Weight Loss Support - Anyone here 5'3", please come in, I have a question




Stars
07-17-2013, 07:18 AM
I am just wondering, what goal weight are you going for? I keep on changing my goal weight. At first, It was 120, then 110, then today I changed it to 105.

I am 116 today and still not happy with my weight. I just want to know the general weight people are looking to get at. I realize there is no perfect number and body frame takes into account, but I just want to get an idea.


olehcat
07-17-2013, 07:25 AM
Wow, you've done GREAT. You've lost like almost 100 pounds. What have you been doing to lose the weight (eating-wise and exercise)?

I'm almost 5'3" (I'm 5'2" and a bit), and right now my mini goal is to get back down to 135 where I was for about 5 years, not ideal but at leaset I didn't look chunky. And then after that, my ultimate goal would be anywhere between 109-120 (I'd have to see how I felt and looked). I don't want to be having to buy children's clothes or anything. When I was about 125 a few years back, I was in size 2 in some pants, so who knows what 109 would do to me and whether it would even look good. So yeah, my range is 109-120 as goal weight as for right now. I haven't been in the 120's in almost 10 years. All my fault.

Trudiha
07-17-2013, 07:47 AM
I'm not 5'3, so feel free to ignore all or any of the following. :D

I lost 100lbs about three years ago, the first twenty pounds were the hardest but after that I got into the swing of things and really started to enjoy getting smaller and the constant positive feedback. Most of life is difficult and we often don't know if we're doing the right thing, even when we are doing the right thing, we often don't get the results we want, however, the scales are very reassuring, if you eat at a deficit, you get lighter. It's one of the few things that we can have absolute control over.

I think that this feeling of control can become a bit addictive, well I know that it did for me and I kept dropping my goal weight, which wasn't the healthiest thing in the world.

Of course, I don't know you, I don't know what you look like, I don't know your body fat percentage, I don't know your body shape, maybe none of the things that happened to me apply to you at all but I do think that after a significant weight loss, it's worth spending a little time mulling over why you do want to get smaller, what it will cost and exactly what you will get out of it.

Best wishes.


aspen13
07-17-2013, 08:19 AM
Huge congratulations on your weight lose!!

I am barely 5'3". Currently I am looking at a goal of 125. I will not know what the best weight will be for my body until I get closer to goal. I am wanting to get to somewhere mid range in my ideal weight. I do not want to go to far in either direction. If I am too close to being underweight, I risk falling into that category if I were to get ill or such. For the other end, I do not want to ever be overweight again. I am also wanting to be very toned. I have seen too many very skinny woman that seem to have not one once of muscle on them. Personally I feel they look fragile and sickly. I also know that I am a woman, not a teen, and my body will most likely have curves. I have family and friends that I feel will be very honest in telling me their opinions on what my body looks like.

dstalksalot
07-17-2013, 09:36 AM
I could not imagine my self at 120 or below. I am pretty much at my goal of 140.
I want to be sure not to move into the underweight category. I am close to my sweet spot and working on muscles now.

saef
07-17-2013, 10:20 AM
I'm older, I've lost weight before and really made a mess of myself trying to go lower & lower & then choosing an unsustainable weight, so my goal originally was 138. Since 2008, I've stayed somewhere between 142-147. More recently, probably starting in about February of this year, I've been about five pounds higher than my highest weight range, from 150-153. I've done a lot of strength training, but I've been less vigilant about portion control, though still restrictive about what kind of foods I've been eating, if not amounts. Pick a weight that you can see yourself living at without too much restriction or too many rules.

Betty Jewel
07-17-2013, 11:02 AM
I set my original goal for 125 but I suspect that in order to truly be happy I may need to drop to 112-115. I didn't go that low in the beginning because it seemed so crazy starting at 183. But I'm pear shaped so it takes a lot to slim down my legs.

PreciousMissy
07-17-2013, 11:50 AM
Pick a weight that you can see yourself living at without too much restriction or too many rules.

This is why I've picked 170.

Well, that and I liked the way I looked at 170. When I get there I might decide to go smaller, or I might be happy with it again.

HungryHungryHippo
07-17-2013, 11:51 AM
Just want to say, really nice job!! Congratulations!!

flea
07-17-2013, 11:55 AM
I think this question goes for anyone, regardless of height. At 5'8 I thought 150 was going to be a good stopping point for myself, but I realized there was still a lot of extra chub that I wanted to get rid of - regardless of what the "haelthy bmi" scale said. It's likely I'll have to drop another 20lbs to be comfortable. What you should really be focusing on, rather than the number on a scale (which is what I'm just learning myself) is toning, and shaping your body the way you want it. Try some free weights, and controlled toning excersises. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised at the end of six weeks.

sontaikle
07-17-2013, 11:55 AM
I got down to 107, didn't like it and went up to 112. Then I decided to bulk and got up to 120ish. I lost back down to 115 and I'm considering staying here. I like how my clothes fit, I like my muscle definition, etc.

It's tough! I know! I was over 200lbs myself and I just didn't know where to stop. It's taken time for my brain to adjust to my body. Have you taken pictures? Even if you never show them to anyone they REALLY help you put your size into perspective.

Arctic Mama
07-17-2013, 12:37 PM
I'm 5'3", my original goal was achieved (165), and so I decided to lose down to 140 and reassess. I have a strong build, I'd be surprised if I could get below 130 and comfortably stay there.

gagalu
07-17-2013, 01:02 PM
it might be worth taking a break to maintain for a while. body dysmorphia can really warp your judgement. after losing for so long, it's hard to imagine being satisfied not seeing drops on the scale. i had to make myself take a break so that i could reassess my goals and also to prove to myself before reaching my goal weight that i am capable of maintenance. i maintained for a year!

i still have a really distorted view of my body, but less so than before. when i first started, my goal was 150. then when i reached 160, i dropped it to 130. for my build, that's really not realistic, especially given the fact that i've been weight training. seriously, give some serious thought toward giving your mind and body a break for a minute! you might be much closer to your goal than you think.

CIELOARGE
07-17-2013, 01:22 PM
I am 5'4, but I have a friend who is 5'3 and weights 120-125, she is toned and nicely fit. She has a great behind and legs.

Maybe you should start focusing on fitness and that way you can really shape your body.

Congrats on the weight loss!! :)

amandie
07-17-2013, 01:26 PM
Congrats on your progress!!! Amazing!

Originally I chose 150 since that was a weight in high school I remember feeling good at but after all the weight loss and with the extra loose and wrinkly skin, I've decided to go to 135. It is a bit scary because I don't even know if I can maintain at that weight let alone 150! I just don't want to feel like a failure if I can't stay at 135. I do plan on incorporating serious weight training to lower body fat and change my body shape.

Maybe consider that (lifting weights to change your body type if that is what is bothering you) instead of focusing on a number on the scale? GL!

MAK247
07-17-2013, 01:27 PM
I'm 5'3" and I've run into the same problem of not knowing what goal weight to aim for. I started with it estimated at 120 but raised it to 130. Once I reach 130 I will decide whether or not I need to lose more.

kelijpa
07-17-2013, 05:16 PM
Hi, i set my original goal at 150, it is my dr. recommended adjusted WW goal weight, my idea was and still is, to get back to 150 and then go back to meetings. I've unofficially adjusted to 143, for 5'3 1/2" that's the top weight for normal bmi, according to the calculator I use, so that's my story.

I always say I'm dense, I couldn't maintain at my original WW goal of 136, but that's just me, everyone's different, I'm strength training, too, I just want to be fit, I'm in a size 10, and happy with that.

Lots of great comments here!

Best to all :sunny:

lovedancelive
07-17-2013, 05:22 PM
I've been aiming for 120 but I'm about 10 pounds off and I'm wondering if all this extra flab is really going to disappear. I figure I'll decide once I get closer but I wouldn't be surprised if I lowered it to 115.

pnkrckpixikat
07-17-2013, 06:47 PM
I know I'm not 5'3 so I can't really give you a goal weight, but it sounds to me you are more dissatisfied with how you look then with a particular number so I would also suggest starting to focus on body composition with toning through weight training or body weight exercises (pushups, squats, planks, etc)

Stars
07-17-2013, 07:40 PM
I know I'm not 5'3 so I can't really give you a goal weight, but it sounds to me you are more dissatisfied with how you look then with a particular number so I would also suggest starting to focus on body composition with toning through weight training or body weight exercises (pushups, squats, planks, etc)

I really can't do that, I have diastasis recti (torn muscles) and multiple hernias from when I was pregnant. I can only do certain exercises otherwise my problems can get worse. I need surgery,and insurance won't cover the muscle repair because it's not life threatening, it will only cover the hernia repair.

Thank you for the replies everyone!

Harriette
07-17-2013, 08:29 PM
I am only 5'2" but that's pretty close... When I was at 125 people kept telling me I was too skinny. I liked being about 130 but I do have a more "sporty" build with larger shoulders and the girls probably weigh 10 lbs :o

lst10pounds
07-18-2013, 09:52 AM
I've been to 120 and still wasn't happy but I have a pretty small bone structure so the weight looks worse on me. I'm aiming for 110 but I'll see when I get closer to my goal.

Stars
07-18-2013, 10:50 AM
I've been to 120 and still wasn't happy but I have a pretty small bone structure so the weight looks worse on me. I'm aiming for 110 but I'll see when I get closer to my goal.

Same here about the bone structure. That's why I keep on lowering my goal. Today I weighed in at 115.4. I know I am not overweight, and I look really good in clothes, but out of clothes, I know I need to go down a bit more. I don't think an extra 5 lbs will do it for me.

lin43
07-18-2013, 03:14 PM
I'm 5 ft. 3, and I have gotten as low as 132.5 this time around, but I don't look good that low. Even at 135, I received several comments from family (and even a coworker) who kindly suggested that I was getting too thin. Right now, I wouldn't be surprised if I'm around 140 (last time I weighed I was). I'm been maintaining since Nov. 2011 on 2200 calories per day, so I guess I've gained because my body is now more efficient at storing calories (I exercise A LOT, & I'm probably not burning as many calories at it now than a year ago) or maybe I'm not as assiduous about weighing & measuring my portions. Either way, I'm not panicking about being 140. I still look good---in fact, I may look better at this weight than 135. If I were to get down to the goal weight that many who are my height shoot for, I have no doubt that I would look sickly. I think body shape, i.e., where one's fat is proportioned, has a LOT to do with what weight one looks best at.

At this point, I want to be at a weight that I can comfortably maintain while not have to be super strict about watching what I eat and that allows me some of my favorite foods several times a week. I have no doubt that if I were not able to do that, I would already have rebelled against whatever plan I would have been on and regained my weight.

dstalksalot
07-18-2013, 04:59 PM
Hi, i set my original goal at 150, it is my dr. recommended adjusted WW goal weight, my idea was and still is, to get back to 150 and then go back to meetings. I've unofficially adjusted to 143, for 5'3 1/2" that's the top weight for normal bmi, according to the calculator I use, so that's my story.

I always say I'm dense, I couldn't maintain at my original WW goal of 136, but that's just me, everyone's different, I'm strength training, too, I just want to be fit, I'm in a size 10, and happy with that.

Lots of great comments here!

Best to all :sunny:

Funny, I am 5.3 and a half and just hit 143 so I can identify with your post. I am fitting nicely into 8's and a few select 6's if they are vanity sized.

I have more work to do, but don't care to lose any more weight. Just fat :-)

BlueIsis
07-18-2013, 05:14 PM
Stars: Are you going to get the hernia repair done? Lifting weights etc with a hernia is certainly a no go, but much can be done with a diastasis. I have a huge (stick your hand in sideways) diastasis from my breastbone to my pubic bone after having twins two years ago. Once my umbilical hernia was repaired I started working on strengthening my transversus abdominus (planks etc), while avoiding exercises emphasizing the recti and using a belly band designed to support your recti abdomini. Today I do olympic squats, deadlifts and any other iron pumping I desire. Resistance training is essential if you want to change your body shape; otherwise you just become a smaller and smaller version of the same shape. I used to be devastated by my inability to afford a tummy tuck...today I'm training for a bikini competition. Hang in there...it gets better. :hug:

nonamortica
07-18-2013, 11:04 PM
Stars: Are you going to get the hernia repair done? Lifting weights etc with a hernia is certainly a no go, but much can be done with a diastasis. I have a huge (stick your hand in sideways) diastasis from my breastbone to my pubic bone after having twins two years ago. Once my umbilical hernia was repaired I started working on strengthening my transversus abdominus (planks etc), while avoiding exercises emphasizing the recti and using a belly band designed to support your recti abdomini. Today I do olympic squats, deadlifts and any other iron pumping I desire. Resistance training is essential if you want to change your body shape; otherwise you just become a smaller and smaller version of the same shape. I used to be devastated by my inability to afford a tummy tuck...today I'm training for a bikini competition. Hang in there...it gets better. :hug:

Yup I agree with this. The hernias won't resolve themselves but the diastasis will get somewhat better with time and some exercize. I had an umbilical hernia repair and had some diastasis after two pregnancies.

My exercizes of choice are belly dancing and T-Tapp.

As far as a goal weight, I am 5'2" and the last time I hit 125 with weight watchers, you could count my ribs above my breasts and I could not maintain it. Currently I would like to see 140 some day again and I'd be pretty happy to stop there. But at least when I was younger, people often told me I did not look as heavy as I actually was. I think I have small but dense bones and muscles.

You have done a great job losing and your body (and mind) do need time to adjust. I think it's a good thought to maintain for a while and see how you feel over time.

d130
07-21-2013, 03:38 PM
I initially picked 125 and got there, but still felt a bit too heavy for my bones, so took a bit of time to maintain and then decided to see if I could get a bit lower. I'm currently around 118, which is about right for me.

I would like to get a few pounds lower but that's just because I'd like a bit of a flatter stomach. I'm not sure that a few more pounds will really make that much of a difference though as I think it's just a bit of loose skin. I'm not sure if it will tighten up with time, but I'm pretty happy with my body overall and not willing to restrict my diet that much more to get down to 115 at this point. I did see 115 but my body seems happier at 118, and I can eat the sorts of things I want to at 118.

I seem to be maintaining at this weight ok, and all of my clothes fit, so no real incentive to drop any lower, but I'll see how I see in 6 months to a year..

kayin
07-21-2013, 09:58 PM
I am 5'3" and am aiming for sub 108, so about 105 so I have 3 pounds wiggle room. I used to be 115 and looked good in a size 4-6 but am now aiming for a 2. I know it seems low to some people, but it's what I want for myself. I have lost 71 lbs so far and have 82 more to go, so I'll probably reassess my goal weight again when I get closer to goal.

I hope you find the perfect goal weight for yourself!

Krista17
07-22-2013, 04:28 PM
I'm 5'2. My goal is 135-140, because I've always been very curvy in the hip and chest areas. I also want to tone and build more muscle with weight lifting, because I'm really soft.

Stars
07-23-2013, 10:17 PM
Stars: Are you going to get the hernia repair done? Lifting weights etc with a hernia is certainly a no go, but much can be done with a diastasis. I have a huge (stick your hand in sideways) diastasis from my breastbone to my pubic bone after having twins two years ago. Once my umbilical hernia was repaired I started working on strengthening my transversus abdominus (planks etc), while avoiding exercises emphasizing the recti and using a belly band designed to support your recti abdomini. Today I do olympic squats, deadlifts and any other iron pumping I desire. Resistance training is essential if you want to change your body shape; otherwise you just become a smaller and smaller version of the same shape. I used to be devastated by my inability to afford a tummy tuck...today I'm training for a bikini competition. Hang in there...it gets better. :hug:

Thank you ! I have been putting the hernia repair off because I don't have any pains from the hernia themselves. I am just unhappy with the diastasis recti. Even I got it resolved, it's still an issue with loose skin and stretch marks resulting from the pregnancy, so I can't avoid getting a tummy tuck. The sad thing is, I don't have the money for it. But thank you for the reply, it was very helpful. I have to find exercises that can help the diastasis.