Debbie Downer?

I wasn't trying to be a debbie downer, just realistic. No hard feelings! If you search through running forums, there are tons of people out there wondering how it's possible that they're gaining weight while marathon training. Burning that much fuel and putting that much stress on your body makes you HUNGRY. If you haven't run that many miles on a regular basis, you can't understand how it feels. Not to mention, once you start running those kind of long runs, you need to fuel your body during the run as well. It's not hard to eat back your calories. I do eat a lot. I realize I'm not the typical person here. I'm an athlete; I need to fuel like one.

I do think the OP would benefit from some form of exercise. Having more calories to play with because you burned off some is easier mentally, I find.

memememe76
07-24-2013, 10:22 PM
You can most certainly outeat your running, especially when you're "carboloading". It doesn't take that much pasta for me to eat back whatever calories I burn after a long run.

freelancemomma
07-25-2013, 12:18 AM
If you're a high-volume eater (when left to your natural inclinations), it is ridiculously easy to out-eat any level of exercise.

F.

novangel
07-25-2013, 01:15 AM
I'm another vote for running/weights and portion control. Like almost everyone else mentioned you must have good running shoes. I recommend Brooks or Asics. Start out fast walking and eventually work your way up to jogging intervals with walking in between. It sucks at first but you'll eventually build stamina and jog a mile without stopping...then 3 miles. Give it a try. You can do it. :)